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No. 37809

I don't think I could. itd get annoying too quick.

No. 37810

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A woman who has almost no appetite appeared on the show.

On October 15th, in tvN ‘Martian Virus’ a woman who drinks only one cup of latte a day has come out as the guest.

She used to be 53kgs and now she only weighs 39kgs.

She said that she only takes liquid food not solid food and she said that she drinks orange juice if she needs vitamin.

No. 37813

Nah fuck that. I knew a guy with an eating disorder and he couldn't stop eating. He eventually had to have A LOT of therapy and I'm sure it'd be a pain in the ass to be around him.

No. 37814

>>37813
you could try to help but its not like theyd let you anyway

No. 37815

Probably not because it would make me relapse.

No. 37816

It's super annoying, and if you are actually interested in cooking/health foods/nutrition like I am, the things that come out of their mouths can be infuriating. Once I brought a salad with me for my lunch, which was pretty simple for that day, just spinach, bell peppers, tomatoes, and shredded unseasoned chicken breast. Hell there wasn't even any dressing, since it was just a quick pick me up lunch before a big dinner later that night! But there goes my friend going on and on about "Anon u should really cut out the chicken in your salads. You'd be SO SURPRISED about how many extra calories are packed in there." His skin and nails are also so gross. I remember he always brought these sad looking bologna and cheese sandwich halves to work, and he told me that he keeps the other one in his fridge at home for dinner.

No. 37818

>>37810
Bulimia cheeks?

No. 37820

>>37816
Yeah, this. I think I posted a lunch I had that was a small side salad ( I think I used some type of lemon-y vinaigrette) and a fillet of flounder, and someone I know who's a really spooky skeleton got on my case for it.

Like, seriously? How fucking little do you want me to eat?

No. 37822

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>>37820
>How fucking little do you want me to eat?

No. 37827

As someone who used to have an ED and knows how life-consuming and delusional they are, no. It makes people convincing liars and if they can lie so easily about food, who knows what else they lie about

No. 37830

>>37816
>>37820
Are you overweight or on the high end of bmi? His comments may have been justified.

No. 37831

I'd try. I'd try and be there for them but I'd be self conscious they'd hate my bod lmao

No. 37834

>>37831
if you have a nice curvy body(not fat) and shine in your eyes and hair they might hate you or think theyre better than you

No. 37835

No. I already have existent issues with my body, if I befriended someone with an ED they'd probably exacerbate things.

No. 37838

>>37830
Both those meals are excellent, wholesome meals for even fat people. You eat less when fat, not at all.

No. 37839

I've had friends with an ED. One developed anorexia while I was her friend and then she began to block friends from her life. I think part of that was depression.

Other friend was already fully blown bulimic. I really, really liked her, but after a couple of months her dependency on me (her only friend at that point) was so claustrophobic and affecting my life I had to stop seeing her as often and she took that as an insult and the friendship ended.

The ED itself I could deal with (they weren't the new skool ig bragging kind), it was the other disorders I think that were problematic. First friend's depression making her want to withdraw from everything, and 2nd friend's BPD neediness.

No. 37850

>>37838
If you are fat, you should eat fewer calories. Doesn't really matter if it's "good" food, you're still eating too much of it.

No. 37854

>>37850
>you should eat fewer calories

Or move more.

No. 37858

>>37850
true, but that doesn't mean you can say shit about someones meal though, unless you know their entire food diary for the day.

No. 37863

>>37850
Idk if that's true, eating good calories is good for people starting to lose weight. Eat as much of skin free chicken, veggies and fruit as you want. And the slowly make portions smaller once you're used to not eating shit.

Overeating healthy options is the better route than overeating shit. For beginners obv.

I hate meat, I love gooey and crunchy foods. ( Soups, cauliflower, Toast ect) But I guess me hating lots of high fat foods helps me stay thin even though I love Toasted cheese and pasta. But since I've never been fat I can eat slightly shittier options because my portions are always pretty small.

both work but I guess different starting weights are the key on what route to go.

No. 37867

>>37854
Exercise doesn't burn as many calories as a lot of people think. It's easier to just not eat 300 calories than to run 3 miles to burn those calories off.

No. 37888

>>37850
Why not just have a slight caloric deficit with good food? You eat less, and healthier. I'd rather someone on a deficit of 300 calories a day eating healthy than someone on a deficit of 600 or so eating absolute trash.

No. 37889

>>37867
i forgot to respond to this post. Exercise is as efficient as you make it. I have a pre existing condition and go on daily fast walks on the treadmil. I go at 4 mph and at a decent incline. Go about an hour and you can expect to burn well over 400.

No. 37892

>>37810

I found the video of this and that bitch is fucking lying.

One latte a day my ass she is entirely normally sized.

No. 37893

>>37892
maybe she just started her diet and hadnt gotten too bad yet

No. 37895

>>37892
Would you mind posting a link, anon?

No. 37896

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No. 37909

I'd be friends with someone with ED. But I dated a guy with bullimia and it actually caused me to struggle with ED after we broke up. We would always talk about delicious food and eat a lot of junk when we'd see each other because that's what he wanted to eat, so it would make me feel shitty. And he was reallllly thin. He would give me nicknames like "little lard" (lol) even though I was 5'3" and weighed 110, which is normal IMO. He'd just grab my fat and point out flaws in my body like it was cute to do that or something.

No. 37924

>>37810
How tall is she? My sister is 39 kg at 5'1". She is skinny but not abnormally so, with no eating disorder.

No. 38019

No because they tend to be fucking horrible people

No. 38071

Honestly, I don't know. If I knew in advance, probably not. I've had two friends with ED's on both sides of the spectrum. One who binges (she'll eat 3 people's worth of food in one sitting) and is obese as a result, another who is anorexic. The binge-eater is also a compulsive liar and this has caused tremendous distance in our friendship. She tends to compete with everyone in their problems (If I was depressed, she was suicidal. When I started self harming (privately), she started doing it in the middle of fucking grocery stores. When I revealed to her that I was sexually abused as a child, she started telling everyone her dad had raped her for years). She would also frequently make fun of me for being petite and flat chested (loudly addressing me as bone-ass or captain titless in public spaces), although I have always tried to be sensitive about mentioning her weight.

On the flip side, my anorexic friend was also very unpleasant to deal with. She was incredibly self centered and couldn't seem to stand to talk about anything but herself for any longer than 15 minutes. She was very rude and passive aggressive. If I told her I slept in until 10 or 11am on my day off, she would say things like "Wowwww. I can't imagine that. I would hate myself if I was that lazy."
If she asked me what I was up to and I said anything along the lines of making breakfast/lunch/dinner she would get pissed at me and tell me not to mention food around her like that. Our entire friendship consisted of her complaining, and the expectation that I would always reciprocate with ass kisses. If I ever tried to offer her advice or constructive criticism, she would yell at me to "stop talking" because I was "making everything worse" for her. She would also bitch a lot about her parents, who did everything for her, for being "cruel and unsympathetic" because they would get frustrated when she would refuse to eat. They paid for all of her medication and therapy appointments, allowed her to live at home rent free, paid for her schooling and incredibly expensive clothes, all of her hobbies, and even covered all the costs when she would travel to other countries. She was extremely spoiled, had no capacity to care for anyone but herself, was incredibly rude and unpredictable, and very exhausting.

I try to be understanding because it's a disorder, as they say. But hell, I've got my own disorders and I don't treat people like such shit. If they "can't help it" well, ok. But I just can't stand the way they seem to treat other people.
Sorry for the semi-blog entry.

No. 38085

>>37816
lol fatty

No. 38089

>>38085
wow so edgy

No. 385166

I would be friends, but i wouldn't date them. Don't hate on people with disorders. They can't help it.

No. 385172

>>38085
>>37850
>>37830
lmao, that's ok ana-chan

No. 385177

Dating? No because that’s too triggering personally

Friends? Yes but with boundaries. I have friends where we talk about our struggles but we do not talk with numbers, do not go into details about our ED habits (talking about binging, purging, starving, cal counting). We do validate and then try to turn it into something productive. It can be hard though

No. 385178

I wouldnt be friends with someone with ed because i have ed and i feel like itd just become a toxic relationship

No. 385179

No, I have an ED (and I keep it secret). I've heard too much about ED friends seeing each other as "competition". That would just stress me out and make me sad.
Also, knowing how my ED makes me view the world, I wouldn't want to be around someone who sees things in a similar way, even if we can relate to certain things. I get enough of that bullshit from myself, I don't need it from someone else.

No. 385181

no….honestly I’m having this problem now. I’ve been in recovery from ED for a year and I now have this coworker thats gotten so openly obsessed with her diet and weight loss to the point where it’s obvious she’s becoming a vain ana-chan. All she talks about is how little she ate, what she lost, giving away clothes that don’t fit etc. She’ll have something snotty to say about the food anyone is eating. At first I could block it out, but I’m not gonna lie it’s extremely hard to be around now and I can feel myself back sliding. I can’t exactly get away either because it’s in my work environment.

No. 385186

>>385181
Holy crap I’m sorry anon, that person sounds insufferable. I truly don’t understand how so many ed bitches can be such attention-seeking embarrassments. Even in the depth of my shit, it’s humiliating when someone points out my weightloss because I’d be paranoid that they think I have a problem. Maybe you can confront her in private? Unless you know she’s a massive cunt. Try to remind yourself that what she’s doing is annoying and gross. Everyone at your job probs hates her. Misery loves company. Be strong anon.

No. 385187

no, 100% of them are shitty people

No. 385188

this girl in my high school friend group would sit and eat her plate of MINISCULE portions of veg and be all agonizing about it in front of us others, with our normal portions, and it was triggering as hell.

she has a really popular ig and posts classic ana pics (small hand colding cup next to thigh gap etc) and was incredibly obsessed with her image and maintaining perfect grades. most of us found her judgemental and annoying

No. 385189

>>385187
I feel like "tru anas" are absolute narcissists but some people with more complicated eating disorders that co-occur with other issues are more down to earth

No. 385192

I wouldnt date anyone with a serious ed. If my current gf develouped one i would see the signs early and try to get her help, but people with a full blown ed are terrible, i mean lies and isolation is a part of the illness.

No. 385193

No, because my own relationship to food/my weight is already rocky enough as it is, I don't need someone with an ED thrown into the mix to further complicate it.

No. 385200

it really just depends on whether or not they're insufferable. anyone who goes on about calories and food all the time will wind up with no friends besides their toxic codependent ones. personally i get "triggered" any time i see a friend losing weight or if i noticed certain behaviors or a lot of weightloss that made them underweight or close to it, but i feel like that has more to do with myself and not them. i wouldn't abandon someone i know if i noticed they were developing an ED, friend or bf/gf, that's when they need someone the most. only i can choose what to do with myself if im triggered. im responsible for that sort of thing and wont blame others for what i need to personally work on. but i def wouldnt be friends with some annoying ana-chan that posts all about their "struggle" on social media. whether that be a thinspo blog or recovery they're both equally boring, narcissistic, and insufferable lol. i actually feel like the recovery community is a lot more triggering than the proanas and they often times are just as toxic if not worse.

No. 385222

Im extremely underweight because of a genetic condition, and anorexic girls often approach me/befriend me for it. its difficult to get close as my activities with other friends revolve around food – lunch/brunch, dinner boxes, netflix night, sleepovers, grocery shopping, etc.

gourmet vegan cooking is a huge hobby for me so I feel kinda brushed off when I put hours into a delicious meal that I'm really proud of and everyone tastes it and validates my work but them. I would be acquaintances, but not to the extent of best friends (or dating) until they got better.

No. 385224

I have an aquaintance / friend who is severly eating-disorded but in recovery.
I was cautious of her for obvious reasons but in the mean-time I learned that she is hard-working, genuine and strong. She's very lonely and socially anxious because she didn't make any high school friends at the height of her illness. From what I can tell she manages her pain well and keeps it away from her peers instead of piling it onto them and I have a lot of respect for her because of that. She is also most definitely not a narcissistic attention-seeker either.
I think it's important to look out for red flags and be careful and care for yourself first but friendship is still possible (and I guess relationships, too)

Assholes are in every group of people and "good" people, too.

I guess it's also important to know how much emotional baggage of a person you wanna carry with them and allow to affect you. With some people, your compassion is wasted on them but with others it's nice to be a friend to them and share burdens and make the load a little lighter and it would be a wasted opportunity to be too cautious of them and not give them a chance.

No. 385264

>>385186
well, people have their gripes with her for other personality reasons, and some have quit or changed locations over it (for example if she’s in a bad mood, it puts everyone else in a bad mood because it radiates heavily.)I’ve thought of talking to her one on one but there’s something that tells me she would feel accomplished that the ED is making others uncomfortable. We all know how those types think.

I also have a friend that will moan about not being able to afford food or not eating for days, and then go and post obvious body checks online, among other things. I’m not trying to blame anyone at the core for it bothering me, I just have to remind myself it’s just narcs trying to get attention their ED. I know I have to work on my body image issues and not fall for the trap. unfortunately it just means distancing myself from certain people.

No. 385265

>>385222
>underweight due to a medical condition
>is vegan

isn't this salting the wound a bit, anon?

No. 385278

it'd seriously depend on the person for me to befriend someone with an eating disorder. otherwise, i either become their enabler or their therapist.

as for dating someone with an eating disorder, no way. i have enough baggage as it is, and again, i don't want to become an even BIGGER enabler/therapist.

No. 385313

Rule of thumb is if they have any social media that revolves around being a spoopy bitch it's a 99% chance of being a terrible person

No. 386698

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>>37809
No. I worked with someone who had pretty bad anorexia. She was the most controlling, ungratefully and unsympathetic person I ever met. I drove her places because we worked together and never ever got a 'thank you' or something like that.
She was incredibly bitchy on messenger and constantly tried to monitor what I was doing (regarding our work) and tried to make me tell her when I was going to be done. She freaked out about every single thing we didn't have for our work. Like one time we missed some information about where certain people came from (it was schoolwork, it didn't really matter) but she just kept on going and going about how we NEEDED it and otherwise our work would be incomplete (it wasn't). I truly believe it's her anorexia that made her this controlling about literally everything.
She never asked any question about me even though I tried really hard to be friendly towards her and tried to get to know her. She did answered normally, but it felt like pulling teeth. Her favourite activity was looking at food on her phone.

I swear she also had cognitive deterioration as a result of her anorexia. She at some point claimed that she did a lot of the work for our project and that was why she thought I had to fix the rest. Turns out she was wrong, I did that work but she forgot?? idk, it was really weird.

Of course not everyone with an ED is like this, but personally I don't want to deal with people who are so self obsessed any more.

No. 386714

I wouldn't date someone if I knew they had a mental illness before falling in love with them.

If I already loved them and fond out they're mentally ill, I'd probably try to make it work.

No. 386717

It depends. If they're quiet about it, their mannerisms might get a little annoying but it'd be manageable.

However, people who are very deep in their ED tend to be extremely narcissistic and terrible to be around. The constant complaining, need for validation, comparing, nitpicking… fuck that. They also tend to be very hypocritical and will harass you over your own weight, especially if you are skinny too.

People with true anorexia have a lot of BPD traits; therefore make very shitty friends.

No. 386724

Idk cause I grew up being naturally kinda thin and making friends was hard because they would always end up talking about my weight , grabbing my wrists , grabbing my thighs, literally pushing and throwing me around, insisting that I don't eat anything, comment on the way that I would chew my food or how much food I did or did not eat and would end up calling me anorexic and insinuating I thought that I was better than them and then getting pissed off when I cussed them out and told them to never speak to me again. This has happened with most of my relationships growing up especially since I was bullied pretty much throughout my middle school and high school experience. So if people without an ED treated me like shit for my weight/body id be scared to see how people with one would.But again I've had to deal with a lot of abusive friendships so maybe I'm just overly paranoid idk.

I'm a 90s baby so I grew up in the early 2000s when people were discussing the childhood obesity epidemic all the time so most likely they just misplaced their anger and insecurity.

No. 386729

nope, it would ruin my recover and put me right back at point zero. i'll help from afar, but it'll never be serious. i can't go through that shit again.

No. 386730

No. My mom had an ED which she passed down to me. It's fucking torture to live with someone like that. I couldn't be friends with or date someone who was constantly judging what I'm eating or seeing me as their "reverse inspo" or whatever.

No. 386747

>>386729

feel you. when my gf developed her anorexia i relapsed the fuck out. got to a lower weight than ever before. when i ended up at the psych ward and they checked my weight i discovered i weighted like 8 pounds less than i thought i did. that's when i knew i was in rock bottom. i cringe just thinking about it.

>>37924

why do you know your sister's stats??? and lolcow anachans can say whatever they want 16 bmi is not normal. even 17 is not normal but still borderline on still normal looking. but c'mon 16? that's delusional. she's close to 15 too c'mon.

>not everyone who is underweight has an ED

no, but let's not try to act like a 16 bmi is normal please. your sister may not have an ed but that doesn't mean 39 fucking kg is "just skinny but not abnormal".

No. 387316

No but I have one myself, and it makes dating hard. I'm grateful to have a really supportive boyfriend, but every guy I've dated I tell straight away what they're getting into. It's a pain in the ass and it's not something everyone is able to deal with, so I just feel they deserve to make a choice before becoming invested.

No. 388464

Maybe. Everything is dependent on the person themselves and how they handle their disorder. I struggled with an eating disorder for years, and have recovered from most of it on my own. That being said, I occasionally binge and purge, and still have a small set of fear foods (nothing like it once was). I'm likely going to see a therapist now since I think I need help eliminating what's left of my toxic thinking. People who are still deep in their disorder would make recovering difficult, as they wouldn't support me in getting better if I relapsed, and would likely encourage my bad behaviors. Friends who have and ED, but are also trying to recover, I would actually like to have. I don't get triggered when a friend has a relapse, but if their behavior was constant and they were verbally negative all the time, it would take it's toll on me, energy wise.

No. 388477

One of my best friends who i have known since my early teens developed an ED in her early twenties (we're mid-late twenties now).
She is better now but back then it broke my heart watching her suffer and not being able to help her.
I think the most important thing is to see the person behind the ED, love them for who they are and not beat yourself up when you can't help them.

No. 388482

My best friend used to have one. I didn't mind supporting her but now that I have some disordered eating habits myself (not a full-on ED like her) I find that I have to pretend like I don't (like skipping lunch if we're going to hang out, in case she wants to get dinner).

No. 389045

>>385177
>Yes but with boundaries
This, I have a family member with an ED and I'm happy to listen to her talk about exercise but the moment she starts talking about what terribly unhealthy things she's been eating or tries to get me to agree with any other bodyshaming I change the subject. If she talks about wanting a body like mine or another young person I bore her with a rant about how society is wrong to pressure women in their 50s to unnaturally have bodies of teen girls. I don't laugh when she jokes that a skinny person must have an ED or if she makes mean comments about fat people on the street, instead I clearly tell her that I'm not taking part in her bullying anyone else or herself, she gets very defensive and angry but over time she does it less.
I used to buy into her bullshit that she was just being open about her issues but one time she laughed when I admitted my own issues, and belittled them compared to hers, and then I saw how toxic it really is.
It's hard not to take her bait and talk about my own body issues but standing my ground is paying off and she is learning that it's just not appropriate for her to bring this stuff up.

Through doing this I have also realized how complicated these issues are. Growing up around someone that was always talking about their ED meant that I did the same because I thought it was 'good to talk about things', and I still do believe that being able to talk about your problems is important, but I worry about the damage that my own teenage outspoken bodyshaming might have had on my curvier friends.

>>385264
I really recommend just gently saying "I'm not comfortable talking about this" and immediately swapping to a different topic. Give them some bullshit about how you read something about mindfulness and positivity instead of letting them trick you into opening up about your own body issues, because if you let it become about your own body issues then they will turn it into a competition.

No. 391630

I had a ED but went into a recovery. Tbh, anyone who isnt in recovery with a recovery oriented mind with a ED i can't be friends with. I had people from my old treatment try to stay friends with me but because they weren't pro-recovery and just wanted to stew in their illness it was the WORST to be around since having a ED really can make you so self centered.
And also coming from having a ED, when you're really sick in it and not recovering/recovered you can be a extremely toxic person and cause pain for everyone around you. You really can't get better unless you decide you want it so being friends with someone who's actively participating in behaviors with their ED is extremely difficult imo

No. 401885

No. I tried to be friends with someone that suffers from anorexia and she tried to make me relapse.

No. 401916

No.
I had a friend with AN when I was younger, and while she was the sweetest, nicest person ever, it was extremely stressful to watch her die slowly, and witness all of her extreme self loathing.

I developed an ED a few years ago myself and I've kept it a secret from my friends/boyfriends because I know it's just awful to deal with.
Having a friend with an ED now would probably end up in lowkey competition, or us triggering each other without meaning it. It would really be toxic, even if we were both actively trying to recover.

No. 423482

I don't know, is my honest answer. I have friends who have EDs still, fewer than when I was younger obviously. They know I block their posts for my own good.

I dated a guy with anorexia in my mid-20s. He was in massive denial, "I just don't like food"/"Im naturally thin" and because I wanted to be with him, i made myself believe him. That relationship really screwed me up, nearly caused me to relapse as well (it's hard to eat how you want when your partner eats oatmeal and fruit and not much else). A year or so after we broke up I looked at his FB out of idle curiousity and he looked so gaunt I thought he was honestly going to die. He seems to be a little better now.

No. 432290

have had two casual online friends and an IRL "friend" in my HS group. one was bulimic but in recovery and was a very down to earth person. She vanished from the net a few months ago. Hope she's ok. last i talked to her she was doing good and getting better but her mom is nuts.

2nd internet friend was an ana/ortho and we drifted apart bc she would come to me and shill raw veganism with a pic of her sliced half cucumber when i would say something along the lines of "just made a baller salad" and expect to me to be like wow #nourishing! The drifting apart wasnt solely bc of the eating disorder though. But i dont think we can be close again until she simmers down with some stuff.

IRL acquaintance was probably the worst though. She was a "vegetarian" ana but would beg us for our pepperonis on our pitiful school pizza slices and then suck on them and spit them into a napkin in front of us. Would also say things along the lines of "EWWWWWWWW!!!! youre ACTUALLY eating THAT!?" when you would eat literally anything that wasnt a small salad with a can of diet coke. Made sleepovers miserable with it. (omg…cake..really?) I wasnt the only girl in the group that was uncomfortable with her but it was a very very tiny town and all the ~alt~ weirdos stuck together. She and this other girl were obsessed with kooter and some other scene myspace/LJ thinspo queens which is how i learned about them sadly.

i'm fine with people who are struggling with EDs/have recovered from EDs who dont try to suck other people down with them or constantly spout ana logic when youre just trying to enjoy some ice cream. I dont like how nasty people can get with them tho. (not pro ana cows though) But sometimes i have to step away for my own mental health bc its very hard for me to watch.



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