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There's no deception though. They outwardly state that they want you to give money to them in exchange for… idk what they do, calling you a sissy bitch on skype or some bullshit. If you choose to pay for that, it's on you.

>taking advantage of the mentally ill and self-loathing
That's the definition of being a shit person

It's disgusting, but if anything I look down on the men. The bitches just found a market.

I'd get into it since I like being a dom, but I can't see myself constantly insulting someone who is paying me. Although when it comes to this, the men have the real power as they are the ones sending the money.

They're upfront about it. I don't see the problem, the vast majority is online play but you know what you're getting yourself into. You don't have to send any money, it's 100% your choice.
Meeting IRL is much scarier especially if you're a woman, whether you are a submissive or a dominant. So many fucked up people.

>>164003
Findom isn't just about taking their credit card, the women are also expected to micromanage and allocate the men's spending. Just putting this out there.

>If you choose to pay for that, it's on you.
Exactly. There's no deception involved so it's not completely comparable to PUA ledditpill shit. I wouldn't freely spend most people's money, but if someone asks/begs me to do just that, I wouldn't respect them enough to object to it.

It's a fetish OP, get over it.

You want to try and protect them for themselves? What about the men who enjoy being bound and gagged and having their balls trod on in their leisure time? You wanna protect them from their fetish too because it's exploitative to their testes?

it is gross and i would never do it because mentally ill people depress me

i dont know how these girls do it because i would find these men so gross and pathetic. maybe if i was making $200,000 a year barely working. but these women put so much effort into it for like, a couple thousand and some red bottoms. pass.

>>164010
is there any info on how much money they actually make on average? it seems like the market would be oversaturated with "doms" because you basically get paid for doing nothing, and i doubt the men into this are well-off at all, probably walmart cashiers or neets wasting their autism bux. but it seems like thirsty guys will pay shitloads of money just for a semi-attractive women's attention… like donating thousands of dollars to random girls on twitch and shit

>>164011
i did sex work (well, i was a non nude cam girl for like a few years) so i think i have somewhat idea

like all of the popular dommes on chatubrate/mfc probably make an average salary for the amount they work. they work probably 30-40 hours a week and make 40-50k a year. that's considered "good"

the dommes who work offine probably make a little bit more, but not significantly more.

the girls that make a lot of money are usually hot and don't attract guys who are necessarily into being dommed. in fact usually they want to control the woman with their money, they think giving her money gains them favour. its like the opposite of domming. just because shes getting money doesnt mean shes in control.

anyway, i would hate for a guy to be submissive to me. i hate dominant guys too, but guys who are submissive (and people who are submissive in general) come off as whiny to me

it's like being a sugar baby. with findom, you get paid to spend time dominating a guy. with sugar baby, you get paid to spend time (going out to dinner, talking, etc) with a guy.

i don't see anything exploitative or abusive about it. it's not a scam, you get what you pay for.

it's not comparable to PUA guys at all

I follow this girl for a few years now. She used to call herself Duchess and now she is Datura Divine.
She is a findom and she get so much beautiful things it make me honnestly jealous, but I wouldn't want her life so whatever.

I always wonder if the life they are portraying is the reality or if they are just acting like they are super rich and happy and have an interesting life.

I wouldn't be able to do it, but I would love to get some easy money and expensive present… Sigh…

Will people really pay you just for online?

I should sign up.

Anyone remember jessiekitty? She was like the original findomme, I used to love her but she died in a moped accident years ago.

>>164014
Shes pretty

If I could get over my anxiety and self-esteem issues I would love to try findomming at some point. I don't care for it as a fetish, but tbh seeing all these pretty things on tumblr under the sugar-daddy lifestyle related hashtags makes me want that kinda luxury too.

>They're just as bad as the date rapey PUA guys, if not worse

Yeah no. Very very few things are worse than rape. I have also had friends take monitary advantage of me, so can you not pls.

I have been offered this-older men offered to pay for things for me to spend time with them, they knew what they were doing. I have always said no because it doesn't sit right with me and creeped me out a lot.

>>164014
>I always wonder if the life they are portraying is the reality or if they are just acting like they are super rich and happy and have an interesting life.

If we have learned anything from the internet, espcecially with lolcows, is that they never show the whole picture. They only show you the pleasant stuff, and usually get pissed off when the whole picture is shown, warts and all.