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No. 164628

Anyone here a virgin? I'm 26 and never engaged in any sex. I actually never had a SO before. I find it embarrassing my gfs talk about their sex life, but I have nothing to contribute on the topic.

No. 164629

I'm 21 and I've not had sex yet. I've done kissing/touching but not sex.

Bit nervous tbh I've never dated. No one interests me and any chances gone so idk. When it happens it happens, I don't dwell on it too much.

No. 164630

I'm 23 and the only sexual stuff I ever did was as a kid and very young teen. No, I wasn't molested, I just was a very sexual child. Still, there was no "actual" sex going on. I just got more and more anti social and now I don't have any friends anymore and I'm kinda going agoraphobic, moved back in with my parents because I couldn't into living somewhere else all alone.

Things aren't looking good. I barely have a sex drive, maybe due to depression but every once in a while I get aroused by all the wrong things (sadomasochistic kinks and other stuff). Well, what can I say.

No. 164631

I'm 28 and haven't had sex or any kind of major relationship… mostly because I haven't met anyone who I was attracted to that was attracted to me. I assume I'll die a lonely virgin because I doubt I'll meet anyone anytime soon.

No. 164632

I'm 18 and a kissless virgin. I have a rather low libido and insecurities with intimacy, so it's not surprising. I really believe I won't have sex unless I find a LTR to marry.

No. 164633

>>164632
exactly the same hahahhaahhahahaahahahah

No. 164634

Just turned 20 and still KV thqh

No. 164635

>>164630
this is me. i was sexual as a 13-14 year old but after that it all went down hill. now im 21 and i dont have sex and i barely get aroused by anything other than once a month something really fucking weird will arouse me.

i assume i'll die w/o sex for the rest of my life, kek


No. 164636

>>164635

It'a weird. When I was 15, I went through my scenester phase (oh god i kno) and I flirted to fuck with god knows how many guys at once. I was shameless, I'm a virgin still. But I did date 2 guys at once :( I isn't good I know, I was a cunt for it.

All of that, I pushed away from people and just became anti-social. I keep to myself now and tbh, I have no interest in dating at all. I don't even like cuddling anymore. I hate kissing. No longer like it.

:/

No. 164637

not me, but one of my friends hasn't had sex and is super weird about it, she says stuff like she thinks you can either be a prude or a whore even though she's into feminism, I try to tell her I doubt anyone really cares but she doesn't listen. I don't really know what to say tbh..

No. 164638

No one cares, why are virgins always so annoying about this shit. No one cares if you had sex, haven't had sex, or even kissless.

No. 164639

>>164638
Yeah, I don't understand this obsession with announcing you've never had sex before. Everyone is a virgin at some point in time and i dont get why these idiots always have to announce it like they're a snowflake for not fucking someone.

No. 164640

>>164635
good to hear i'm not alone. what kind of weird stuff are you into?

No. 164641

>>164638
because not being able to do the whole romantic relationship and sex thing is kind of frustrating and isolating? because we have desires too? why the fuck shouldn't we talk about it?

No. 164642

>>164640
I don't even know haha. Usually rape fantasies get me going even though it's typical I still feel weird about it. I'm not a sexual person otherwise and I don't watch porn at all so it doesn't make any sense to me, but that and extreme violence. Most of the time I'm turned off completely but every one in a while that will happen

I recently started SSRIs so I think I'm gonna be even worse lol

>>164639
>>164638
whats wrong with people discussing the lack of sex in their lives?


No. 164643

I'm 21, and I can't have sex because it hurts too much. I got diagnosed with vulvodynia by my ob/gyn but I couldn't figure out how to use the treatment she prescribed me. I'm going to go to her again soon and this time I'm going to be more assertive about treating my condition.

I have given A LOT of blowjobs though. I gave my bf a bj in the middle of the stacks of a college library. He also came on my face in the bathroom of an international flight. I still suck though. :s

No. 164644

>>164641

I know, I agree. Not everyone has had their first times. Not because they're ugly, ana, fat ect but because of situations/confidence ect.

Media, everything is always about fucking and basically sex anyway. Makes you feel you're not "human" enough sometimes.

No. 164645

>>164642
Same here, except my rape fantasies are usually about guys, sometimes other girls but I never imagine myself in their place. I'm probably just a shitty person. I love seeing guys suffer.

Weird, I'm currently considering SSRIs too but I really don't want to, just don't see another way rn.

No. 164646

>>164643
But there's more than p in v sex. I personally don't care for penetration at all, it's uncomfortably submissive to me. But I guess it sucks if you want to but can't.

No. 164647

I'm 20. I literally haven't done anything at all. I went to an all girl's high school school, and my friendship group at university is basically just females. I don't really think about it too much, tbh. My friends say that I'm too picky and my standards are too high but I don't wanna lower my standards for some guy, you know? I get horny all the time tho, but that's nothing a good vibe can't fix.

No. 164648

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22-year-old kissless virgin here. Never had a s/o, and am pretty much clueless about sex and dating.

I don't get judged for being a virgin, but I've gotten laughed at by other people, including friends, when they find out I've never been kissed. If only I wasn't ugly and socially retarded, I probably would have been by now.

No. 164649

I'm 25 and a kissless virgin. I want to get laid but I don't have any friends.

No. 164650

Im not a virgin but Ive only had sex with two people. Im super horny all the time but too shy to sleep around/get a bf :(

No. 164651

25 and KV. Honestly because I'm stuck in a shit hole of a town for who knows how long . And I'm afraid my future bf would make fun of my porn habits

No. 164652

>>164650
I'm same. Lost my virginity when I was 21 but now I get horny constantly but I still don't wanna sleep around with strangers because it makes me feel unconfortable.

No. 164653

>>164644
This so much.
22 and KV. It makes me feel alienated.

No. 164654

>>164647
Just how high your standards actually are?

No. 164655

I'm a 23 year old KV, I tried dating one guy a couple years ago after he asked me out but I caved after a very short amount of time. I'm pretty self-conscious and felt like a dead weight to them because I didn't have a driver's license/vehicle or steady job at the time.

It's not brought up often but I know a few acquaintances and relatives think I'm in the closet because I don't date or try to initiate anything with guys. Has anyone else had this happen to them too?

No. 164656

>>164655
I've had my mother ask if I was a lesbian. Granted I am attracted to women, just not sexually. Yeah. I'm a spechul tumblr snowflake.

No. 164657

>>164655
Why don't you just get a bf off the internet?

No. 164658

>>164638
Because it sucks more if you're a guy, guys are usually considered to be the more initiators in these kind of things, so it sucks if you're inexperienced and a guy because that just lowers your confidence.

No. 164659

I don't want to have sex because I want to do it with a s/o, someone I have a serious relationship with and love, is that so rare nowadays or something?

No. 164660

>>164659
same here. I'm not even Christian

No. 164661

>>164659
No, and I'm not Christian either, but I feel like I should at least be attracted to the person, much less serious about the relationship with them. If I just wanted to fuck around, I probably could have done that by now, but I don't. I don't think love is needed to have great sex either, that shit is just biology, anatomy and physiology for fuck's sake, but I'm not someone who can be emotionally removed from something like that entirely.

>>164658
When you're a nearly 30-something chick it's just as bad because people expect you to at least be in some kind of relationship that you might be saving yourself for.

No. 164662

>>164654
I want a well-educated guy with a high earning potential. He has to be taller than me. Has to be funny, likes animals, and geeky so we can splerg out over dumb stuff together. Also, it'd be a bonus if he looked like Steve Rogers haha

No. 164663

>>164659
I was like that and thought I found "the one" well he turned out to be a complete loser and I was afraid to leave because I lost virginity to him and that's supposed to be super speshul. I feel so much better now without him.

Just my two cents sex and love aren't the same thing and you'll only end up getting hurt really bad if you think it is. Not saying you should fuck the first guy you meet lol but virginity isn't a big deal.

No. 164664

>>164663
What do you mean by a loser?

No. 164665

>>164663
>well he turned out to be a complete loser and I was afraid to leave because I lost virginity to him and that's supposed to be super speshul. I feel so much better now without him.
sort of same story but I didn't think he was that great to begin with, but pretty normal. Turned out to be a psychotic piece of garbage but I wanted to stay with him because I felt like not having a relationship with a guy you slept with (especially lost your virginity to) is for losers or gigantic sluts.

The only positive is he made me really appreciate my next/current boyfriend because my previous one was such garbage.

No. 164666

>>164662
Shut the fuck up MCU cunt

No. 164667

>>164662
You are asking for a unicorn. That's all I can say about it.

No. 164668

>>164666
Fucking hell wash the sand out of your vagina and chill.

No. 164669

>>164667
Alright, I could do without the the other stuff, but well-educated with a high earning potential is something I don't wanna drop. Idk, I'd rather be a lonely virgin than be with someone who isn't good enough.

No. 164670

KV and fast approaching 30.

I have trust issues. There are things I wouldn't be able to keep secret from a boyfriend and I worry he would tell people. If we broke up later, he would have everything he needed to hurt me.

My body is a real shit show, the hambeast-itude being only the part obvious from the outside. I don't want someone to see it and be repulsed.

I also suffer from crippling mental illness. I don't even attempt to get guys' attention anymore. I feel like I need to get shit under better control before I involve anyone else. I am trying to be sensible and mature about it but there's that feeling of being considered abnormal ….

No. 164671

>>164670
Do you want sex?

No. 164672

>>164671
Absolutely. But I also want it to mean something.

No. 164673

>>164672
I'm so curious about your dark secrets. It's probably not as bad as you think.

No. 164674

>>164673
Eh, well one big thing is that I am not trans but I wear a binder due to chest dysphoria. You can't hide that from someone you are fucking. He might decide I am a freak and tell people.

No. 164675

28 and a virgin, never did anything sexual. It doesn't really bother me because the dudes I've dated in the past were just ugly and shit people. My self-esteem was horrendous but eventually realized I could do better. I'm in a LDR right now but we can't spend much time together until we're both done with university.

No. 164676

22 y/o slut. First time i had anything sexual when i was 18. God, i'm so horny, i had sex with so many men i can't even count them. I love men between 30 and 40, they are best, they are gods of sex. I also have a thing for big masculine men, but most of them are gay T_T(WHY!?). But i have never been in group sex, i wish to have a gangbang with big dicked daddies.
Shit, now i'm all wet.

No. 164677

>>164674
Are you me? I wear a binder as well due to chest dysphoria but I am a woman and identify as such. I've never really met anyone else who does this. Just tons of fake trans people and people who think I'm trans even when I am clearly not saying any signs of it. I just want to get top surgery so bad.

No. 164678

>>164677
>>164674

Shit guys me too.
I'm a 34D and I fucking DESPISE their size and shape.

I just want to be flat, I have always hated them.

No. 164679

>>164677
Thank my lucky stars I ended up with small tits. I wear a sports bra most days and dress very androgynous since I was also blessed with a man face and feel like a drag queen when I wear feminine things. And yet I'm straight and identify as a woman too. When I'm with a guy I always whip off my shirt and bra at the same time so no attention is drawn to the fact that I wear a sports bra. Everyone I've been with has been cool with it but I do try to change into something nicer beforehand.

No. 164680

>>164674
>>164677
>>164678
>>164679

Hello fellow binder girls! Fuck I'm so glad I'm not the only one like this, what a relief.

No. 164681

>>164648
are u me ;_;

No. 164682

>>164680
I spent about a decade being unhappy. I self harmed because of his helpless I felt and one of the few "professionals" I talked to, early on, more or less told me to get over it. "Breasts are great! How can you not like them?? Lolz!!" I HATED her. I wanted something bad to happen, so she's know what it was like to be this miserable. It was
…not a mentally healthy period.

Binding has helped me to deal with this. At one point, I couldn't even leave my house. Now I have control. I still get down when I think of how I will probably never get the surgery but this makes it manageable.

>>164679
What about the touching part? Do you have an issue with that? I don't want to be poked at. (Chest off limits, don't want to take it up the ass. What am I good for, right?)

No. 164683

>>164682
Fortunately I don't have an issue being touched or have my breasts acknowledged by whoever I'm dating. I'm fine with dressing cute or sexy at home with someone who I trust and I'm a pretty sexual person in private. My situation seems different than yours, but I'm quite sure if I had big ol' titties I'd be in the same boat as you.

My reason for binding is I just don't like being seen as a sexual object and I feel like one if I wear anything feminine. On a daily basis skinny jeans are the most feminine thing I wear and that's still on the fence. I've never been abused, I've never been harassed to the point of feeling unsafe, I just really dislike how differently people look at me and treat me when I dress like a girl. I'm either disrespected or fawned over, while normally I'm treated as an equal. Something that's been surprising is a lot of guys still express interest despite me leaning more towards being mistaken for a dude than a lady, so there's hope yet for other straight girls like me!

No. 164684

>>164683
Makes sense. Nothing wrong with having control over what you show or do not show the public. Pretty fucked up that they treat you differently, though :(

I don't know, maybe I'd feel alright with some of it if I trusted the person. I feel like I'd have the urge to punch them, though. (I have never been sexually abused, either)

Title Nine has the Frog back in stock, if that's anyone's binder of choice. In grey and grey blue, perfect for under white shirts.

No. 164685

>>164682
I just spent like five minutes trying to figure out if I wrote this post while I was high or half asleep and just forgot about it. Creepy. It's like you're inside my head.

No. 164686

>>164685
Nope. This thread seems to indicate it's more common than you might think.

You still riding the V-train as well, or did you manage to get around the problem in that respect?



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