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This thread's picture irrationally irritates me. Could you please spoiler it?

>>170044
Just hide it.

>>170044
It's funny though because Ken dolls are famous for being completely flat down there

it annoys me when girls say it. my housemate is guilty of saying it all the time, she's one of those girls who frequently says 'I'm not like other girls' and it's like so ??? do you want a medal or what??

I can't help but feel sorry for her as well because she never experienced the joys of having a really good bunch of close female friends. I personally think she missed out on a lot.

I find that the "Im not liek the other gurlz!!" is generally just a cover up for insecure, catty girls who can't form proper relationships with other girls because they're too obsessed with getting all the attention from guys all the time.

>>170048

Dis ^

>How do you feel about girls who claim to be "one of the boys"?

I don't see a problem with it, unless her actions contradict her words.

>>170047
I wish I belonged in a goup of cool girls…

I also have just been around boys my whole life. Normally when I had a girl best friend shit went sour. The last one actually moved in with my ex and they're constant fuck buddies. I have maybe 2 or 3 girlfriends that I actually care about but they have to be very similar to me or else I can't get along with them. A part of me really wishes I had tons of girl bffs but I always end up getting lazy with friendships I start for the sake of having a new friend. There's also the fact that I don't have a shit ton in common with most of the girls I try to make friends with.I noticed in high school I would gossip a lot with other girls and that would be the only way we were friends. Boys are easier but some can be real little bitches. Sorry for so much text.

I'm not one of those 'one of the guise' types but I do seem to attract them. I have few close friends in general, and tend to be a bit closer to my exs, but I'd say I have equal amounts on both sides. However, those types of girls seem to flock to me, only to get butthurt that I don't feel the same and give them asspats. They do bother me because their attitudes are bad. Even if they all have just had shitty luck/experiences, that doesn't mean they should close themselves off from everyone. Ultimately they end up stereotyping everyone around them, including themselves and it's pretty shitty. I find people in general suck, so you need to wave through shit and find good ones, I guess they don't really know that. I'm very close to my close friends and that's really all I need.

>>170043
I have two girl friends and the rest are guys. I've never cared about it and don't care what other people think of it either. It's not like I activately seek more male attention than girls (i'm fucking bisexual hello i would love more girls in my life) but it just happens.

>>170051

This is why I started coming to lolcow desu.

I've browsed /r9k/ and a few other boards for years and happened to see a post about lolcow and I personally think it's much better. It's like a nice group of cool female friends.

The only thing I haven't gotten used to is how slow it is compared to some of the boards on 4chan, but it's definitely not as shit cluttered

>>170053

I can relate, anon. I seem like I'm one of those "not like the other girls" types but I'm really not, and this ends up confusing (insecure, aggressive) girls who attempt to stereotype me like that just because I have brothers and am in a male-dominated major. When they see me being friendly with other girls, they're genuinely confused haha.

No honey, it's not that I don't like other girls. It's that I don't like you.

If you just genuinely enjoy the company of guys then that's fine, but if you also hate on girls for no reason you have a problem.

My group of friend originally started out as guys+one's gf and me, then eventually expanded to an equal group… and I also have a group of girls I hang out with aside from my central group.

Growing up, I also hung around guys a lot because I was into the more 'nerdy' things at the time, like Pokemon, YuGiOh, video games… that sort of shit before it was popular to be a nerd. But this kind of was a bad thing in the end… since I was friends with all of these guys since grade school, by the time we got to high school they all kind of thought of me as a sister sort, so I wasn't ever able to date any of them.

>>170057
I don't really hate them, but I've had a hard time bonding with girls and trusting girls, since I was very young, no idea why.
I've only had two girl friends in my life, each time it was a very strong friendship. I wish I knew how to approach girls better, they are kinda intimidating to me.

In general, I'm very introverted. Being friends with guys is easier for me because there's less pressure in a platonic relationship with them. They don't constantly want me to hang out when I don't feel like it, they don't "compete" with me as far as looks and clothes go. Like, I can be my slob self around them. When I'm around girls, I feel judged constantly.

>>170057
This. Nothing wrong with having mainly guy friends, but openly hating on your own gender because you want to be seen as 'one of the guys' and not a 'dramawhore' is beyond bullshit.

>>170059

Girls are "intimidating" because you actually have to be a likeable person for other girls to bother being friends with you, and that's hard if you haven't developed your personality enough. You can't just giggle and simply exist while getting attention and favors like you can with guys. Girls don't give a fuck lol.

And eventually, those guys will all fade away as they get gfs/wives, or you stop dating their friend, or you get a serious bf. So male friends may be very low investment and low effort, but they rarely last like a good female friendship will.

It's okay though, most women realize this by their mid-20s, and by their late-20s, most women are a lot more tolerable as friends anyway.

>>170062
You are reading way to much into it. Nothing that you said is true in my case.

>>170048

Recently I've been chatting to this girl from dumblr for ages. She's ite' from my town, never met her. She's polish and something is off about her. Besides her saying how awful British people are.

She tells me about her days at work. How she gets on better with guys "less drama" and how she wants a boyfriend cos the last one was "too girly, i need a real man".

She has this new drama about this handsome* guy at her workplace who has crushed on her for agessss and he had a girlfriend of 10 years. But apparently all the guys like her because she "wears no make up apart from eye liner, she has a nice ass in her leggings" and she's just amazing.

But the handsome* guy likes her, he sent her a vday card and didn't break up with his gf. The girlfriend got pissed off because he was all dreamy over her and they split. But she had a feeling he liked her.

She brags on and on about me how much he likes her and "i pretend not to play along and care but i do rly".

Now the gf ex gf is going ape shit because she hacked the guy's fb account and found the convo of them flirting.

Girl doesn't even care about the ex gf's feelings, she's like "well shes getting obsessive and she's a crazy bitch and he likes meeee"

But it's sorta annoying because he should have broke up with that girl first instead of sending her cards and they have been together years so obv she loved him.

But she's so smug about it.

"All guys like meee I prefer guy frienddds"

It's not always a good thing.

It turns you into a cunt.

>>170062
No.

>>170062
you seem triggered, anon.

>>170064
Why are you talking to someone like that?

>>170062
>they rarely last like a good female friendship will.
This sounds right to me. Ive always had guy friends but they just sort of come with whatever else i was doing and when i move on they just get put on hold. But the one relationship in my life i can't shake is with a women. She just persists. Our friendship is entirely her doing and we're not even fucking. Been friends for 10 years.

>>170062
This. Honestly half the times I developed a friendship with men they ended up asking me out/wanting to fuck me. I tread with caution when men want to be friends now.

>>170068
Agreed that analysis is 100% spot on. Guys come and go, and I'm in a relationship right now. Love him to bits but it's my best friend who's been with me more times than any guy ; at the hospital, doctors, whatever. Usually when shit gets heavy the only guys who'd consider doing that stuff were the guys who wanted to fuck me. It's that one female friend that makes us both go "if one of us were a guy, or if we were more bisexual. Why."

For me, my friendship with my guy friends have been pretty great. They told me they consider me a guy. Which I don't mind, I take it as a compliment.

I'm too autistic to hang out with other girls, I can do it at first but once they get to know me they lose interest in being my friend, so I'm kind of stuck with guys.

At first I had this group of guy friends (+1 girl who was the definition of "im not like the other gurlzzzz") who were all perma-virgins but honestly there was more drama there than there would have been in any group of girls.

Now I have a small group of guy friends, most have girlfriends and none of them are into me (im like a 6 physically and my personality kind of brings me down to a 3 tbh) so theres no drama there. Overall I don't really like having friends in general because I do a lot of solo activities so I find guys better because they're less obsessive about hanging out all the time, which seemed to be a problem I ran into with the few girls who could tolerate my absolute autism.

Funny enough, I work in an all female workplace and my co-workers all turned out to be the same kind of weird that I am, so we all get a long great and go for drinks every now and then.

>>170062
>Girls are "intimidating" because you actually have to be a likeable person for other girls to bother being friends with you

Motherfucking spot on. I've always had a 50-50 gender ratio with my friends and I'm a tomboy but I still cringe when a girl says that they'd rather hang out with men because there's "less drama". No bitch, it's because you're a catty asshole who keeps stirring up trouble with girls but your beta orbiter gang of guys let you pass as their princess because they all want to fuck you.

They settle for subpar company to fill time and then try to make it seem like it's not only out of desperation. Normal people aren't gonna spout that "friends with the guys" shit, they're just gonna consider having normal friendships with whoever they get along with, without thinking about it from a gender perspective. If they care so much that they're "friends with guys", these are probably only shallow friendships wherein the guys act like doormats in hope she will eventually end up putting out. And drop her when she doesn't. I'm friendless though, so fuck if I even have a right to talk.


>>170060
kekking at your picture

A lot of you seems extremely butthurt.

I've always been considered one of the guys by my friends and I didn't have much female friends for a long time (I dunno why, it just happened that way because I had more shared interests with guys I guess)
I guess since I was always fat and ugly and wore men clothes it was easier to see me as one of the guys? I've lost a bunch of weight since then and started wearing nice feminine clothes by now but they're so used to me being one of the guys by now so it doesn't matter.
It's not for attention, it was just always easier to talk to guys and girls made me feel shy. Also there was never any sexual tension or anything (maybe very rarely when we were really really drunk)
I'm glad to have more female friends now too though since some things guys just don't understand. I've also made a lot of great friends from their girlfriends.

I'm trying my best to overcome my autism with other girls. I used to have a lot of female friends in high school but I always had very insecure, unstable girls cling onto me so I would stress over all of their problems and be forced to socialize with extended, equally awful friends. It's taken me a long time to just be myself again and just relax and have fun. One super sad fact is that most of the girls who drained my soul were allllll cosplayers. They would circle jerk non stop but still talk shit but never want to do anything for themselves. I'm finding "normie" girls are way less maintenance and can have a good time without having to be carried through the party/event.

I do think it's healthy to have female friends but I also think it's a way overrated thing, in the same way seeing "Lol be nice to ur mom she's your mother!!!" and "Sisters are so special tbh, cherish!!l images make me laugh. Some moms are garbage narcissistic assholes and some sisters are fucking trash too. Bond with women for the sake of womenhood seems a bit patronizing. Why do I need to be sold so hard on it? Why does it make other girls so salty?

all my life until the last few years of high school it was always 50/50 with me, but it just seemed like no girl hung out with guys as much as I did. I think it's simply because I had interests in both "girl" and "boy" things. Not a lot of girls were into video games or the ninja turtles growing up. I was very social at that time though and made friends with everyone.

When I moved in high school and got culture shock I started being very shy. I made a few girl friends, but I mostly bonded with guys and played games with them on steam and skype calls with the occasional irl hangout as well. It's not like I'm super hot or anything but a few of them did end up liking me, which kind of sucks because I didn't have many friends and it was nice to think I would finally make a good friend. I never say "omg I'm just like the guizzzzz" but I'm just scared of girls with a full face of makeup and nice nails, I can't be on their level and they just have different interests than me so I don't go out of my way to embarrass myself and talk to them. I think the girls who do say that are just try hard and are probably just sucking a lot of dick and want to make other girls envious that they get sooo much male attentiun.
Some girls are really fucking cool and I hope I can make friends with some later on, but my school was filled with a lot of petty girls who would make disgusted faces when other girls would do something weird or something that isn't deemed as "cool" in their books. I guess they just gave off really bad vibes and I didn't want to try making friends with people who are so judgemental. I think the best guy friendships are the genuine ones where you're sort of like a sister to them, not a possible hookup. Once you let guys know you're only interested in friendship they start to fade lmao.

As a kid I always found myself having an equal amount of boy and girl friends, but I was a tomboy and had more "boyish" interests. That sort of persisted as I got a bit older, but once I hit 15 I started having more female friends because the guys I tended to hang out with/attract had awful personalities and were generally the unpopular geeks. Now I still talk to like, one or two guys but the friends I hang out with the most are female
The thing about girls is that you can pretty quickly judge one of them and see if they're fake or not. I have no beef or resentment towards the female gender as a whole but that's been my experience, at least

I think the "omg girls are so catty, guys are soo much better" attitude is bullshit. I know a girl that thinks ANY female is in competition with her. The only girls she will hang out with are ones that are butt ugly because she feels like the pretty one and therefore no man will talk to the friend while she's around. She runs to men for attention at the drop of a hat even though she's in a relationship because thirsty guys give it out like halloween candy. Any female friend of her boyfriend is instantly hated, but she'll kiss up to them when she's around. As soon as the friend is gone all she'll do is mercilessly shit on them for the tiniest thing to make herself feel better. If you call her out on it she gets extremely defensive and accuses you of hating her and liking the other girl more. It's fucking insanity.

>>170074
Martin Shrek-li is my husbando

>>170067

She wasn't always like this… well she was but I didn't know until she started to get with that guy :|

I feel autistic in front of girls, with dudes I'm more casual but in this case they are the ones that either act autistic or think I'm flirting with them.
How tragic. The only long-lasting relationships I have had were with a gay/bisexual??? guy and a lesbian girl that is basically my soulmate.
We are a bunch of weirdos, when together is like time hasn't passed since school. We laugh at stupid shit when we are together until we forget the problems that each one has.
For a loser like me that never had friends before them and didn't even believe on friendship, something like this seemed impossible even in my wildest delusions.
We still hang out and I couldn't be more happy tbh.

Now I'm having a hard time trying to make friends at uni. I know that no one there is going to make me feel the same way they do, regardless of gender. Man I miss them so much, when something happens in class I imagine how we could have joke about that, what I would say to them, their laughs…

>no1cares I just needed to write this

cheesy clannad video related, shows pretty well the kind of friendship we share.

Moved to >>>/b/81170.