/ot/ - off-topic

no

i assume youre still pretty young, but it all really gets better as you get older. just focus on finding out who you are. trying to fit where you dont feel right isnt going to help. normal is relative.

>>174150
tbh, I am slowly being normal! :) Use to be like you, put efforts into better HOBBIES

>>174150
Nah I'm unique. I love it. Although I question my sanity every day.

I do sometimes. I'm embarrassed to talk about my hobbies/interests to new people I meet because I'm afraid they'll think I'm a complete weeaboo… Which I am but it's not really the first impression I want to make, heh.
I guess getting older is a part of it too, I feel like people expect me to outgrow childish interests some time soon now.

>>174310
>but it all really gets better as you get older
It's already gotten worse since I left high school. And I'm sure I'm far from the only one here who feels that way.

>>174466
Same. I'm in my late 20's and it's definitely worse now than when I was in school.

It's a lot harder now to find people with the same interests, especially shit that's considered "nerdy", unless they're these super autistic types.

Most of my conversations with people my age or older revolve around work, economy, or mainstream Facebook-worthy shit.

>>174466
>>174480
i guess that for me it is easier because i work for a local card shop, i am far from the cringiest nerd and we all have the same interests.
but i feel like work talk and money talk just come hand in hand with being older. its something we have to focus on, so yea that might just be what you talk about with some people. but i bet they too have interests other than the boring adult stuff.

i just reached a point where i was tired of whining about no friends and no one gets me and im sad because i dont fit in, so i just put myself out there. i have zero confidence in myself, but i just let people talk and find out about them, and sometimes people can really surprise you with what they are really interested it.

Does anyone else here have a sibling or two that seem normal in comparison to yourself?

>>174480
>It's a lot harder now to find people with the same interests, especially shit that's considered "nerdy", unless they're these super autistic types.
Let me guess, your only way of finding people with similar interests is waiting for one to spill their powerlevel and then maybe mention it to them, and most of the time not doing it because you feel like they're too autistic?
If you don't actively seek people to befriend you won't find any. Join forums, go to events or join a club. Same for >>174466, leaving high school only means you don't always get put in a group of people that will be easier to befriend. It's up to you to get up and try to meet people.

I admit I used to be sad (quite pathetically) about the fact I couldn't meet anyone who'd share all my interests, because of shit like "I can't tell them all about my dream crossovers because they only know one of the franchises" (it's cringy as fuck I know). Since last year I've been more outgoing and meeting more people with various interests and while you can't always sperg out about every single thing you like to anybody it's still nice. Also being on communities on facebook, instagram help. Plus sometimes a friend can pick up one of your passions and that's always satisfying.

>>174150
>I'm happy liking animu and other stereotypically geeky things but hate the literal autists I run into :/
Some brain food for you, OP.
Maybe you're the autist all along and they just don't really quite talking to you?

really gets those neurons firing

>>174534
Well…the two aren't mutually exclusive.

Speaking for myself, my social group definitely likes me more than I like them. I've been asked out multiple times by a few of the guys (who are the autist type tbh) which doesn't do much good for my self-confidence because I know I'm too much of a retard for a normal man to date me. Or for normal people to be my friends.

I'm actually trying to change myself so that im happy with who I am and my social life but shit it's not easy.

>>174538
self depreciation is definitely not going to help. maybe those guys genuinely see something in you that is kind of cool.

>>174543
Sure. The bottom line is I'm not happy with myself or the kinds of people I attract and I figure I don't have to settle for what I have. They're also toxic as hell, drama-wise. Really immature. So that's a clear sign I need to gtfo.

I hide power levels at all times. I don't think my interests will interest other people much. If I say "I'm a gamer" chances are we are not the same type and won't be able to have much fun together. Not unless your idea of gaming is 20+ year old Japanese RPGs (some of which a lot of people never heard of) and old school Phantasy Star lore. So we can't really game together. I won't have any fun mindlessly shooting stuff in multiplayer games. I do like Zelda and Pokemon though. But I don't enjoy battling people in Pokemon. I never know what to do. My pokemon are made for the regular game. I don't breed them to be perfect with special movesets or anything. So I could probably only win against little kids who don't know better.

I like horror manga. I couldn't tell you what was on TV or what musical artist is popular. I like old school metal and game soundtracks/remixes/arranges. I like cartoons and slice of life anime. But I don't get into fandoms as there are too many weirdos in them. That an many of the things I like have near to non-existent fandoms anyway. I pretty much have nothing to talk about with most people.

When you have nothing in common it's hard to get a conversation going with anyone. I wish I liked things I find boring and mundane. Like TV shows, pop music and normal people games. But I don't.

I'm afraid I'll start sounding spergy about some odd old game no one's ever heard of due to the excitement of someone asking me what I like. So I never say anything. Of course that's also part of the problem. It's hard to speak up sometimes. I don't want to go to movies or stuff like that. I'm really boring to most people.

I have this idea in my head that the stuff I like equals man poison so no one will want me. Who wants to date someone who wants to sit around playing ancient games or reading weird manga? I don't want to see a movie. I don't even like modern films much. I do not drink alcohol so no bars. It tastes bad and smells even worse. It makes me sick.

It's so bad that I hear about how there are loser type guys who will go for anyone and I keep wondering where they are so my pathetic ass can snag one. I'm willing to lower my standards to bottom feeder tier just so I don't die alone. Either that or I am going to have to pretend I'm into stuff I don't care about so I have a base to start off on.

>>174559
>When you have nothing in common it's hard to get a conversation going with anyone. I wish I liked things I find boring and mundane. Like TV shows, pop music and normal people games. But I don't.
1.Help others start conversation with you. Like attach to backpack 1-2 small pendants showing off your areas of interst. I'm sure it won't be mainstream.
2. Go to events without music and drinks. Like nerd comic sales where local author handmade things are also presented.

>>174561
>1.Help others start conversation with you. Like attach to backpack 1-2 small pendants showing off your areas of interst.
oh jesus christ please ignore this anon and don't do this. Don't be an unbearable, cringeworthy faggot

>>174559
people can get together and still love each other while having completely different hobbies.

>>174563
She already sounds like a cringeworthy faggot. This would be the next logical step.

>>174563

What could possibly go wrong?

>>174559
Yeah you're fucking pathetic. Not for the reasons you mentionned though.
Stop being so certain you're ~unique~, it just makes you sound like the most boring person. Stop thinking everyone is dumb as shit and will hate you because you don't like call of duty and watching TV.
I'd give you advice but it's obvious you don't even want to try to find friends, you just want to whine about how people are such dumb preps and you wish you were as stupid as them but you're not.

Fuck off. You sound like a complete retard.

>>174648
they sound exactly like when I was around 14.

>>174150
>>174150
I'm fairly normal but my interests are kinda niche. I just wish I liked the stuff my classmates like, but I don't so not many people like talking to me because I usually have nothing to talk about aside from school stuff.

>>174650
Yeah. I kinda hope she is underage because if not then it's just pathetic to be an adult with that kind of ridiculous mentality.

>>174648
this tbh

Are shared hobbies/interests so important to be able to talk to someone? I usually don't bring any of it up because they can be a bit narrow/niche or I'm just too casual about it. Like I don't watch TV and have zero clue about what's popular on the radio these days but that doesn't stop me from talking to or interacting with people who do.


All my friends have different hobbies and interests from myself and each other, but I do like them as people and we get along.

>>174559
I bet you're also an Onision fan, arentcha?

>>174564
>>174648
>>174650
>>174653
Not even the same anon but holy fuck I can't believe you bunch of stupid cunts are posting this seriously. Have any of you ever actually tried making friends with people who have literally nothing in common with you? How the fuck do you even have a good conversation with someone who has the tastes and the naive mindset you had in your teens and you got over years ago? It's cringey as fuck talking to someone who supposedly is your age and recalling conversations you had in your teen years from how fucking childish they sound. People are uncultured as fuck to this day and age (and also very difficult to deal with many times) and this is a fact, and being ok with this shit is what truly is pathetic and sad, not refusing to lower your cultural standars and to give up on minimal quality on your relationships to "fit in xD"

>>174559 sounds extra edgy insufferable (like it doesn't hurt to watch some normie/trendy shit sometimes, c'mon) but I kind of get where she comes from. Also let's not get started when people suddenly pull some SJW crap on you from nowhere (it happened to me several times already)…

I wonder who are the underage cunts in here. After all 20s seem to be the new teenage years, people doesn't seem to start behaving adult-like until their 30s.

idk man i've hung out with the stereotypical NorthFace wearing Greek Life small tattoo on ankle or nape of neck type of normal people and they have their own weird ass social dynamic. for both the male and female groups, it literally seems like a select few have entitlement through the roof and nobody bothers to correct them in their antics including being racist as fuck, bullying others, attention seeking behavior, etc and the rest of the group are scared shitless of loosing the in with the in crowd so they stay quiet and perform all the proper social cues and always try to defend certain toxic friends of theirs because "we've known each other since kindergarten"

>>174693
>Have any of you ever actually tried making friends with people who have literally nothing in common with you?
Yeah. It's not that complicated, you both live on the same planet, there are always things to talk about.
I can see why you might find that hard though. But just see >>174514. If you don't try to find people with similar interests of course you won't find any. However OP never mentionned anything about trying to find friends, just "hurr people are fucking dumb it's so unfair how I'm smarter than everyone."

There's nothing you can do for people like this except wait until they grow the fuck up.

>someone who has the tastes and the naive mindset you had in your teens and you got over years ago?
Lmao are you OP? Stop acting like you're better than everyone. I agree, some people act lile middle schoolers and are unsufferable. But you can't blame your autism on "every single person is dumber than me".

>Also let's not get started when people suddenly pull some SJW crap on you from nowhere (it happened to me several times already)…
I doubt that's a fatality, unless the only places you hang out are tumblr and liberal circles or whatever.