/ot/ - off-topic

>>27140
omg i needed this thread. i love you OP.

I've been with my boyfriend for around 9 years now since we were both 15.
He's only just finishing up university and as such he lives at home with his mother and his brother who's 2 years older than him at 27 and frankly, a complete embarrassment.
I wouldn't be saying something this cruel but today has been the last straw for my boyfriend and I as we've finally confirmed that he's been creeping around the house, spying on us, listening to our conversations and sending text reports to his mother, why doesn't really care, to try and score good boy points with her.

For the sake of privacy I'll refer to him as "Roy".

I don't even know where to start with Roy. I and his mother have never been particularly close, mostly due to my awkward shyness, and although we're fine now Roy still treats me like an enemy within the household and often uses my presence when I'm visiting as a way to score points with his mother because compared to his younger brother, my boyfriend, he's a failure.

He's been to university twice and failed both times. Fair enough, it happens, but the second time round he studied game design and failed the first year because instead of getting up in the morning to go to his game design classes, he stayed in his room and played games all day.

The guy has a complete and total addiction to games and no other hobbies or even a personality to speak of.
Everytime he speaks, it's like he's regurgitating lines from a video game because he's unable to think for himself, and he bases his entire faux-personality off of some bizarre "moral" Sonic the Hedgehog archetype.
He stays in his room around 22 hours a day, only leaving to eat, shit and shower, or to travel into the next town over to sign on so he can get his dole money, which he promptly spends on video games.

He has a Steam account with over 3,233 games with a value of £18,050/$28,124.
2,311 of them remain unplayed.

He's never had a girlfriend, or a boyfriend. He has no friends because he disparages and looks down upon anybody that tries to approach him, one example being that whilst at university apparently somebody took pity on him and invited him to a house party where he stood in the corner the entire night playing on his DS. Two girls came over and gave him a kiss on the cheek and on the lips, to do something nice for him, and he told them that they were disgusting whores and left.

He lies. Constantly, about everything and everything, and mostly it's really petty shit like one time he barged into my boyfriend's room when we were watching Kuragehime (Jellyfish Princess) and asked us what we were watching. I curtly replied that we were watching Kuragehime and he shouted "KURAGEHIME… JELLYFISH PRINCESS!? WHAAAAAAT'S THAT HAHAHA" in an extremely exaggerated Sonic the Hedgehog voice with his hands on his hips. Like, yeah, okay Roy, you definitely just randomly knew the Japanese word for jellyfish and princess and you've never seen or heard of it before. Why lie? Why?
Other times it's over things like whenever anybody has asked him about why he left university twice and had been fired from a job he had at a shop "which he was fired for poor hygiene and letting people shoplift and not stopping them or reporting them", he gives some convoluted reply about how he was too smart for university so he decided to… leave? I don't fucking know.

My boyfriends room is on the top floor of the house and because it's an old house all of the floorboards are super creaky so you can hear whenever somebody is approaching and sometimes when we're having sex we'll hear a… creak. It's him, waiting nearby on the landing.
A couple of times he's come up, knocked on the door to speak to my boyfriend, my boyfriend has replied telling that he's a bit "busy" (we're fucking obviously), and Roy had replied "okay" and proceded to wait outside the door. After we've let him in, he proceeds to talk about video games or Sonic the Hedgehog for 10-20 minutes until we can get rid of him.

I remember one time when his house was experiencing financial difficulty they had a little family meeting and Roy, completely seriously, suggested that I pay rent weeky for the water I use when I use the bathroom and wash my hands, or the electricity used when I absorb the heat within the house that they could have absorbed.
I visit 2 days a week.

Another time last month my boyfriend and I were downstairs in the living room and Roy had left his mobile phone charging (a phone is given to him out of kindness because he doesn't have one himself), and he picked it up to move it out of the way of a Gamecube controller so that we could play SSB and the screen turned on. It wasn't locked and it opened in the message inbox, and the sight of my name in the message preview caught his eye.
Every single message conversation he'd ever sent, only between his mother and him.
"Emily has come round, did you permit this? "
"Emily used the shower this morning, is this okay?"
"Emily stayed over last night"
"Emily is over again today, but they've left the house together to go to the shops".

Jesus fucking christ.

Today was the day we actually caught him at it, spying on us, and it was the creepiest fucking shit.
We were sat in the room between the living room and the kitchen, sat on a sofa chatting.
We'd been chatting for around 30 minutes and the entire house was silent so we assumed Roy was in his room and his mother was at work.
Suddenly we hear a noise coming from the living room next door; it's somebody standing up from a sofa.
There we saw Roy walking through the hallway and straight up to his room, no doubt to go send texts to his mother to report on our conversation.
My boyfriend and I liked at each other in complete horror at the realisation that Roy had deliberately sat in the room next door, not moving and remaining as still as possible so that he could continue to eavesdrop on us.

Regarding him never having been in a relationship with anybody, never so much as held a hand with another person, it's gotten to the point that we're seriously concerned that he either has an Oedipus complex due to the fact that his mother is the only woman in his life whom he's constantly trying to impress and get the attention of, or something darker, like children. Like at this point, it really would not surprise me.

Sorry for the tl;dr, there's actually SO many other stories I have to share that I'm not going to bother with unless somebody requests more "Roy Tales" as my boyfriend and I refer to it.
One of the last things I'll mention is the situation with his grandma.
They have a grandmother who lives quite a distance away and who has been sending Roy a continuous stream of money for the last 3-4 years now under the gran-delusion that he's been using it for his studies and to learn how to drive.
We all knew after the first year that he wasn't actually learning to drive despite him lying and offhandedly mentioning that has booked his theory test.
We found out recently that Roy's bank account is actually empty. He spent every last penny of the money he received on Steam games and to date he's only paid for 3 lessons.

Their grandma is very old now, quite sick, and obviously nearing the end of her life so they've arranged to go up and visit her this week so that she can discuss her will with them.
Roy somehow managed to wheedle out of his gran on the phone exactly how much he'll be receiving and gleefully bounded up to my boyfriend the same day with a smile on his face and a skip in his step rubbing his hands together to announce that he was going to be getting £10,000.
My boyfriend was disgusted at the obvious glee he was flagrantly displaying at the notion of profitting from his gran's death.

We all know that money will be gone within half a year.

>>27172

OH MY GOD I FORGOT TO ADD A REALLY WEIRD ONE

Because Roy has an internet/game addiction he is constantly downloading. We know that he has hard drives many TB's in size, but nobody knows what's on them exactly. I'm not sure I want to.

One day we were trying to play SSB online and it was lagging horribly, as per usual. My boyfriend went up to Roy's room and knocked on the door. No answer, he decides to enter.
It should be noted that nobody had been into Roy's room for many, many months, maybe even a year, due to the fact that when you knocked on his door you would hear him immediately fly out of his seat and jump to the door, only opening it a crack with his body blocking any view of the inside, like he has something to hide.

My boyfriend enters his room and he finds stacked, and I mean stacked in the most literal sense, boxes and boxes reaching all the way up to the ceiling filled with DVD's, game related books, consoles, hundreds of vintage games complete with boxes etc.
There is only a narrow pathway between his bed, his PC desk and the door. It's horrifying, you guys really don't understand.

My boyfriend navigates to his brother's PC to turn off his uTorrent so that we can actually use the internet and something catches his eye inside the glass cabinet to his left.
It's every single Amiibo released to date, and they've all been span round with their backs facing towards you so that their faces are out of view, like they'd been spun round to stop them from watching you… like he was doing something in his room he didn't want them to see.

My boyfriend snaps a quick pic and gets the fuck out of there ASAP.

I can actually get the picture tomorrow and post it here if anybody is interested.

>>27172
>>27180
wow, this is horrifying. i'm almost surprised he hasn't tried anything more to impress his mother. definitely interested in hearing more.

>>27172
>>27180
Holy shit. Does he have some kind of mental illness? And yeah anon, pls keep updating. This thread should just be for your stories of "Roy" lol

>>27186

A lot of it is mostly minor stories of bizarre and confusing behaviours but it all culminates into the manifestation that is Roy and he's absolutely fascinating in every way.
Like from a psychological standpoint he's an absolute feast.

Obviously he's high functioning autistic (to a degree) and we've all known this for years now but everybody is too nervous to confront him with the suggestion that he gets a diagnosis because we have no idea how he will react.
I know that his mother is scared about what's going to happen to him when she dies.

I'll come back when I'm at a PC and not on my mobile and share some more mystical Roy tales.

>>27186

Oh I know he shit talks about me to his mother all the time, like he's hoping that he can get on her good side because in his mind his mother still dislikes me back from when we had a bad relationship so trash talking me to get will score him offspring points or something.
It'd probably just be easier if he learnt to fucking drive instead, like he's maintained he's been doing for the last 4 years.

My boyfriend is pretty disappointed because despite being 2 years younger he's had to be the big brother since he was about 12.
Roy just never seemed to grow up. He's in stasis. Roy the Hedgehog stasis.

Oh one more Roy tale before I go, I just remembered this one.

Basically my boyfriend's entire family is Scottish, but they moved to England years and years ago.
Part of the Roy personality, or lack of, is that he super-accentuates his accent and his Scottishness to the point of absurdity. You know when you can tell somebody is deliberately faking an accent and it's just…. urgh. Stop.

Basically Roy, my boyfriend and their mother had driven to the next town over for a little shop. Roy had come along, but only to visit GAME and then, idk, follow his mother around for the rest of the day. That's what he usually does.

When they initially pulled up and parked in the lot where they'd be leaving their car, Roy looks out the window and see's about two spaces across some kids sitting in a car, messing about, laughing, and one of them has tossed their shoe out of the car window and on to the floor.
Ross takes it upon himself to vacate the car, pick up the shoe and return it to the children, but it isn't as straight forward as that.

Now keep this in mind for visual reference, Roy is about 6'3", deathly pale from never leaving his room and extremely skinny and lanky.
Roy picks up the as shoe and begins shuffling, hunched, over to the car containing the kids, and in the most over the top Scottish accent you can imagine, begins yelling in their direction as he continues his skeletons-amble:

"EHS DAT YUR WEE SHOOO!?
EHS DAT YURRRRR WEEEEEE SHOOO!?
YEH SHOULDNAE BE THROWIN' YUR WEEEEEE SHOO OUTTA DA WINDOE, EHR U GO. NAE BE THROWIN' YUR WEE SHOO."

My boyfriend and their mother is just sat in their car open mouthed not knowing how to react, and these kids are sat inside the car in now terrified silence.

>>27202
LMAO

>>27172
>>27180
>>27202
How ugly are you

>>27210
Roy is that you?

>>27212
lol no but a worthless greasy gamer guy usually has an ugly girlfriend

frustrated because I somehow managed to go 3 years at university now without ever being invited to a party or making any friends. People I talk to stick around for a few weeks before they stop talking to me and it gets awkward.

pretty shitty, since most people in my major are shut in nerds that don't want to talk to other people, and people outside of my major think I'm boring as fuck and a buzzkill.

sucks, but I'm going to try again when I get back to school to actually have friends, and not have a mental breakdown when I get halfway through the semester and realize I'm all alone all the time. maybe I'll even get in a relationship.

kind of sucks because I almost failed my first year, and I sayed in my room to bring my grades up and keep my scholarships, but I missed out on when 90% of friendships happen. Also messed up a possible relationship because I was too dumb to see that they were interested in me, so now I have to deal with that

thanks for reading my shitty blog or not, feels good to get it all out though

>>27214
Are you ugly?

>>27217
my boyfriend is average looking so i probably am too

>>27214

I have no idea what you're talking about.

Roy isn't my boyfriend, unless that wasn't made clear enough, I'm dating Roy's younger brother who I met in high school.

>>27216

What uni you at?

>>27223
small private one by Illinois State

>>27216
it's a really cookie cutter answer, but go to clubs!! it's never too late to form friendships!

>>27222
I just took a quick glance you were blogging way too much tbh

>>27229

isn't that the point of-this thread, anon?

>>27214
I can't believe this treasure trove is getting hate. Are you a mad robot? Does Roy hit a little close to home?

I can't believe I read all the Roy commentary and found myself interested.

>>27229
This is a vent thread, anon. I for one am rubbing my hands together ready for moar Roy Ramblingz.

My sister threatened to call the police on me if I ever laid a hand on her pets or throw anything at either her or her pets. I called the police on her instead for threatening to call the police on me. When I told them she was making threats of calling the police, they didn't do anything and left. I didn't even touch her pets. All I did was throw water in her face because she was calling me and my mother useless and lazy, not pulling our weight around the house. That's not true. I clean my room every day and look for jobs for hours a day. She called throwing water in her face assault. The nerve of the bitch.

After throwing water in her face, I mentioned that I at least get up in the morning for school while she doesn't. I told her "Do you know how hard it is to run an online business? How fucking dare you say those things about me! At least I get up for school on time"

Then she started to get the FBI involved over matters no one cares about, accusing me of spying on her internet activity and threatening to take me to court. If she took me to court, I would release the tape to the judge showing her yelling at her mom, which is disorderly conduct

>>27242

kek

>>27242
>>27242
Why would she think you would throw shit at her pets?

My pet rabbit died today.

My boyfriend got her for me about two years ago. I had seen her on a local pet adoption page and was having a pretty rough patch in life and expressed how much I wanted her because she was adorable. Bf ended up driving forever away and getting her for me.
She was a brat sometimes due to being not very well socialized but I loved her, and I cared for her the best I could. Everytime I saw her I remembered someone cared for me and I felt loved and needed. I loved my bun so much.
I help her yelp out of no where today, and when I went over she was on her side breathing hard and no one else was home, I didn't know what to do. And then she was gone.

I know it's dumb but I miss her so much already. I was already having a bad day and I ended up sobbing for two hours over this.
Rip, little one.

>>27251
:(

>>27251
Just get a new one

>>27251
I wish small animals lived longer :/ I've had to hold so many hamster, rat, and guinea pig funerals through the years.

>>27251
I'm sorry for your loss.

>>27212
>>27210

I bet it's a /r9k/ bot who is similar to Roy so he got his feefees hurt.

Keep posting us about Roy and post tgat amiboo pic lol.

>>27251

Aw, sounds like she probably had a heart attack, the same thing happened to my car.

I'm sorry Anon :(

The Roy tales are interesting yet why is he the problem? Like, yes, he obviously is sick. From his point of view you're invading his peaceful haven with his mother as nourishing and caring, allowing even failures from his side. Isn't there the possibility to be more often at your place/somewhere else for privacy? If you and your bf marry you'll have even more Roy tales waiting for you, so get away more often! I'm not guilt tripping here, since it's really interesting, but posting a pic of his room is kinda… too much and not better than his privacy invading behavior (and you're not mentally challenged)…

>>27321
That doesnt make any sense. I was insulting roy and Op because i thought he was her boyfriend. Dont pretend she wasnt writing an ultra long blog. Its a thread meant for venting but still…way too long

>>27351

I haven't really communicated the situation properly but even if it's a case of him feeling like I'm invading his space, he needs to grow up and realise that it's not his house, he pays no rent, contributes in no way towards its upkeep and therefore gets no say who comes in and out of it.
That's ultimately up to his mother and she says it's fine.

Even so it's not a case of me being there everyday. I actually lived within the house for an entire year once whilst I was at college with his brother so it's not like he doesn't know me. I lived with the guy for 12 months, ate meals with him, shared a bathroom etc.

I live in the next town over 8 miles away and 2 nights a week I sleep over and the entire time we're up in my boyfriend's room on the 3rd floor, talking, playing games, studying etc., otherwise we're outside having lunch at a café or on a walk.
I'm not invading Roy's space because I'm never IN his space, not unless he's deliberately creeping around to spy on us.

btw he's not mentally challenged, he's an entirely competent 27 year old, he's just autistic. You speak as if he requires a carer or something, he doesn't, he's just an asshole.

Roy is the type of person that gets on my nerves the most

>>27473
I have the feeling the samefag policy on lolcow needs to be changed.

My mother-in-law is a horrible babysitter. If I have to leave my 10 month old son with her for any reason all she does is sit on her computer or phone all day.

I once walked in on him trying to put a sewing pin into his mouth. She was sitting less than two feet away but was too engrossed in Facebook to pay attention.

She texts and drives and talks and drives every single minute she's in the car. It's gotten so bad that her husband won't call her when she's driving and won't pick up his phone if she calls him and he knows she's driving. My husband and I agree that she is no longer allowed to drive with my son in the car either.

She acts like she's so upset that we're moving two hours away because she "can't babysit my little peaut". Bitch you don't watch him in the first place.

>>27514
Wow fuck your mil she's a danger to herself and others.

>>27514
You should post on reddit, they have a relationship board for this kind of stuff. Sounds like you need help.

>>27592
I don't really need relationship advice though but thanks

>>27591
I agree.

You guys, I need somewhere to vent.

I live at home and attend school and am looking for work. My mother died some years ago, so it's just me my dad and two brothers.

But, since my dad started dating (a woman 20 years younger than he), he's just kind of become a big dick.
He always tries to humiliate me in front of others, calls me names and makes fun of my weight (I'm not even overweight… But he's a gym rat).
He doesn't do it to my brothers– just me.

He's become total disgusted by my existence for some reason and it really hurts. My dad was the only person in the world I had, and now he seems to just not want anything to do with me. If I try to talk to him about the way I feel he shuts me down immediately.

I can't figure out why he doesn't like me. Do I look like mom? Is he embarrassed because of my weight? Because I don't like his girlfriend?

I can't afford to move out.

I feel like I lost both of my parents once my mom died. I wish things could go back to the way they where.

/venting

>>27790
:/ im sorry for your loss anon. Your dad sounds really childish right now. Sounds like a mix of new gf and coping mechanism for pain over loss of your mother? Im not so sure.

>>27790

Anon that's so sad.
Is it possible that you could write him a letter like what you've just posted now?

This thread is so PULL. Fuck you OP.

>>27848

Fuck you too you little sandnigger.

>>27790
I was terrified this would happen after my dad started dating again after divorcing my mom. I'm really sorry this is happening to you. I would be destroyed if it happened to me.

Have your brothers said anything? Can you ask them if they know why you're being treated differently?

>>27886
Today I'm Japanese idiot.

Can yall stop being lil emo pussies and grow a fucking utherus?! Being on your period without ibuprofen is a lot more painful then this emo crap yall are blogging

I hate it when people say that fat chicks can get anorexia.

>>27933
I mean they can get anorexia but they cant have it*
Why change the perfectly fine psychology laws?! #tumblrlogic #hashtag

>>27927
If you don't want to read this shit get out of the thread retard

>>27927
There's also starving kids in Africa
Want to bring that up to them, your dumb cramps?
Point being that even though other people have it worse, everyone has emotional or relationship issues they just want to vent to no one in particular.

>>27944
>>27950
BAWWWWWWWWW CALL THE WAMBULANCE

Had an ultrasound yesterday because no period/worrying symptoms and the tech said that she didn't see anything jump out at her. Today my dr left me a vague message saying she got the results back and wanted to get in touch with me ASAP. The last time she left a message about test results she just told me everything, I guess because it was good news, so now I'm super worried something is wrong since she didn't go into detail.

>>28019

Got to be brutally honest with you Anon, obviously you know but, when they don't tell you over the phone usually it's not good news.

Hopefully it's just something relatively minor like endometrial cysts or some suspicious inflammation that they want to get more tests on our perform a laporoscopy.

Keep us posted x

>>28021
Fuuuuuuuuck. :( Time to pop xannies until tomorrow morning I guess.

>>27805
>>27847
>>27897

Thanks for the kind words anons.
My brothers are already aware of the situation, but in reality I don't think there's a lot I can do. It was just really nice to vent. So many fucking wannabe edgefags here, it's nice to be taken seriously on occasion.

>>27963
Wow, ur so funny. Bet you're feeling proud of your super great jokes. "The wanbulance", so original. Go tell it to your life coach and I bet he'll give you a nice big high-five for that one.

>>28019
Keep us updated nonny. Don't stress yourself out too much, try to think good thoughts.

>>28022

Hey, hey, it's probably not that bad because also when it is something serious they will ask you to come in immediately, they wouldn't leave it until tomorrow.

Vent: I really hate whatever lolcow is becoming. No no, this isn't the fault of the Admins and mods, I like them, so it's not like I hate the site itself. I really like this site, I really do, but honestly there are a few things that I want to list off:

>people posting really unfunny or less researched PULL-tier snowflakes in /pt/
(Yes there is a difference between a snowflake and a cow. )

>people claiming that we are here to expose people
(No we are not. We are here to laugh at people on the internet anonymously. That's it. If we find more information to laugh at that people didn't know about already then that's fine. The only exception is probably the Peter Coffin case(not sure if we did that or /cow/ did and we just stood on the sidelines and laughed) and the thieving Tumblrinas since they are actually commuting crimes)

>Claiming we can't laugh at sick and disabled people
(I know, I know. Most people find it in very bad taste, but honestly? Just because they are 'sick' doesn't exempt them from being a cow. I'm pretty sure just because Chris-chan is autistic, doesn't mean he's a laughable asshole. Or just because ElleJay can't walk properly doesn't mean she's excluded from this.

>People claiming we MUST talk about social issues all the time or must of had our head in our asses

>People claiming if we don't agree with their side of social justice or we don't feel like a certain group is oppressed or disadvantaged we are just trying to be an edgelord
(No, some people just don't care. Some people have different opinions. That's not then being an edgelord, that's them seeing sj shit being shoved doen their throats and having a different opinion. Something that some people don't seem to have considering how they try to handle stuff like a freaking hivemind.)

>People telling other people to go away if they say something they don't agree with or compliment a lolcow
(Honestly, whenever I stroll past it, the Berry thread is known for this. Why can't people just find people cute? Shitty or not. I don't do that thing where if you are ugly on the inside you are ugly on the outside. Idk, I just never was able to do it. That's how I end up following a lot of snowflakes because I find them cute. One that annoys me the most is when you try to bring a sort of rational mind into discussion.)

>People bringing race into everything

>more than 2 mental health threads were created in both /b/ and /g/ in a short amount of time
(Seriously guys? Read the catalog and bump the threads. Makes shit less cluttered.
Although, this can be classified with people not reading the catalogs)And on that note:
>People not reading threads
(I really hate when people ask for info that was just given out only a day ago. Read the thread, scroll up, you'll find it.)

Again, I don't hate this site, and I actually like the people on it. Its like a tabloid or a celebrity gossip magazine, except finally people with similar interest as me. Y'all are actually more open than most imageboards I've been too. This stuff doesn't send me into a rage or anything, just thought this was the most suitable thread as all.

>>28045
Some of these things bother me, too. As of a few weeks ago, I have started creating plans to address some of these issues in the near future.

>>28045
I think you hit everything. Seriously, it is PULL tier. Although that word gets thrown left and right. The threads a literally PULL tier. We aren't truthbloggers, there are 5000 websites dedicated to that. We are just assholes who like to laugh at autists on the net.

Thank you.

>>28045
>talking about social justice issues

Thank you. Honestly, I come here to laugh at individuals. I don't come here to browse tumblr generals and have fifty discussions about fat acceptance, jews, feminists, and other /pol/-tier horseshit that's unrelated to most cows.