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No. 2012311

A thread for anons to talk about their chronic illness. Rant, share how you manage your symptoms, talk about your future plans. Any type of chronic illness is welcome.

No. 2012315

is PCOS a chronic condition

No. 2012318

>>2012315
samefag i have pcos and it must be a genetic thing because my sister also has it I try desperately to ignore it because it makes me feel ugly and misunderstood

No. 2012329

>>2012315
Yes. You can talk about it nonna

No. 2012332

>>2012315
I don't know but in the people I know it does seem to present as chronic

No. 2012337

Eczema is a bitch and a half to have, I would only wish it upon the worse of the worst. I have it on my face and as of recent it's gotten better but I had a small flare up because, and get this, the weather changed from rainy to sunny. It's such bullshit. So now, because of the healing process, it's in this weird limbo of not being itchy, splotchy, or red but just incredibly flaky and dry. My father bought me a humidifier and it has done wonders for my skin.

No. 2012341

>>2012315
Some women can manage symptoms but unless you have surgery to take out your ovaries it’s definitely a chronic condition and not handling it fucks you up bad. I have a mild form of pcos but the hormone shifts it brings is almost pmdd tier and it sucks having period symptoms but no bleeding so you’re paranoid about wearing pads everywhere

No. 2012359

This thread might belong more in /g/, but I like the concept.
>>2012341
What are your diets like anon? I was having symptoms a lot like PCOS getting progressively worse over time, hormonal acne going crazy and huge lumps in my breasts that felt like they were going to explode, then I cut all sugar out for a month and the symptoms went way down. I was never eating a ton of sugar like a lot of ppl but clearly it was fucking me up. Then I went vegan and it got even better, now I only have mild tiredness on the first day of my period and I feel great all the rest of the time.

No. 2012361

>>2012337
Do you have a dairy allergy by any chance? Thats what it was for me.

No. 2012563

>>2012359
I started this thread in off topic because chronic illnesses are not really related to female socialization. Although some chronic illnesses only / discriminately affect women, anyone can get a chronic illness. I was posting on Reddit about long covid and ME/CFS but I’ve realized some moids are deliberately spreading despair and fear amongst chronically ill people and taking a pleasure from their pain.
Anyway, I’m glad anons are posting on this thread.

No. 2012565

Do any other nonnies have a condition that has been co-opted by munchies? I have EDS but I rarely to never bring it up at appointments despite an official diagnosis. I can't participate in any online communities because they are overrun with munchies as well.

No. 2012658

>>2012565
I have a condition that’s been co-opted by troons, pcos, I don’t appreciate my messed up biology being used to justify their messed up brains and inability to respect boundaries. It’s very disheartening to seek support and confirmation of symptoms and just find a bunch of self congratulatory morons calling me a man because I have to shave my face. I imagine it’s the same for you, a bunch of narcissists seeking a supply.
Are you worried your doctor will think you’re a munchie and drug seeking? You should try talking to them if you need support, don’t let your treatment be neglected because of morons if you can.

No. 2012723

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>>2012565
yes! I was diagnosed with joint hypermobility syndrome at a very young age back in the 90s because of pain and injury, and since then a rheumatologist "upgraded" it to hEDS, based on my symptoms. I actually downgraded it to joint hypermobility syndrome because I think doctors respond better to it, especially in relation to chronic pain.
I never mention it to anyone in day to day life because it either triggers people who don't believe it's a serious thing or, like you say, it will attract munchies who "think" they have it too.
which type have you got and how does it effect you nona?

No. 2012735

>>2012723
Is it just me or is that pic completely normal? I don’t have EDS but I can go farther than that kek

No. 2012740

>>2012658
nta and i don't have pcos but i have noticed deluded transvestite males comparing themselves to women with pcos on many occasions. classic insensitive and clueless male behaviour. it fills me with rage tbh i can't imagine how angry it must make you.

troons have sort of overtaken EDS spaces too, since there is a huge autism comorbidity overlap. more FtM and enbies though. it breaks my heart sometimes because this condition is harsh enough on the joints and bones, without giving yourself osteoporosis and pelvic issues from hormones on top of everything else.

No. 2012745

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>>2012735
nope! most people can't. it sounds like you have hypermobile wrists. a lot of people have one or more hypermobile joint, so maybe that's the case for you but there is something called a Beighton test, and the higher you score, in combination with symptoms (like joint pain, fatigue etc.) the more likely it is you have JHS or EDS.

No. 2012781

>>2012658
I don't bring it up mainly because the treatment for EDS is the same treatment as someone who would present with the same issue not caused by EDS. The only benefit would potentially be an insurance claim. I do tell doctors when it is relevant, such as when I am going in for surgery.

I suppose I mainly avoid it as I found some doctors tend to write me off as a hypochondriac.
>>2012723
I tell people I have hEDs for sake of simplicity, but I have a type that is a bit abnormal in its presentation. I am currently part of a genetic study as every woman in my maternal line has been affected by it in some way. My main joint problems are that I have chronic tendonitis in my elbows going on five years now. The discs in my neck have a tendency to slip out of place but immediately slide back in, it's sudden and very painful. And in addition I have hip and lower back problems that have begun to develop as well, it makes exercising very hard for me and PT has been minimally helpful. The most bizarre presentation has been how it has affected my period which I don't see many people online talk about. What about you nonna?

No. 2012813

>>2012658
>tfw mtf moids think you growing hair all over your body and your chin is the same as them already having a beard because they’re males
>they don’t understand it’s not natural for a woman to have this amount of excessive body hair

there must be a pcos diagnosis to tif pipeline somewhere

No. 2012832

>>2012745
Wtf I can do all of those

No. 2012847

>>2012735
I also don’t see anything with that picture anon. I did develop POTS after covid tho. And my skin is really smooth for an oldfag..

No. 2014095

>>2012781
>period problems
NTAYRT, but how do they present for you? I don't have a formal diagnosis of any connective tissue disorder but I do have hypermobile joints, and my periods are godawful. Aside from the usual heavy flow and persistent, achey cramps, I get these weird stabbing pains through my back on the first day of the cycle that feel like someone is impaling my upper pelvis from behind. My athletic performance is also absolute dogshit in the luteal phase of my cycle to the point where I sometimes feel stronger when I'm actively menstruating. I always thought I just had rotten luck but your comment made me wonder if there might be an underlying cause.

No. 2014102

One of the annoying things of chronic illness to me is making new friends after it, i don't want to explain why i'm barely available or why i can't really spend time with them each time and feel sad about it, i feel like it took over who i really am, that's why i'm okay with rambling here, i can come and go whenever and no one would really care. Sometimes i just pointlessly post about these things in the vent thread but thank you for creating this nona, it made me happy.

No. 2014203

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Oh wow thanks for this thread.
I have a fucking chronic UTI. Have had it for 3 years. During most of those 3 years I've been in pain 24/7. It feels like I'm pouring acid on my vulva all day every day. At some point it was so bad I wanted to die. If I didn't have anybody in my life I would have definitely looked into assisted suicide. I rawdogged this shit for like 2.5 years because not a single doctor offered me pain meds or told me I could get help. I just assumed there was nothing they could give me since they never offered anything. I finally went to a chronic UTI specialist 3 months ago and finally have some relief, actual treatment, and a diagnosis. 3 years of playing guess my illness with these shitty doctors has cost me so much time and so so much money.
Never let a UTI go untreated nonnies. Don't be stupid like me.

>>2014102
It really is like that. I've had to put my life on pause. No friends, no relationship, no studies, no self improvement, barely any involvement in my hobbies. I would also stop working if I could.

No. 2014204

>>2014102
You’re welcome nonna. I developed long covid after catching the virus in 2022 and I watched my friendships fizzle out during the past two years. I kind of understand, it’s hard to stick to plans when you don’t know how you’re going to feel next week or next month. You take it one day at a time. But it’s hard for people to understand to they eventually stop calling or inviting.
I stood by a friend during her chronic illness journey and she ghosted me, then came back with a surrogacy baby so I’m not even sure if I want to continue being friends anymore.
I have a friend who goes through PCOS and she understands.

No. 2014208

>>2014203
Anon I am going through the same thing besides long covid. I’ve spent the evening in pain on all fours. I feel like this is a divine lolcow intervention, please tell me more about your journey.
Cranberry supplements don’t work anymore, uromune vax isn’t available in this country and I’m planning to bring low dose (100mg) antibiotics from overseas because the doctors only prescribe antibiotics and tell me “women just get them more frequently sorry”

No. 2014231

>>2014208
I also got this after covid. I've always thought it was related, like covid fucked up my immune system or something. I'll give you all the help you need nonnie.
I'm now seeing a specialist at the Harley street clinic in the UK. There are some specialists in the US too: https://www.chronicutiinfo.com/treatment/
The treatment they give you is long term antibiotics and Hiprex. I'm on 1g Cephalexin + 1g hiprex twice a day. It's been helping a lot, I noticed a big difference right after starting the Hiprex. It's OTC in some countries so if you can you should get it. https://www.chronicutiinfo.com/treatment/conventional-medicine/hiprex/
This clinic also does online appointments and works with doctors from your own country if they are willing to follow their instructions. You would need a doctor willing to do a urine microscopy on a fresh non-midstream sample, where they look for white blood cells and epithelial cells. If you have any, it means you have an infection. Be sure it's done correctly tho, if it isn't done soon after you give the sample, it will be negative.
Some things I've done to help with the pain is taking antihistamines/quercetin supplements and doing a low histamine/bladder friendly diet. Felt immediate relief after taking an antihistamine one day, but I now prefer the quercetin. My doc has also prescribed me amitriptyline so we'll see if that helps. There's some other supplements you could try: https://www.chronicutiinfo.com/treatment/complementary-medicine/. This girl on tiktok also has a CUTI and she posts a lot of information about it and often does live Q&As: https://www.tiktok.com/@chronicutifiles

I've had the strovacc vaccine and it didn't work. I asked my doc about Uromune and he said it wasn't very good and that lots of his current patients only got temporary relief from it, so don't stress about it.

No. 2014280

>>2014231
Nonna this was hard to read because I got emotional and my eyes got watery that someone took their time to help me. Thank you very much. Women are fucking amazing and compassionate. I hope you get your life back, have lots of friends and study. If we ever got into an infighting on lolcow I’m sorry, I was being a dingleberry. I will definitely look into this.

No. 2014283

>>2014231
I’m assuming my situation is indirectly related to long covid, because my T-cell count and wbc count was really low in my last blood test. Which means my immune system is a little messed up. I was a healthy individual before I caught this virus and my blood tests were almost always normal.

No. 2014292

>>2014102
I find it really hard to make friends because I can’t drive due to mine. No one wants to hang out at my nice house for some reason or bike somewhere nearby, they wanna go do stuff 30+ min away and don’t want to have to pick you up. Only people who are willing to hang out with me or drive me end up treating me like a child.

No. 2014858

>>2014280
Aww you're welcome nonnie. I always try to help other women with this godforsaken condition. Every day I pretty much post the same thing on the CUTI and vulvodynia subreddits. So many women with this get told it's interstitial cystitis or vulvodynia and get sent away with some crappy lyrica or gabapentin that barely helps. Women literally kill themselves over this condition and barely anybody cares.

>>2014283
I was pretty healthy too. Whenever I got UTIs it would last 1 day and then go away on their own. I didn't even know they were UTIs. But this one started super bad and never cleared. I hate myself for getting Covid, it was my fault for doing something retarded.

No. 2015169

>>2012781
oh interesting. I have presumed endometriosis (all the women on my mum's side have had it, confirmed by surgery but i'm still on the waiting list) and have heard period issues are common with EDS but don't know what the connection is exactly. do you have any theories?
i have a typical hypermobile presentation really, with joint and nerve pain, fatigue, scoliosis, digestion and autonomic nervous system issues. my neck is the absolute worst.
>>2014102
it's really taught me to have boundaries in terms of what i can commit to and offer other people. i just don't have the energy to give a lot of attention to friendships, so i've just always been a bit of a loner as a result. but hopefully i will attract more people who are understanding of that, the more i'm up front about it. that's the plan at least. in the mean time i like venting here too.

No. 2015388

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>>2014095
It's not uncommon for women with EDS to have very heavy periods. Googling will bring up a few medical articles that establish there is some connection, but functionally we do not know why there is a link. I'll talk about my own experience but put it under a spoiler since it's a bit TMI. If you're concerned you have EDS then you should ask your PCP for a referral to a geneticist.

I have always had heavy periods that would at minimum last a week. It was annoying but manageable for a few years. Then, for seemingly no reason, I had a period that lasted a year and a half. During that time I was bleeding heavily, going through a super plus tampon and pad every thirty minutes. I passed blood clots that I kid you not were the size of oranges. I gave myself burns all across my abdomen and lower back because that pain was preferable to the cramping I was experiencing. My hemoglobin became dangerously low and I was hospitalized for awhile, eventually having to get routine iron infusions. My condition was unresponsive to all hormonal birth control that I tried. I saw three different OBGYNs, a hematologist, and ended up having to see a reproductive endocrinologist at a research hospital. My cousin, the only other woman of my generation on my maternal side, had the same exact presentation and went through all the same hoops. The endocrinologist I saw was recommended to me from her.
>>2015169
I don't have any solid theories at this point. The one I have heard that makes the most sense is that the uterine lining has difficulty attaching itself to the uterine wall adequately, thus when you have a period it's much heavier due to the excess of uterine tissue. I have also heard the reverse, that because it cannot attach then it leads to longer periods. The reality is no one really knows and everyone is just guessing. It's really disheartening and so frustrating.

My last relationship ended in no small part due to my inability to function on the same level as my health boyfriend could. He was an asshole so I shouldn't be too sad about it, but knowing that something so outside of my control led to it is still hurtful.

No. 2015570

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any lupus babes here? don't forget your HCQ today!

No. 2015952

>>2015388
the picrel in your post hits hard. I keep thinking if i'm this decrepit now what is it going to be like when i'm older? it's so bleak.

No. 2018833

>>2012311
I have acid reflux and it fucking sucks. I know the only solution is the diet (despite how many people online are convinced otherwise) but it’s so hard to avoid temptation and eat something you should not have.
I have been having a flare-up for about 6 months and it’s my second attempt to hardcore diet for 30 days to make my symptoms better.

No. 2018848

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>>2012745
>>2012723
Help, I've actually been wondering if I have this for years. My joints are super bendy like that except for my elbows, everything else is on point. My knees are so hyper mobile that they tend to pop out or something idk how to explain. I've always been told my issues are just because I'm overweight so I doubt a doctor would say I have it. I live in a third world country so I think I'm fucked, I don't think anyone would diagnose me. What am I supposed to do about this?

No. 2019565

I have both PCOS and IBS and they make each other worse. My periods are really bad and trigger my IBS-related pelvic pain, I used to manage my weight with tons of cardio but I can only manage very short runs now or I get awful stomach pains (I still lift, but it doesn't burn as many calories), and PMS related stress usually triggers digestive issues too. I'm also always anemic seemingly due to both conditions and I still have nerve damage in my hands from before I got on iron/B12 to remedy it.
I'm on birth control for the PCOS and meds for IBS so things don't hurt that badly most of the time, but it feels really depressing sometimes. I miss being able to go on hour-long runs and to leave the house at whatever time without worrying my stomach will go insane from the slightest deviation from routine.
Also more of a dumb thing, but I'm sick of any influencer/youtuber mentioning they have IBS also being a weird fucking scrote who talks about shitting themselves and refusing to change their diet. I feel like if I ever tell new people I have IBS they'll immediately assume I'm disgusting.

No. 2019769

>>2018833
I've also been having chronic stomach issues/gastritis since November last year and it sucks. I wanna eat pizza and tomatoes and hot sauce and acidic foods fml. I was getting better and then had ibuprofen because I thought it would be ok and now I'm back to square 1.

No. 2020659

>>2019769
I feel you nona… Tomatoes are so good.
Regarding ibuprofen, my doctors always told me to took an omeprazol with it just to be safe.

No. 2020720

>>2012735
You could still have classic or any of the other types and have never dislocated any joints or broken bones. They're all worse, though, so have fun with that.

No. 2021098

>>2012735
Lol nona my hands/thumbs do that even though I don't think I have any hypermobility syndrome, but my other joints seem normal. I always just chalk it up to hands having slimmer/smaller joints/bones than other parts of your body because me being able to bend my fingers back about 110 degrees never carried over to like my knees or hips or whatever.

No. 2021103

>>2014102
I feel you on this a lot, I am lucky I have a lot of 'good days' with my specific chronic illness but it definitely lost me a lot of friends who didn't get why I was 'normal' some days and just couldn't do anything on other days, being perceived constantly as flakey etc. I can't imagine how bad it must be if you have a chronic illness that's equally bad constantly. People don't like to admit this but most people will abandon friends who don't want to do 'fun' stuff all the time with them anymore.

No. 2021125

>>2012565
>>2012723
I have "just" joint hypermobility, I'm a very clear case for it. It never bothered me until recently. It was just a neat party trick until I developed lower back pain and sciatica due to it which lasts for months and is really painful. Predictably I sit in all sorts of weird positions which caused the sciatic nerve to get stuck in the first place and I feel like a massive retard getting hurt from just sitting. My good friend has it too and she gets hurt a lot easier than me which forces her to skip out on most physical activities like hikes, so I know it can really suck.
Searching for any type of exercises or help online was hell on Earth. It was co-opted by both old people and munchies, and while I don't mind the former, the latter is full of annoying healthfags with a laundry list of conditions (usually EDS + POTS + fibromyalgia + "AuDHD") constantly whining and making it their whole personality.
>>2012735
You can have hypermobility without it impacting you much, especially if you're relatively active, and it's not always EDS. Muscle strengthening is one of the main ways of management so you may not feel anything is wrong until you get much weaker and more sedentary.

No. 2021129

>>2015388
Omg nona late response but your experience (under the spoiler) was almost identical to mine, and in my case it was endometriosis/PCOS (not saying EDS didn't cause it but you could have some comorbid conditions). I finally treated it with cyclic progesterone (regular BC didn't do shit nor did anything else) but I'm not sure if this would help you if it's EDS related, but for any other nonas with this look into the cyclic progesterone. It took a year and a half to get back to 'normal' periods but now my periods are almost entirely normal other than the severe endometriosis pain and heavier than normal bleeding. Most doctors don't want to prescribe bioidentical progesterone since it's not shilled by the pharma industry as much and is cheap but I think it literally saved my life.

No. 2021131

>>2019565
IBS is a common 'side effect' of PCOS, PCOS has autoimmune qualities. I had both too. My advice for PCOS is heavy weight training rather than extensive cardio, with higher testosterone we build muscle easier but it tends to be less hard on the body and joints than heavy cardio. Burning calories in the short term isn't even worth it if you're causing a severe inflammatory condition because inflammation can worsen weight retention. Counterintuitively once I stopped overexercising I had better weight loss results with PCOS because inflammatory responses spike cortisol which exacerbates other hormonal abnormalities common with PCOS.

I too have PMS-related digestive issues triggered but personally I have figured out a good diet for non-PCOS times and a different diet for the week preceding/during the first days of my period and that seems to work well.

BTW sorry for unsolicited advice but BC can actually worsen PCOS long term if it contains estrogen, I had the best results with cyclic bioidentical progesterone therapy while BC actually exacerbated my symptoms.

No. 2021155

does anyone else with eds have the stretchy skin thing? because that's how i actually learned i have it, i never thought much about my hypermobile joints etc and i thought everyone's skin stretched like mine until i saw some news article about eds and the skin thing and went wait what.

No. 2021525

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>>2021155
yes but i thought my stretchy skin was normal until the rheumatologist i saw tested it and said it was very stretchy.

for anyone wondering about the hEDS diagnostic criteria, see picrel. this is in addition to the beighton test posted here >>2012745 and requires at least two of the following to be present:
>unusually soft skin
>stretchy skin
>unexplained stretch marks (striae distensae) not resulting from weight or pregnancy
>papules on the heel (little bumps)
>atrophic scarring (scars that look like papyrus sheets)
>prolapse and hernias
>dental crowding/narrow palate
>arachnodactyly or positive walker or steinberg signs (fingers around the wrist and thumb across the palm)
>arm span-to-height ratio ≥1.05
>aortic root dilation
also need to have at least one of the following:
>chronic MSK pain in two or more limbs
>recurrent joint dislocations in absence of trauma
plus family history is also taken into account.

i got 8/9 on beighton and 7/12 on the second criteria and have a diagnosis. unfortunately it's so vague because there is no definitive blood work or imaging test etc. - it's only based on symptoms and the hypermobility test (and i think something like 10-30% of the population has some degree of hypermobility). hence one of the reasons why it attracts munchies. when you think about it a lot of people also have thinks like stretch marks and dental crowding.
rarer forms of EDS can be diagnosed more definitively.

No. 2023472

any nonnies that have been through the MS diagnosis process? my "official" diagnosis is CIS even though I've been experiencing a ton of other symptoms since my first flareup. I've had to miss school due to dizziness/fatigue lately but my MRI's don't show anything. a lumbar puncture doesn't seem worth it considering I have no lesions but I just want some answers finally it's been almost two years of this shit.

No. 2023763

>>2021129
ayart, thank you for taking the time to type all of that out it’s very kind of you nona. Unfortunately I was assessed for Endo and PCOS by multiple doctors and was diagnosed with neither. The endocrinologist I saw at the research hospital made the comment that in his ~30 year long career he had seen five women with this presentation, and three of them were in my family. I don’t mean to be dismissive, just that it’s a mystery for me and my family what we are struggling with. I am genuinely happy to hear you’re doing better however and hope that continues for many years!!

No. 2023798

>>2023763
AYRT and I don't think you're being dismissive, that's why I mentioned it could be an EDS thing in your case but it's spooky how identical your experience was to mine, down to the 1.5 year (exactly) period and the giant clots. If anyone else has this issue though I wanted to post something helpful for them too, I'm sorry you have had to experience this as it was really life-destroying for me. I don't think anyone realizes how awful and debilitating it is to be bleeding heavily all the time for years until they've actually expereinced it, when I tell people what happened to me they act like it's some funny-gross story rather than something that made me wanna kms.

No. 2023807

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Any diabetics in the house? I have T1D and some days I feel like I'm normal and other days I feel like it's a completely crippling disability. Thankfully, my diagnosis was so traumatizing that even my worst days feel like a breeze.

No. 2023811

Not in the mood to share at the moment but wanted to thank you for the thread nonnie!

No. 2024004

>>2023807
Hi nonnie I'm also a t1d. Been diagnosed for 20 years and it still sucks but I'm in the process of getting approved for a pump. Have you thought about getting a pump?

No. 2024007

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I have recently been diagnosed with Chiari Malformation which was an incidental finding on an MRI scan, which now explains many many things for me, including frequent headaches and more. Does anyone else have anything similar?

No. 2024353

>>2024004
I had a pump in highschool and it was an ok experience. I was paranoid of them for a while because they're the medical device responsible for the most deaths/injuries in my country. I am going to try the new generation of omnipod/dexcom when it's available here, but only 40% of the cost is covered (compared to only having to pay for needle tips with pen/libre)

No. 2024837

>>2024353
Ayrt
>medical device responsible for the most deaths/injuries in my country.
Which brand(s) was/were responsible? And which pump did you have in high school?
The pump I'm in the process of getting is a tandem tslim and now I'm kind of worried kek. And that sucks that the insurance doesn't cover it all the way. Have you looked at any other alternatives, maybe they'll be cheaper.

No. 2026371

>>2024007
Yes I have that exact same thing! Mitigating stress is crucial to keeping the headaches at bay. I take medication, exercise, and smoke hella weed. I almost never get those headaches anymore, or when I do they’re pretty mild.

No. 2026418

I was born with an esophagal stricture so food gets stuck in my throat fairly frequently and I have to drink buckets of water while eating otherwise I will choke

No. 2026915

>>2014102
Yes, I fucking hate this.
With my acid reflux, it’s really hard to be around food with people sometimes. Like, if I’m visiting someone I have to bring my own food because the last thing I want people to do is be accommodating and cook for me. And I also hate when my friends ask me to choose a restaurant according to what I can eat. I cannot eat anything most of the time, it doesn’t really matter where we are going. The majority of restaurants sells fatty, acidic, over-fried food. Even the vegan ones and the “healthy” ones. God, I wish there was a chain of restaurants for people with stomach issues.

No. 2026987

I'm epileptic and I'm tired of the condition being so misunderstood. I can't expect everyone to know that most of us aren't photosensitive, or faint every time, or that it affects many things beyond having seizures. I feel so annoying for having symptoms related to neurological issues and having to say "it's an epilepsy symptom" again and again, like I get the lingering sense that no one believes me because everyone thinks it's just the flashing lights fainting illness. Also I hate retards faking seizures on tiktok for attention and I'm scared of SUDEP.

No. 2027284

Regarding the threadpic, how do you want to be answered when you reveal your chronic ilness to somebody? I often struggle with finding the right words and it would be useful to know what's the best way to approach this

No. 2027329

This thread should be on /g/

No. 2027335

>>2027284
I personally am tired of this shit so I don't want them to make a big deal out of it. I only mention it if I have to, I'd rather not tell them so the quicker they brush it off the better.

No. 2034268

Resurrecting this dead thread to ask if any other anons think the 'opioid crisis' backlash went too far? I had years of struggles getting opioid medication for a few days a month for my endometriosis, and I now have heard from a couple other people close to me with severe untreatable pain conditions that their doctors started taking them off opioid medications. There is really no similarly safe alternative and I think it's severely fucked up that patients are now suffering and being punished for the pharma industry and doctors conspiring to overprescribe (in one country mainly). I'm not even from the US and we didn't have as severe an opioid overprescription problem here to begin with but my doctor tells me I'm her ONLY patient on any type of opioid medication which is insane to me because I'm sure she has hundreds of patients, and it took years for me to get a few pills a month for my endo because she forced me to try a bunch of harmful shit first to see if any of it would work, all of which made my condition worse.

I also think the sudden drop-off of opioid prescriptions to previously dependent people is part of what's driving the illegal fentanyl/heroin crisis, since desperate people who were getting drugs from their doctors before are sometimes desperate enough to turn to street drugs if their pain is suddenly going un-managed. There's rarely any viable alternative offered, one of my doctor's suggestions was to 'go to therapy' to help me 'emotionally handle and accept the pain' that was forcing me to stay home from work and was making me think about jumping off buildings. Like I'm sorry no amount of mindfulness will help me function when I'm nonverbal from pain like an animal, it's inhumane to make me suffer through this when I could be working and functioning like a normal human being.

No. 2034308

>>2026987
what else do you wish people knew about it? like what are some of the neurological symptoms you mentioned? my friend has epilepsy and even most doctors seem to grossly misunderstand it, which led to her having a seizure during her pregnancy. then she wasn't allowed to drive for a year, which screwed up her life. it sounds like when you're not worrying about seizures, you're worrying about all the logistics surrounding avoiding seizures.

No. 2034368

>>2034268
I'm not american but I know in the US it's really bad. Look up Claudia Merandi, she's a pain patient activist. She has endless horror stories on her tiktok about people left to die without pain medication, people killing themselves because of the pain, people forced to live in pain, and several doctors who're like 70 years old and in now prison for prescribing opioids to patients who needed them. She frequently mentions a doctor who says women with fibromyalgia have pain because they were molested as little girls, so they don't need meds because it's psychological.
Even pets now don't get prescribed pain meds. Your poor pet gets surgery and he gets sent home with gabapentin. It's awful.
This makes me pretty upset because I have chronic pain and no doctor has ever offered me real pain meds. Idk if opioids would work on my type of pain but at least I'd like to try. They don't care and just left me to suffer.

No. 2034414

>>2034368
Yeah I'm not American either, I'm living in Canada though which has US-level opioid crisis blowback despite not having the same level of overprescription that the US did in the first place (we did have an overprescription problem and we do have a fent problem but the fent problem seems relatively separate and the overprescription was not ever to US levels from what I understand). Most EU countries will still happily give you opioid painkillers for stuff that merits it but Canada is really bad after the opioid scare, walk in clinics even have signs on their doors that say they're not legally allowed to prescribe painkillers now.

I will look up Claudia Merandi, thanks. I don't even follow 'pain activists' but just in my personal life I know several horror stories of people whose lives have been ruined by sudden withdrawal of prescriptions with no alternatives or treatments offered, including my own family members (who I know are not addicts or faking because I have known them my whole life). My doctor acts like legit viscerally scared of prescribing me opioids even though I literally take like the minimum dose possible for only 3-4 days per month for endo, and I take XR which can't even be resold as a street drug. I also heard from other endometriosis patients that they weren't even given painkillers (other than OTC tylenol) after laparoscopic surgeries or hysterectomies. They are so paranoid.

There's almost a 100% chance opioid painkillers would help with your pain since they act on the brain/neurons, not on inflammation or whatever. I also have the unfortunate situation of not being allowed to take most other pain meds (NSAIDS for example) because they caused a chronic illness I have now, so my options are opioids, TENS machine, hot water bottle basically. For pain so bad I've literally been tempted to jump off buildings to make it stop. Opioids are actually one of the 'safest' pain medications out there if you dose them properly and don't take them continuously/don't take them with other drugs that interact with them, unlike Advil and Tylenol which can and do cause deaths and long term problems even if you don't take more than you're supposed to. If you take the amount of opioids you're supposed to and don't take them together with other drugs there's basically a near-zero percent chance of anything negative happening to you at all except for the potential of dependency/addiction (which aren't even the same thing), and that can be prevented by just not taking them continuously. The fearmongering is so insane. This is one of the oldest, effective and natural drug subclasses we have on the planet.

No. 2035270

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No. 2035326

>>2034368
the problem is, only a small subset of people truly need pain medication constantly for the rest of their lives. The vast majority simply become addicted, which a major part of that means their body becomes completely unable to handle any type of pain at all. What would be minor pain to a normal person is unbearable for them, only increasing their perception they need the pain medication. It's truly a sad state to be in, you're in between a rock and a hard place. Ultimately the right answer is not initially prescribing these heavy duty pain meds to people unless its absolutely necessary - but what to do about the people already dependant? which is who you are describing. I can imagine the misery of already being dependent and then having your doctor take away your prescription.

No. 2035360

>>2027335
I have no choice because my illness affects my functioning and how much I can be in public. So I often need accommodations. It's always humiliating to explain to people. They either don't believe me or they try to list off suggestions on how to help me, because people still somehow think every disease is curable and treatable and rare ones don't exist.

No. 2035899

>>2035326
So why were doctors giving pain medication to people who didn't need it in the first place, and why did they then turn around and start punishing people who need the medication for overprescribing themselves? You need to be giving someone a lot of pain medication for a long (uninterrupted) period of time to get them addicted, and obviously no one should be giving anyone that amount of an opioid if they don't have a condition that requires it.

Do you have a source for the claim that 'what would be minor pain' to a normal person is unbearable pain to an opioid addict? I've known a couple opioid addicts/opioid dependent people and this was never true of them, I've also never seen any research suggesting this is the case. The people I know who are dependent are dependent because they need pain medication because they are severely ill or disabled. Them being 'dependent' on pain medication isn't a bad thing, it's just a reality and has nothing to do with addiction. Anyway I do think it's kind of suspicious that no one worries about other extremely addictive drugs like adderall, SSRIs, benzos, etc. being prescribed to people even though they also have potentially dangerous side effects, it's just the one random drug pharma got sued for shilling too much 10 years ago that's the problem.

>>2035326
I agree with you that it's really humiliating and I hate when random people try to give 'advice.' Someone literally told me to cure my endometriosis by eating bananas once and would not stop insisting it 'really works.'

No. 2037091

>>2035899
Kek the unsolicited shitty advice is so annoying. My own family doesn't really understand how sick I am and always tells me not to eat sugar or to drink tumeric as if that'll cure me. They also tell me not to take my medication. I just get angry now and tell them to shut up.

No. 2037372

>>2037091
Yeah my family is similar, ironic because several people in my family have serious chronic illnesses that they don't get much help from doctors about and never get cured but suddenly when it comes to my CI issues they know all the answers even though they can't cure or treat their own damn illnesses.

No. 2037411

Have any anons been burnt by chronic illness communities or found them too cringe to be in?

No. 2037427

>>2037411
I haven't really been burnt by any because I do find them too cringe to be in. Actually I avoid talking to people about my chronic illness experiences at all (this thread and some irl friends/my doctor being the exceptions) because I would feel depressed if it started to define my reality, but also because there's so many munchies in these communities or just people who seem like they don't even want help. I know you get burnout from trying to heal yourself and it not working but whenever I lurk on these communities there's tons of people who will literally give every excuse for why they never tried any treatment or didn't even try to get diagnosed and I just can't handle people talking about how many 'spoons' they have.

No. 2037450

>>2037411
I started this thread because the long covid subreddit was infested by depressed moids who want to off themselves anon.
My chronic illness is still quite controversial, before the university of Zurich discovered the blood markers for long covid, some right wing anti waxers would raid the online communities for long covid and bully the members by telling them they are sick because of the vaccine. On the contrary, there are lc patients who are waxed and not waxed, the disease doesn’t seem to discriminate based on vaccination.
I think batshit insane people like extreme right wingers or mentally ill people love to bully sick people because they can and they find us beneath them.
The communities themselves also have echo chambers, there ways to manage ME/CFS I’m experiencing and some people just want to cry and complain and never listen. It’s better to manage your symptoms and get exhausted after a day (and still have a sense of normalcy) than being housebound.
The worst is people who trauma dump and talk about their suic*de plans. That’s the last thing I want to hear about. I want to stay optimistic. Every other day I go through something that would send a normal healthy person into the emergency room. Some days it’s very scary and I break down crying. Some days I have such a terrible brain fog that it feels like I have dementia. I’m actually going through a flare up this week and I have tachycardia and dizziness and struggle to eat or even go pee. But I will not go cry about how I want to kill myself and bring others down. I want to live. And I know you Stacies want to live as well. So that’s why I created this thread here on lolcow.

No. 2037468

>>2037427
NTA but I feel exactly the same. It's so cringe and depressing how all their content centres around their illness and they constantly point out how sick they are and that ME is literally INCURABLE actually!!

>>2037450
I have ME too and I swear it's one of the worst chronic illness communities (but maybe I'm biased kek). I'm really thankful to have made some progress in managing and improving my symptoms over the past couple of years, and it's just so depressing to see people wax lyrical about their suicide plans or the fact that they're housebound because they won't even go for a short walk even though they haven't tried. Of course there are days where I can't do as much as I can on other days, but I would prefer to keep trying and stay optimistic (like you, based nonna) than just sit and wallow and whine about how incurably sick I am. Stay strong nonnie, it's so hard some days but know I and everyone else here is rooting for you ♥

No. 2037617

>>2037450
Yeah I actually relate to the suicidality I was suicidal like 3-5 years ago because it seemed like there was no viable treatment for my problems but I didn't sperg about it online and instead I tried anything and everything I could find that people said might work, eventually I found things that worked, got officially diagnosed, and now I'd say my symptoms have been reduced by 60% or more and I am functional again just because I didn't give up and make my illness my whole identity. Most people can't even tell there's anything wrong with me now unless they catch me on a really bad day.

>>2037468
Especially if you're chronically ill I don't think it helps you to spend too much time hanging out around depressives who define themselves by their illness. Especially if you're chronically ill I think this affects you mentally and you start to feel hopeless when what most chronically ill people need is hope and a viable path forward. I have chronically ill people in my family who resisted viable treatments for years because they were so 'cynical' about anything working and all they did was wasted time and energy and dragged everyone around them into a constantly low mood because they never found any way to be positive and optimistic, it doesn't help anyone especially not yourself. I get just wanting to vent sometimes about feeling bad but it becomes a problem when it's your whole lifestyle and way of relating to other people.

No. 2038243

>>2037617
I understand nonny. I am privileged to have a supportive husband and family and I don’t know how I would feel if I didn’t have the support system I have. I hope you can understand that I’m not criticizing the negative feelings about your condition, but the people who have narc tendencies who just won’t let others feel okay about life.

>>2037468
You too nonny. We got this. I’m slightly better today. Actually went grocery shopping, had to take a taxi back home after dizziness and chest pain but it’s better than yesterday.
Last year I was sick for months and suddenly I started to feel better towards the end of the year. However, my symptom came back after a second covid infection. I want to believe this too shall pass

No. 2039103

>>2038243
First AYRT and I didn't think you were criticizing people with negative feelings about their condition, I'm agreeing with you. Of course people feel negative about being sick but I think chronic illness focused online communities usually hyperfocus on the negativity which is really not helpful to most, plus they can turn into competitions of who is sicker which is very annoying. Hope you feel better eventually!

No. 2039223

heyy, a chronic illness thread! now i can stop periodically posting my grievances in the vent threads. fuck multiple sclerosis. my local GP left and now i have some other dude as his replacement, he's fine but the practice itself is gearing towards serving volume over quality - i'm not interested in rehashing my 15 years of illness to someone new every couple of months so i'm just gonna withdraw and see if my neurologist has a recommendation to a more stable practitioner.

No. 2039330

>>2039103
>they can turn into competitions of who is sicker which is very annoying
God. I am the anon who first asked the community question and this is where I'm at now. I'm surrounded by people who want to play oppression olympics and shout down others who aren't as worse off as them. Literal check your privilege type talk. Would you believe it's majority belligerent personality disordered moids who are the most vocal? They make everything about themselves too. You need to add disclaimers to your posts or else they get triggered and think you're talking about them. I got better by not being brought down by these types, and I'm sure they're seething that I can live a better life than I did before

No. 2039343

I have recently suffered from a life threatening critical illness. Had to go back to the ER today only to be diagnosed with blood clots in my lungs out of nowhere. I can’t catch a break.

No. 2039540

>>2039330
I don’t have the energy to join in person communities at the moment, but the subreddit for long covid is occasionally raided by depressed moids who love to fear monger about how we will never get better and we are all gonna die!!!! I have this tinfoil that some of them actually take pleasure from seeing people with chronic illnesses suffer and they want us to feel more depressed about our situation. And then the gate keeping and piss contest about who had it worst and longest and how the newbies don’t even know what’s coming at them.
Ironic how they complain about society’s attitude toward people with chronic illness and then behave in a similar way. Moids are gonna moid.

No. 2039598

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i'm not trying to turn this into the gender critical thread but do any other nonnas with health issues that only impact women find themselves increasingly frustrated with the language used to discuss our conditions? i'm very tired of medical establishments and awareness groups prioritizing gendie feelings in spaces meant for serious discussions regarding women's health. it's bad enough that diseases like endometriosis are direly under-researched, have limited treatment options, and are overall misunderstood or outright ignored by people who think it's acceptable for women to suffer with horrendous symptoms, but now we can't even talk about it without once again being reminded that troons can't handle it when the attention isn't centered on them. an endometriosis charity even appointed a TIM as their CEO and responded to the backlash by stating that endo isn't a gynecological condition.

No. 2039631

I have thyroid issues. I hate how it's been co-opted by fat people as a popular excuse to not lose weight so people usually don't believe me when I say it. I've been taking medication to regulate my symptoms everyday since I was 11. It's just become a normal part of my life. I can't really differentiate what symptoms are exclusively caused by it vs what isn't. I've always been depressed and had trouble sleeping. I also go months and months at a time without getting my period and my doctor told me it would likely be hard for me to conceive, so I'm infertile more or less.

No. 2039640

>>2039598
This bs and then there's the troons I've seen claiming that endo is in itself somewhere on their weirdass
>well actually everyone's technically a tranny if their body isn't doing exactly what it's meant to be doing, exactly right
That new batshit definition of the how far the trans umbrella reaches. Trying to use every womb related condition to relate it back to your body betraying you just like a trans persons body does! So deep. SO similar. First they did it with pcos and now having endo by default makes you not entirely a woman?? ffs can they leave anything alone.

No. 2039693

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>>2039540
They really are. The worst I see with women is the munchie types who use their illness as a quirky label or post hospital selfies but I'll take that any day over moids gatekeeping and screeching about mild people. Or having no empathy towards anyone but themselves since they clearly have had it the worst. Bunch of whiny cunts. Picrel is how I imagine them kek

No. 2039986

>>2039598
That TIM CEO you mentioned is from one of my local endometriosis support groups. that really made me lose it when it was announced. Reminder here in case anyone missed it >>>/snow/1927676 (this guy has also inserted himself into pregnancy charities, and is trying to establish himself as an expert on women's health when he has zero experience).
The language erasure is so insidious and I will strongly push back against it anytime I come across it, I don't care anymore.
Like you say, it's been hard enough getting to the point where we can talk openly about women's health issues before it's policed again.

No. 2039990

>>2039598
Yes. I have both endometriosis and later got diagnosed with PCOS and in my years of researching and trying to figure out an actual good treatment (not the bc pill) I ended up finding out that high estrogen levels are actually a main cause of both conditions (probably why more and more girls/women are getting both conditions and behind a lot of the weight gain in young women that used to be more rare). It's rage-inducing that moids try to use these female-only conditions which are literally induced by abnormally high estrogen levels in women as a way of talking about how 'lots of people are intersex' or 'some women can't reproduce, what now?' Like first women were screwed over by the total lack of research on female-only conditions and now we're supposed to put up with being called intersex and having men infiltrating our communities and changing the language to non-female-specific language.

No. 2039994

on the subject of endometriosis, has anyone here had excision surgery for it? I have an appointment with a specialist next week to discuss options but I've heard so many conflicting things about surgery and if it's worth it for long term pain-relief and slowing disease progression.

No. 2039997

>>2039631
To be fair when I finally got put on synthroid after having my low thyroid levels diagnosed it did help me lose weight. But I have a question for you thyroid replacement pills anon because I started to have weird sleep issues after going on synthroid, do you think the time of day you take it matters regarding sleep cycle? I was initially told to take it before bed because it's metabolized better at night but ever since my circadian rhythm has been messed up, does taking it in the morning help?

No. 2040003

>>2039994
I haven't but my doctor suggested it and then the gyno I saw told me it's probably not worth it because it often grows back and it can lower your fertility if you're considering that you might want children one day (not the only reason why that would be bad, I think if they take out too much of ovarian tissue it can also lead to other problems like hitting menopause early or it fucking with your hormones). One thing I read while researching it is that if you get the excision or ablation surgeries you can prevent it from growing back by taking high dose progesterone for like 6 months to a year after, it makes you sleepy so it's often recommended to take it as a vaginal suppository. There's a website I found useful for women's health issues called cemcor or something, if you google it plus the keyword endometriosis you'll probably find articles on treatment options. It's one of the only really cutting edge research labs I've found that talks about new evidence for treatments.

On the other hand depending how bad you have it I think excision can help, the issue being that the tissue often grows back so you want to figure out how to make it stop growing back if you choose that option.

No. 2040033

>>2039994
I had my ovary and some endometrial tissue scraped off, it was a cancer surgery and they diagnosed the endo during it so idk if this is the same thing at all. My sister said her endometrial tissue removal surgeries always made her feel better in the long run, she also managed to have two kids even though she struggled a bit but as I understand, the surgeries helped.

No. 2040051

>>2040033
I think it largely depends on how good the surgeon is as well. From what I understand some surgeons end up taking out too much healthy tissue and will struggle to get all the endometriosis from a certain region, which makes it more likely to grow back quickly and also can damage your fertility. If you get a good surgeon I think they can get rid of the endometriosis without affecting too much of your reproductive tissue (assuming it's not completely covered).

I'm still considering it as an option but I would want to know how experienced the surgeon was and I'm trying other things first. I've heard very mixed reviews from women who got these surgeries, some of them saying it did practically nothing and others saying it massively helped with their symptoms and took years for them to start to worsen again.

No. 2040865

Finally got diagnosed with endometriosis after years of crippling periods. I wish I could tell my bitch high school math teacher about this, because the first day of my period was the worst, and he would essentially just tell me that every woman goes through this, and he can’t send every girl home just cause she’s on her period. I would be at the back of the classroom, trying not to puke with silent tears rolling down my cheeks because I didn’t want to be the teenager crying in class. It was so bad, sometimes I fully expected to keel over and die. At least I have answers now

No. 2040927

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looks like there is now a saliva test for endometriosis, but it's extremely expensive and not widely available yet. still, glad the technology is there and hopefully it will make sure more women get diagnosed earlier, and without going through surgery as a first step.
>>2040003
>>2040033
thanks nonas. i'm unable to take progesterone-only because it really fucks up my joints, and gives me worse depression. so i need to research other options but there is so little out there. i've had gynaecologists tell me surgery is not worth it because it will keep coming back and the only way is birth control, but now i'm in my 30s and the symptoms are so much worse so i think it needs to be addressed.
>>2040865
so glad you finally got answers, did you have it excised? school days were the absolute worst because of endo. i ran home from school a few times. once because i bled onto the chair, despite wearing the thickest available pad… horrific and mortifying.

No. 2042119

>>2040865
Went through the same experiences since I was 10 nonna I feel for you and am happy you got diagnosed. I have an almost exactly identical memory from a class in 7th grade where it literally hurt so bad I fell out of my chair onto the floor and couldnt get up and was like biting my shirt to stop from screaming lmao and the teacher was like 'omg you're being so dramatic all this for a little tummyache' lmao

>>2040927
I think birth control in most cases is a bad idea because it will worsen the root cause (high estrogen) by adding more estrogen into your system when it is already unbalance. Have you tried bioidentical progesterone, or only 'progesterone only' i.e. synthetic progestin BC? Apparently bioidentical has a lot fewer symptoms, you can also get it in creams or vaginal suppositories that might not affect the rest of your body as much but otherwise I've only tried 'old wives tale' type remedies and a TENS machine (which kinda works but not that much) plus strong painkillers. My mom is swearing up and down that doing castor oil compresses 'really works' for a bunch of people she's talked to lmao and I think I might actually try it just out of sheer desperation because I don't want to go the surgery route quite yet.

No. 2043402

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EDS anon here. I woke up today with my left arm in severe pain and being unable to drive, use a shopping cart, or close my car’s trunk after grocery shopping. All I did the day before was cut some vegetables for dinner. I’m so tired of this nonnies.

No. 2043421

>>2043402
Have you tried eating more? What's your caloric intake look like?

No. 2043450

>>2043421
I don’t count calories but I eat well. Three meals a day, always eat veggies or fruit as a snack. Dinner is usually a protein with two sides. Only water aside from a morning cup of coffee. I live with someone who is a dietician and share meals with them, so I don’t have much concern there. I have pernicious anemia and low ferritin levels that I am receiving treatment for.

No. 2043725

I have chronic severe migranes all because i was in a car accident when i was 14 and sometimes i think its ruined my life,I couldnt handle light or going out anywhere i couldnt do the sports i had been excited to do since middle school because of my stupid migranes. Now that im in college and ive finally found a treatment that works im so pissed that the answer to managing my symptoms so i can be as close to normal was denied from me because i was considered underage and i get it but at the same time my whole highschool experience and extracurricular experiences were ruined and now im playing catch up socially now that i can handle going out. Its so fustrating but im happy im getting better!

No. 2043915

>>2043402
is it nerve pain? or more joint or muscle? do you take pain killers or are they useless? i get arm nerve pain that is triggered by seemingly nothing, but find regular nerve flossing helps keep it at bay (you can search on youtube for the exercises).

No. 2043993

>>2043725
What was the treatment?

No. 2043999

>>2043993
NTA, but I know there's a weekly IV treatment for migraines that in a small percentage of people can have extreme side effects, including death. I can see doctors refusing to treat a teenager with it because they don't think the risk of death is worth it.

No. 2044006

>>2043725
I cope with thought of "what if" by imagining the only two timelines would have been A:dying from the event and B: everything happening exactly as it did up until now. Mindfulness can be exhausting and cringey but it does help

No. 2044016

anyone have any advice for navigating a relationship with someone who isn't disabled when they are struggling with feeling restricted because of your own capacity? i don't want to make him feel like he's missing out on a normal life and im working extremely hard to improve on my own self & health but there is some things i'll never be able to do "normally", my strength has gotten so much better over the last several years but i still have to use mobility aids, i can't walk as much as he wants, i can't go as far or stay as long, i go to physio weekly, i do my exercise programs, i see an ot, i have support workers ect, like i am extremely well supported but its not like i can just cure it, it impedes on my own life enough and i dont want to impede on his.. its an uncomfortable reality that i hate admitting to, but i just dont know what else i can do.. i work ontop of attending my appointments & support stuff so im generally busy during the week, a lot of the time i find it hard to do anything else aside from my "responsibilities" but its been a massive goal to do more and feel good while doing it. i think he assumes that me being in pain = can't do, but pain is just an experience i have had to accept and i still want to try even if it's painful, idk, just want to see if anyone relates or has gone through this before, and if they can work around it, we're almost 2.5 years in and i really love the relationship, i just want to do better in it

No. 2044024

>>2044016
Your bf has unreasonable expectations of you and needs to get his head out of his ass long enough to realize that your health is not about him. You don't need to do better in this relationship, he does. He needs to meet you where you're at and if you "can't walk as much as he wants", then he's not meeting you. From the sounds of it you're doing everything you're supposed to do, so if he's making you feel bad about it for any reason, he's the problem. If he's actually very patient and you're just putting pressure on yourself, that's one thing and you shouldn't put pressure on yourself like that. But your post makes it sound like he's taken your illness personally and acted like it's restricting his life, which is 100% Not Acceptable. If he acts like that, he's gotta go.

No. 2044029

>>2043915
It's chronic tendinitis, I have both "golfer's elbow" and "tennis elbow" in both of my arms. It sounds like no big deal but the pain is so bad I wake up unable to move my arms sometimes. I have been living with this for ~6 years at this point.

I do nerve flossing on occasion to help with my ulnar nerve, since my pinky and ring finger will go numb occasionally.

No. 2044044

>>2044024
Seconding this. It's not your fault that you can't walk as much as he wants you to and it sounds like you're doing more than enough to try to treat and control your illness. If you've had this illness for 6 years and he started dating you 2.5 years ago he knew what he was getting into and should understand that this is just what you're dealing with, possibly forever.

My bf knew me for many years before I became severely chronically ill and has never made me feel bad or guilty about the things I can't do anymore or the times he needs to help 'care for' me, but I do sometimes feel guilty anyway without him guilt tripping me in any way so if that's what's happening, then just try to work through your guilt yourself and talk to him about how you're feeling if you think he's going to be supportive. But if he is the one actively making you feel bad that's not a you problem, that's a him problem.

No. 2044108

>>2043993
Neural Blockers, i had been on botox and medication since i was 15 and it was
genuinely horrible experience i dont understand how other women can put up with it

No. 2048396

I’ve had the worst month. 4 blood tests and 2 IV infusions. Visited a psychiatrist because my family pressured me to. Because “anxiety”. Psychiatrist told me everything I’m experiencing is because of my health issues and it’s normal to feel down, I don’t have general anxiety. Fucking kek.
At least I’ve found a good ENT clinic that can help with dizziness and stuff

No. 2058750

My period usually makes my pain better but not today. So now I have period and pain my usual pain. Just wish I could sleep and never wake up tbh.

No. 2059727

>>2058750
i'm sorry you're struggling nonna. i hope your symptoms alleviate soon and that you're feeling better today.

No. 2081942

sitting in the doctors office for my chronic chest pain. it’s a 24/7 pain. he’s ordered blood work and a few x-rays and i can tell he’s bewildered that i have had so little done. but what could i have done. no doctor ever took me seriously…just tossed me pain killers or told me to exercise more. he was nice enough though

something that sucks about chest pain or ghost pain though is that it isn’t visible kek i wish i could point to this and let people know that it really exists and i’m not just nuts. not that i even TELL people i just wish i could so they’d cut me some slack and sympathize

No. 2085719

Aeeeaghh everything hurts and I have tachycardia and dizziness God help me

No. 2085734

Alright anons what kind of empathy do you want to be shown, from stranger, family, or best friend. I assume you don't want "sympathy" but true empathy.
>What does empathy look and feel like for you and how would you want others to handle it in the context of your chronic illness

No. 2085739

GERD and anal fissures. What a combo! I've had both since I was at least 12 years of age. The GERD has become worse over the years and I'm scared of needing daily medication at the age of 27. It is what it is.

No. 2085744

>>2085734
This sounds very antisocial and ungrateful, but I just want them to deal with their feelings so they aren't consumed with them when we hang out. Yes, illness sucks and it's sad that I'm not getting better, but making a big deal out of it just makes me feel worse. All I really want from the people around me is the understanding that I can't do as much as most people and that's it. I don't want them to try and relate or feel bad, I especially don't want them to try and empathize with me because anyone who thinks they can, can't. I just want them to have patience when I can't do as much in a day, and otherwise to just be normal.

No. 2085745

>>2024004
I'm this anon and I now have a tandem tslim x2 insulin pump and holy shit it has made life so much easier and worth living. I never noticed how fucking sick and awful I was feeling 24/7 with the shit diabetes control until I got the pump, stayed between 100-210 for a few days, and then reached above level 250 while I had it charging unattached to me. Holy shit. If you are able to get a fucking pump, fucking do it. Saved my fucking life. Holy shit. All the anxiety, depression, anger, sadness. It's GONE. I can talk to people. My mind is quicker than before. I'm getting emotional typing this out kek I'm so fucking happy.

No. 2085757

>>2085734
i want them to understand that i’m trying my best and not get frustrated. like nobody would get pissed at a guy in a wheelchair if he couldn’t run a marathon. i hate people getting pissed at me for seeming “standoffish” when i’m trying to silently grit my teeth against my rioting body and think through the brain fog

No. 2086701

>>2085734
Just wish my family understood that I can't make the pain go away. Whenever I talk to my mom she acts as if I chose to be sick. She things you can think chronic illness away. Just tell me "yeah that sucks" and move on.

No. 2088880

I strongly suspect i have pcos and endometriosis due to a variety of symptoms, but I’m so frustrated that all doctors do is put me on diane to just not have periods, but I’m still in so much pain. Not really a productive post, i just need to yell out into the void, I guess.

No. 2089480

>>2085734
I just want right wing dumbasses to stop asking “vaxxxx????” whenever someone has a minor health issue but that’s too much to ask i think

No. 2092562

>>2085734
I just want people to act like I'm a normal human being. Every time I tell someone about my condition (since it isn't visible) it becomes the most defining part of me.

No. 2099757

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Kek nonnies I want to kill myself. I just came back from seeing my ex (we broke up due to my illness) and on my way home some guy handed me a flyer for an "international healer" lmao. I almost want to believe this is divine intervention and that I should call him. I just stood there crying after reading this, it's both funny and sad.

No. 2100676

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Does anyone else struggle with chronic exhaustion? I sleep 12 hours minimum everyday and some days need a 90 minute nap after being awake for only a few hours.

It’s been this way for as long as I can remember, with little to no improvement. My last blood panel flagged my ferritin levels as being dangerously low at 8, and despite taking supplements for three months nothing has improved. Last time this happened I ended up needing multiple iron infusions. I just want to feel normal and be able to do my work.

No. 2100695

>>2100676
Eat red meat/liver. Most iron supplements barely do anything except give you constipation. And get tested for celiac disease.

No. 2100932

>>2100695
Thanks for the suggestion, your advice is 100% right. I already eat a red meat heavy diet. I know OTC supplements are trash as I have been down this road before, but I need to take them for a few months before my doctor will approve the iron infusion. Also so my insurance will pay for it.

I am pretty certain I have a processing issue with iron, I do for b12 and need to supplement with injections. No matter how much or what I eat it is never enough to keep my levels in a normal range. I am hoping to convince my doctor of routine iron infusions going forward since obviously my body is too fucked to be bothered to store it. In the meantime I have no idea how to cope with my constant fatigue while everything else in my life suffers. It’s so frustrating this happened again.

No. 2101095

>>2100676
I have very bad exhaustion issues but other than high HG and high hematocrit my iron levels tested normal and I've no idea what's causing it. It's weird because I'm a self harmer and high HG is probably the opposite of what I should be considering how much blood I've lost over the last few years. Like I should be anemic but my hg levels are fucking high.

The rest of my panels are clean besides genetic high cholesterol.

No. 2130155

>>2014203
Good news nonnies my fucking chronic UTI is finally gone. After 3 years of hell. But it went on for so long that it left me with nerve damage or irritated nerves idk, so I gotta wait a bit longer until my pussy stops hurting. It should heal itself eventually with meds and physical therapy. But I barely have pain now so I conciser it a success.

No. 2130165

I hate being a woman with undiagnosed chronic headaches. Every time I go to the doctors, it’s
>“You have headaches cause you eat bad”
>go on a diet, still have headaches
>”You have headaches cause you don’t exercise”
>exercise 2 hours daily, still have headaches
>”You have headaches because you’re overweight”
>start losing weight, still have headaches
>”You have headaches because you’re losing weight too fast”
Please just do any type of test so I can at least know what’s really wrong.

No. 2130620

>>2130165
Where do you live? My aunt has chronic migraines and is receiving help from a PT/Chiropractor/GP for it, including medicine but also deeper research. for instance, her chiropractor was able to uncover she had an infection in her jaw/cheekbone area which was causing inflammation and worsening her migraines. Her dentist then resolved the infection for her, alleviating pain.

No. 2130727

I'm at the end of my tether. I have constant tremors, my hands and legs are shaking 90% of the time. I get sudden hot flushes, elevated heart rate and lose my vision and collapse regularly. I've been to the doctors and been told its hormones, blood tests show its not. It was my weight, then I gained a bit of weight and nothing changed. Then it was stress, but it happens regardless of whether or not I'm stressed. I went private to get a heart monitor put on for a few days, its been confirmed I experience sporadic spikes in heart rate but nobody can explain why, I got a scan of my heart and it was normal. My life has been this way for 8 years now and nobody can tell me why or what I can do.

No. 2130731

>>2130727
Have you gotten a referral to a specialist like an endocrinologist or neurologist? This sounds like it's outside of a GP's wheelhouse.

No. 2130739

>>2130731

I've tried to be referred to a cardiologist but because an ecg where I'm just laying down normally, is normal, nothing comes of it. I've been sent to the hospital for fainting in public before and staff or passerbys have called an ambulance. By the time I'm seen, usually about 8 - 10 hours later, the moment has passed so nobody bothers to look further in to it. I've spoke to my GP about my hospital visits and these occasions, a nurse gives me an ECG, its normal they tell me to drink more water, I say I drink plenty of water, they say come back if it happens again, it happens again and I go back, its a different GP, same thing happens again

No. 2130740

>>2130727
Have you been tested for POTS?

No. 2132240

>>2130740
Yes, but my blood pressure does not change at all, just my heart rate

No. 2132270

>>2130727
Are you able to sleep well? Do you take any kind of medication?
Be sure to take most tests available to you. Heart scan, holter, brains scan, go to a neurologist too if you can, and extensive blood tests of course.
I used to have something similar years ago, hot flashes, high heart rate at all times, tremors in the evening, a lot of pain and nausea all the time and instances where I would jolt awake at night for no reason. Could not shit solid for a good two years, I would retch when drinking water and eating light things. I've never fainted but I had many moments when I would feel lightheaded, numb and my vision would go away for a moment. After taking most of the tests available, finding nothing and being hospitalized for low weight they just concluded it was all the result of burnout from stress, close to a mental breakdown either from depression, chronic anxiety or cptsd. I also thought it couldn't be stress because I felt like shit even when nothing was stressing me out but in cases like this it takes a long time to wear off. The doctors I had (finally, after two long years, but I had troubles even before) thought of a psychosomatic disorder because of the constantly elevated heart rate but nothing showing up in heart exams. It's a hard thing to come out of and I had to resort to medication because it was like my body was stuck in that state and couldn't return to normal no matter whan I did. I'm still not how I was before this shit all went down and probably never will, but it's relatively normal if I can manage stress.

No. 2132300

>>2132270
My sleep fluctuates, at the moment its difficult because its very hot, but even when I've been consistently sleeping well, its still a problem. I don't think its stress as I'm in a very good position with very little stress, a stable good income, a good job where I work from home, very understanding employers in terms of my mystery condition and symptoms. It has been identified that my heart rate does elevate quite high based on the Heart monitor I wore over 3 days, but the tremors and fainting are still a mystery. I just dont understand what I can do, I started taking vitamin supplements, I gained weight, I've had countless blood tests. I do wonder if something is wrong with my brain, as I occasionally get random leaks of liquid from my nose when I bend down and get up too quickly and thats been happening since I got a head injury back in 2017, but my doctors said the leaks are so infrequent its likely not a problem, but my head was smashed in to a wall very hard and nobody really took a good look at the lasting effects and they don't seem to want to. I think things will have to get worse before anything is really looked at. Which is frustrating

No. 2142237

I found a very nice and talented osteopath who is going to be helping me with my vulvodynia/pelvic floor issues. I travelled from Germany to see her, and I told her German doctors had failed and gaslighted me for 3 years, and that no one would help me or knew what I had. She was shocked and so angry she just stared at me for a couple of seconds trying to process it, then told me german doctors were disgusting misogynists who didn't care about womens' health. She also told me german was an ugly language kek. I love her, it's nice to finally meet a healthcare worker who cares.

No. 2173041

Old geriatric scrotes with incurable diseases should not have children. My father has psoriasis and what did I recieve from his decaying genetics? Psoriasis all over my scalp and face in my late teens and psoriatric arthritis in my knee and ankle in my early 20’s. I’m fucking ugly and bedrotting and it’s his fault. The injections I’ve been taking for it (Skyrizi) don’t even work anymore



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