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Im in a similar situation. Just finished college and have applied for a few MA courses in London (Im in Europe) want to leave my abusive addict brother and enabler mother so bad forever.

>>106723
>have applied for a few MA courses in London
same

>>106716
>I would've done that a long time ago if I could
Why can't you?

>>106728
Heres hoping they get back to as soon as possible so we can plan our escape!

I’m currently living with my little brother and my mother, but in the summer I live with them plus my 2 other siblings. My mom is completely unpredictable and hyper critical of everything I do. She frequently has mental breakdowns, due to my dad fucking her over emotionally in some way, or even seeing him for divorce counselling. It usually coincides with her being drunk/hungover for a few days. We’re so emotionally distant from one another that whenever I ask her for advice or tell her about my own problems, it mostly ends with her saying “I don’t know how to help you” or “Go talk to your psychologist about it”, which makes it seem like she doesn’t even sympathise with me ever.
My dad is a spineless coward, constantly flip flopping between spending time with us and his new family (consisting of an alleged gold digger and her son). He emotionally manipulates me and my brother, but in more subtle ways. Often he’ll leave for a flight or travel without even telling us, and he’s left my little brother all by himself in his apartment while he’d go to parties or meetings.
My siblings are the only ones I can tolerate, but even then we’re emotionally distant from one another every time we see eachother because our upbringing has made us push eachother away. I honestly wish I'd be closer to my siblings, but every time I get in an argument or disagreement with them, they remind me so much of how our parents act that it hurts.

My mom is financially irresponsible, she can't keep a job, has ruined all of her kids credit and standings with banks by stealing our debit cards, she's emotionally and physically abusive. My step dad is an alcoholic and is verbally abusive and tried molesting me when I was in high school (no one believed me hah)
My older brother left as soon as possible because she would beat him) (he now is a performer and travels the world) . My step dad convinced my mom I was sleeping around with random men (Hint I wasn't) so she monitored my every move and he would watch me while I was at work.
Because of my mother keeping her debt a secret we got evicted from my older brothers apartment while he was out of the country. I moved in with my boyfriend and his family. My mom got evicted again and because of the instability my brother moved in with his college counselor. My mom is unemployed. BUT! I haven't needed my antidepressants since I left and my brother got a full ride to Harvard with enough scholarships to cover a masters degree as well. Yay happy endings!

I currently live with my mom and dad, I'm an only child. Between their overbearing tendencies and constant arguing I hate it. My dad is always screaming about politics and wanting to argue with my about everything, and my mom is a borderline narcissist who likes to act like a victim at the tiniest things. There's other things that go on, but I don't want to mention them because of how personal they are. I luckily just started a full time job, so I'm now making more money + I'm out of the house way more often. My plan is to save up enough money to move out to Brooklyn, get my own place and pay a years rent, have money for furniture and all my bills for a few months, and then some extra for stuff like food and gas. I'm halfway at my goal point in terms of money, but now with this full time job I'll be at my goal by at least this time next year. On one hand I can't take my parents anymore, I'd just move out to some shitty country town here, but on the other I'd rather wait a year to be able to move somewhere where I'm not only happy but can get a great job using my education. If I can endure it my literal whole life, I'm sure I can endure just one more year.

Can't contribute much other than saying it gets better, folks. I was in the same situation, had an awful home life growing up (and was super depressed/suicidal as a result, as well as stressed and on edge at all times).
I've been living away from home for years now and I feel so much better. Actually looking forward to coming home every day and seeing my bf at home is a feeling I can't describe. Just get through the next while, I promise it will be worth it.