/ot/ - off-topic

From my experience losing weight will help, yes. Not only because other people are superficial and will more likely consider you to be likable, but also because you'll probably become more confident.

>>333835
I guesss it‘s mostly because of the superficial thingy. But what about social training though? Will this help?

losing weight is a necessity. you'll feel a lot more confident, plus, there's definitely a bias against fat girls in society.

>>333836
I'm starting group therapy for social anxiety and from what i've heard from friends something like this will actually help you. But losing weight is also gonna help a lot. People will always judge you based on your appearence and being overweight is not a good factor.

>>333842
Thanks! I‘m looking really forward to the social skills training.
And yeah I‘m finna lose weight then. Not so easy but I‘ll try my best.

>>333846
There's a good thread on /g/ about makeovers and I think reading through it combined with that social skills training would be good for you. Good luck with this anyway, deciding to change your bad habits is always a first good step.

>>333864
You mean this thread? >>57461
Alsot hanks again.

>>333829
I legit got zero friends lmao, haven't had any in a while, I put people off. At least you got a few friends, appreciate that anon

>>333963
Sorry, meant to say I have 0 friends.
I‘m in the same boat anon. Why don‘t you have any friends?

>>333835
doesn't it depress you your ''friends'' would stop liking you if you became ugly?

>>334010
nta but I don't think actual genuine friends would stop liking you if you become ugly however it IS more hard to make new friends if you're already ugly.

Good for you for doing the social skills training, that is a major step of self-care. Hard but worth it, IMO. Echoing what other anons have said about losing weight, it helped me a lot.

I'm conventionally attractive and socially anxious/shy as fuck and other women just think I'm a stuck up bitch.
sucks.

I've never tried social skills training but I've had social anxiety before and pushing myself to go places where you don't know anybody really helped because even if I didn't manage to make friends there, I still made effort and felt like I accomplished something, it made me more confident. I still haven't made any real friends but now I at least have people who I can occasionally talk to. I hate to say that luck was a big part of it because I got into a class with really nice people and it's virtually the first time in my life when I feel like people like me. All I did was basically stop trying to do anything and make friends because I got tired of struggling with my issues. I'm terrified of graduating and meeting new people because you have to be more active to establish some kind of relationship and I still have no idea how to do that.

tbh being a chubby girl that lost a ton of weight in high school, i did gain more friends, but i was honestly jealous of those fat girls who were very social and the life of the party. after a few years, the friends that i made after losing weight drifted away.
it's definitely all about confidence, though. not the fake confidence if you get what i mean.
i know tons of skinny girls with no friends because of how cringy they are irl despite how confident they make themselves out to be online.
i think it's very helpful to make voice diaries. just ramble on about anything for an extended amount of time. i used to do these while driving alone to and from work and still do so from time to time. doing this has helped me talk more confidently with other people and give me ideas on what to say in the future. it also helped me talk louder, which i had a hard time doing. i was always known as the quiet one. not only did doing voice diaries help with my confidence, but it helped my mental state to a degree.

Being overweight never affected my chances of making friends or having relationships. That's literally insecurity talking. If you are a well adjusted person and not a complete social retard, and you are hygienic, it doesn't matter if you are fat or not (unless you're like, so fat your mobility is restricted or something).

I am happier since losing weight because I am more confident and hate myself less, but I still have the same friends and the same husband I had when I was 100lbs heavier. Literally nothing has changed except I look better and feel better.