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No. 2079391

Becky Lilley aka catholica_pandam on Instagram is a 22-year old ''autistic'' tradcath influencer, mom-to-be, stoner, addict and student from Fredericton, Canada. She's married to Ian, an autistic man of Scottish descent. She has amassed a following on IG after her autistic catholic wedding pictures went viral, but has been increasinly scrutinized due to her erratic, attention-seeking behavior, oversharing, inconsistencies, self-infantilization and speculation that her ''autism'' is in reality a badly managed case of BPD. She loves posting about her dog, God, housewife duties, autism, how catholicism saved her from a troubled adolescence and how much she actually hates parasocial relationships and e-fame.

LINKS :
IG: https://www.instagram.com/catholica_pandam/
Fan reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/catholicpandam/
Snark reddit (featuring archived lives): https://www.reddit.com/r/catholicpanda/
Her mother's IG: https://www.instagram.com/old_lady_trudge_/
Ian's IG: https://www.instagram.com/ianswoodworking/

Recent milk
>Has taken several breaks from social media due to mental health emergencies, only to return very quickly afterwards. Kept posting through it via her husband and mom's accounts
>Was admitted to a psychiatric facility after discussing suicide on IG, checked out to access her opiate medication for her endo period
>Has behaved strangely duing her IG lives, prompting speculation about drug use
>Now using a walker part-time, supposedly for her severe grade 4 endometriosis
>Was hacked by some Turkish cryptobro, her account was recovered since
>She's pregnant! Despite regularly complaining about having no money and ''stage 4'' endometriosis (for which she's not seeing a specialist)
>Is already milking her tiny barely existent baby for content
>Her fans and snarkers alike are worried about her ability to be a mother and a possible miscarriage, prompting more suspicions about the severity of her conditions

No. 2079392

OP here, apologizing in advance for possible mistakes, this is my first cow thread. Unfortunately Becky deleted most of her posts in the past few months but her pregnancy (announced 6 days ago) is sure to generate plenty of milk!

No. 2079399

>>2079392
thank you for making this! I remember when her wedding pictures went viral, I had a mutual on tumblr post in the tags that they had known her in school and she was not at all how she presents herself online. Since then I haven't kept up with her but I find her online persona to be off-putting

No. 2079420

Inb4 nonnas claim I’m her or a simp. But I really don’t see anything milky about her. Have casually followed her and she’s just like any other zoomer to claims to be autistic, but the only difference is that she’s Catholic.
Leave her alone, she seems like a nice girl that desperately needs validation and attention online like most do.(whiteknighting)

No. 2079423

i kept seeing her reels and would casually watch her for a bit. her page didnt yield much drama imo; she’s just a mentally ill bored tradcath housewife. bpd theory seems like a tinfoil, she doesn’t sperg out online or fight with others a ton. the one maybe sus thing i do remember is that she did say a while back god cured her endometriosis and it was completely gone and her doctors deemed it a medical miracle, but then she went back to posting about endo like nothing happened. idk if she’s lying or coping. hope this doesn’t come across as WKing but i don’t see her having enough regular milk to sustain a thread

No. 2079426

>>2079423
samefagging… actually let me take that back, scrolling through the snark sub and yeah she does seem cowish. guess i missed a lot kek. she’s totally attention whoring her pregnancy and apparently talks about using cannabis and opiates daily to “manage her endo pain,” while her husband dislikes her online antics.

No. 2079429

>>2079426
Yeah she's unassuming until you start to see the cracks. She was holding herself together before the last couple months
>bpd theory seems like a tinfoil
It's a solid tinfoil imo because she has explained, unprompted, that her BPD diagnosis was her autism 'with a stressed nervous system' (something of that order) and this is such a classic BPD malingerer thing to say. They love to reframe their past diagnosis as another condition entirely, Jill does this aswell. Her telling on herself + her frequent breakdowns + her child LARP point towards BPD, though you can't be 100% sure yet

No. 2079500

New threads should start with pictures of past milk and links to other threads where the cow was discussed. She seems promising so OP please get the discussion going

No. 2079599

Thanks for the thread OP, she's crossed my path on Instagram before and I started watching because of the cowish potential.

No. 2079986

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She seems to be setting the stage for another health crisis saga.

No. 2079992

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>>2079986
Isn’t she like 4 weeks pregnant? She doesn’t seem mentally sufficient to have a baby tbh - unless this is all just for clicks. Don’t ask me how telling the entire world that you’re 4 weeks pregnant is what’s “best” for anyone.

No. 2080007

>>2079423
>>2079429
I went to her school and can confirm she is a diagnosed bippie. To be honest I'm kind of sad for her that this thread was made because she is really mentally unstable and can't even cope with her sanitized instagram comments. My hope for her is she gets off the internet and gets into DBT.

No. 2080010

>>2079992
announcing your pregnancy at 4 weeks screams bpd

No. 2080026

>>2079992
I was following her after her wedding pictures but had to stop because it was non-stop weird drama. Is there still someone posting for her and moderating her comments? Was that ever even true kek

No. 2080132

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I can't say I'm that surprised that she has a thread here, the pregnancy saga is definitely going to yeild some milk. She's only a week (ish) into announcing this pregnancy and nearly every video is about her baby. Picrel is her blessing her baby by rubbing holy water over her stomach.
I thought it was pretty insane that she announced her pregnancy as soon as she found out?! I've never been pregnant myself but I thought that the first trimester can be touch and go and a lot of things can go wrong. I know a few close family members have been through miscarriages and I can't imagine how hard that is. But yeah let's announce your pregnancy of 4 weeks to your 130k followers as soon as you find out. It feels like jinxing it kek

No. 2080135

>>2079986
Eww she needs to brush her hair

No. 2080136

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>>2079986
why is she pretending to have a baby bump at 4 weeks KEK. is she pushing out her stomach in the photos where she’s showing off her “bump”?

No. 2080171

>>2080136
Second last Twilight film with Bella finding out she’s 1 day pregnant and already having a bump vibes

No. 2080232

>>2080136
She is, in her reels you can clearly see her pushing it out with all her might kekkkk.. why would she make it so obvious

No. 2080259

>>2080232

it's literally endo belly, can spot that shit a mile off

cannot believe she had a get out of pregnancy free card r.e her catholicism by taking birth control to treat endo….AND CHOSE PREGNANCY ANYWAY…girl get a stable HOME lol

No. 2080311

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For anyone curious, picrel is her husband.

As mentioned in the thread OP, he's an autistic scrote named Ian. He works a labour-type job, and is usually on shift for 12-13 hours. I'm not sure how old he is, but I'd reckon that they're similar in age. He is balding.

No. 2080314

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This is old milk, but it's an example of how she does stick to her poorfag LARP pretty hard.

She's frequently begged her followers to buy her fast food in the past, and some of them have obliged her requests. For those not familiar, Smokes is a Canadian chain of fast food restaurants that specialize in selling poutines. The cost of 2 poutines from there is around 30 dollars. She says that she hasn't had it in a year, but she did in fact have it only 2 months before this incident occurred.

No. 2080322

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It's not mentioned in the OP, but to confirm: Becky and Ian did go semi-viral on Twitter in early 2024 after uploading photographs of their "autism friendly traditional Catholic wedding." If Becky looks familiar to you, it's most likely because you saw these photos somewhere on Twitter or Tumblr.

No. 2080357

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>>2080355
>i need his age
ian is 25. this article from last year confirms becky and ian’s ages, its paywalled so i capped relevant parts: https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2024/09/04/tiktok-traditional-trad-catholic-trend/
the veil living business was short lived and i believe she never completed most of the orders, saying it was too stressful for her to try to make money like an adult, due to her autism and endo, and her husband was coming home from 12 hour shifts and doing all the housework while she lay in bed for weeks.

No. 2080358

>>2080322
followed her too and she’s cringe to me now. I haven’t kept up with anything she’s been doing more recently at all but it always rubbed me the wrong way that this autistic(?) woman is hardcore larping as a christian and got married so young, and is simultaneously grifting off of it. i had no idea she was a stoner lol, i always got the impression that she was some cutesy mega autist who literally couldn’t do anything, that’s how she portrayed it.
i’ll go look myself for more milk after posting this.
>>2080311
i need his age, i’ve been wondering for so long now. i think that they’re fairly close to eachothers iirc but he is aging very poorly.
in this >>2080322
picrel he’s really reminding me of an actor but i can’t place it for the life of me kek

No. 2080359

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samefagging got this from the snark sub, ian is a retard. canadian moid celebrating an abortion ban that doesn’t even affect his country

No. 2080361

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becky is also anti vaxx. there’s a lot on the subreddits. i wish the milk was better summarized and catalogued, bc it’s there for sure

No. 2080362

>>2080361
why can the redditors never do this? they always put all the work on us poor nonnas. fuck them.

No. 2080364

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>>2080355
>>2080356
>>2080358
Most people close to her agree that she's faking autism.

As for the stoner bit, most of her posts from that time period were wiped when she last checked out of rehab, but from them we learned that she consumes cannabis everyday with specifically high-concentrations of THC (70-90%). Her preferred method of consumption is to smoke shatter (i.e., dabbing or hot-knifing). She also does drink alcohol, but I'm not sure how often or how much she drinks.

>i’ll go look myself for more milk after posting this.

I'm trying to type out a timeline of events, since (no offense to the OP) the OP recap is kind of shit. She definitely has way more milk out there, but it's hard to gleam it now because of all the un-archived posts that were wiped from her account. She seems to be in the habit of periodically deactivating her social media, purging a lot of posts and content, then reactivating. It should be recommended that any anons that want to milk this cow should be prepared to archive things as they come, in case they get deleted later on.

>>2080357
To add, I believe that he's from Ottawa, ON, too. I saw this a few times on the snark reddit page, but I'm not sure where this information was revealed.

>>2080359
>>2080361
I've been trying to go through the snark reddit to compile a more accurate summary of the milk, but it's genuinely quite difficult because redditards are so bad at this sort of thing. There definitely is milk to her, it's just buried beneath a bunch of random off-topic bullshit that we have to shovel through.

No. 2080365

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stuff on her drug use

No. 2080369

>>2080364
i saw you said he was 25 as well, did that need to be fact checked?

No. 2080373

>>2080369
I never said he was 25 in my post, you're thinking of this anon's post >>2080357 which was published a year ago. In that article, it says he's 24, so this year he should be 25 unless Catholics age differently.

No. 2080375

>>2080364
good post nona, i’m hoping you can piece together a timeline without too much trouble! this thread could have a lot of potential kek

No. 2080390

>>2080373
it’s not showing on my phone for some reason, i thought ta deleted it my bad!

No. 2080402

I wish I still had screenshots of her old posts, I've checked up on her for a year or so now and it was insane to watch her become "more autistic" as the follower count went up. When I found her page she was just a plain looking girl, and everytime I came back she was acting more childish and added a new "sensory toy" to her daily carry. There's something kind of creepy about how childish she acts and her husband just thinks it's cute. God help their baby

No. 2080411

>>2080402
iirc she self diagnosed with autism (reddit says she said she was diagnosed with bpd and ptsd but “is fine now” and no longer meets the criteria?) and got diagnosed with autism properly only shortly before her marriage. of course she could be lying about having a diagnosis, but it does seem she is faking it to some degree or at least exaggerating her symptoms. the symptoms she seems to express like sensory overload have overlap with her other diagnoses, which she was only diagnosed with a few years ago and i doubt just went away. so, my tinfoil is that when she met or was dating her husband (a legit diagnosed male sperg) she decided that autism is what explains her traits, bc it’s quirkier and gave them something in common then her other diagnoses. and now she plays up her autistic traits because he either has a fetish for her childlike retard sperg larp, or to build up her social media brand more and more. now she’s too into it and she almost seems stuck that way mentally. sorry for long armchair but i find this really strange.

No. 2080456

>>2080411
This is absolutely correct. She takes on the personality of whoever she is dating at the moment. One of her ex-boyfriends was a neo-nazi and she leaned hard into being super edgy when they dated. Her husband met her at church and asked her if she was autistic, and she quickly self diagnosed and started the autism larp. How childish she acts is insane, I'll try to find one of her posts where she pretends to not know what an escalator is and calls them 'funny moving staircases' or something. New Brunswick is rural but we have fucking escalators, kek. Also for the anons talking about her stoner past, she used to longboard across campus with a bong, which was infinitely cooler than whatever she's doing right now.

No. 2080470

>>2080365
This is kind of a crazy life for a 23 year old to have? Especially when you add marriage and pregnancy into the mix. So she’s an opiate addict who has been to rehab and a heavy weed user but she’s stopped all that cold turkey now that she’s pregnant right? Right??

No. 2080474

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Oldish milk but found her being super normal on her mom’s instagram - accompanied by a video of her saying her “hacker” edited an email she sent to ask people for money? Honestly sounds like junkie behavior to me. Also the way she looks like and lisps like grimes.

No. 2080514

>>2080171
Kek

>>2080322
Okay ngl the photo itself is kind of cool if the moid wasn't in it, and if she wasn't larping autism. Also her moid looks old and schizophrenic.

No. 2080515

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becky posted on threads her crouching on the floor, peeling potatoes into a filled trash can with old food/takeout bags in it, so gross lmao.

>>2080474
>the way she lisps and looks like grimes
kek nonna i couldn’t put my finger on who she reminded me of but, you’re so right. they share the autism larp too. what’s in the water in canada?



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