/ot/ - off-topic

i like my parents and very rarely have a genuine problem with them

sometimes i feel like they could have given me more toys at christmas you know but it's not like a big deal or anything

Well, for about 3 years I've been telling my BF to sick his dick in my butt. He would spew the regular stuff about anal being dirty and how ass-guys are ass-holes.

Then one night when we are both wasted as fuck, he flips me over into doggy and I'm expecting a nice vaginal pounding but no, straight up my hiney.

So I'm like wtf are you doing man, and he's all shut up I'm fucking your ass. Well, fuck me I thought you were anti-anal way to be a hypocrite.

So I spend 15 minutes taking it while he's saying "ohh your ass is so tight" and I'm going "ah I fucking know that, can you slow down a bit please??"

At least he was thoughtful enough to use lube, that's how I know he's a keeper.

>>166583
I'm mad jealous. Good for you, anon.

My bf is still stuck at "not into anal", though it's not about being dirty he just… simply… doesn't feel any desire to do that.

Tbh I'm kinda glad because he'll probably change his mind eventually, and this gives me time to get used to things up my ass. I always enjoyed the feeling of being penetrated better than being eaten out/clitoral stimulation and, damn, anal feels just as nice (only a little different) when it doesn't hurt like hell.

My boyfriend is visibly depressed. He comes home from work everyday and it's scary how deep in thought he always seems to be. His face is always stoic or angry even. He drinks so much now and it's scary how it started out of no where, he will just drink every afternoon but his behaviour never seems to change. I love him so much but talking to him is so hard, I can't penetrate this weird wall he has up, he seems just numb to the world.

I know what makes him so depressed. He's been in this job for a year now and a year ago he broke down to me, we had come home from a party where he had become way way too drunk and he confessed that he was terrified of the future and that he would never "provide" for us and that he was so afraid his life would amount to nothing.

Well it's looks like it's coming true and the more it does the more he drinks and just disappears. He is not aggressive or anything I just feel like he's gone somewhere and all that's left is a shell and I can't bear to see this shit. What the hell can I do???

>>166581
>>166582
idk if this is samefag but OP says partners, not parents.
Are you dyslexic?

>>166585
Dude here. It sounds like he's creating his own self fulfilling prophecy. If he really believes he'll never amount to nothing then that's what his mind will unconsciously create. What would help him out is creating a five year plan with specific goals, with the overall goal of having a solid life to provide for you both. Offer to help him with it.

However, if you try to help him a few times and he won't even bother to meet you halfway, then you'll have to let him go. Don't get dragged down into his self-destructive vortex. He has to want to get out on his own. Help him, but don't lose yourself in the process.

>>166584
Honestly I don't know what changed, I hadn't asked him to do it for ages because I had given up. I think it helped that I was drunk, he saw weakness or something.

Anal is fucking nice, that little pop as he sinks into your ass……

>>166585
hey, my boyfriend is pretty dependent on alcohol too.
his drinking became really bad about a year ago when he quit his job, i didn't think it was depression at the time but it soon became obvious.

it got to the point where he would sleep in until about midday and start drinking an hour or so later, i also started texting other guys.
one day he found the messages, he called me a whore and i called him a piece of shit alcoholic.

i think we yelled and cried at each other for about 5 hours.

like your guy, he was worried about his ability to provide and his lack of direction in life.
we he agreed to start seeing his psych again and to be more aware about his alcohol consumption. there's some things ive had to fix too, but we are doing way better.

BASICALLY: sounds like its time for a D&M, you love him and value his happiness. do you value his ability to provide more than his happiness?
it doesn't seem so, tell him.

>>166585
Tell him he is fulfilling a self-fulfilling prophecy and that the source of his unhappiness is his job. Tell him that you don't him taking time off or quiting all together. Let him know that you love him and that is happiness is important to you.

My boyfriend has trouble with stuff like shaving or washing his face regularly. It's really annoying because I have problem skin, so even though I wash my face, his dirt gets on all the pillows and renders my effort moot. I've brought the issue up, but it takes time to change habits. In the meantime, I'm thinking of getting a better skincare routine.

dont know if my bf is just bad at sex or maybe it takes time to get used to because we recently started doing it

My boyfriend ignores my text quite often. I know they say you shouldn't allow texting to ruin your friendship but he just never responds to my questions. He always goes off topic and he even will respond to his friends over me.

I hate it a lot because he leaves me hanging and I usually can't call him because he just won't pick up ever.

Ugh, like today I asked him if he is able to pick me up at the airport and he reads it and completely ignores it. But goes into our friends chat group and talks about getting lunch with our friends. Ok thanks a lot E..

>>166592
Sometimes it's a compatibility thing.

I love my boyfriend a lot, but we're not very compatible in bed. Idk how to make it better. I neeeeeed it to get better. Im wondering if it's just that I need to get used to his body? Hes got more hair everywhere that I'm not used to. He doesnt shower everyday. Hes less agressive than id like. Also, I think I need more confidence in my own body, I worry that he isn't enjoying looking at me

>>166593
Relationship *

>>166594
If your boyfriend repels you physically by not showering, get into a "couple shower before sex" routine maybe?
Sex is a lot about communication though, so even if it's uncomfortable use your words and ask for rougher sex.

>>166593
Break up. He obviously doesn't value you enough.

>>166594
try to use sex toys, see if he is ok with it. that makes uncomfortable sex better for me.

I have dated 4 guys. 3/4 have been exactly like this:

>First 6 months: we are the most compatible people ever, everything is awesome
>Month 7-12: Boy suddenly shows no emotion, criticizes me constantly on everything from sex to how I dress to how I play video games to who I hang out with to how I wear makeup, pressures me into moving in with them/marriage, doesn't allow me to hang out with friends, tells me I can't do things, in general asshattery
>I break up with them, or we just break up from a fight
>6 months later: I'm sorry the girl I have been dating now is a horrible person you were the best I ever had please take me back

Seriously fuck guys.

>>166594
He may very well be willing to shave his body hair for you. My boyfriend had no problem shaving his pubic hair after I told him it was kind of annoying with blowjobs.

>>166593
wow. love yourself. Break up.