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Former pushover thread Anonymous 04/23/25 (Wed) 06:15:01 PM No. 2497744

>Were you meek or shy when you were younger?
>Did you always get the short end of the stick?
>Told to never judge others so you wouldn't?
>Never raised your voice so you wouldn't inconvenience others?
>Would people always use you, then abandon you?
>Always trying to console others, but no one would bat an eye if you cried?
>Did things against your gut, just because it was the 'acceptable thing to do'?
>Did you always end up on bad situations because of this?

This is a thread for everyone that used to be a total pushover, a doormat, a people's pleaser, or a yes man at any point in their lives. Because of female socialization, a lot of us were raised a certain way, and we don't learn to stand up for ourselves until later in life. This is a thread for all the anons that leveled up or those that want to change and be a better version of themselves.
>How did you gain self respect?
>How did you gain boundaries?
>Do you always put yourself first?
>Do you listen to your gut feeling now?
>Are you comfortable with being rude now? Or is there a hard limit you don't want to cross?
>How has your life and relationships changed ever since?
>Did people turn on you after you changed?
>Etc

Anonymous 04/23/25 (Wed) 06:18:19 PM No. 2497752

The more I get older the more I'm ok with becoming a Karen. I do subscribe to the theory that all Karens are women that simply got tired of everyone's bullshit. I have no patience for men anymore, specially not ugly rude men. Maybe I'm a bit neurotic, maybe I'm done, whatever.

Anonymous 04/23/25 (Wed) 06:19:50 PM No. 2497753

I learned that doing what people want just causes more trouble. Being nicer to guys who I am not interested in can get me into a situation where I’m “leading someone on”. I think it’s better for me to be a bitch, it’s less confusing for everyone.

Anonymous 04/23/25 (Wed) 06:26:30 PM No. 2497758

I didn't go out of my way to people-please or had problems saying no but I never asked for help. I learnt asking for help = disappointment, betrayal, and seen as stupid and weak. Someone ""competent"" must be able to wing everything from scratch without any knowledge or training whatsoever.

Anonymous 04/23/25 (Wed) 08:52:59 PM No. 2497947

When I started being a bitch in high school is when people started to like me. Suddenly I was popular. I used to be extremely self-sacrificing and empathetic and was always the least preferred in any given group, so it was very eye-opening for me.

Anonymous 04/23/25 (Wed) 09:08:58 PM No. 2497963

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>>2497947
Apparently people like it when you treat them like dogs. Interesting. Personally, I avoid people like that.

Anonymous 04/23/25 (Wed) 09:22:23 PM No. 2497977

>>2497744
>>Told to never judge others so you wouldn't?
I wish I were as judgmental as I currently am, it would have saved me so many times when I was younger. lc helped me be true to myself an judge everyone and everything. People loved negatively judging me all the time over stupid things to the point where it had an impact on things like grades with a teachers openly telling me she would lower my scores for oral exams because I was too poor to buy formal clothes to larp as a CEO in front of the class, and then when I started looking for my first jobs. That aside I was always a doormat not because I hated myself or had low confidence but because I wanted people to leave me alone and they still wouldn't anyway.

>>2497752
Depending on what you mean by that it's the same for me. I'm still as polite as I can though. If we're talking about karens being these very annoying customers in retail or in restaurants I became more like that after my own experience in retail a few years ago. If I managed to do that job for far longer than planned and was still polite to insane costumers who would piss and shit and have sex in changing rooms and fight each other in front of the cashiers you can do the bare minimum and say "hello" and "goodbye" when I buy something in your calm, quiet and almost empty store.