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No. 102887

Couldn't find one through the catalog, thought this could be useful. Need advice on sex related stuff? Ask here.

No. 102888

10/10 pic OP.

No. 102971

Please teach me how to give a good blowjob because I’m hella insecure about it. I mean stuff besides the obvious no teeth, no actual blowing etc.

(Also: not asking bc porn makes me self-conscious or because I want to cater to guys’ needs but because I genuinely enjoy giving head and love to give the guy as much pleasure as possible.)

No. 102975

>>102971
- Don't be afraid to get spit everywhere
- Lick his balls and bury your face in them
- Say something nasty
- Stuff his dick as far deep in your mouth/throat as you can
- vacuum suck
- Eat his ass if you're feeling brave

No. 102977

>>102971

here are some tips :

>remember to breathe thru your nose (hardest part for me)

>take it slow at first to get that thing as far back as you can and if you are gaggy you gotta push through
>keep your tongue between your bottom teeth and the dick to minimize the chances of a toothy blowjob.
>testicle stimulation also helps plus they’re kinda fun to squish.

>think of the song “faith” by george michael (my personal tip)


hope it helps slightly. i also make dumb jokes because i’m socially awkward so i wouldn’t try that out. but i’ve always gotten glowing reviews on the bj’s.

>>102975

YES GET FUCKIN SPIT EVERYWHERE GET NASTY

No. 102980

>>102971
>>102975
These are some good tips, I'd also add on use your hands, especially if you have trouble getting far down, you can wrap your hand around and stroke in combination with your mouth going up and down to create the illusion you are going deeper, if that makes sense!

Oh and eye contact, guys seem to dig that

No. 102982

>>102975
>>102977
>>102980

Do you guys have any advice on how to keep your jaw from aching? My boyfriend has a fairly large dick and it takes forever to make him cum. On top of that I also tend to tense up my jaw or grind my teeth during the day so after about 15min tops I’ll have to give up because I can’t handle the pain. (Switching to hand stuff and going back to sucking doesn’t work as it’ll take about an hour for the pain to subside.)

No. 102984

>>102971
oh, and if you want your throat fucked, lay on the bed with your head down the side so it hangs over the edge, then he will be able to slide in super easily

No. 102987

>>102982
I have TMJ issues too and honestly the only thing I can think of is practicing general jaw care to relax your jaw - heat packs, jaw stretches, maybe a night guard if you can get one.

No. 102989

What is the op image from?

No. 102995

>>102887
How do you guys edge a partner? Do you just slow down? Switch positions? Stop?

No. 102997

>>102995

Depends on how well you know your partner's body and body language. If you're just starting out trying it, communicate and have them tell you when they're getting close. Then slow down or stop stimulation for a little bit before starting it up again. Repeat as much as you like before letting them cum.

No. 103007

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i have little to no sex drive, but my bf is extremely sexual due to being a former porn addict. i have fantasies but i rarely masturbate, and i feel guilty because i just can’t seem to actually get in the mood ever. i think it might be in part because my boyfriend isn’t very educated on sex other than what he sees in porn and i’m only into romantic shit nowadays, plus he can’t cum from sex so i feel bad that he doesn’t get anything from it and that it’s probably inpersonal for him because i love intimacy during sex. i’m also kind of into submissive boys and my bf is 100% dominant so even though our relationship is amazing we’re completely opposite sexually and he makes such a big deal when i don’t wanna jerk him off or suck his dick. today i told him i felt kinda depressed and didn’t want to do anything and he sat and sulked and then jerked off in the bathroom (which i don’t mind) but maybe my lack of sex drive is due to being put off by his attitude? sorry this is such a huge paragraph but what do i do?

No. 103035

>>103007
So he wants to have sex constantly, but he can't cum from it? Wut?

No. 103040

>>103035

oh kek i should’ve clarified, he doesn’t wanna fucc he just wants me to jerk him off all the time

No. 103042

>>103007
He sounds super selfish. If all he wants is a hand job he should respect that you're not in the mood (you get nothing from it) and do it himself

No. 103046

>>102989
Kare Kano

No. 103077

>>102989
Really anon…? It says it in the file name and you can reverse image search. Theres no excuse for being this inept.

No. 103090

Positions for lazy couples? We rotate through missionary, doggy and cowgirl and it's getting kinda boring but neither of us has the muscles for kamasutra tier stuff

No. 103092

>>103090
i like the spooning/from the side position when i'm being lazy, also the one where you're on your side with your leg on their shoulder. idk the names, sorry.

No. 103102

>turn on otome cd
>pretend ur having sex
>???
>profit!

No. 103113

>>103102
You better namedrop those games, anon. Please.

No. 103114

>>103113
No games….just pure sweet sounds and soft moans made by boys on youtube
My favourite channels are
くすのき, ひろまの稽古場, 森あっくん 女性向け ボイスアクター, and that しょう guy but I can't find his channel atm but it doesn't matter bc as long as you're not logged into your usual youtube account and keep clicking on recommended videos with japanese channel names,, you will surely stumble upon him and find more cute boys voices in the process. Don't forget to clear your history when you are done…..

This is my virgin sex advice.

No. 103146

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Thanks for this tread.

How would two women go about having sex?
Like, from the initial proposition to both parties being satisfied.

I've been dating this girl for 4 years and she is perfect and I want to marry her. We both have very low libidos which is ideal for both of us, no hassle. We barely ever even kiss, but I don't mind it much since I never really found kissing pleasurable outside of a simple gentle touch. What I mind is that soon we will be living together and I would like to try out having sex with her. I ran the idea by her and she's willing to try it too. Even if we can't get that aroused with our shitty libidos it would probably still feel pleasurable and build trust, right?
Or am I completely delusional?
Maybe I should just stick to my dream of becoming a massagist to be at least useful when I touch her. Maybe we should live a happy sex-less life and be happy with it because bad sex will ruin our love for each other.
Help, I am a very dumb lesbian who's very new to relatioships with women, especially women that are perfect in every regard and kinda unapproachable even if we're lying in bed together.

No. 103147

>>103146
If you don’t have any desire to have sex, don’t have it. You shouldn’t push it because ‚that’s what couples do‘ or something like that. If you really want to have Sex, it should come by itself. It’s really nothing more than doing what feels good for you as well as the other person. If it feels like a chore, it’s not worth it. It‘ll ruin the experience tbh.

Give yourselves time to settle first. Even couples with regular libidos don’t necessarily fuck immediately after moving in together. There are some that find that new experience to be enticing, some are too worn out/stressed from the entire moving process and getting accustomed to that new living situation.

There’s no shame in living a sexless life and relationship as long as the two of you are okay with it. As I said, only do what feels good to you, not what you feel obliged to do.

No. 103149

>>103147
Thank you. I actually thought about that a lot. Like, we don't really suffer and our relationship is stable even without sex, but you get bombarded everywhere nowadays how sex is what keeps people together, how it's important for a lasting relationship and health and all that.
After years of people just assuming me and her fuck I got a complex. Like that our relationship is not really real if we never have sex. Like we need to have sex even if just to realize we both actually don't need it. Try and either continue or completely give up.
Like, the girl in question. She never even masturbated before. She doesn't feel the need. So I want to help her in some way and find out if she's really asexual or just has zero experience.

I've had sex that I didn't really want to with a man before. He coerced me basically and there was no arousal in it for me, but I treated it like some kind of a science experiment and managed to enjoy certain acts like that.

No. 103150

double post really.

I know we might never have sex, but my real question, if we decide to try it, what would we do?
I've only had experience with a man and I basically got groomed into bdsm as young as 14, so I don't know most novice techniques. Like, all the gentle entry-level shit.

No. 103151

>>103150
NTA but my best advice is go slowly, experiment, and talk to each other about how stuff feels. Obviously there's the usual places that people visit during sexual contact (breasts, vulva) but some people find having their neck, thighs, or tummy kissed very pleasurable. If neither of you are intensely sexual people, it may be a good idea to start somewhere like that. Maybe even do some passionate kissing first, and just see how it goes? There's no "wrong" way to do sex, as long as you're both consenting and happy with what's happening.

No. 103165

>>103146
You mentioned the massage thing, I think that would be a really good starting point. If you're both a bit inexperienced/not too into sex, just touching each others in gentle ways is just as good. Get some nice scented massage oil and just touch her body. Give gentle pecks on her neck, chest, thighs etc. It doesn't have to go to sex straight away. You can take your time to learn what feels good for both of you. Once you maybe feel comfortable with it, maybe try using your mouth & fingers a bit more on sensitive areas (breasts&vulva). I know it doesn't help when I say it'll come naturally but it will. You might even feel content just with giving one another intimate attention without feeling like it's "sex" (or sex as other people describe it, it really doesn't have to be penetrative or even that "passionate")

Just take it slow and enjoy her company & body.

No. 103172

this is going to sound really dumb, but how do i make my boyfriend orgasm? cw for the spoiler since it may be slightly upsetting. it is for me at least.

due to being groomed as a child, he can go for a very long time. we have really, really good sex, and he tells me that i make him feel amazing, and that i'm the only one he's dated where sex doesn't feel like a chore or a favor, and he finds me very very attractive. but whether i'm giving him oral or he's penetrating me, he has to finish himself off at the end. i know it isn't his fault, and that it probably isn't anything i'm doing wrong, but you can imagine that it makes me a bit insecure. i want to make him feel good, and i know i do, but i'd love to be able to make him orgasm myself. he deserves it, i love him a lot and wish he didn't have to go through what he did, it breaks my heart.

No. 103173

>>103172
How much do you talk about these things? Could he guide you through it? I've had a few partners like that and slowly talking through what makes them feel good has helped a lot.

No. 103179

>>103172
>i'm the only one he's dated where sex doesn't feel like a chore or a favor

This is a bad sign. Because of the abuse, he's used to thinking about sex like it's a tool, not something for pleasure. He needs therapy, this is beyond something you can help him with. The most you could do is ask him to stop jerking off to porn, in hopes of increasing his sensitivity a little. Don't feel bad for feeling insecure because he can't cum with you. Being unable to make a guy get off is naturally going to make you feel bad, because society tells us that men cum easily.

No. 103183

>>103173
i'll definitely suggest this to him.

>>103179
he actually told me he doesn't jerk off as much anymore, and when he does it's to me, not porn. and i'm a big giver so i think seeing my eagerness to please him has also helped his mentality some. he was so patient and loving in regards to my own intimacy issues so i just really want to help him too. we both said the same thing: that sex with each other is the first time it's been physically and emotionally satisfying. that being said…

>He needs therapy, this is beyond something you can help him with.

it hurts to think about this, because i don't think he even realizes how much it really affected him, but this is the most likely answer. i'll talk to him about all my concerns and bring up therapy, and continue being there for him like he's been for me. thanks guys.

No. 103194

>>103172
Not going to try to psychoanalyze your boyfriend or anything, but maybe instead of finishing himself off (I'm assuming he just jacks off manually) you could do it, with his hand over yours as a guide for speed/pressure, if that makes sense? That way, you're involved and touching him still but technically he is guiding the motion. It would help him to be more comfortable with the sensation of you getting him off rather than him. It's worth a try, imo

No. 103196

>>103183
>when he does it's to me, not porn
anon, you sound so sweet but he's most likely lying about this

No. 103201

>>103196
yeah, this would make sense. sometimes guys have trouble cumming with a partner if they jack off too much or become desensitized to graphic content.

No. 103202

>>103196
nta but don't be an ass some men aren't pieces of shit and don't like porn. you don't know anon's life or how often she sees her bf.

No. 103219

>>103194
thank you for this, i'll bring this up as well. i usually help him out by sucking his balls while he manually gets off, but this is a good idea

>>103196
oops you're partly right because i meant to type "it's usually to me." he admitted to watching less porn, not abstaining from it entirely. i'm running on 0 sleep

>>103202
thanks. yeah, we see each other as often as possible and are very honest with each other so i don't think he'd lie about jerking off/watching porn less. i mean, i'll definitely ask him about his sensitivity when i talk to him about all of this but i just worry the issue is more emotional than physical. just want him to be happy and healthy you know?

No. 103221

>>103219
Sorry to ask but is he circumcised?

No. 103223

>>103221
yes he is

No. 103224

>>103223
Ah, so is my boyfriend. I'm in a similar situation (almost thought you were talking about by bf lol I'm insecure) and talking dirty/dressing sexy helps a bit, you know doing more than just physical stimulation

No. 103229

>>103219
What kind of porn does he watch? If it's a specific fetish that he gets off to that you can't cater to (either because multiple people are involved, it's one of those goofy fetishes like inflation, or it's violent and necro/snuff-tier) that could also be an issue. I think that's what >>103201 was getting at with "graphic."

No. 103233

>>103224
i get a little embarrassed when it comes to dirty talk but i'll try to get past it, he seems to like it. will also try dressing sexy. thanks, and good luck with your bf anon

>>103229
i actually don't know what he watches, but we have discussed our kinks/fetishes and his interests are pretty normal so i'd think his stuff would be fairly vanilla and not graphic like what you described

again, thanks everyone for the suggestions. i was nervous and hesitant to post about this but you've all been cool. i think the insecurity was starting to get to me so i'm glad i spoke up. i feel more confident about talking to him about this now

No. 103270

Baby lesbian in her first sexual relationship here. Am I going to look like a complete idiot if I bring up tribbing with my more experienced gf? It seems really hot, the idea of it makes me aroused, and I used to get off to rubbing up on things like pillows. But I heard scissoring doesn't actually feel that good. Should I let the dream die or risk my gf laughing me out of bed if I ask to try it?

No. 103291

>>103270
I mean in general if your partner laughs at your suggestions in a mean way you should leave them but gathering from my past lesbian relationships this is actually quite fun, you should try it. Scrissoring etc might be a meme but for some couples it works, I've had a lot of pleasurig experiences with tribbing even tho is sounds a bit silly in theory.

No. 103300

I always thought I just had a very high sex drive, but I might be a sex addict. I need sex multiple times a day, my body can be all sore and I still want more. Last time I went a day without sex was because my husband was feeling a sharp pain in one of his balls from coming so much. He had to take painkillers for it. A 22yo guy taking pain killers because he had too much sex.
Anyone else like this? Do I need to see a doctor?

No. 103304

>>103300
How often do you masturbate?

No. 103306

>>103300
You need Jesus.

No. 103309

>>103007
You seem not compatible for each other. Ask yourself if there is enough reasons to stick together when your sexual preferences are that different.

>>103146
Just touch her and pet her to find out what you like and what she does like. Don’t take too much pressure it being sex as in double penetrating etc. You can be intimate in so many ways so you just need to find the right way to show it. Touch different parts of her, find what spots she wants you to touch her.
Oh shit, this really makes me miss lesbian relationships…. I’m bi and sex with males are so straight forward with obvious ending.

Try to enjoy the intimacy as itself. You don’t NEED to have sex/penetrate/orgasm to have a real relationship.

No. 103310

>>103304
When I was single multiple times a day, but now that I'm married I prefer having sex.

No. 103311

I want to have sex, it's been a while. I have several guys who'd want to date me but I'm just so fucking insecure. I hate my body, I think every guy will find me ugly and I really don't want to undress. I'm insecure af. And on top of that I don't know what to do. I'm old enough, I have enough experience, but I just feel so insecure lately. Last time a guy I really fancy came close to me and all I thought was "please don't kiss me" now - although I really want us to make out?! I hate myself so much.
How can I gain more confidence and not panic all the time and overthink everything?

No. 103314

>>103311
Perhaps you should just find someone that makes you feel secure?

>>103310
Would it help if you masturbated a bit more?

No. 103330

My bf came out as a foot fetishist and I don't even know what to do or think about it.

No. 103331

>>103330
Enjoy the foot massages

No. 103335

>>103330
How is this even a bad thing? Better than him obsessing over anal and wanting to wreck your colon or something.

No. 103336

>>103330
feet r hot, guys who like feet are hotter.

No. 103338

>>103330
That's tragic. I'm sorry, anon…what a MAJOR turn off.

No. 103350

>>103330
I used to be with a guy who had a thing for my feet. The most we did was a footjob and some toe sucking (as in my toes in his month). Hopefully he's not a huge creep about that and doesn't force you into something you find uncomfortable.
I never really got the appeal, but it's fine if it's nothing gross like showing your foot up his ass.
It was kinda a trade off, I like my ears bitten and licked and it did nothing for him. We just decided to do it for each other because why not if it's not any grosser than regular sex.

No. 103351

>>103330
Sameanon but he would probably let you step on him, a femdom dream!

No. 103353

>>103330
i hate guys with foot fetishes. they're always super sexist with ideas that women must be delicate.

No. 103360

>>103353
These men are also super creepy and gross. There's absolutely nothing hot about feet. Feet are disgusting and a totally non sexual part of the body.

No. 103371

>>103300
How did you feel when going the day without sex? A sex addict would probably act crazy and moody like junkies do. Maybe you're at that "functional" level though, like functional alcoholics.

Maybe incorporate masturbation or using toys to give your husband's dick a break. If the sex impedes on your life, consider therapy.

No. 103372

>>103300
Can't you just put a vibrator in or Ben Wa balls and keep them in there most of the time? Or go see a sex positive therapist

No. 103376

>>103314
>>103372
You guys are right. My desire is for sex but I should try to make do with masturbation.
>>103371
I was quite frustrated but I didn't lash out on anybody so that's good. I'll shop for a toy and try more masturbation if my husband gets overwhelmed again. At 31 I think my sex drive might slow down a bit in the future too.

No. 103378

I don’t know if I’m really asking for advice or just want to vent. But anyways…

The other day I talked to my friend about sex stuff and how she used to have a girlfriend that had so many orgasms. How she sometimes just had to insert a finger to make her come and how she had like 15 orgasms in just 2hours.

And it just bums me out because I barely ever orgasm during sex. Even when I masturbate I only come from clitoral stimulation and need insane amounts of pressure/vibration.

I feel like I’m genuinely broken. I even searched up online if there’s maybe some kind of surgery that heightens my sensitivity down there.

Is there a way to learn becoming so highly orgasmic or some kind of surgery to make things more sensitive? I know this is dumb but … y’know or do I just have to accept that I’m never going to have that kind of experience in my life?

I read that Ben Wa balls etc to make vaginal orgasms easier to acheive, but I feel like they genuinely do nothing for me? It’s like wearing a tampon. I always read how they’re supposed to train your muscle because you have to hold them in but there’s literally no possible position that makes it feel like they might fall out or like I have to ‘grab’ them?

Just everything about my vagina starts makes me feel sexually inept and it sucks and makes me hate myself in general.

inb4
>you just have to stop pressuring yourself :^)
This has been a problem ever since. I never even realized there were women that regularly orgasm during sex. I only realized after about 4 months into my second relationship when the guy asked me if I ever had an orgasm and I realized that the only orgasm I had so far was from a girl going down on me for literally an hour.
I never felt pressured to have an orgasm. But I’m starting to. I genuinely don’t know what to do.

No. 103379

>>103376
wait, you're 31 and sexually exhausted a 22 year old? it's fine to enjoy sex but if you crave it that much I highly suggest getting it checked out with a doctor

No. 103380

>>103379
>31
Could be a weird unconscious urge to have babies soon lol

No. 103382

>>103379
Most of the time he can keep up but in the end I'm pretty much milking him dry. He doesn't even ejaculate more than a few drops.
>>103380
We're making plans to have a baby in the next couple years.

No. 103390

>>103360
You could say the same about legs or ears lmao. What a weird thing to be angry about, it's not like it can be helped.

Also not sure what >>103353 means since many of them love stinky feet/enjoy being stepped on. That said, having a foot fetish doesn't make someone inherently misogynistic dom or inherently sub, it's pretty neutral.
t. foot fetishist (and yes I'm a woman, we're out here)

No. 103415

>>103330
On the plus side if you indulge him, you have a free pass to ask him to indulge any kinks you may have that he may not share. My girlfriend likes feet and I like pee, we don't share each others fetishes but we're not bothered by indulging the other in what she likes. I would be happy my partner shared their fetish with me, it means they trust you to be open with you even about embarassing things.

No. 103425

>>103390
How did you get angry from that? Way to project. Sorry not everyone has the same likes and opinions as you. Foot fetishes are gross.

No. 103430

>>103378

vasopressin

No. 103431

>>103425
Sorry. I'm just not sure why you're so disgusted by people into something harmless, but it's obviously fine lol. It just read as a strong reaction over text, but clearly I was mistaken.

No. 103446

I'm a female and my bf is a bisexual man who's expressed how much he loves being anally penetrated. He's told me he's usually a "power bottom" type and has been pegged by girls before, although I've never done any kind of anal penetration even with myself and the thought is a little daunting.

He's usually very dominant and has expressed how he's more than satisfied with our sex life. I've told him before pegging/penetrating him is something I'm intrigued by and I'm slowly working up the courage to do it but I'm not sure where to start? Should I try with my fingers first? How do I go about asking if I can penetrate him in a way that isn't awkward as fuck? I've done a fair bit of research but porn kinda grosses me out and online articles come off a little disingenuous or targeted to only hetero guys.

No. 103452

>>103446
Maybe visit a sex toy shop with him? You could start with just plain fingers/anal plugs and work your way up there. Even if he would be ready for more from the very start you might also need to get adjusted to the thought so that might be a good way to go. Ofc if he already has some toys just try them out together.

No. 103454

How do I ride a guy? I've tried looking up so much but just trying to implement what I see in advice blogs suck. I can't keep a rhythm or do it effectively or elegantly for long. Any anons with hacks or tips?

No. 103455

>>103454
I asked the same question a few weeks ago and got this answer >>102390

No. 103457

>>103455
Thank you for the link! Have you tried it since getting that advice? How was it?

No. 103461

>>103452
Thanks for the advice! Yeah, he has quite a few toys which are intimidatingly big I'll admit.

No. 103463

>>103378
I lost my virginity five months ago, but only had my first orgasm two months ago.

Emotions definitely play a large part in it for me, both times have been when I've felt super lovely-dovey or when we've really missed each other.

Clitoral stimulation is uncomfortable for me, it just feels too sensitive and becomes painful really quickly. All of my orgasms have happened in the cowgirl position.

No. 103478

>>103463
Usually if my clit is too sensitive, I go for the area above it, technically the clitoral hood.

No. 103484

>>103478
I thought that's the norm before I read about all those anons with sensitive clits and realized they are touching it kinda directly. Like of course that wouldn't be pleasant. I don't go straight ahead for it but like pull it, stroke it while going for areas nearby but still feeling the movements and pleasure in the clit. It's great.
But maybe that's me and ppl actually go straight for the clit lol. Dunno man I flinch at the thought.

No. 103485

>>103478
I thought that's the norm before I read about all those anons with sensitive clits and realized they are touching it kinda directly. Like of course that wouldn't be pleasant. I don't go straight ahead for it but like pull it, stroke it while going for areas nearby but still feeling the movements and pleasure in the clit. It's great.
But maybe that's me and ppl actually go straight for the clit lol. Dunno man I flinch at the thought.

No. 103486

How the FUCK do I make guys cum?

My current boyfriend is 27 and I'm the only other person he's ever been sexually intimate with. We do a variety of sexual acts, I try new positions with him, indulge his kinks, and I cannot get him to cum. Not through PIV, not through a handjob or a blowjob, nothing. He always has to finish himself off and its driving me crazy. It's getting to the point where I don't really want to do anything intimate with him because it feels totally pointless. I'm sure he still enjoys having someone else touch his dick but it's not fun for me to get fucked for a bit or suck dick and then have to wait for him to jerk off and finish, it just totally kills my mood.

I've tried asking him before what I can do or if theres stuff he wants to try or anything and he doesnt have any answers.

No. 103490

>>103486
I mean if he can't tell you how it's not really your fault… I know it's frustrating as fuck but you can only do as much. It's always fun when some else touches your junk, so I don't think it's your fault. I know it's a shitty answer but sometimes they just gotta do it on their own, if even their guiding doesn't help.

No. 103511

>>103486
he has death grip and/or a porn addiction. you can't do anything. trust me i've been down this path. he needs to be willing to change on his own, or nothing will work.

No. 103518

I’m writing this on my phone so sorry for any typos. Anyways, there’s this guy at work I’m trying to get to be more open with me. We both work at target but in different departments. I’m in style and he’s in electronics. I’ve been trying to get him more interested in my by talking to him more and helping him out when he gets busy but he only ever really talks to me as a coworker. He hadn’t asked me for my number or follow me on social media. I know he is currently single. Is it possible to ask someone out without coming across as a desperate creep?

No. 103521

>>103511
this. he needs to practice jerking off with lube and not using a death grip until he reconditions his dick to ejaculate to a lighter touch. my ex had the same issue and using lube and and not watching porn helped him (well, til he went on antidepressants, but that's another story).

so take heart, anon, it's not your fault.

No. 103541

>>103484
no yeah, if i go straight for the clit, its only if nothing else is working that day and my hand is getting tired

No. 103542

>>103486
This is not normal. I agree that the guy probably has a porn addiction. Did you ask him about that?

No. 103543

>>103485
You can also masturbate over your clothes/underwear.

No. 103551

I really like submissive guys and tying them up. My bf is not specifically into this but wants me to tie him up anyway because he knows I like it.
Thing is though, I only like it if the guy is really into it, even better if he's kind of embarrassed about it but can't hide it. I think it's more of a humiliation thing plus I find it really cute.
Since my bf would be just doing me a favour I'm not that excited about it but when I try to explain it to him he doesn't really understand. What do?

No. 103568

>>103551
Your bf sounds like a natural submissive though, doing something specifically because you like it, not just because it gets him hard. That's super cute.

No. 103573

>>103568
That’s not necessarily submissive though. Especially being tied up can be a very vanilla thing if the dynamics aren’t ‚properly’ D/s which seems to be the case with TA‘s boyfriend.

>>103551
Been there, but if he doesn’t understand I can’t really offer any other advice besides trying to really make him understand what your problem is. I mean, I don’t really what part of „It doesn’t really give me any pleasure if you’re doing it for me because you know I like it, not because you do“ there is that he could not understand.

Is there maybe anything you could offer him as a kind of substitution? Like, blindfolding or anything? This way he can still feel like he’s doing you a favor and making you happy and it’s less frustrating(?) for you?

No. 103578

>>103573
It's not even the being tied up part, in fact the action has nothing to do with D/s but rather SM. The fact that he doesn't even particularly enjoy it, but does it because she wants it is literally the definition of submission.

No. 103583

>>103578
that's not how subs work.

No. 103584

>>103583
It's exactly how subs work. It's not the action, but the intention behind the action. A lot of people mix up submissive/bottom and dominant/top.
For example, a girl regularly tells her boyfriend to tie her up and beat her. It's not really his thing, but he knows it makes her happy and does it to please her, and he gets pleasure from that. The girl isn't a sub in this situation but she is a bottom, she's still calling the shots. The man is still the sub here. The sub's main purpose is to submit to the dominant's will after all.

No. 103586

>>103584
lmao, no.

No. 103587

>>103584
The thing though is, a sub still enjoys doing stuff they’re not suggesting themselves because of the power dynamics. They enjoy being told what to do and serving their Dom.
That’s not the case with >>103551. He ASKS her to do this, even though he doesn’t really want it himself and anon doesn’t get what she wants from it either. It’s not a D/s situation just because you’re tied up. And that’s why they’re struggling. He can’t just fulfill the physical desire when the power dynamics is what it’s actually about in the first place.

>I only like it if the guy is really into it

>even better if he's kind of embarrassed about it but can't hide it.
>I think it's more of a humiliation thing

THIS is what a sub would behave like. Because they’re put in a situation they don’t particularly enjoy but still get pleasure out of due to the psychological factors.

No. 103589

>>102887
Anyone else get extremely wet during sex, like too wet? After a couple minutes I'll just be completely soaked and it honestly kinda ruins the sensation a little because there's like 0 friction. It'll go from struggling to put it in, can barely move cause it's so big and within a few minutes we have to stop so I can wipe down cause it's just slipping out. What's the point of a big dick bf if I can't enjoy it half the time?
I don't know what to do about this

No. 103599

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Alright, so this is something that is really starting to piss me off. I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend, we are long distance, and going strong (Visiting him here in a few days) but… i literally can't cum now from masturbation, or it takes me literal hours, and it used to take me only about 4-7 mins at most. I feel so fucking pent up and even using toys wont work, i miss feeling how warm and hard he got, I miss kissing, and that deep emotional connection, how can I get over this? I used to masturbate literally every single night, and make myself cum over and over again, but it's been almost a month dry now, and i'm going fucking crazy.

No. 103600

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My boyfriend is really sweet and we both love each other but I'm disappointed that he doesn't initiate sex more. I have asked him about this before and he says ok but he still doesn't seem to ever be spontaneous, or take me into his arms or come over to me unprompted…he seems to love me a lot, and we have good sex when I initiate it (which he knows is difficult for me as I am very shy), it just makes me feel bad..am I doing something wrong? Do I have unrealistic expectations? Am I looking at a gift horse in the mouth?

No. 103601

>>103599
Have you tried phone sex or skype sex anon. I'm not joking I'm being serious

No. 103609

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>>103601
About every week or so we get in a video call and masturbate together, which I enjoy, it's more pleasurable than alone but I still just can't cum, it's frustrating because i feel like i'm always on the edge but I can't get over it, even with talking dirty for hours before and taking my time.

No. 103610

>>103600
I don't think it's unrealistic at all, some dudes are better at it than others naturally but my boyfriend can be the same way at times, so usually, I attempt to tease him until he takes action, talking sensually, wearing lewd clothing, ect. Have you tried that or anything like it? If it doesn't work, maybe try to ask him to try something new, like set up a time frame for a surprise fucking

No. 103626

>>103610
Are dudes actually into lingerie? I've never tried out wearing purposefully sexy lingerie before.

No. 103641

>>103600
My ex kinda was like that. Like, he did love me and was actually quite touchy-feely, but basically never initiated sex, even though he did enjoy it.
For him sex just wasn’t as big a deal. He also masturbated like less than 5 times in a year. Not because he didn’t like it, but he just didn’t see the point in it.

Idk if it’s the same for your bf though. But I wouldn’t read too much into it.

No. 103645

>>103626
They do like it, but don’t care nearly as much about as the media suggests. It’s nice to get all made up every once in a while but as soon as the action starts they don’t care anymore.

Depends on the guy though. There are some that find it a massive turn on if you keep wearing it during sex. But I’d say the majority prefers to be able to actually touch you and feel your skin.

No. 103664

>>103446
>bisex man
He gonna give you STDs

No. 103672

>>103626
i think most older guys are, but young guys? no

No. 103674

>>103610
Uh, what do you actually say when you talk sensually ?
It sounds dumb, but I'm all ready to be sensual and shit, but I have no idea what to say

No. 103696

>>103600
My boyfriend is also like >>103641 great at sex never initiates anything unless we've been making out for a solid hour, doesn't get even obvious hints, doesn't watch porn but admits to instead thinking about past sex we've had. I once drunkenly put some porn on to be a 'cool gf' during sex and he outright asked to put it off.

I think we expect all guys to be porn damaged pigs because so many so we see these decent ones as weird, but maybe they have a lower libido too. If you learn to be selfish enough to just initiate it whenever you want it, they're a treasure.

>>103626
Sometimes they're too dense to notice a nice matching set but I've yet to meet a man that doesn't lose his shit over simple stockings with a belt

No. 103697

Can you train your tongue?

I have my first girlfriend and a week ago I performed oral sex on her - also a first for me. I did it twice again since and I feel like I’m really bad at it because I can’t do it very long. After about 10 minutes my tongue and especially its frenulum hurt. The last time I did it was more than 24hrs ago and the frenulum still hurts. It’s also a bit red and swollen from rubbing over my teeth.
I also became a little nauseous once from having my tongue out of my mouth for so long (which isn’t unusual - I become nauseous from sticking my tongue out for a long time without sex as well).

I’d love to be able to do it for more than a few minutes because I love the way she reacts and tastes. If it was for me I’d be eating her out all day long. But damn… just thinking about it makes my tongue ache.
Please tell me it gets better with time.

No. 103698

>>103696
Op of that post here, I feel. Me and my bf are totally vanilla and we have an incredibly strong emotional connection - he is extremely gentle and sweet to me. I guess I'm used to men being sex-obsessed assholes that it takes some adjusting when you actually start dating someone who acts like a human being.

Thank you for the input.

Also, I'm a little shy to wear lingerie, but I feel like I want to someday. My boyfriend doesn't even expect me to shave or anything like that so I feel like it would be ultra brazen of me. Seconding what >>103674 said, most of our sex is purely emotionally-based and we don't really talk super dirty or sensually. So sometimes I want to say something but idk how to say it.

>>103697
How hard are you doing it? Try being gentler, it can feel better if you're gentler and a tease, you can give your tongue rests and turn on your gf.

No. 103706

>>103697
When I went out my ex gf I did try to train my tongue by putting my finger in my mouth. Idk, it didn't really improve my muscles(?) but I did learn how to be more gentle with it, how to move it in certain ways etc. so it def was not in vain (according to her).

No. 103708

>>103698
>>103706

I‘m not doing it that hard tbh, it also happens when I‘m being gentle. I asked my girlfriend and she says I‘m doing great, pressure/technique-wise.
I think it’s genuinely just from moving it so much/for such a long time out of my mouth.

I also do pause every now and then but it just doesn’t seem to be enough time to recover. Like, when I go back to using my tongue it feels like I never stopped.

No. 103718

>>103708
You can use your lips when your tongue gets tired anon!

No. 103758

>>102975
Do NOT just start eating ass during a BJ. Any asshole stuff is niche enough to avoid.

No. 103759

>>103114
Hot damn, that is pathetic. Can’t even imagine what kind of a virgin weeb you are to actually get off to that. It blows my mind how there’s even a market for it lol

No. 103762

i guess this is more like asking for a masturbation advice but whatever. i'm a virgin and i've always been masturbating by humping stuff. i've tried to masturbate by touching my clit but it just feels too sensitive and uncomfortable. i haven't tried to finger myself yet but i think it's going to feel too sensitive as well. is there anything wrong with me or is there a right way to masturbate by directly touching your clit that i don't know about?

No. 103764

>>103759
Right cause watching videos on pornhub isn't anymore pathetic. You got her, anon.

No. 103766

>>103762
I think most rub around it not directly at it because it's so sensitive.

No. 103769

>>103762
I never go directly for the clit. I always rub the area above it. I also find it a lot more pleasurable to rub up and down on either side of the clit (mostly the right) instead of going from left to right.

I do find fingering uncomfortable, however I’m fine with toys, especially those made out of glass.

No. 103770

>>103759
It might be pathetic of her (we are on an imageboard after all) but not actually harmful like supporting the porn industry is.

No. 103771

How do you all use your fingers in your own vag anyway? I think I have t-rex arms, I can barely reach inside. Good thing the clit is outside not inside.

No. 103773

>>103759
>on an imageboard
>hub for anime shit
>responding to an 8 day old post just to call them pathetic
>I-I'm totally over my weeb phase unlike you!
Did you just hop in from PULL? Chill out.

No. 103784

>>103769
What's so good about those made of glass?

No. 103786

probably more if a vent but here goes…I’m bisexual in a straight relationship and I don’t like getting fucked…when we do it I always picture myself the one on “top” instead and it bums me out. I’m so uncomfortable with being in any vulnerable or exposing positions. when I had sex with women I was the same way and would rather give it out than receive…my fiance is wonderful and I’m very much in love but I know our sex life is declining and its causing him to feel unwanted. I havent told him explicitly why cause I’m afraid of him feeling sexually defeated, but I’m sure me saying “I’m not in the mood” all the time is already doing just that. He’s interested in getting fucked with a strap-on, which we havent tried just yet, but I know if I had it my way I’d just fuck him all the time RIP. I want to be more dominant but I know he prefers to be as well and it’s canceling out. i just feel terrible and stupid.

No. 103787

>>103771
idk if my vag is weird but i don't really have to reach too far to hit the right spot, like just half of my fingers lenght is good.

Also I was just wondering… How can you tell if you're tight? Like can you measure it with fingers or. what.

No. 103820

>>103102
i can't get down to otome cd shit. japanese is just too feminine for me.

No. 103827

>>103786
Same disposition and that's my nightmare anon, falling in love with a dom. Sounds awful.
How does he feel about cowgirl? That might make you feel more in control as well as provide his desire for vaginal. Unless he's also into gross shit like holding you down, choking, and hair pulling.

No. 103874

>>103786
Fuck him asap before things start to fall apart. If you could regularly rotate top/bottom that would be good.

Best scenario is him turning in to a butt slut if he finds it enjoyable enough, would be no compromises in your relationship then.

No. 103878

Is it normal to start crying when a penis goes deep in your vagina? My eyes well up and tears stream down my face because the fullness feels so good. How do I stop this cause I'd rather not have my boyfriend think I'm crying while he's fucking me and I'd rather not look like a mess.

No. 103879


No. 103891

>>103878
It's surprisingly common to cry during sex but it depends on what you emotionally are feeling. As long as it feels good and you're happy there's nothing to worry about. I also cry during sex because I get overwhelmed by positive emotion. I thought there was something wrong with me but looking online there seems to be plenty of women who do the same.

No. 103897

>>102887
ladies I need some advice on how to handle a big dick. Recently started seeing this guy and I pulled out his dick and its MASSIVE. I've only had sex with average penises plus I'm a very small person so i'm afraid of having my vagina ripped to shreds. Any advice?

No. 103900

>>103897
as long as you're properly aroused, you should be good.

No. 103901

>>103897
>>103589

This is the sex advice thread, not brag about your bfs big dick thread like a teen.

Yes I'm jealous.

No. 103902

>>103897
If it isn't comfortable don't do it basically. Maybe you are mismatched, maybe you are not.

No. 103903

>>103901
it's also not the jelly cunt thread either, but you posted anyway.

No. 103906

>>103897
>I'm a very small person so i'm afraid of having my vagina ripped to shreds.
Ot, but I always wondered about this: does the size/tightness of your vagina really correlate with your height?

No. 103907


No. 103908

>>103897
Get a big dildo to practice

No. 103910

>>103891
Thanks anon I'd never heard anyone else talk about this. Yeah I get this overwhelming feeling of happiness. Did your partner ever question why you're crying or notice? I'm worried he's going to notice and it will put him off.

No. 103917

>>103906
Definitely no.
My ex once told me how his ex was very tight (in fact so tight it sometimes was uncomfortable for him) and her and I are basically the same height. I‘m on the wider side though.

No. 103979

>>103878
You're not alone. I don't outright cry, but I can sometimes feel it almost happening esp during missionary. That's a really emotionally intimate position for me.

>>103910
Just be honest with him. If he's not a moron he'll understand that the body sometimes just has a weird reaction to things.

>>103897
Lots of lube and go slow. I'm not sure if its something you can adjust to though. My ex had a huge dick and I just never could get used to it. Got to a point where I dreaded sex bc I knew it would be painful and that just didn't help me relax, which made it painful, etc.

>>103906
I'd imagine height might have some correlation with depth, but I'm no gynecologist.

No. 104008

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How do you enjoy sex?
I feel like I've never really enjoyed having sex.
What I enjoy the most is the feeling of anticipation and being wanted, but the actual process of sex is extremely unsatisfying, painful or boring.
I've both had sex in and out of long term relationships and it usually feels the same. It's "exciting" for the first couple of times (maybe a couple of months in a long term relationship) and then it suddenly becomes a chore.
I'm finding it difficult to discern whether I genuinely dislike sex as a whole, or if I become unattracted to the people I'm with and my body is trying to tell me. I am attracted to my partner physically and I have been physically attracted to the other people I've been with. It almost feels as if the only thing I sexually desired is "being wanted" and "being sexy".

Also, am I a prude for not wanting to engage in any sexual activity at all when I live with my partner and their parents? They constantly reassure me that their parents can't hear it (I know they can) but I just cannot get into the mood at fucking all. The entire situation feels so fucking suffocating and forced, so when we do have sex, it's them just pumping away for however long until they cum and it's over, almost all in silence. There's never any chances to experiment or god forbid raise our voices because one of them is unemployed and stays home 24/7, every single day.

tl;dr how do you know if you truly dislike sex or if you CAN like it, but somehow every single person you've had sex with become immediately or near immediately unattractive to you and the sex sucks

No. 104009

>>104008
Have sex with people you’re attracted to? Stop going into sex with this fantasy of everything being passion and flowers and go into it just looking to get off?
It’s all in your head bro, stop thinking so much and get into the physical feelings of penetration, getting eaten out, etc. Do what everyone else does in unhappy relationships and pretend it’s someone else.

No. 104011

>>104008
I am similar to you anon. Even when I found a guy I found the sex to be pleasant with, I got bored and started dreading it after a few months. I think personality is more important for me in long term attraction, hence boredom once the novelty wears off or it feels like a chore.
No solution except for find someone with a sexy mind/personality.

No. 104016

>>104008
There's an understanding now that your sex drive is a balance between what turns you on and inhibitors. Inhibitors are stronger than turn-ons in most people. So work on removing the inhibitors, aka move out. If you can't have sex because there's always someone there who might hear you (and his parents at that), that's really your only option.

>>104009
If anon actually gets into it to get off the guy's parents are going to hear, which is awkward af. Totally understand why she can't relax.

No. 104069

>>104008
Foreplay is essential and personally privacy is an absolute must for me. I have to be somewhere I can make as much noise as I want and express myself fully during sex. Then I can get fully into every sensation. Sex is a lot more than someone pumping away at you like a doll, there's a lot of trust and figuring someone out before I even let them penetrate me.

>The entire situation feels so fucking suffocating and forced


This is a problem. Please don't let him do this to you. Boundaries are something that need to be set in a trusting relationship and he's overstepping yours which is causing you to resent him. No wonder you feel no attraction to someone who is constantly causing you discomfort.

No. 104542

Are there actually that many guys that have trouble coming from getting head?

I‘ve only had sex with two guys - one easily came from it and the second one (my bf) only came from it twice in 3 years. He says he does have issues with it and has met only one other girl who‘s made him cum like that and that it doesn’t mean I‘m bad at giving head. In fact, he’s told me several times that I‘m quite good at it.

However, I sometimes feel like it is my lack of skill. But then again I see memes about guys glorifying that ~one girl that can make them cum from head.

It’s confusing. How can I tell if I’m actually good and it’s death grip or if I’m just not good enough?

No. 104543

>>104542
The trick to making a guy come from a bj is to actually suck, so you can feel your cheeks go inwards

No. 104546

>>104542
It really varies a lot by each guy. I have given head to guys who have finished in minutes but the guy I've been seeing takes like 20-30 minutes but says I give the best head he's ever had. It might just be that he has issues with it, like he said! But you can try different techniques and stuff to see if it would help of course.

>play with his balls/squeeze lightly

>foreplay! work your way down to his dick slowly, kiss his stomach lightly along the way
>try different bj techniques and see what he responds to best
>ask him what he wants you to do, communicate a lot and have him tell you ahead of time what would get him off

the method I use that every guy has told me is the best head he's ever had is the hand/mouth combo, kind of hard to explain but I'll try! basically just put your hand on the shaft and lightly twist around and move your head in the opposite direction if that makes sense? and make sure it's v wet. it's basically the grapefruit technique, but just ur hand, no fruit involved lmfao

it gives the sensation of constantly deep throating him

No. 104548

>>104542
I've never had any issues (guys even slightly prefer it to PIV, km) and I think it's because I used to suck my thumb. Practice with your thumb and you will get used to covering your teeth with your lips+having things in there in general.

No. 104558

anyone have advice for sex with someone who overheats really easily? my boyfriend is a person who is just hot all the time in general, so of course during sex he gets uncomfortable from overheating and sweating so we end up stopping after like ten minutes. we run two fans (one on the ceiling and one from the side lol) during sex but it happens anyways. are there more creative ways to keep him cooled off that i'm not thinking of?

No. 104560

So my mental health has been shit lately and my sex drive is basically non-existent because of it. The thing is, having sex and masturbating really help calm me down. I tried masturbating yesterday and it felt like I scratching myself even though I was trying to be as delicate as possible, maybe because I was so stressed out I felt detached from my body. I ended up having an orgasm, but it took like 10 minutes more than usual and I felt sore afterwards.
Any anons have similar issues? I just want to get myself in the mood and relieve myself comfortably.

No. 104561

>>104560
just always use lube.

No. 104562

>>102971
this might be stupid to say, but a couple months ago i realized how much better it is for the guy if you flick/swirl your tongue, especially on that weird bit on the underside of the head.

No. 104563

Can someone tell me how the hell you get your bf to do foreplay? I am his first sexual partner and I tell him from time to time I want him to give me head/finger me/touch me/make out with me.. and he gets upset and just says he will do it next time. Then the next time comes and It's the same thing.. he pushes his dick against me and pulls out the lube and that's that.

It's so frustrating because he gets annoyed at me trying to talk to him about how to pleasure me. Why are men so selfish these days in bed??

No. 104564

>>104543
>>104546
>>104562

Thanks you guys. It kinda affirms the assumption that it’s rather just the way my bf is than my technique cause all of those are things that I’m doing.

>start slow and build up

>suck with teeth covered and cheeks inward
>deepthroat simulation with hands (as well as real deepthroat, actually)
>play with balls, even sometimes finger his butthole a little cause he’s really into that
>swirl tongue around frenulum

He loses his mind especially over the last one, but even if I do it for 10 minutes straight he’ll still not cum. Like, he’ll not be able to talk but orgasm? Nah.
I tried sucking more once because another guy told me that got him off within seconds but my bf said it hurt.

Another thing I just remembered is that the closest we’ve been to cumming from it is after the holidays when we didn’t have sex and he didn’t masturbate for like 2 days. Usually we have sex about 2-3 times a day plus him masturbating every morning. So yeah. That probably has to do with it as well.

No. 104565

>>104564
definitley think it has to do with masturbation. dudes who masturbate everyday are impossible to make cum from head unless i do a jackhammer arm motion until i get carpal tunnel, lol

No. 104566

>>104564
yeah get him to stop masturbating/watching porn, doesn't seem like an issue w you

No. 104568

How to find a male partner who will orgasm easily? As in what traits affect that?
I'd rather premature ejaculation than what all these never-nut-men anons deal with.

No. 104569

How to find a male partner who will orgasm easily? As in what traits affect that?
I'd rather premature ejaculation than what all these never-nut-men anons deal with.

No. 104570

How to find a male partner who will orgasm easily? As in what traits affect that?
I'd rather premature ejaculation than what all these never-nut-men anons deal with.

No. 104571

How to find a male partner who will orgasm easily? As in what traits affect that?
I'd rather premature ejaculation than what all these never-nut-men anons deal with.

No. 104576

>>104558
Maybe find a cold pack or cool patches that stay in place and don't get in the way. if you do put them on the lower back/kidneys, a lot of blood circulates through there.

No. 104577

>>104571
based taste. what you want is young, dumb and full of cum.

No. 104578

>>104571
Find a man who doesn’t masturbate or watch porn often. I had a Chinese bf who was a Virgin, barely watched porn or jacked off and he came just from being in the same room as me lol

If a man watches a lot of porn and jacks off a lot his dick is already ruined by death grip and porn ideas about sex. Sex is boring and too drawn out if they take to long to cum and it’s annoying too.

No. 104583

>>104558
Shower sex? Maybe having sex on the floor would be cooler too.

No. 104588

>>104578
So how long is too long for sex then?

I used to talk to a guy who bragged that he could last hours. At first it sounded appealing, but I don't think I'd enjoy it that long.

No. 104594

>>104588
Not same anon but it really depends on the moment/situation I feel? I've had sex for 4 hours recently with this guy I'm mad into and I have to admit it was great but it really did drag on for so long. I would have been happy at two. We even stopped halfway through to grab some water lol. There are other times where I've had sex for 10 minutes and it's just as good as having sex for a half hour. I'd say 15-30 minutes is good enough as long as there is a decent amount of foreplay beforehand, but even an hour tops is fine.

No. 104666

how do I stop being so goddamn horny all the time? I would have sex 3x a day if I could

No. 104723

why do straight guys want to eat a girls ass? it doesn’t feel good at all tbh.

No. 104726

>>104723
i don't understand how any kind of anal stimulation would feel good for a woman, maybe it's the psychological aspect of it, i don't know. i think most of these guys who are into anal or eating ass are probably way too influenced by porn or are gay in denial

No. 104727

>>104723
i like it, its very tingly

No. 104728

>>104726
the asshole has a lot of nerves anon, it does feel good. i feel like most women who don't like it just have hangups about it being their butt. or like in your case associate it with their guy being gay. it's okay to be massively insecure, anon!

No. 104734

>>104728
if you enjoy anal you do you, i just personally don't see what's there for it to be enjoyable. and yeah, it's pretty gay if a guy prefers anal to piv

No. 104737

>>104728
eh licking or a massage around the asshole is alright, but actual anal isn't enjoyable at all imo

getting your ass ate isn't anything to write home about, when you have a whole clitoris to work with tbh

No. 104739

>>104563
He sounds like a lost cause, and if it's only about him why have sex together? Dump him.
>>104728
I literally feel nothing in this area, so any stimulation there is boring as hell. Maybe some women have their nerves aligned so they like it but don't shit on those who don't.

No. 104740

>>104728
do you feel the same about a man who refuses to have his ass eaten?

No. 104741

>>104728
You can dislike it even without hangups. I used to enjoy anal sex with a partner who always got me off with dp, but it's not something I can be bothered to do ever again. I let my current partner try eating it once but I'd rather do something different and now he's done it he also got over the taboo appeal. I respect other people enjoy different things but it doesn't make you prude or asexual if you don't enjoy anal.
I'd rather not risk roids from penetration or causing ecoli poisoning either

No. 104742

>>104728
Anal doesn’t feel the same to everyone though. Sometimes the nerves are placed in such a way that anal stimulates the same kind of nerves as your clitoris/g-spot. But to some it just feels like pooping in reverse.

>>104734
That’s bullshit. The asshole feels extremely different from a vagina. It’s tighter, has a completely different texture, different muscle movements… you just can’t compare the two. Therefore men might enjoy some variation once in while, some prefer the one some the other.
And you know what makes a man gay? Being into men. Liking dicks, flat, hairy chests, beards.
A man can enjoy fucking a girl’s ass while playing with her clitoris, fingering her, playing with her breasts etc. That not what a gay man would do for pleasure.
It‘s the same as saying any girl that likes being fingered or eaten out is a lesbian just because that’s what lesbians do, too.

No. 104752

I spent all my formative years being a virginal anachan and now I want to experiment more sexually but I fell in love w this dude that, although I adore, very rarely makes me come and my sex drive has shot up. I'm considering suggesting a monogamish relationship (occassional sex with STDless people with advance permission) but I don't want him to take it badly or think I'm going to cheat. I just have a much higher sexdrive and we're into very different sex acts.

No. 104753

>>104752
fuck off and just date someone else. if sex is important and it doesn't work then it won't work out.

No. 104755

So generally my bf gets horny and I let him fuck me even though I'm not horny myself. It's not satisfying because I feel pressured to orgasm without having a "warm up" beforehand and he'll hold off as long as possible but generally cums before me. He'll feel guilty and will try to help me finish but at that point he's not into it at all (which is a huge turn-off for me). Recently he said that when he does try to initiate foreplay, I don't enjoy it either. But most of the time he just goes straight to rubbing my vag, ofc I'm not going to enjoy that?

I feel bad because I could tell that this upsets him. There are times where we have great sex but idk what's different. I have no idea how to fix this problem. I'm sorry I can't be horny 24 hours a day like him?

No. 104756

>>104755
because he's not a mind reader?? tell him exactly what kind of foreplay you need! most women like the "straight to rubbing my vag" type and would consider that foreplay, and you don't so tell him that!

No. 104757

>>104742
Oral and fingering can be performed by both men and women and be enjoyable, you do know that women don't have prostates right?

No. 104761

>>104756
I let him know that I don't like that and ik it sounds embarrassing but I'm not really sure what I like (before sex, I know exactly what I like during sex, thankfully)? I guess the best I can think of is when he mentions sex casually throughout the day so I'm thinking about it and I know it's coming later, that makes me really horny. I've read some online tips and they seem really dorky ngl lol.

No. 104762

>>104761
so tell him that? tell him verbal foreplay really turns you on

No. 104766

>>104755
Is this your first sexual relationship?
Letting him just fuck you when you're not into it, even if you're telling yourself that you don't really mind, can cause lasting psychological associations that can damage your ability to actually enjoy sex. What happens if you tell him you don't feel like it? I'm actually kind of worried anon

As for finding what works for you, this sounds cliche but I recommend lots of self touching when you're calm eg in the bath so you know what works best on yourself. I don't want to be an asshole but if aren't able to tell him you enjoy dirty talk, the both of you need to work on communicating as a couple.

No. 104780

I started dating someone recently and he is obsessed with licking my butthole. I've never encountered this before and I guess I'm okay with it (as long as I don't have to kiss him afterwards) just don't understand what the appeal is of eating an ass. Can anyone explain?

No. 104789

>>104780
It's taboo, considered filthy, associated with degeneracy, etc. It could potentially be risky (even a squeaky clean butt can harbor harmful bacteria). It also puts the receptive partner in an extremely vulnerable position. He's exposing a body part that is rarely seen and touched, and shoving his face right in it. Maybe he likes that aspect of it? Ask him and see what he says.

No. 104791

>>104726
It can feel really good, I find that it feels like an intense g spot stimulation

No. 104792

>>104726
My boyfriend is obsessed with anal and is a former porn addict, I've always been convinced that's the reason. I've done anal with him a couple times and it sucked for me because I didn't prep to loosen it a little and he just jammed it in with a bunch of lube and his dick is pretty big. The only time anal ever felt good for me was using a small vibrator and the reason I liked it because I could feel the vibrations in my vagina lol. I really wish porn didn't brainwash dudes into liking anal, I hate having to do an enema to be clean just to get no pleasure out of sex.

No. 104797

Damn some posts here are like reading about the Victorian period. No ladies, you don't have to lie back and think of England while suffering through sex acts you don't want. You can say no, tell him what you like and dump him if he doesn't listen.
We might have escaped the 1800s and gone through decades of feminism but porn is really shaping men negatively now to be selfish rapey bastards. However that doesn't mean we have to accept it.

No. 104799

>>104797
exactly, I find it really sad that a lot of problems here could be easily resolved with simply saying "no". It reads like such a thought never goes through anons' heads since "my bf likes it". Respect yourselves more

No. 104800

>>104792

time to turn the tables and insist on pegging him.

"Either everyone's butt is game or no one's is"

You can also say no.

No. 104812

>>104726
To me it literally feels like an internal clitoral stimulation, while during PIV I most of the time feel nothing.
It‘s anatomy and also a mental thing. For some women it works, for some it doesn’t. No reason to shame either.

However, no one should ever feel obliged to do it just bc their bf wants it. If you don‘t want it (for whatever reason), don‘t do it.

No. 104820

>>104762
I'll try letting him know again but his previous attempts at talking dirty were so bad omg.

>>104766
Yeah I could see how all of this sounds bad out of context but the worst that would happen if I said I wasn't into it is he'd stop and I'd feel guilty. He'd immediately stop if I told him. I totally appreciate your concern though because creating negative associations sounds serious.

He's my first sexual partner but we've been together for 7 years. For the first few years I was actually the one who was horny all the time, we'd sometimes have sex multiple times a day. Then something changed Idk if it was because I started taking the pill (not on that one anymore but idk what the lasting effects are) or maybe because I started having issues with my body image but I blamed it on just getting older but I'm only 25… I used to love touching myself and now I just kind of get bored halfway through. I have no imagination so that doesn't help lol. I'd say it would feel better if he was able to touch me and surprise me but I normally touch myself when we're having sex because my clit is so sensitive that anything other than the most delicate touch is painful. I don't even like vibrators because they're too strong lol. Idk maybe this is worth talking to my doctor about now that I think about it. I just wish I could go back to how I was a few years ago, it feels so much worse when you know what you're missing out on.

No. 104821

My bf has this weird fantasy of me tormenting him by hitting on other guys and he being all jealous about it and feeling humiliated. It’s honestly a turn off for me because I see his as a major cuck when he’s like this.
The problem is, he has developed a major thing for this and nothing seems to be exciting him more than this fantasy. Before all this, he was centered around giving me pleasure, but all other sexual things have now become awkward on his part, when he tries to initiate something, it feels super awkward and when I try to, he just doesn’t seem too responsive.
However, when it comes to this one thing, that I’m starting to hate, he gets into major mood and is all crazy about cumming to the fantasy.

Starting to feel sexually unsatisfied and resentful, any ideas what to do?

No. 104827

>>102887
Whenever i put anything inside my vag i feel like i need to pee. Even if my bladder is completely empty. It's really intense and really unconfortable. Does this happen to anyone else? How can i stop it?

No. 104829

Is there any way to make missionary more fun? I feel like there's not much I can do except lie there.

No. 104832

>>104829
Kiss? Grab his hair, neck or back?

No. 104833

>>104829
grab his ass and fuck back

No. 104835

>>104833
Make sure to spank it too.

No. 104838

>>104833
I try but he's like more than twice my size lol.

No. 104839

>>104838
you're looking for excuses. unless he's forcibly holding you down which, in that case, he needs to work on his stroke game too.

No. 104840

>>104839
I guess.

I just still kinda dislike missionary cuz of dudes like >he's forcibly holding you down

No. 104842

>>104829
Dirty talk. It can push a guy over the edge if you know what he likes and do it convincingly. I like kissing/biting along his shoulder/neck while I whisper dirty stuff and moan in his ear. Also a few of the guys I've been with really enjoy when I scratch their back.

No. 104868

>>104840
If you don't like it then don't do it ffs

No. 104871

>>104868
This quote should be in the op.

No. 104899

>>104840
Then get a dude who isn't a dom if you aren't a sub?
Basically >>104868

No. 104903

what can i use as vaginal lube if i don't want to have a bottle of real lube around my house?

No. 104906


No. 104909

>>104800
I didn't say I've never done that. I'm not into it really expect for the fact its degrading to him. I'm a switch and he's leans more dom and I like to make him feel like a little bitch sometimes, it's only fair.

No. 105013

>>104903
I use coconut oil because it's not sticky like normal lube but it can get a bit messy. Don't use it with condoms/silicone though.

No. 105052

this is a dumb question but i dont understand rimming or why it feels good for either person or why people do it

No. 105071

>>105052
I can't help you soon but if you search this thread for it, it pops up a lot?

No. 105133

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Guys, how do I cum? Like honestly. I was raised in a household that rejected a lot of normal teen stuff like masturbating/watching porn. I was also extremely sexually dormant before I got with my bf, meaning that even if I hadn't been raised like that I probably wouldn't have tried to flick the bean anyway. Now that I'm with my bf (we lost our virginities to each other) I love fucking. It's kinda like I'm making up for lost time in a sense? And while I love sex and it's really pleasurable and I can make my bf cum no problem, there's been no luck for me. Ever.

I have ADHD and I thought that maybe that my lack of focus is what couldn't let me nut, but I still can't even on adderall. Sometimes while my bf is fingering me (my fav btw) I feel like I have to pee really bad and my heart beats so fast and it's overwhelming in a lot of ways so I have to ask him to stop. If I asked him to keep going do you think I could get there?

I really do love my boyfriend and I love everything we do in the foreplay department and the sex on its own is great, but I want to have an orgasm at least once and it's killing me. 0I can't ever really get turned on to porn, erotica, or like my own touch so I doubt I can coax one out on my own. I'm beginning to think it's impossible guys. And yeah, I know thinking about wanting an orgasm during the act can stop you from having one entirely, but I can't get it out of my head. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated.

No. 105134

>>105133
Some of what you seems might possibly be a panic disorder, maybe get help for that?

I think it's easier to learn how to have an orgasm yourself through masturbation and then work your way up to having an orgasm with someone else.

No. 105136

>>105133
Masturbate.
It’s not dirty or gross or slutty or anything negative your family might have told you.
Put on something that makes you feel sexy, and just casually explore. There’s zero pressure, and if you’re uncomfortable you can just stop. Try new things with your partner, like external clitoral stimulation or vibrators, maybe that will help.
Good luck.

No. 105139

>>105133
look at stuff that turns you on, rub something against your clit until you think you can't take it and just keep going

No. 105140

>>105133
Definitely masturbate. It seems like you need to be comfortable with that need to pee feeling, because that usually means you're about to cum.

No. 105141

>>105140
Adding that you can do it in the shower if you're scared of actually peeing
Make a night of it, have a glass of wine and have some nice music on

No. 105144

>>105133
I said this before but i also feel an overwhelming urge to pee during fingering or penetration, and it's so distracting that there's no way i can cum like that.
I'll post here if i find a way around that but hopefully you figure it out before me.
I have never been able to cum with another person because there's no way they can imitate my clit tecniques and penetration makes me want to pee so badly that it kills the mood for me.
I know the struggle, don't give up though.

No. 105149

>>105144
that's normal lol. it's not actually pee, you won't piss yourself. relax and allow yourself to cum.

No. 105178

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>>105149
Is it?? Thanks for letting me know i'm not a freak of nature, i've asked some friends about this before and they've said they've never experienced it.
Nature is a douchebag tho, that feeling is very stressful and offputting.

No. 105285

>>105133
I get the pee thing when masturbating. Its not actually pee but it makes a mess, I only went past the point where I felt like this once and it freaked me out but it definitely wasnt pee.

No. 105290

I just don't know how my body is suppose to move when in cowgirl position and I can see that it's not doing anything for my partner.. Can someone help me? Also I feel like a dead fish, is there a way I can be more active during sex?

No. 105331

>>105285
female ejaculation / squirting = urine

No. 105356

Is it silly of me to get jealous of the fact that my bf jerks off to porn. I know its considered normal but it upsets me that he gets hard to another woman's body?

It's also hypocritical bc i watch porn as well but I do it because watching the act of sex turns me on, idc what the guy in the video looks like. Whereas he has told me he'll pick a video where he thinks the girl in it is good looking :(

No. 105357

>>105356
if he's also okay with you masturbating to another man's body then it's fair

No. 105359

>>105356
That is hypocritical anon.
Be upset if he's into stuff you're not into (like hardcore degradation unless you like that), is an addict and is ignoring you for it, or is watching necro/pedo shit.
I know it doesn't really help the emotions but it is irrational. I'd still dislike it but I literally draw porn so I know I need to get over this before dating lol.

No. 105360

>>105356
It's silly because you are also wanking to porn.
There are real, actual reasons to detest the porn industry.
http://askaradfem.tumblr.com/post/108129969882/anti-porn-resource-masterpost

No. 105361

>>105360
Yea I understand this.
It's just.. I don't get off to the guy, where as i'm pretty sure how the girl looks matters to him, meaning he's cumming to the body of some random chick ..

No. 105362

>>105361
who cares, you can't know that for sure, he probably thinks the same. plus would you watch porn of people you found gross? if not there's an obvious physical element there.

No. 105363

>>105362
Perhaps i'm being stupid.
I have actually brought this up with him and he says just because he finds "some slut's" body nice, doesn't mean he has feelings for them.
But no I literally watch porn with the ugliest dudes (since most porn is focused on girls. I mean male porn actors are not exactly known for their looks)

No. 105365

>>105363
that's not what i asked i asked about people you found gross, not ugly and nor did i explicitly say anything about men. i think you're being a hypocritical retard like everyone else said. fix your insecurity before you fuck up your relationship. you idiots shouldn't even be watching porn if you are going to freak out assume he's attracted to porn stars, clearly your relationship is too fragile.

No. 105367

>>105363
>watching porn for the woman
Still another person lel. If anything it's "worse" since your bf isn't even a woman.

No. 105369

>>105367
No I watch it because the act of the sex turns me on.
I don't care what the man/ woman looks like !

No. 105370

>>105369
what does that mean? i'm pretty sure most people in general aren't really like that. what about animated porn?

No. 105371

>>105370
If I feel horny watching sex helps me.
umm not animated, basically whatever pops up on the pornhub homepage kind of thing.

No. 105373

>>105371
so then you like seeing people not just "sex". either way you sound fucking stupid.

this isn't even sex related, it makes more sense to have gone in the relationship advice thread. it's clearly not affecting you sexually, you just have an unwarranted hypocritical insecurity.

No. 105377

>>105363
I kinda get you. I don't watch porn much anymore and when I did I never thought too much about the actors. My bf watches it much more than me and apparently has some favorite actresses, which I find weird and a bit gross but it doesn't affect our sex life. As long as he's not a pornsick degenerate or tries to shame you for being not like the porn stars it's not a big deal. Maybe just ask him not to talk about it.

No. 105382

This is more of a vent than asking for advice but…

guys expect you to gasp every time they put it in when I have pulled out dry tampons bigger

No. 105383

>>105382
I guess I disagree that dicks feel the same as tampons, but I can see how gasping might not feel true to reality. I always sigh like I'm getting into a hot tub. It communicates that it's satisfying to him, and it's a lot more honest with how I feel too, because it definitely feels good, just not surprising or gasp inducing. Idk tho maybe my bf is big.

No. 105404

>>105383
no i think that's right. i also agree it's important to communicate your pleasure during sex. what anon said is fucking weird.

No. 105413

>>105382
i mean, wouldn't you think it's rude/awkward if a guy didn't react at all to you sitting on his dick or whatever?

No. 105417

>>105413
clearly not, that bitch pulls out dry tampons. she should be in jail.

No. 105439

how to get my bf to dominate me? he thinks dominating is just being a douche bag vs an intimate power exchange. (like words/phrases I could use to explain the basic concept of a dom sub relationship better?) he's so vanilla and stubborn I can't take it much longer.

No. 105441

>>105439
forgot to add, his is interested in me being submissive but doesn't get why I don't just submit to him suddenly being a jerk in the least sexy way.

No. 105448

>>105439
show him a good example.

No. 105508

So, I want to have sex with a girl. I have no idea how to start or what to do. Im afraid im going to be really bad but she wont want to hurt my feelings by telling me. ny tips?

No. 105549

>>105290
I hate cowgirl lmao even though it makes the dick go in really deep, I’m not trying to have a workout in the middle of sex. When I do want to give him a break though, i just end up leaning over on my arms and knees and twerk on his dick, it conserves the most energy. But if it doesn’t feel that good for him then why bother. Try spooning or doggystyle so you can back up on him if you feel like being more active.

No. 105550

>>105508
1. Get over yourself and communicate
2. Tell her to get over herself and communicate
3. ???
4. Profit

No. 105551

>>105439
Maybe you can find reading material to go through together about what being d/s really means. And try some roleplaying to start with and see if it does anything for him. Lots of dudes just don’t have the certain natural affinity and innate understanding for it.

No. 105553

>>105290
I've kinda resorted into just doing what makes me feel good in cowgirl instead of trying to think about him, my bf says he likes the position mostly because it gives him a good show and he gets off more to see me enjoy it rather than the actual act itself. You can always ask him if what he would like for you to do if he looks like he's not enjoying it much.

And for the dead fish thing, move your hips, your hands, show him that what he's doing feels good. Like just in a missionary position you can thrust your hips a bit, grab his hair, move your hands along his back, moan in his ear etc..

No. 105661

Oh gosh, yall I need help. The last two guys I was with were super vanilla and hated doing anything that wasn't just them getting off and leaving me to my own devices.

My new guy is into a lot of kinky stuff, and he's into butt stuff for himself. I've no idea how to handle this, I'm not turned off but how do you even begin doing that during sex with a guy?
He said he doesn't expect me to do anything with him in that way but since I know he likes it, I feel like I should help.

No. 105692

>>105661
finger his ass while he fucks you in missionary

No. 105694

>>105692
Use a dildo so you don't have to touch him directly…I wouldn't.

No. 105756

Okay so my issue is I don't know if I straight up don't enjoy sex or my bf isn't good? He was my first and I love him as a person but I cant take it anymore with the sex stuff. It hurts quite often because he is quite big, but other than that it feels like nothing. I have never had an orgasm with him but I can alone. It makes me feel so useless you know? The whole time I just want it over with.
I clearly have some sex drive but I don't think its very high. I would hate to break up with him just to realise I am the issue and I just hate sex. Considering every straight male loves sex I feel so lost, anyone else felt like this?

No. 105760

>>105756
I felt like that with some boyfriends in my age group, then I dated an older, very experienced guy and now I can't get enough. He's very attentive about foreplay and knows just how to hit all the right spots to make my toes curl every time.

No. 105766

Anyone else /postcoitalbleeding/ here?

>Sex is great

>Want it nearly everyday
>Recently started getting Mittelschmerz every month
>Always use lube, never feels dry or sore

:/

No. 105771

>>105661
I was in the same situation a few months ago. Found out the guy I was with really likes having his butthole licked and fingered, and needless to say that sort of thing doesn't turn me on at all.
But I figured it was good juju for me to give it a shot, because I'd want him to try stuff to me even if it wasn't necessarily his cup of tea either.

I don't do it much. Just on the occassion when I give him a blowjob I stick a finger in his butt, but I'm careful because I have fingernails. If he looks clean and doesn't smell I'll give him a lick.

Maybe it needn't be said, but if your man isn't very clean you absolutely have the right to tell him you're not going to do it. My bf cleans out his butt well and isn't a gross neckbeard, so most of the time I'm okay with it. It's actually a little fun making him squirm.

No. 105804

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Is it degenerate to sext? I've posted in /soc/ threads looking for eboyfriends but always end up sexting and roleplaying. I don't send nudes or anything (just my face sometimes) but after all is said and done, I feel pathetic. Does anyone else here feel the same way or have any advice for this? I've never had a boyfriend or any kind of physical relationship. Discord sexting is my only sexual outlet.

No. 105805

>>105804
>I've posted in /soc/ threads looking for eboyfriends
Ew are you serious? Fucking why?

No. 105806

>>105661
Ooh my last bf was into this! I always told myself I'd never be down to touch a man's asshole but I was so in love with this guy I sucked it up and it ended up being so fun for both of us. First, you really should be starting by asking him what he likes. But here's my experience: Rule of thumb - Most guys like the prostate massage more than the in-out motion of a finger. If you know where your G-spot is, the prostate is basically in that exact same position in his ass. You'll be able to feel it, it's soft and spongey. It was always fun to start teasing him after going down on him for a bit. We would always have to pause to get some lube. Also I made sure my fingernails were short. One more thing: No matter how clean he is, it's inevitable you're going to get shit on your hands. It's not a big deal. The way I handled this was just by not looking at my hand when we were done until I had a chance to wash it!

>>105756
You need to tell your bf what feels good to you, he can't read your mind. Masturbate in front of him so he can see how you like to be touched. Communicate with him. You're not broken, sex can and will be enjoyable for you. Sex is not supposed to hurt. Relax, take it slow, and use lube.

>>105804
lolol I'm the same way, I have a handful of penpals from /soc/. I even dated a guy from there for several months a few years ago. He ended up being a bit psycho (yeah I know big surprise) but in a fun way because he was also quite wealthy.

Sexting strangers is a little degenerate but it's also fun? But I understand the pathetic feeling. It's the reason I don't really do it much anymore. You finish cybering and your hormones are going crazy and suddenly realize you're by yourself in your room. It's a bummer. My recommendation to you would be to either fully embrace this habit or quit it if it's making you sad. Maybe it's time to date a 3D boy.

No. 105822

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Any anons here dealing with erectile dysfunction?

My bf has a very high libido and initiates sex all the time. He gets rock hard very easily but if we start going he loses it after about 5 minutes. This happens pretty much half the times we have sex. It happens when he's sober too so it's not whiskey dick or anything. At first I though it was because he was nervous but it's definitely not that anymore.
I read somewhere that if it's not psychological it could be a cardiovascular problem and that the blood is needed somewhere else in the body so it leaves the penis and now I'm worried af.
Is there anything I can do or should I try to convince him to see a doctor?

No. 105824

>>105822
Get him to wear a c-ring after he gets hard. Will keep the blood where it should be.

No. 105833

>>105822
Does he jerk off a lot? It may be a porn addiction. It's very common among young men, nowadays.

No. 105835

>>105822
maybe a hormonal imbalance?

No. 105857

>>105822
He's pornsick for sure.

No. 105862

>>105822
test for total and bioavailable testosterone.
test for FSH.
test for LH.
test for estradiol.
If needed - aromatase assey.

Make sure he is not in any prescription medication like SSRIs/SNRIs/tricyclics/atypical dopamine antagonists

If all else fails instead of opting straight away for viagra, you might want to look to an atypical dopamine agonist like Modafinil.

No. 105867

>>105824
I never thought of that but it sounds fun might try it

>>105833
>>105857
I don't know, he doesn't watch more porn or jerk off more than other guys I've been with, just the normal amount, but I guess it still could be it. Does he just have to stop jacking off to get over it?

>>105835
>>105862
Wow that's a lot haha but it could be that, if it's his thyroid it would explain why he's so skinny
I've convinced him to see a doctor and booked an appointment so will probanly find out soon thank you guys for the advice.

No. 105905

so i was in this thread a while back worrying that my bf not coming from sex was either psychological or something i was doing wrong, turns out this mf jacks off when he's bored. always ask about his masturbation/porn habits first, girls. the answer isn't always therapy. sometimes, he's just jerking off 16 fucking times a day. goddamn.

No. 105961

How do I stop masturbating to a thought I find disgusting?
About a month ago I was staying over with my older sister and her husband. I got up to go to the bathroom and decided to peer into their room. They were having sex. I should have walked away but it looked like he was hurting her. He was holding her down by her wrists and was really ramming his dick inside her. My sister starts saying stuff to him like "cum inside me" and "I want you to make me pregnant again". Now I had the confirmation that he wasn't forcing her, it was just rough intense sex, I should have left. I didn't. I stood there and watched until he blew his load inside her. It was the hottest thing I have ever seen. When I got back to my room I fingered myself to the best orgasm I've had in my life. Now I can't stop thinking about it and fantasize about loosing my virginity to my sister's husband. It's really wrong.

No. 105962

>>105822
Is he out of shape? Some guys just don't have the cardio to keep up with good sex for long. If he's getting tired that could be it.

No. 105966

>>105961
you probably find it hot due to the taboo nature of it. it was being done to your sister, by a guy that's off-limits. what exactly is it that bothers you about this fantasy? do you think if push comes to shove, you would pursue it irl? if it stays a fantasy, i don't see much point in stressing over it.

No. 107081

Will not masturbating for a while help me to start cumming from cunnigulis whenever my s/o plays around with my clit? I do feel good but i can never cum and i believe thats mainly because i kept masturbating at least 3 times/day for years…

I also think of buying a vibrator or some other sex toy but i feel like my s/o is not that comfortable w/ the idea of it. But even so, any suggestion for beginner? Maybe some magic wand, something like that?

No. 107100

>>107081
Maybe you shouldn't buy a vibro if you want to finally be able to cum from oral. I've got one for myself and it's absolutely amazing for masturbation but I can't feel shit from oral

No. 107117

>>105961
Plenty of younger siblings have crushes on their older siblings SOs. As long as you don't seek her husband out to try and fuck him then I don't see the problem.

BUT I find it very odd that you watched your sister get fucked to where you could literally see a dick going inside of her, and that you didn't even consider that being weird. Forget the husband and think about watching your sister get pounded–does that not strike you as fucking weird?

You're not the first person who has watched two people have sex, or possibly a family member having sex, but I just have to say that it's seriously nuts what being horny does to humans.

No. 107118

Have any of you actually had mind-blowing sex from a hookup on an app like Tinder, Bumble, etc?

NOT considering using these apps because I'm in a relationship but I want to ask anyway.

No. 107128

>>107118
i have once, but the guy was absolutely insane and i ghosted him almost immediately after.

No. 107234

>>107081
I don't think so. I masturbate at most once a week and I still can't come from oral. Though, nothing makes me cum, clit wise, except my own hand.

No. 107238

Most of the time I don’t really feel very horny or have a high sex drive. Except when I’m sleeping, I’m horny as fuck in my dreams and sometimes the majority of my dream is me masturbating. The sexual pleasure feels a lot more intense in my dreams than irl too. Anyway what is up with that? Horny in my sleep but not when I’m awake?

No. 107242

>>107238
OH MY GOD ME TOO. In daily life I really dgaf, don't masturbate or have time to anyway, have good sex now and then, but in my dreams I shove everything up my ass and they are always insanely horny ordeals. I've never seen someone else with the same situations tbh, all my dreams are like WHAT WILL I FUCK NEXT??? and I dunno why. The pleasure is better in them too. I'm not like sexually repressed irl but these dreams have always been like this

No. 107283

>>107242
this is pretty funny, outrageously horny dreams anon

No. 107284

>>107238
>>107242
please explain how it feels in your dreams, i'm insanely curious. everyone i've talked to about it agrees that for them, sex dreams basically feel like edging.

No. 107303

>>107283
I am glad my ridiculously horny dreams amuse you. One time, I had a dream that I was locked in a post apocalyptic orange factory and shoved every orange up my ass.

>>107284
Tbf I do get why it's kind of like edging, for me all the sex is just as intense and pleasurable as irl, just a bit more given I'm magically taking a 10foot dick, but also nothing is ever enough if that makes sense. I'm not this much of a psycho deviant IRL I swear my dreams are fucking insane though. I've also randomly had dreams where I'm in a harem of like 30 women, have had my husband morph into a hamster and disappear while seducing him, have ran around the city as a giant like Reptar ravenously searching for the D, have banged the aquatic guy from hellboy in a bouncy castle, that I fucked the Simpsons version of Elvira with a strap on, and that I married Willy wonka with a limited edition candy cane in my ass

I sincerely wish I was fucking kidding. I have no idea where this shit comes from and it's absolutely bizarre

No. 107332

I'm >>105822 and turns out my boyfriend has a heart condition and is on beta blockers now. Just putting it out there in case anyone else here has that problem, if nothing else explains it he should see a doctor because it could be something more serious

No. 107336

>>107332
Not trying to pry but can you give more details, possibly on how he found out? Did he just tell the doctor about the dick issue and they went from there or was it hard to diagnose? Was he 100% sure it wasn't anxiety related the whole time, and also did he have any other symptoms related to the heart thing? Sorry for grilling you

No. 107343

>>107332
Was masturbation also an issue, or just partnered activities?

No. 107347

>>107336
It's ok. We went to a regular doctor at first and told him about the problem and after examining him he said he has high blood pressure and that he should see a cardiologist for his heart. So we went to a cardiologist, he did an ecg i think it's called, and an ultrasound and diagnosed him with mitral valve prolapse, which he said isn't serious for now, but is causing an irregular heartbeat so he gave him meds for that and the blood pressure. Basically his heart was working overtime so that's why he had trouble keeping an erection.
I was sure it wasn't anxiety because we've been together for a long time and he had no reason to be nervous anymore, plus it didn't happen every time we had sex. I guess he did have some symptoms, he got out of breath kinda easily but I assumed that was because he doesn't really work out is skinny as hell, and he also had palpitations sometimes but I thought that was pretty common cause I get those sometimes too. Maybe should have taken that more seriously

>>107343
I don't really know but he said he didn't do it too much anyway, can't be sure though

No. 107704

>>107303
Amused anon reporting, my dreams are actually very similar! Also, outrageously horny when a sex dream with lots of butt stuff (whyyyyy?) and similarly random. My dreams are usually some type of adventure or quest but nothing makes sense and everything changes all the time and it has the quality of what I imagine an acid trip to be like. We might be dream twins or sisters.
I wish I could recall specific images. Thanks for sharing your funny dreams!

No. 107721

>>105966
>>107117
I would never go after my sister's husband. I couldn't hurt her like that. I don't even think he's that attractive either. I get why she likes him, he goes to the gym, has big muscles and he always treats her really well but he's also ginger with a lot of body hair. It does nothing for me which is one of the many reasons this creeps me out.

>Forget the husband and think about watching your sister get pounded–does that not strike you as fucking weird?

The incest element in this does disgust me.

I have thought a lot about why this happened. I've never had a boyfriend and I've never really thought much about sex before. This was my first experience of seeing sex IRL. It's sort of awoken a new interest in me. While watching your sister's husband cum inside her is definitely not something I would recommend, it has made me think about my future. Is it that I'm fantasizing about being with my sister's husband or is it that I'm fantasizing about being in my sister's position? I see that she's happy being in a relationship. I think I'm starting to come round to the idea that I might want that as well.

No. 107801

>>107721
I doubt it's about your sister's husband. Just the act itself and probably if you saw that happen in front of your eyes by people you don't know it would have been the same case. Don't know if this is good advice but maybe finding and watching some porn that interests you will take your mind off the specific person you direct your horniness to in your mind lol. Hope you find a nice boyfriend to try out some stuff with in the future anon

No. 107802

>>107721
it seems like you're putting a rationalization to your fantasy. i agree with other anon, hope you find a nice boyfriend to have enjoyable sex with, in the meantime maybe buy yourself a vibrator or dildo or find some good PIV sex clips to masturbate to.

No. 107804

Couldn't find a relationship general, so I'm sorry if this off topic:

Hi all, I'm a 27 year old woman and I have a lot of difficulty having romantic relationships because I don't have a frame of reference. I've had sex before, even dated a guy for 3 years, but I felt uncomforable the whole time… Just didn't know what to do with myself, if I was doing things right or not. Not just sexually, but just interacting in general.

Like, suppose you met someone, felt you have mutual attraction, went on a date or two, kissed… Then what?How do you know if you actually want to be with that person? What do you do/talk about when you two spend time together? What are the first weeks like? The first year? What do you do together, what do you do individually? How much of yourself do you share and how much do you keep to yourself?

What I'm asking for, I guess, is a ballpark of what a real, fulfilling relationship is like.

Thanks in advance

No. 107805

>>107804
Finding a good match is imagining a life together.
Like you both make plans for your futures with both of each other in mind. If you want to move out of state or work in a better career, and the person you come home to and paying bills with would be the person you're dating.
You go to the store and half of the time maybe you think of things that you'd like to buy for them or keep in mind things to ask them to buy for you.
Someone to talk to about somewhat embarrassing things and to vent to.
TL;DR It's basically like having roommate who's also your best friend and you guys are sexually and romanticaly attracted to each other so you want to spend the rest of your life with them.

No. 107843

Is there a way to "learn" to cum from PIV? It feels like I'm capable of it, but I get too sensitive or feel like I have to pee instead. When I first orgasmed from the clit, it kind of felt like that too, but it's like I don't know how to cum from this too somehow.
I don't know if maybe I just can't cum from PIV alone even if I'm really into it and it feels good. I know that's normal so I don't feel bad about it, but I'd like to be able to.

No. 107906

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My bf will cum and then be able to go again right after. We usually have sex 2-3 times with him climaxing. He rests for like 2 minutes and then goes again. We’ve been living together for like two years and he’s always been that way. Just curious if anyone else has experienced this because I always heard men were “one and done” and women were supposed to be the ones climaxing multiple times.

No. 107908

>>107906
nah, typical sex for me and my SO has him cumming 2-3 times. we've been together 2 years also. some dudes can just cum a lot i guess.

No. 107932

>>107843

Seconding this question. I've heard about the A spot and G spot yet when I've tried positions to stimulate those areas, it's goddamn near impossible to cum. It feels good as usual but nothing special–not like being eaten out which feels magical from the start.

I've heard working with toys can help but I've also heard that only a small portion of women can actually cum from PIV alone.

No. 107933

>>107932

Same OP, I forgot to sage. Sorry.

No. 108001

>>107906
my bf is like that too, we've had sex 3 times within an hour a handful of times. we've been dating for 4 years and it's been happening more often so he's probably just more comfortable.

No. 108013

Any tips for an bj amateur?
Make them obvious bc I have no idea how to give good head.
Not sure how much I suck at it but I think I was thinking this might be really easy while it's not that easy. At least for me.
Anyways I can't deep throat (already found it out) so that's not an option

No. 108023

>>108013
Focus mainly on the head/frenulum while using your hand to stimulate the base. spit all over it or use a flavored lube if you can't make enough saliva - the wetter, the better. cup and gently squeeze his balls. kiss/lick his inner thighs and perineum. also, experiment with different bj positions, i find that it's easiest when the guy is laying down flat.

No. 108039

When I ride my bf I don't bounce up and down on his dick, I kind of just grind against him while he's inside me. I'm curious if this is common or not?
We can both cum from this motion. Does anyone else do this?

No. 108042

>>108039
yes that's like…the norm

No. 108046

>>108039
Yes, I do that too. My bf takes awhile to cum from it though so I do it for me and then follow up with some bounce action too lol

No. 108058

>>108042
>>108046
Thanks guys!

No. 108068

>>108039
People who can actually bounce the entire ride probably have thunder thighs that are 100% muscle or they're probably in pain. Grinding is definitely the way most people do it.

No. 108080

>>108068
I bounce or my bf lifts me up and down. I have a pretty good stamina, but he pretty much ends up lifting me the entire time

At least it is good exercise

No. 108082

I haven’t gotten fucked yet, I’m nearly 20, and the thing stopping me is my vagina. Basically, I can barely fit a finger, two with extra hard work and foreplay, without feeling a sort of burning/splitting pain? Is this normal for the first time for some girls? I know some girls who said they didn’t have much discomfort at all. Do I basically just have to suck it up and get it over with? Will the pain go away after a few times though? Also also, I can’t orgasm unless I take a vibrator and do it myself on my clit. The self inflicted rubbing of the clit I always see in porn doesn’t do much for me too. I feel nothing receiving oral. And fingering hurts. Have my partners just been bad at oral? Or would you think that I’m not really sensitive down there?

No. 108090

I haven't had sex in over 4 months because I've been too stressed out with my mental health issues to even think about having sex and being romantic with my boyfriend. I give him a quick kiss whenever I have to leave for work or he comes home from work, but that's as far as I'll go right now.
I guess I feel bad because Valentine's day is coming up and I feel like my boyfriend is going to try to attempt to do something romantic, but I'm honestly not in the mood at all. The thing is… I miss wanting to be romantic and sexual, but my mind is too occupied at the moment. I'm sure he'll understand.

No. 108091

>>108082
Can you not even fit a tampon in? You might want to look up vaginusmus.

No. 108104

>>108090
>I'm sure he'll understand
God I feel bad for your bf

No. 108118

>>108090
Quite honestly… why be in a relationship? You are needing to focus on yourself, and it sounds like you view him as an emotional burden, so why bother?

> I guess I feel bad because Valentine's day is coming up and I feel like my boyfriend is going to try to attempt to do something romantic, but I'm honestly not in the mood at all.


Also, you are making a choice well in advance to "not be in the mood". You are literally setting the expectation for yourself to reject anything he tries to do.

4 months is a long time to go on feeling that way. At some point, it becomes unfair to the other person.

No. 108125

>>108082
Might want to go to a doctor. What are your periods like? Could be vaginismus, as other anon said, or possibly even endometriosis. You should be able to put a finger up there without great pain.

No. 108193

How tf does one “talk dirty”? In-person without sounding cringy

No. 108196

>>108118
We've been dating for almost 5 years and we live together. We've sort of had a situation like this before where we didn't have sex for half a year but that was mostly because his sister had to live with us for a while, that was a few months into the relationship.
His sex drive isn't that high and we usually only have sex once or twice a month. We still love each other and he's aware of how I've been feeling due to my mental state and I try not to hide it.
I'm just feeling pressured because of Valentine's Day and I guess a majority of people expects to do something romantic. Although, we are planning to cook a nice meal together so that'll be a nice activity.

No. 108204

>>108193
I need advice on this too, my bf talks dirty and honestly it makes me laugh internally to hear him wanting to suck my big breasts and nipples and other such things he says lol. Like he's not going that intricate but I just sound so disingenuous when I say shit back cause its funny. Idk. I end up just kissing him if I can't think of shit to say during lol

No. 108221

>>108193
Yes! I need advice as well. My boyfriend loves to announce when he's "squeezing my titties" and it's so in the moment I go blank minded and just tell him I love him.

No. 108222

>>108193
>>108204
>>108221
I love dirty talk with my bf during sex. My advice: get into it, get comfortable with it, don't think too hard about what you're saying or he's saying. It's about just feeling sexy in the moment. I can guarantee your partners aren't thinking about what they're saying if your immediate thought is that it sounded silly. I know it's easier said than done, but turn your brain off. Sex doesn't need any critical thinking.

No. 108223

>>108193
>>108221
>>108204

start out with mild stuff like "harder," "faster," "you feel so good inside of me," etc., I feel like it depends on your personality/your bf's personality and what y'all like… like if he really likes a certain position (for example, doggy style) be like "god I want you to fuck me from behind" so bad or something. it's honestly so cringe to think about when you're not actually having sex, but it's less cringy in the moment. just don't think too hard about it. if you say something awkward he 100% will not remember lmao

No. 108245

advice for 100% virgins? what to expect during your first time, how to act, mistakes to avoid, how to position yourself?

No. 108257

>>108245
make sure you have ample foreplay, especially for your first time. focus on relaxing your vagoob. if it's too tight/dry it will hurt. First time sex isn't "supposed" to hurt, it usually only does because you're anxious/not relaxed enough/haven't done enough foreplay with fingers and mouth, and your muscles are tightened and therefore it hurts to have something big(ger than you're used to) inside you. (If you've ever masturbated with a dildo, do the same prep + a little more that you would for that.) Lube is your friend and will make everything feel better and go smoother. Don't worry about how you "should act", just make sure you're enjoying yourself, you're ready for PIV, and you'll be fine. Whoever you're with should be respectful and want to make you comfortable and feel good.

If you want more control over how deep they go/how fast, you should be on top, and lower yourself down as you get used to the feeling. If you want them to take charge, make sure you communicate what feels good and what doesn't, slower/faster, if you need to take a break or go back to fingers/oral, do not be afraid to tell them. It's as much about you feeling good as it is about them, and if you're not enjoying yourself, change it. It's okay to ask to stop at any point.

mistakes to avoid: if they ask you to squeeze their junk, be gentle lol. Avoid using teeth during a beej, if you're doing that. Don't be embarrassed if you queef, I know it seems like something "wrong", but it's completely normal and can be more likely to happen depending on the position (for instance, doggy, or if you've got your hips raised/lifted during missionary.) But again it's totes normal and if they make a bigger deal about it than laughing and carrying on, they suck and you shouldn't fuck em again until they can be more mature about it. I've queefed in a guy's face before and just LAUGHED about it, and we moved on without addressing it. Don't apologize. It's nothing to be embarrassed about and some people are actually into it.

If it's their first time too/they're not experienced, expect it to go by quickly. If you're not satisfied afterwards, tell them, they should be focused on your pleasure too, it's not all about them. Don't let them cum anywhere you're not comfortable with. Insist that they use a condom (I think this is a good rule for first time.)

other than that just relax, have fun, and make sure you pee soon afterwards! It makes it less likely to get a UTI.

No. 108258

>>108245

piggybacking on what >>108257 said (great advice btw!) I just wanted to stress the importance of communicating with your partner. Air out all of your anxieties, fears, and be 100% honest about how you're feeling. If he's experienced (and cares about you/isn't a total douche) he will take it slow and be gentle and accommodating. If you're both newbies, it'll be an intimate, exploratory learning experience for you both. But if for any reason you get cold feet, or if you feel like your partner is not respecting your boundaries, just say NO. Do not ever force yourself to have sex to please anyone! anyway, have fun and be safe!

No. 108281

>>108257
Nta but am a virgin and this question has been burning inside of me.
Were/are any anons here super ticklish? Even having someone poke me tickles me and I'm afraid I'll never be able to have successful sex like this. I mean, I don't like the idea of being touched a lot anyway (I would prefer to be in control), but it would be awful if he goes to touch my waist or leg and I start laughing.

Do you just get used to it or have to work around it?

No. 108285

>>108281
When I orgasm I get really ticklish. Sometimes sex ends with me laughing and pushing him away because my sense of touch is on overdrive.

No. 108286

>>108281
My advice may not be the most unbiased since I'm hyper-sensitive to the point where I actively get off from being tickled, but - even when people don't know about that, they've usually just found it cute. I wouldn't worry about it ruining the moment or anything.

Usually they'll do it more at first and you'll just have a cute little playfight around it before you get back to business, but you could always just tell him to use a much firmer touch because it's too annoying for you.

No. 108431

>finds a guy through an mmorpg
>hes cute and im happy to spend time with him
>he confesses that he has 4" dick
Shit, is this a big deal? I've asked on a few other sites and they say it's a deal breaker as you won't feel him, etc. I'm a useless virgin so I have no idea if that really is too small or not. I like him too much to break up over something he can't control but I also want to be pounded raw.

No. 108433

>>108431
That's pretty individual, some women can barely fit anything and others can take a foot long lol. Many can't even come from vaginal so it doesn't matter.
Have you tried fingering yourself before to see if that satisfies you? That would be a comparable size.
I'd also say "if you like him and otherwise have the same kinks it shouldn't matter" but I know people value different things.

No. 108434

>>108433
Fingers feel pretty nice, I usually hit (what i think) is the cervix just from a finger. I never used a vibrator but I recall using my hairbrush before and that felt nice.

No. 108439

>>108434
Sounds like it would be compatible then. That's good.

No. 108440

>>108431
Are you sure he's not underestimating? Dudes with self-esteem issues might do that. My husband was convinced he had a microdick; imagine my surprise the first time we fucked and it was 8".

I had an ex with a 4 incher though and yeah, it was pretty underwhelming. While I don't typically get off to vaginal it feels really good with the right dick. I felt him, but it was a snoozefest and we couldn't do any positions but missionary because otherwise his dick would fall out. Even in doggy.

Get a dick pic or something before sealing the deal, IMO.

No. 108446

>>108440
>My husband was convinced he had a microdick; imagine my surprise the first time we fucked and it was 8".
Could he not measure properly?

No. 108457

>>108446
He would never measure it. His self-esteem was so low he was afraid to so he just assumed it was tiny and continued hating himself.

No. 108462

>>108446
This is hilarious, sorry for laughing at your husband. I guess it's better than imagining he has an amazing Woman Pleaser™ like most men.

No. 108492

>>108439
God I sure hope so. I really like this guy.
>>108440
To give some context, he said he measured it and it was 4" but never checked girth or anything. I don't know when he last checked either. I heard that it might still grow? He's only 18, turning 19 in July.

No. 108527

I have a tiny problem with getting too wet during foreplay. It kinda fucks up sensitivity during the actual act. Is there something I can do about this that's not having a coochie rag on hand and mopping myself??

>>108492
Is he overweight? Guys can usually squeeze out a couple more inches when they lose weight. But I don't think it'll grow in any significant way other than that.

No. 108538

>>108527
He said he was a bit on the "chunky" side so that should help out. Thank you anon!

No. 108675

>>108492
By personal experience, my friend who was an average 5 , maybe less, when we were 17 is now a solid 6.5 with way more girth at 22. I think guys stop growing around their early 20s.

No. 108699

>>108527
Sorry for a useless reply but I don't understand how being too wet will make you less sensitive? I use so much lube because sex feels better that way

No. 108802

>>108699
lol it's okay anon. I'm not sure how to explain it to you (I have never had to use lube ever due to this), but a bit of friction feels good, imo.

I can't get aroused at all if water is involved, like I cannot masturbate in the shower, it's just toooo slippery, I can't really feel anything. Being too wet is kinda the same to me I guess.

No. 108837

I'm casually sleeping with a guy and don't know how to suck his dick. He's eating me out regularly but I've been too much of a chicken to blow him without a condom. I think that the feeling with condom would be rather shitty? Is the risk small enough to just go for it? (Without him finishing in my mouth of course) Any thoughts? And what would you do?

No. 108838

>>108837
Just get tested for STD's lmao? If it's that regular then it's worth it.

No. 108839

>>108838
We did get tested, but I won't get tested every other week

No. 108863

>>108837

Watch bj porn or go to a blowjob subreddit (it can be gay or straight) and take notes of what the women/men do. I think there are some guides women wrote up on that site too. Between those two things you can learn how to be good at it.


One thing I picked up from practice is to listen carefully to his breathing to figure out what he likes, and to mix up technique and speed.


Also bj's are alot more pleasant (for you) when he is freshly washed and you are perfectly within your rights to demand he showers/washes up first.

No. 108869

>>108863
BJ porn usually doesn't look pleasant at all. I personally have a strong gag reflex, I couldn't do half the shit they do there.
Question anon, just go for it. You can always use it as foreplay too, there's no need for him to finish in your mouth.

No. 108911

>>108863
>>108869
I am question anon, I do read up on it and read some guides on reddit.
I want to do it as foreplay, but would you do it without a condom?

No. 108912

>>108911
Sure, why not? Condoms don't taste especially good and it's probably not going to feel as good either. Just remember to put one on before insertion.

No. 108913

>>108863
No one should ever use porn as a how to have sex guide, they choose poses that they think look the best on camera not because they feel good or are comfortable. Add to that the misogyny of the industry. It is often intentionally degrading to the women.

No. 108922

Any advice on becoming more confident? I'm 26 and feel so inexperienced comparatively and feel ridiculous and stupid trying to be sexy. So I'm really straightforward and awkward because I don't know how else to act.

No. 108980

>>108922
Not everybody has to be "sexy" in a hollywood kind of way, not every guy likes high heels and lingerie, just be yourself and do what you personally like and this alone will make you sexy and confident.
For general confidence:
Sports and going out of your comfort zone. It sounds stupid and obvious but believe me, I'm 32, I hate myself and I was shy af. I started many things out of my usual comfort zone, started to do sports, I asked a hot guy out (and almost died of embarrassment doing so) and it all worked out. He compliments me a lot and shows me everything I need to know in bed. Just do it anon.

No. 108993

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Sometimes I cry after sex, not because I didn't want it or anything, but because I DID want it. I have a bit of past baggage so I guess I feel ashamed and embarrassed, like "well, I enjoy sex, guess I'm just a slut." It's especially bad after I initiate/ask for something specific. How do I let myself just enjoy sex. Damn

No. 109001

i have no idea how to ride dick. i was in the same relationship for 5 years and we just kind of accepted that i wasnt good at it and never did it.

i'm out of that one now and there's a new guy i'm interested in and i want to get good at it?

is there anything i can like, practice

No. 109026

>>108993
Remember at any given moment, millions of other women are having sex. There's nothing wrong with it.

No. 109031

>>109001
Don't know if this is any help, but grinding on a pillow did for me. Also dancing is good, specially moves involving hips and thighs. Have you ever tried arab dancing? It's also good to get muscle tone and gain stamina.

And lastly, have confidence in what your body can do, anon!

No. 109121

my boyfriend has a humongously high sex drive to the point where it actively makes me not want to have sex. he's a fantastic guy and a fantastic boyfriend but it's becoming a problem at least for me, thinking about having sex with him makes me want to cry out of frustration because it's just too much and I can't seem to do anything about the problem.

he's had an incredibly active sex life since he first lost his virginiy. all of his dreams are sex dreams, he gets very easily turned on when I'm with him even if I'm not doing something sexual at all, he has very and I mean very wild and rough fantasies that he sometimes propositions me, most including rapeplay (in the fantasy I like it, according to him), lots of cumming, very intense and rough sex like something straight out of a hentai (ironically, he doesn't watch it and only knows about it through me), he always wants to sext (I hate sexting). masturbating doesn't even do it for him, it doesn't satisfy his need to fuck, I have to manually make him cum and even then he'll still be horny again hours later.

I was enthusiastic about sex when I first started, but now it's something I find pretty average even if I do like it, and if I feel horny I just masturbate bc honestly dealing with him when I'm horny has become a massive chore so I just masturbate in secret and don't tell him (he gets kinda pissy if I jack off "without his help"). And I am also into a few perverted and sick fantasies, but most of what he propositions me makes me sick and repulsed (he recently told me a fantasy where he's raping me with my consent and I piss myself so as punishment he mouth rapes me and I choke. all of this made me sick and very disgusted, I had to tell him to stop telling me). he's been a good sport about the issue of my low sex drive and has tried earnestly to control himself and to not pressure me into doing things I don't want to do. he feels genuinely bad if he makes me uncomfortable and has stopped talking so much about sex as of late bc he knows it wears me down, but at this point we have tried everything under the sun and his sex drive is uncontrollable. when we go a long time without seeing each other or fucking he'll get blue balls and practically sperg about sex nonstop. at this point I wish I could just get him to fuck other girls so he's not the sex monster he is around me when he's horny, but he's not even turned on by other girls, it's just me, I'm the only one who makes him horny or makes him want to cum. I'm so fucking sick of this I'm on the verge of tears as i write this, when he's not horny out of his mind he's the best fucking boyfriend ever but it's been almost 3 years of a relationship and I'm starting to realize I can't fix this I can't make this issue go away. he doesn't even want to go to therapy for it bc he doesn't think is a problem, and I don't even know what it is bc he isn't a porn addict or addicted to sex he's just really horny for me. it's not nice anymore it's a nightmare. please help me

No. 109122

>>109121
also samefag but for the longest time I've just had sex or done things with him against my will even if I assure him I'm into it just to get him to fucking shut up or quit the long ffucking face he gets when I don't want to suck his dick or him to finger me or just do sex stuff every single time we see each other. I'm not a fucking fuck doll, I don't want sex all the time. so I just suck his fucking dick or jack him off so he'll fuckinv shut up and go to sleep or leave me alone just stop touching me stop rubbing your dick in my butt, I think this guy might've turned me fucking asexual with his sex drive

No. 109126

>>109122
>>109121
I'm really sorry to hear this anon.
I feel like deep down you know this can't continue. He's already "tried to decrease" his sexual drive and even that has failed, so the only other "option" left is for you to raise yours, which is impossible at this point.

I truly think his sexuality has poisoned yours and made you retreat into yourself. How could you not really, when you're constantly being penetrated, groped, prodded, and forcibly inserted into someone else's fantasies? That doesn't make anyone feel sexy.
Your boyfriend is an immature, selfish and poor lover who doesn't really care about your pleasure. You've already begun going down the path of resentment because you're already doing things that you disagree with or are "just putting up with".

You need to have a come to Jesus talk and make him rework his entire idea of sex (ie. No penis in vagina sex for a month, no groping and grabbing at you, no indulging any of his fetishes) or you need to break up if he can't even attempt the above.

No. 109127

>>109121
>it's not nice anymore it's a nightmare. please help me

Sounds awful anon. He isn't a good boyfriend. I think you need to distance yourself from him.

No. 109129

>>109121
I'm so sorry to hear this, anon. the rape fantasies alone are super wtf and would have made me ghost him without hesitation.

No. 109130

>>109121
>>109127

So he's a horrible boyfriend for having needs and a high sex drive? If his drive hasn't changed in the three years you have been together, he's not an asshole.

You're saying that he's annoyed that you pleasure yourself alone, and honestly I feel where he's coming from. That's lack of intamacy and a good healthy sex life is essential to a working relationship.. And a good healthy sex life looks different in each relationship.

What I'm saying is, you're not sexually compatable and that's going to be an issue that won't go away on it's own and - Will- be detrimental to your relationship in the long run anyway. Three years is a long time, are you worried perhaps because you're too comfortable? It might need to be a bandaid that needs ripped off. You can find another person that is A) Sexuality on your level and B) treats you well and you enjoy their time just as much, if not more, than your current partner.

No. 109131

>>109130
Sex isn't a need, it is a want and his behaviour is obviously making that anon suffer. They should split up, and a man making rape comments like that to his gf can go fuck himself.

No. 109132

>>109131

Rapeplay is a completely normal an d common kink. The basis for kink is consent, if he was raping her that's a different story and that is not okay.

To some people yes, sex is a need. To anon's boyfriend, it sounds very much to be a need.

No. 109136

>>109132
You appear to have no sympathy towards anon's actual need to be respected in her relationship.

No. 109138

>>109132
Sex is not a need, what the fuck.
Are you seriously implying that people literally die without sex?

Honestly what the fuck is wrong with you, and why are you calling the mental and physical torture that anon is going through "sex"?
Anon's bf is not just performing "sex". Isn't sex supposed to benefit both partners or at least involve them equally? Anon literally stated that she does things to hold him off, to get things over with, how the fuck is that true consent?
You are trying to minimize the damage done to anon by saying "it's just sex!", "It's just a rape fetish!", instead of actually having compassion for her. You are disgusting.

No. 109362

i feel so awkward posting this on here but uhh basically my vagina is really tight, i can't fit 2 fingers in myself comfortably

i usually masturbate with just my clit which is fine, but i've been in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years now and we spend 2 weeks together every few months and i wanted to get better at taking dick because i can cum vaginally but it takes a while and i start to hurt down there if i'm being fucked for longer than a few minutes, my boyfriends been really sweet about it, he bought me a dildo that was the same size as him so i could try and get used to it in my own time but every time i try it it hurts so fucking badly, like point of tears badly, my boyfriends actual dick hurts way less so idk whats up w that maybe its the material

we use lots of lube and go slowly etc, but it's frustrating that i have to tell my boyfriend to hurry up and cum because im hurting so badly, i dont know if i should see a doctor or just assume its bc im not having regular sex

No. 109363

>>109362
real dicks aren't as rigid as a lot of dildos, seems like you'd benefit from using dilators

No. 109366

>>109121
You say without that he would be a perfect boyfriend but I really doubt it, people with shitty boyfriends say that all the time. He's probably a shitty boyfriend AND you're sexually incompatible, so just break up.

No. 109369

>>109362
See a doctor for sure. If it's bothering you this much and foreplay doesn't change things, it's probably vaginismus or another medical condition.

No. 109388

>>109121
Please break up with him for your own sake. It seems like the years of being forced to do something you don't want to are wearing you down and it's bound to only get worse, I'm usually not a ''just dump him'' anon but in this case..

No. 109390

>>109121
>has violent, degrading sexual fantasies
>not a porn or sex addict

no anon, he's a typical hypersexual, pornsick degenerate male

where do you think he gets his ideas from?

No. 109408

>>109121
He may think he doesn't have a problem, but it legitimately sounds like he has a sex addiction and needs help from a professional. Have you made it clear you're not enjoying this and it makes you uncomfortable? If so, he is completely disrespecting your boundaries and using you for his pleasure only, and that is NOT ok.
There has to be some change here, or it isn't going to get better. If it's not fixing these problems, I hate to say it, it's breaking up before the resentment worsens.

No. 109443

Goddamn, I really just want to fuck my boyfriend. We've been dating about 3 months. Every other guy I've been with I've slept with I did on the first date. So this has been a change for me. I'm his first real girlfriend and all that. We're both in our late 20s. He's very sweet and I love spending time with him. I could gush about him but I won't.. you get it. I haven't been pressuring him or anything. Wouldn't want to rush him and make him uncomfortable. But I think about it all the time. Says he has some previous religious hangups. Feels guilty and anxious about sex. Told him therapy might be a good idea and he agreed. We'll see.

Think a fairly large part of why he's not dated anyone is because he's active in the furry community. He draws furry fetish art for money. It's a bit odd but doesn't bother me. I've got my own strange tastes as well. I do worry if being that deep in that sort of community for so long would warp your view on sex. But hopefully that's not the case. He's a pretty normal dude otherwise.

No. 109450

>>109443
Oh boy, the red flags.

No. 109455

>>109443
1. Are you his first?
2. How far have the two of you gone? Making out, nudes, holding hands?

No. 109456

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>>109443
>I could gush about him but I won't.. you get it
>he's active in the furry community. He draws furry fetish art for money

No. 109457

I‘m currently in my first sexual relationship and I’m pretty worried I’m terrible in bed. Not that my boyfriend ever complained or has given me any reason to be thinking that, but all those talks of other guys about girls doing the starfish etc have made me a bit paranoid.

So basically we mostly have sex in missionary, doggy or me lying flat on my stomach and him kneeling or lying on top of me. Now I’m wondering if I’m supposed to do stuff with my pelvis in those positions? Like, ‘fuck him back’ or something?
I mean I do interact with him, but I’m still not sure what starfishing actually means because especially when I’m on my stomach, I don’t feel like there’s much I can do with my body waist down. (I make him cum by moving my pelvis in that position sometimes but he does/has to hold still for that so idk.)

No. 109459

>>109457
The thing about starfish is it’s not just the act of receiving penetration. It’s that there is an obvious lack of enthusiasm/enjoyment from the female or any sort of validation provided to male whatsoever. I think with a few easy things you can make yourself feel more involved with the act.

To combat feelings of “starfish” in male-on-top positions, here are my suggestions:

>lots of touch

If missionary, grip him back. Run your hands down his back and sides. I wrap my legs around my bf and he loves that. You can grind back too in missionary but if he’s a lot bigger than you it can be annoying to both parties I think. If it’s doggy, there’s not a lot you can do. Refer below for advice in this position. If you are on your stomach and he is on top of you, you can usually grip his thigh or wrist. I do this and gently squeeze or caress (not sure if all guys like this tho)

>vocal affirmations

Don’t be completely silent. When my bf and I first started having sex I made this mistake. 2 years in ive become a lot more comfortable and I can tell he enjoys it more. Soft moans, gentle sighs, or just flat out saying you like it are really important. You don’t have to get super vulgar (maybe he likes it?) but it’s nice to talk a little dirty. Say his name softly too, but don’t overdo that one cause it can be weird lol.

>good foreplay

I almost always go down on my bf before sex. Giving a bj is hard and the right guy appreciates you putting in the effort. I find doing this balances out the feeling of me “just taking it” during regular sex.

>switch it up

Try some girl on top positions occasionally. My bf is pretty dominant but once in awhile I ride that d HARD

Lastly, don’t overthink it too much. Guys don’t experience sex in the same way we do. The overall act itself is satisfying where as we seem to be more satisfied by the little nuances and intricacies of it. I was very similar to you in that my current relationship was my first sexual one. With time, it just becomes second nature.

No. 109468

>>109443
>previous religious hangups
>guilty and anxious about sex
>active furry

run.

No. 109470

>>109455
Yeah, I'd be his first. Gave him a handjob once. Declined a BJ. He massages me and rubs my clit fairly often. He does seem to enjoy just touching me, but hasn't gone any further. Thankfully he seems serious about going to therapy, otherwise I'd be more worried.

>>109456
They sure are willing to pay a lot of money for pictures though. It's crazy.

No. 109482

Ive been together with my bf for more than a year and a half. We were each others firsts everything. Now that we have sex frequently, i enjoy it emotionally. But penetration is painful to me. I can be wet but it still hurts so i cant enjoy it truly in a physical way, he is as gentle as a person can be about it.
Can you give me some advice on how to make penetration less painful?

No. 109483

>>109138
>Sex is not a need, what the fuck.
>Are you seriously implying that people literally die without sex?

NAYRT but sex is, psychologically, a very real and important need. People do not literally die without sex, but they very often develop mental illnesses from it (see the entire incel community). It shows an utter lack of understanding of psychology to imply that it ISN'T a need. It's literally what we evolved to do.

I DO agree with most of your other post, but this part is incorrect. Purely platonic relationships do not develop into healthy relationships - humans need intimacy and social bonding. Aside from the very small minority of asexual people, you WILL experience mental distress from lack of sex. What you're implying is the equivalent of saying that space isn't a NEED because you won't literally die from being confined in a 3x6 foot jail cell for prolonged periods of time.

No. 109484

>>109482
Do you use lube?

No. 109486

>>109482
Have you seen a gyno about this?
What exactly hurts (labia minors, entrance, cervix, …) and what kind of pain (cramping, stinging, soreness, …)

There’s a bunch of possible sources of pain during sex.
You might not be wet enough (as >>109484 kinda suggested: try to use lube if you haven’t), you might get tiny tears as others have described, you might not be able to relax (at this point maybe because you expect it to hurt) or even have vaginismus (can you insert a dildo/vibrator, your fingers or tampons?), he might be hitting your cervix (which is painful for a lot of women) or you might even have endometriosis.

That’s just the few things I can think of off the top of my head.
If it’s not easily to be solved by using lube or changing positions, I definitely would go see a gyno about it. None of us can tell you with certainty what it is.

No. 109499

>>109483
>People do not literally die without sex, but they very often develop mental illnesses from it (see the entire incel community)
You have no idea what you're talking about. Incels develop mental illnesses because if a male is still a virgin by the age of 18 he's seen as a loser, and do you think women want to fuck a 30 year old virgin?
People are obsessed with sex because males are taught that they're worthless if they don't fuck 100 girls, and women are taught that they're worthless if men don't find them attractive. Our society is fucked up.
Sure, people would still desire sex if there wasn't so much pressure to do it as fast and as much as possible, but they wouldn't be so fucking desperate that it becomes a need.

No. 109506

>>109483
>space
The difference here is that taking up more space isn't removing another person's autonomy to fulfill it.
And this coming from a khv "femcel" in her twenties. The only way to satisfy people who can't fuck is to force others to fuck them, which just isn't humane. Do I want to fuck some qt I see at school really badly, which is exacerbated by my abnormally high libido? Absolutely, but I wouldn't demand to have him submit his body to me because MUH NEED TO FUCK YOUR ASSHOLE. He's an individual and it's understandable that he, or anyone else I want, doesn't want to fuck me. Just as if I got lucky and dated a man I wouldn't expect him to put out on demand and would just masturbate to satisfy the "need."

Saying rape is excusable and to be expected isn't where it's at, anon.

No. 110813

I'm the anon that started getting off to my sisters husband after watching them have sex. I finally got a resolution after speaking to my sister about it.

I'd been avoiding her since I last saw her over a month ago because it felt really awkward. I couldn't look at her without seeing her face as her husband came inside her. She must have thought something was wrong because we've always been really close and I love seeing my niece. She messaged me to say that she missed me and that she had something she needed to tell me. I went round to see her when I knew her husband would be at work. What she wanted to tell me was that she was pregnant and I was going to be an aunt again. I was happy to hear that but I felt so guilty. I'm fantasizing about fucking her husband while she's having his children.

She must have seen that something wasn't right by my face. I was trying really hard to smile. She asked me if the reason I hadn't been visiting was because I felt embarrassed after watching her and a husband have sex. She knew all along why I was avoiding her. I wanted to fucking die. She started laughing and said that if I didn't want to see two people having sex why was I looking in a married couple's bedroom? She put her arm around me and told me that while it was weird, it wasn't that weird. Both of us had either seen or heard our parents having sex and this wasn't any different. She wasn't angry with me but I wasn't to do it again. I felt so relieved that she didn't think I was a pervert. We spoke after that about how I'd been feeling. She answered some questions I had about sex and relationships. She said that I should wait until I find a boyfriend and not do it with a random hook up. She gave me the same advice as this thread, "if you're that horny and curious get a dildo ffs". By the time I left I felt comfortable enough to give her hug, something I hadn't done for nearly two months.

I'm so happy this is over. I actually feel stupid now for making such a big deal out of it. I still think about her husband sometimes and that feels weird. I don't feel guilty about it any more. It's stopped being intrusive and I'm starting to come up with my own ideal man instead of him.

No. 110823

Are there any anons here who habitually masturbate but don't live alone? How the fuck do you get away with it? I need advice.

No. 110825

>>110823
Do you share the same bedroom and are they always at home or what?

No. 110828

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>>110813
That's so good to hear anon. Good luck moving forward from this!

No. 110829

>>110813
You're lucky to have such an understanding sister. I'm sure another anon will say negative things about it instead, but I'm actually amazed. Don't let stuff come between you guys again!

>>110823
If you don't share a room then it should be fine to do it in bed, but the shower is a normal place too

No. 110830

>>110813
I think they should have held off banging while you, a teenager iirc were not in the house, but maybe you witnessed the conception of a child so ahah that's cool I guess

No. 110831

>>110830
Also the fact you'd seen/heard your parents banging too is gross, it should be called sexual hygiene where people take care not to be heard/witnessed by children, especially relatives

No. 110832

>>110813
I think that went about as well as it could have. Thank you for the update. So…did you get a dildo?
Think about the things you like about your sister's husband and keep them in mind for your own mate search.

No. 110837

>>108193
I hate dirty talk honestly. Especially when they try cursing or whatever. It just seems so fake and disingenuous like the stuff you see in porn.

No. 110839

>>109499
Thank you.

No. 110844

>>110825
>>110829
I don't share a room but the walls are so thin where I live, and there's almost always someone here. I've been considering driving off somewhere private just so I could do it but I'm paranoid about strangers still.

No. 110856

i just started dating a new guy and we’ve tried having sex a few times now and he just can’t stay hard. he keeps assuring me that it’s not me, it’s him, but it’s fucking with my self esteem so much and it sucks because i really like him. i tried talking to him about it and told him that it’s okay if we slow down and to let me know if there’s something i’m doing that he doesn’t like. i don’t really know what else to do. has anyone out there actually fixed this problem? i feel like shit

No. 110857

>>110856
it will fix on it's own the more comfortable you get with eachother. try doing foreplay till you're both insanely horny and then sex.

No. 110861

>>110856
Believe him, and don't let it bother you. It's pretty normal the first few times since you're doing something new. The last guy I dated couldn't stay hard for maybe the first month we started having sex, but it resolved itself in time.

No. 110863

>>110856
Men can have a difficult time maintaining erection when they're feeling anxious, my bf couldn't stay hard for the first 2 month of our relationship and it was because he had performance anxiety and he was very intimidated by me. It just resolved itself with time like >>110861 said.

No. 110865

>>110844
Well, it's possible to masturbate quietly, unless you're using some loud vibrator or something, so not sure what the issue is? It's not like you have to moan loudly when masturbating.

No. 110868

>>110844
Sometime when you have the place to yourself, try masturbating with your phone outside the door recording so you can tell how much sound is really coming out. You'll notice it's probably not that much, if any. Put on some music to kind of drown it out (but not too loud, just the volume you might listen at normally, and never when people are trying to sleep) to help you get out of your head. It helps if that's not the only time you play music, of course.

No. 110892

>>110813
I know this makes me a bad person and I am sorry this happened to you but this did give me a laugh. It's good to hear that it ended on a positive note.

>>110829
>You're lucky to have such an understanding sister
I think it's part of being a big sister. I was always the one that was answering questions about periods and boys when my sisters were teenagers. I guess it's less embarrassing than asking mom.

No. 110929

>>110823
Do it in the bathroom during a shower

No. 111529

>>103874
we have finally talked about it and things have improved greatly. I still don’t like being penetrated but we do other things. I’m very much into oral both ways (male or female)so we do that the most. But considering how I feel about being fucked, true straight sex seems far off and forced on my end. I feel ultimately bad and wonder if I’m really just mostly gay with how I work sexually. after all when I masturbate I don’t at all think of being fucked.

No. 111615

>>103786
can I ask what do you even get a strap on ?
I mean where is the pleasure for you

No. 111629

>>111615
Some people actually like to please their partner.

No. 111630

>>111629
and If he doens't want it ?

No. 111657

>>111630
Then don’t do it?

No. 111664

>>111529
If he's OK with how things are, then you don't really need to feel bad, anon. I totally get where you're coming from regarding the whole penetration/vulnerability issue. When I first had sex with a man, I was surprised how terrible it felt, because when I had been masturbating, I'd never actually imagined myself getting penetrated during sex and never found that to be a turn-on for me. Still kind of struggling with the whole concept. And I'm straight, not even bisexual.

No. 111803

does any one here wrestle/play fight before and during sex

its something me and my bf do competing to see who will be the dom and who gets to be on top
now obviously he's holding back and I do use full force to try to beat him but even then I lose everytime
some times he gives himself handicaps like he will wear a blindfold or ties one hand behind his back but he still always wins
now obviously this is meant to be fun and I don't wanna hurt him seriously like hit his balls or punch him but I do wanna hold him down so that he can't move and use my legs to thrust into him as much as I please while in missionary. All the while hissing obscene comments in his ear like "be a good boy" and "you're going to get fucked by me, and you're going to like it."

so my question how do I win these fights ?

No. 111806

>>111803
I do that as well anon, if I really wanna win I try and throw my boy off guard completely. It doesn't work all the time but it's worth a shot.

No. 111818

How do I get over internalized misogyny to the point where I've felt my female body is simply disgusting? I barely let guys take off my bra and panties due to insecurity, I don't let them anywhere near my vagina, they beg to eat me out and finger me and I always say no because I know if it's not that of a sex doll they'll go on whatever forum they like later and bitch about how disgusting vaginas are, I've tried to let one have sex with me once but he couldn't fit it in simply because I wasn't aroused

No. 111819

>>111803
Get a weaker boyfriend and beef up yourself if you're petite.

No. 111821

>>111819
not particularly petite in fact I'm in pretty good shape
my bf barely if ever works our and is 2 inches shorter then me

No. 111829

>>111818
Damn maybe stop trying to fuck if you're so cripplingly insecure and unaroused first of all, all you're doing is traumatizing yourself. Sex is supposed to be happy time for you, not some duty you agonize over whether you were pleasing enough. Secondly, are you fucking guys from r9k or something? Normie men while still have preferences, even porn-sick ones aren't that hung up about your body not looking like a blow up doll. Just proper hygiene is enough. Get therapy to overcome your self-hatred and regain healthy attitude about sex. Best wishes.

No. 111832

>>111818
Sounds like a serious problem and not something an anon can give a bit of quick fix advice for.
But other than what >>111829 said, maybe read some feminist books like Beauty and Misogyny. And remember that somehow the most stinky of men usually don't have a problem showing their bodies to women during sex.

No. 111850

>>111821
Damn, is it a body weight thing then? Is he kind of heavyset/one of those people with some natural muscle ("""mesomorph""" if you will)?
Asking because I've experienced having more upper body strength than short scrawny guys. Unless genetic differences in muscle fiber or whatever are in effect here.
(original post was obviously goofing btw, but now I'm serious)

No. 111859

>>111850
about 30 lbs heavier then me and he's a mix of some natural muscle and fat

No. 111862

>>111832
>>111829
I have to get over being completely traumatized by a very abusive ex boyfriend who would compare me to his exes and other girls anytime I sent him pictures of myself, during sex, or just randomly really, but also beg me for sex and claim I was abusing him if I didn't fufill his needs despite claiming my body turns him off and how he's fucked sexy perfect skin pear shaped models before and I should be ashamed of myself

I can't enjoy sex or anything pertaining to my body without feeling like I'm only there to be judged and pulled apart, I can't even go to parks or swimming because of my crippling insecurity, I become instantly unaroused the second someone touches me or I expose myself to somebody, it makes me terrified they'll just find something wrong with me and I'll just be another disappoint who belongs in the trash. I honestly don't know what to do at this point outside of killing myself because I feel like even if I pursue my career and hobbies my body will be a disappointment to someone and nobody will ever be able to focus on anything except for how bad my body is and how better everyone is


The fucked up part is I don't even think my body is that bad, I'm a good weigh, have hips and a round butt, perkish boobs that are a nice size and good nipples and an average looking vagina, I just know people are just constantly judging me

No. 111863

>>111862
So if he wanted to fuck skinny pear shaped models why was he with you? He was free to leave if it was that important to him.

It wasn't you, it was something else he was dissatisfied about, likely his own insecurity since he clearly wanted to feel superior over you,otherwise he wouldn't say those things.

No. 111864

>>111862
Do you have access to a therapist? This is something you really should see someone about because this is obviously impacting your quality of life. You are not the things he said and you deserve to live a happy life and feeling beautiful. You deserve to get help.

No. 111867

>>111863
I realize that, it's just very hard for me to focus on any sexual activity without feeling like they're comparing me to others, he'll be in the middle of fucking me and randomly mention how his exes butt was bigger or was tighter or whatever, I'm not with him anymore thank God but it has damaged me for life and I truly do not believe I'll ever be able to enjoy any sort of intimacy with anyone ever again

>>111864
I don't, I'm very poor, my life's a mess

No. 111909

>>111862
you know anon, most people are too busy judging their own bodies to focus on yours! you're doing a great job by listing the things you love about yourself, too. take it day by day, focus on being happy, and if someone has a problem with your body, remember it's their problem, not yours

No. 111916

>>111862
I'm so sorry that happened anon.

Idk if this will help, but if you can't fix it in your head to see yourself as cute and know that's how other people see you…set out to terrify and disgust them. I still struggle with this because I'm objectively ugly and the right person does make me feel a bit bad still, but most of the time I like proudly disgusting others. If they're going to be judgemental over your imperfection then be an eyesore to them and ruin their day. It's what they deserve, absolute cunts.

No. 112569

I know this is going to sound beyond retarded but this is a serious question. When you're giving a guy a blowjob, you're supposed to literally suck right? Like vaccuum suck with your mouth? For some reason I was thinking about it the other day and it just occurred to me that giving a guy head doesn't just involve you putting your mouth on his d and going up and down without actually sucking. I don't know why I thought that all these years and I know I sound like a dumb middle schooler so please don't laugh.
I've obviously never been with a guy but I don't want to be bad at pleasuring one when the time comes. I did try sucking on my finger and it kinda hurt though but I guess it must feel different on a guys dick.. someone give me the tea

No. 112570

>>112569
Not exactly - it’s not necessary - it’s more the pressure and rubbing than actually sucking although feel free to suck if that’s your thing.

No. 112572

>>112570
Also, remember to use tongue — the bottom side and tip are most sensitive - also the very base is kinda pressure sensitive - considering squeezing it a bit

No. 112573

>>112569
You don't suck on it. The best way to help with kissing and with blow jobs is to consider is is a mimic of sex. Your mouth is mimicking the vagina. So you are creating a nice wet hole for the dick to go in, and unless you want him to face fuck you (which is among my worst sexual experiences, do not recommend) you are mimicking his pumping action of thrusting into you, but slower. He gets to be lazy and have the PIV experience without doing anything at all.
Small, warm friendly hole, cover teeth with your lips. Coverage of the whole dick if possible, or put your hand on it too to add to the feeling, and remember the top (end of penis) is the extra sensitive bit, so be careful and generous with that bit.

No. 112622

>>112573
good advice except you can/do suck, it depends on the guy. my ex used to be nearly fkn screaming at me to suck harder I was like dude I am going to burst a blood vessel. now I just ask.

No. 112644


No. 112651

>>112622
This though, it definitely depends. My bf actually pointed out my lack of sucking-action as well.

I mean… there are literally flesh lights that’ll create a vacuum for pleasure. Without at least a little suction it feels like thrusting into the air (or at least so I’ve been told).

No. 112718

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>>112569
the technique i've found to work best, is, so basically you're trying to extend the length of your mouth with the hand to feel like a vagoo. right now, if you cup your hand around your mouth and breathe in, you'll feel a suction. if there was a dick there, you'd wrap your hand around it, keeping your mouth on your hand, and suck. this creates a vaccuum effect, with saliva to fill in the cracks between your fingers, by sealing off airflow with your hand. hope that makes sense

No. 112734

farmers, i'm a virgin who doesn't like watching porn. my guy friend (also a virgin) and I are going to hook up within the next few months and i'm excited. he wants to eat me out but I actually don't even know how a guy eats a girl out. what kind of direction should I give him? I don't even masturbate so I honestly don't know what would feel good…

No. 112735

>>112734
You don't masturbate? Are you asexual?

No. 112737

>>112735
i just never enjoyed it. last time i did it was like, September of last year honestly. it's not fun for me, i don't know what i'm doing and i don't care enough to try to orgasm. i've never orgasmed either, though i've been close. i'll admit i was raised catholic so i don't know much about my anatomy. that doesn't make me asexual though, i like getting off, i just have some confusion surrounding it i guess. he has gotten me close to orgasming before though, in video calls.

being as unexperienced as i am, i just really need some advice on how to tell an inexperienced guy what to do when he goes down on me. we're both going to be very confused lol.

No. 112738

>>112737
>i'll admit i was raised catholic so i don't know much about my anatomy

What's stopping you (and him) from googling factual, non porn info about female anatomy though?

No. 112739

>>112738
i could have worded it better. what i mean is like, i know my anatomy, but i don't know what to do to reach orgasm.

and nothing is stopping me from asking. that's why i just asked this thread.

No. 112742

>>112737
>How to give someone direction when they're performing sexual acts on you
Be kind and give clear direction, that's really it. If he is the kinda person that can't take feedback at face value, try to prime him before sex happens. At the end of the day your partner has to be able to listen to your feedback bc it's your body and the whole point of going down on you is to get you off. A partner that takes offense to feedback on sex of all things is someone that needs to be booted, experienced or not.

No. 112744

>>112742
thankfully he's a wonderful guy and there won't be any issues there. i guess what i'm asking here is, what specifically feels good when a guy gives you head? what do guys typically do that isn't great and what would be better?

No. 112755

i'm pretty insecure about my body, especially my butt and i'm also sexually inexperienced. i'm pretty skinnyfat and don't have much of an ass so i'm not into sex positions that make it obvious that i'm not very curvaceous, like doggy. can anyone recommend me positions that they think would be best to sort of conceal this?

No. 112760

>>112744
There’s really no ‘he needs to do this to get you off’-manual-kind of answer, if that’s what you’re looking for.
Different things work for different people. Some girls like extensive tongue action, others like some suction, some enjoy soft nibbling, some like to be penetrated while being eaten out - and some don’t.

Best advice to give you is to let him know when something he does feels good. (But obviously as well if something doesn’t.)

But most importantly: Don’t expect to orgasm. Don’t plan out every single step. Just don’t put that kind of pressure on yourself and him. It’s your first time. The first time usually isn’t that great. Even if you’ve had sex plenty times having sex with someone new is almost never as good as it gets over time.
Just… don’t expect too much from it.

No. 112762

>>112755
i don't think you should be focusing on finding positions that "conceal" your body. for now, start with the positions you're most comfortable in, work on yourself, and as you get more confident you can branch out to other positions that your insecurity may be keeping you from enjoying.

No. 112778

hi so today was the first time i ever gave head, and my boyfriend came in under 3-5 minutes. does this mean i'm good or? im really insecure when it comes to this and i want to improve. my throat hurts like a bitch so that's always cool, i loved pleasing him tho. i just wish he came a tad bit more. i mean this is his first time receiving head and my first time giving it. i just want to know if it's a positive thing for him to cum that quickly??

No. 112779

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>>112778
Well done, Anon!
You deserve a medal for that.

No. 112780

>>112778
Are you underaged?

No. 112781

>>112780
How could you infer that from how little she (he??? i'm not ruling anything out) wrote?
Get your mind out of the gutter.

No. 112782

>>112781
Because she asked weird obvious question about things that everybody know about sex?
>GUYS I MADE MY BF CUM WITH MY MOUTH… IS… IS that a good thing? IDK !

No. 112785

>>112782
Well, I have never made a guy cum with my mouth. And I dont know how long he should last – if he lasts a short time – does that means he's bad in bed? Or am I just that good?
And I'm 22. So there you go. We learn something new everyday.

No. 112795

>>112785
Don't feel insecure! If you both had fun and it was enjoyable it doesn't really matter.
Try not to measure yourself by arbitrary standards of how long he lasts or how 'good' you are. If it works for both of you then it's fine.

No. 112802

>>112785
How quickly guys cum depends on their jerking off habits but also general preferences.
Some guys cum easily from blowjobs, some don’t. The first guy I ever gave head to came in like 3-5 minutes as well and I didn’t know shit about what I was doing and there probably were even teeth involved. My current boyfriend has issues coming from it even if I deepthroat him. Like, he‘ll literally shake from pleasure but still won’t come. And he‘d had this with all girls. He needs forever to come, due to death grip.

It’s just really not as simple as
>he comes fast I must be really good
>he doesn’t come fast I must suck

No. 112809

>>112779
i appreciate the aot gif thx anon, kek.

>>112782
as a clarification, i’m 18. ik ik late in the dick sucking game, i just know different guys react differently and i was a bit nervous so ig i sounded naive and young. whoopsies.

>>112785
idk if this would help. but deep-throating and sucking at the tip seemed to do the trick? that was when he came at least. eye contact helps as well. but if you both equally enjoy it, i don’t think there is anything wrong in him not cumming anon!!

No. 112820

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Boobilicious ladies.

I am requesting advice on, well, boob jobs. Boob fuck? Idk what the formal name for it is. I don't watch porn and I have one sexual partner (my husband) so I'm retarded when it comes to this stuff.

I have like a size b-c cup and my husband has requested twice for me to give him a boobjob(?). Yesterday, he asked if I had some kind of tightfitting bra to squeeze my boobs together. The answer was no, but I tried a bra anyway and it was impossible for him to get his wee in there. I don't have huge boobs but I still have some boob so we were able to do it while I was pushing my breasts together, but it was pretty uncomfortable and I am wondering if there is a type of bra that pushes your boobs together but still allows for the wee to enter and not get chaffed in the process. Idk if such a thing exists.

Help, please…

No. 112826

>>112820
why are you with a man that has requested you get a boob job, let alone twice? that's not cool.

No. 112827

>>112826
No, not a boob job lol… a boobjob. Where you use your breasts to stimulate the penis. He has never once suggested the former.

No. 112828

>>112820
Lube up the tiddies? I'm not even an A cup so I have no experience but it sounds like it could help

No. 112831

>>112820
lmao well I just kinda shimmy up around the dick, get my tits all lotioned up, and go until it gets boring for me, and do something else. There isn't really a bra that works for me (c-d cup) for tit fucking, so I just get him so he isn't looking and then do it. It looks really goofy but I'm just like, hunched over and pushing my boobs together around his dick. Not sexually stimulating in any way for me, but it seems to work for him.

No. 112832

>>112831
Haha, ok thank you, this is pretty much what I ended up doing too. He seemed to enjoy it but I thought it was goofy af. I'll take >>112828's and your advice of lubing the tiddies and we'll go from there

No. 112836

>>112827
ohhhhh thank goodness, i read it as "get a boobjob". those chinese amazon bras that are really pretty look like they push together a lot, but i don't think you can put his penis between. basically any bra is going to come inbetween i think?

No. 112837

>>112820
I think it could work if you push your boobs together with your hands and interlace your fingers across the cleavage

No. 112840

>>112837
Tell him to man up and use his own hands if he’s so desperate to rub his cock on you. Jesus, how do you think this is your problem?
Also your husband sounds like a degenerate. Tell him to watch less porn, and maybe he’ll enjoy sex more.

No. 112860

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My boyfriend has brought up the idea of making a mold of his penis so I can use as a dildo?

Recently he's been super busy at work and not home until late while I'm asleep so we haven't had too much sex since (we used to have sex very frequently every week but it has sadly slow down because of our schedules). Anyone have any experiences with this? Would it just be easier to get a dildo that's the same size as him or . . ? I'm not against the idea but a bit "meh" on it.

No. 112861

>>112820

Make him do it himself.

Seriously, I was in the same boat as you. My boyfriend asked and I was super embarrassed because my boobs weren't "big" enough to do it myself. I felt uncomfy trying to do it alone. He suggested he could hold them and fuck into them and it worked.

Just lube up your chest a bit and he can do the rest tbh.

No. 112878

>>112860
That's up to you I guess, you want a special penis or some plain dildo? It'd probably be costly, check to see if whatever company he's thinking of uses good quality material.

No. 112879

>>112820
Isn't it called tittyfucking? Lol either way squeezing them together helps, also being at a slight downward angle can help extra skin gather up.

No. 112929

>>112820
Anon, I'm a 30FF and my bf asked me to try it. I have huge tits that could easily do it and yet it sucked. It was awkward for me and was not pleasurable for my boyfriend at all. Like you'd have to squeeze your tits super hard to make a tight space, hope for no boob sweat and then maybe lube it up. It's just a porn thing and for regular, normal people sex it's better to just stick his dick in your vagina where both of you can enjoy it and there's no effort to make a hole out of a weird crevice to fufill some sort of 'porn' fantasy.

Not worth it, tell your husband to get over it since pornstars do actually pleasurable stuff like .01% time and tit-jobs aren't one of them.

No. 112991

>>112929
I don’t think it’s a just a porn thing. My boyfriend enjoys tittyfucking my boobs lubed up and I normally stimulate my nipples with my hands so I get off on it physically and we both enjoy it. I think the biggest aspect to is the visual/mental appeal though.

No. 112993

>>112991

Sage for non contribution but same, I really like the visual appeal of it, even if it doesn't "hit any spots" physically. Too bad my tits are too small and a one cup difference to boot. damn

No. 112994

>>112929
FF isn't a real bra size LMAO.

No. 112996

>>112994
I'm not even that anon but what are you talking about…? yes it is? a rare size yes, but it definitely exists. I'm a 32f and I very much exist and so do my bras.

No. 113009

>>112996
nta but F is a real bra size. FF isn't except in Australia and the UK.

But I just assumed 30FF anon was Australian or British.

No. 113133

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>>112820
I'd try a bra shaper/dirndl bra, I guess, but I've had the most success with one of us just using hands. Let the hand form the 3rd/4th side of the enclosure and avoid contorting yourself in a way that's painful. Basically press his penis to your sternum, and any breast that ends up on either side is extra.

No. 113134

>>112994
You're fucking retarded. 30FF is definitely a bra size, idiot. I'm a 30H in US sizes but buy bras from brands that tend to carry my size by brands like Panache, Cleo, Freya which size me as a 30FF.

No. 113275

I've been with my boyfriend for around 3 years. All is good but I've always found he's very closed off when it comes to the subject of sex. It's like he gets uncomfortable and won't talk to me about it when I want to.

When we started going out I always felt the need to know if he had any particular kink or wanted to know what kind of porn he liked, etc. He always replied stuff like "I don't know, the usual", and I always got a bit annoyed because I felt he was not being truthful. I even asked him once jokingly when was the last time he jerked off or watched porn once and he got a bit annoyed and told me he didn't need to share EVERYTHING about him with me. So he's clearly uncomfortable with the subject.

The issue is that I find after three years I can't really talk about sex with him, or how to improve it, because I always feel guilty about putting him in this place, and even if I push myself and say "fuck it, he should talk about it" I'm afraid of making him self conscious and ruining the mood. We had a short period of a couple of weeks were he performed badly because of a talk we had about me not reaching an orgasm. He's clearly not very confident in himself and I don't want to hate him for it but help him.

I just want to be able to be kinky with him and to feel more open to ask for stuff during sex, or feel like I can dress somehow and he wont make fun or me or whatever. I have the suspicion that if I act dirty he'll go along with it, but I find it hard to take this step because I'm also pretty shy. I'm aware talking about it in a serious tone is a bad idea, because it just creates an uncomfortable situation for both. I guess my best course of action is to be more talkative and ask him to do what I want and force him to be more dirty? I just find it hard since I always needed some encouragement from the other person to be able to do it.

I really love him and I don't want this to be the thing that separates us, because I do feel that we could change it. It doesnt' help that I also have a really hard time reaching an orgasm, and not with him but with every guy I've been with (I think I've had orgasms like three times in total). And no, I don't usually ask for help after they come because I just feel awkward when they do it. I can't get in the mood.

Any advice?

No. 113279

>>113275
Careful anon, someone here will probably read this and accuse him of watching cp and snuff which is why he doesn't want to talk about it.

But really, was he raised religiously or something? Seems he feels guilt about it. Or is he just generally shy/closed off?

No. 113282

>>>113279
Lol I can 100% say he's not interested in weird stuff. I just don't see it. I'm sure he's just uncomfortable in general about it, and not very confident. He gets into sex no problem, I just would like to be able to talk more about it and feel confident in being able to express in more kinky ways. He's very closed off with a lot of things in general, he's the typical dude that doesn't cry much, or talk about his feelings.

I just feel he's not confident in going all the way, and I feel the same way sometimes. He also has a low libido and doesn't seem that particularly interested to fuck all the time, like we usually have sex once per night and he's done. Over the years I've sort of got into the same pace as him so it doesn't bother me as much.

I just feel we both need to feel more free and just go for it, but we have a hard time shutting our brains off.

No. 113283

>>113282
Just wanted to clarify it's not once per night, I usually see him over the weekend, so we fuck once per week.

Also, if he's into something kinky, I don't think I'll mind, unless it's really bad like fecal matter or chocking me to death. I know some anons are going to accuse him of that, I've had friends joke about the same thing, but after three years I'm confident he's just not the typical dude that's horny all the time and wants to sexualize everything. He's just very chill and laid back. Which is good, but it can get frustrating sometimes for me since I would like rougher sex.

No. 113287

>>113283
>it can get frustrating sometimes for me since I would like rougher sex

Tell him that then.
From reading this I get a feeling that you’re being too pushy or trying to talk about it when younger frustrated or when you’re actually in a sexual situation.

I get that you’re frustrated. But try not to force him into something he doesn’t want. Try telling him ‘Hey, I would really like if we could try this. How do you feel about it/Is that something you would enjoy, too?’

>I'm aware talking about it in a serious tone is a bad idea, because it just creates an uncomfortable situation for both.


It’s not a bad idea.
You’re both adults (I assume) and this is a serious issue that might lead to your breakup eventually. So you need to have a serious talk about it.

No. 113288

>>113287
I agree with you, I just feel I've tried several times and always end the conversation feeling more frustrated. I remember once I got mad at him, turned my back and he was content not talking to me for over an hour until I talked again. I know it can sound petty too, but I just feel he should be able to talk about this type of stuff after 3 years. We always end up with me telling him he needs to break down that wall and him agreeing, but not really trying anything after that.

I know if I ask would you like to try this etc, I won't get a passionate reply, it will be like an "ok, if you want" and I just get annoyed that I don't know if he wants to or is feeling obligated to do it because I asked?

I know I have little confidence too. I would like to initiate a conversation and feel like we took a step together, or at least get a reply that wasn't so lukewarm from him. I've asked did you enjoy that, did you like how I did that and I get such an awkward "yes" from him that I can't really build up much confidence. I thnk he enjoys the sex, he's just so bad at talking about it.

No. 113788

Any tips on nudes? I don't know where to find the insipiration anymore, all of my nudes keep having the same pose over and over again. Bf doesnt find them boring, but I do.

No. 113793

>>113788
Try nude yoga or something.

No. 113817

>>113788
Is the nudes he sends you of super artistic quality or something?

No. 113858

I'm planning on losing my vcard to a guy who has a dick about 7.5 inches and thicker than average. I still have my hymen.
This is gonna be horrible for me, right? He never had sex either.
What can I do?

No. 113859

>>113275
>>113288
I was in a similar situation and it just ended up killing my self-esteem even more. Either he does something about his insecurity or you'll need to leave.

No. 113860

>>113858
Take it slow and don't get upset if you can't make the key fit the lock on the firs try. Neither of you are at fault if it hurts too much. You can always try again another time so just take that moment and enjoy it for what it is. You can use your hands and mouth and have a really nice time regardless of if penis in vagina happens. I was in that exact situation and it took a couple of tries before penetration could happen. It did hurt but only for a little while. Take it slow and be gentle. And don't expect you or the guy to perform amazingly. You are both literally fucking noobs who need to git gut with practise.

Good luck and have fun with it, Anon! :)

No. 113861

>>113858
Your "hymen"folds will always be there, just more stretched out. Have you been using fingers and sextoys to stretch them out? Try that first.

No. 114157

Any tips on making a guy cum more easily? I've started becoming sexual only months ago with my first boyfriend (who's also my first sexual partner). We aren't ready for PiV so I've just been giving him oral and handjobs.

The issues are that I really don't have enough forearm strength to give him firm and lengthy handjobs. He also doesn't seem to cum easily from my blowjobs, so he'll just start jerking himself off to finish. It's kinda embarrassing for me to suck so much at this (in both senses) especially since he's such a wonderful partner, so I would appreciate any tips on how to give him more satisfying experiences.

No. 114159

>>114157
Is he cut? It may not be an issue with your technique if so

No. 114161

>>114159
No he's uncut.

No. 114163

>>114157
Does he masturbate a lot and/or watch porn? I had an ex who was uncut and it was impossible to make him cum because he was a porn addict and chronic masturbator. It wasn't an issue with my technique I think either because my partner after him (who was cut) had no trouble cumming with me. In any case, if it's not a porn/masturbation issue, you should just ask him what feels best.

No. 114165

>>114163
He used to watch porn often but said that he doesn't get off to porn as much anymore and prefers pictures of me/fantasies he has involving me. I would say he masturbates at least one or twice a week.

I guess I'll talk to him more about his preferences and see where that goes. Thanks!

No. 114183

>>114157
it's normal for dudes to not be able to cum from a blowjob. my boyfriend says it feels really fuckin good when i blow him, he just can't cum from it.

No. 114184

>>114157
It has probably nothing to do with you, a lot of men tend to squeeze their penis really hard when they masturbate to the point where stimulation from a mouth isn't enough to make them cum. I can only make my bf cum from a bj if I squeeze his dick super hard and suck him off for 30 min straight, which is really tiring and not sexy, I'll usually just suck him off for 10 - 20 min and he'll finish himself.

No. 114187

>>114184
lmao why are you doing that to urself

No. 114189

>>114187
Because it's way easier ? I'd rather him finish himself off than break my jaw giving him a 30 min long strong bj.

No. 114199

I dont feel aroused or any pleasure during any kind of sex (even oral/fingering). His penis entering just feels like two unsexual body parts mashing. I really care about my bf and I think he's really cute but I have no idea what to do. He even tried to play into my rough sex fanfic fantasy and still nothing. He has had several previous girlfriends and he made them orgasm. Any advice?

No. 114200

Somewhat related to that other anon's bj issue, is it easier to make tiny weak men orgasm due to the lack of high grip strength?

No. 114204

>>114199
Do you never feel aroused or are you just not into this guy?

No. 114205

>>114161
If he's uncut, fully retract his foreskin and look at the underside of his dick. Where the shaft meets the tip, there will be a small piece of skin that connects the two. If he hasn't wrecked his dick with porn, this area should be extremely sensitive. Kiss it or lick it and see what he likes.

No. 114208

>>114199
I feel you. I have this weird issue where I‘ll get super turned on by reading sexual stories or sometimes watching porn, but in real life it just feels really weird.
Idk maybe it’s because I’ve never been really sexually attracted to my partners (even though I did love them) or if I’m not interested in actual sex with other people. Or maybe I’ve built it up in my head so much that it’s impossible for reality to ever meet my expectations.

I don’t know what it is, but it sure as hell is weird to be really horny and fantasize about sex but never get any pleasure from actual sex.

No. 114209

>>114208
Anon…this sounds pornsick.

No. 114210

>>114208
>because I’ve never been really sexually attracted to my partners

Why is like half of anons itt together with people they aren't attracted to, and then wonder why they don't enjoy sex?!

No. 114215

>>114208

I feel like people tend to forget females can become porn sick as well.

No. 114216

>>114210
bc men are objectively sexually unattractive unless u add a level of self delusion on top. imagining sex is always more pleasurable than sex due to the physical limitations of a male.

the concept of a man is more appealing than the real thing
, therefore the real thing can never compete with masturbation+fantasy but we still try anyway

No. 114220

>>114216
Speak for yourself.
And don't start a sexual relationship with someone you aren't attracted to, wtf.

No. 114224

>>114216
>men are objectively sexually unattractive
>objectively
My god, the man-hate on this website is out of this world. idk if I love it or not.
There are over 7 billion people on this planet, anon. Wild that you think none of them can naturally be attracted to men. You really are pornsick, same level as men who find women with anything less than cartoonish proportions unappealing.

No. 114225

>>114224
Instead of pornsick, I'm suspecting those anons are actually closeted lesbians or semi-asexual autists.

No. 114235

>>114204
I've only ever had one sexual partner, but I've only ever felt aroused while reading/watching porn so idk. Never in real life.

But the thing is, there is no way i'm "porn sick" because I hardly watch or read porn in the first place.

No. 114237

>>114224
have u considered the fact that normal heterosexual intercourse by design doesn't result in female orgasm and it could be the reason why many straight women prefer fantasy over reality

No. 114238

i'm 30 and have only tried to have sex 2 times, when i was a teenager. i didn't enjoy it either time so i consider myself a stunted virgin. this has been one of the reasons i don't date, i'm pretty embarrassed about it.

my question is, is it possible for me to be normal in bed when i start dating again? is sex pretty intuitive? should i bring up the fact i'm extremely inexperienced? i feel like that's a huge turnoff.

No. 114243

>>114238
I wouldn't bring it up, sex is pretty easy. He would just think you were a pillow princess or something like if you'd said it had been a while. But you can only get away with that if you're comfortable with penetration. If you end up in love and in a serious relationship with the first guy you get sexual with you'd want to tell him but realistically that's unlikely to happen since it's rare to pick right the first time with so little dating experience. So instead you're probably going to need to date around a little bit to figure out what sort of personality you like which is why I say to keep it private. You might be fine with losing it to someone you love and marry but the emotional vulnerability of sharing that with someone that is so likely to be unsuccessful in the long term might warrant keeping it a private memory. Is there any particular reason you waited this long though? Were you religious?

No. 114244

>>114243
no, just don't have a very strong desire to date or have sex in general. i have a bit of curiosity and keep thinking about trying dating again but every time i actually go on dates, like from apps and stuff, it just fizzles out. i never feel desire to continue going out with them. maybe i'm asexual or something

No. 114245

>>114237
If you're not enjoying hetero intercourse then don't do it, but you can't speak for all women. It's a complicated balance of both participants proportions and arousal state, some women can come from penetration alone and some will always need help

No. 114246

>>114237
we really got the short end of the stick. i'm not gender dysphoric but i would i could turn into a man when i get horny and just go fuck randos. getting off so easily for no effort must be awesome.

No. 114247

>>114246
wish*

and before incels come in talking about how it's hard to get laid, i'd be fucking other men on grindr

No. 114248

>>114238
You should be comfortable mentioning to him your sexual inexperience. If he's "turned off" and wants to ignore it, then he's an asshole and you shouldn't be doing it with him because he only cares about himself and his own pleasure.

Be open and honest and just have fun. It will all come naturally.

No. 114249

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>>111803
>>111806
>>111819
>>111821
>>111850
Update
I owe you all an update as Its been a month now and your advice >>111899 has dramatically changed our sex lives
>get him to do push-ups and sit-ups until he can't do another one and then wrestle since he's ok with making it fairer. It's basically nerfing your strength to try to fight with tired muscles.

the first time we tried it like this It felt like a whole new world,he tried to be aggressive and hold me down but I overpowered him and got loose easily and then I held him down.I grabbed his shoulders and pulled him in so he couldn't get loose, I used my legs to thrust into him as much as I pleased while in missionary.all the while he was squirming and getting embarrassed,I was also hissing some obscene comments in his ear that I had practiced like "be a good little boy" and "you're going to get fucked by me, and you're going to like it." this was his first time being in a submissive role and since then our relationship on all levels is still the same but in bed I'm taking the more dominant role more often and we have also changed the rules a little bit,Instead of Push ups to failure were doing a set number of Push ups thats slowly Increasing (currently he's at 35 Push ups)
this whole thing Is making him workout a lot more as before he never used to exercise

No. 114259

Is there any way to learn how to have vaginal orgasm?

No. 114263

>>114259
It's more about how your nerves are aligned. But experiment and see what kind of stimulation you like.

No. 114264

>>114216
Are you sure you're straight? Men are not objectively sexually unattractive, plenty of women are very sexually attracted to men, all kind of men can turn on straight women, some like fat men, some like muscular men, some like cute skinny men… if ZERO men attract you or turn you on, maybe you're a lesbian and you definitely shouldn't torture yourself with straight sex if you don't want it or enjoy it.

>>114237
You don't HAVE to have boring PIV even in an heterosexual relationship, learn to have boundaries and refuse painful, uncomfortable or unpleasurable sex. Demand to be eaten out or fingered until you come and if the dude refuse just drop him, life is to short to have shitty painful sex, you'll end up hating your partner.

No. 114267

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What kind of sex drive do you consider as normal?

I am pretty sure that I am just overthinking, since I came back to my s/o after two months without seeing him, but…

Thing is, I love him so much that I end up being aroused around him so easily. It's been 2 days since I'm back and we've been having sex 7 times now, thanks to me. But I can't help it and remind myself that before I had to leave for these 2 months due to family issues, we've always had sex at least 3 or 4 times a day. I am always the one to start and he loves it alot, but at the same time I am worried that it might end up affecting us at some point because he works alot. (He oftenly feels tired from work when he arrives) But God I can't help but always think of lewd stuff quite often when we are together. I don't mean that all i do is just hop on his cock, our relationship is going very well, but still…!

I might be overthinking because I have gone through alot of stress lately, but oof.

No. 114268

I have my first bf atm and have a really weird issue.
I have huge trouble orgasming from penetration. Or even feel any pleasure from penetrative stimulation. Except for the like 30-60seconds when my boyfriend has just cum inside of me while I’m on my stomach and his dick gets flaccid again while he’s still inside of me. When that happens he always hits a spot in really good way. But it never lasts long enough to really make me come or anything as he gets even softer, obviously.

I have tried hitting that spot with vibrators or dildos and also my fingers in several different positions, I‘ve tried finding a position during sex that helps him hit this spot - but nothing seems to work.

Is there something else that can help me find this certain spot? I‘m pretty sure I can feel my g-spot when fingering myself but stimulating it really does nothing at all for me and pressing or rubbing harder just hurts.

I‘m so confused as I always feel like I‘m just not made for vaginal stimulation but then he comes and it feels AMAZING for a few seconds and then it’s gone.

No. 114272

>>114268
tell him this exactly, first of all

then try experimenting with dick insertion. have him just put the tip in or one inch or so and feel around. you can also try to show him how to finger you

No. 114288

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>>114264
Men only turn me on if they're fictional and effeminate, though it's kind of going away too.

I have attempted to have a straight relationship after years of flicking bean to 2d and lemme tell you, the sensations down there are absolutely nothing like what I'm used to while masturbating. It's incredibly tedious and underwhelming even though he's something most women would consider an attentive lover. I'm also not physically attracted to my boyfriend but I think I love him as a person or something. He's not a part of my fantasies or even something I think about when he's banging me. In fact, him reminding me of his presence makes me go arid. Most of the time I genuinely cannot tell the difference between attractive and ugly 3d men because they serve as an obstacle to arousal. I feel like a lot of female attraction to men is based on utility rather than genuine desire.

Anyone else has a similar experience?

No. 114290

>>114288
Anon…you just aren't sexually attracted to men, it sounds like. Have you ever been attracted to women? If I were you (and also attracted to ladies) I'd just go that route if you split with your bf. By all means stay with him if he's emotionally and romantically fulfilling though.

>I feel like a lot of female attraction to men is based on utility rather than genuine desire

Oddly I think media does portray this often (men are subjects, women are objects that the man does sex to) but it doesn't apply to all of us. I know I get mad aroused just being in physical proximity to the type of men I find attractive lmao, and anons here objectify men often.

Also are you the anon in the men-you're-ashamed-to-say-you'd-fuck thread (I think?) who also was going on about being unsure of when men are ugly? I was the one who replied saying men are swamps lol. They generally aren't very aesthetically pleasing in the same way women are, but they can be/are sexy and appealing to the average straight or bi woman.

No. 114292

Any anons try maca root supplements? Do you take them daily or just before sex?
I'm looking into trying them for libido and energy levels because I've had a lot of trouble with getting tired all the time in the middle of the day and want to try using less caffeine.
I know one thing people warn about is if you have hypertension but afaik I don't. I do take Lexapro 5mg (which I also want to stop partially because it's made it take longer for me to orgasm and makes me less horny but I don't like to tell anyone that when I ask about any of this irl…) I want to taper off that but I'm scared of the withdrawal symptoms and don't know what to do if it turns out I really do need to stay on it, but at such a low dosage…I figure it can't be that bad.
I just want my old sex drive back, it feels like I used to have more of spontaneous one instead of only receptive and now it's harder to get me in the mood too. I thought women get more libido toward their 30s so I don't think it's my age, and my bf is super attractive to me. The only good thing is I know I'm really lucky because I'm only mildly affected and have a "normal" female sex drive but I used to be kind of voracious before I got on SSRIs.
If anyone has recommendations for pills that are good please comment! Or if you found something that works better or know anything about SSRI sexual dysfunction, that's good too. I'm on a budget though too lol.

>>114268
You might need to be more aroused. What the other anon said about experimenting with positions and toys, and telling him what you told us, is a good idea too. For some women having him come in from behind at a certain angle stimulates the right spot but it's personal how you enjoy it. I've noticed it's easier for me to "hit the spot" with a dildo because I know where to go, so your bf needs you to give him that guidance somehow.

No. 114295

>>114290
>men are swamps lol. They generally aren't very aesthetically pleasing in the same way women are

Oh boy…average of men is ugly exactly because of women like you and the anon above who keep breeding and procreating with ugly males; spreading the ugliness (and then complaining lmao), and not because a man is somehow magically less good looking than a woman lol.

No. 114296

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>>114295
Swamp anon here, and I meant in terms of women being softer/more rounded/less hairy/generally having less extreme facial proportions.
I'm also not complaining at all about the men that I do find attractive because, uh, I find them attractive. In fact I'm a hobby artfag and almost exclusively draw such men since they please me so much visually lol.

And I actually think swamps are aesthetically pleasing, what I said in my original post is that they're nice but not in the same, widely accepted way as a spring (woman). The way peat moss sits on the water and the overgrowth of plants can look beautiful, just not in the same delicate way that a spring does. It was a metaphor to clarify my point. That the female form is more conventionally accepted as nice to look at, but the male form also is…just not in the same way.

I think the average man can be nice looking if he takes care of himself in terms of dress/hair care/skincare/etc.
And now I'm wondering what you find attractive though. Is it soft femmeboys? Or chiselled greek statue types?

No. 114297

>>114296
(not the Anon you're replying to - I'm the one who doesn't understand which men are hot)

I like twinky types, or so I think. Most of my crushes were 2d anyway so idk. And I used to masturbate to women exclusively when I was young, real 3d ones.

No. 114300

>>114297
It just sounds like you're heavy female-leaning bisexual. I can't speak for lesbians (I'm a bi), but they may claim you if you've never been physically attracted to a real, 3D man.

Regardless, I'm sure it's become apparent that many women who are attracted to men don't feel the same way about them that you do.

No. 114319

>>114272
>>114292
I honestly don’t mean to sound rude or anything but it kinda feels like you didn’t really write what I wrote

>you can also try to show him how to finger you

How am I supposed to show him when I can’t do it myself? As I said:
>I‘m pretty sure I can feel my g-spot when fingering myself but stimulating it really does nothing at all for me and pressing or rubbing harder just hurts.
And it’s nothing different when he does it.

>then try experimenting with dick insertion. have him just put the tip in or one inch or so and feel around.

>experimenting with positions and toys

I/we did and do. As I said. We tried any position we could think of but nothing really feels anywhere near as good.

>so your bf needs you to give him that guidance somehow

Yeah, again: I can’t even find it myself, that’s the issue.

Arousal isn’t the problem either. I can edge myself to the point of being able to come from just touching my clit but actually rubbing my g-spot does still do nothing or hurt. I don’t know if I’m just pressing too hard or maybe not hard enough? How much pressure should I apply?

I was hoping that maybe anyone knows anything else besides those obvious tips. Like… I don’t know. I’m desperate.

As I said, don’t mean to come off as rude and I really appreciate your input. But… it’s basically exactly what I said didn’t work for me.

No. 114325

>>114319
Some women just don't get much out of PIV. It seems to differ a lot between individuals. Most come from stimulating the clit from the outside, not from inside the vagina. Don't press harder if it hurts, obviously.

No. 114331

>>114319
I'm one of the anons and I did read your post, just honestly our recommendations are probably the only ones worth anything. I can't come from penetration/haven't ever come from it, I've tried but just hasn't happened. A lot of women just can't.
You can keep experimenting but honestly it may just not be something your body likes or can do. It sounds like you may have to try going around what you said does feel nice (when your bf goes flaccid) and replicate it at other times, but it sounds like you may have tried that already. Maybe you need a gentler touch.
I hope you can figure things out anon!

No. 114338

Is it worth checking free testosterone if your level of sexual desire/drive is and always has been nonexistent? My gyno said that testosterone doesn't really effect women's sexual appetite.

No. 114341

>>114338

Do you think your testosterone levels are too high or too low? It's always good to check your hormone levels but a lack of sexual desire can have many causes. I'm a female with heightened testosterone levels and my libido is pretty high.

No. 114343

>>114249
>35 push ups
I'm really happy for you, and nerfing him is a great idea. He's definitely only going to get stronger, of course, but I don't see why nerfing wouldn't continue to work.

>>114319
Ntayrt but if your bf is game, you could try some semi-flaccid penetration in that position. You might need to get him a little harder to get him in there and then have him stay still so he gets softer.

No. 114345

>>114341
Do you know how high your testosterone is? My gyno said that it has absolutely no bearing on female sexual desire, but that sounds fishy. Can men and women really be that different if its such a sex drive boost for men?

I would be checking if my test is low since I have no sexual desire/drive at all. I know that sexual desire can have many causes but of the ones I've seen none of them seem to apply to me.

No. 114346

>>114343
>I'm really happy for you, and nerfing him is a great idea. He's definitely only going to get stronger, of course, but I don't see why nerfing wouldn't continue to work.
This is one of those everyone wins moments in life

No. 114403

>>114292
> I thought women get more libido toward their 30s.

Well, the opposite is true for some. My libido was highest when I was a teenager. The older I get, the lower it gets. I'm on birth control pills, so that may play some role, but I was on them even when my libido was through the roof, so I don't know. I don't see much point in sex anymore.

No. 114406

>>114403
have you been on different types of BC? I'm wondering if the same thing is effecting me. When I was on IUD, I felt my libido was consistent, but after switching to the pill it's drastically decreased.

No. 114426

>>114406
I was on different types of BC pills throughout my life, but don't remember what the hormone combinations were exactly when I was a teenager. Currently, I'm on pills that contain 0,020 mg of Ethinylestradiolum and 0,075 mg of Gestodenum, if that helps in any way.

I still feel sexual needs sometimes, but prefer masturbating before having sex. I know sex is meant to bring you closer to your partner, but the problem is I think I never actually felt like it does that to me. I got sexually exploited by an older man when I was quite young and it probably affected how I view sex and intimacy. And the older you get, the more aware of these things you become, I guess, and it's hard to find motivation for having sex with someone when it doesn't feel like it does much for you.

No. 114448

I was late to start having sex (lost virginity at 23) , and still have a lot of sexual dysfunction at 25. I have literally never in my life gotten wet, can't orgasm by myself or with a partner, have pain during certain positions, and I think I dissociate a lot during sex- I'm not sure if that's really the right term but a lot of the time I feel like I let sex happen to me, and then kinda come to and feel freaked out that I've been having sex but don't feel like I was mentally present- like I've suddenly woken up, even though I was awake the whole time. Even when I am enjoying it, it feels like it's a completely different persona, that I feel a bit disgusted and embarrassed of my behaviour afterwards.

I've been sleeping with a guy casually for about 6 months and about 50%+ of the times we have sex I have to take a break in the middle in order to not freak out, or I just start crying randomly during. (He is always nice about it, stops as soon as I say so, checks in on me during, but it still happens) and today when I was recounting that I had a freak out with him recently, and was wondering why he still wants to sleep with me seeing as my problems make it difficult a lot of the time, she mentioned that he probably thinks I have had some kind of serious sexual trauma. I think all of my behaviour/problems put together do point to that, but I've never been a victim of abuse or anything like that, and I can't explain why I react the way I do.

I guess I'm not so much looking for hard advice, just wondering if any other anons have similar experiences or insight? I just don't know why I'm like this.

No. 114452

>>114448
That sounds rough. Even though you don't have a ton of experience, does it seem like this guy is just shit at sex? Maybe he's just not very receptive to his partner's pleasure. But I guess it seems unlikely that every person you've been with is unable to make you wet or orgasm.
Even if it's not sexual trauma, if you have other mental health issues that could be affecting the way you view yourself/sex and causing you to feel disgusted and detached from it. Something like religious guilt (if you are/were religious) or even internalized misogyny could slightly come into play. I don't experience feelings as extreme as you, but I only lost my virginity and started having sex regularly a few months ago and I did feel embarrassed and a little disgusted after, as if I was some kind of deviant or ruined because of it. I obviously don't actually think that, and I enjoyed myself in the moment, but I think spending too much time on lurking on incel boards caused some self-esteem issues that didn't surface until then.
Maybe take some time to think about if you're even turned on during these encounters and want sex, or if you're just doing it to please the other person. It could also be a physical condition, but it seems like there's some mental stuff at play if you dissociate and feel like crying. It kinda seems like you shouldn't continue having sex with this person if it upsets you and is painful. I hope you're able to figure it out.

No. 114468

Can anyone recommend controlling vibrator? Something like LUSH, Japanese vibro egg. Want to try that w/ s/o.

No. 114469

>>114452
Seconding everything this anon says. My parents were awful in a litany of ways but their blatant misogyny and disgust towards sex and always accusing me of being a slut (at 15, with no friends even) was already enough to completely fuck my eventual sex life completely. I experienced everything prior anon mentioned and find it hard to enjoy sex and not kind of just "perform" it. Also a very broken and shameful catholic background which helps nothing, and shit body image

>>114468
Try the masturbation thread friend, lots of good recs

No. 114479

>>114448
>and today when I was recounting that I had a freak out with him recently, and was wondering why he still wants to sleep with me seeing as my problems make it difficult a lot of the time

because he's a man and you're giving him free pussy. it's not any deeper than that

that said, i would recommend masturbating more. figure out what gets you off. a lot of female sex drive is mental. you can't just rub yourself and get off like a guy can. you may have to imagine something other than the real-life situation during sex to get off. try looking at different kinds of porn (just not shitty paid porn that abuses women)

No. 114481

>>114448
Yeah my money is on the probability you encoded that sex = shameful or disgusting for women at point along the line. Like the other anon said, this is not uncommon with religious upbringing girls who have sexual dysfunction even after saving it until after marriage (and it's actually because of saving it for marriage by shaming their sexuality for all their lives). Even if you aren't religious, culture isn't exactly devoid of messages that women having sex is sluttish or degenerate behaviour on some level. You might want to check out the book Come As You Are or other sex-positive kinda resources. You're allowed to want sex, but you might need to teach yourself that first. Go get your nut.

No. 114553

Im new to sex and i dont feel anything during sex even if he stimulates my clitoris with his mouth/fingers for a while. Im not having pain or anything im just not feeling any sensation at all. I really like the guy and we definitely have an emotional bond. I've honestly never felt aroused kissing guys or getting handsy with them before so i thought i needed an emotional bond instead. I dont really feel anything towards women either.

How can i improve my situation? I want to enjoy sex. He's had previous relationships and his dick is really girthy.

No. 114558

>>114553
Do you masturbate? If you do, do you get wet?

No. 114576

im a virgin with a bf and were planning to have sex soon… and im just wondering whats an ideal dick size for getting off vaginally (no clit). he was kind enough to tell me his measurements without lying (7 in length, 6 in girth). will this hurt me for my 1st time?

No. 114577

>>114558
Not sure if i get wet but im able to orgasm to porn and sometimes imagination on my own by rubbing my clit

No. 114585

>>114576
It completely depends on whether you are relaxed and aroused enough. Size doesn't matter. Even a pinky finger can hurt if you aren't relaxed.

No. 114588

>>114553
Make sure to do enough warming up before he starts touching your clit, I can get aroused just kissing my bf, but I know if I skip soft foreplay (kisses, gentle touch, dirty talk,, skin to skin, etc…) I'm going to be almost completely numb down there.

No. 114598

>>114588
We usually kiss and grind for like 10 minutes atleast first. I dont know why i feel this way. He makes me feel so loved and sexy and comfortable in and out of the bedroom. Its really bugging me.

No. 114611

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>>102887
Anyone else dealing with bacne insecurities during sex? I can't do doggystyles or anything from the back because I'm so insecure by the scarring from years ago that just won't go away!

No. 114613

>>114611
Why not just get it lasered/needled/chemical peeled off or something? If your acne is over then it's safe to do.
But keloids are a bit more difficult, sometimes even impossible to be rid of. If that's the case you've just gotta cope, anon.

No. 114619

>>114553
Does it take you a long time to reach orgasm when you masturbate?

Personally, it takes me around 20 - 40 minutes to reach climax by myself. I've been active sexually for 6 years and have always been numb there as well. Never had an orgasm with a partner. I figured cause it takes so long alone that I'm probably not a very sensitive person in general.

Maybe toys will help, like a vibrator, to create a stronger sensation. Not all women feel anything from simple POV or cunnilingus, just the sad truth.

No. 114620

>>114553
Are you on birth control? That can have a large affect on lust/sensitivity.

No. 114628

>>114585
He really wants to do oral on me but he’s also a virgin who doesn’t watch porn / research any sex advice. He said he wanted to put his tongue inside my VJ straight away and I cringed so much and asked him to finally watch porn to see how to do oral properly. He doesn’t even know where the clit is… I just hope the sex isn’t bad between two virgins but he’s really adamant about being clueless so he can experience stuff for the first time with me.

No. 114633

>>114628
A guy who doesn't watch porn?
That would be a first

No. 114635

>>114633
Their a rare breed and often times their virgins

No. 114638

>>114633

They're rare, but they exist. My boyfriend is sexually experienced and of course has watched porn at some point but he never made it a Habit, even as a teenager, because he always saw it as weird and off-putting. Now that I have him I really don't know why I put up with porn addicts before and thought it was just something I had to live with.

No. 114639

>>114553

samefag, forgot to ask: are you on any birth control or antidepressants?

No. 114648

>>114633
>>114638
Yeah, my virgin bf is a bit of a prude and says it’s weird to see random ppl fucking without emotional intimacy, bond and connection. He sees porn as vulgar, aggressive and not romantic. He also thinks blow jobs are emotionally distant and doesn’t want any at all for some reason. Idm cause I don’t want dick in my mouth. That nasty.

Anyways, even though he hasn’t seen any porn, he’s has jacked off with his imagination before. I don’t know how he does it. It’s easier with visual stimuli lmao.

No. 114649

>>114619
No it takes me like a minute to orgasm alone just by rubbing my clit if I want to rush it.

>>114639
>>114620
Was on birth control and an antidepressant. Got off both like 4 months ago but still no improvement at all. All I know is I can get aroused and feel sensation easily through porn/fanfic but not through foreplay with any of the guys I've tried it with. Dont have any interest in girls. I heavily insert as the person receiving dick when i watch porn/read fanfic or use my imagination and i get really aroused but i cant translate it to real life?

I can stimulate my gspot with my finger too and orgasm pretty quick alone if i wanted to. I dont watch porn often at all though. I literally just started bupropion to see if that could jump start my sex drive if I'm still having effects from the ssri because I'm so desperate to feel aroused by anything.

No. 114702

>>114649

Sounds like you're porn sick to be honest.

No. 114725

>>114648
Porn does not demonstrate how to eat pussy properly. Just tell him where your clit is and tell him to start licking. If it feels good tell him to do more, if it isn't right then tell him to change to something different until you find something. Also, sometimes tongue going in the vj feels better than direct clit stimulation, or at least in my opinion. (The clit does extend into the vagina so it's not like it would feel pointless.)

No. 114891

Does anyone hate kissing and tongue stuff? I love romance but it always has just felt so gross to me. I feel bad for my boyfriend sometimes because he always wants to kiss me but I just find it nasty. I really want to get over it.

No. 114897

>>114891
I'm not a fan of kissing either and it's kinda hard to explain without ruining a guy's self steem. I mostly keep it to myself until I'm intimate enough.

No. 114899

>>114648
God you don't deserve him. He's not a prude he's just a decent human being.

No. 114915

>>114448
Late reply but I still think it's worth typing out because I had a similar experience the first few times I had sex and I worked out what caused it. It wasn't shame or anything like that, it was issues I had with trusting others.

Like you I waited until I was 23 before having sex. The man I was doing it with would later become my husband. Before meeting him I'd always been a loner and preferred to keep my distance from other people. Being in love was extremely confusing for me because for the first time in my life I had someone outside of my family that I wanted to be close to.

On the night that it happened I was looking forward to it. He didn't make me feel pressured and gave me lots of reassurance. I enjoyed the build up and foreplay even though I was nervous. It wasn't until he was on top of me with his dick inside me that the mental panic started. I felt very vulnerable and it was as though I didn't have any control over what was happening to me. Physically it felt uncomfortable but not painful. Considering it was my first time, I think he was too rough with me. I doubt this was intentional on his part. I should have been communicating with him about how I felt. The problem was I froze, never said anything and pretended that it wasn't happening. When it was over I went in the bathroom and cried. I had to shove a towel in my mouth to muffle the sobbing so he couldn't hear it. I felt completely violated even though I had consented to the situation.

I lied to him and said I enjoyed sex, so we kept doing it. I never told him about how I felt because I didn't want to hurt him and I was in some sort of denial over it for while. Every time we did it the feeling at the point where I panicked became less intense and this is when I started to work out what my problem was. The loss of control and vulnerability I felt was because I wasn't ready for that level of intimacy. Being aloof and distant with people was my way of having control. Allowing him to get so close to me that he was inside me shattered the personal boundaries that I'd put around myself for so long. I started to realise that it was ok to have sex with him, it was ok to relax and enjoy it. He's someone I love and trust who isn't going to hurt me or humiliate me.

No. 114999

>>114725
what’s so wrong about watching porn?

No. 115091

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This is a nice position where both partners are in control of the situation, do you like it?

No. 115098

>>115091
I don't like it a lot, my neck gets sore super fast. I prefer to stimulate my partner then receive oral separately. But I understand the appeal, it's the neck thing that ruins it for me

No. 115102

>>115091
Since I‘m quite tall it has never really worked for me. I usually have to be in a super weird and uncomfortable angle to be able to suck him and still have my vagina in his face. So mostly I just end up licking his balls and jacking him off, which is obviously not the point.
I also don’t like having to focus on sucking dick while I‘m getting eaten out. I have to be able to let go and relax 100% to really get anything out of (passive) oral.

So yeah, not really for me.

No. 115112

>>114702
I rarely watch porn of any kind zzz I wish there was an answer to my problems i guess im just fucked

No. 115122

>>114891
I hate kissing. my current bf (who is my first ever bf) has a mustache and facial hair and it irritates my face, plus just the wetness and whatever is really gross. he's not great at it either, but tbh idk what a good kiss is suppose to feel feel like, really. I think kissing is not in theory, or when I'm watching porn or w/e, but I just absolutely hate it irl. glad to know I'm not the only one lol. I especially feel bad bc it really turns him on.

No. 115123

>>115122
*kissing is hot in theory

No. 115130

>>115122
Look for a beard oil that won't break you out and gift it to him. You can even tell him it irritates your skin and he should have no problem trying to fix that. As for the rest, practice makes perfect. Communicate.

No. 115160

>>115130
It doesn't even need to be beard oil. When my husband grew out his beard I would rub coconut oil and sandalwood essential oil into it. The coconut oil softens and conditions the hair while the sandalwood oil is an antiseptic that stops him from smelling like whatever he ate for lunch.

No. 115270

Okay, I hope some anons can help me. I'm pretty new to sex and have had problems with birth control - made me really dry. Switched bc, but use cream daily to keep wet. Switch was too recent to really change anything.
Problem is I'm kinda tight and need lots of fingering beforehand. When I'm being penetrated it feels kind of uncomfortable, like he is pulling something out? Don't know how to describe it but the feeling spreads to my anus. Like some weird pressure that gets worse and worse even when I'm on top. Is this normal? Is it because of birth control? Do I just continue? I hope it's not tmi I'm just trying to include everything that could be important.

No. 115281

>>115270
cream on the outside won't help with sex (should you be putting cream down there at all?) but I assume you are so uncomfortable you need it. no judgin'. The tightness and uncomfortable feeling during sex is due to the lack of natural lubrication by your body. If you can abstain from sex until your body has returned to normal it will be safer for you. I would be worried about injuring myself with that description of pulling feeling. That's not how it's supposed to feel.

No. 115288

>>115270
Have you tried regular lube? It might help. Just keep reapplying as it dries out. Also, you might need more foreplay to loosen things up. The pulling feeling is strange, I wonder if there's anyway you could elaborate on that? I'm having trouble understanding what you mean. If you are dry his fingers might be catching on your skin a bit.

No. 115365

is casual/tinder sex valid? I'm going to ireland soon and am considering hookin up with a guy over there but idk

No. 115483

what do you do if you accidentally got addicted to using a vibrator to get off?

i used to be able to orgasm with my boyfriend multiple times easily, but a couple months ago we got a vibrating plug to play with and now i can't get off with him anymore.

i have been getting off alone by humping a pillow and holding the vibrator against my clit. i'm also having trouble orgasming by myself if I don't use it.

should i just cold turkey? :(

No. 115485

>>115365
just be careful/use protection. you wanna use the same rules as you do when you meet strangers on the internet for the first time. meet first in a public place.

No. 115507

>>115483
you can definitely try different kinds of stimulation or do whatever, but you're not getting 'addicted' to a vibrator. it just gets you fully turned on and/or gets you off faster than other means.
especially if you can get off from humping something eg a pillow… like the problem seems to be the 'something' you're humping is your bf?

No. 115509

>>115507
This is bad/dumb advice. A vibrator is obviously different from a dick, unless you have a vibrating man.
Anon should ditch the vibe and get back in touch with reality. She's lucky to be able to get off with PIV prior this so that's something worth keeping.

No. 115535

>>115507
that's totally what's happening, anon.

No. 115541

>>115483

Your clit is just getting desensitized, it's easily reversible. Just go cold turkey for a while to get learn orgasming using fingers again, or even better, try to not masturbate for a while, thereafter stick to only doing it every other day or less if you are able to. You will get back in touch with "reality" after a while and even experience more intense orgasms.

No. 115547

>>115483
I've stopped using mine for about 2 months and am finally starting to feel things when my boyfriend touches me. It's still not as good, though. I am hoping it gets better.

Basically it's the same as suffering from death grip for a dude. It should get better if you lay off, but not for a while. Definitely stop using it if you want to have any hope of reaching an orgasm without it.

No. 115567

Okay so since we’re already talking about abstinence in order to re-sensitize your clit…

Since my bf had a really busy month (work wise) which left basically no room for sex stuff. So I thought I might as well use the opportunity and refrain from masturbation, so maybe I’d become more sensitive in general.
However, I feel like the abstinence has a really bad effect on my libido. Like, the less regularly I have sex or masturbate, the less I want either of those.

Right now I’m a few days away from having my period so I’m pretty hormonal and have a very ambivalent libido anyways. But over the past 2 weeks or so it’s been basically absent, even when I was ovulating. And it’s frustrating because I miss wanting sex, being horny and all that jazz.

Does anyone know what I could do to boost my libido? I heard maca powder might help?

No. 115581

More of a vent but whatever.
I've been sat on our bed in a towel, all shaved and clean and smelling great. I was feeling confident and horny. I said we should do stuff tonight so he's aware I'm waiting.
He just… Wouldnt come over? Or look at me? For the past 40 mins. He was playing a game (that he's played all day.) about 5 steps in front of me. Its just making me feel so ugly and worthless I guess. When he did come over I just felt so… Out of the mood and disgusting and like I'm pathetic so I just didn't want to do anything.
He's never really eagerly wanted to do anything sexual, it's always sort of planned or done when I'm about to go to sleep. Idk I'm just feeling sad/frustrated and I don't know how to be more attractive for him.

No. 115590

>>115581
Have you tried telling him this? Hopefully he'd show more enthusiasm if he knew it's bothering you so much.

No. 115591

>>115590
Ty for the reply. Yeah I have and we've discussed our problems regarding this stuff to death. I feel like it goes no where and he just hates me but doesn't want to leave me cause I'm okay at cooking and cleaning.

No. 115593

>>115591
This was my old relationship with my ex, it makes you feel so unsexy,
undesired, and for me I felt like a big baby.
In the end he dumped me, and it hurt at first, but years later I'm so grateful I'm with someone who wants me sexually.

>>115567
Honestly, if I don't masturbate at least once a week I can go a year without it.
I have to masturbate regularly to feel any sort of libido.

No. 115596

Anon, please don't beat yourself up over it. My ex made me feel like a gross unwanted horndog. It wasn't my fault, I had men who were dying to get with me, it was his. I did my best and it sounds like you are too. Has he said why he's not interested? Being ignored whenever you try in favor of some stupid game sounds painful, that's literally what I went through too. Is he asexual or pornsick or depressed or is he just not into you?

No. 115610

>>115596
I don't know. I talked with him about it and he told me he just didn't think about me that way last night (as in, he didn't think me laying there naked in a towel was anything special lmaoooo great ikr). He doesn't watch porn, I'm trying to get him to go to therapy and he is waiting for an appointment he was super depressed before I met him and he says he still might be so yeah. Talking with him in the past though he's told me he thinks it how stressed and anxious he gets and I understand that but for me it seems like he just… Doesn't think about me in that way. It makes me feel like he isn't into me and I've gave him so many chances to be truthful and admit it to me but he swears he is. I told him last month if it doesn't improve I don't know if we can stay together, since then we've done it once, so I just masturbate almost every day (which makes me feel embarrassed and disgusting lol). I feel so bad telling other people about it since I haven't been able to ask for help for around 2 years because I don't want to hurt him by telling someone about our problems but I just don't know what to do.
Other than our sex life the relationship feels so perfect and exactly what I want but because I have such low self esteem and depression (I am going to therapy for this though) it really fucks with my mental health. Sorry for the long reply.

No. 115612

>>115581
>feeling sexy, smelling great in just a towel whilst you're ignored by a man glued to his computer.
I posted this exact scenario in the relationship thread, should we just name this common phenomenon already?
Rejection is fine, but being ignored is just insulting. Being expected to still be available after so long is salt in the wound.

No. 115661

I quit smoking weed 6 weeks ago to get a job, hopefully I can start smoking again this week once I go through training at my new job. However in the past 6 weeks, I have had absolutely no libido whatsoever. I used to smoke avg. 3 bowls a day and would get horny as hell and masturbate all the time, now I've used my hitachi like twice in those six weeks and never feel like having sex with my boyfriend. I also only had sex for the first time with this boyfriend 2 weeks before I quit smoking weed, so I literally cannot tell if I just am not into him sexually and thats all around killed my libido or if its quitting weed? If any stonerfags have any stories about weed correlating to libido I'd appreciate it, I kind of feel like a freak cause I used to love having sex/masturbating and I feel bad mentally pinning it on my boyfriend when it might've just been quitting weed cold turkey.

No. 116238

I never cared about losing my v card and always wanted to just get it over with and sleep around with people + have fun, but I lost it later than I wanted to with a one night stand and haven't been able to find anyone else to hook up with. It's affected my self esteem a lot even though I get a lot of compliments it just seems like men aren't into me? I dress pretty alt and I wonder if people find that intimidating pls help

No. 116289

Sorry for retardation in advance. I don't know much about sex. My BFs dick is on the smaller size(probably like 3-4 inches? Idk I never asked and I don't really care to know). It's hard to get it in especially because of wetness and stuff it slips out all the time. I'm on birth control and was wondering if it would be easier without a condom? Does the lube from the condom make it harder to get in?

No. 116292

>>116289
Why have sex with a guy who has 3 inches only? His penis is just not penetrable and I feel for you because during intercourse the fullness is the only good feeling the numb-fit-for-childbirth vegene can feel. The only solution for you is to let him wear a 9 inch strap that has the outer end plugged in his butthole. You both will feel amazing and you will thank me.

No. 116293

>>116292
Lmao, anon. Telling any guy that his dick is too small would destroy his entire world. Thanks for the idea though.

No. 116294

>>116292
>9 inch strap on
Did a guy write this? Fuck off

No. 116302

>>116294
This, I wonder if it's dick sperg scatfag.
By the sounds of that post he must have done this and gotten laid though. Congrats, I guess?

No. 116408

>>116289
Try without a condom (be safe, though) and try different positions. Get turned on beforehand, and make sure you're getting clitoral stimulation during sex so you can enjoy it.

No. 116413

Position recommendations if your height difference is 20cm? My partner is taller than me.

No. 116426

>>116413

i dated someone who was 2 meters tall and it was all around awkward. but from what i can tell you…
don't try shower sex coz its awkward af. ride on top (best way imo). kneel on an elevated surface like a bed or couch and do doggy. you can also use cushions or pillows. if he's strong enough he can lift you up and pin you against the wall. also try some really high heels and bend over for him.

No. 116476

Sorry for the virgin/retard question but when having sex, should I use birth controls AND a condom or will one of those suffice? Anything I should know? Inputs much appreciated. Getting preggo would be the death of me.

No. 116478

>>116476
using both definitely lowers the risk factor much more so than using one, so if getting pregnant is definitely not on your to-do list, using both would be your best bet. If he finishes outside of you (say, finish by removing the condom and jerking him off) then that will also lower the risk of pregnancy.

also anon, don't have sex with him if you don't feel like you could ask him to stop at any time before or during and that would be fine. You don't know how you'll feel during your first time and being able to stop if you get overwhelmed is important. I had a lot of terrible sex from wanting to please my partners instead of caring for myself before I met my current bf, who will stop the second I express discomfort. It makes the whole experience much better.

No. 116487

>>116476
You should probably use a condom in case of STDs anyway. Even if he says he's a virgin better safe than sorry since he might just lie or is a moron who doesn't know you can get STDs from oral or whatever.

No. 116511

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How can I deal with my total insecurity about my pubic hair? I wax as much and as often as I can but there are some periods during the year (see exams) where i literally don't have time to go get waxed and since I'm very hairy down there shaving is just a pain in the ass (quite literally), My bf told me that it doesn't bother him and he is very supportive but all of my female friands always tell me how their bfs are deeply grossed out if they don't shave and i literally can't bring myslef to have sex (or anything at all on me tbh) if I'm not perfectly waxed. how do i get over this? am i just retarded?

No. 116512

>>116511
Some guys think it's gross but some think it's sexy.
If your boyfriend is fine with it he's fine with it.

No. 116513

>>116478
>>116487
Thank you, anons! Love you gals lol

No. 116514

>>116511
>friands always tell me how their bfs are deeply grossed out if they don't shave
Only manchildren who look at sterile porn get grossed out at pubic hair. Bet those same guys don't trim at all and think giving oral is gross while they expect blowjobs all the time. If you have a lot of hair the most you have to do as far as grooming is trimming it.

No. 116517

>>116511
>My bf told me that it doesn't bother him and he is very supportive
Believe him. Let him show you how it doesn't matter to him.

No. 116532

Is it normal to feel pain around the hymen area ONLY during penetration or a dick slipping out? Once the dick is in me it’s fine but I always have a momentary “ow” moment for a split second as it goes in. Fucking itself feels fine. But it’s like the ring around my vag opening is really sensitive. Could it be a partially untorn hymen or something?

No. 116536

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im hooking up with this guy at parties and the first time we were both pretty drunk but he finished twice although, it was very difficult to get him hard like he would go hard but then lose it.

the second time we were both drunk again, it was supposed to be a quickie but then he had the same problem again only this time he stopped me and said to leave it there.

i'm sure he is an alcoholic and that can cause erectile dysfunction but he's also only 22!

i feel so weird and some part of me thinks this is my fault like not being able to get him off (?) so stupid

No. 116537

This might be a shot in the dark, but I’m wondering if any other anons have experienced something similar.

Occasionally, I cry during sex. Not like “this is so good” crying, but like a sudden emotional punch in the gut sobbing? It ONLY happens when there’s penetration. The first time I was ever fingered, I started sobbing uncontrollably immediately. Over time, it got better. The first two months I was sexually active, I cried every single time. Over time, it took longer to trigger it and after years, I’m now at a point where it’s rare but i still warn people about it just in case because it’s so overwhelming that I sometimes struggle to talk and I absolutely need everything to stop immediately. I’ve talked to my female friends about this and they’re clueless as to what I’m describing. My male partners have never experienced it with other girls either.

It’s no longer a major issue in my sex life, but I’m annoyed that it happens at all. I don’t remember ever being sexually abused as a child, but I feel like that’s the only explanation. Am I alone in this?

No. 116549

>>116536
Have you ever heard the phrase 'whisky dick'.
Even if he wasn't an alcoholic, just being drunk can mess with the bloodflow.

No. 116552

>>116537
I looked this up online years ago when Google's results actually showed you relevant results from small forums and blogs, and it did seem to be a thing that just happened to some people for literally no reason. Some people also cry during orgasm for no emotional reason, just due to crossed signals in the brain.
I used to have unexpected crying too, but in my case it was definitely due to any number of emotionally traumatic issues in my early sexual experiences that I was completely ignoring for years. However it doesn't necessarily have to come from abuse, for example it can be linked to internal shame of sex.
If it concerns you then go to a therapist or talk it out with a partner, but if it's stopped and it's not bothering you then it probably isn't anything to worry about. However it can be distressing for your partner if they are making you cry by having sex with you.

No. 116557

>>116536
It's funny how most women rate the quality of their sexual experiences by how much the guy gets off

No. 116559

>>116537
I can understand it being an overwhelming experience, especially if you're not comfortable with feeling vulnerable for whatever reason. What are you feeling emotionally at the time?

No. 116560

>>116557
Well men do it too. They often feel like compete failures if the woman does not fake her orgasm or if she touches her clit to have an actual orgasm. They’ve been led to believe they should be good enough at performing that they can get a woman off solely through PIV when something like only 20% of women can get off solely through PIV.

No. 116563

>>116560
Because women don't speak the fuck up. How is a guy supposed to learn anything about a woman's body if they don't say anything and continue to fake orgasms? Before you know it they carry over their cancerous ideology to the next partner and then it becomes her fault because "there's something wrong with you, my last 3 partners came at least 50 times in succession when I jackhammered them!!!"

Besides at least guys usually finish. This anon made her guy finish twice last time and somehow she thinks she's insufficient. How many times did he make her cum? Did he even bother? Why is she worrying she's not good enough? He should be the one worrying.

No. 116565

>>116563
Yes let's blame the women for not speaking up after being shamed into silence due to a lifetime of being told they're disgusting sluts if they enjoy sex, having a massive lack of education about their bodies to the point some women have never had an orgasm well into their adulthood or being confused about where pee comes from, acting like a woman masturbating is a hellacious sin while men are all expected to do it every day, the list goes on.

Of course they 'should' but they also shouldn't have to and men should be more concerned about women's pleasure in the way women are concerned about men's pleasure.

No. 116567

>>116565
If they are so shamed why have sex in the first place? Why fake orgasms and pretend to enjoy it in the first place? I think it's less of an issue about being shamed and an issue with self-worth in general. Many women go into their 40s without having a pleasurable sexual experience. When do they learn to think for themselves? When do their gain their own self-agency? We can blame men for everything but women also exacerbate the problem for themselves and other women.

I see what you're saying about better sex education though. Until I was 22 I thought pee came out of the clit… Sex education is truly awful and is all based on fear instead of actual knowledge.

No. 116574

>>116567
yikes a tradthot

No. 116575

>>116574
How did you come to that conclusion? Do you know what words mean?

No. 116579

>>116574
Ah yes, the old "everyone who disagrees with me must be part of a group I don't like".

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No. 116584

>>116559
It’s always like a sad emotional experience, even if I’m otherwise happy. When it happened more regularly, it was like every negative emotion I’d ever felt hitting me all at once. Now it’s just a little knot in my throat and I need a breather lol

Another weird thing I’ve noticed, it happens more frequently with some partners but not others? I used to be into older men and they triggered it significantly more than someone my age, despite relatively similar sexual experiences.

No. 116585

>>116536
tbh alcohol is probably the issue, but sex doesn’t have to center around orgasms at all. If you’re gonna keep hooking up, it could be worth while to purely fool around without the pressure of penetration. Sometimes being nervous can make a guy soft!

And just like women can get themselves off when a guy can’t do it, men can totally jerk off instead and that’s fine. It’s rly not about skill or being unattractive or whatever, sometimes people are just sexually incompatible and it requires a little extra to get somewhere lol

No. 116589

Anybody else prefer sex sober than drunk? Drunk I feel less shy and all but it's harder to get wet and feel pleasure so it kind of sucks. Most of the time I can't orgasm when drunk no matter how much stimulation I get but I'd always have sex anyways just for the sake of it. lol

No. 116600

>>116532
Yes, I think that's possible anon. I have the same experience sometimes, especially if I've been having less sex. I had a very tight hymen and had to dilate it before I started having penetrative sex or using tampons and if I'm not fully aroused it seems like I'm still pretty tight.

No. 116680

>>116589
This is a normal reaction to alcohol.

T. Nurse

No. 116737

I have alot of questions and just things on my mind.

-Is it normal for your labia to be dry during sex? Should the natural lubricant that the vagina makes be going to that part? Whenever he goes to insert his penis it hurts and I end up with a friction burn (even if I come from oral before and/or use lube). He pretty much has to force his penis into my vagina because my lips are so dry. I've even tried moisturizing them with coconut oil in the shower

-How do I not feel awkward when we are having sex in positions where I am dominate (like riding)? He is very much attracted to me and very eager for sex, but I feel like he is doing me a favor by sleeping with me and I feel like I am violating him somehow whenever I grind against him.

-How do people just turn their minds off during so that they only focus on the pleasure? My mind goes a mile a minute telling me to just enjoy it/focus and not to do certain things and I end up never being "in the moment"

No. 116738

>>116737
-I cannot feel my clit at all when there's a penis in me. I don't know if it's him constantly bumping up against me making me lose my spot or the fact that there's someone else in the room while I'm trying to masturbate. Whatever it is, it makes it impossible to orgasm from penetrative sex. Is this normal to not feel your clit?

-Am I really missing out on the whole casual sex thing? I'm only 23 so I haven't gotten to experience the "ho phase" yet. Is it as fun/good as people say or is it still a lot of no orgasms and being pounded away at?

-How exactly is sex fun? I see people say this but I haven't felt "fun" out of it yet. I've searched and no one has an explanation for why people describe it that way.

No. 116974

How can I be less nervous for my first time? I have anxiety and I absolutely dread awkwardness.

No. 116975

>>116974
Your first time will be kinda awkward, it is for every body. It's just part of it, don't stress too much. Do you have a boyfriend you plan on having sex with? Be very communicative before and during. Make sure to warm up with lots of kissing and stuff to get more comfortable with him and in the mood, this can lessen the anxiety.

No. 116977

>>116975
Yeah, thanks anon. Do we need to use a condom during oral sex too? I don't know if people typically do that or if its okay for him to receive without it.

No. 116980

>>116977
Nta but some STDs can be passed through oral sex. Idk how common it is to use a condom for oral sex though, but that doesn't really matter.

I would say most couples prefer to get checked instead of using condoms for oral, but if you don't know if he has an std and want to use condoms for everything, by all means do it. Don't feel pressured to do things you don't want to just because you think that's the norm. There are no rules for sex other than being safe and comfortable.

No. 116998

>>116737
>Is it normal for your labia to be dry during sex? Should the natural lubricant that the vagina makes be going to that part? Whenever he goes to insert his penis it hurts and I end up with a friction burn (even if I come from oral before and/or use lube). He pretty much has to force his penis into my vagina because my lips are so dry. I've even tried moisturizing them with coconut oil in the shower
if you're not sufficiently aroused or have an imbalance (low E) that's pretty "normal". Some women also don't make as much natural lubricant. I'm naturally very "wet" but I still can get sore/burns around the entrance if the sex is aggressive enough anyway. I also am not always super wet all around the vulva because the discharge doesn't always spread that far around it depending on how I'm positioned. Have you spoken to a gyno? There are ways to help with this if you're abnormally dry and uncomfortable.
>How do I not feel awkward when we are having sex in positions where I am dominate (like riding)? He is very much attracted to me and very eager for sex, but I feel like he is doing me a favor by sleeping with me and I feel like I am violating him somehow whenever I grind against him.
>How do people just turn their minds off during so that they only focus on the pleasure? My mind goes a mile a minute telling me to just enjoy it/focus and not to do certain things and I end up never being "in the moment"
imho, these are both a matter of confidence and relaxing. You sound insecure and like you have performance anxiety. I don't really know what to tell you to do because "just relax" isn't really helpful advice, but just letting go and enjoying it or letting your "horny brain" take over is how I think most people do it. Remember, he loves your body, you're giving him a great time that you should both enjoy, not being given a favor.
>Am I really missing out on the whole casual sex thing? I'm only 23 so I haven't gotten to experience the "ho phase" yet. Is it as fun/good as people say or is it still a lot of no orgasms and being pounded away at?
I'm not fully qualified to tell you on this, but I didn't do it and I'm the same age as you. I feel totally fine and satisfied. I did briefly date around a bit (mostly with "safe" people I didn't or couldn't get physical with) but didn't sleep around. My monogamous sex life is amazing because my partner knows how to please me, I don't have to teach new people how to do it every time I sleep with someone. Some people really enjoy it, but from everything I've seen it gets old after a while and most of the people I know who are sleeping around still want "more" e.g. a relationship. I think a lot of people say it's fun as a cope and that a lot of people aren't actually that satisfied, but there are types of people who do love it.
-How exactly is sex fun? I see people say this but I haven't felt "fun" out of it yet. I've searched and no one has an explanation for why people describe it that way.
People love orgasms and being wanted and wanting sexually. With a good partner, it's just a great feeling. You have tons of excitement and physically it feels good, that's what makes good sex fun. With "slow" sex that isn't as "exciting," it's fun because it feels good and you're getting to fulfill sexual desires with someone who you find attractive.
Not to be rude, but do you think you may be asexual or not into who you're with? Your questions give me that vibe. I didn't reply to one of them because I feel like I can't really add anything, hopefully someone takes that one.

No. 116999

>>116302
>This, I wonder if it's dick sperg scatfag.
Dick-sperg-anon here, I haven't posted here in months. And I am most certainly not a "scatfag", what the fuck? You're conflating different anons.
>By the sounds of that post he must have done this and gotten laid though. Congrats, I guess?
No, I am not going to bother attemping a relationship until Foregen fixes my dick; if that doesn't go well then I'll kill myself. I have a 5.5", thin, cut dick, I cannot have a relationship, I cannot have sex. No woman would ever want to be with a man that has a penis as inadequate as mine, it is a complete impossibility and I will not be foolish enough to attempt it.

You can go on about all the same tired bullshit, "just eat her out", "not all girls are obsessed with PIV", etc.- I'm more than willing to provide oral and do whatever else to help the girl enjoy sex, but I don't believe that anything can make up for not having a nice dick to provide fulfilling PIV with. THAT is sex, THAT is what a relationship is about. You cannot make up for lacking that, it is an absolute prerequisite for the sexual and emotional satisfaction and long-term attraction for any woman.(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)

No. 117001

>>116999
Dude you are delusional, that's why women don't want you. The obsession with your dick not being good enough is a total turn off, not your dick. You're probably going to destroy it or feeling in it trying to "fix" it and evidently many men who are under 7", thin-dicked, and cut are getting laid. You're not because your obsession is weird and annoying.
What is even the point in replying here? This is /g/ and you aren't appreciated or wanted here.

No. 117008

>>117001
Seconded. Dickguy needs to get a hobby or something, why are men so obsessed with their genitals?
Bet he ends up with a 8" arm flesh tube that needs pumped up manually. I'm sure all the ladies in his life will be fawning over it.

No. 117013

>>116737
>-Is it normal for your labia to be dry during sex? Should the natural lubricant that the vagina makes be going to that part?
I thought that was normal? I get extremely wet but it gets trapped near the entrance inside the labia. You might have to pull it apart slightly and spread it around with your fingers.

No. 117030

>>116536
my bf has trouble busting when he's drunk too, pretty sure it's perfectly normal. even i as a woman get less sensitive and wet after drinking.

No. 117031

>>116999
>I have a 5.5", thin, cut dick
Isn't that literally the exact average for an American man?

No. 117046

>>117013
Same here.



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