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No. 498093

What are your New Year's resolutions? What are your goals for the new decade? Any hopes? dreams? expectations?

No. 498099

>What are your New Year's resolutions?
I'd love to lose weight (cliche ik) but I'm prone to yoyo dieting so a better resolution might be to stop obsessing over food and just eat like a normal person without binging or dieting at all.
>What are your goals for the new decade?
My main goals for the next ~5 yrs are all about money. If I save 3k a month I'll have my mortgage paid off in ~4 yrs. Then I'll take another year to save up for renovating and furnishing my apartment (currently renting it out and living at home). I have other goals in mind for my hobbies, sports, improving my style/health/looks but those things cost money, so they've gotta take a back seat to saving money unfortunately.
>Any hopes? dreams? expectations?
My main hope is that my sunscreen use pays off and I don't suddenly develop a tonne of wrinkles in my 30s, and that my hair continues to grow.

No. 498101

My firstborn baby will be born early this year. I’m still sorta young, and I’m scared my friends will stop wanting to hang out with me. I’m also scared I’ll become one of those crazy lady moms who revolve their entire personality around being a mom. (Karen’s or whatever) My goal is to not lose my identity and sense of self while helping another human being become themselves
I also wanna take up knitting, that shit looks fun.

No. 498107

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>>498093
Get out of this damn 7 month long artblock. That's all I want!

No. 498138

>>498107

SAME! I barely made any art this year, which makes me super sad. I miss making art and be creative but I kind of lost motivation to do anything? I made like maybe four lil pictures this year and that's about it. I used to make so much back in the day. I hope this will change in 2020!

>Any hopes? dreams?

Finally moving out! I'm looking for an own place to stay for over a year now because it's a damn impossible thing in my town. But I won't give up on that because I want to be independent for so long now.

Idk overall I hope that 2020 will be the decade of me getting my shit together because nothing really happened in the past 4 years in terms of life because I landed a random job after finishing studying which has the only purpose of getting money out of it and not because I want to do it. See the world and maybe finally fall in love again since it's been a damn long time to feel affection towards somebody.

No. 498172

>What are your New Year's resolutions?

buy more from local small businesses, esp women owned businesses. I've never made a resolution before so I wanna keep it simple.

>What are your goals for the new decade?

once my company takes me on as full-time + benefits, move out of my parents place. I have enough money saved that I can do this whenever I want but I wanted a bit of security before taking the plunge, as I've only worked short term contracts and odd jobs before. I just hope I'll be able to afford at most 2 roommates.

knitting for charity, at least one item per month so I could have multiple things to donate at the end of the year.

after things get settled and I have a better idea of my budget, I hope to take up an instrument and fitness hobby in 2020. start with piano and karate, since I've done those previously, but I do want to learn guitar/bass and I'm interested in bouldering/climbing.

>Any hopes? dreams? expectations?
continue making progress with my mental health, outlook on life, and sobriety. hopefully be less of a retard by the end of the year.

my biggest dream is taking up sax again and joining an amateur community orchestra or local group like that, but I have no idea if those exist around here in the way I'm imagining it.

never thought I'd live past high school, but here I am, actually kinda excited about the future.

No. 498179

>Resolutions?
To figure out who I am and what I want. I just got out of a long term relationship where I kept putting his needs before mine, and I feel like I lost myself somewhere along the way. I need to find myself again.
>Goals for the decade?
Quit my current comfy dead-end job and go back to school for something useful that I'm actually into (dunno what that is yet though).
>Hopes and dreams?
Getting a cute girlfriend and couple cosplaying and wearing matching lolita coords with her. Yes I'm a dirty weeb.

No. 498207

>>498101
congrats girl! i hope it all goes well.

No. 498223

I've always tried losing weight most my life and KEEPING it off, and this year I want to commit to that. I've already lost 25 pounds in 2-3 months and see this kind of progress continue until i can hit at least 118-120…it's hard because sometimes i eat to cope with pain and the emptiness i feel, but it's just been making me feel MORE worthless, so…

No. 498226

>resolutions?
journaling every day, be more serious abt my poetry n' try to stop being a fucking neet.
>goals?
move out of my childhood bedroom and be more independent, be on a lower dose of zoloft n' be less online all the fucking time.
learn to sew, weave n grow my own food.
>hopes?dreams? expectations?
get a gf hopefully. still a kissless dyke and it's really starting to bother me loads.
i always want to be serious abt learning more languages, i hope i can stop pussying around and get it done.

No. 498230

>>498101
I'm pregnant too anon, 12 weeks so its an early July birth. I don't think anybody loses their identity but we will certainly have less time for ourselves.

No. 498231

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I'd like to get in better shape. I don't really need to lose weight but I miss my muscles. I'd like to save more of my paycheck every month. I'd like to get back into drawing with the long-term goal of making money from my art (I don't need it to be my main income, I'd just like it to supplement my current income). I'd like to possibly see someone about the possibility of me having ADHD, and possibly go to therapy about the things that happened to me as a child. Also I'd like to waste my time better this year – i.e., playing one of my unplayed video games instead of watching a bunch of vine compilations when I'm trying to unwind after work.

My goals for the decade would be to move out and maybe finally start dating, wind up in a relationship, and lose my virginity when I'm ready.

I feel kind of hopeful for the future, anons. I hope we all have a good year.

No. 498238

>>498101
I have friends with kids, and I don't mind still hanging out with them. If anything, sometimes they feel bad because they have to tend to their kids sometimes, but it doesn't bother me really. You will have less time for stuff though.
>>498107
This. I didn't draw anything this year. Fucking depression.

I want to lose some more weight. I lost 35 pounds from 2018 to 2019, I'm aiming to lose maybe 20 more. And to start working out again. I felt better, had better balance, all that shit when I used to work out.

Try to claw my way out of my NEET life, slowly. That's probably gonna be the hardest one, but here's hoping.

No. 498245

It’s nice that there are a lot of art anons who want to make more work next year. All I did was make small boring studies throughout the year so I really need to step it up, stop being so damn lazy, and actually create illustrations.

No. 498249

>Resolutions??
I would like to leave my comfort zone more often to socialize because I have always been a reclusive introvert and I would love to save more money,I would need to save up to $1,000
>What are your goals for the new decade?
I want to become an animator and a much better artist despite working 24 hours in a call center,I still don't have a tablet hopefully I will also I wish to release up to 4 animated shows where I live

>Any hopes? dreams?
Becoming an animator,finding a team of hard working talented nice people to interact with and saving lots of money to fund my projects
Seeing my original characters on TV too

No. 498250

I guess my resolutions are the same as last year, where I want to take more life drawing classes and be brave enough to post stuff online. I did actually go to life drawing, but I'm still too much of a coward to put my art out there. The life drawing has helped a lot and I know I'll improve much faster if I let people critique my stuff but my fragile ego is way too entwined with my art and it's stupid.

So this year I want to keep doing the life drawing and also work on separating my self-esteem from my work so I can view critique objectively and not like a personal attack.

No. 498257

Hopefully marry my long term partner, get more serious about my art, and move out of my shitty city.

No. 498258

>What are your New Year's resolutions?
Very stereotypical, but it is to lose some weight. I need to stop using food as a reward and reward myself with things like sleep or a fun experience. I need to go back to treating food as fuel rather than something to keep my depression at bay, so I can get my old body back and feel less sad and sleep better at night.

Another thing is to push myself more at uni, be more honest with people at uni about my situation so i can scrape a pass and finally get away from my parents.

>What are your goals for the new decade?
Hopefully by the mid point of the decade I can finally move out. I also want to weeb out in Japan and take better care of my body.

>Any hopes? dreams? expectations?
I have always hoped i would be more social, but i realised that is not realistic. My main dream is to be away from my family and cut all ties from my toxic sister completely. I hope i have a job that can fund the life I want in a nice cosy apartment, with a cute cat and a comfy bed with extremely soft bedding. And a cool gaming pc.

No. 498266

>>498245
I need to do more studies. I have a bunch of tutorials downloaded, I just haven't been able to really focus. I'm hoping I can do better next year.

No. 498275

I just want to socialize, make some friends, and get in a better place mentally. I actually feel hopeful that at least some of this will happen, and I hope the same to you anons! I feel like this will be our year!

No. 498277

>>498266
It's always good to develop the habit of doing more studies even if it's just simple observational pencil/pen sketches. I haven't done anything really creative this year but at least my skills haven't stagnated.

No. 498279

>>498277
Yeah, my biggest cockblock has been depression killing any motivation basically. But I feel like that's getting a bit better, so I can start watching tutorials and grind fundies at least. Fundies may not be the most fulfilling thing, but I kinda like just getting in fundie mode and practicing.

No. 498357

>>498279
which tutorials do you like for that? I want to practice more fundamentals and would love more resources

No. 498363

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My resolutions are usually something simple and dumb because I always forget them if they're serious, so it's usually something like "pet more dogs" lol.

New Year's resolutions this year are probably:
- Read 12+ books (again lol, tried this last year and only got in around 9-10 books. Ideally it's 1 book per month but I use my city's library (I'm cheap+free resources my taxes pay for+no space to keep my own books) so sometimes I end up reading and finishing multiple books in a short span of time and then going a while without reading while waiting for book reservations to become available).
- Continue bouldering/rock climbing! I want to be able to comfortably climb higher grade boulder problems by the end of 2020. I just started so if I could comfortably do V2/V3 grades that's great! The ideal goal is V3/V4 though. Maybe buying a harness and starting top rope climbing if I can find a partner, but I'm still a big weenie about heights.
- Get my license. Buying a car isn't even my endgame (and kind of a dumb choice for where I live), but I just want to finally get my license.
- Be more creative. Drawing, embroidery, knitting, or sewing. I like doing all of those things but I'm not very good at any of them so I always end up stopping because nothing comes out perfect, but this year I just want to indulge in doing them. I don't care what the end result is, I just want to create things. Maybe down the line I'll work on perfecting technique or whatever, but for now I just want to have fun again.
- Continue taking care of myself. 2019 started off really rocky but the end of the year has gotten a lot better for me emotionally and mentally. I want to continue to push myself out of my comfort zone, but know that it's also okay if I'm too scared or uncomfortable, and I can try again another time.

Hopes/dreams/expectations:
- Hoping to land a decent paying full time job! Temp job is ending, so I don't really have a choice but feeling a little more settled into adult life with health insurance would be really nice. Going hand in hand with that, I'd really like to move out this year (love my parents but they're nearing hoarder status), but it might be a smarter choice to save up money and rebuild my savings instead (just paid off my student loans so now my paychecks can finally all go back to me! yay!).
- Hoping my dog will also live well for 2020, but she's a senior dog so I'm not too hopeful, but a girl can dream right? She's my sunshine and I don't know what I would do without her.

No. 498480

>>498357
I watch videos from people like Jeffrey Watts and Steve Huston. Proko is okay too.

No. 498657

It's looking ever more likely that I'll be going to Japan next year, so my resolution is to try and learn Japanese properly

No. 498742

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Overall just want to take care of/better myself for once in my life…


I've finally signed up for the gym so I'm going to continue with that and eat more healthily and mindfully.


I want to commit to Greek language classes so I can communicate better with my grandma. It's something I keep promising to do but never follow through with.


I'm going to be a better friend and make time for the people in my life.


I really want to do a dry January because I feel like I have way too much of a dependence on alcohol (potentially looking for accountabilibuddies).


I think this is the year I'm going to quit the job I hate, go back to school and do something completely new so I'm not miserable every fucking day.


I think I've finally realized this year that I do want to live and my life is not that goddamn bad, I just need to put some effort in to make it a life I enjoy.


Happy holidays everyone, I wish you all the best.

No. 498744

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I believe in all of you anons! Good luck!!! <3
Thank you for this thread, it’s nice to be able to let it out. I doubt anybody will read this wall of text, but:

- I want to escape NEETdom. I’m too young for this lyfe bros. I want to get a job ASAP and go back to school after summer.

- Once I get a job I want to build a PC and buy other shit I always wanted. I wanna help my parents too. My twin and I both want to live together so savings should be fine since we share our money (kind of).
I also hope I’ll be able to buy my friends and family fun gifts. I saw people talking about gift buying here a while ago and it really inspired me.

- I want to break up and cut off a lot of relationships online. It sucks when they’re your only friends but I need to distance myself from the toxicity. Hopefully I will find new friends as well.

- I want to start drawing and writing more. I wanna read books I always put on hold as well as classic writers and poets. I would love to get into more manga too.

- This one is a reach, but I also want to read more in French and improve my speech in general. I don’t really care for this one, but I live in a French area so I guess it’s important.

- I wanna finish off the games sitting in my backlog or (usually classic/cult) movies I promised I would watch. But this was last years resolution as well, and I think I did a good job at it so I’m not too worried!

No. 498748

>>498744
Samefag, hopefully I’ll stream more and do it more than wth friends. Which leads to my next big resolution that I forgot:
- I want to start using mic in online games, especially since I never used a mic with anyone besides family in years. Hopefully I’ll be able to use it with friends too. Same applies with taking pictures of myself. No one knows what I look like lol.

>>498742
I’m greek too and can’t speak it (even though i really wish I could) but I believe in you! Thats a really kind thing for you to do. Good luck anon.

No. 498789

most of all what i hope for every year is that ill finally have friends, the loneliness is killing me.

other that that i hope next im accepted to study for the beginning of the year and not the mid year intake, i dont think i cant last until then.

i hope i can finally get my first job with my shitty volunteer only experience and no previous employment resume, i want my own money to move far away from my family.

get over my retarded brain's social anxiety. also lose more weight and get more fit.

in the end i dont expect any of these to happen, especially having lost a lot of weight last year then gaining some back this year, its really depressing. also anytime i try to talk to people to establish some sort of friendship nothing really happens since everyone already has their own friends from school and shit.

No. 498800

>>498789
Be kind to yourself, anon! I wish you the best of luck this year.
Finally getting therapy is my biggest resolution I want to work toward this year. I have struggled with mental health all my life and now I feel ready to talk about the things that have happened to me and work through it with someone. I went in for a general appointment with my doctor a few months back and I was too scared to mention anything. The first step is the scariest I think, I hope it'll get better from there!

No. 498865

>>498744
OT but I love the DMC manager. Good luck…fuck!!

No. 499201

I really want to start cooking more. This year was probably my worst with spending money on pre-made stuff, and at work there’s a really limited selection of food to buy if I don’t pack a lunch. Going to holiday parties with all the homemade dishes made me realize that I barely make anything.

I also really want to get a job that gives me decent health coverage. I was uninsured for a year and it felt horrible.

No. 499258

2019 was a real shitty year for me up until the end (trapped in an awful job, living in a not great apartment) but by the end of it I'd bought a house and I started at my dream job. I just want to continue that trend into 2020, but now that my situation is better I actually really want to go back to dating. I spent so much time worrying about my career and myself and now that things are ironed out I'm actually really lonely.

For the decade… I'd like to get married by the end of it. And just progress further into my career.

No. 499263

I want to learn Java, finally live on my own and decorate how I want to, adopt a pet, plant 50 trees, grow something on my small balcony and learn to dress myself now that I can buy proper stuff.

No. 499265

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>>499263
You can do it anon! I’m making big changes too! Those are essentially my own goals as well. Sending best wishes towards your way

No. 499276

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I spent the latter half of 2019 getting ready to start up my own business, since my university doesn't give a fuck about my major so I'm stuck with a messy degree that doesn't really mean anything. Despite my mental struggles and overly conservative household, I'm so glad I've found it in me to start my own thing. Even if it doesnt end up being as successful as I wish for it to be, at least I won't worry about dying everyday and burying my creativity with me.
Any anons that are starting their own thing, I'm rooting for you! Don't give up!

No. 499291

>>498226
good luck with lowering your meds dosage, this is one of my goals too

No. 499296

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>What are your New Year's resolutions?
I want to start moving more, I'm super sedentary and want to take up walking. also yoga and continuing daily meditation too. practice gratitude and journal about how I feel whenever I need to. I want to get 8 hrs of sleep a night and finally get my shit together with eating healthy. my relationship with food has been so fucked up for so long now and hopefully 2020 will help me bring about a lasting positive change

>What are your goals for the new decade?
make some friends, get a new job I enjoy, save money, move out of my family home, get a boyfriend/experience romantic love

>Any hopes? dreams? expectations?
I really hope I can stop giving such a shit what other people think of me. I'll be entering my 30s in this coming decade and I've heard other women say their 30s were when they finally felt comfortable in themselves. hopefully I'll be the same. hopefully to be happier and more content in my life/who I am

l hope the year of the rat will bring us all good luck with our futures

No. 499343

I'm moving out with my bf next year so my main goal is to continue saving and cutting back on expenses. Hopefully taking a course just to add to my degree and learn something new. Exercise at least three or four times a week. Be stricter about my diet for health/medical reasons. Finish more paintings than I did this year/hopefully have a solo show.

Pretty basic shit, I guess

No. 499347

I'm a mom, so mostly I just want to do the best for my kid but that's an obvious one.

Otherwise, I'd like to try to tone up, I spent most of 2019 focused on dropping weight but I'm just skinny fat, and realised that what I disliked about my body was how untoned it is rather than "iM sO FaT"

Finally have a Kindle and adore it. Finished a whole book for the first time in literal years and would like to do that frequently

And work on my… Assertiveness? I've always been very passive and overly kind irl but with a child I'm cutting out the emotional strain of overextending my kindness to people. My bubble is me and my child (my husband too but to a lesser extent lmao) and I want the boundary there to be extremely clear.

I learned a lot this year, more in the last 2 years than any other time in my life. After being stuck in office jobs I realised I love cooking and making coffee so I'm pursuing a job that way, I've learned a lot about how I need to respect myself, how capable I am, and how to practise discipline for my own good where before I was just self-criticising. I hope that 2020 will also teach me a lot.


I've been browsing this thread and wish you all so much luck in the coming year, both with big changes and smaller ones. Resolutions can seem cheesy but the motivation of a new year is a great reason to set some new goals and remind yourself that you are more resilient and capable than you think.

No. 499453

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>>499263
If you want to grow something small, I recommend a spiderwort/wandering jew plant! My friend is a huge plant lady and gave me a small cutting of hers, and it's slowly been taking over a tiny part of my desk and I have to keep repotting it (and I put some of the extra cuttings into its old pots to just grow more) because it grows so fast. I don't have a green thumb AT ALL, but this plant is so fucking forgiving and it just feels so nice to see something grow and flourish under my care. They're meant to be hanging plants but I keep mine in a pot on my desk and I'll usually repot when the stems grow too tall and start flopping over.

No. 499455

>>499453
nta but I want this

No. 499457

>>499453
Omg I'm getting that plant just because I'm Jewish

No. 499466

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>>499457
Same lol, and I also move countries à lot, perfection
>>499453
Thanks for the suggestion anon! I meant mostly in the sense of herbs and veggies since my parents used to tend entire gardens and keep bees, but I've wanted to green up the home as well - does it thrive in low light conditions? If you know of any indoor plants that can survive indoors in an environment with no lighting for 6 months, I'm all ears!

No. 499469

I've had a really shit year the only good thing I did was get my masters and I feel like I fluked it. The interesting thing is I thought I hit rock bottom the previous year with a car accident that nearly killed me and an abusive partner that would hit me and had a coke addiction. I still dated him until this year but this last week I feel I've come to terms with it. I've mad bad choices and I've fucked up in a lot of ways, but I feel like reflecting on my lack of achievement this year is my rock bottom. If the worst thing that can happen to me is a retard with a coke addiction I'm doing OK. I can simply just not be with people I hate. Some anons here pointed out once how lonely I seemed with a partner well I finally ended it and if boredom is the worst feeling I have to contend with I have it OK. 2020 is a new year and start of a new decade. I'm no longer putting forth ridiculous amounts of effort for relationships. I need to actually take my one achievement from 2019 and take steps to getting the job I want in my field. I'm cutting out toxic people in 2020. There's nothing worse than being sad and having a bunch of people you can't reach out too and then have the added pressure of pretending everything is fine with them. That's exhausting I don't have time for it.

No. 499501

>>499466

Not same anon as before but a major indoor plant lover:
I really suggest Sanseveria, Peace lily's, and pothos for low light conditions!
Peace lily's and pothos need at least some light but I've kept a sanseveria in my no light/no window bathroom for a couple months and it did ok, didn't thrive or grow, but didn't die either.
wandering jew/tradescantia are very similar in needs to succulents so I'd only recommend them if you have medium to bright light.
IF you can keep the humidity high enough some ferns are low-light tolerable as well.

No. 499514

I'm going to leave my partner in 2020, ending a relationship that has lasted 8 years. 4 of them we have lived together.

We aren't truly happy with each other anymore, but whenever I bring it up he begs me not to leave him. He'll take a "just fine" relationship over no relationship at all, even if it means there are days we'll resent each other.

I don't want a relationship or a life where we are doomed to resent each other from time to time. We're in one of those periods now where both are quietly walking around the apartment not speaking to one another, and it's just stressful and unpleasant.

I appreciate him and want him to be happy, but I just don't think I'm the person who can make him happy anymore. I think I already broke part of our relationship when I didn't just stand my ground and leave the first time I brought it up, I feel bad for dragging him along. He doesn't deserve it.

I want to move back to my home town where my old friends and my family are. I have an exit plan due in january. It's going to be real shitty considering I'm unemployed at the moment and can't afford a place of my own. I'll get by on meager savings and at worst crash on a family member's couch until I can get a job, but I just know I can't stay around any longer.

For 2020 and forward I want to nourish friendships and family relations. Maybe get a cat which I have always wanted, but my partner is allergic to. Most of all start putting my own happiness on the front lines, and never settle for something that is "just fine" ever again.

No. 499724

I want to go foundation-free in 2020

No. 499728

>>498744
>- I want to break up and cut off a lot of relationships online. It sucks when they’re your only friends but I need to distance myself from the toxicity. Hopefully I will find new friends as well.
I did this this year, and it's been hella difficult because apart from toxic and self-absorted, they were clingy as hell. When I left and I tried to explain them that it was because I really didn't feel cared about with them, they had this big kneejerk reaction and reduced everything to "B-BUT U LEFT US FOR BETTER PPL!!! UR LIFELONG FRIENDZ!!!". If I'm honest know I wish I just had quietly ghosted them and fucked off with my life to avoid the drama, but this way at least I understood how not worth it they were.

It was amazingly autistic and I'm still hurting over how I was treated by this people who I believed I could at least try to talk with. I wish all you all the lucks anon, I hope you find better friends too. It's not easy specially when you are too used to your old friends and the new ones may feel underwhelming in comparison, but it's not good either to let people tie you to them using the weight of the years you had in common when you aren't really happy and feel trapped.

No. 499730

>>499514
This sounds like a good plan, and I'm not sure being ignored in your own home for days on end even falls under the "just fine" category.

No. 499739

Two things I really really want next year: a better paying job and to move out. I'm alredy working on both, have been for a while, but all of it is connected and it's going to be difficult to break the cycle. But I'll manage, I want to be independent.

Other than that, I need to cut out sugar out of my diet. I'm fit but the amount of processed sugar I eat is scary, doubt it's doing me any good.
New skincare regime and start therapy.

No. 499769

Happy new year everyone! Hope you guys are having a safe night

My resolutions/goals include to stop being a lazy bitch, get a better job, get out of the house more, spend just a bit less time online, write more stories and make some more art, and finally start getting a good sleep schedule. Don't really expect to achieve all of that entirely but at least step by step. Hoping to kinda just get some friends, not holding my breath on that though lol

No. 499792

>>498093
Happy new year! When I was younger I used to think caring about a new year was retarded, it’s not like there’s a finite number of years left. But now that I’m older I kind of get it. It’s nice to feel excited for something predictable. For the first time as far as I can remember, I’m actually doing something fun tonight. I’ve made friends, one of whom has connections to get our group a vip suite and free alcohol all night. And I’m finally happy with my appearance to the point where I’m not afraid to socialize. We’re going to be ringing in the new year like they do in the movies and it feels really nice? Better than sitting at home bitter. And for the first time, I also have a resolution to make. I plan on exercising and trying to eat more healthy. It sounds like a nothing resolution but it’s going to be a challenge for me. I’m truly excited for 2020. 2019 was shit-tier. But I guess that’s how everyone always feels on New Years. Stay safe everyone; never change, lolcow.

No. 499795

Next year is the year I really want to start enjoying my 20's. The past ~3 years since I finished high school felt like I was just on autopilot, I mean yeah I got into college and switched jobs but never felt like I was really enjoying anything. I spent a lot of that time in regret for things I didn't do either because I was too lazy or anxious as fuck. This next year I want to start doing things more spontaneously, before my brain has the chance to think on it too much and I miss out on what I wanted to do. I also want to start planning more (contrary to what I just said) and
taking actual steps to fufill plans. Ex, I want to visit outside the country, I need to plan what places I want to visit, what I want to do, where I'd stay, if I need to learn a language, start saving money, etc.

No. 499806

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The last 3 days I dreamed(in the literal sense) about living in a quiet house on the countryside. Today I even dreamed about my relatives making fun of me moving in to one. Guess that's my resolution for the next decade, lol.

No. 499809

happy 2020 my buddies

No. 499812

>What are your New Year's resolutions?
Art related: draw in the first place, plan out comics I want to make. Otherwise, accept I won't lose weight (and need to focus on building muscle/strength), spend <20 hours a week online, and read books other than fucking regency romances.

No. 499821

i hope to get rid of trichotillomania.
i shaved my head 2 hours ago, so at least i won't be able to pull for a few months.

i also want to draw more.
ever since i got my huion pen display, i haven't drawn as much as when i still used my intuos 3.

eating healthier and losing some weight, trying to keep snacks to the weekends.

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>>499821
I'm wrestling with dermatillomania so I know what you're going through anon. I used to have trichotillomania– there are old pictures of me where I have no eyebrows because of it.

No. 499852

I never make resolutions but I originally wanted to make 2020 the year where I would stop self harming but something happened just last week that really hurt me. I didn't self harm about it but it completely turned me off to the idea. Now I'm just being gentle with myself and going to spend this night painting and kind of blocking the world out a little bit.

Happy New Year, anons!

No. 499854

Spend less time on imageboards, especially 4chan. At this point I feel like it's poison for my brain.

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No. 499897

-Read more often instead of wasting hours on the Internet
-Take better care of myself/my appearance
-Start going to therapy
-Go to the gym regularly (I just got a membership at a place beside my work)
-Be more social and generally get out of the house more and stop cancelling plans all the time bc of my mental health

Bonus goal, I would like to improve my Spanish, maybe I'll start using Duolingo again.

No. 499919

Getting better paying job and a nice girlfriend

No. 499937

I want to care about someone ffs. That's all I ask.

No. 499995

>lose weight
>get a PAID job, NO more unpaid internships or shitty courses that lead NOWHERE
>move out or move abroad (leaning more towards abroad since there are no jobs or affordable housing here)
>have the rebellious phase I didn't get as a teen, stop trying to live the life my parents want for me because it won't make them love me like they love my siblings
>pick up a hobby and stop being so hard on myself for being shit at it
>practise more things that relax me like meditation or yoga, pay for a class if I end up getting a well-paying job
>stop being so negative all the time
>read more
>write more
>attend therapy (again dependant on if I get huge salary but I can dream)
>put the fucking phone down and enjoy life
>travel more
>go on some adventures like hiking, camping, trips to the beach
>discover who I am and what I like and then pursue w.e it is

No. 500005

2020 is the start of a new decade and i am so excited for the prospects!

i'm in a relationship with such a wonderful man and i really want to see him in my far future, with us growing old disgracefully together. our plan this decade is to save enough to buy a house! i haven't felt this in love in such a long, long time. it's amazing.

i managed to lose just under 60lbs in 2018 but spent the majority of 2019 gaining it back in a downward spiral. so now that i know i can lose weight, my main goal is to exercise regularly to tone up. work out, meal plan, less snacking. i'm a bad comfort eater so i need to stop using it to make me feel better, because it doesn't. plus i miss wearing skirts and dresses without looking frumpy.

on the topic of mental health i need to get back on medication. i never figured out which was best for me and i don't feel comfortable going back to counselling before i can get my horrid mood swings and depression and anxiety in check. i've lost out on a lot of opportunities in 2019 because of mental illness and i really need to start accepting other people's help, rather than bottle up my feelings. i'm in a better place now with a better support system than i had years ago, so i must use it to my advantage instead of trying to push everyone away.

i'm dropping the horrible friends i've kept all these years that don't appreciate everything i do for them and treat me like a therapist, and only talk when they want or need something. i have plenty of great friends who truly care about me and go out of their way to arrange dates to hang out, and who communicate their woes but don't use me as a punching bag. i don't need to keep people around if it's bad for my health and mindset. there's a difference between being there for a friend vs a friend coming to you with verbal abuse and then apologising frivolously but doing it all over again. i'm not here for it!

and lastly, learn to drive. i wanna go out of my way to visit different places across the country, whether it's for a convention or for a little weekend trip. i'm going to visit as much tacky tourist traps i can with people whose company i enjoy! i love a road trip.

No. 500011

-I want to finally stop using weed as a crutch for boredom/anxiety/ loneliness. I’m basically working from home at this point and I live alone, which has basically made me a pseudo neet who walks around all day naked talking to my cat. I made some good progress in 2019 from my peak in 2018 (smoking everyday all day after work) but I still relapse all time.

-stop automatically looking for a glass of wine at every social function

-finally get my driver’s license after 2 years of on/off classes

No. 500016

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>Join dancing class for the first time
>Lose weight
>Eat healthy again
>Go to all doctors to get stuff done with my anemia and thyroid problems
>Get allergy tests done to get rid of my acne
>Do not cut contact with my friends (due to all the stress I just barely talk to people lately, not like I dislike them and I appreciate that they reach out to me)
>Get more job experience, so I can get paid job as graphic designer
>Get better at dating girls
>Make more friends irl
>Take better care of myself
>And stop blaming myself for not being financially independent while being 22

No. 500026

I’ve had a shit new year

Had a huge argument with my family because they’ve lost weight and want to criticise mine and expect me to go out with a fake smile at some pub.

Fed up because they want me to get another job and go out more. But I’m just not into pubs and clubs and loud places.

I’m not that kind of person but they are and they’ve basically made me feel rotten.

It’s like I’m 25 and I want to change my life around for the better but I’m too depressed. Even if I won the lottery or got a new job or found love I’m still depressed.

It’s always there. But they can’t accept it.

No. 500077

>Make a video blog about getting out of NEETdom, recovering from mental illness/self esteem, radical feminism, etc. Self help blog for women, since I only ever see RedPill men do it.
>Read more; at least one book a month to start
>Draw more; at least one hour or more long sketch a month
>Write more; at least one journal a week
>Use a planner; aim to use it consistently
>Take care of my plants; last plants I kept alive for a few months, but got overwhelmed by my depression and neglected them. I'm gardening more though. Just planted some aloe; they're doing well.
>Make at least one long term female friend
>Try to introduce myself to one new person each month; ideally every week
>Get more greens in my diet. I cut out processed sugar inorganic foods years ago, but now I live off of rice flour crackers.
>Lift weights. I just stuck to cardio this year, shamefully because I never had the heart to ask for help in the weight room. I want to be strong; gain muscle.

If I get around to it:
>Get a mani/pedi for the first time (my nails need help sis)
>Decorate my room; get useful furniture (I literally only have my bed. A desk or vanity would be nice.)
>Get a wardrobe (I just wear the same 3 shirts and jeans)
>Learn to animate my drawings (I can do a little)
>Learn violin; play piano again
>Go to the beach/Surf
>Learn to cook with a plant based diet

Over the next couple of years:
>Move out
>Get my degree
>Full time instead of part time work
>Have my own garden
>Become semi-fluent in Arabic

No. 500083

I'm planning to read more because I habe like 200 unread books. Not really a resolution because I have been reading more the past 2 months. Another thing I wanna do is cut out sugar and cook at home more but I don't think that will happen because I hsve been planning on doing that for years and still haven't done it lmao.

>>500077
Those sound great, anon! I love the idea of the video blog.

No. 500093

I'm approaching my 30's and managed to set myself down a path to success after a hellish mid-2010's, so I expect the next decade to be great for myself just by continuing to do what I'm already doing unless I get hit by a car or something. Not so pessimistic about the next decade in macro terms, though.

>New Year's Resolutions
Maintain low weight, stop drinking as often (the two go hand in hand)

>Goals for the decade
- Stay on my current career trajectory and become one of the best in my profession
- Hit 200k/yr salary (pre-tax)
- Have a kid or two
- Rekindle the spark for some old hobbies and develop some new ones
- Become a great investor
- Move abroad again
- Write and publish an essay on a subject related to digital anthropology or internet history

>Hopes and Dreams
- That industrialized countries will stop trending towards authoritarianism and populism
- That there won't be any additional major wars (at least not ones that will affect me)
- That there won't be a huge economic crisis
- That tptb will start taking the destruction of the environment seriously and act accordingly

>Expectations
- That none of the above will happen

No. 500095

>gain more strength and lose fat for first responder job
>Clear and whiten skin
>Perm hair and whiten teeth
>Read more, be more patient
>Get into dream college
>Do cool stuff with bf
>Work on stuff for cheer

No. 500099

>>500095
>whiten skin
?

No. 500112

>>500099
I have a pink undertone and don't like how it looks dark

No. 500766

>Quit drinking in 2020
In 2018, I did 1 month off the booze
In 2019, I did 4 months off the booze
It was amazing what those little breaks did for every aspect of my life … I mean, everything got better!
Soooo,
I'm biting the bullet and doing all 12 months of 2020 without drinking.

No. 500789

>>500766
I'm rooting for you anon! If you ever have a slip up, please do not give up. Forgive yourself, and pick up where you left off before. It's not easy for anyone. I'm sure that's common sense, but in case you needed to hear it. Repeat it often. You deserve sobriety.

No. 500834

>>500766
good for you!!! good luck anon!!!

No. 500870

>>500112
I don't think that means what you think it means, pink undertones aren't dark, they're common in people with ruddy skin like northern euro's


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