/ot/ - off-topic

I don't know about the questions in the OP but please also share your positive experiences anons. These lifestyle conditions sound great tbh.

>Do you have a sexual life?
Hahaha no, never had.

>How is your social life?
Meh… okay, I guess

>What prevents you from being loved?
I dunno, not being pretty enough and having twitchy eyes scare the hell out of anyone

>Do you approach men/women?
In the past, I’ve approached men, got rejected too many times which sort of traumatized me into never asking again. Now only desperate scrotes ask me out after two minutes of meeting each other.

>Are you employed?
No, but I’m currently in college.


I will probably end up alone, I’ll be 30 next year so my chances are pretty narrow at this point. I’m kind of scared tbh because I really don’t want to. My alternative plan is to get artificially inseminated so my bloodline can go on, but I also want my kid to look like me and not the random sperm owner.

>older woman
I'm 25, but I'll contribute anyways

>sex life
No
>social life
I have a handful of close online friends
>approach
No
>employed
Yes, but I'm not a career woman (Pastry chef)
>why
No one wants a woman with these traits

>>661290
>Pastry Chef
Anon that's really cute

- Do you have a sexual life?
No, I did when I was an older teenager but quit almost cold turkey. I did have sex once in my mid 20s but I regretted it, I'm almost 29 now.
- How is your social life?
I have a small group of friends I don't see very often, but I'm really close to my immediate family and spend a lot of time with them
- What prevents you from being loved?
Nothing, I just don't wanna deal with men for a large variety of minor reasons. I'm not social enough to organically fall into a relationship with a guy I meet IRL so it all depends on whether I choose to use dating apps or not.
- Do you approach men/women?
No
- Are you employed?
Yes

Loving spinsterhood tbh, it's the safest, most stress free way to live and being celibate has done so much good for my self esteem. I think I might try to get a boyfriend and have sex over the next year or two but I don't want kids and I'm too paranoid for marriage, so I'm pretty certain I'll end up living my best life alone. I'm fine with it when I'm not horny kek.

>Do you have a sexual life?
Null and void.
>How is your social life?
Similar. I miss having online friends the way I did 10+ years ago. It's either your basically anonymous even if you have a screen name, or people end up sharing pictures and it just changes everything.
>What prevents you from being loved?
Isolation and probably joblessness. I also live at home so privacy is impossible.
>Do you approach men/women?
No
>Are you employed?
No. Had an online freelance job during the pandemic, but I burned out since the pay was so low. I wish I could just get paid for doing menial bitch work and be left alone.

When I was younger I would chase losers on 4chan. Never amounted to anything but I don't think I'll meet anyone traditionally or on hook up apps at this point.

>Do you have a sexual life?
Yep, and a very active, fulfilling one at that - or at least I did before the pandemic hit.
>How is your social life?
I have friends and family who love me. I'm good on that front! Wish I could see them in person more often (see above re: hell year 2020)
>What prevents you from being loved?
My charming personality? All kidding aside, it's not about not being lovable - I have standards, and I have no intention to settle on some "oh you will do" person just because that is expected. I'm happy on my own - I'm not compromising my own happiness for a relationship, and men especially expect that. Being with someone has to be an improvement on my being alone, a "yes, and this too" situation. I've no intention of becoming any grown man's bangmaid-mommy-housekeeper-therapist; I want an equal partner.
>Do you approach men/women?
Yep, both! I date and fuck both.
>Are you employed?
Yes; I'm self-employed, and I run my own business.

I've had all sorts of relationships: summer flings, FWBs, puppy love, casual relationships, serious relationships, even almost got married once. I've been single-but-dating for over 5 years now, and while I would love to find a partner, I've got no intention of settling down just for the sake of settling down.

>Do you have a sexual life?
Kissless virgin

>How is your social life?
Nearly not existent since I finished high school. There's one friend that forces me to hang out every couple of months. I have no online friends either

>What prevents you from being loved?
Mental illness: BPD, depression, social anxiety

>Do you approach men/women?
No. The only time I "approached" someone was when I stalked a guy in high school. I hope he didn't notice

>Are you employed?
Yes. I had to choose between finding one and getting kicked out

>>661277
> What prevents you from being loved?
What the fuck is this horrible question, OP?

>>661277
>Do you have a sexual life?
No, I'm a kissless, handholdingless virgin at 26

>How is your social life?
I have very good friends, I love them and I get along will with my coworkers so far. I feel like I'm between being a loser and a total normie nowadays.

>What prevents you from being loved?
My upbringing, men I could get into avoid me like the plague because of the religion and culture they think I follow where it's expected for young couples to only hold hands and maybe hug for years until you get religiously married. On the other it's absolutely not what I want for myself, I wish I could just have sex with handsome guys and leave it at that so guys who could be into me expect the exact reverse of this and we're not compatible whatsoever. I also don't fit the beauty standards here to begin with.

>Do you approach men/women?
No, I was abroad the first half of the year and thought maybe I could get into a relationship, I seemed to get along very well with some guys I met there for the first time of my life and I actually fit the beauty standards of that country way more than my own country and then corona-chan cockblocked me. Now that I'm back to living with my family I can't have a social life anymore

Are you employed?
Yes since some weeks ago, let's hope I can keep my shitty job despite the current crisis.

>>661922
This anon is winning at life. I hope to be this successful and self assured someday.

>>661277

>Do you have a sexual life?

Virgin but I'd call myself asexual anyway. I masturbate but it's more like an exercise/tension relief/body function for me without actual feelings involved (unless horny counts as an emotion). If I can make myself cum I see no reason to go through the trouble of involving anyone else.

>How is your social life?

It was right where I wanted it to be pre-COVID. I went out with friends in a group every month or so, sometimes spending time with people one-on-one and otherwise just going out and doing my own thing. Lots of people I know consider me to be a bookish hyper-introvert antisocial type for not going out and getting drunk every single weekend but I do like socializing, just in small/spaced-out doses. Plus I talk to people online constantly, then and now.

>What prevents you from being loved?

My personal choice. Being in a relationship just looks like a complete chore to me with no real benefit. My close friends are genuinely as close as I care to be with another person.

>Do you approach men/women?

I approach neither. I wouldn't turn down a woman approaching me romantically (hasn't happened) just to see what it would be like, but she'd have to be really similar to me because I really don't want to alter myself/my life for another person. I have and will continue to turn down men because they repulse me, and back when I had 0 self esteem and was a miserable pick-me they could fucking smell it and I went on some very sketchy dates that could've ended badly for me.

>Are you employed?

My job sucks but yeah.

> Do you have a sexual life?
In the past I had causal sex. It was unhealthy for me so I stopped.
> How is your social life?
Nonexistent. Covid doesn't help, but it was almost as bad before.
> What prevents you from being loved?
Autism, anorexia, PTSD I guess? But plenty of people with those conditions have friends and partners, I genuinely am unsure what I'm doing wrong exactly.
> Do you approach men/women?
I'm not interested in dating men ever again. I'd love to date a woman, but it doesn't seem to be in the cards. I can't deal with the small talk bullshit you need to do to get to know anyone, especially on an app.
> Are you employed?
Nope, disability payments. I'd love to work on my mental health and get back to work though!

>>662081
Anon, I feel like I would like you a lot. I'm tired of small talk as well, but it seems to be necessary to really get to know someone; after all, you haven't really experienced anything with them or even connected yet.

>>661922
Same anon, are you me? I mean except for the current sexual life, could be improved a bit but I’m not going to shag the first person who shows some interest.

I’m fairly attractive, very outgoing and not native to the country I currently live in (So extra “exotic” points). Lots of people show interest but after a relationship with a guy that was handsome, smart and extremely funny, I can’t settle anymore.

Turns out it’s fairly hard to find someone I find attractive AND can see daily without being tired of them. I’m happier being on my own and meeting new people than settling with a partner I’m lukewarm about. And I certainly can’t justify dating mediocre-looking men anymore. Fuck that “personality is all that matters” bullshit.

I’m on my A game and only date handsome and smart people. I’m ok potentially never marrying or never having a family tbh.

>Do you have a sexual life?
Yes, I'm in a happy relationship (as far as bf is concerned) but once I sort some things out I plan to dump him. Why? He's whiny, insecure and balding and pressures me to have kids (which I won't, not with those genes).
>How is your social life?
Grim. It was hanging on by a thread and COVID killed it off. I'm a very solitary person, but I'm not a recluse and I actually love chatting with people, it just tires me out quickly. It's making friends on nightmare mode.
>What prevents you from being loved?
Nothing, I have people who love me. I've always been in some kind of relationship since I was 19 and I'm sick of it, and by it I mean men and their antics.
>Do you approach men/women?
No.
>Are you employed?
Yes, I've got a good job.

>Do you have a sexual life?
I did, but I'm volcel because I can't be fucked to get fucked. Lazy.
>How is your social life?
Pretty good, surprisingly. I still see a handful of friends from time to time, and have managed to deepen our friendship. It's pretty nice.
>What prevents you from being loved?
I'm bitchy as fuck and have the best rbf so strangers don't stop to talk to me. Also covid. Also, it's not that I myself am prevented. I prevent other people (ie. subpar men, whiny baby men, immature men… just men) from being loved by me because I am pretty cool.
>Do you approach men/women?
Nope, volcel and committed to it
>Are you employed?
Yeah, it's a good job especially right out of university, but I'm bored and wanting to leave. F

I'm 26, do I belong here

-Yes.
-Fine.
-I enjoy my lifestyle and casual sex.
-Yes.
-Yes.

>>662054
Ahahah! You're too sweet, anon. I'm a mess of a woman most days, in many ways, but being a spinster? That I'm actually quite cool with. Living my best witch years in that regard, hah!

Get after what you want in life, not what you think you should want. I wish I'd realised the difference sooner. Most stuff will fall into place after that, I promise. And wrt the whole spinster thing? Life at single and 30+ is a lot sweeter to me than it was at dating and early 20s. YMMV and all, but we women improve as we age, if we focus on ourselves and not just prioritising other people's happiness.

>>662073
I wish I could have friends like you irl. I could have easily written that post myself. It's hard to find friends that would be okay with having occasional and not super regular meetups that don't involve getting drunk.

>>662273
I'm considering just having casual sex because I'm so damn horny and every guy I've ever been with is pornsick and I think it's stupid as hell I'm always wanting sex more than they are, but they'd still watch porn.

How's your life? Is it fulfilling? Are you ever lonely? I only stay because I fear being alone.

>Do you have a sexual life?
Nope, don't care about sex and I could go my entire life without it it's probably not as good as hentai makes it out to be
>How is your social life?
Decent for my standards, I see friends from time to time, otherwise I'm very low maintenance, but I have difficulties keeping friendships (being slow to answer texts and all that jazz)
>What prevents you from being loved?
Low self-esteem, I genuinely think I don't deserve romantic love. Probably autism also.
>Do you approach men/women?
No, like I said I'm not interested in dating, I don't even know how I could meet other bi women without using a dating app (which I adamantly refuse to do).
>Are you employed?
Yes, shitty customer service, but it's something at least, I would go mad if I was a neet, and my co-workers make up most of my social interactions. My country has officially entered its second lockdown and I've been feeling devastated since then, this year has been absolute hell.

>Do you have a sexual life?
no
>How is your social life?
non existent
>What prevents you from being loved?
my own unwillingness
>Do you approach men/women?
no
>Are you employed?
not atm

>Do you have a sexual life?
I’ve never had sex and don’t date.
>How is your social life?
The past months have only been interacting with family or passing the same people each week on the walking trail I use. I don’t have online friends or use social media.
>What prevents you from being loved?
I feel incapable of accomplishing most of my personal goals and used to tell myself to only seek out other people once I achieved them.
>Do you approach men/women?
No.
>Are you employed?
Yeah, I would consider myself a workaholic if it wasn’t for the lingering desire to go to school for something else that prevents me from moving up in my current job