/snow/ - flakes & mistakes

>Size: 10 B(M) US
Holy monster feet, batman

>Princess needs a Princess mattress!

wut

Wtf why don't nerds ever buy ME shit? Do I need to whore myself out to get free stuff? What exactly makes men spend money on these hos?

some of the stuff on these wishlists baffles me. like, what are you gonna do with professional music equipment and multiple fancy cameras and shit? are you going to open a goddamn music studio in your house??

Financial domination has always come off as abusive or manipulative to me. Like I think I would be OK with it if the dom and sub had a real life relationship but 99% of the time financial domination is between strangers over the internet and for whatever reason that makes my alarm bells ring.

Also it makes me laugh when dominant women call themselves "goddess" or "princess".

>>121260
Maybe they just want people to buy them shit for the sake of getting free shit

Why are these girls obsessed with uggs? It's on every dom wishlist I see :/

>Collective Chaos Latex And Lace Bra (38 b)

Somehow she's both fat and flat at the same time.

It looks so cheap and gross lmfaoo
Also:
>XL

>>121261
How is them doing stuff irl not "abusive or manipulative" though?

>>121266

It may or may not be an abusive relationship but at least if it's IRL they've probably talked it over. These online mistresses just want money regardless of who provides it.

I'm into BDSM and it's such a cliché for any kind of relationship to be described as abusive but something about financial domination really sets my alarm bells ringing.

>>121267
I'm just curious why you think (depending on how they find their customers) you assume they don't talk it over with them. Plus, don't all professionals do it for money, regardless of who it is from? And isn't part of the appeal, for these guys, to hand over their money? If some girl is on the internet asking for shit and some moron buys it for her I don't see how he's being abused at all.
I once spoke to a guy who was into this sort of thing and they always talked first (they usually met through some cam/phone sex site, it's not just random girls he gives money to) and actually had something going before he started buying stuff. That seems like a pretty legit BDSM activity to me. He also confirmed that he was into the idea of her taking advantage of him and taking his money, so there is that. It's one thing to sort of laugh at the situation (it's easy to mock) but I don't think anybody is endangering themselves in any way, not any more than any other internet based sex stuff.

I just wish there were a way to read their conversations, I'd love that. An amazon wishlist is just kind of meh (no offense intended, OP). I find it kind of neat/funny and I'd like to see it.

I knew a guy who was into this sort of shit, but only because he hated himself and thought the only reason anyone would want to be around him is his money.
I guess there are all types of people into this shit, some of them not healthy, and it can be manipulative but in the end it's not like the people giving out money and gifts are being forced to do so.

>>121268

>And isn't part of the appeal, for these guys, to hand over their money? If some girl is on the internet asking for shit and some moron buys it for her I don't see how he's being abused at all.

And many women just want to be manhandled and have rough sex, but it doesn't mean that every such relationship is healthy.

You would never see an Mf relationship dismissed as "she's a loser who deserves it" but such a reaction is par the course with Fm relationships.

>>121261

The newbies are the ones who are like "Give me your money. I need it. I have bills to pay." The older FinDommes are people who say "You need to give me your money and maybe I'll just take it." The reverse psychology works wonders and doesn't make you seem like a greedy bitch.

For online and irl, a paypig/human ATM/FinSub must Tribute first. This comes in the form of a contract/application. The application is submitted with a fee (which varies from person to person). By doing this, a FinDomme knows the Sub has money and isn't wasting their time.

The thing is consensual BUT you must always get to know your FinSub before doing this. I noticed a lot of FinDommes don't do this and take the money. I've done this before and had men with Thousands in their savings, asking me to drain their bank account. They wanted to watch on skype as I bought things via TeamViewer.

But here was the thing, most men into Findom have some sort of third party they take care of. So while Greedy Findommes are 'helping' a FinSub drain his wallet, they're ignoring that he has a family/pets/etc to take care of. They are involving said third party who did not consent to it. That is where it gets moral-less and tricky because the FinSub might love living on the street, but the third party doesn't.

But of course most FinDomme ignore this and blame the FinSub for not telling them. Though it is a Domme's job to know their partner and give them aftercare.

New age Findommes are girls who just want to make a quick buck and don't actually work for it. That's probably the manipulative and abusive ones. They 'agree' to take your money and take a care for a FinSub but bail as soon as they have the cash.

The Glamour of the Findomme has recently fucked up the BDSM Domme community. Dommes who do sexual acts or don't Findom are looked down upon. Apparently the 'bad ass bitch' attitude of Findommes made it look cool so everyone is trying to be one. But not everyone can. Findommes also act like they are better than other Dommes because they get paid to look pretty. I remember one Domme (she wore pastel wigs or something) got pissed at another Domme for 'copying' her tumblr theme. The theme was one of their premade ones.

This concept appeals to me.
I would ask for better stuff though.

>>121271
>I remember one Domme (she wore pastel wigs or something) got pissed at another Domme for 'copying' her tumblr theme.
dude was that fullten?

>>121273

No, it was a buddy of Fullten. Her named was Duchess or something.

>>121274
she is black and is friends with a black vampire domme? i follow her too

Why are they all fat?

>>121274
Yup, sounds like Duchess! She acts like she is the only sex worker that wears pastel and lilac wigs and anyone else that does it is copying her. She is delusional.

>>121271
Is it hard to become a FinDom?

>>121278

Now, yes. Back then, No.

Becoming a Findomme is difficult because there is a stigma with findomming in the BDSM community. Most BDSM sites won't let you state you are a FinDomme or say you want a tribute (which is very important) from slaves. If you do, you get banned.

Sites like Findoms.com were decent but turned to shit when EVERYONE wanted to be a Findomme for easy cash. Now the ratio is like 50 findommes to 1 real finSub.

Now to be a Findomme, you must be pretty, smart, unique and have a wide range of talents. These men/FinSubs do get to pick who they want to serve and most want to serve the best.

First you'd have to pick your persona. What brand are you. What's your gimmick. Then you have to market said gimmick and build a small following. After you have a small following, take clear photos and video teasers. This draws subs in and even a few fellow Domme who will signal boost you with reblogs.

Remain likable and you should make a bit of cash. You'll start off getting only like 100s, but after you get a decent following, you'll make $1,000.

But because it's considered sex work, it will stain your record. I had to stop for college.

>>121279
What is the difference between sugar babes and findommes? I guess other then findommes dont have sex with the guys (probably? I don't know, school me).

Some of them are soo ugly lol
>Alluring, BBW Mistress seeking devoted slaves & sugar daddies. Want to gain my attention? Purchase items from my wish list, and spoil me like the Princess I am. I can be ur little dirty girl & make u cum at the same time!

Not findom but there's something I just find so interesting about stripper wishlists.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/wishlist/ref=cm_wl_search_38?ie=UTF8&cid=A136KAYT36B2ZB

This one has like, toys for her kid along with dildos/panties/stuff like that

>>121282

>I will send pics of me using or wearing whatever you purchase for me.

Hahahaha I'm just imagining getting a pic sent from her trying to erotically play Frankie's Food Truck Fiasco Game something

>>121280
Sugar arrangements are usually "financially beneficial dating". They want the GFE or girlfriend experience.
Findomming is mentally dominating someone into giving you money. They chose to do so, but the fantasy is that you force them into it and they are powerless, usually.

So basically, one is a fetish and one can be a full time exclusive relationship similar to serious dating… With cash.

>>121285
my sides

>>121282
She asks for so much,i usually just ask for gift cards.

>>121288

That generic intro is some newbie crap. I can't take her seriously. And her photos are unprofessional. You're supposed to present yourself professionally.

>>121288
omg her lazy eye

>>121263
Uggs = essential fashion for the basic bitch

>>121271
>>121279
Anon, I like you, and you obviously know what you're talking about. I've been interested in domming, I've read about the responsibilities that come with it and it makes absolutely sense to me.

I don't want this to be a blog post, but I think I could do it well for various reasons. Do you have a way I can contact you? Like you said, it's so saturated that I can't find a great way to get into it.

Sorry for vaguely OT.
Back to the topic: these girls have shit taste, everything is so tacky.

I love findomming it even makes me feel like a real goddess as having control gives you a high too :).. i got about 4 subs from [SHITTY WEBSITE HERE] and they see to my needs on a weekly basis and take it on turns on a weekend. They are like real pets to me now :D!(spam)

>>121293

I see the paid shills have found our little nest.

>>121279
findom seems to have exploded in the past couple of years. goddessmine was considered to be a pretty unique kind of lolcow back then IMO

The new wave of findoms seem to be lazy tumblr girls who want to be seen as "kinky" but have zero interest in anything bdsm. From what I can gather, subs want someone who will stick around because they like the idea of being blackmailed and caught, not because they like the idea of throwing money at someone "pretty" . The dommes who do well seem to be women who are quite intelligent in their own right and use some psychology to draw them into a fantasy once an agreement has been established. Even sugarbabies seem to have an ounce of ambition outside of wanting money like trying to set up businesses, get through uni etc (not all, but a good amount). Tumblr findoms are just lazy narcissists who want money for the least amount of work possible.

I am 100% certain that a lot of these newbie findommes who have jumped on the bandwagon are not making ANY money from it. Just because they post their wishlist everywhere and demand men worship them and send them cash doesn't mean anyone is taking the bait. I know there are some brilliantly successful financial dommes out there but I'm also sure a high percentage of the others are putting on an unsuccessful act