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Where's the op pic from?
Also, I'd like to add a question:
What's your ideal sub like?
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If anyone wants a cute, non-H short comic about femdom, read "Mud" by Yamashita Tomoko!
I prefer the bratty types but i'm fine with 100% submission
The least ideal is corpses who just lie down do nothing and basically dom from the bottom pretending to sub
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Cute, "soft" older man but not too much older than me. Lean body type. I'm into gentle femdom and I just want a cute man to play with and spoil with physical affection.
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So I realize I have to be true to myself after fantasizing about sub guys since forever and actually try finding one for a relationship.
How do I go about finding a sexually submissive guy IRL, anons?
Usually I use Tinder to get dates but I don't see any guys hinting at being into that.
I tend to like guys who have a more soft look and attitude but I've ended up with ones who really want a mom and they can fuck off.
It depends where you look
Should probably avoid online mostly
we kinda already have a femdom thread >>>/ot/298183
but i approve of one being in /g/ as well i feel like itll fit better here, idk if i should ask in the fanfic thread but it might be easier here, does anyone have any good fanfic recs with femdom in it or at the very least a more assertive/aggressive woman? no overpower shit where the guy flips the tables dominates you i fucking hate that shit.>>98828
idk the specific piece but its definitely kaneoya sachiko's artwork>>98838>ywn have a qt virgin sub bf to dominate and tease
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It's by Kaneoya Sachiko!
Anyway, ideal sub:>very thin (weighing less then me)>under 6'>dresses well; if it doesn't come naturally, he will let me dress him>idc if he's ugly or conventionally attractive face wise tbh>into both gfd and extreme sadomasochism just like I am>lets me financially support him>shares similar interests>very monogamous
Same dynamic in and out of the bedroom basically, but not a gross "24/7 show it off to everyone BDSM relationship." Sex stuff is for us alone.
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Pandora's Box! It's a silent melodrama, so, no happy ending. But I loved this scene. It's so intimate and the actor looks so vulnerable.
>>98842>very thin (weighing less then me)
not to be rude but what are we talking ?>lets me financially support him
really I'd think most guys wouldnt like this, they would prefer independence >shares similar interests
This can be good but I've found different interests can help.
Agreed with the no showing off gross shit
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How do you feel about facesitting? It doesn't do much for me and I wonder if I'm approaching it wrong.>>98828>ideal sub
I'm into sweet guys that have cute reactions, but still are still prideful outside of the relationship, that contrast is very satisfying. Definitely not somebody who is desperate for the fetish, that ruins the fun.
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I love the idea of a buff guy who is actually totally submissive behind closed doors.
But guys with really thin bodies/waists are sexy, the long line it creates combined with low bodyfat is very male and very hot.
I just realized I used the wrong then, kek. Whoops.
I prefer men 130lbs and under since they're easy to lift and very cute. If he doesn't want my full support, I want to at least make more than him at my job. For this reason I generally go after artsy guys hehe.
Which ties in to the similar interests; it doesn't have to be exact, but overlap is important to me. I like visual art (as a hobby) and especially comics, so a guy interested in literature would be great. We could trade things in the same sort of circle of interests. A guy into, say, mainly high level mathematics and rigid logic would be very different and we wouldn't be able to share our hobbies.>>98849
Woo. Fukken saved.
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god i love kaneoya's art. her character she draws is really ideal. >>98828
my dream sub is very specific, but basically a manwhore who i can overpower lmao
appearance-wise:>dark hair>between 5'8 and 5'11>pref green eyed>built fat>hairy >dresses in sleazecore
personality:>smug, extroverted >constantly sexualizes himself, calls me mommy>basically powerbottom, bi but female preference >bratty trophy husband
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posted this gif in the kink thread, but its so damn hard to find femdom porn with cute subs. I'm so repulsed by old men and its so common to find them in femdom vids. old men ruin everyting lol.
I'm in a relationship, but I got lucky because other guys I knew before turned out to be unpleasant to say the least. I can't think of much advice aside watching how agreeable he is and how he treats other people being a good hint usually. My type is usually guys who are into reading so that helps too- what kind of works does he enjoy? Is he more on the open minded side and willing to experiment?
Then again, I have to admit the things I'm into aren't hardcore so it was easier. I enjoy the mental aspect of control and defined roles more and don't like inflicting physical pain, also some bondage is nice.
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Have you looked into Japanese femdom porn? The guys tend to be a lot cuter. Not femdom only, but I like https://girls-dougaabc.com/
and the sites they link to because almost all of the men are ikemen types.
The downside to Japanese porn is the god awful sounds some of the women make. Like a seal riding a rollercoaster while being beaten with a dog's squeaky toy.
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Post a hotter guy being dommed then instead of whining.
>What experiences have you had?
My current boyfriend (been together for over a year) is my sub. We started dating normally at a time when I thought I was more submissive. One time while having sex I started teasing his nipples and he loved it, and from then I started thinking about domming him more and more, following gfd tumblrs, making one…
I still remember the first time I told him I'd like to peg him, we were both super flustered and it was super cute. We were long distance at that time so he started practicing with fingers on his own and reporting back to me, he liked it a lot from the start. Then we also did a few things on skype, like him fingering himself or teasing his nipples as I ordered.
We've been experimenting and talking about more stuff as time goes, he likes when I lock him in a chastity cage so he can't cum, when I slap his face or ass, when I call him degrading names (his favourite is "fuckhole")… I love how whiny he gets when I deny him, sometimes it makes him cry and it's super cute. We'd like to roleplay non-consent too but we'll probably be super awkward because I'm bad at roleplay sex lol.
We've been living together for a little while now and I'm a bit disappointed that I often feel too lazy to fuck him or he feels too lazy to clean himself out so I don't fuck him that much. Real life gets in the way a lot. Outside of bed we have a pretty normal dynamic too, equal share of chores etc.
In any case I love him and I'm glad our relationship feels a bit special in that way.
>Where to find subs? How to avoid unhealthy ones?
I'd just say to be open, find someone you like and talk to them about your preferences when it feels right.
I know a guy who's a sub and finding someone who'll dom him is his only obsession, it's ridiculous. Avoid these, they're gross.
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Have another gif of him anon! I have the link to the vid, if you want I'll post it. He also looks quite tall, reminds me of my bf. He's my sub and we just started talking about doing some harder stuff, pegging him is my dream. What would you guys suggest to get him started? Some toy recommendations?
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Anyone know which manga this is from? It looked so nice and "normal" for being hentai.
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Living the dream anon, how lucky.>>98940
Good taste, have some more Hercules and Omphale. He had to be her slave for a year and then they got married.
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What a fucking gem. I saw the video of him getting fucked with a strap on and he looked so in pain, it was so good.
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>tfw no sub with plump soft lips to eat me out while looking up with his pretty eyes
Sub guys are pretty rare but I think I got lucky a few years ago and found a switch/sub army dude. It was actually really sexy to dominate a buff guy in bed when he could easily pick me up and act like "THE MAN" outside of it.
I'd choke him, tease him, gently slap him and made him cum at work. He was a total nutcase but I kind of miss that sexual relationship.
Western socities used to be super patriarchal and women couldn't even vote only about 100+ years ago, and the average man was fine with that. Shitmen are gonna flock to BDSM now that women are all free and uppity, those men want their own community away from relative equality.
>only for him to get a look like I've smacked him
Men being assholes is the reasons I think femdom can be a fun fetish, if such a man is the victim, get that revenge ladies.
I feel really happy with my fiancée, he has basically my ideal looks with big dark fawn eyes, black curly hair, not that much taller than I am and a slim body. He's a switch as I am, on dom side he goes from "dad" type to aggressive. He's usually very prideful, which makes it even hotter when I am the dominant one, his squeaks are so cute and he absolutely loves when I spoil him and tease him. He discovered his submissive side while experimenting with me and found himself more and more into mommy stuff. At first I was a bit frightened but as I went throught with what he liked, I enjoyed it more and more, I would like one day to make enought from my job to support him financially or, at least, spoil him a lot (as he does with me now that I am a student and he used to work before applaying to university).
>What experiences have you had?
Aside from him,I tried some stuff with my ex but I didn't loved him anymore by that time and it disgusted me.
>What are your main kinks?
I love degrading, bondage, roleplay, whatever seems like fun, I'm up for it.
>What advice do you have for newbie dommes?
Always respect your sub needs and yours too, don't manipulate and don't allow others to manipulate. Might seem weird, but guilt tripping can happen to anyone.
>Where to find subs? How to avoid unhealthy ones?
Just don't fixate yourself into finding a "sub", just go for whatever guy you like. Bad experiences are easier if you go looking for explicit subs. An open minded guy is easier and safer to find.
I'm currently fwb with someone exactly like this (except he's fit/skinny) and he's killing me.
He's a bit too unstable for me to actually date but god damn it he's my sexual kryptonite.
You wouldn't expect him to be such a sub unless you have an eye for it but I could spot him from 5 miles away. He's such a smug, bratty, degenerate, over the top slut, and I love how he'd get flustered around me in the beginning. I was a bit too mean to him at the very start and after the first time I fucked him he started crying because he thought I hated him. He's super mushy under the tough appearance and will cuddle me for hours while I stroke his hair and tell him he's a good boy (although he's really not, he's absolutely terrible and I love it).
As to how I spot the bratty subs out:
- they tend to be really sassy / playful. Actual male doms tend to take themselves more seriously I find.
- glimpses of insecurity. If they act really cocky but then they get nervous when you tease them a bit. They get very defensive and try to overcompensate when you hit a weak spot.
- how they act around animals. Your mileage may vary but both of mine that I spotted in the wild would get overly mushy around small animals and vulnerable creatures.
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a pretty/attractive somewhat bratty (but also good at being a 100% obedient sub) man
I would love if he was into being being treated rough/degraded (Too many male subs who seem to only be into gfd)
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>>99102>he thought I hated him
Damn anon what did you do?>will cuddle me for hours while I stroke his hair and tell him he's a good boy
HNNNG>how to spot 'em advice
Always welcome. Thumbs up
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god, that sounds great. it seems in femdom communities there’s a lack of variety in submissive men, they all seem to be either:
1. buff masculine guy who acts like he doesn’t want it, and basically is a dead fish in bed
2. meek feminine guy who bends over to every will, and is also a dead fish in bed
it seems pretty fucked up that a fetish that surrounds women being dominant still makes them the object of desire, rather then sexualizing men……. i’m pretty sick and tired of it, they need to reciprocate more.
on a side note, another ideal sub man i would like is an energetic and playful perpetual childish man. not in the “i want a mommy gf” way, but in the carefree male equivalent of manic pixie dream girl. i kind of imagine a drop dead fred/beetlejuice situation where i’m a depressed or introverted woman that constantly deals with a insane lunatic of a man, but instead in this situation he freely lets me peg him.
>What experiences have you had?
A few casual FWB in the past that would occasionally let me tie them up/ etc. Currently been pursuing a D/s-based relationship with someone for about 6 months now where we've delved into a lot heavier things like breathplay, chastity, sounding, etc. Its intense and emotional and incredibly satisfying.
>What are your main kinks?
Breathplay, pegging/ass play, petplay, domestic service, chastity
>What advice do you have for newbie dommes?
COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE. Be aware of body language. If meeting a potential play partner, don't go right into playing. Meet them outside the dynamic to get a feel for them, and if possible play for the first time at an event for safety's sake.
>Where to find subs? How to avoid unhealthy ones?
Mine and I were friends for a super long time before getting freaky. But I would advise NOT trying to find a partner on fetlife, most of the guys on there are creeps looking for an easy fuck.
sorry to say but it really could go either way anon. you could have just noticed a few jokes and statements out of many and put them into a pattern when they're not really a pattern, or he could be giving hints about what he really is into.
is this someone you're actually seeing or flirting with or are you just friends for now?
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I didn't do anything particularly bad, I just jokingly teased him a bit and rightfully got mad at him for doing stupid shit on occasion. Apparently I come off as somewhat cold / mean sometimes and he's silly (and more insecure than I thought, it breaks my heart, I'm working on his self esteem. Bless his praise kink). >>99142
I know, I dislike those tropes as well. First one's completely unappealing to me, second one's just boring as shit. I want someone to challenge me and give something back, not a wet doormat.
This is why I hate femdom porn, it's super male geared. I just want to see and hear hot sub men being objectified and enjoying it.
And that situation also sounds ideal. My heart. That's kind of what I have on my hands rn but mine's too bloody insane and keeps getting into trouble and draining my money. I wouldn't mind sugarbabying him if I had the resources but I really don't at the moment /blogpost
on a side note yesterday I found out that he perfectly fits into my sparkly booty shorts and this is now all that he's allowed to wear when he's with me.
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That's fair enough, I used to fantasize about nice sweet obedient subs when I was a teen, my type just shifted a bit as I grew older.
Anyhow, here's my favourite sub pic.
My dream guy would be an ordinary nice normie who gets a raging boner when kneeling in front of your feet in the bedroom. >>99217>I just want to see and hear hot sub men being objectified and enjoying it.
Yeees. Anyone got any material to share that is actually for women?
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Y'all…I need a name. All I've found out is that he's Russian and all I've seen are shitty short videos. Farmers…help ;_;
ANON RESEARCH PARTY NOW
I've been watching his vids for weeks now but not a name ANYWHERE. I need to know who this cute boy is, I'll let you know if I find something!
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It's a shame cute ones like the guy you posted are so rare in videos,it's like they go out of their way to get creepy fat ugly guys
Holy shit anon, I just saw this in recent images, what a snacc.
The world needs more adorable femme-y boys like this.
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>>99346>Tfw most Adorable femme-y boys are gay
This is waking up something in me I didnt know I had.
Remember, dick out = spoiler>>99349
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I need me a beefy sub with sensitive nipples that I can tease. Fuck.
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HHNNNGGG, I love slightly beefy guys, he got the perfect bod.
What femdom-y mangas do you guys like? Everything I find is so male geared. I loved Sadistic Beauty and was so sad to see it discontinued
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I KNOW. I was pissed, it looked like a really good scene was about to start :(
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"1932 still of Katharine Hepburn on stage as Antiope, grabbing Colin Keith-Johnston’s Theseus by the hair.”
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>Tfw no submissive house husband
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>What experiences have you had?
A few online flings and then one 2 year current relationship with an adorably bratty sub (not him pictured, but he actually looks exactly the same. Petite yet fit from sports and running)>What are your main kinks?
Cum control, Bondage, pegging, spanking since he loves it. He's also heavily into pet play so I guess that too although I'm pretty indifferent to it.>What advice do you have for newbie dommes?
Weed out the lazies fast. If he says he wants a "mommy", he probably means he wants to lay there like a dead fish while you both pleasure him and then take care of him financially for nothing. Make sure you're getting with someone who has a plan in life, not just a plan for what he wants you to do to him in bed.>Where to find subs? How to avoid unhealthy ones?
I met mine through a hobby board on 4chan. I got very very lucky. I would say if you go the 4chan route-because 4chan is swimming in sub boys. If you go the 4chan route, avoid the ones from /soc/(will be a major slut), /r9k/(will be emotionally irreparable and probably threaten to kill himself all the time), /lgbt/ and /h/.
The ones on /d/ seemed alright. /trash/ has a huge stash of fembois but most are gay. >>99017
I used to, yes.
Tried to conform and be sub because that's what I thought I was supposed to be and anytime I even looked at ex's asses they would flip out and tell me it's weird and a huge turn off.
Obviously, those relationships didnt work and I spent a lot of time wondering what was "wrong" with me and why I couldnt just be normal. I would very much later come to realize that I was just naturally very dominant and that submissive men were a thing and an option. A much better and even ideal option.
I no longer feel any type of guilt or wish I was submissive anymore. There is no greater pleasure than being a domme.
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I’m so happy for this thread to exist!
Being domme is big part of how I see myself. There are times when I don’t actively practice my dominant side in bed. At the moment I’m in long-term relationship where my partner and I are equals. We have good sex but sometimes I find myself fantasizing about full BDSM dynamic relationship.
I have had relationship with strong D/S dynamic but it was messy. We both were young and seeking ourselves. It didn’t work out as a relationship but there’s that weird tension between us. She has a sugarmama/domme at the time and I’m genuinely happy for her.
It was been easier to swept my inner domme under the rug when she’s not around but well, there’s another gal to mess my mind.
She’s a sort of collague of mine. We have projects together and we are great team. In personal life we are friends but there is definetly potential for more. At the parties we have made out because ”it would totally be lulz if we kiss teehee xD”.
Last time I spanked her and she gave her ass very nicely but I had to stop because our third friend felt uncomfortable. All gal pals spank each other, right?
She’s technically switch but she could make a great sub. She got that amazing immersion where she enters the sub space.
I havu been holding back because my SO but now he is flashing green light. He said that he don’t mind if I have sex with her. We have very trustful relationship with open communication and he is not jealous type.
I’m going to a club with this new girl this weekend and situations like that have lead to things before… we’ll see.
Sorry for spelling errors. Not a native speaker.
>>99754>would totally be lulz if we kiss teehee xD”.
Last time I spanked her and she gave her ass very nicely but I had to stop because our third friend felt uncomfortable. All gal pals spank each other, right?
Wtf am I reading…
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Male or Female?
Either way I'll keep it honest with you. It's extremely annoying and a huge time waste. If you stay like that, it doesn't matter who you get. Eventually they'll get tired of that and leave.
Is it possible to change?
Yes, absolutely. If you're lazy then stop being lazy. Go to school, go to work, have a job, have a career. Have somewhere you're going in life. A lot of subs think it's ok and even cute if they're a NEET. It's not. Not if you actually want a future with them. A quick fuck sure, be whatever you want. But a serious relationship has no room for a deadweight. Make sure to exercise and eat right too.
Emotionally irreparable I don't know how you fix that other than stop fucking whining. A lot of subs also have a "everything is about me" problem, where they cry about little things and never once ask if their dom is ok. Not everything is about you, brat. Don't dwell in stupid shit. If you're clinically depressed or whatever, see a therapist. A relationship won't change or save you, so don't put all that weight on your dom either. They'll crack under the pressure and run.
I don't really know what else to say. If you know you have problems, get help, THEN enter a relationship. Otherwise you'll just lose what you got to your poor habits. That's just my personal experience with subs anyway.
Isn't that the whole point of tying someone up though?
The term is a bit vague because it's not always a bad thing
A sub isn't tied up every single night and Submissive doesn't mean "just lay there and do nothing like a pillow princess". It means you submit to whoever your partner is.
So for example, my boyfriend submits to me by letting me do whatever I want. and however I take him, he reciprocates back. If I have him on his back, he'll kiss at my shoulders and neck. If he's turned around, he'll push himself against me. If I do oral, so does he. If I even stick my foot out, he'll crawl over to kiss my toes. If I uncross my legs-so on and so forth. In the case of being tied up, a submissive cant do much no. That's why it usually isnt an every night thing. No one likes a selfish partner. Pleasure should always be mutual.
I follow this pixiv artist that draws super hardcore femdom and I love it but it's all shota and kind of gross from most people's viewpoint so I never get the chance to share it… I assume most people itt won't like it either.
I really love the pics and the stories as well (they can be read easily with a japanese dictionary add-on)https://www.pixiv.net/member.php?id=10968668https://www.pixiv.net/member.php?id=29823356
A comedy huh? Nice ending scene though.
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>you'll never live in the world Kaneoya Sachiko portrays
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careful. a lot of male subs are subby because they're emotionally wounded. get to know them emotionally before proceeding, maybe even take note of how they respond to an emotional crisis. but don't cause one yourself. an emotionally wounded guy projects his need to be attended to on to a domme. that CAN be a safe way to express himself.
usually the bad ones are thirsty as fuck, so they're easy to spot. guys aren't known for being subtle after all.
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I'm a loser virgin so I've had no femdom experience at all obviously. I like it in porn/in theory however, and dominating a guy appeals to me way more than being submissive myself. >>100611
Right? It's sad. >>101993>>101994
On the topic of anime glasses guys getting dommed, I have been trying to find the drama cd Namidame 6 online. Anyone know if it's uploaded somewhere? Or I'll just buy and hide thist too I guess. https://www.amazon.co.jp/dp/B07G6P7PHB/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_awdo_c_x_E9gbCbQQYPN96
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Damn never knew this thread would actually turn me on. I guess I always hated on the BDSM scene, because of how misogynistic and racist the men dommes can be.
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This hentai manga always sticks with me for some reason, maybe cause maybe I'm too nervous to talk to cute boys https://hentai2read.com/m_no_honkai/
This one's actually really gross. I wish there were more femdom manga like that korean one that anon posted in the other femdom thread in ot.>>102078>the ultimate farmer Mary Sue manga
Not really. Most of us aren't fujoshits.
Most here are nerds who would love to have a cute popular guy suddenly offering to be their sub though.
And yes Sadistic beauty is great. I hope it gets revived and continues.
lol freudian slip
that should read: i don't know if i'd call myself a degenerate yet, but i've been around, and i'm convinced everyone is someone's ideal partner.
I can just imagine a scenerio he comes out to greet the scared postman, he sees him bleeding from his neck and asked if he had an accident with a shaver. He nods, but then the camera pans to Morticia wiping a blood spot from the corner of mouth with her pinky.
Love them. <<<3333https://youtu.be/-Z6STPcw3Ac
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>What experiences have you had?
My boyfriend and I are currently long distance due to work so we've had fun over cam/phone when it came to me being the dominant one. I never dommed IRL due to being pretty shy and so used to being the sub in past relationships. We ended up sitting down together and discussed what we liked, eventually finding out we're both switches! But overall, I've only experienced being a dom through voice/cam and he's done the same, but playing the role as a sub.
>What are your main kinks?
buff/stocky/ bearded men. I'm only 5'3" and don't really having the intimidating/powerful(?) dom look at all. Which turns my boyfriend on since he has a pretty manly or intimidating presence in general. He was also in the army for a few years and was a cop, so he had some sort of authority - which turns me on even more. The thought of a manly/strong/serious/etc man getting dommed by a small girl is def the #1 reason why I love domming him.
List of things I enjoy doing to him: choking, slapping, degrading, ropeplay, anal play, pegging, collars, spanking, face sitting, and edging him.
Hearing a grown man whimper and beg is also a big plus.
But after sex, we always make sure to baby eachother and keep most of that dom/sub thing in the bedroom. Though, there's a bit of role reverse when we're together. (ex: I'll be the big spoon, I'll let him lay his head in my lap while I pet his head, I baby/spoil him most of the time, etc.)
(sorry if any of my grammar or English is wrong, it's not my native language)
Oh my god that image is great, does anyone know where to find more stuff like this?
>I love buff/stocky/ bearded men.
Bara men are my favorite
I find a very large percentage of anime style artwork to make bland, sticker-faced unattractive men and this is a definite exception. The artist is very talented and her work very evocative.
In another thread someone posted a pic of a bodypillow with her character on it and NGL I kind of wanted one.
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Just found her twitter, and an artbook with her work will be released soon - in english!https://twitter.com/sac_macaroni
But it seems her main interest is in furry femdom - kek
>>102334>waah stop liking what I don't like!
Nta but they're cute as fuck, neet or not. Looks more realistic too instead of the clean shaven bishounen 12 year old boy look.>>102337
I don't even know how much of a thing furries are in Japan and her art's a little weird to begin with so I can't tell if she's legit one or if it's just her being quirky. I always wondered wtf was up with that.
I like the tired hobo look NGL>>102337
Maybe she does it because it’s shocking? Or maybe just for fun lmao, I think this makes sense too >>102344
kind of like some artists like to portray grown men as Pigs
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From her DA she has described the female characters as 'milf beasts' so they probably are meant to be representative of sexually aggressive women.
Oh and she is selling body pillows again, but you have to order them from Vanilla Gallery. I'm torn between A) when are these gonna be available again? and B) do I want to be a person that has a daki? I'm still wavering but since people here have expressed interest in purchasing one I thought I'd share that they're available again.
That's very expensive for such a small daki. Size really makes a gigantic difference in comfortability when you're holding it and yes, have fun trying to hide your daki when you have company over which is actually more of a pain in the ass than it sounds after you're forced to do it so often.>>102453
I mean you think boys faces with what…dark circles at most, peach fuzz and glasses in business attire look like "hobos" so you're
definitely not sound. How do you react to people in real life I wonder.
I love how jimmies are rustled ITT just cause someone dare not find animu slobs >>98863
I love how even more jimmies are rustled ITT just cause someone dare find animu slobs >>98863
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This recent whining is making my pussy dry up. Post some pics you like instead.
Bless you anon
I’m actually planning on getting her artbook, so excited for it to be released!>>102481>Tied up Dante
I didn’t know I wanted this until now
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Sachiko has drawn her character in jeans and tees, suits and military wear. Liking her work really comes down to finding the art style and more importantly, her face design, attractive. She really only has one subject so if you don't find him attractive you're not gonna enjoy her work no matter how slick or slobbish he is presented. There would be more to debate if she had a fuller roster of characters but she clearly has a personal idea.>>102481
OK not Devil May Cry exactly but anyone here a fan of Bayonetta? Total femdomme, had some fun scenes with Luka (who she bullied). Would LOVE to see her interact with Dante though it will never happen because of the rights holders.
Bayonetta's a practically immortal, overpowered witch and Luka's a dumb normal human. You're not gonna see her tie him up or give him a paddling but all of their interactions have a clear hierarchy and Bayonetta's always the dominant person, she's got no bones about teasing him or being condescending. She has a great voice actress that really sells the character.
Its not a perfect game in how in represents the character. She's designed by a woman for a male director that has described her as a dream girl. I understand why people find the character and the game offensive but I still really like her.
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ngl, the whole character concept of Bayo was the reason why I got into this franchise and felt in love with. There are just way too many aspects about her that I enjoy as well like she does ugh
Can't wait for Bayo 3>>102481
Definitely excited for the third game, hope we see more of Jeanne than we got to see in the second too. Bayonetta's a rare enough character type in games, that she has friendships with other women who are also badass Dommes is another level of rare.
She's been as flirty with Luka as she has been bossy to him, would you like to see them paired up at the end?
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This is a shot from a dance production of Salome: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VtYFOylfZFY
I'm gonna try that mojoupgrade quiz to see if the guy I'm currently seeing and I share some interests we're too shy to talk about. I think
he might have some subbish tendencies but we're both too awkward to have productive discussions about sex.
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Where do you all hang out/get your femdom picture content now that the tumblr purge happened?
Why do you care about being cliche?
Cliche does not mean bad
I guess it really just comes down to a lack of self confidence.
Like, I guess if you're an elegant qt3.14, it doesnt make sense to make fun of you being a domme but it's so easy to say "look at her, she's the embodiement of the hairy feminist dyke to the point that even the men she fucks, she humiliates them".
I don't think there's a particular storytime about this, it happenned several times. I'm in art college and one time my whole class was having a discussion about this group project we had to do, just talking and this girl I dislike was offering dumb ideas so I just looked her in the eyes while I detailed why her ideas were shit and her cheeks got all red and eyes watery.
Or two weeks ago in philosophy class, I was challenging the prof who's such a sucker for Hannah Arendt and I gave her sources on why Hannah Arendt sucked politically and we argued and the prof got quite heated. So after that, I was just whispering with a friend about the situation and the prof yelled at me "You're distracting me again! But of course, you're doing that on purpose, you enjoy distrupting my course" and I told her something along the lines of "If whispering deconcentrates you to that point, you shouldnt be a philosophy teacher in the first place" and she threw me out of class screaming and almost crying. It was kinda surreal because I was being a bitch but not like an über bitch and I actually had sources and good arguments to back up my claims.
Honestly wish I had your confidence to hurt people's feelings anon. Although I can be blunt and to the point when it comes to getting certain things that I want, I don't have the drive to argue with people and especially not in a group setting.
How did you reach this point? How do you articulate your ideas without accidentally sounding nervous (in front of a group)? How do you avoid coming across as autistic? Any times that I've actually snapped at people I just come off as unhinged rather than superior, advice on how to avoid that would be appreciated.
hm i don't know. I can deffenitely be destabilized. If someone hits the right "button", I can also crumble but it doesn't happen /that/ often. I'm also rather weak and actually really nice to my friends but other people find me mean/intimidating.
You should really know your subject, though. That's the bottom line. Subject both as in "who you're talking to" and "what you're talking about". I wont seek confrontation about something where I don't have shit to back me up.
I'm also never really nervous in groups, I kinda get an adrenaline rush. If I know I'm getting into a "longer" (as in more than a few sentances) confrontation, I like to have a water bottle with me. It sounds stupid but I always have a bottle of water in "stressfull" situations : it basically gives you something to fidget with while looking rather natural, you're just hydrating yourself and touching your bottle.
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Agree. And let's back to the actual topic.
NTA but this kind of behavior is actually exactly what drove me towards femdom.
observed correctly, I’m an incredibly insecure piece of shit and in school I used to gain confidence by putting those down that I knew had weaknesses where I had strengths - certain subjects, topics etc. I got a huge kick out of being an arrogant bitch and letting another person and everyone around them know I knew better. Especially one teacher loved the way he could talk to me because he was the same kind of asshole and thought about 80% of the students didn’t deserve or care to be there anyways.
Femdom helped me to get this kind of behavior out of my day to day life and use it on those that actually want to be put down like that. I still get to be a condescending bitch, but not to those who don’t consent to being a target.
I mean, I’m still a bitch 24/7, but nowadays in a much more passive/defensive way. I don’t randomly pick and shoot at people anymore and only start firing if I’m being ‘challenged’.
if you followed your own advice youd see nothing shows up, you think i didnt try that shit already? fuck off>>104202>>104308
thanks anons <3
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GOTTA PAY THE TROLL TOLL
TO GET INTO THIS BOIS HOLE
GOTTA PAY THE TROLL TOLL TO GET IN
Aw thanks, I loved this anon. I like when people have a little chat in porn, it's so cute.>Holy crap on a cracker
lmao it's probably one of the anons upthread that think acting like a prick makes them seem super cool and domme and not just kinda pathetic, ignore them.
Also if I can just throw this out there even though we've kinda moved past it, it's pretty creepy if you're trying to dominate someone in your everyday life who isn't your sexual partner, and most genuinely confident people don't get a rush from making someone's day shittier for no real reason at all.
Some of you fuckers are the genderbent version of Greg from the June thread/Shaygnar's bf
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yea its goofy and the guys just some nerdy metal dood but i like how she actually gets off. hawt tbh
whew, you must have been shit at philosophy.
and to get back on topic >>103757
, tumblr had its perks but the "community" was weird. The amateur work has never done it for me because it usually looked so staged, so now I'm retreating to doujin sites, will post recs of good ones if anyone is interested.
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i forget where i got the webms (and i didnt make em myself), but when i play them in mpv, the header reads "kinkdevice - kylies feeldoe". it might be the website. and i bet if you searched around you could find more. i know ive seen other stuff with him getting fucked before
moar dudes getting their shit pushed in
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>>104375>Can a strap-on stimulate the clit
i mean they have ones like that, tho they take some gerrymandering to get it on the right spot and keep it there. theres also ones that have a pouch on the inside for a bullet vibe on your clit.
this one (judging from the header) is one of those double ended ones (look up feeldoe). think theres a vibe in it as well. expensive, but they look neat.
>Never been into this because it looks like it's all about pleasing the guy.
same tbh. even tho im on the opposite side of the fence, the whole point of femdom for me is totally flipping the script and making it all about HER pleasure, and giving HER that power that normally defaults to the guy. like, all that matters is if she gets off, and if i cant manage by the time shes worn out, thats on me.
but yea, at first i thought the same, that it was just selfish so i never tried to pursue it, but with practice and the right equipment it can definitely be a good time for all parties involved.
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btw rly sry if that makes you uncomfortable, and ill leave if yall want. i just landed ITT cuz i wanna learn a little bit about how to please you all better next time i happen across one of you "unicorns" irl lol.
also, most femdom pr0ns suck (im more into gfd (which is basically nonexistant on pornsites) than sado-stuffs etc) and most guys are into shit i dont like, so i figured id hop the fence and see whats up
ill take the ban if i have to tbh
Hell I what even is happening ? I've never thought I was into femdom, I've always been a been a total sub. I came here because I was bored, kept reading because it made me discover Kaneoya sachiko discover I was into it), I've just read the integrality of Sadistic Beauty (>>99460), and know this >>104380
Well, thank you lolcow.
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>>104393>Hell I what even is happening ?
tryin to derail the "is that one anon a bitch" discussion (she is) w pegging clips
>I've never thought I was into femdom, I've always been a been a total sub
feel like most people hear femdom and think of nazi leather mistresses stepping on balls in 40inch high heels and shitting in some fat rich dudes mouth, then just dont look into it really. in practice, seems most folks are into the softer stuff (of which theres almost NO porn of) and just never realize it.
potential dommes default to standard "gril = sub" config and potential subs to "boy = dom". most will sense somethings not clicking exactly right, but dont know any better and roll w it anyways. eventually you see it and you get that "A-HA" moment
>thank you lolcow.
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>>104428>crackin' and packin'
u wot m8?
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pegging is disgusting and degenerate. i understand why men would be into it, but women?!?! it seems so humiliating for the woman tbh fam
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sry u feel that way doc
cant see, since at its core its mostly about role reversal, how either of the positions (D or s) could possibly be more or less humiliating than their vanilla counterparts. barring of course if humiliation is a PART of the whole shindig for the couple (not really my thing tbh). but even then, the humiliation is more than likely at the expense of the man getting his asshole reamed out by the dilly attached to his gfs pelvis. but thats on HIM for being a self conscious lil bitch tbh
if no other factors are on top of it, like crossdressing, chastity, verbal humiliation, what have you, its literally just casual sex for the explicit purpose of NOT procreating, but flipped around. ime its a fun and refreshing way to break up the monotony. the "vulnerability" for the guy that comes from getting penetrated takes a bit of getting used to, but for me, thats a HUGE part of it. its intoxicating to leave yourself wide open like that with someone you love. and this isnt something i would EVER do with someone i didnt trust, love, and care about deeply.
for the dommes (provided theyre into it at all), that first taste of the "power" they have over their boytoy when inside of them is often all it takes to fall deep down the rabbit hole.
obv its not for everybody, but no kink is
the only other way i could see it as "humiliating" for the domme is if shes got "no game" and doesnt know how to fuck from that side of the fence. to which i say: no shit. no guy is born with the knowledge on how to fuck right. hes gotta learn how to do it by trying and failing. first times for anything are always weird. but this inexperience is on both parties generally (which again, is a large part of the fun for me). personally, i cant think of a better way to learn how to better please your partner than to literally swap places with your partner. helped me at least
all that said tho, no ones gonna have fun without the right equipment, and it can take a little trial and error to get things set up right. but practice makes perfect. alls i need now is a new study buddy>>104437
but hey, it can be hard to think straight when im stuck fantasizing about getting mon derrière pounded. too flustered to reach for the thesaurus. close enuff
oh ur no fun
toys can make stuff less boring. i hate routine in a sex life tbh
at the very least its not nearly as disgusting or degenerate as ur makin it out to be. and its still technically heterosexual segs, so even by biblical standards its only sodomy. so its up there with anal, which is something even many catholics indulge in.
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why are you typing/talking like that?
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Enough pegging wankery and scrot posting. Anons, tell me what your actual favorite femdom thing is. This position is my favorite for sure.
Pegging doesn't count? I love to make my bf suck on my strap on, bonus points if it's positioned in a way I can make him lick my clit as well. Then when he thinks he's safe I'll just ram the dildo in his mouth and listen to his muffled moans.
Years of reading so much yaoi made me a sucker for cute boys giving a good blowjob.
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I’m new to femdom as a whole, while I’ve had moments of being more dominant in bed I didn’t properly think about it until I started dating my current bf. I pegged him for the first time last week and it was fucking great. He’s way taller than me, 6”2 and has a muscular/slim body with a nice peachy butt. He’s bi and was very dominant when we first got together and insisted he was a power bottom when he was with guys, so seeing him turn squirm and whine and turn into a complete sub was surprising but extremely hot. We’re both switches and I’m really excited to see how our sex life progresses
I wouldn't say so; upfront conversations need to be had to establish boundaries, interests, and safewords.
Are you just supposed to guess lol? Although admittedly I have poor social cue reading skills so perhaps that's why I feel this way.
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This might be relevant to your interests?
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Anyone else a bit of a princess femdom?
Im needy, bossy, and want someone to obey me and treat me like im somewhat abovem him.
Also serve me tea or something.
Same here. I recommend fantasy nerds or waifufags.
Women get so much shit for acting 'like spoilt princesses' but we're literally raised like this. We call girls princesses and show them Disney princesses and our adult romance love interests talk about treating us like a princess. Heck yeah I've got a princess complex, I'm happy to hear jokes about it but only if the guy is going to bend the knee afterwards.>>104674
Are you super polite in normal daily stuff? Sometimes it's helpful to just get comfortable to saying no in normal situations (like acquaintances asking for things or not forcing yourself to smile etc) and maybe being a bit greedy like asking him to get you things.
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I took one of those sex compatibility quizzes with my guy and he didn't flag any femdom stuff as an interest
Dump him (unless you're a switch).
Sexual incompatibility sounds like hell. Why even date?
Same, honestly; I can't find it anywhere either…
Maybe no one has uploaded it yet?
Would you post a link if you find it?
I've been following the series since Ichinomiya
I forgot about this. I will share it here if I find it/buy it.
Ichinomiya is total marriage material (after that one week of getting stockholm'd). Guy number 3 is also great.
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I don't know if what I'm looking for is actually femdom/gfd although I assumed it was since it's not the expected het dynamic either.
My ideal partner would be very passive and would just lie back and let me do what I want, but I'm also generally uninterested in my own pleasure. It's taken me a few years into adulthood to even be comfortable with the idea of receiving oral, even through facesitting. I'd rather just pleasure my partner through a variety of means (often not involving my body much at all, or even getting undressed) while he just lies there and takes it. On occasion I like the idea of getting more involved with it, but for a majority of the time I'd prefer what I described. Most of my pleasure would be from maybe a double sided strap on or something.
I guess what I'm looking for is a "pillow prince" (somewhat sorry to appropriate lesbian slang) but I'm not sure if that actually makes me a domme. I like to be in control, and I'm into bondage and humiliation, but I just don't want the focus to be on me getting off which seems to be a big part of being dominant. Also not sure if men like this exist, since the ones who are fine with not having to pleasure their female partners are usually doms/still objectify their partner's body for pleasure. While obviously I want him to be attracted to me, I'd prefer it more to be about my power/aesthetic appeal/the way I carry myself if that makes sense. Usually. Sometimes it varies like I said.
Sorry I kept rambling here, this is more of a vent.
LEL yeah, I guess that's what I am. That term escaped me for some reason.
It's inconsequential, but I just don't know if I should still be identifying with femdom and be seeking out subs. Have you had any luck finding men who are into it?
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i always try to suppress my kinky thoughts but lets be real, i just want a cute smirky normie guy friend who will let me bully and tease him. like a power dynamic fwb but no sex. it would be so hard finding what i'm looking for though.
funny thing is in hs i really liked being mean and smug towards douchey normies who sat next to me in classes and wanted to talk to me. i got such a rush making them shocked i wasn't being nice to them bc they were cute guys all girls were nice to, or making them embarrassed for not knowing something. i honestly think a lot of them liked it too bc i developed small friendships with them sometimes. i also went to catholic schools too and it made me develop a huge thing for uniforms. i just didn't know at the time it was bc i got off on it.
when will i find a normie guy who will be willing to be my bratty sub friend. it's just so hot thinking about making a douchey kinda guy that is doing well in life and gets laid a lot get on his knees for you and seeing how flushed he gets like hnng. it would be so fun to tease him and pin him down and frustrate him. i wanna tell him what to do and call him a slut for wanting to fuck me. i just want a cute boy i can push around a little, tie up, insult and be smug to, without any sex or romance, it would be such a fun relationship. too bad they're probably rare or mentally unstable af.
Nice, they're my type anyway haha.>>106870
Yes, in most porn the woman is mostly clothed, not objectified at all, and is in complete control. You got it. /s
I addressed that in the expected dynamic the man objectifies the woman for his pleasure. What I want is to objectify the man for our mutual pleasure.
On the occasion I want to physically exist (once or twice a month maybe?) it's pretty typical femdom expectations. Like oral and facesitting would be great in those moments.>>106975>care and curiosity
Yeah, that's basically it. My sex drive has always been motivated by visual interest in other people and love. But also wanting control.
I'm also just fascinated by a man's body when I like him; I've mentioned it in the fetish thread but it's as if I've fetishized every part of the male body.
I want to blame all the yaoi I consumed in formative pubescent years, but I'm not sure. Probably also because I'm socially disconnected from people and see them as…idk, more human than me. Not in an edgy way, but I do feel like an alien who is impressed by simple human existence quite often. Not just in a sexual context but in others as well.
This isn't the thread for that though kek. Also inb4 someone calls me an uwuwuwu snowflake. Pls no bully I just like watching people eat and listening in to their conversations and watching the silly things they do when they think no one's looking.
I'm gonna give it a shot I'm just discouraged is all, I've tried broaching the subject lightly but he doesn't get it so it seems I will have to be more explicit but that might end up being a turn off for him. >>106988
don't worry, this is an imageboard full of weirdo chicks you aren't alone.
Anyway I'm curious, how many of you have a dominant personality outside of the bedroom?
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can i uhhhh
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i'm a huge control freak, like the stereotypical anal retentive type of person. everyone who knows me at all knows i'm a neat freak, i am very intolerant, particular about things, etc. i'm very quiet though, in most situations. i'm independent and don't let people (coincedentally it's usually men my age who do this to me) talk down to me, or try to make me feel less than. i'm a switch though, some people i'm interested in just have the kind of personality where i would definitely not be the one in charge.
kind of makes sense with the ways i like being dommed (gentle but stern) and domming (bullying, teasing, not gentle but fun). they put me in a good mood and get me out of my comfort zone just enough where i'm not too anxious.
I see, I desire it both over myself and my partner big time. As in I'd preferably be able to go full in with dominating and controlling what happens to his body (sometimes through bondage and sadism) rather than just being gentle and bring him to climax.
Although I also see the appeal in that too and would like to do that sometimes. You make it sound wholesome, too.>>107017>tending to a short boy who has straddled my lap and is crazy horny/sensitive
Patrician taste, anon. Short men are top tier.
Although I do prefer being unsexualized physically, being noticeably larger than my partner would be hot. That's the type of thing I'd never be uncomfortable with him being aroused by, most likely because it suggests what I can do to him.
Imagining a guy asking me to choke him or punch him in the gut? Or just to lift him up and toss him around? Amazing. >>107018>dominant personality
Not yielding and meek, but not aggressive or anything. I can be blunt and stubborn but am usually just quiet and by myself. Kind of goofy with friends though.
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I want to rub a tied-up guy's dick through his jeans with my feet is that too much to ask?
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>>107018>How many of you have a dominant personality outside of the bedroom?
Outside of a sexual context I'm not really dominant at all. I'm pretty shy/quiet/awkward for the most part. But I DO notice that sometimes my sexual energy will manifest in other parts of my life, if that makes sense. For example, when I happen to have a crush on a guy or feel attracted to him, suddenly I get over my social awkwardness and feel very confident. And I love to tease or be mean to guys that I like (btw, most of the time they like it too). I also noticed that at work if I'm feeling horny or sexually frustrated that helps me be more aggressive or assertive. I hope that doesn't sound creepy, it's not like I'm trying to dom my coworkers or anything, it's more like I remember how powerful and confident I feel in femdom situations and I'm able to channel those feelings in real life.>>107052
I'm also a small woman and I'm physically very weak. Sometimes me and my bf do something like pic related, except without the bondage, and he puts both his arms around me like a hug while I jerk him off. I love it because it's not physically demanding at all, it feels intimate and romantic, but at the same time he looks really vulnerable clinging onto me while being all shy and blushy and moaning and stuff. Perhaps you could try a combo of that with some dirty talk? Good luck anon!
I wouldn't call myself dominating, even though I must admit most people call me such. Or at least, they say about me that I have a big aura and people naturally follow me, even if I don't try much (or at all, I must say).
But not "actively" dominating, I'd say, I like minding my own business too much and I'm too lazy to maintain the high profile.
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I lost my will to care about anything at the age of 15 so I’m quite laid back. You’ll figure out finding sub bfs is quite easy if with this mindset, act nice and cordial when you speak to them but don’t give them to much conversation. Show early on you have the power in this relationship lest they walk all over you thinking you can be used as an emotional or sexual outlet.
Try and bust out the good grammar and always correct them if they make a mistake. Don’t insult his appearance but never comment one way or another on it, ignore it. This will slowly inch away at the guys perception of you and himself.
Of course, it’s not a surefire strategy but it works for me. You don’t even have to send him a single picture of yourself, or at the very least one. He will cling onto it and you and the prospect of talking to someone he deems higher than himself, thats the Male way of thinking. Especially feminine, submissive men.
And if you eventually grow bored, in the words of the Bogdanoff twins, dump them. No strings attached, if you play your cards write you can repeat this over and over and over. Its funny how similar they are, both in looks an personality. Unkempt long hair, dark circles, underweight or getting there. The overweight ones are never worth your time and are always the most degenerate. With this you should easily find a cute submissive bf, if you so choose. But remember to never give into the idea of giving him an actual relationship, that’s when it will all go down hill. And don’t feel guilty about it, it’s alright because these men aren’t real people anyway.
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i figure this is a good way to find one, as i've heard using fetlife or tinder attracts guys who are batshit or would just pretend to be into it in the hopes they'd get laid. i've attracted guys who seemed like they were kindo into being insulted or degraded depending on their reactions. it's not really an appearance thing for me, they tend to be somewhat dorky and are "go with the flow" kinda guys with a good sense of humor, and their ego isn't too big. imo it's all in their temperament, which you can only judge by testing the waters. i also like to be playful/humorous about it, some guys are really into girls who aren't afraid of coming off as impolite/ are "fiesty" to put it in a cringe way. some guys' precious male egos get damaged and they get super defensive, but some seem to really like it, and it gets them interested in me, and they seem to want more.
i just never did anything about them bc like you say, they tend to be guys that i thought were shit relationship material. that would work in my favor atm however, because i would prefer a friendship with a fun d/s dynamic, at most i'm looking for sexual tension with a guy who gets off on bullying, intimidation, and denial. i need a guy who's kind of jerky, smug/bratty who pushes my buttons bc it's so satisfying putting those types in their place and making them blush and get frustrated.
>>107151>these men aren’t real people anyway
Anon these are my subs you're talking about, don't bully
I guess you're a real dom and I'm just a gfd, the outcome of what we look for in guys is the same e.g. underweight tired nerds with long hair, but it sounds like you enjoy torturing them more out of hate than enjoyment
You go get yours though lol, knowing there are het ladychads restores some balance in the world
That's nice but I'm a loving and emotionally supportive domme so this would hurt me, too. Like caring for a small dog instead of…idk, training a big dog while keeping him distant. I just want to make the big decisions, be his rock, and smack him around the bedroom. I'm not into manipulation at all. Not even solely because of my morals, I'm just bad at it.
kms I'll be alone forever.
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>>107151>feminine>Unkempt long hair, dark circles, underweight
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i wouldn't worry too much about labelling it. i could consider myself a switch too because when i'm interested in someone, their personality/chemistry with me determines who "wears the pants" for lack of a better term. i wouldn't let words like 'submissive' and 'dominant' decide what kind of a person i am- so many people into bdsm get way too attached to the labels they give themselves.
if you're interested in femdom, i'd try to meet a guy any normal way a vanilla person would; i hear fetlife and tinder are crawling with tryhards or guys who just want sex and are willing to pretend to be into whatever just to get laid, so my advice is to try to avoid them.
i look for normal, regular guys, not ones that strike me as "submissive" always, because that usually means they have low self esteem. those ones will get clingy and probably aren't good partners, whether for fun or for a long-term relationship.
find a guy who's doing well in life, relatively mentally stable, and open minded especially. just be honest about what you want to try and what kind of relationship you're looking for, no mind games. taking charge in that way is already a good trait any dominant person would have. being dominant already in casual ways is a good way to gauge how open he would be to it. in my experience, being able to take charge by being honest, making decisions quickly, and not being afraid to say no is a breath of fresh air to some guys. many have been really into me for being able to be assertive, in a fun and humorous way. for me personally, i like domming a guy to just be a fun experience to tease, intimidate, and sexually frustrate a guy in a fun/smug way. i get off on denying men i know want me. but i know it's not the same for everyone.
not to ramble, but ignore any bdsm communities, online and irl. they're full of cringey edgelords who will try to tell you how to dom and shit like that. just make sure you and your partner are open, willing to listen to each other, and everything is consensual and not seriously going to injure anyone too much.
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im just gonna leave this here
Also >so many people into bdsm get way too attached to the labels they give themselves.
This isn't hard to understand at all dumb ass
Not everyone is a switch, some people can only be sexually dominant/submissive
Personally I could never date a dom guy
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I do. Never mean to, but it always ends up like that. >>107357
I feel like men in general all across the board have strong issues with low self esteem. and to make matters worse, instead of just quietly hating themselves, they go and make a big fuss of it causing scenes over their inability to cope. This is how so many Dom women end up mostly getting mommy-zoned, where the guy goes from being dom/sub to just being a depressed baby crying on the floor for more and more attention without ever caring much about your problems anymore.
This is why I strongly discourage ever talking to those that are mentally unwell. If he mentions having depression or issues with self-hatred, don't waste your time. You'll go from his Dom to his therapist/mother and he'll throw tantrums to the point where the relationship is stressful and annoying and the sex barely even comes to mind anymore. If I could offer any advice to Dom women, it would be that. Just say NO to sad boys.
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maybe I'm not that experienced but how is it bad advice?>>107497
petition to change all images in this thread to Kaneoya Sachiko who is beloved by all save for two anons.
This time featuring sparkledog
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from my own experiences most guys are open to try stuff that would be classified as light femdom/gentle femdom
temporarily being handcuffed,being restrained,being hit(specifically punched in the face),being blindfolded however always seem to draw the line at humiliation and anything anal related
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that's perfect because that's pretty much what i'm into. no crossdressing or butt stuff pls boys, nothing extreme or too dangerous. i desperately need a fun qt who wants to get bullied and gets turned on being slapped and denied by someone smaller than him.
slapping is also something most guys don't seem to be into
their more comfortable being punched in the face or stomach then being slapped(its weird)
wait but why? This makes no sense to me.
Couldn't ever punch a dude I'd feel sad about it.
I'm not memeing im just telling about my experiences
fro men getting punched is more masculine then being slapped(however I am talking about Vanilla guys not sub-guys)
Yeah I don't really get what >>107654
are talking about.
I've slapped pretty much all my bfs and they didn't mind at all, but they would never have agreed to actually getting punched in the face.
This has been my experience but I think my experiences varies from others here because majority of my relationships have been with masc tard males who were vast majority of the time not subs
However as I have said were open to try stuff like this >>107584
Someliked it but most didn't and even the ones that did like it weren't willing to go further beyond that
The punching thing was apparently manly for them and really im not one to judge
lol so you're posting in the femdom thread your experiences… with men who aren't even subs.
why are you here then
Just because they weren't subs doesn't mean they weren't willing to try being sub with her, at that time. I think it should count.
Anyone else ordered the Kaneoya Sachiko book? Placed an order last night.
I was just giving >>104801
advice on how to deal with boyfriends who aren't subs
I wish she commented on, and explained more of her art, some of it is pretty crazy.
Btw can I just say the part with the dog sniffing the doctor is hilarious.
Agreed on the foreword. It explains her thought process as a whole and the subtle visual cues that incite attraction and curiosity in women towards men (of course we notice your ankles you silly geese). Can't say I know anyone else that does it better.
Outside of the themes expressed I get the impression that she's not interested in any more specific narrative outside of the short comics. Which is kind of a shame. It would be interesting to see her paired up with a writer to develop a comic or short project, or as the visual lead/art director for something.
BLESS YOU ANON YOURE THE BEST
I was so angry about them moving the release until next month again
this makes me even more hype to get the physical book!
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yeah, after reading it, i was like FINALLY someone put it into words!! it made me understand my attraction to men better.
i should try to find more things she's written, it just really clicked with me.
It's often a disappointment when you try to find pics.
Like looking for 女攻め on Pixiv and getting terribly crappy pictures of boxing matches. Men have no taste.
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I get that people are excited about that artbook, but let's post more of other artists.
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my first boyfriend who i did femdom with was into the really degen violent humiliation BDSM type femdom. i've always been interested in femdom but being involved in that relationship almost killed that side of my sexuality for me. i was def a "kink dispenser" he'd always harp on about how femdom is great because its about ~the woman's pleasure~ but it was clear that he was a selfish lover and he was only into the male focused latex SPH stuff and force fem which made my puss dry as a bone.
my current boyfriend is into GFD on the same level i am and i hope to work up to gentle pegging one day but after the shit i went thru with my ex i'm not gonna be pressed if it takes years. sex really is supposed to be a two way street away. For my current relationship "GFD" is basically vanilla for us but with role's reversed. it's very nice to be able to tap back into that side of me safely and slowly and it's doing wonders for my self confidence.
outside of the bedroom im kind "dominate" i'm a little bit bossy and touchy feel-y and i tease a lot. he's not into like collars and blindfolds which im kinda down with but it can get really cheesy sometimes tbh so get it. he can go down on me for hours at a time. it's perfect.
as for the """perfect sub/man""" i also dont like how 90% of men in femdom are twinky femboys. im really, really not into femboys/twinks/traps and have PTSD from force fem. (more like forced force fem lol). i like men that are bit chubby and masculine. the thing that draws me to femdom is seeing masculine men drop the machismo crap and let themselves be vulnerable and focus on what the woman wants and needs more than himself. i dont want to hurt my partner but i do like seeing them pant and squirm around. good stuff.
also, i'm late to the pegging talk but i dont think pegging is humiliating for women if theyre into it. i like it a lot but it's really all mental for me. loops back in with my vulnerable masculine man fetish heh. pegging comes after you've cum. the man should always cum after the woman as far as i'm concerned.
also, as a word of advice if any of you guys are looking for a """sub""" or whatever, please be careful and avoid men who explicitly have a "femdom fetish". they dont respect female sexuality as much as they act like they do. And be careful of femdom men who are into force fem who have latent AGP eventually you will end up sexually incompatible.
depressed GFD men with self confidence issues can he helped outside of the bedroom. men with a fetish for suffering at the hands of an authoritative woman have issues and a complex. fetishizing sexual trauma should be dealt with in therapy, not catered to in the bedroom. this is why ive really distanced myself from ~kink~. sorry for potential ot but you all deserve your respectful submissive man. not a misogynist pervert with baggage.
that woman looks strong, damn>>108150
Force feminization just seems inherently disrespectful towards women to me and it seems like nowadays they all end up declaring they are trans and imploding the relationship.
it killed my last relationship but it was already dead on arrival.
and yeah force fem fetishizes how "humiliating" it is for a man do and wear "woman things." a woman forcing her man to wear some frilly maid outfit and do the dishes is ~kinky and humiliating~ because that's a woman's place! men dont do that!
AGPs, troons, and lifestyle femdom men only want to be "the woman" in the context of sex and kink. they dont want to any of the domestic stuff unless it's ~kinky~ and they get their face sat on a "reward" they "earned". it really transparent and worth avoiding. they dont deserve dominate women imo.
GFD really appeals to me. I don’t need to hurt someone to be happy, I just want a loving relationship where I can take the lead and get cherished for it. Plus points if he’s older and more accomplished than me in his outside life. I just want a manly man (aka no kpop twinkie) who has a really soft/subservient side only I get to see.
Sage for daydreaming.
>>108142>im really, really not into femboys/twinks/
Femboys and twinks are top tier though>>108150>e if any of you guys are looking for a """sub""" or whatever, please be careful and avoid men who explicitly have a "femdom fetish".
This is the dumbest thing i've ever heard
Also fuck you for being another one of the annoying fucks who think gfd is the only good femdom
Most gfd is just vanilla but with the woman being slightly aggressive
Just because a man wants to "suffer at the hands of an authoritative woman "does not mean he has issues, you sound like an idiot
Rough degrading femdom is the only valid kind in my personal opinion
Grouping lifestyle femdom men in with it is dumb as hell
you sound like you had one bad experience so you've gone bitter
It's really annoying how you talk like you're some wise sage when you really aren't
Stop pretending like "femdom (but only gfd femdom) in the bedroom only or else it's bad" is true to everyone
Gfd is for people who only pretend to like femdom
Go away you fake domme, the fact you claim that rough femdom is a sign of mental issues proves you're a fraud
ntayrt; i dislike how most girls into femdom here too just like gfd and i get the feeling they think they're better than us for that.
but i do personally avoid guys who make being "uwu so subby" part of their personality or make a big deal about it because they're usually mental. it's hard to find good subs because well, being annoying or mentally unstable tends (obvs not always) to come with the whole "gets turned on by being hurt" territory.
the thread was about sharing personal experiences. which i did. i'm not trying to act like a wise sage at all and i'm sorry that i came across like that.
when i was talking about avoid men who explicitly have a femdom fetish and have a complex i'm talking about the kind of men >>108307
is talking about.
you guys can have your own tastes. it's just not my bag. i'm not trying to ~kink shame~ you guys. stop getting so mad. it's ok for you guys to like what you want. and it's ok for me to get disillusioned because of a bad experience. you dont have to be a latex clad dominatrix to enjoy this fetish and feel fulfilled.
You never mentioned people who preferred gfd
You made a blanket statement to everyone looking for a sub
Also stop moving the goalposts, you said it was a sign of mental issues and they needed a therapist
Well, I respect your opinion
I just find feminine men and men in """girls""" clothes/makeup hot
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>>108360>low sex drive women
What's the correlation there lmao?
Not really into femboys at all, although I do like gawky, hairy, awkward twinks of sorts. And I consider my sex drive to be high.
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Hey farmers! I want to try to femdom IRL and would love to get your advices/resources!!
I've never dommed IRL before even though I've always wanted to do that, but I always ended up being too shy (prob also because I had to always be a sub in relationship, not counting my ex whom i ended up domming thru ERP ((Long-distance)). Gave up on him because he started making everything about himself and never cared.) My bf doesn't mind being a dom, but he's not into pegging and I can understand that. I would like to mostly focus on talk/mental/degeneration(?) part, because thats the thing w/ which i struggle atm due to shyness n 0 exp irl. I'm also not that much into feet stuff.
And I'm a brat whenever I'm subbing. I love to tease, bully him all the time so he could prove how much of a dom he is. My fav part of subbing.
Switches should only be with switches
Switch girls aren't real doms and switch guys aren't real subs so they're shit in my eyes
Okay, I can get that, but you seemed to be addressing the entire thread at a point where feminization hasn't come up in 5 days or so.
Just confused me lol. Sorry I got defensive.
does anyone else worry about guys building up resentment for being in FLRs or just for being the more dominant one? society really rams it into peoples heads that it's unacceptable, and i just worry that eventually my partner will come to feel victimized, especially seeing as how 'bossy' women are so heavily shit on. my SO wasn't into this kind of thing explicitly himself and we just naturally fell into an FLR because it 'fit' our personality types and the more control i have over him, the more he works for me to pamper me, and feels owned by me, the happier he is and it's perfect in that respect, but i so worry that he'll feel abused by me because this was not an arrangement either of us specifically sought out and it seems like every guy pushes the dominant meme and i can't realistically insulate him from it all of the time>>108813
mainly addressed the thread as a whole because it was a recurring theme, the whole feminization thing. np, i get what you're saying!
i literally never said anything like "if it's not gfd it's bad". you're a dumbass. all i said was that forcing or suggesting men get into sissy shit nowadays is almost certainly a one way pipeline to turning him into a creepy tranny. there was no moral judgement at all about sissy shit or anything more extreme than gfd
>>108882>Most autogynephile trannies start out with a crossdressing fetish that intensifies over time
all squares are rectangles but not all rectangles are squares
I agree that trannies have muddied the waters of crossdressing but non tranny crossdressers exist >>108884>i literally never said anything like "if it's not gfd it's bad
You heavily implied it
I think I see what's going on
You're applying you're own negative personal experiences to everyone else
That's sad, I've seen the opposite (which is to say, crossdressers who never go trans)
You're paranoid to think that every crossdresser is a tranny waiting to happen
I'm rarely attracted to men, and my entire attraction to men is in the frame of femdom. I never look at a guy and want him to rail me, but there are a lot of guys I'd like to fuck up and dominate.
I have a fwb right now, we're pretty sexually compatible. Neither of us want to have PIV sex or do pegging, I mostly do stuff like handcuff/blindfold him and torture him a little with edging. We tried ice play the other week and we loved it, lol. He's super low maintenance which is great, and we've been friends for years without any red flags. I feel like I've gotten quite lucky. >>106976
I relate to a lot of stuff here especially with the whole being mean to guys in school. Guys who were the "school heartthrobs" would always act so shocked when I didn't treat them like kings lmfao
Lesbians want real women not gross troon men in dresses.
Oh my god, I've found my thread.
>What experiences have you had?
I've had several subs over the years. I don't really use fetlife or kink groups to find subs. I don't really like self-proclaimed subs, usually. They already have their idea of what a femdom is and typically treat me like someone who's made to fulfill their fantasies. I just find men who happen to have sub tendencies or enjoy making others happy and see if they like the idea of a dom/sub relationship down the line. That way, I get someone who cares about the dynamic and the relationship rather than someone who wants a stand in for their fantasies.
>What are your main kinks?
Chastity, CBT, foot worship, shibari, petplay, humiliation/praise, omorashi
Crossdressing used to be one, but most crossdressers end up being AGPs for some reason so until I can find a man who's comfortable and confident in himself, I'll pass.
>What advice do you have for newbie dommes?
Shit, I don't really know. I've only been doing this for two years, so I'm pretty new myself. I guess to unlearn the bullshit you've been raised into–being overly considerate (self sacrificing). Don't be afraid to voice your feelings and really tell others what you want (and you need to follow through with those things. Really mean them).
>Where to find subs? How to avoid unhealthy ones?
I don't look for subs, so I can't answer this, specifically because the majority of male subs are unhealthy for women and just want a pampered fantasy where they don't have to initiate or do any of the work but get showered with attention and orgasms. No thanks.
>>108915>Crossdressing used to be one
This, I used to enjoy putting cute lingerie on boys and making them embarrassed until the whole trans movement. It's not like I'm scared of them transing out but it just doesn't turn me on anymore
Shame boners are the absolute best though, I could never date a degenerate because they have no shame
>>108920>Shame boners are the absolute best though
God, this. I wish I could relive the first time I helped a guy figure out how much he loved spanking. The initial confused boners and denial were the best.>>108926
I love submissive men. I hate self proclaimed male subs. I already explained this in detail, but you're probably a baiting handmaiden, so it doesn't matter.>>108948
It straight up doesn't seem to exist in any circles. I can look up "bimbofication" and it's so easy to find. But I can't find anything about making a man obedient, muscular, stupid and using him for his muscles. I can only find stuff like that only sketchy furry websites and it doesn't have the devotional/servile attitude that makes it good.
It fucking sucks that so many dudes into crossdressing are trooning out. I really fantasize about having a cute guy dressed up in lingerie or a skirt and teasing him but then I come crashing back to reality every time I remember most dudes into crossdressing are ugly troons, and even if I were to find a guy into it there's a high chance he'd troon out too lol. I want boys in skirts, not chicks with dicks dammit.>>108956
Is that basically just turning a dude into a mindless sex machine a la bimbofication?
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When I looked up himbo on twitter, all I found were a bunch of feminine soyboys. But the urban dictionary explanation sounds a lot like what I like, so I'm confused.
I prefer calling it brutification, though. I hate those weird "making it manly" words like "guybrator" or "guyliner" shit like that.>>108958
For me, personally, what I like about brutification is having a man focus all his energies on what he's good for: moving things around, looking hot, and getting fucked. A lot of brutification turns into a male power fantasy, but I like the idea of them becoming competitively pleasing and seeing their size and strength as a boon for their usefulness. I attribute it to having a football playing sub in college. I also like brutes because I can be really rough with them and I know they can take it.
Imagine pegging this absolute cutie and teasing him about how you're the only one who gets to see him absolutely wrecked.
>>108956>I love submissive men. I hate self proclaimed male subs
This makes zero sense
The easiest way to find someone who is submissive is if they call themself a sub, what's wrong with clarity?
It sounds like to me that you're a fake dom>>108958
Y'all sound so paranoid(infighting)
Good taste anon, when it comes to subs I'd also like a beefier one who looks like he could handle it.
Just once in my life, I'd like to experience a fit guy proudly be my chair.
>>108984>This makes zero sense>The easiest way to find someone who is submissive is if they call themself a sub, what's wrong with clarity?
no, it makes perfect sense. there's a difference between someone who is naturally passive and submissive wrt their entire personality, and as a result, their sexuality, and a degenerate who trawls the internet and fetlife for dommes/identifies heavily with the idea of being a 'sub' and watches femdom porn and shit. the gold standard, imo, is a guy that isn't a 'sub', but just is a submissive type of person, and consequently, is submissive sexually. there's actually a huuuuge difference. one is more of a pervert, and the other is not. while it may be A LOT easier to find a 'sub', people that identify with roles like 'sub' and 'dom/dommes', like, publicly, and in searching for a partner, tend to be creepy degenerates (especially when male). it's much nicer to find someone that just happens to be a certain way but doesn't actively heavily identify with these sexual roles. the only issue with that is that it's like searching for a needle in a haystack.
>>108991>and a degenerate who trawls the internet and fetlife for dommes/identifies heavily with the idea of being a 'sub' and watches femdom porn and shit.
I fail to find the issue, what's wrong with wanting to find someone you're sexually compatible with >but just is a submissive type of person, and consequently, is submissive sexually
Ok question, what if you end up being wrong and they're not sexually submissive >people that identify with roles like 'sub' and 'dom/dommes', like, publicly, and in searching for a partner, tend to be creepy degenerates
Yeah fuck people for wanting a label so they can find someone who is compatible
You sound ridiculous
2)"In favor of" but they're still male subs so it's not in favor of it's just pointlessly rewording so you can pretend you're right
3)Even if I were a male I would be happy that I was being ignored by an obvious fake domme like her
kek, are you just going to keep screeching about "fake dommes!!!" just because we don't prefer loud pervs and instead prefer men that are low-key/don't advertise and identify heavily with being a sub? that doesn't make anyone a fake anything, though, admittedly, i don't identify with being a 'domme' bc that shit is cringy and lame and BDSM communities are for faggots. people who make these roles a large part of their personality in searching for partners tend to be fucking horrible, and doubly so for males. there's a difference between someone that is submissive, and "a sub", imho. the former is much cuter, imho. i personally only like men that are waifish and fragile, emotionally and physically, and they tend to be submissive, so it hasn't been a problem for me to find men that aren't annoying fetishists and just so happen to be submissive without being a desperate degenerate.>>108999>Ok question, what if you end up being wrong and they're not sexually submissive
then you move on? like you're acting like it's terribly time consuming to sus someone out on dating sites or wherever. the type of guys i like are very much the archetype of what a 'submissive' or feminine 'soyboy' would be, so it's not difficult to find ones that actually end up being submissive. i suppose it might be more difficult if you were into very masc men and were into the juxtaposition of a submissive sexuality and personality with a 'hunky' body type and masculine hobbies or some shit. >>109036>Also who the hell is "we" you're the only person screeching about it
no, i'm another anon than the original anon you initially were shitting your pants about.>No there isn't seeing as "sub" is an abbreviation of "submissive"
you're just really dim, anon, honestly. obviously it's an abbreviation, but people who say "I'M A SUB LOOKING FOR A DOMME" are different than the ones that say, during conversation, that they tend to prefer being submissive in bed. there's nuance that apparently you're too autistic to be able to pick up on. i guess because you're too invested in being personally insulted and are apparently socially retarded, but w/e.>What exactly makes them "annoying fetishists" and "desperate degenerates"?
i already explained this to you. 'sub' men that specifically seek out dommes and make it a large part of their personality tend to be shitty people, that, most of the fucking time, are huge assholes that just want their balls stepped on, but are douchebags 99% of the time. not sweet, shy boys that want to be dominated in bed by you, and that feel indebted to you and feel the need to naturally worship you all of the time – not just when it suits their dick. end of story.
>>109037> but people who say "I'M A SUB LOOKING FOR A DOMME" are different than the ones that say, during conversation, that they tend to prefer being submissive in bed.
Yeah, the former is more helpful because, again, sexual compatibility is important>'sub' men that specifically seek out dommes
Nothing wrong with trying to find someone who is compatible sexually >make it a large part of their personality
but wait a minute you said >the type of guys i like are very much the archetype of what a 'submissive' or feminine 'soyboy' would be
>>109038>Yeah, the former is more helpful because, again, sexual compatibility is important
it literally takes 10 minutes of conversation (and you can initiate it yourself!!!) to determine whether or not they'll be sexually compatible with you. >Nothing wrong with trying to find someone who is compatible sexually
why are you so fucking assblasted that me and like, literally one other anon don't prefer self-proclaimed sub men? you must be male or just super male-identified because this is pathetic.>but wait a minute you said
yes, as in, a male that is physically feminine (without trying), is innocent, soft-spoken and gentle, doesn't have masculine hobbies, etc. they often do end up being submissive without being an annoying fetlife faggot clamoring to be dominated by literally anyone and whose thoughts constantly revolve around sexual shit. no one is saying you have to change your dating methodology, some people just don't prefer self proclaimed 'subs'.
>>109039>it literally takes 10 minutes of conversation (and you can initiate it yourself!!!) to determine whether or not they'll be sexually compatible with you.
So how is them telling you they're submissive different than calling themselves submissive? >why are you so fucking assblasted that me and like, literally one other anon don't prefer self-proclaimed sub men
There's a difference between not preferring it and talking non stop shit about how awful they are and saying that the only valid
choice is whatever the hell you're talking about>you must be male
Is it really that hard to believe that someone into femdom would like submissive men?>clamoring to be dominated by literally anyone
So you're mad that submissive men are submissive?
>>109040>>109040>So how is them telling you they're submissive different than calling themselves submissive?
one is divulged during direct and vulnerable conversation, and the other is making their entire profile/dating search about it. 10 minutes of talking isn't the end of the world. i am skeeved out by all people that loudly proclaim how dom/domme or sub they are. as i said, it's cringy and pathetic, and i doubt your time is in such short supply that you can't speak to someone for five fucking minutes to find out whether or not they're sexually compatible with you.>There's a difference between not preferring it and talking non stop shit about how awful they are and saying that the only valid choice is whatever the hell you're talking about
literally two anons mentioning their specific preference is "shitting non-stop on them!!". if you're not male, for a self proclaimed 'domme' you seem to cape pretty hard for men. that's pathetic and not very domme of you, anon.>Is it really that hard to believe that someone into femdom would like submissive men?
no, but it is hard to believe a woman would be this insulted by other anons having a certain specific taste. if you're female, why the fuck do you care, anyways? it means more 'subs' for you that we don't want them.>So you're mad that submissive men are submissive?
yes. i don't want to be dominant with any male? i don't want someone so fixated on their fetish that they're desperate to be dominated by literally anyone. again, it's desperate and skeezy.
>>109043>and the other is making their entire profile/dating search about it
Making their profile about it is a good way to let people know beforehand what they're getting into it
It's really not that hard to understand >. i am skeeved out by all people that loudly proclaim how dom/domme or sub they are.
Again, it's an easy way to search for certain types of people>literally two anons mentioning their specific preference is "shitting non-stop on them!!"
When every single one of your replies is over dramatic as hell, then yes > not very domme of you, anon.
How is not shitting on sub men not domme? do you just expect everyone to be a bitter person like you?> certain specific taste.
Difference between "This is my taste" and "Men who call themselves subs are degenerate"
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>go out of my way to ignore the obvious shitposter replying to my post with something as baity as "fake dom", clearly looking for (You)s>farmer replies anyway and shit up the thread even more
Come on… >>108985
I've used a fit guy as a stool, but never a chair! God, I'm such a fool! How has that never crossed my mind?
How am I the shitposter?
I'm not the one saying "the only good sub men are the ones that I approve of personally"(stop)
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I had one sub who was annoying and cocky, so I had him kneel on his hands and knees on the (hardwood) floor and remain as a silent stool until I allowed him to move again. I basically kicked up my legs while I watched Netflix and didn't acknowledge him for a while.
Periodically, I'd swat his ass with a dragontail or stroke it along his back until he ended up frustrated, but keep him there. After about an hour, he was a lot more docile and less unruly.
It depends on how your sub is and what kind of domme you are, though. A lot of my subs are cocky, but prideful. They'll typically try to act bratty, but in a "I'll prove I can live up to your expectations" way. They probably have daddy issues to an extent, but that's probably what makes them so eager to show off/impress.
You can get double ended ones and ones that stimulate your clit.
Personally I think I'm only into it from yaoi consumption as a young teen lol. And if he's up for it (unlikely but I may get blessed with a hardcore masochist) I'm really into male anal prolapse and bleeding. The idea of making an already embarrassing body part lose function on someone is hot.
Wow you watched netflix for an hour? I like the type of man who wants to prove himself but I also a very horny dom. I get excited just thinking of sitting on a sub and would likely rub off on him after like 30 sec pfft.>>109319
I agree with this a lot.
That's the idea, yeah.
Obviously I'm perfectly fine with a partner who doesn't want to do it; I'd never pressure anyone into something so permanent and uncomfortable. Even no pegging is fine as long as he's on the passive side.
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I guess this is my Ideal scenario
just raping a dude on my own with no tools while he cries and squirms
im a bi girl, and while I don't think i'd make a very good dom for a dude (literally every dude whose into it my circles is a gross, unattractive manchild)
Though I 100% want to be dommed by a tall andro/butch woman, but in like… a caring way? Like they call me their slut, lots of dirty talk, pinning me, tying me up, manhandling me and basically just being rough while I'm being snarky and trying to goad them/being a brat until they make out w/ me to shut me up while making me take care of them.
I think I'd probably also enjoy domming a smaller girl if given the chance, (I'm p short and muscular for a girl, so someone thinner/lithe) but again, I don't think I'm as intense as a lot of girls would want in their domme.
Newfag here, Im happy I found this thread as most femdom conversation on the internet is 97% thirsty guys. I have done some femdom stuff with my bf, but he has very low libido. Im the one begging for sex which kinda ruins the dynamic. Im also worried he just claims to like because he is insecure or something. >>109290
I would do pegging as a reward for my sub, I have heard it can feel really good. But I hate the thought being penetrated == submissive some have about it.
There has been talk about ideal subs, some seem to be into femboys and some into manlier men. Are you more feminine or masculine yourself?
Ideal sub would be well built stoic male
One of my biggest turn-ons is taking care of a well built manly male and sexually making him feel really good. The idea of tying a guy's arms above his head and just worshiping his body (in a way that makes him blushy and embarrassed) is a huge fantasy in my head. It goes beyond sexual though- I love comforting this though guy and holding him in my arms and stroking his hair gently, whispering to them, and essentially babying them.
Are you asking the entire thread if they prefer femboys or masc chads, or just that anon?
Personally I like something in the middle, but leaning more towards twink-y I guess. A hairy angular man who is also skinny and/or very short who smells nice and dresses well. Distinct male energy but also fragile and cute.
And>are you more feminine or masculine yourself?
Very feminine in dress but also physically strong and have a deep voice. I guess that mirrors the type of men I'm into actually haha.
I wonder if girls into big boys are petite and very feminine themselves..?
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I'm pretty feminine, but I'm into a lot of "unfeminine" things (drugs, gunpla, outdoorsy things, b&e, urban exploration), so I end up in spaces with a lot of males, which makes me sort of a hard ass so they don't get any stupid ideas. I think that's why I attract submissive types.
My ideal is a strong, huge guy who I can break down with just a touch or word (I'm the brute-loving farmer). I've had subs like that before but they don't last long because my desires are usually more intense than their own (most of them just want role reversal and mommy domming, and I'm into cbt and humiliation).
Feminine guys are alright, but a lot of them give me the idea that they're only ~submissive~ because of their body type/situation. If they weren't insecure manlets, a lot of them wouldn't be drawn to submission. I don't want subs like that-gives me incel vibes, I guess.
But. I wouldn't mind a femboy sub to keep in chastity and have him "fight for dominance" with my strong bara sub who then loses himself in testosterone-fulled carnal passion.
I think my ideal sub would be > shorter than, or as tall as me (5”6). An inch or two over is okay too.> slim, with no or very little muscle. Not too skinny though. Skinny fat is fine.> a nice stomach. I like feminine waists with masculine stomachs. > short hair, maybe a bit longer at the top. Slightly curly would be cute. Medium length is ok too if it’s styled and taken care of properly, but no super long hair.> overall feminine. I like a masculine jaw though and a sharper nose, but overall if in makeup it should be hard to tell they’re a boy.> shy.> “inexperienced”. Not as in, a virgin, but as in maybe they aren’t entirely sure what they’re doing or they’re a bit shy about sex. I want a boy who would get flustered over a handjob, not be cranky and demand more or look bored. Someone who’s easily aroused and always happy to be getting sexual attention.> a boy who will never initiate sex, but will just wait for me to do so. Also, won’t beg or complain for sex or anything, unless asked to.> is subby outside of the bedroom. Just subtle things. > has to be ok with pegging, or ass play. Has to call me mommy (not ageplay tho).> is ok with crossdressing. Maybe a boy who crossdresses to a degree everyday is a plus.
My current bf/sub is most of these, though he’s about a foot taller than me, and he isn’t very shy. (He’s actually kind of a manwhore tbh). He’s cute though, and he’s pretty when he crossdresses. He isn’t into all my kinks though which is frustrating. I lean on the tougher side of things and while he’s started to allow me to hit him during sex, he still won’t let me engage in cbt or knifeplay with him. We tried cnc once and I really enjoyed it, but he hasn’t wanted to do it again since. He mostly just only wants to do assplay, sadly.
I had a sub about a year before I met him (2 years with current bf now), who was short, shyer and easier to bully, and more willing to be in pain, but overall as a person he was pretty unbearable. He was very unreliable, ghosted constantly if he wasn’t contiously hanging out with me & had a gross habit of breaking anything he touched of mine. He also wasn’t very cute, tbh.
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They’re out there
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>>110870>being self sufficient and not expecting your domme to baby you is a "male stereotype">having a mentally well adjusted sub "would defeat the purpose of a submissive male"
Submissive isn't synonymous with pathetic or emotionally immature, anon. I don't know what kind of domme you seem to be, but I don't take on subs who are too pathetic to hold down a job, or don't have healthy relationships with friends, whose full range of emotional fulfillment comes from me alone, etc. You can be a normal, functioning human being and enjoy a female led relationship. Anyone who expects emotional insecurity and co-dependency from a male submissive or sees it as a requirement needs to re-evaluate how they themselves interact with the world. It's a relationship dynamic, that's all. Your sub is still a human being and still needs to be able to function in every day society, just like everyone else.>>110877>tfw when newest prospective sub is a mere 5'5", the same height as me (and noticeably shorter in heels) and the shortest male I've ever met.>he's not insecure about it
I'm sorry, anon, but I'm snagging this one while I still can.
>>110920>5'5">shortest boy you've ever met
Damn anon, where do you
live? Somewhere in Northern Europe? I've at least been able to talk to a good handful of boys 5'4" and under.
Congrats though! Hope it works out.
i've recently come to the realization that my bf is rather subby and i quite like being the dominant partner. for the longest time, i thought i was into being the more subby partner and would request that he be rougher with me, but i think i was just pornsick and felt that i /had/ to be that way. i like that he is physically much stronger than me, but i can be the dominant partner. i really enjoy the role reversal, and i feel much happier and mentally-healthier this way.
appearance-wise, i guess i could say he has the face of a twink and the body of a bear, although he's not particularly hairy. we're about the same height (average-tall for men, tall for women – although he's maybe 1/2 an inch shorter than me). i like being very similar heights, and i wouldn't want him to be much taller or shorter than me. he has a relatively submissive personality outside the bedroom, but he is stubborn, so i guess that makes him a "brat". he has a really cute ass LOL. >tfw sometimes we play wrestle and i'll get on top and dry-hump his ass and it makes me horny as hell
he's not into any assplay at all, receiving or giving, which is fine, but i'd be open to it if he was.
we've recently gotten really into adult breastfeeding–sorta? i don't lactate and i don't really care to take or do anything to induce lactation, so it's really just tit sucking. either way, i'll put his head in my lap and have him suckle and massage my boobs for a long while. i have really sensitive nipples and the dynamic just turns me on like crazy. i wouldn't say i'm into mommydomming overall, but the the power dynamic is something i can get into. another subby thing that's pretty hot and that he's into is indifferent sex. he really likes it when i don't acknowledge him/having sex or pretend to act disinterested by watching TV or playing a video game.
i find the Ms/FD dynamic (even though it's not particularly extreme in my relationship and we're relatively vanilla otherwise) works best when the relationship is going well. i suppose that can be said of all sex, though. i just don't really want to be the dominant partner in the bedroom, when i get burnt out on being the dominant partner outside the bedroom as well.
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Anyone else get a major subby vibe from Joe Jonas? Idk I just get the feeling that Sophie totally doms him. Tbh I hope so cause I think he's gorgeous
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I've been interested in femdom since I had my sexual awakening in teens. Back in the day boys would tease us girls and once a guy wouldn't just quit it so when he got too close to me I kicked him in the nuts. Next day he told me somewhat proudly that I left a bruise which made me a bit guilty but also intrigued.
Fast forward six years, I got my first boyfriend at the tender age of eighteen. I was pretty knowledgeable on kink but had no real (sexual) experience. I told my boyfriend about my interests when we got together and he was also a switch with a keen interest in female domination. Our communication was beautiful and he did't have big flaws. I guess I got just lucky.
We've been together for six and a half years and as life tends to do, it has gotten in the way of our sex life. I suffer from bipolar disorder and most of the time I'm depressed and that means no sex, and no way in hell kinky sex, I just can't handle that in this phase of my life (though I think I've got the right medication now so we're getting there!). We've agreed that he uses the services of a professional (long distance) domme until I'm back on my feet and that has worked great for us. He's more considerate and kind because he's doesn't feel like he's pestering me all the time and he's not so frustrated sexually. Because of our arrangement I've been getting more into femdom again, last week I actually tied him up and played around with a electric wand type a thing that can give small to medium electric shocks.
I'm kind of confused by what is my preference now, as my boyfriend has gone from pretty boy to a more masculine type, going to the gym all the time and growing out a beard. Before I was into the more boy-ish, pretty men but there's a definite appeal to taking someone like him down a notch while being girly and weak myself, idk like my mind is stronger than his or something.
I'm really into old fetish art, like John Willie, Eric Stanton and Gene Bilbrew. Anyone else?
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met a guy through a mmorpg. been dating for about 5 months now. sadly he lives in ny and i live in fl so the only sexual things we have done so far is dirty talk via text. but god damn, i cant wait for him to visit.
hes a a qte short hispanic boy with some decent muscle. at first id tease him and he would get shy. as the days went by, things would get more sexual. he gets super worked up when i start to call him a good boy and my puppy dog. he pretends to be stubborn but caves in and begs for my attention/detailed descriptions of what i'm going to do to him when he comes by this summer.
its so cute. its so cute to see a short tough boy be this obedient. hes like a puppy, always wanting attention yet pretends hes not into it.
i'm waiting for the right time to be sexual while on the phone. he was stammering and at a lost for words just from calling him a good boy over the phone.
While we're talking about Sophie; I'm a massive sansan fag, but I see it as a femdom situation like >>98886
Sorry for being autistic, I'll see myself out.
Anyone else like audio porn? It's hard for me to find male sub audio that I like but when I do it reallyyy does something for me. Even the ones I like still make me cringe a little with their silly scenarios but few things turn me on more than hearing a guy whimpering and begging me to fuck him.>>111228
W-where are those images from?
I wouldn't want to date anyone shorter than me because I'm pretty short myself but I find myself really attracted to men on the shorter side. 5'6-5'8 is the sweet spot for me
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Forgot pic. He's allegedly 5'7" and she's 5'9"
I think the OP did get BTFO and that sissy stuff isn't inherently problematic
or disrespectful toward feminine identity any more than i think someone dressing up as a cop during sex is disrespectful toward police identity.
>>111393>being this naive
dating. online shit isn't real. get a real person.
Of course Reddit gets mad when women don't like their misogynist fetishes - of any kind.>>111406
It isn't disrespectful to "feminine identity", it's disrespectful towards women.
I do but I only listen to otome and doujin cds. Never heard anything good in english.>>111415
I am bi and trying to date women on tinder and then when it turns out that your match actually has a boyfriend already it is the worst. Why do they do this? Fuckers.
its fantasy, it isn't hurting anybody.
If men are bringing fetishes outside of the bedroom then its a problem but if its between two consenting adults who gives a shit?
OP's also very confused, lots of non-pro dommes are into sissy/gender play as a specific fetish as to them its just another form of power they have over there subs, with the power exchange being in the women's favour.
I just hate this 'I speak for everyone' crap the OP seems to be pushing.
also to further my own point. im bi and have been a non-pro domme to a lesbian who wanted to play with genderplay in the sense that they wanted to wear a binder/dress male/cut there hair short ect. purely in the bedroom only.
Genderplay doesn't just go one way and it doesnt need to be inherently disrespectful to either gender.
>>111436>If men are bringing fetishes outside of the bedroom then its a problem
They will always do this, anon. Always. Do not think that if they find being like a woman humiliating in the bedroom then they will somehow not think like this outside of it.
As a dominant woman, and a self-respecting one in general, no way would I want to enable a man's misogynist views.
Don't pretend that "genderplay" is some neutral thing.
Gender is a hierarchy with the female gender role at the at the bottom while men get to be in charge. There is no big popular "humiliate me and compare me to a lowly man" fetish going on among women. >>111439
>>111436>it’s fantasy it isn’t hurting anybody>as long as it isn’t displayed
Imagine getting meme’d so hard by men you’d gladly defend “non-offending” closet pedos, necrophiliacs, and rapists. Got it.
Think about the fucking implications of your kink for once. Paraphilias are a huge and deeply imbedded part of one’s sexuality. They don’t only exist in bedrooms and disappear from your brain when you go outside.
WHY and HOW did you start thinking putting a man in a dress constitutes “sexy power exchange”? Because you’re forcing him to do something he doesn’t want to? Then that’s a sub, you can make them wear a trash bag and get the same result. A sissy specifically gets off to being treated like a female whore. Maybe you’re just a tranny-chaser anon. They’re indistinguishable after all.
Thats a nice strawman you have there, equating wearing a dress to fucking kids/corpses/raping someone but its not really the same is it?
Why would anyone dress up as anything during sex? Imagination, anon.
I just think there are more facets to this than the few people that replied to me are willing to admit, while im not trying to say the people in>>111445>>111439>>111442
these posts dont exist (I see it too, and it does) its not to say there aren't socially conscious men/women out there with genderplay kinks that also DONT act like that.
How dare you. I only FANTASIZE about fucking kids, corpses and raping. Those are muh KINKS. Same as yours. Just a kink!! My kinks don’t hurt nobuhdy just like you said cuz they’re just harmless fantasies uwu and I don’t display them. I’m allowed to find those things hot in my own private bedroom! Nothing problematic
about it at all. Just a kink!!!
That’s how fucking retarded your argument sound.
the big think you need to do here is realize how stupid it is to equate these things with genderplay.
Fucking kids, corpses and raping people all cause harm to others.
I mean let's not get into stuff like consensual non-consent (which is a massive kink) ageplay ect.
Im not into any of it but yeah honestly, if it's two consenting adults who really
gives a shit, so long as they aren't actually going out and fucking corpses/kids it affects no one. How would you even plan on stopping this, realistically?
Also, if you hate kink so much, why are you in a kink thread talking about kinks with likeminded people, lol.
kink shamers need to leave, thank you.
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You probably should leave if you are so sensitive that you can't handle "kinkshaming".
Oh I didn't know that. Shit. I should've figured. Hollywood men always get away with going after teens.
I think he and Sophie are a real couple though. He seem to have a thing for younger, tall blondes. Nick and Priyanka are definitely fake though.
i've had girls literally not tell me they have a bf until we meetup and have a nice little date and she mentions "oh, btw my bf is home atm and would love to meet you"
they're so fucking sneaky sometimes it's disgusting, i don't care what you do w/ ur personal time but at least be upfront about your goblinoid 2/10 bf lol
Sit next to him.
You've got to try if you want to win. If he rejects you, take the L and move on.
idk if i have the guts… sorry for sperging about this but i’m horny and want a cute boy to beg me and i’m fucking suffering
two days a week there’s an open spot next to me and i wish he’d sit next to me. but one day a week, which happens to be wednesday/today, it’s in a different room with tables and if i sat near him i’d literally be right across from him.
the other issue is… i would be afraid of his reaction if i told him what i am looking for, lol. i wouldn’t want to scare him with my preferences. i am not into anything too weird, but if a guy was not into bdsm at all it would definitely freak him out. though i am very alternative looking and i have always gotten the vibe from men interested in me that they were curious about trying some things with kinky girls…
as you can tell i’m incredibly indecisive about this lol. all i can do atm is try to make a connection at least but god i hate human interaction. i was considering trying to find possible subs online as i’m not trying to get into a serious relationship but i really want to meet a guy open to it irl… it’s so hard. i’m not even crushing on this guy, i’m just very horny lately and want to have a good time with a cute male who is into subbing. sage for rambling like a little schoolgirl lol.
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Anon stop acting like a virginal japanese school girl and kabedon him in the hallway instead
Start taking Brazilian jiu-jitsu classes?
Btw has anyone here managed to do the Amazon? I love the idea of it. Apparantly, there is a penis-breaking risk though kekhttps://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a24557384/amazon-sex-position/
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This to me highlights one of the key differences between maledom and femdom
If the man wants to be dominant and make his female partner submissive there is really not much physically his female partner can do to stop him
conversely femdom can only work if the male wants to be submissive and the female partner wants to be dominant
A woman can never truly force a man to be submissive against his will unless the male has some sort of big physical handicap/disability
their was a post on lolcow on some thread I read a couple weeks ago about some anon who put a finger up her bf's ass when giving him oral thinking he might actually like it and he just kneed her in the face and started yelling at her and she became terrified
Yes, I can do this, maybe not exactly but it's a position where I am thrusting, not riding, and more like male-on-female missionary in reverse. My bf likes when I "take control" and we do something similar to >>111804
where we wrestle and sometimes he lets me best him. I'm like 60 lbs less than him so he's got a big advantage but we try our best to keep it realistic haha.
I never used to be into femdom and tbh when he first asked me to "take control" I was uncomfortable. Now I like to watch his face contort and hear him moan. Not sure what changed.
Wrestle him when he's physically worn out. Does he go to the gym? Play fight with him as soon as he gets home. Or get him to do push-ups and sit-ups until he can't do another one and then wrestle since he's ok with making it fairer. It's basically nerfing your strength to try to fight with tired muscles.>>111808
There's lots of ways to coerce someone stronger than you but no one should be doing that for sex with anyone.
>>111899>Does he go to the gym ?
Not really >get him to do push-ups and sit-ups until he can't do another one and then wrestle since he's ok with making it fairer
Thats honestly a great idea I can't believe I never thought of that
I'll try it and give you all an update of what happens as soon as I can
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Anyone else itt into mpreg?
I know it's often only present in media with two men, but I think it's as role reversal as it gets in a het relationship.
How would you go about bringing it up to a partner? Anyone have experience with it? I'm single at the moment, but if I get an understanding boyfriend I'd like to try pretending with one of those fake pregnant bellies. Idk if it's even much of a sex thing (except for the conception part), the idea of impregnating a guy just feels wholesome, romantic, and cute. Kind of sad that I'll only ever be able to role play it and not actually make a baby with a guy like that.
The whole thing is also kind of weird since I'm deathly afraid of falling pregnant myself.
the vast majority of men just aren't into femdom and you can't do anything to change their minds
just accept him for who he is and try to love him
yeah he has, I know absolutely dumb that sounds. he has pretty toxic
friends and played a ton of video games as a kid so he’s been raised in the mindset that anything not hyper masculine is gay. don’t get me wrong, he LOVES pleasing me and is not a selfish lover or anything and usually is the one to request face sitting, why is why I think he just has mental blocks around gentle femdom tbh. I know it probably sounds like I’m projecting my fetish onto him, but I really do think he likes it but just can’t admit it because of what he was taught. sorry if any of this was tmi
You already answered that question yourself>I think he would really enjoy gentle femdom>he just ends up laughing or saying it’s not doing anything for him
You think he would/could/should like it - but he doesn't. The reason why doesn't matter, if he doesn't want to, you shouldn't force him, period.
Having a hard time believing that, since that'd entail the opposite of being a submissive.
I,would never put the emphasis of the relationship on sex(low libido),but on ways to please and make her life more interesting/fulfilling. "male subs are some of the most pathetic creatures." that is what I've noticed the vast majority of women think/say, the pressure put on me by previous partners, made sure I'd not forget. After a while I ,resentingly, stopped caring about relationships, they're unfulfilling and there is nothing I could do to change it.(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)
Honestly, what to expect and whatanot it's up to your zone, I can only speak for how much I partecipated in such places around my zone, so take it with a grain of salt.
the majority of (self proclaimed and not) kinbakushi were arrogant men who looked at themselves as gods and the bunnies were vain and wanted everyone to lust after them. I had really an hard time between bunnies who looked down on you because they were "beautiful submissive models" and not you, and men that, as most if not all self proclaimed doms, were the shittest people around.
It is a highly maledom environment, though, I think I saw only one dommie tying up while there.
There were some exception in all of this, of course, but it looked like mostly of those exceptions just went there for the location and some chitchat while the whole group were too focused on kissing each other asses. They had each other partners and the passion they had really came through. Watching them tie each other was beautiful, they were entirely in their own world.
In addition to this, most decent people I met who were into BDSM left the community because of all the toxicity there were.
As for red flags, it is pretty much the same you would look on "regular people", plus you may find more emotionally damaged people, blahblahblah.
I hope you girls the best, because if you find the emotional connection with the ropes, it can be one of the most intense and beautiful experience.
9/10 when someone on the internet says "vast majority" they're pulling it out of their ass
in the comment she literally says "he really liked it" he's just insecure because he thinks it's 'gay'
their not into it when you specifically call it femdom
as I said here >>107584
most guys are open to try stuff that would be classified as light femdom
being restrained,being blindfolded,being slapped however from my own experiences never go beyond that
I've noticed the same thing.
Most men hear femdom and think "Mean woman in PVC kicking me in the balls."
But they're into being tied up, blindfolded, women initiating and taking control, light orgasm denial, light teasing and humiliation, and loads of other femdom stuff.
I don't know about Humiliation
I have never met a normie guy who was into Humiliation
You are living the dream, anon. (I am the poster upthread who want a jock chair.)
What sorta stuff are you two usually into?
That's so cute, anon.
I'm one of the anons into tiny men, but your dynamic sounds adorable. Wholesome, even.
do these numbers surprise you?
supposedly this is some info on fetlife users, the % of women that class themselves as domme,sub, etc.https://imgur.com/a/tLcWL
granted this is slightly stale data (2014) but i don't see why it would differ much now
>>112970>give me an eloquent, confident man who i can turn in a drooling mess please.
Post like this really creep out me
I wanna be with a sub that wants to a sub but the thought of converting a man or woman into a sub has always felt kinda abusive
Ideal is either a passive pillow prince or a masochist who blatantly enjoys pain. Not really into worship because I don't like the focus to be on myself, and not into brattiness either.
I just want to control a guy's pleasure I guess.>>112976
Where did you get non-con from that? I just read it as someone who is different in the bedroom than how they act irl.
Your post reminded me of some posts from the fetishes you're ashamed of thread
About wanting to turn alpha dudes into subs
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am I missing anything?
I get it's a lot of text to read, just wanted to hear your thoughts.
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that's really cool anon good job
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A dom/daddy dom whomst I beat into total and complete submission.
nta but wouldn't that have made the housewife-male breadwinner setup of the 50's femdom? It objectively wasn't.
Being the resource provider is very neutral. I could be the dominant breadwinner if I financially support a man but in return he's just a submissive sex slave. idk I guess findom never appealed to me, but I grant you that it can be dominant. Just not as dominant as it gets.
What would be the most dominant thing? Probably taking someone's life, that's too extreme for me though. I'm not into snuff or necro. Find it revolting and immoral tbh, but that's the furthest I can imagine.
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Of course not. A housewife/bangmaid has to give up her hopes and dreams in exchange for a small allowance.
I'm thinking more in terms of women who don't give men jack shit while robbing them blind and degrading them. Goals.
moralfag here but this is something I really can't support
femdom,bdms,maledom should only be safe fastness but It should never come out in the real world
Yeah this is not a general "be mean and scam men" thread, that's a different mindset than wanting to dominate men for sexual pleasure.
I don't care about money, I wanna get off.