/ot/ - off-topic

I feel you anon. I enjoy talking but I don't need to 24/7 and some people get really bothered by it. Being confident helps, I don't really care when people say I'm too quiet, that's me.

Agreed. My shyness has also stopped me from posting on social media a lot now too. Even though I want attention from others, the process of putting myself out there/communicating with others is just too much for me. I guess this is why I'm really into anonymous forums now lol, cause you can pretty much say anything without any attatchment. Shyness sucks tho cause I feel like it's really been limiting me from being more…me. In my head I have a bunch of plans/ideas I want to complete but I keep stopping myself. Not too sound like "a normie shy person" but I do have some outgoing friends and when they do invite me to hang out I often find myself declining because I just can't handle communicating irl sometimes… I feel like I'm really missing out sometimes.

//sorry for the rant

If you don't feel nervous or anxious around other people, then you're probably just quiet, not shy.

I'm quiet, but not shy. I don't care if people think I'm weird because I'm quiet, but I find it weird that people think I'm shy just because I'm quiet. They usually then assume I'm a bitch/don't like them because not shy but I'm quiet. Though, Americans think you're a bitch if you don't greet them with a bright smile and bubbly personality day after day.

we're in the same boat, anon. i'm naturally introverted and people ask me the same thing or they think i don't like them/i'm a bitch.

my boyfriend's roommate says he wants to talk to me and thinks it's weird that i'm shy but has never initiated conversations with me, lol. if someone else talks first i can totally hold a convo but i really don't mind being introverted.

god, i hate when people comment on how quiet i am, especially co-workers. i'm just trying to be friendly but they all assume the worst because i'm not 100% invested in the details of their son's soccer game. they take it the wrong way, but it's not like i'm trying to be rude, i just don't know what to say to them! i wish i knew how to fake being bubbly.

>>198280
Tbh you and thousands couldn't give a fuck less about someone's kids game. Its a normal reaction to that stuff. If they think you're quiet or "rude" cause they don't have topics that engage you, its definitely not your shyness that's the problem. DW about it c:

>>198280
Anon, are you me?

I'm the same, I just can't fake it. I think a big part of adult socializing is faking it, and I just can't muster the energy so I'm not very popular at work.

I was feeling okay at first, until they started asking me "Why are you SO SHY???" I felt bad because I'd thought I was actually being more open than usual, and this was only two weeks after I started. I became pretty closed off after that… Didn't get why I should try so hard when it's clearly not working. I've always been kinda shy, but no one's ever made me feel so much like my personality is flawed before.

bah
I feel this thread deeply
>18, never kissed a guy before, only had two bfs first one was short term second was long term, still with him
>refuse to go out to eat because it makes me so anxious and delivery can't deliver so parents bring me back food
>have only 2-4 friends throughout high school
>barely go anywhere
>trying to get a job but job interviews make me anxious
>when I apply I always make sure to tell them to contact me by email
>online shop for most of my healthy, beauty, food and clothes because I hate talking to people
>almost ditched graduation because I was too nervous
>went to therapy for a bit but can't because I can never open up to a stranger even if they're a paid professional
>want to vomit anytime I ever think about when I was first to start a conversation with someone
> get called quiet beyond often


does anyone else feel this way?

I used to be really good at making friends back in the day (y'know, weeb days of yore) but now I just can't seem to do it. I feel like most of the things I say aren't worth saying, so I tend to keep to myself. I even joined the discord chat for a while but I still feel like I'm just bothering others with my pointless chatter. I don't know what happened–I used to love making friends. Now it scares me.

>>198302
>I feel like most of the things I say aren't worth saying
Fuck, same. And even if I do think it's worth saying, I assume others will disagree and just talk over me or not really react like has happened a lot in the past.

>>198215
Fucking annoying when people talk about shit you can't enter(specific family, gossiping about some fuck you've never met) then wonder why you've got nothing to say. Like wtf??

I suppose some people like to talk about mundane bullshit, I find it almost respectable how people can turn such a boring situation into a decent story. I tell it with cold hard facts and its quite boring, I guess.

>>198363
Or am like;>>198325
>>198302
and find its not worth saying, but those boring situations where they talk about it and somehow make it interesting… I find that people who do that talk in an upbeat manner and it helps. But I'm quite deadpan.

>>198325
I feel. Honestly I'm really afraid of what others will think of my ideas which is why I usually refrain from stating my opinion or giving my ideas. I've had people criticize me before and I just can't handle it. I feel like the best way to avoid that embarrassment/rejection is to just stay quiet /:

>>198325
>>198366
>>198365
i think part of it is when i was growing up, i was told i talked too much. a friend's parent openly told me that my voice was annoying. i'm self-conscious about it now. i feel like if i talk more than a sentence, i'm rambling and no one wants to hear it.


sage for samepost.

why is this place full of retards who cant type for shit now. are all of u somalian gypsies with brain damage

>>198413
what