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No. 137439

Do you have them? If you don't, what's your opinion on the topic?

Are you usually the rapist or the victim?

How frequently do you fantasize about it?

What do you like about it?

Do you have any idea why you are into it?

Do you ever feel bad or guilty about it? Why, Why not?

What other stuff are you into?

If you are in the mood to write, what does your typical scenario look like?




I've fantasized about rape scenarios since I started masturbating. Back then I didn't think much of it, but lately I feel really ashamed and guilty for having them. I think rape fantasies indicate low self esteem, and are disrespectful towards actual rape victims, and I have a hard time with the resulting cognitive dissonance.

Having a boyfriend who is into it makes it a bit better, but I often feel terrible and disgusted with myself after I orgasm, even though he is really caring and respectful.
I have no idea why I am that way, I was never abused, and it doesn't fit my personality at all. I wish I could be satisfied with happy cute cuddly vanilla sex forever, or be a cool domme with a slutboy, but I just don't really get off that way.

In a way, I don't even want to change, I wish I could just come to terms with it.

W-what do

No. 137440

It means nothing. It just that - a fantasy. It doesn't indicate shit about an individual so there's no reason for you to feel guilty.

No. 137441

>what's your opinion on the topic?
That there's no such thing.

It's a ravishment fantasy, or I've also heard it called "consensual non-consent" or referred to predator/prey in the BDSM community.

Rape isn't just about the physical act itself, but the mental and emotional struggles during and after being a victim. You don't really get any of that when it's consensual and semi-planned. I feel like the term "rape fantasy" de-legitimizes the painful, traumatic aspects and furthers the notion that rape is just another (albeit highly immoral) form of rough sex.

OP, if you're struggling with cognitive dissonance of knowing rape is wrong but enjoying fantasies, I'd just change your terminology to remove the association of actual rape and turn it into more of a "hunt" fetish like I mentioned above.

No. 137442

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No. 137443

no, i don't like the idea of them (or ravishment fantasies, whatever), never have. i think it's a fantasy pushed on females through popular culture/pornography/women are conditioned to some degree to enjoy it/want it.

No. 137444

>>137443
to be fair, being around the local bdsm/fet crowd around me, it is something that people legitimately enjoy. but the difference between it being rape or someone being allowed to be sexually violent or the 'victim' just fitting into a conditioned role is that when done in a healthy way, it's about emotions, the intensity of the experience, losing oneself to the passion of the moment. and ive met couples where the roles are reversed i guess, where the man is the one being ravished by the woman.

my partner and i have had some ravishment scenarios where he takes me. but normally im the one who is dominant and he is at my whim. its about healthy boundaries and communicating to your partner. let them know what you will or will not do.

No. 137445

i do. i fantasize about being a man raping younger men. sometimes about raping women, but hardly ever. i honestly don't know, its gross and I’ll never discuss it IRL.

>Do you have any idea why you are into it? Do you ever feel bad or guilty about it? Why, Why not?

i was abused during my childhood so i feel like it has to do with it, but i don't really know about psychology or fetishes or anything of the sort to really know “why”. yes, i feel very guilty because i have no sympathy for any rapist and i feel like they should spend their entire life in jail for what they did …while behind doors i jerk off to articles about rape. like even when it’s something socially acceptable nowadays like a dude in his 20s dating a 16-year-old, that shit triggers me to no end. which is bullshit really, because I fantasize about that type of stuff all the time, with bigger age differences and no consent.

>What other stuff are you into?

Forced orgasms, sub/dom kink, gangbangs, men/women getting fucked wearing skirts (i was wearing a skirt when the abuse happened too, so that may have something to do with it), priest/nuns fucking or getting fucked.

it sucks too because i can't talk to my significant other about it. she knows about the abuse so if i tell her about my fantasies she's going to think I’m fucked up or something. I’ll probably just start crying if I tried it IRL, I’m a fraud. This seems like a weird thread to make but hell yeah I’m going to vent.

No. 137446

>>137445
having ravishment fantasies does not in any way take away what you have gone through in the past. i was sexually assaulted and dealt with ptsd and have been seeing a therapist for it. and that was one thing that really used to bother me. i have had these kinds of fantasies before so i really had to spend some time working through guilt about finding ravishment scenarios hot. i struggled really badly with thinking that i had wanted it or that i wanted it to really happen again. eventually i kind of worked it out where i think my fantasies reflect the fact that growing up sex was always horrible and all men just want to fuck you and that its a sin to even have thoughts of sex. i would imagine these situations and they would be a way for me to express myself sexually and take that guilt off of myself like it was the 'attackers' fault that i was fucking.

No. 137447

>>137440
Good point, thanks. It wouldn't be such a problem if people didn't make fun of it, and implied that you are damaged if you enjoy it. (like on r9k, when I was still reading it) Makes me wonder if most people secretly think that way.

>>137441
I don't know. Telling myself "it's not rape", when I get aroused by movie scenes that look like rape to everyone, would feel like I'm just rationalizing it.

>>137442
n-no ;-;

>>137443
Don't really agree. Society might encourage women to be submissive, but that probably doesn't include making them want more extreme sexual stuff.

>>137444
Thanks for that post, it's very comforting

>>137445
That sounds terrible, I'm really sorry this happened to you.
Would you want your partner to know, assuming she wouldn't react badly?

>This seems like a weird thread to make

I guess. I wouldn't tell anyone irl for obvious reasons, but I figured hearing other opinions than my boyfriend's might be helpful. Plus, there is already a femdom thread somewhere in the catalog, which seems at least vaguely related.

>>137446
That must have been really difficult for you. Are you okay with your fantasies now?

No. 137448

Nope. I have absolutely no fantasies about rape. I have fears and nightmares of it. I've been raped before, not the 'guy coerced me into it and I wasnt really feeling it' but the actual 'guy randomly assaults me late at night and forcibly sticks his penis inside'. It was absolutely awful and just thinking about it terrifies me. This happened earlier this year in February and I'm not exaggerating that I don't really leave the house anymore because the slim possibility of being raped again is just so scary.

I understand it's a fantasy and not something you can really control if you're into or not, but as the other anon touched on, what you're fantasizing about isn't actually rape because you want it. Setting up a rape scenario with your boyfriend is also not rape. I can't help but get a little triggered everytime I hear another girl say they have a rape fetish because that's bullshit and it feels like it downplays just how fucked up actual rape is.

Rant over

No. 137449

>>137439
Not really, but I have comfort or healing fantasies.
A family friend used to rape and molest me when I was a child, and even now I can't just get past over it. I've never talked about it with anyone, and I don't feel able to have a relationship, I'm still a "virgin". But since then I always wanted someone who could just hold me and love me and tell me I'm going to get better, I just want to be cared of so bad.
Usually my fantasies are: the thing just happened, someone founds out, I cry and they comfort me, years later that person and I have sex in the most cute, vanilla, and absurd way possible. It can be a boy or a girl, depends of my mood.
Probably I've read every fucking fanfiction about it in Internet, even the bad written ones and the ones in fandoms I don't have idea about. And every single one had made me cry.
I remember a doujin about two girls who where in a secure unit due abuse, and the staff starts raping the older one, they told her that if she stays quiet, they won't hurt the younger one. Eventually they rape both anyway, it was pretty graphic. But in the end they made it and it shows both girls living a peaceful life after that. I can't found it again though, I think it was part of an anthology. But I like to think about it a lot.

No. 137450

Not about myself, but I do it all the time with characters I'm into. I never fantasize about myself actually, it's always fictional characters. I enjoy the comfort part more than the rape. I'm a huge hurt/comfort freak.

No. 137451

>>137447
im fine with them now. i know now that its not a secret desire for me to be raped again. i learned to separate the physical with how it made me feel mentally and can associate fantasy with strictly pleasure without fear of rape

No. 137452

Does reading noncon slash fics count?

No. 137453

>>137442
Spot on, anon.

No, I don't have rape fantasies even though I enjoy rough sex sometimes. I get that some women do, but that really never turned me on. Honestly it disgusts me.

No. 137454

Yes I have a rape fetish. yes it is a rape fetish, not a ravishment fetish. No I don't want to be raped. I just enjoy watching other women being raped, mainly in hentai (theres a big market for it)

Its not my only fetish. im into a variety of humilation, spanking, and a bit of cuckqueening. Yes I have low self esteem. I can't help what my fetishes are, those are the only things that allow me to orgasm.

No. 137455

I had rape fantasies and then I realized I had them because I hated myself and wanted to die then I seeked professional help and they stopped as I understood they came from deep seated self hatred, some traumas I had and fear of rejection.

No. 137456

Nope, at least not for myself, but I used to fantasize about comforting guys that were raped. Cleaning them up, holding them while they cried, comforting them, letting them know they weren't less of a man for it. I don't know if that's more or less twisted.

Also, I'm a total fan of the artist from OP. How he or she portrays rape more realisticly than most doujinshi

No. 137457

>>137456
I fantasize about dudes getting raped (by other dudes, if it makes a difference) which is worse.

No. 137458

>>137454
Are you sure? Have you ever seen real rape?

No. 137459

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Yup same pretty much, I go a step further and fantasize about getting forcibly impregnated.
I also pretty much also masturbate to rape hentai as well, don't know if I could tell anyone like a boyfriend that I'm into it.
But I'm prob into rape because I'm a perv tbh and into other also gross fantasies

No. 137461

>>137460
lmao, nope sry I'm over the age of 18 which means I'm much too old for him

No. 137462

>>137442
This.

>>137441
And this. "Rape fantasies" are just about the mentioned "consensual non-consent" in which the prey is actually consenting to it and it's happening with a person she trusts while holding the power to stop it any time she wants. The term "rape fantasy" is misleading as hell.

No. 137463

>>137457

I don't fantasize about the act; Just the aftercare.

No. 137464

>>137456
What is the artist name?

No. 137465

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>>137454
This. While I'm aware that it's most likely not quite like actual rape, I prefer realistic scenarios, and reminding myself that it's "safe", "controlled", and "roleplay" is a huge turnoff.

>>137459
Same here
My boyfriend used to frequent 4chan, so I already assumend he is a perv.

No. 137466

>>137464
Don't know the name, but I'm pretty sure it's the same person who made "shoujyo and the back alley"

>>137465
Oh, and I usually ask people I'm interested in to fill out pic related.

No. 137467

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>>137465
Filled it out because bored. I guess I'm quite vanilla really.

No. 137468

>>137467
Thank you for letting us know. We were very interested.

No. 137469

>>137468
lel anon that's very hidden irony

No. 174379

Rape doesn't excite me sexually. I do find it curious on a psychological basis though. I'm bored.

No. 174503

>>137465
Reproducing isn't really a kink…that's just normal.

No. 174535

You guys are so fucked up

No. 175193

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I'm super vanilla, I don't really know what I like. Most of the things listed don't get me going. My boyfriend is the same though. Its nice.

No. 175203

Rape never excited me.
I did however start fantasizing about rough sex at a very early age.
But my imagination never went to rape scenarios.

It was always ''guy i had a crush on wants me so bad he can barely control himself''

I get disgusted by men i am not into in general does anyone else have that too?
Like if you'd have to believe people once you're into kinky sex you're into kinky sex with any attractive stranger.
But the idea of the cum of some guy i am not into makes me gag while with my boyfriend things can get really nasty but because it's him i am very much into it.

I don't know if it's still a thing but i remember seeing quite a few ''Sharking'' videos online where the guy would jack off then jizz on some random poor girl who happened to be around.
That shit always made me want to vomit i would probably set myself on fire or wash myself with bleach.

No. 175272

>>137439
>Do you have them?
Not as much as I used to. When I was in highschool I used to imagine classmates asking me to follow them, only to end up gang raped by a bunch of boys.
When I was younger, I used to fantasize about a vampire (I was 12) asking to come in and rape me and bite me and make me his slave.
Now a days, I don't really fantasize about it, as much as the ravishing fantasy, but only from my boyfriend. Now imaging random guys doing it to me grosses me out.
>Are you usually the rapist or the victim?
Always the victim.
>What do you like about it?
I like not being in control, not having a say in the matter, being demanded. I love being gagged and blinded and being played with like a doll. I love the idea that I am wanted so terribly. Again though, this is less rape fantasy and more ravish fantasy.
>Do you ever feel bad or guilty about it? Why, Why not?
I used to feel bad about it when I was younger. Mainly because I didn't know there were people out there who also felt the same way. I also thought people would hate me of they knew. It was a lot of shame based, but that was partly because of how my family viewed sex.
I also was abused by a female child when I was four, and again by a boyfriend when I was 14. I didn't like it during those times. I don't think it affected my kink though.
>What other stuff are you into?
Me and my bf practice Dd/lg. We also practice a bdsm lifestyle. It's fun.
>If you are in the mood to write, what does your typical scenario look like?
It really depends. I like waking up to being touched.
I'm interested in being lightly drugged, awake enough to be aware but not to move.
Having my boyfriend come in with his face covered, saying nothing and just taking me.
Waking up to being tied up.
Choking, slapping, gagging. I like it pretty dirty and rough.
But I know if it was anyone but my boyfriend I would hate it.

No. 175358

>>137439

>Do you have them? If you don't, what's your opinion on the topic?

Yes

>Are you usually the rapist or the victim?

victim

>How frequently do you fantasize about it?

sometimes

>What do you like about it?

i love feeling powerless i love being choked and the feeling of intimidation

>Do you have any idea why you are into it?

hmm… when i was like 16 my ex choked me and said he wanted to kill me idk i have always been sexual but since that event this kind of fantasies started to appear

Do you ever feel bad or guilty about it? Why, Why not?
i have issues with it sometimes i think is so wrong and disrespectful to the actual victims :/ can't make up my mind about it

>What other stuff are you into?

i love being choked, tied, spanked, dd/lg

No. 175538

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>>175358
ill choke you bby

No. 175540

>>175203
I feel like if a man jizzed on me randomly and I knew, I would go to the nearest hospital, get that DNA sample and try to fucking take him for all he's worth.

Not like someone like that would have anything to take anyways.

No. 175547

i don't get it. sometimes i fantisize about a man coming up and groping me and forcing me to have sex with him but im like into it? except i would struggle a little but still want it i guess.

i don't like extremely rough sex but the thought of getting used and felt up to bring someone i like pleasure turns me on. sometimes i wish my boyfriend would just force himself onto me and call me dirty words.

but actual rape terrifies me. i've actually cried before at the thought of getting stds. getting pregnant would suck but i would plan b that shit right away.

i don't know. i used to think of it more when i was a minor and i'd have fantasies where i was kidnapped and one of the guys would give me special treatment if he got to use me

No. 175701

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>Do you have them?
Yes, though now i only dream of it from my boyfriend (and occasionally of him and a coworker doing the job together)
>Are you usually the rapist or the victim?
victim.
>What do you like about it?
I like the fact that, to me, it feels like my boyfriend wants me so much. He wants me so baad that he cannot wait, but knowing my boyfriend, he cares for me so much that he would still be careful and make sure im okay. ( Maybe this is more of a ravishing fetish? I never heard of the term until i saw this thread.)
>Do you ever feel bad or guilty about it? Why, Why not?
no, because it's something only between my partner and i. And i know actual rape is disgusting and wrong.
>What other stuff are you into?
Sub/Dom
>If you are in the mood to write, what does your typical scenario look like?
My boyfriend has expressed the want to fuck me while i'm asleep a few times now.
we both sleep naked, so it's a no-brainer we still will when we live together.
He wants to start by groping me, kissing my neck and then putting his hands on my waist while he starts grinding his boner on my ass.
then he would fuck me. the idea of him just being able to fuck me whenever he wants really turns him on, and it turns me on too.
he said he'd want me to wake up so i could enjoy it even more and feel him cum inside of me

No. 175702

fuck, anything listed as "no" is never. Didn't see that. some of those are really concerning

No. 184779

I think actual rape fantasies are fucked up, same with 24/7 master/slave and caregiver/little. I'm not going to stop people from doing it though, at most I might mock it.

I do have ravishment fantasies though, kind of crossed over with my weird historical roleplaying stuff I've never tried. The concept of my boyfriend being unable to control himself because he wants me so badly is really hot, and it's consensual, so it's not "rape fantasies." The concept of someone crying and struggling makes me kind of sick, unless it's playful struggling (which I've done.)

I think it's just a combination of dorky interests and wanting to be wanted uncontrollably. I'm a tease and kind of like to tease my partner to the point they're dizzy with desire. I'm also into bondage and light D/s, but I'm so bratty and "in charge" (out of bed anyway) that it's not full on D/s.

I usually prefer to be receiving, but would gladly give because I have some domme tendencies too. It depends on my mood.

I used to have full on phobia and nightmares about being raped or assaulted, so no thank you for that. I feel embarrassed about the ravishment fantasies only because I don't want any men to think they can do shit to me because I will kick their asses; this is for my partner only. Plus the weird historical roleplay aspect is kind of embarrassing but I tend to just self-deprecate and laugh at it.

No. 184817

>>137439
I only started having rape fantasies after i was sexually abused. My fantasies stem from trauma but I never fantasize about the guy that was abusing me, only about people I'd want to fuck me so idk what that means for me.

No. 184841

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I can only get off to rape fantasies if I'm also fantasizing about being a character from whatever disgusting fujoshi fandom I'm in at the time.

No. 184845

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I suspect that I was abused as a child or possibly witnessed abuse, due to having early memories of acting out rape fantasies on dolls. I never really started fantasizing about getting raped myself until a few years ago, but those have grown into thoughts of me also being tortured and killed, and I prefer the latter so much more that the rape is actually just an after thought. The real excitement now is my pain and death.

I also fantasize a lot about raping men; in particular, gay men because I imagine the emotional pain would be even greater than if they were straight, especially if they involuntarily came during the rape. Having experienced sexual abuse to some extent and seen what it can do to other people too, the whole idea of maximizing the pain afterward is a big turn on. Sometimes, I fantasize about killing them afterward though. Just depends on my mood.

I've never felt guilty about my fantasizes but it does feel lonely and isolating to some extent. My bf knows all about my fantasies and used to play into them a lot, but our sex life has dried up and he doesn't even like me to flirt with him anymore, so I'm kind of stuck just keeping things to myself. I fear I'll never find anyone else like my bf, so I put up with it and just hope that one day he'll come around again.

>>184817
Hey anon, that's not so uncommon so don't feel too bad about it. A lot of sexual abuse survivors fantasize or act out rape fantasies to gain back the control they feel that they lost from the abuse. I encourage you to see a therapist to help you deal with your feelings in a healthy way.

No. 184850

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I sometimes fantasize about being raped but its kind of a compulsive thought. Like I just want someone to destroy my body and fuck me until I go cross eyed and am injured and in pain because it's what I deserve.

No. 184856

>all this Dd/lg scum on this thread.
You know they are mental.

Seek therapy sluts.

No. 184867

>>184856
pretty sure this thread is mostly >>137442

No. 184871

>>184856
Yeah I'm gonna be honest, a lot of people replying seem to be beyond just kinky masochists and into being self-abusive and fucked up. Wanting to inflict severe emotional pain on someone else and wanting someone to break you isn't good for you regardless of if it's got a sexual element.

No. 184918

Why bitch about anons posting fucked up things when this thread … exists??

I used to have (active) rape fantasies about an ex. I had a certain bad time in my life (being inpatient at a mental ward and stuff) and during that time I still had an on and off thing with this video game addicted low-life douchebag that helped destabelize my situation with his behaviour. It wouldn't have been so bad but at the time the things that happened just were a recipe for disaster because I was just too unstable to cope healthily and in my head I became incredibly vindictive for a while there. I had violent fantasies about him every day, trapping him, torturing him (I researched Guantanamo Bay A LOT during that time) and worse, about making him have stockholm syndrome and having sex and all that. I'm glad I moved on from that as I find (active) rape fantasies despicable generally. Moreover, I'm certain that I will never let it come to a similar situation in my life again.

Other than that as much as the word rape ist a turn-off for me but that's just me. Being ravished is cool but that's something else for me, too.

No. 185955

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>>137465
are guys even allowed on this board?

No. 185960

>>185955
Please see: >>137468

No. 185965

I used to have rape fantasies (but it seemed consensual in my head as it was something I wanted) and used to fap to rape porn but then I actually got raped for real and now I find it triggering and despicable.

Now I just fap to the idea of being used by a bunch of guys or something

No. 186002

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>Do you have them? If you don't, what's your opinion on the topic?
rarely yes

>Are you usually the rapist or the victim?

always the rapist

>How frequently do you fantasize about it?

maybe 10% of the time i fantasize

>What do you like about it?

power rush, degrading men

>Do you have any idea why you are into it?

"payback" to men because i feel bad about being weak. if i rape their ass until they bleed i wont feel as weak ;)))))

>Do you ever feel bad or guilty about it? Why, Why not?

no, since i havent actually raped anyone, won't do it either unless it's conensual """""rape"""""

>What other stuff are you into?

see image

>If you are in the mood to write, what does your typical scenario look like?

no



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