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No. 118489
>>118470>You don't get rich in China without walking over people, or so I was told.seconding this. I had a friend who was working at a chinese trading firm, the work environment was basically a
who screws more people over contest.
No. 118503
They're trust fund babbies. Just like every other country, we have them, but they're still a vast minority within the population.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fuerdai You probably just don't notice the averagely wealthy chinese since they don't behave as ridiculously. Either that or you have an agenda here.
No. 118520
>>118515I'm going to go on a limb and assume most young rich Chinese are the kids of wealthy factory owners that make bank from low worker wages and the combination of selling goods to foreign countries
It's also known that a lot of middle/upper class Chinese push for their kids to go to school overseas because it's not as difficult to be accepted into a foreign Uni or private high school compared to the ones in China. Most western colleges accept any Chinese students because the families are willing to dump thousands of dollars for them. Students have also been caught paying Chinese companies to do their schoolwork or create fake documents for grades/recommendation letters.
There's also some bestseller book in China that a family made about getting their daughter accepted to Yale.
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I go to a private uni in Los Angeles county and all of our Chinese exchange students are rich as fuck and drive really expensive cars (think 2016 BMWS, Ferraris, etc). I saw this car in the lot the other day and it stuck out like a sore thumb.
No. 118698
>>118520 Yes, they're mostly sons/daughters of millionaires in mainland China. Having their kids attend Unis in the west has several purposes: (1) they can legitimately transfer money out of China to 'pay' for the collegiate expenses without getting flagged by the govt, (2) for covert overseas fund transfers, that can be used for
other clandestined purposes and (3) help find spouses, whose citizenship can be taken advantaged of for business enterprise purposes.
Working as a waitress years ago I saw one of them pay via an American Express "Black Card" ~ from a 3rd-Yr college nonetheless ~ for a $3k dinner tab (for 4 people!). Wonderful tippers btw…
No. 173744
>>173742they do it for a status symbol, i've had multible of them tell me this to my face since they've tried to sleep with my friends.
Although, me dating the person i am has zero to do with race or status. Purely because he's a nice guy, i never thought i'd date a chinese guy lol.
No. 173877
>>173748>date trust fund babbies>OMG why are they so materialistic???Why is everyone in this thread so fucking retarded? I already tried to explain why FOB uni students are generally like this before in this thread and got pretty much ignored. I guess every poster here is just interested in validating their own preconceived notions.
>>173798And here is just plain /sty/-tier racism. I don't understand why this thread isn't moved there yet.
sage
No. 173883
>>173877nobody cares because they're venting their own experiences. Not everything in this thread is racist, some are pushing it though. Stop being
triggered because some people find rich Chinese kids annoying and let them vent.
No. 175033
I think a lot of them aren't rich/just tight asses who save their money to spend on brand items.
imo, It's more of a 'competing' thing, trying to look the most affluent in comparison to their friends/family.
>>173739lmao I live in Aus and I know exactly what you mean. Whenever there's some sort of event sale going on anywhere, you can bet the first hundred people camping at the door are asian.
No. 175083
>>175055i've actually been called some pretty racist things by them from time to time.(inb4 that salty anon comes back and says there's no such thing as white racism) Mainly if its a FOB couple or a group of FOB girls and they see me with my boyfriend. I just laugh it off and say Thanks in Mandarin.They make the "ohhhhhhhhh" high pitched noises and they run off.
I've had another FOB try to get me to break up with my bf bc he's "more rich" but he basically wanted free english lessons and the bragging rights of a white girl with blonde hair speaking to him on the regular. A group of girls try to get with my guy friend because they think all white dudes have a huge penises. He did end up getting with one and she has a bf back in china - classic folk they are.
No. 175092
>>175083Doesn't surprise me at all.
I was in Boots the other day and bunch of chinese girls (obviously FOB) tried pushing me the fuck out of the way in the YSL counter. So I shoved her back and gave her a right nasty look, I'm not putting up with that shit. She didn't do it again though.
Also why is it they try flaunting off designer gear and yet its always old edition stuff? I've been on Weibo before and none of them apart from the model tier looking ones even appear decent. They all dress tacky as hell. Im not even saying it to be mean, they dress in anything with a brand name. Some I think generally look cute if they are really girly in pretty brands like Ted Baker and what not but others… nah. Don't win me over one minute and I wouldn't ever be jealous of their parents money either. They're not worth impressing.
Most British born Chinese are not that bad. My childhood friend is British born and he's lovely. Same for his sister and some that went my school/college. Nice and normal. Its just the freaks that come over here acting the cunt.
It's sad how they think fucking a white guy or a girl is going to give them status. They're asian for crying out loud! Even if they have a half white child (and you anon) it will turn out looking more Asian anyway. I don't see what the fuss is about.
If they think white guys have huge cocks… jesus. Let them get a filling with a black shlong! After a good drilling with one of those, bet half of them wouldn't ever call the great wall 'long' ever again.
kek
No. 175094
>>173748Why would you let yourself be used in that way?
Imagine some white guy who constantly took pictures of his asian girlfriend to post on social media, drawing attention to her asian-ness and using it as a bragging point in a very explicit way. Even the most white-adoring asian girls would probably get sick of it eventually.
I swear white chicks with yellow fever have absolutely fathomless levels of low self-esteem. Goddamn it, just have a basic level of self-respect and pride that you don't consider being used as a status symbol by some dicklet with bad hygiene from mainland China to be a desirable relationship outcome.
Even by East Asian standards most of them are fucking hideous both physically and in terms of their personalities.
No. 175096
>>175083>I've had another FOB try to get me to break up with my bf bc he's "more rich" but he basically wanted free english lessons and the bragging rights of a white girl with blonde hair speaking to him on the regular. A group of girls try to get with my guy friend because they think all white dudes have a huge penises. He did end up getting with one and she has a bf back in china - classic folk they are.I've known white guys who lived out there who slept with a different girl every week in the first few months of their secondment.
The thing is, the culture difference, in spite of all the western/globalized trappings of French brands and American clothes and fast food outlets is just so huge that even the serious relationships struggle.
The most famous relationship in China between an Asian Man and American Woman was between a famous English teacher (he had huge schools under his brand name and was very rich) and an American woman who was previously his assistant.
Well… That ended up pretty badly:
http://shanghaiist.com/2014/03/12/crazy_english_founder_li_yang_loves.phpThe problem with Chinese men is that they're main MO for getting women is money, but they don't seem to understand financial security and physical desirability don't often correlate. And it annoys a lot of them that Chinese girls find some white guy more desirable on a base, sexual level even if he's just some poorfag student.
Hell, even some robot got a Chinese sugar mommy - I wish I could find the thread, but he posted timestamped proof - of the woman (a separated but not divorced woman in her early 30s) and her ridiculously nice apartment in downtown shanghai.
A fucking ROBOT.
Jesus.
No. 175097
>>173744>they do it for a status symbolThey don't do it as a status symbol. Most Chinese men simply don't care about their appearance and are terrible lovers. They're doing it out of desire. Chinese women are expected to be pretty chaste and it's an excuse for them to actually have some fun.
>>175092What worries me about the overseas Chinese is that China itself wants to turn them into a fifth column:
http://www.ejinsight.com/20160503-beijing-seeks-loyalty-from-ethnic-chinese-with-foreign-passports/This isn't going to end well. Just the whiff of subversion from Chinese minorities was enough to get the Indonesians and Malays into a pretty murderous mood at numerous points in the last century.
And more and more Chinese Americans are being implicated in espionage rings with every passing year.
No. 175098
>>173883>Stop being triggered because some people find rich Chinese kids annoying and let them vent.>don't butt in and give your different opinions! Kek who's the real
triggered one here?
Everyone finds them annoying. They're hated back in their homeland as well. And so the cunts ITT who attribute their bad behavior to their ethnicity and not the fact that they're offsprings of new money couples ticks me off – Bitch you have plenty of native trust fund babies in your country who are just as bad if not worse. You just don't see them as often because most of them thinks themselves as too good to hang near where you are.
>Not everything in this thread is racist, some are pushing it though.Yeah and those so called non-racists totally bothered to call the latter out. Don't be so full of shit.
No. 175101
>>175098>They're hated back in their homeland as well.That… depends.
The ones with white girlfriends are viewed as "winning glory for the nation".
And I think the difference between China and Western countries with regards to this topic is that in China countries, aggrandizing displays of huge wealth are viewed as a display of one's face or prestige - material success isn't really tip-toed around - those who have money really are viewed as superior and possessing more face - and the products these exhibitions of wealth are therefore a kind of show of superiority.
No. 175102
>>175097Well the ones i've met must be different to the ones you've met. I've had them straight up tell me to my face that they want to date my guy friends purely to the status of dating them.
They thought me and my guy friend we're dating - we're not. When i explained that I had 2 FOBs ask me to hook them up with him, i asked why - they said they want to show him off to their friends back at home then explained that they have this status thing with white guys and that when they come here they have a competition so to speak about "who gets the best" or whatever.
For someone who has an awful lot to say in 3 posts, it seems you've never had a full conversation with one in your life. Who knows, we may just have met completely different people or the massive group of FOBs in my area have their own group that does thing kind of thing. Stop being so hostile damn.
No. 175104
>>175096>>175097>>175098Triggered anon is back zzz
At Least it's the only one.
No. 175105
>>175101I will say that most Chinese on some level acknowledge implicitly that white people are better looking. All of the ones I knew when I lived over there would ask me how to get white girlfriends/boyfriends and ask me for advice about it.
In their more honest moments, after a few drinks, they'll just say that they think white people are better looking than Chinese people. For the women it's taller, longer legs, bigger breasts, fairer skin, different color hair/eyes （金发蓝眼 gold hair and blue eyes is a saying synonymous with beauty in China too). For the men it's more of a visible jawline, for some girls the light hair and eyes again, paler skin and more perceived masculine features.
Ryan Gosling is probably the best example of a western male archetype that Chinese girls go crazy for.
One of my Chinese Singaporean friends watched Drive like, 29 times.
>>175102It actually wins them no status in Chinese, male dominated society to date or marry a white guy.
Chinese are very openly hypocritical about it being more socially acceptable for a Chinese male to marry a foreigner than for a Chinese female to marry one. They've been all sorts of visa irregularities for the latter type of couple the former doesn't experience also.
>For someone who has an awful lot to say in 3 posts, it seems you've never had a full conversation with one in your life. 我会说中文，你也会？
No. 175106
>>175104Anon I'm not
>>175098I actually disagreed with her/him, see:
>>175101 No. 175112
>>175105You're really not reading what i'm saying. I'm saying the area I live in has a lot who will jump into any white guy to brag to their friends. I said nothing about marriage since i know, and have been told by them that they would never let it get to that stage.
also, yes I do know conversational chinese due to who i'm dating and my job. I'm not too good at it though.
Again, stop being so hostile and ruining the thread.
No. 175113
>>175112>brag to their friendsAnd you're not understanding what I'm saying. Not many Chinese girls have one night stands and brag to their friends, it's considered pretty shameful behavior to be so open about casual sex.
>also, yes I do know conversational chinese due to who i'm dating and my job. I'm not too good at it though.Ok. That's good.
Is your boyfriend very Chinese culturally?
I wouldn't want to have a Chinese marriage ceremony personally. And I know Chinese tend to be insistent that any white in-laws do things "their way", which always put me off dating one.
No. 175115
>>175114Who's that?
Some new lolcow?
No. 175118
>>175117KF = KiwiFarms right?
I tried googling Tragi-Chan, but nothing comes up…
No. 175123
>>175121I didn't say whites were superior.
It's undeniable however that Chinese implicitly believe whites are superior in a few ways. Primarily looks. The average Chinese man or woman believes the average White man or woman is better looking than they the own members of their opposite sex are.
Most whites don't get it since most whites don't grow up thinking Chinese people (or any people) are more attractive than their own race is.
No. 175127
>>175123I think you need to meet more IRL Chinese people.
Maybe more white/Euro people.
Just more IRL people period.
Stop wasting time on chans dude.
No. 175129
>>173748I'm white, although often mistaken for part Japanese (not blonde, thin with average size chest). Chinese are the best partners in my experience. Rude and show offs, but when they fall in love they'll do anything to make you happy. Of course I know this isn't everyone's style. And even though they like showing off their white gf I never felt like a trophy. I think it is sweet…of course one con I haven't seem mentioned yet is the prevalence of awful hygeine sometimes lol But I'm 100% marrying a Chinese.
And yeah, these are mainly trustfund babies, and corruption is amazing for making money…but a lot of Chinese are beyond clever and find legal ways to play the system.
TLDR: I love China
No. 175132
>>175129>yellow fever out the ass>"some people think I'm part Japanese!">I'm totally cool with being an ethnic trophy among people who have no respect for my own culture Really farmers?
What at this point is the distinction between you girls and the lolcows you laugh at?
No. 175138
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One of the reasons I'd not want to be in an interracial marriage is because as a person grows older, they tend to get more conservative and attached to their ancestral country and culture. I've seen it happen with my own parents and many of their relatives.
Plus the idea of walking around arm in arm with some little old Asian men who looks like the guy from Karate Kid (pic related) seems weird somehow. Weirder than just some old white man.
No. 175139
>>175132There never was any. Look at the adulation venus receives. Any anger you see here tends to be jealousy or resentment of people who have made it (have obtained PR in Japan or SK through marriage).
Should have studied STEM and gotten a real job, or at least some sort of career.
No. 175147
>>175145What was your mother?
I ask because I'd be really surprised if a white woman put up with that shit.
No. 175148
>>175145This is normal for Chinese? Makes my stomach turn a bit tbqh.
I don't want them over here if that's what they are going to bring over.
No. 175149
>>118457Neuvou riche have no taste. Communism killed their culture. They don't understand anything except that if it's expensive, it must be good.
I have no idea why some girls think rice goblins are cuter than them. White girls are the ultimate cuties. 6/10 white white girl btfos 9/10 Asian girls (10s don't exist)
t. Model-tier european guy
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>>175149>t. Model-tier european guyPost pics of face and then dick.
Funny thing is even if you're lying and a 3/10 you could get laid every week in China kek.
No. 175165
>>175101>The ones with white girlfriends are viewed as "winning glory for the nation". Uh…………….
no?
No. 175184
>>175141Yeah, I'm aware of this, but tend to date (actual) nice guys so am hoping for the best.
I'm not exclusively attracted to Asian or Chinese, but the way Chinese men have treated me (courteous, thoughtful, and beyond sweet) was so different from what I've experienced with westerners or Latinos.
I know a lot of anons have a thing for Japanese and Koreans, but I've never heard of a Japanese man treating his wife very well. And heard a lot about domestic violence with Koreans. Also on dates they are no different than most men from my observation (stingy, hesitate to pay the bill and self-absorbed).
Chinese are close neighbors to both countries, but tend to spoil their women (again just from my observation). My exes never checked out other women in my presence and took pride in paying for my meals, groceries, and taking me shopping or surprising me with gifts. Received many love poems and handcrafted goods (that I know they put a LOT of effort into). Even better they were incredibly observant, remembering my favorite colors, what I wore when we first met, our anniversary, and noticing things I quickly commented on shopping (and would later return themselves to buy it for me). I know a lot of anons here want a Chinese, Korean, or white boyfriend, and although there are issues such as rudeness, lack of hygeine, lenient morals and sometimes shit like mistresses I personally think Chinese still beat-out most nationalities of men based on my past relationships compared to my friends and families relationships (Mainly with Americans, Europeans, Latinos, and Japanese).
I'm sure I sound like a troll posting this but meh Chinese are really underated imo. It's a topic I'm pretty into so yeah.
No. 175188
So my weeb friend linked me to this thread and I have a story to tell.
I used to live with three of these trust fund babies in a seven man dorm room.
For the sake of staying anonymous lets call them Justin Dennis and Kevin (obvi not their real names since I can not spell those)
Anyways, let's start with Dennis. This guy was ridiculous. Never flaunted his money, but you knew he had it. This man bought my friend $90 face cream for her birthday. They knew each other for like half a month. Wtf? I barely got a twenty from my parents for my birthday.
Anyways, if there was one thing in this world that dennis love, and hated, it was the ipad version of NB 2k16. Every single FUCKING day I'd walk into the room to him playing on his ipad, swearing his lungs out at the fucking Ipad edition of 2k16. Mind you, i had a ps4 and 2k16, and literally told him he could play whenever, but NO. He spent all his time on the ipad.
Next is Justin. This man was like the opposite of Dennis. He had money and let you know. Some of the ridiculous shit he bought/did includdd buying a $1700 burberry jacket and a $1600 canada goose jacket within the span of a week, Buying a $50 pair of socks, buying a $500 pair of pants and the weirdest fucking purchase of the bunch was a pair of $200 adventure time ice kind boots. WHO THE FUCK DOES THAT. The worst thing though imo…was that he didn't buy any of this online. He went to downtown chicago almost every weekend to go shopping. Mind you, we live 4 hours away from there. Oh on top of that, everytime he went, he stayed at the marriot grand which is like $200 a night.
Last but not least, Kevin. Honestly, I have no clue what Kevin was worth, because he NEVER spoke to me except on one occasion. So this kid would spend ALL NIGHT and I mean until 3am while we are all sleeping all night YELLING at his computer screen playing LoL.
One night, and in one of my only interactions with Kevin, me and my two American roomates were up playing a game on my ps4 (at fucking 10:30) and kevin tries to go to sleep. We don't quiet down because why the fuck should we, he stays up until 3 yelling we should do the same.
So what does he do? Walks up to us and says "can you guys keep it down"
WHAT EVEN.
NO.
FUCK YOU KEVIN.
No. 175192
>>175188Haha those guys remind me of one of my Chinese exes friend (also Chinese). He became obsessed with online gaming and would scream out loud even if he was playing with a friend right next to him lol
My ex is a great guy, but when we had roommates who shared a kitchen and bathroom he insisted we buy all of our own kitchen equipment (so there was two of everything…) and would scream at our roommates if they used the shower too long (he used it 2-3 times longer…). I'm pretty sure he just wanted them to move out so we could take their room too. They eventually moved and he immediately turned their room into his personal hangout spot…
No. 175195
>>175184Firstly that's not Chinese men as a rule. It's Chinese men with money. Most men with money spoil their girlfriends regardless of their ethnic background.
Secondly. Domestic violence is an issue in all countries. But it's probably only in China (and south Korea to a lesser extent) that you have prominent people defending it on social media. At the very least it wasn't Japan that only got anti domestic violence laws last year.
Thirdly. No matter how nice he seems, listen to the other posters itt, it is a normal and generally accepted part of Chinese society for men to have mistresses. There was even a somewhat prominent marriage counsellor (female one, or maybe she was a psych) on weibo who advised women whose husbands cheated to "strong reflect on what they had done wrong and try to improve".
>>175194Meanwhile any Chinese woman who dates a foreign man is 公共厕所 or 在世界上最贱的女人 or worse.
You guys are clueless about Chinese men. Just give it a few years of marriage.
No. 175209
>>175113You're not dating him, i am. For Years.
Don't bring my relationship into your salt and false facts. You don't know if we're married or not lmao, who cares if you don't want a chinese ceremony? You're not dating one and have said you won't, leave it at that jeez. all im saying is that the FOBs that -HAVE SPOKEN TO MY FACE- have said those things. Get our ass out of your textbook and speak to one of them ffs.
No. 175215
>>175188I love a storytime, that exact face cream thing happened to me!
Unfortunately even though my university had super rich Chinese students, they seemed to stick to themselves even when people tried to talk to them, so I never got to see anything outrageous other than the tacky VERSACE CHANEL RALPH LAUREN parades. Why does nothing match? Why so many statement pieces in one outfit? why do they mix animal prints?
I did make friends with a rich Singaporean girl from the same level of wealth who was awkwardly too Western for the Chinese but always ended up lumped in with them as a translator but always bitched about the Chinese students being tacky and wasteful , which was reassuring to hear as a poorfag.
No. 175228
>>175197So you deny that Chinese men see other Chinese men marrying western women as an enhancement of national prestige?
Sounds to me like you're covering up for something. Because literally two minutes of googling will bring up thousands of zhihu, douban and weibo results on this matter. Are the Chinese women who talk about it lying?
Either you're dating a Chinese or you are a Chinese.
No. 175237
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>>175236>Korean>Big dickStatistically very unlikely.
And yeah, I've known of cases where Chinese husbands will bring their mistress on holiday along with their wife and kids, and the wife doesn't say shit.
Really alien culture imo. Wouldn't want to marry into it.
No. 175265
>>175147My mom is white but luckily my father never cheated. He was too poor and sickly (undiagnosed stomach cancer for many years) to have a mistress. He was so shy with women tho.
Last I heard my gross fobby uncle has like 3 girlfriends in different provinces that he visits whenever he goes to China on "business". Sounds exhausting to me.
No. 175266
>>175237I really think it is like being in the 1950s USA or something.
They think because you are dating/having sex, you are basically engaged. My last chinese ex literally could not process that after we broke up, we were no longer dating. Just did not compute to him. Took him months to stop contacting me.
They are very sexist, but they don't realize it. They think buying you things is the only thing they need to do. Hitting women, cheating on them, doing things behind their girlfriend's/wife's back, etc. are all ok as long as they are providing. They definitely believe the "a lock opened by many keys is not a good lock, where a key that opens many locks is a good key" redpill bullshit.
No. 175267
>>175265Out of interest, do you prefer white or asian guys? I've noticed people from a biracial background tend to prefer men of their dad's race.
>>175266Nah, 1950s US pairbonding was actually a bit more permissive and gave women a bit more liberality. Men cheated, but for your average middle class man, none of them were as brazen about it as Chinese men are - their local community/church group wouldn't just accept it in the same way Chinese communities do.
Chinese pairbonding/marriage conventions are full on Confucius-tier stuff - there was a case recently where a fucking MOTHER IN LAW killed her own grandchild because the grandchild was a baby girl and not a baby boy. Chinese make the Roman Republic look liberal towards women.
And remember, by dating/marrying/having their children, you are (and I mean this quite literally) helping them to spread this culture to America and other anglosphere countries.
>>175264It's also an entitlement thing. Video related, discusses the difficulties of Chinese students interacting with Western students. Couple of points I found really interesting were:
1) There's a Chinese guy in the video who complains because he went to sat in a local starbucks for a few hours and no white girls approached him to speak to him (I kid you not).
2) There's a Chinese girl (some sort of enabler of these types of men, there are tons of them in China) who says how she saw a western couple eating out at a restaurant, and the gift the boyfriend gave to the girlfriend was apparently "not very expensive at all" so the Chinese girl's conclusion was that if western girls are so easily impressed by cheap gifts, Chinese men should have no problem dating them.
It's that sort of attitude from Chinese people that nauseates me the most. They literally cannot comprehend the idea of the thought behind something being what counts. I know that some people use that as an excuse not to actually do anything worthwhile, but I think it's very sweet when a partner calls to mind something I said 6 months before idly - about something I needed or would like to have - and remembers it in order to buy or make me a Christmas gift along those lines.
No. 175279
>>175228>So you deny that Chinese men see other Chinese men marrying western women as an enhancement of national prestige?Why wouldn't I deny shit that never happened? They might like white girls but you "national prestige" is unheard of.
>Because literally two minutes of googling will bring up thousands of zhihu, douban and weibo results on this matter.Alright, what are you search terms? I have no idea what zhihu is; douban looks like a chinese version of IMDB.
No. 175360
>>175264I just can't understand the mindset of anyone who would even accept gifts instead of being treated well, unless you knew you wanted to be a housewife with a good set up for your kids. If you were just looking to date, why would you get into that? The designer handbags and glittery jewelry just seems like a waste of space at a high cost to your own emotional wellbeing.
>>175277Definitely depends on the country, like the more 'outspoken' places like Italy, Africa etc. I've seen players and foreign guys try it in London too, it's weird to me.
No. 175368
>>175264I never felt that way. My Chinese boyfriends clearly cared about me and showed it beyond material goods (cooking me meals, giving me massage, being sweet). Well, again I only go for really nice guys, so yeah.
Not all men want multiple gfs or wives (just look at Muslim countries where most men only want 1 wife by choice lol).
No. 175455
>>175360At first they seem like "nice guys", doing behaviors as
>>175368 mentioned in addition to all of the gifts. Then 6 months to a year in, both of my Chinese exes started being controlling, overly aggressive assholes with short man syndrome. No amount of handbags and foot rubs fix that if they don't change. They genuinely believe that you should accept them as they are, even if they are emotionally or physically abusive, as long as they buy you jewelry, take you on vacation, and massage you every once in awhile. Just my experience, anyways.
No. 178603
>>178544Nope. I don't lead people on like that. I think that if you make your own money, or you grew up having nice things, you wouldn't lead people on like that. It seems like you're in it for the money and compliments.
Also not many girls would be interested in a FOB chinese dude. Don't get it twisted because it's not about looks or anything but just the cultural differences and language barrier would be difficult. Since it's your first relationship tho I'll just stop right here
No. 178607
>>178544Regardless of whether he's a wealthy foreign sugar daddy or your childhood friend, you still should be honest in your intentions for the relationship even if you're worried it will lead to a break up.
There's nothing wrong with not wanting to do physical things but you need to tell him that you feel this way. For some people those things are an integral part of a relationship, make sure he know what he is buying so to speak. The fact that you're asking here makes it seem like you already know this though.
No. 178656
>>178614As it's your first relationship, keep in mind that there are a lot of cultural differences between china and USA/Europe.
His parents WILL have a say in your relationship. They can just tell him to break up with you. They will expect you to take care of them when they're old, so they'll be super picky. He most likely won't say "fuck off" ever to them.
He probably thinks that as long as he gives you money/expensive things, you have no rights to complain. Even if he cheats on you.
Yeah he's nice right now, and maybe he'll stay like that. But 4 months is not long enough to know someone and even more when there are major cultural differences. You're playing relationships in hard mode honestly.