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No. 1033515

How do you stop being moody, grouchy, grumpy, etc? Anger magnament thread.

No. 1033524

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>enough sleep
>chamomile tea
>sleep supplements
>enough food
>emergency chocolate
>alcohol
>taking naps
>doing strenuous exercise
>avoiding stupid people

No. 1033531

Turning off my computer and walking away. Takes extreme discipline though.

No. 1033539

cat/dog that you can pet and hold to calm down
only thing that ever helped me
t. bpd

No. 1033542

gnosticism

No. 1033544

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I don't. I've been arrested a few times

No. 1033545

>>1033544
that's hot anonita uwu

No. 1033555

My biggest issue is taking things too personally. Does anyone have advice for that?

No. 1033559


No. 1033564

I'm always grouchy and angry. Thing is I don't even PMS and I don't get period pain, but I've always had a /ot/ a-logging poster disposition.

No. 1033572

>>1033544
Story time pls babushka

No. 1033581

I don’t

No. 1033602

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I buy those tiny plastic babies on Amazon and take a jar full of water and pretend I'm drowning small men. I take one of the babies and play with them for a while, pretending I'm the scrote who ruined my day. Then I put the baby in the rim of the jar and make them beg for mercy, until I flick them in the jar and watch them drown. After the jar is full, I usually take a walk in the park near my apartment and choose a nice hollow tree or a good rock to hide the jar under. I've filled 2 jars so far!

No. 1033625

>>1033602
do they float? if so isnt that a direct defiance of your punishment? don't you think they're silently taunting you? you should consider melting them instead

No. 1033632

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I’m a naturally angry person but Getting off the internet and playing my old computer games makes me feel so calm. Avoiding the internet in general gives me peace.
Too many times I see something that makes me angry, and the chaos of sites like imageboards or Twitter certainly doesn’t help either. I don’t even like being mean to anons or randoms but sometimes I can’t help but fuel the damn inferno. Same reason I will not get a tik tok because I feel like it’ll fuck up my blood pressure seeing all these shitty brain dead people try and educate everyone else.
I think I’m going to try my best to cut my internet time way down.

No. 1033855

>smoking weed
>being at home
>weed
>at home
>smoking
>weed
>at home

No. 1033910

>>1033855
/thread

No. 1033913

>>1033855
Hell yeah

No. 1034060

I actually want to know how to hate normies less

No. 1034066

I play videogames or sleep, I just shut down when I’m angry/annoyed. During the pandemic I only beat my big brother once, which was honestly quite the feat because he unnerves me constantly. Lately I’ve been mostly crying for a few seconds and considering suicide out of anger.
Hugging my dog helps a lot, also keeping myself busy with work and eating something sweet. Goddammit I’m so tired of this I just want to drop dead.

No. 1034115

>>1033544
kek based

No. 1034140

I do chores and shit I've generally put off around the house.
Guaranteed to do one of two things:
Keep my hands busy so at least if my mind is still occupied I can at least be doing something productive instead of choking a bitch.
Create new frustration at the chore so I can be instead pissed off towards the task at hand and forget about the original thing I was mad about.

No. 1034154

Gore below don't scroll

No. 1034682

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No. 1034705

>>1034682
sup, shayna

No. 1034716

>>1034705
Shayna would never do any kind of skincare

No. 1035152

please I actually need help… lol

No. 1035159

I'm no longer triggered by people on the internet. I have a coworker who gets under on my nerves every day and I have just had to grow a thicker skin so I can go about my day assured that I'm the bigger person.
If I'm sufficiently fed and mildly stoned and someone still pisses me off, that person is 100% the problem.
My tips are
>healthy amount of food and sleep
>weed if you're that kind of person
>strong sense of self/ confidence
>rationality and emotionally detached reasoning
>acceptance when things lie outside your control

No. 1035176

>>1035159
Based advice

No. 1035317

>>1035159
I could have wrote this. The biggest annoyance in my life atm is an annoying coworker. I take the high road but sometimes I imagine just drop kicking her across the room.

No. 1035445

quiet borderline here. I'd say I'm not an angry person normally (in any way other than self directed at least), but my roommate really pushes my buttons by being an immature, loud, attention-seeking hypocrite who takes offence at the smallest thing. we don't speak anymore but she won't move out for another two months and the sound of her voice makes my blood boil. I don't want to be constantly leaving my apartment because I'm a homebody but how do I get through these last few months with her without flipping out and cracking her skull open?

No. 1035456

There should be a bpd board on this website where bpdfags can talk about their problems. I cant relate to you guys at all.

No. 1035466

I live in an area where if you walk about 20 minutes you find this huge plot of land with absolutely nothing on it and no one around it. I scream and scream. Sometimes I even have a scrote moment and take an old stuffed animal with me and take my switchblade out of my bag and stab it repeatedly. I don’t think this is healthy, but it’s what I do when I’m angry enough to lose all shame but controlled enough to make that walk. Honestly, half of the time once I’ve made it to the land I’m not mad anymore. I stand there for a bit, look at all the holes that probably belong to rattlesnakes, walk home, and I don’t feel so bad. One semi-healthy thing I do, if I’m angry late at night or early in the morning, is put in my airpods, go to the park, and use the swings. I don’t want to look like a retard using swings meant for children which is why I only do it at those times. It helps. And I smoke afterwards. Also unhealthy. But sometimes I can’t calm down without a cig. But my god does it burn when you’ve already screamed your lungs out and light up a cig. I now go cig first, scream later if you really need to. I genuinely need anger management. I am my father’s daughter, I get violent when I’m angry, I hate it. I have enough restraint to hold back now but when I was a teenager it was so uncontrollable. Still need genuine anger management worksheets though.

No. 1035467

>>1035456
You don't have to be able to relate to every post on this board nona

No. 1035476

>>1035456
I am so sorry life has never inconvenient you to the point you'd want to inflict violence. Life must be so cushy for you. Just boring and empathy level zero.

No. 1035487

I have violent impulses all time, including stabbing my mother to death. I have dreams where I bash her head in repeatedly.
She murdered my brother a few years ago, and even seeing the name “renee” causes this instant feeling of anger to surface.
I’ve gone out of my way to cut ties with her but to be honest, I’m scared for her safety if she ever shows up at my door.

No. 1035496

>>1035487
i don't even know how to respond to this, my god. that's insane… why did she murder your brother? so sorry, anon

No. 1035497

>>1035456
just because you lack empathy or can't comprehend another person's experience doesn't mean that they should have to be shoved into a containment thread.

No. 1035513

>>1035456
I have this theory that every farmer who bitches about the BPD Boogeyman and brings them up constantly for no reason is a self hating bpdfag themselves

No. 1035532

I plug my ears with heavy metal, I listen to a bunch of obvious self-harm japanese music that's just the vocalist yelling into the mic about suicide idealization. I have vertigo so I cant play first person shooting game anymore, but Left4Dead was such a good outlet for me during my early 20s. Fighting games are currently my favorite outlet.

Exercising, Kick-boxing, in which I can do at home but honestly it'd be so much better if I can book a hiking trip and just wear my body out to the point I don't see any reasons to be angry anymore (of course, it is only temporary until all my fatigue is gone).

I overwork, a lot, if I don't have anything constantly remind me to get done, I'd start to spiral. I also often have violent dreams about the people who have harmed and wronged me in my life.

The thing is, I'm too much of a coward to ever inflict actual physical harm on anybody. Yet I keep getting SO angry I'd burst into tears. Constantly.

I do not like this part of myself; and have been trying so hard to keep this beast in control. And hell, I feel bad for the therapists I've lashed out before, but that's my true nature. I'm angry that I cannot see immediate result from therapy, and I'm angry that I'm wasting money on nothing.

I'm going to listen to anons above to keep myself fed and get enough sleep. Good night nonnitas

No. 1035544

>>1035496
Thank you, in a TLDR they were both drug addicts and they escalated their fights and mental illnesses until she decided to kill him, claim self defense, and play the victim. Cops didn’t investigate bc brother was a junkie. She beyond obsessed with him.
She asked me for hitmen, (like tf would I know), asked me to stake out his house at night, gotta burner phone, etc.

But every time she pops up in a dream I don’t listen I just start snapping on her.

No. 1035750

>>1035544
This is beyond fucked up nonnie, I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Did you tell police the stuff she had told you, or were you too scared/it was already case closed at that poitn?

No. 1035827

>>1035750
I never went to the police, and I regret it. At the time I was in such a level of shock and paranoia I was “next”. I mean after all, one kid down, one to go.
I do have the texts and shit she sent me printed out, sealed, and kept in a friends safe just in case something happens.
Over all I am a really happy, loving person. when it comes to her and her husband? Well, I need to stay the fuck away

No. 1036007

Living in a quiet environment with my own space finally mellowed me out

No. 1036119

If I get mad I blame myself, my brain is just "your fault" and then have intrusive violent thoughts of suicide ideations that can affect my self-esteem greatly. When this happens I try to breathe and see how imposible these harmful scenarios are, like, there's no way I'll fit into a paper shredding machine kek, I see the ridiculousness in it so I don't cry because I feel so worthless. Breathing and focusing on not being a bully to myself I can see why I'm mad and what I should do next.
I agree with the nonies, good sleep and eating schedule will help you getting less irritated at least.
Good luck everyone!

No. 1041836

>>1036119
The feelings of shame are probably the worse after an anger outburst, but why do you feel shame for being angry ? The problem isn't feeling anger, it's not being able to control it and explode in autistic tier meltdowns. Feeling angry is fine anon. You have every right to do so.

>>1035456
>having anger outburst is a bippie only thing
It's just untrue

How do I stop throwing anger fits or having downright angry meltdowns (more rarely) when
- I can't complete a basic task Ex: software freeze or bug, I have too much shit in my hands and can't open the door, I clumsily spill over some liquid on the floor etc…
- I get interrupted in a task when I managed to focus, or being asked to change my work methods
- I drop something on the floor. I noticed it's most of the time the trigger of my worst meltdowns when I start screaming and punching things. It happens very seldomly, about twice a year, but… that really suck, to do this as grownup. I really feel like a chris-chan tier retard afterwards.
- I get lost. It's more panic than anger, but still. It happens very often because I have extremely shitty spatial skills, to the point I can't orient myself in fps videogames. Going out a lot, spending time outdoors doesn't help. It sucks because 2 days ago I insulted my bf because of this (he was making fun of me when I startedpanicking).

Ofc, this gets worse when I'm tired and/or anxious about something. I'm very careful about bedtime, but I can't control everything.

I don't know, I'm sure these kind of behaviours are the sign of some kind of retardation, since they have been persistent since childhood. No idea why tho, I've seen a lot of psychs as a kid and never got diagnosed with anything solid.

No. 1041856

>be horrible angry teenager
>constantly throwing tantrums and yelling at my parents for no reason
>get sent to a child counsellor for one (1) session
>be so embarrassed I become normal immediately

I must have been hormonal and taking it out on the people I knew would love me unconditionally, because my parents were the only ones I sperged out on like that. That said I could always be calmer. Stuff like >>1041836 listed definitely get me going, there's nothing like tech problems and spilling shit to send me into an irrational, upset rage… I think it's more stress and frustration than actual anger.

I want to be as zen as my dad though. No matter what me/my sister/my mother do, like if we're in a bad mood or pissy, he NEVER gets mad. Even if I was being a little shit and deserved it. Never raises his voice, never gets grumpy or mean, just stays chill and patient and lets us calm down. It's a superpower and I want it. I practice on my annoying coworkers.

No. 1043070

>the urge to stab you in the eye with a fork because you are so fucking annoying and have nothing better to do but pick a fight?
Yeah I’m gonna need to go meditate or some shit

No. 1043338

Numbing yourself until you're almost completely dead inside

No. 1043346

Sometimes I just wake up angry and nothing can soothe me. I will just argue with people online or go to great lengths to catalog or target something so I feel like I "did" something. I won't get into examples but these write ups give me comfort and I am better at not lashing out in real life, anymore. I was borderline schizo a few years ago, I would snap at strangers and I would constantly get into fights with my family. I still feel the same irritations but I deal with them in a way to minimize exposure and deflect maximum blame from myself. So it's no longer me having to deal with them AND them being pissy at my anger, it's just having to deal with them, more manageable

No. 1043361

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anyone who has always been the "chill and patience" friend until the pandemic hits and your entire personality just changed completely?

I used to be a pillow for my friends (stacy or bpd) to confide their thoughts to, which makes me a pushover I guess, still I was much confident in my ability to keep calm and keep people around me grounded. I've always been the leader role for teamwork for this personality of mine too.
Now that I don't have anything to look forward in my life: concert trips, travel plans, making new friends etc. I become more and more intolerable to be around, I'd catch myself snapping at my friend for completely harmless things and started to feel ashamed of it. I keep getting in constant moodswing where I'm either depressed or angry. I don't like this version of me at all and I've become withdrawn to everyone around me.

This sucks considering I don't have anyone to depend on emotionally at all. I'm too used playing the Reliable friend that I ended up not being able to depend anyone else but myself. therefore whenever I see any misstep of my friends' wordings during most my vulnerable moment, I'd go full schizo on them.

Nonna I'm lonely and angry as hell and the world isn't meeting my needs at all.

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>>1043361

This is exactly me, nona. I've become so withdrawn but I'm simultaneously so bitter that friends have not reached out to me.
Don't they care? I've helped them through so much heavy shit (abusive relationships, mental health issues, suicidal thoughts, eating disorders) and they are expressing zero concern. My closest friend has basically been like "go to therapy, I'm here to be a friend when you want to". I know it's so selfish, but I feel abandoned.

I moved to a new state during 'rona and never have plans and have no way to make new friends. I don't even feel like a real person anymore.

No. 1045361

>>1033539
I have seen aggressive dumb whores abuse their pets

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>>1045191
>>1043361
I feel both of you. I don't get contacted that much by my friends and when I do it always feels pointless. I even lost friends this pandemic that I had attached myself to more heavily. I just want to hear peoples stories and not that many are talking to me. I yearn for contact I'm not getting and feel withdrawn when I do actually talk to people. The fact of the matter is things are getting worse and I want to leave where I am and go elsewhere. I'm too poor too. It means having to lose my friends or try hard to maintain ldrs. When I can and when I finish school I will. For now it's just riding the next half a year out trying not to kms while people barely notice that I'm off kilter

No. 1047200

I remind myself that lashing out would only cause me to be in a more annoying situation and then I go home and lift heavy. I've slaughtered animals for work and in a weird way it has given me some self-confidence and made me more detached. Knowing that I can put an animal down (humanely) with my bare hands and know how it feels to have something die in your hands and what fresh guts smell and feel like makes me feel more in control and have less desire for violence.
Also knowing that whatever bitch that's pissing me off wouldn't be capable of doing the things I've done without breaking down.

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>>1043346
>I will just argue with people online or go to great lengths to catalog or target something so I feel like I "did" something.
Baiting people (particularly scrotes on 4chan or reddit) and researching/writing about a problem are my go-tos for rare bouts of short-term anger too. My weakness is the long-term problems that make me angry; I have a massive tolerance for day-to-day/minor bullshit but if there's a major issue that I have no control over then the rage builds up until it explodes.

No. 1047638

>>1043361
The pandemic made me into a hateful hermit and I honestly can't see myself going back to hanging out with people.

No. 1053741

Anyone get arrested for attacking a scrote? I have kek

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>>1033602
You made my day anon, I like leaving the tiny babies around my university campus for people to find.



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