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>be 19 and not too serious about my education because college was still really easy in 2nd year. more into drinking and chilling with friends
>meet guy on tinder, hang out a few times, my first time really 'dating' and didn't really test the pool
>23, works at mcdonalds part time, no uni, brokefag, spends all spare time playing games or wasting money on weed
>19 year old me thinks cool, free weed, hangouts slowly form a relationship mainly based on mutual internet humour and eating takeaway
>over next few months i grow up heaps, cut down drinking, study hard, get involved in tons of extracurriculars, get an academic assistant job, win a scholarship to study overseas at end of bachelors, go to the gym regularly
>bf does the same old weed and vidya except is now super insecure, whines when i hang out with friends, spergs over male friends, refuses to participate in my life, does things like drink himself to death and piss in the bed while passed out, constantly eats takeout and refuses to cook so never has money to do anything nice or travel anywhere despite having a flight attendant sister and getting super cheap family flights
>1st time we break up is because he lies to me he plans to go back to uni in the coming semester, doesn't enrol and i only find out later
>i take him back after a week of guilt tripping and regret it ever since, too insecure and weak willed to say no
>date for another few months, his behaviour gets worse, does things like sperg out right before my scholarship interview or rage if i remind him about things like deadlines for uni or renewing his car registration, flat out refuses to exercise with me and is a skelly lanklet etc
>eventually break up with him again and make a big list of reasons I don't want to date him, force myself to read them out to him, he storms off and then tries to text me later to get back together, tell him no
>now in super happy fulfilling relationship with another boy I met in same scholarship program. we have similar interests, work out together, do cool things together like learn archery and try new recipes, cannot be happier. ex tried sperg messaging me a few times but blocked him on all social media :^)
>I'm 19, he's 18
>we date for a few weeks, he wants to have sex and I tell him that only after we become "official"
>After we sleep together I don't see him for three weeks and he keeps cancelling/postponing meetups
>I figure out I'll never see him again
>I do see him again, he pretends like nothing happened and that we are happily in a relationship
>Proceeds to chat girls up from all over world on his tumblr, posting things like "sucks when your soulmate lives on the other side of the world"
>Almost breaks up with me, then changes his mind, twice
>I kiss a rando 'cause I've had enough, but he decides to "forgive me" and we stay together
>Does fuck all and is a lazy jobless bastard on benefits
>I help him find a job and eventually a uni course that accepts him with his shitty grades
>two years into the relationship we move in together (I know, I know)
>He starts uni course and pays no attention to me anymore, hangs out with his friends, purposefully doesn't invite me out and lies to me
>I do all the housework because he's a lazy POS, while I still go to uni and try and make sure he's happy
>I get depressed as my parents are getting divorced and he gaslights me and makes me feel like crazy all the time
>Breaks up with me because it's "all too much", says he'll move out but then doesn't and tells me it would be easier if I moved out
>I move out and finally get rid of that asshole
>A month later he's in a relationship with his "friend" from uni who's an ugly whale
>I'm told he was cheating on me the whole time and lied about being tested for STDs before we got together
So that was 2.5 years of my life I'm never getting back. Oh, he was also messed up, went to a psychiatrist as a child and told me that his mum was told he had "sociopathic tendencies", couldn't handle weed or alcohol and passed out/puked often, yet still smoked to be "cool" or whatever.
For months after our break up I would get panic attacks when in situations reminding me of him, from the mental abuse/gaslighting. And I know I should've known better but I was stupid, what can I say.
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When I was 14 I dated a 16 year old guy that claimed to have MPD. Oh, but HE didn't like me, "Calvin" did… yeah. Also he was white trash and lived with his family in a filthy heroin house. Broke up with him after his Mom caught him fucking some girl that "another personality was dating". lol.
At 17 I made the same mistake and dated another white trash ~broken~ boy. Just like "Calvin" he lived in a heroin house where his Mom was constantly passed out and his siblings were tearing shit up. I'll call him Trent.
Trent was probably how you imagine every 4chan user, except skeletally skinny and covered in shitty tattoos. He lived in absolute filth. His computer desk (where he spent his time browsing /b/ and playing MMOs) was covered in old cigarettes, food, dishes, and, I shit you not, baby roaches were in his keyboard. When he wasn't complaining about 'not finding a job' (which he never looked for) he was begging me to take nude pics with him to post online. Thankfully I never went beyond kissing him on camera. Oh, and did I mention he loved MLP and was into incest? Of course he was.
The relationship didn't last more than a couple months. You can guess who broke up with who.
Years later he found me on Snapchat and sent some creepy snaps threatening me to come back to him 'or else'. Shows you that some guys never change. (Thankfully I learned to love myself. ~Broken boys~ are insane.)
The first, and last time I ever dated a guy younger than me
He forced me in a relationship, despite me telling him no several times, but I finally ended up giving in, would constantly pressure me into doing sexual things after I said no, especially in public, he cried when I didn't want him to, and would start flirting with other girls and touching them if I didn't let him do stuff to me, then blame me. He filled my head with bullshit about how loyal he is, how I can tell him anything, how I don't have to sugar coat anything, etc. yet would cry for weeks if I told him it bothered me that he grabbed another girls boob in front of me. He wanted to force me to be in a relationship with him because I was going to move to europe after a few years with my family, and said he could take the distance, but couldn't take the distance if I didn't hang out with him all the time, when I did hang with him he twisted it so "it didn't count".Would play the suicidal card, and would get even more suicidal because "he didn't have a bad life" and wanted me to spend 3,000 canadian dollars/usd to go on a trip with me and my friends and claiming my friends would hate him, but wanted to have a "harem" and would probably cry if we rejected him, he would push me to talk about my past problems despite me telling him I'm not comfortable, then play victim if I didn't tell him everything I'm not comfortable with, and later claimed he pushed me to talk about my problems because "he knows its about him"
sexually it was disgusting, he would constantly touch me in public despite me telling him not to, he would stop then do it again 5 minutes later, he was so awful at sex, and kissing, if I leaned my head close to him he would try to flat out start making out and frenching me and it was so nasty, if i went to pick something up he would rub his dick against my ass, he was so ugly and annoying, he had a moderatly high pitched voice for a guy, first time we did it I didnt wanna take his dick out but he whipped it out and told me to "suck it like a popsicle" and said it like a fucking pedophile, it was so nasty, I'm pretty sure he's a pedo as well and constantly fetishized me being asian, would make comments on it, tell me how I look like any asian video game character to ever exist, and had an odd obsession with his cousin, who was a small child
he disgusted me even thinking about him
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I've had a several loser exes due to my extremely low self-esteem in my teenage years
>17>met a guy on /soc/>tells him I'm 18 because I just moved into a new area and was desperate for friends/bfs>we dated for like 2 weeks>one day while we were cuddling on his sofa, his GIRLFRIEND walked in on us>I was confused and ashamed at the same time when she started yelling at me and trying to pull my hair out>turns out he wanted to break up with his gf, who shares a rental lease with him, so he told her he was GAY>you can imagine her surprise when she walked in on us cuddling>I nope.jpg the fuck out of there, apologizing on my way out>guy texted me "when you're 18, call me. maybe we can work it out">immediately deletes his contacts and never talk to him again
you would think I learned my lesson about meeting guys on chans but I'm married to a /fit/izen lmao fml
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>tfw ex is such a bitchass loser can't even post about him bc he'd get recognized for the very specific and embarrassingly stupid shit he did stories
Fuck that guy.
First… Same, anon. Same. Second, that picture is hilarious.
My ex was overall a really shitty human being and I was stupid, naive and trusting. I wanted to help him because he was a ~lost soul~. It turns out he was just a really crappy person, extremely vain and impulsive. He's also impossible to stand unless you have a really low self esteem like I did, or if you feel like you deserve to have a horrible person being a vampire in your life because you secretly hate yourself/think you deserve such hell.
Not only did he try to ruin my life, and actively did stuff to try to make it happen, but he was also dangerous and said he'd kill me and my friend. So yeah, definitely not a good bf.
He also used to guilt trip me all the time with the most unthinkable things, cheated on me with one of my good friends (who was a POS like him) and felt pleasure in making me feel sad and heartbroken over him.
Honestly, I don't wish him any harm anymore as long as he stays away from me and doesn't mention me with his filthy mouth ever again, but I know he'll eventually destroy himself.
I was never underage on /soc/ but I definitely gave up on finding anyone meaningful to chat with from contactfagging threads. The worst was when the orbiters would get extremely volatile and mean if you blocked them, were to swamped with requests to see theirs, or chose not to add them.
Every prick demanded attention for saying "hi sup."
Ah, this is my favourite post so far. I lol'd at the ridiculously long-lasting grudge, and just how pathetically low it made him stoop.
All the other posts are more "how much of an asshole my ex was when we were together" and less "how much of a loser my ex turned out to be after we broke up", as I expected from the thread title. This post redeems the thread.
p.s. You did well to just ignore him. Best possible reaction to such shit.
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Hm, it seems a lot of the loser ex stories involve someone younger than the anon who was telling the story>>62236>>62175>>62170
why are younger men in relationships such shitty boyfriends?
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>get a new part-time job
>24 y/o guy in my hiring group keeps chatting me up, invites me to dinner
>accept because free food
>three days later starts telling people I'm his girlfriend, changes his facebook relationship status and everything
>slightly disturbed but decide not to fight it, he seemed nice just really desperate
>invites me over to his house, lives with his parents
>room is covered wall-to-wall in comic book memorabilia, complete man-child cave
>suddenly throws me down on his bed, whips his dick out, rips my pants off and goes to ram it in raw, all within seconds
>woAH WOAH WOAH NOPE
>push him off me, ask him wtf he thinks he's doing
>"what? I'm just trying to get my dick wet."
the fuck? that sounds really disgusting. please tell me he wasn't the ugly fat neckbeard im imagining him to be.
why would anyone skip foreplay if they want to get their dick wet? was he genuinely that clueless or just desperate as all hell?
>break up with bf of ~1 year because I wasn't really feeling him romantically anymore and also was gearing up to be slammed with school with no time for a boyfriend anyway>no contact for ~3 months>he messages me one day>"I don't want to cut you out completely, since you were my best friend" kind of shit>be polite, but restrained because he's clearly still bitter>spergs out and deletes me for some reason>another ~3 months pass>he readds and messages me>"yeah I'm pretty much over it, wanted to try being friends again">brags about his new job and new friends>asks me out for drinks>decline >spergs out again and deletes me>text him to stop being a pussy and delete me for good or get over it
He ended up ranting about how I destroyed his life and that he did everything for me (he dropped out of school and ignored me a lot to play vidya) but I'm just another cold-hearted emotionally unavailable bitch. But also with a twist of "now I'm gonna have to fuck chicks I hate just to get my dick wet because you were the only girl I understood". And some "I have so much else to say to you but I don't want to get arrested". Also called me a disgusting bully because I browse lolcow kek.>>62288
He's probably just as you're imagining, he was sort of tall, big, lots of acne everywhere, and ginger. Very punchable face, and acted like a frat dude-bro. Would cry about his dead dad constantly seeking sympathy, even though it had been years since he passed.
I have NO idea what was running through his mind in that moment. Literally nothing could have prepared me for that. He got really pissy when I started telling people at work about it, but he eventually got fired for always being late/never showing up for shifts.>>62298
honey that's called rape and you can have him prosecuted for that.>>62300
i'm sorry to say this but you're an idiot.
Oh no no, anon I'm sorry if the way I worded it was confusing. He did prod his dick against me, about to ram it in, but because of how fast and scary things got my instincts set in and I just immediately kicked him off. Sadly that wasn't the first time a guy tried to force himself on me, so all those fears and anxieties came rushing back in an instant.
said, he did stop. But he acted like a pissy child having a tantrum for not getting what he wanted for the rest of the night.
Completly agree. Younger guys are usually immature and not ready for a healthy relationship.
>Be me, bored and ready to make bad decisions>Meet guy who's in the military in a base nearby>Really stupid but sweet in a way and the parties at their base are lit >Pursues me for weeks and weeks I slowly give in>Suddenly no contact for weeks>His friends tell me his gf is in town atm>Ok then>"I can explain everything">Blocks him for months>Suddenly run into him later, decides to forgive him because i'm bored>Starts to be better, we slowly hang out together>Decides to sleep with him a few times>He's now bored and tells me we need to see other people because he's afraid I want to date him>Idontwannadateyouthobutok>Still text from time to time>He starts sending me pics of other girls>ok>Starts sperging out because I don't care >Begs me to come hang out >No>Calls me at random hours of the night>"You're a fucking cunt don't ever talk to me again!">Blocks me everywhere and move to another city
I know the fragility of the male ego is like a SJW joke but it's so fucking true
I think it's hilarious that gamers get so deep into their delusional fantasies that they start to behave like most drug addicts.
Just replace games with heroin and it sounds exactly what addicts do!
another anon here
I'm assuming the reason she didn't describe it as "he tried to rape me" is b/c he initiated it so fast but actually stopped once she protested, like he probably thought she was down in his small little mind as he went for it
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This thread is great and I hope more anons share their experiences.
I only dated this guy for about 3 months.
> i'm 16
> have no idea how love or relationships are supposed to work
> forces feelings for every "cute" guy i meet because i desperately seek attention and love
> meet guy through friends
> fall "in love" with him (he's 15)
> turns out he's the most whiney insecure loser i've ever met
> is vegetarian
> constantly berates his own family for being hunters and having a bunch of "corpses" in the freezer
> i try to explain to him about how much better hunting is compared to industrialised meat production
> it's all the same to him, keeps hating his family and calling them murderers while they cook vego shit for him without complaining
> he's a literal baby
> started crying once because he accidentally ran over a worm with his bike
> claimed he wouldn't care if he saw a human die, but would go into panic if he saw old roadkill "cuz amimals r better than hoominz"
> his room looked like it neither had walls nor floor because of all the stuff he had scattered everywhere
> had pictures of naked girls all over his bedroom wall because he pretended his family would go crazy if they found out he was bi (they didn't give a single fuck and they already knew because he bragged about it all the time)
> had no idea how to handle money
> wasted all the savings his family intented for him to have once he moved out on guitars and effect pedals
> got used by his asshole friends constantly because he was insanely easy to fool and "did everything for friendship", including wasting all his money on pizzas for them because he didn't want to see them go hungry (they never went hungry, they all had loving families that fed them properly, he was just dumb af)
> wanted to go to a concert with me
> friends bought all the tickets so we could pay them later
> of course he wasted all his cash on used LP's instead because "they might not be there next time, i gotta get them now, they'll probably be worth a fortune some day!"
> i had to pay for his tickets
> had an expensive computer
> complained it was a shit computer and that the store had scammed him because he couldn't burn cd's properly (he did literally everything wrong and i had to teach him)
> thought he had permanently deleted the waste bin (he had just moved the icon) and that deleting things were now impossible
> i break up with him as nicely as i possibly can, explaining how we just don't fit together
> he cries but accepts
> still have a few of his things at my moms (a few t-shirts and some ps2 games)
> assumed he didn't care for them
> 2-3 months later i get a random call from him
> in the mopiest most emo voice i've heard he says "i'm outside. i'm here to get my stuff"
> he lives in another town wtf, bus takes like an hour
> i meet up with him
> he's turned full on bargain basement emo, wears ill fitting black clothes, eyeshadow UNDER his eyes, half of his mouse-colored hair is swept over one eye like side-bangs except it's not even bangs
> he gets his stuff and just walks out without saying a word
> never hear from him again
>Be 16, meet guy in a chat room and exchange tumblrs
>Talk on tumblr for a few years, live in opposite ends of the same city so eventually meet up twice, im severely depressed and wanted a bf to make me feel normal bc no social life
>both move to the same city for college, live in separate dorms that neighbour each other
>now seeing him frequently instead of the odd meetup for a day
>his personality irl is NOTHING like how it comes across online. Online bf is witty, funny, can deal with my emotions well, was genuinely my best friend for ages, well angled flattering photos
>irl: dweeby looking, cant dress, beta manlet, can't carry a conversation, cant socialise normally, literally obsessed with me (eg blocked male friends on my fb without me knowing) and pushes DDLG on me
>pampered; doesnt know how to do simple things like fry an egg or study
>Everyone at college asks why tf are you dating such a loser. Literally so different to online personality
>feel no attraction to him, break up a few months later
>date another guy, try to stay friends with ex
>ex is clingy, wants me to hang out with him but pretty much as dates eg seeing movies alone together
>follows me around clubs
>asks me to take him shopping for clothes i like on him
>block him on everything and cut him off, way too demanding and I dont even like him
>he whines to all my friends for ages and tells a friend he's develops a fetish for my race (he's white) and wants another girl from my race with my personality
Anyone else met up with someone from online who was nothing like online personality? ;___;
he would ask me to call him daddy all the time despite me saying it made me uncomfortable, wanted to take tumblry style photos of him choking me with his tiny ass manlet hands, got mad if I called my real father dad or even mentioned his name (???), always wanted me to wear pigtails even though I look retarded in pigtails and wanted to have sex in my one lolita dress (not a lolita, but I own a cheap BTSSB dress I find pretty and never wear outside)
one time, he said he had a surprise for me after i did well in an essay and it was just this stupid "im so proud of my little girl" ms paint certificate in comic sans he probably found on google
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That's fucking hilarious (and creepy) thank you for sharing.
>choking me with his tiny ass manlet hands
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Mine isn't too notable, but I'd never miss an opportunity to shit all over my ex.
>dated for years
>proposed in the most cringe-worthy way (don't even ask)
>barely paid attention to me most of the time bc "muh video games"
>lived with parents in late 20's, couldn't drive
>no education or ambitions
>looked down on entry level jobs
>lied to me about loads of shit
>finally broke up
>tried to win me back multiple times
>had to block him on everything just to get away from him
First and last time I'll ever date a robot. Looking back I have no idea why I stuck around so long. I guess it was just because I had a lot of issues at the time and didn't really have a lot of other support/people in my life.
>>62532>he said he had a surprise for me after i did well in an essay and it was just this stupid "im so proud of my little girl" ms paint certificate in comic sans he probably found on google
fuck that just reminded me. one time my ex said he had a surprise for me and it was just that he shaved his pubes
what the fuck goes on in the male brain
Reminds of my friends who hyped a big surprise to their girlfriends so they put on really nice dresses and heels because they thought they were going fancy, like a fine restaurant.
They went to see a soccer game.
Because they guys were huge fans. And one of the girl was pregnant at the time.
They're really nice, proper guys and they genuinely thought they would enjoy it as much as them, I'm just guessing sometimes guys become retarded for short periods of time.
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I was in a relationship for two years with this one manchild. He pulled a lot of stupid shit, but I'll stick to some of the cringy highlights.
>he would randomly wear Joker make-up for a period of time (The Dark Knight had just come out)
>admitted he would freeze pic related when he was younger and masturbate to it
>maxed out his credit card on magic the gathering and world of warcraft card game shit
>would call me in the middle of the night to argue, talk about emo shit, or lie about being on a bridge and wanting to jump
>during calls would hang up and then call me back angrily because I didn't try to call him back
>got pissy when I wouldn't bring him lunch at work
>wanted to have a baby despite us living at my parent's house
>balked when I said babies are fucking expensive and responded with something akin to, "all they really need is love!"
I'm sure there's more stuff I'm not remembering right now, but just imagine an early twenties guy desperately trying to be an adult and failing so hard at it. The break-up was pretty satisfying even if it started with me being a huge doormat.
>be me at 21
>meek and spineless after years of gaslighting and mental abuse
>bf comes home from work
>has been hanging out with a woman co-worker
>he admits he might have feelings for co-worker, wants to figure stuff out
>they continue hanging out
>bf tells me he's leaving me for her
>initially devastated over it
>get a call a few days later
>"anon, I made a horrible mistake, I want to get back together"
>get uncharacteristically angry
>suddenly grow a spine of steel
>"No. You made your choice."
>bf is shocked, sounds like he shit a brick
>tries every trick in the book
>"But I love you, anon!"
>"You're my soulmate!"
>"It's either you or I die cold and alone!"
>it escalates to him sobbing and me screaming at him to leave me alone until call ends
>after a few instances of stalking and trying to get me to reconsider in person, finally leaves me alone
>a sort of mutual friend contacts me to tell me ex-bf got really depressed and drunk because me, supposedly fell down stairs
>Didn't give a shit. Didn't feel bad about not giving a shit.
Definitely a turning point in my life. Too bad it had to happen because of a loser.
Bonus: One time he was driving with the window down and a bee flew in through the window, somehow fell down his pants, and stung him in the ass. Wish I was making it up (especially since I like bees). Just one of those weird-ass karma moments.
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dropped pic but i didnt drop my keks
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>>62596>Joker makeup>manchild WoW nerdlet>bee stings him in ass
L M A O, Oh Anon, I am so glad you're free of him and thanks for the laughs
>be me, early 20s, off a bad breakup, just lost my whole group of friends because of one person turning them against me, and am incredibly lonely
>Find guy on dating site while looking for friends
>Despite my "JUST FRIENDS" profile he ends up asking me out second week of knowing him, says i can move in
>Living with abusive as fuck family that just fights constantly and just came off a suicide attempt so agree mostly to get away from him
>Whole relationship is mostly us being friends with me trying to do the girlfriend thing
Everything i did as a girlfriend he kinda kicked me in the face for
>Make him lunches or wrap up dinner leftovers for him to take to work
>He completely ignores them and gets taco bell for his lunch
>Throws a fit if i ask him to bring me home some once in awhile because he "can't afford it."
>buy him nice things for his birthday (Like spent a paycheck just trying to make his birthday special, baked him a cake and everything)
>eats half a slice of cake and wastes the rest (Like fuck, throw it out when i'm not around and pretend you devoured it or something..)
>says thanks for the gifts and goes back to playing video games
But the real kicker is christmas
>Be two days before christmas, we're at his friend's house
>His friends mom comes in and they talk about him coming over after work on christmas (Yeah he had to work shitty retail on christmas)
>He's laughing and agreeing, meanwhile i know nothing of this plan so i get upset
>Talk to him on the way home about it, say how since he's not going to be home all day that i want to spend time with him after he gets off work since it's christmas DAY
>he agrees, promises he'll come home straight after work
>Christmas comes, my mom and friend come over, we spend all day making christmas cookies and I make chicken pot pie from scratch for dinner
>Drop off cookies to him and even some for all of his coworkers because they're all stuck in a story with no customers all day
>he doesn't even come out front to thank me so i leave them with his coworkers
>He gets off work
>He's about to go to his friend's house after all
>I had to yell at him to get him to come home and eat the dinner i spent hours making first
>He comes, eats as fast as he fucking can, and leaves
>I just completely burst into tears
I didn't love him before this. We were barely dating but i was tryng to make things work. I'm not proud of it but after this night i started cheating with my friend (Now my husbad) because i was hurt. I made it clear to him we were over and just tried to keep things awkward until the lease was up and i could move out, eventually broke up with him officially. But he guilt tripped me into going to visit his dad with him who didn't know we had broken up despite it being months by this point which was the most awkward weekend of my life.
I made bad decisions with this one but i'm still really hurt by this, especially coming from someone who kept bringing up marriage (despite me firmly saying i wasn't interested in marriage a few times to get him to understand we were not in it for the long haul long before he made me hate him)
Oh and he also broke my tablet within our first month or so of dating and never even offered to replace it once he found out the local shop couldn't fix it, so just left me to be out $300.
On the bright side, I've been with my friend for three years now and it's great.
>>62459> thought he had permanently deleted the waste bin (he had just moved the icon) and that deleting things were now impossible
omg. my abs. i cant stop laughing
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Sounds like Myspace kids or these days more like tumblr crowd XDDD
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current bf is a loser
>meet online, all he can talk about is vidya
>we finally meet irl and I come to find out he works a shitty job and still lives with his parents
>his younger brother has his own place, a salaried job and is overall more attractive
>bf still thinks hes superior
>tries to cheat on me, falls through because hes a mouth-breathing uggo
>is still creepily obsessed with his ex
>spends all his free time playing vidya, getting fat and whining about how unfair his life is
>his boss obviously hates him because hes a lazy moron
>his parents tell me how disappointed they are in him constantly
>I'm away for the weekend, come back to my place trashed
>whining about how he doesnt know how to use the washer and he was busy
>busy doing what bf?
>whines about how he has no free time and misses living with his parents because they did everything for him
>mfw I'm too pretty for this bullshit
I cheated on him this weekend out of pure frustration, and if it wasnt for my crazy abandonment issues I would have left him some time ago. Sorry for the self-pitying rant, I just can't believe I got myself into this mess lmao!
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GET OUT NOW FRIEND
I get the abandonment shit which is why I stuck with my deadbeat ex for 6 years. Let me tell you girl, it's not worth it. He's gonna suck the life out of you and leave you with even more issues.
Leave him, get some therapy, and find someone else who's not a pathetic neckbeard.
Dump him. Now.
You even cheated on him, there's nothing connecting you too anymore but your current status as bf and gf, so you won't be losing anything, just gaining.
You deserve better, anon.
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This might sound harsh, but honestly I dated the nicest dude for 3 years but holy shit without getting into the full story I swear to god his mother completely emasculated him for me. I never fucked the dude because of it.
I legitimately thought I was asexual for a while, and then when I met my second boyfriend, who turned out to be a complete dickwad anyway, but that's another post for another time- I could only then get intimate with someone because he actually had a backbone.
Seeing a grown adult man who is 3 years older than me be walked over and treated like a child by his mother completely ruined any form of sexual attraction.
>14, met first real boyfriend
>everything goes fine, but due to distance we break up
>see each other when he's in town, nothing weird
>fast forward to 5 years later
>he comes in town pretty early in the day, no one to see this early
>let's invite him to house, we're friends now, nothing bad will happen rite ?
>talk with him, smoke a bit on his joint
>the fucker put an extra dose, I'm feeling so bad I think I'm going to die
>go into my bed
>tries to touch me even though I'm lethargic
>try to go away, push his head when he tries to kiss me
>mfw he doesn't stop
>bolt to toilets without saying anything, with my last bit of energy and consciousness
>come back, sleep on the sheets at his opposite
>turn on the pc for him to play so he stops touching me
>fast forward to hours later when I'm finally able to drive him to a friends place
>"but anon, I'm sure my friend won't be awoke yet !"
>get the fuck out my house
Later on I texted him about how it showed I didn't want. Instead of saying sorry, I got spammed about how we should do it again, and why, even when I was clearly saying no.
So, I have quiet a few stories about my ex who went from military to Neet in record time, but for now, I'll share just one.
>Me early 20's, lucky to make it out of HS with a $15 per hour job, also going to college full time while working 40 hours a week.
>Him, also early 20's. Went into the Navy, but got general under honorable because too stupid to follow directions. During this timeframe, he's dragging his feet to go to VA to get his benefits.
>So at this point in time, we are living with his parents, since we could no longer afford to live on our own because I was the only one employed.
>There was a Target just down the street a bit from where we lived, and he applied to get a job there.
>"Hey I got the job!"
>Now, home slice and I are high school sweet hearts, we were together for about 10 years before I walked the fuck away. So I can read him like a book, and smelt bullshit right away.
>Me: "That's great! I'll stop by <my employer's store> and get you some new khaki pants."
>Him: "Actually, I don't need to buy anything."
>Bullshit flag raised.jpg I made a stance with myself to just let him go and fuck up, I wasn't going to coddle him anymore. Not after the whole Navy fiasco. So I waited.
>He tells his mom the news, she's excited as well and asks for his schedule.
>Schedule days comes and goes. He's not leaving with anything on that would be Target approved.
>Later on that night, we're all having dinner his mom starts, "So I stopped by your work the other day, when you said you were working. I didn't see your car in the parking lot, and after talking to some of the workers, they didn't even know who you were."
>"..Ok, I didn't get the job, but I didn't want to disappoint you guys either."
Y'all, would you believe I stayed with this loser for three more years?!
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Hoo boy, if this is what you're opening with, I can't wait until you share further, anon.
It's like >>62165
is personally talking to me and I shouldn't get back with one of my exes, who isn't a crappy person per se but did lots of stupid shit, but I'm going to give him a second chance because I am sad/lonely and i know he loves me and wants to make things work. But he's still immature as ever and now I have the added negative bonus of knowing he did a bunch of stupid shit during our breakup. I wish I could just stop myself now but my feet are deep in this shit and I can't escape atm. At least I know this is the first and last time I'm doing this.
Someone hold my hand…sigh.
Two just for you bby <3
Brain Ramen. This took place a little before we moved in with his parents. We were getting out of a shit situation and my ex's brother took us in until his parents finished remodeling their master bedroom as an emergency measure.
>Be us, couple with no kids who got an illegal eviction notice over a box of generic frosted flakes. (Yes, my life was a complete shit show and I'm thinking about writing a book about it, but I digress.)>No! Be SO's Older Bro, late 20's making 80K because of IT job hopping, now a Project Manager. Renting a house and being a general hipster with his on and off fiance.
Now, I'll back up and explain some things. When I first started hanging out with our ex roommates, aside from missing a shit tone of red flags, they introduced me to pot. Later on, my ex got to try after leaving the Navy. I still kick myself to this day for allowing it to happen, given I knew he had an addictive personality. It only usually came out in forms of video game addition. That's my cross to bear. Back to the story.
>Ex's Older Bro: I don't care if you smoke pot, just don't do it on my property. >seems fair.jpg>Ex: "Nah, I'll do it in this sweet ass barn/shed." He deices to make some ramen, toke the pipe, and play Gary's Mod.>I get home, house is smoking. Run to the kitchen to find over boiled ramen in a stainless steel pot>fucking stoners.jpg>Removed it from the stove, tore in to Ex.>Me: How are you going to fix this? (Older bro's fiance loved to bake and was starting to form her own business, so they had all the best cookware.) >Ex: Don't worry, I'll handle it. <Proceeds to just hide the pot, acting like they wouldn't even notice>>Later that evening.jpg>Older Bro: Dude, have you seen the soup pot? >Ex: No. >Older Bro: Are you sure, we checked all the cabinets and the sink and can't seem to find it? Also, are you smoking in my shed?>Ex: def no. >A month goes by, I find the pot, where ex hid it. The bottom has a burned surface that resembles a brain.>Googles how to clean stainless steel pot>Proceed to purchase Bar Keepers Friend, steel wool, and all determination my Asian heart could give. >Pot is clean enough to use, but still has a slight brain look to it on the bottom. Put it back into the kitchen. >Informed Ex, cause we all know what happens next.>Older Bro: So, what happened with the soup pot? >Ex: idk.>allofmywat.jpg; facepalm.jpg
Jailed for Pot. My ex and I became friends with a dude who could qualify as neet, but deals pot on the side. He was taken in by our ex roommates, when the owner of townhouse he was living in got sick of his neet shit and sold the property. He was pretty chill, but shady as fuck. We'll call him Sunnyside.
>Don't ever be Sunnyside. Late to early 30's, two kids by the same baby mama, but not together. No job, no schooling, just watching his own kids on someone elses dime. >Don't be Ex. Bad stoner who steals from everyone around him. >Sunnyside and Ex get caught in a predominately black neighborhood by cops. Sunnyside and Ex are as white as snow. >Cops: So what are you doing here? >Sunnyside: Selling cookware on Craigslist. >Ex: I was driving him. >Sunnyside gets charged with intent to distribute. Ex gets possession. >Me: Ok, game over, lets get you a lawyer.>Ex: Nah, Sunnyside is going to teach me what I need to know. >What Can Go Wrong.jpg
>Court date, I was at work, because I didn't have enough leave to take it off. Ex has a surprising track record of talking himself out of shit. So I figured he would have just gotten a fine and some probation.>Get a call, its from Jail, ex got five days. Sunnyside is on the run, didn't show up for his hearing, but went with Ex to his. Sunnyside drove Ex's car home as a solid (but slept in it that night). >FUCKFUCKFUCKFUCK.jpg>Explain to boss about leaving early for an 'emergency'>Get home to find car and talk with Sunnyside. >Ex's dad is the first to get home, but being a barely functional alcoholic Navy Vet. He disappeared into his garage to blast Metallica, drink, and do woodworking things.>Ex's mom comes home later, and I decide now is the time to drop the bomb. >Me: so, your son wont be home for five days, he's in <city's> jail for procession of pot. >Feelsbad.jpg>Ex's mom: I'm so sorry, if you want to divorce him over this, we'd understand. >Wat?!.jpg>Me: Um, lets get him into a rehab program first. NGL, this hit me like a ton of bricks. I don't like my parents, but for good reasons. But to admit your own kid was shit, damn thats just cruel. So, being the doormat I was, I found him a program that was outpatient. >Ex only goes to therapy two times, decides it's too expensive of a copay and stops.>I had to take a break from college and started to get my shit together mentally. I was starting to learn, the only person who truly cared about me, my wellbeing, and my future was just me, and my ex was just not capable mentally.>>62993
I'll say this. I was raised with the mentality that you don't let something like marriage or relationships go. If you did, it was an easy way out. (Ah, sweet, sweet, Catholicism)
What I learned after my divorce was never be a doormat, set firm boundaries with timelines if needed, and never set yourself fire to keep a loser warm. So if you're going to try this rodeo again, pre-set some boundaries for yourself and him. Discuss this with him throughly, ensure he understands he's on thin ice.
But you gotta know when to disengage and go through with it in the event a boundary is crossed, or a timeframe is missed. If you can't trust yourself to be capable of doing that, might as well just lay down for him to stomp all over you.
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My high school boyfriend was a /b/tard, a stoner, and had an obsession for redheads, and that sentence alone will tip off anyone who knew me/him then, lmao. At least it wasn't as bad as other Anon's stories, but jeez, I was not a clever teenager.
>Get crush on boy, ask him out
>He says he wants to check with his best female friend first to see if she wants to date him instead
>Retarded teen me thinks "oh ok"
>She rejects him, he settles for me
>ExBF and I looking through his XBox files to make something work/fix something iirc
>Thumbnail for Photos section is a lewd girl
>Ask him about it
>We open up the Photos and its lewds he got from a girl online, photos of an actress, dozens upon dozens of photos of his ex gf
>All redhead girls, turns out all of his exes were redheads
>I'm a brunette
>We've been on/off for a couple of yrs
>Him and his ex gf become friends on facebook
>She sends me messages telling me that he's told her he wants her back, he misses her, etc.
>I don't believe her at the time
>She wasn't lying (but she also rejected him)
>FF to long after we've broken up
>He messages me on fucking Gaia (I stopped using it but I got the e-mail notification)
>He asks how I am and iirc he said he missed me or some garbage
>Immediately told his current gf about the messages and told her that she shouldn't have dyed her hair black because he likes red hair (her natural color)
>She quickly has her natural color again >fucking kek
Also considering he was a /b/tard and his father got a gf with a daughter who was my ex bf's same age and attractive…I still have some serious suspicions of whether he ever masturbated to her or made a move, or if they're step-siblings now and if he is creepy af.
Wow. Are you me?
I had a couple male friends like that, my lame first ever junior year boyfriend fits that description to a T, so much fire and aggression, which at the time I was fascinated by and thought was just soooo manly and cool. I think he was a sociopath tbh and he ended up joining the marines. The warrior gene was a bit too strong in him.
Sounds like he was alt right before alt right was a thing. I laughed so hard at the fake Russian accent and Rome obsession.
Russian accent = ULTIMATE ALPHA MALE.
>>62288>24 y/o guy in my hiring group keeps chatting me up, invites me to dinner>accept because free food>invites me over to his house>accept
You led him on, you're completely in the wrong here.
Did you think this guy was taking you out for dinner for no reason? You knew why he was taking you out on a date. Saying yes to a date isn't consent to sex, but you knew he wanted sex.
Accepting the date, if you know that you'll never have sex with the guy, is the same as robbing him and tricking him. It's fraud.
Him asking you to come over to his house is basically the same as asking if you want to have sex. You said yes.
It doesn't, but you understand that him taking you out on a date is the same as saying "I want to have sex with you".
If you already know that you will never
have sex with him, as in there is no possibility anytime in the future, then you accepting the date is like robbing him.
You're making him invest time and money into you, because he believes that there is some possibility of sex (which is not the same thing as believing that he 100% will get sex).
Accepting a guy's date, and going over to his house, then being surprised that he tried to have sex with you? You're either retarded or just pretending to be retarded, sometimes hard to tell with females.
>him taking you out on a date is the same as saying "I want to have sex with you".
that's where you and most guys have it wrong. going on a date with someone means "i want to get to know you and see if we can click". it's giving that person a chance, not a promise of sex in exchange for material goods. spending your time and money (which, if we're talking about a date is like 3 hours and 60 dollars, BIG FUCKKING DEAL) voluntarily on someone doesn't entitle you to have sex with them.
if guys want to have their "money's worth" in sex, they'd better go to prostitutes because what you're describing is prostitution.
Waitasec, dude. Most girls nowadays will pay for themselves on dates. If you stopped raging against women online and got to know a few real 3D ones, you would probably find this out.
Second, a date is not some contract. It's a social activity. If you went to your friends' houses as a kid, did that automatically entitle you to steal their Legos and raid their parents' fridge?
>>63098>>63113>"i want to get to know you and see if we can click"
You're describing the female's reason for accepting a date. It's also a sugar-coated version of the truth.
Let me translate what you actually meant: "I accepted your date because I find your looks to be acceptable. I want to get to know you to better assess your financial status, social status, and to a lesser extent personality, and put you through a variety of shit tests, so I can see if trading my pussy to you in exchange for all that is worth it".
This is robbing someone: "I'm not attracted to you at all, and will never
have sex with you no matter what, but I'm accepting your date because I want free food".
There is TWO reasons that guys take you out on a date
1) They want sex
2) They're looking for a wife to bear their children
That's it. Guys aren't taking you out on a date because they want to be friends.
>because what you're describing is prostitution.
All women are prostitutes, they would never date a NEET with no money.
>Most girls nowadays will pay for themselves on dates
The vast majority of these girls would dump the guy if he couldn't
pay for the date though. The only reason they pay is so they can sit on their feminist high-horse, even though they still require the guy to be making income, or working towards it, and thus they're still whores.
All heterosexual relationships start off as a form of prostitution.(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)
What the fuck anon? Tell us more. How soon into dating did you learn of this and why did you put up with it.m
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I dated a guy who asked me out when I was 16 and he was 20.
First mistake. Dude never held my hand in public, he never let me meet his parents until I was 18, shady pedo shit like that. Never paid for a date, made his 4 years younger girlfriend pay for him constantly, because I had a job and he never did.
Everything was fine, as fine as that shitty situation could be, but he drops the news that he's leaving to go to Japan to teach.
I'm pathetically supportive of him, and super naïve. I start working towards study abroad so I can be with him in Japan, I'm basically brainwashed by this guy at this point.
Anyway, he leaves to his weeb job and I'm trying to maintain what we had.
After two months, he starts ghosting me. He then tells me he doesn't love me on our 4 year anniversary, but he doesnt want to break up? UM?!
I was so depressed, I was desperate for him to just end it, or at least reply to any of my calls or messages so I could end it myself.
He tweets something about waiting for his girlfriend to call, and I was elated. I was so defeated and pathetically waiting on him to give me any attention, and I assumed it was me he was talking about. I stay up till 4am or whatever, to call him at a reasonable time in Japan.
It wasn't me he was talking about.
4 years of being devoted to a below average man get flung out the window.
I break up with him for good through a line message, he has the audacity to reply "NO, you aren't breaking up with me! I break up with you!"
And now he's a pathetic gaijin preying on Japanese girls while he goes bald and gets older and more pathetic. He "likes" loli porn on his twitter when he teaches middle school in Japan. Pathetic, gross, and laughable now that I can see him as he truly is.
And me, I've been in a great, healthy relationship with a man with a job, whose family loves me, and treats me right. AND EVEN HOLDS MY HAND IN PUBLIC. Feels fucking great.
Right? I'd send the info to the school he teaches at, but my Japanese isn't good enough, he can simply unlike it, etc.
People like him shouldn't be allowed near younger girls, let alone be allowed to teach them.
>>63687>I dated a guy who asked me out when I was 16 and he was 20.> he never let me meet his parents until I was 18, shady pedo shit like that.
You were 16, that's not even close to him being a pedophile.
He didn't want to make the relationship known because jealous older women might think it's "pedo" (even though they're really just jealous of younger more attractive girls), even though a 16 year old girl dating a 20 year old guy is a perfectly normal age-range.
>I've been in a great, healthy relationship with a man with a job>a man with a job
All heterosexual relationships are prostitution, you're a prostitute, if he lost his job and told you he wasn't getting another one, you would leave him.
Don't feel bad, it's just the nature of women.(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)
>>64574>date first bf for 4.5 years>he's into magic the gathering, so was I back then, it's how we met>he's mildly autistic and had a genuinely terrible childhood, his mom committed suicide when he was 8, raised from then on by not-so-friendly dad>comes off very shy and sweet at first>young me finds this adorable and wants to protect his smile and take care of him>as the years go by I find out he's actually very controlling and jealous>as in, I am not allowed to hang out with any other person on my own>only excuse to socialize without him is family stuff, but eventually he claims I'm giving my family more attention than him>guilttrips me about anything I do>we started having horrible fights, domestic violence, hiding bruises, the works>somehow I grew incredibly attached and dependent>if he ignores me after a fight I do anything to get some love from him again>he knows this and thus takes advantage from it>whenever we were at my place together and we would get into a fight he'd pack his stuff and leave>he lived across state>this means he had to travel for 3 hours to get home and whenever we saw eachother it was always to stay over>about 80 percent of the times he stayed over he'd angrily start walking the mile from my house to the train station>I'd always run after him and walk along with him trying to make him change his mind>promising to buy him shit, make a delicious dinner, etc if he didn't leave>this would work half the time and once he finished the food I cooked when we got home again we would most often get into a fight again and he'd leave anyway
I'm still working on getting my sense of self worth back.
>feeling like shit
>meet that guy, totally think he's a looser
>work together, so see him often
>watching movies together etc
>just dont want to be alone
>he's a fuck buddy now, no feelings
>meet other actually cute guys, but nothing more than flirting
>he says he loves me and want to be in a relationship with me after a few month
>one month later say ok
>i'm living in his flat now
>be lowlife and bpd gf
>care for his poor pet and his dirty flat
>he smokes weed everyday
>pop some pills to be ok with the situation
>friends keep tellibg me he is dumb and ugly
>indeed hes has super disgusting teeth, a few teeth weren't there at all
>buy him new clothes so he doesn't look like a fulltime stoner
>he doesn't brush his teeth
>he is chubby fat and everytime he fucks me and i have to see him I'm super disgusted
>get my hands on some good painkillers
>be high 24/7 and don't give a fuck anymore
>he shows some semi nude pics of me some guys at work and says how hot I am and how he fucks me etc
>pills are empty now, have a rough withdrawal
>realizing he is disgusting and so am I
>see my family and normal people more often now
>move into my flat again, while he is on a vacation, my bff is super supportive
>finally able to breath
>he moves a week later into my flat
>everything gets downwards again
>he trashes my flat and everything stinks and is disgusting
>at 7AM sitting in the bus to work, realize the situation and write him that It will not work out with us
>he has to leave NOW
>he tells everyone I am whore
>he tells everyone I am a drug addict
>maybe I am but whatever I didn't talk shit about him
>leave the city
>he writes me everyday
>how he hopes i will never be happy
>that my parents never loved me
>that my vag stinks kek
>after month and month he stops
>he wrotes me a last time
>the tags I have to search to find a sex tape of us
>go to police
>have a case, involving stalking
I don't even care if he reads this anymore.
Just FYI we just worked one month together
Btw I know I am shit too, but I'm doing better everyday
>15, bf is 17
>barely know each other, hits on me non-stop, I have no self-steem so ok, fine, I'll date you
>likes Death Note, constantly wears fedoras, into shitty games
>spends 24/7 talking about himself and his hobbies and about how amazing he is for dating me, a nerd loser with no friends, 0 interest in my interests
>spends days playing online games, his grades keep dropping, eventually starts ignoring me for games
>barely see each other
>decide to "take a break" after being ignored for ages and real serious shit happenning, find out he cheated on me during my birthday, dump his ass
>ask him to stop talking to me, he won't stop, end up telling him to not talk to me again
>extremely passive agressive when hanging out with mutual friends, have to chase him to the ends of the world with older, bigger friends to get my stuff back, to this day he blames me for the breakup
>bonus: blamed me for failing HS despite him having shit grades in the first place
>>62165>x lied about his age, i was 21? at the time and he was 30>le intelectuOL boi*~ >we had an arguement over the word "whore" I shit you not, this is actually hilarious looking back on it, not as an insult, but the literal meaning of the word: women who offers sex stuff for money. I used the meaning, paid for sexual services, he went all literal and it is ONLY sex, as in oral anal and vaginal. I said whore is anyone who gets paid for sexual services; he said its only penetration and "sex", i asked him if a girl giving handjobs or having a dude hotdog her ass and cumming all over it and getting paid wasn't considered a whore: he said she's not a whore and said handjobs are considered sex because of the job part like blowjob….>2SMART5ME>has this shady ass girl friend who keeps getting all giddy with him, ignores me and does rude as things like getting touchy feely with him>he's insecure and asks me to cut off some male friends>i do>i ask him to do the same of the girl>he keeps screeching shes just a friend but eventually does>girl chucks a shitfit and calls me insecure and mental(hey it was just an even steven's deal gurl)>We fight a few times and he goes to talk to her when we do>eventually break up>they get together>she is still denying she had feelings for him when we were together>blames me for getting them together(lol), because when we fought he went to her for consolation
What a trainwreck, they broke up too rofl.
>be 16, and without any experience in human interaction because you never had friends and got bullied in middle school
>changed a lot that particular summer, got longer hair, learned doing makeup & got rid of acne & glasses
> comes to a new school
>sits next to a nice girl, be anxious af but master the conversation
> get on the bus together with her neighbor, who is one year older
> doesn't know shit about his reputation
> neighbor of nice girl starts texting me after that
> naive me felt flattered, cause no experience with guys and people in general before
> guy constantly is asking for pictures and that i should meet him & is sending weird voice mails to me on which he is drunk
> he insists on coming over to my house at 7 am when my parents where gone visiting my aunt who lives some hours away
> the 16 year old me finds this very romantic
> kisses me the second i open the door, I am kinda surprised by this
> he looks very tired
> we go up to my room, i don't know what to talk about
> he gets me into more kissing and also wants to touch my boobs & says he wants to sleep with me
> I remove his hands and ignore what he says, felt irritated, cause it wasn't like in the movies
> after some hours he leaves, I am convinced, that I am in love, he told me we are a couple now
> at 2 am in the next night I get a phone call from him
> he is completly drunk with his friends and insists on coming over bc he "lost his key"
> le dumb, tired me opens the door
> he is super drunk, passes out on the couch and le me goes to bed
> the next morning my parents come home and my mum gets a panic attack, bc some dude lays on her precious floor in his own vomit, dad calls his parents & kicks my "boyfriend" out
> parents are exremly angry and I am not allowed to invite anyone or leave the house for two weeks except for school
> some days pass, he completly ignores me in school and doesn't answer my texts, after two weeks he phones me and "breaks up" with me
> I feel horrible and heartbroken
> Goes completly batshit crazy & insists on being together with him
> stalks all his social media everyday, the grades drop
> badmouthes him to everyone in my class
> I couldn't stop crying & even bring him up at family dinners until my mum "bans" his name
> classmates & family members are extremly annoyed
> some people tell me about his reputation, he is constantly drunk, wants to fuck & texts every girl, cause he has a small dick
> he hears that I talk about him & furiously texts me how immature I am, that I should handle the situation & leave him alone
> the 16 year old me doesn't give a fuck and stalks him even more
> a girl and some other people in my class team up against me, start bringing him to our class & constantly bring up, what a "smart and nice person" and how much "fun" he is to be around, so I feel anxious. The girl talks loudly how he texts her every day and that he finds her beautiful
> I am devastated and fantasize how I can kill this bitch
> at easter i get a phone call and some voice messages
> he is crying about how much he loves me, that i was probably the only person who ever loved him, that his older brother is the favourite kid in the family & that he has "problems"
> he is extremly drunk
> le furious me hangs up the phone without saying anything
> I send the messages to a friend & we laugh about how dumb he is
> 4 years later & he got extremly fat from drinking too much
> le me is happy with another guy who literally is an angel on earth
> I keep those voice messages locked in my old PC, they still exist
>sometimes I think about making a fake account to post it on his fb wall for lulz
yes, I am also very glad, that I didn't let him do that, I had very very low self-esteem at that time… I wasted my first kiss on that creep, that's enough of a shame.
There were always really weird rumours about him & other girs. Once he sent photos of him fucking his tinder date in the facebook group of his class, even a teacher saw it, but he didn't gave a fuck.
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Holy shit, you deserve so much better. He never took time to work out the mental issues of his upbringing and you don't deserve to carry that burden for him. I really hope things get better for you and can build yourself back up from this.
>friends in highschool, he's a year older and i have a huge crush on him–he's a typical troubled musician type.
>he starts living at my house for a bit due to family issues.
>one night we hook up, i'm head over heels, first actual boyfriend.
>spend MONTHS trying to get him to agree to be my boyfriend, constantly pining after him.
>finally, he agrees and we become official.
>does a complete 180 and becomes a possessive and manipulative prick.
>doesn't let me wear leggings, v-necks, push-up bras, or anything tight fitting in the slightest.
>starts throwing fits when he moves back home and i don't stay at his house or vice versa.
>blames my parents for "not letting us see each other" even if it was only for one night.
>gets upset with me one day for coming home late from school and tears his room apart, punching holes in the walls, etc.
>starts getting physical with me, grabs my wrist and bruises it, then tries to pull the "it was an accident" card.
>find out after we break up that he had cheated on me twice that we can confirm, raped/assaulted a drunk friend at a party, and got another girl pregnant while we were dating. (he threatened her to get rid of it.)
i finally wised up my senior year of high school thanks to some good friends. the dude still messages me from time to time even though it's been four years. he scares the shit out of me to this day because of threats he had sent me and my family. i still think the only reason he never hurt me is because he's afraid of my dad and brothers. i got stuck next to him in traffic the other day and i actually pulled over because i felt sick to my stomach when he looked at me.
on a side note, i'm thankful to have found someone who has helped me forget about the negativity that my only past relationship has held. i'm also thankful for that past relationship for helping me realize how -I- deserve and want to be treated.
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>Meet ex (17) through mutual friends, im 16 and a lonely dropout with lots of issues
>Get attached too fast without really getting to know him
>Everything is good for the first 3 months
>Drank a bit of alcohol together, he gets emotional and tells me he misses his ex girlfriend (should have dumped him right there)
>I get upset then he plays the victim and acts like im terrible for getting angry because he 'confided' in me
>Fall for it like a dumb shit, pity him
>Time goes on
>Would go through my phone while I cooked him food
>He isolated me from my friends and was super controlling, would accuse me of lying and gaslit me, had temper tantrums when i didnt feel like smoking weed with him (lol)
>Super suspicious of these girls he would speak to on fb, explains to me it's completely innocent and theyre just friends
>Find out hes been masturbating to this girls pictures on her nsfw tumblr
>honestly just speechless at this point I wasnt really surprised lol
>He cries and begs me to stay
>Put up with him for another 5 months out of pity then dump him
>He shaves off his eyebrows afterwards HAHAHAHA
>Wants his stuff back, agree and say we can exchange our things
>tell him to let me know when he's on his way so I can leave his stuff on the porch
>doesnt tell me in an attempt to talk to me when i come to the door
>mom just got home from work "oh, i can take that inside to her"
Sorry it's so long. He still tries to message me, and posts about me on facebook (pic related) ps. Im pretty sure they are talking about my personal life in the post above too
>only emo boy at school(16) harasses me one day in class(I'm very meek and shy) and ask if I want to go to his house to give him a bj
>so freaked out don't even answer
>friend at the time was obsessed with him despite him being a total perving sleezebag preying on any girl he wants to fuck
>a year later begin talking to him, find out we actually have common interest, eventually start to crush and want to confess
>find out he was hitting up another girl, idiot teen me didn't think anything of it and saw it as a challenge to ask him out first
>2 months into dating, I'm at his house browsing his computer. find his porn folder. okay its mostly just porn models, w/e. start to find nudes of girls I go to school with(underage) and nudes of my best friend at the time. 32gb of porn.
>freak the fuck out but not on him, on my friend for lying about never hitting him up.(I should have freaked out/dumped him on him for having those photos but no, I was dumb.)
>eventually he graduates school, and is going to college. still dating, but begin noticing him liking other girls photos on fb in my news feed
>photos of are girls in 8th-9th grade, cleavage shots or girls taking selfies in rather sexual poses/outfits
>begin arguing with him about wishing he would stop. thinks there is nothing wrong with it and continues to do it.
>one day while he's still in college(but living at home) randomly ask if he's ever cheated on me. he gives a very off answer
>begin to grill him harder still he finally confesses that a female friend from his college was texting with him one time, her being single and her confessing that she liked him. apparently we got into a fight so they both started to talk about what theyd do sexually to each other, her wishing he would come over her house and fuck her. he says he didn't go but texting was the furthest(I have no idea if he sent/got photos)
>pretty much ended up dumping him around christmas because his family flipped shit I didn't come over during present opening
>also odd things, him and his friends were very sexual about females. checking them out in public, talking about how hot they are, think woman are just meat and sexual objects. yea I was young and stupid.
MINE IS THE WINNER!!!! TRY TO TOP THIS
when i was 17 i dated a pathetic 32y/o brokefag (desperately trying to heal from traumatising breakup)
>working class af>32 y.o and cant get off his xbox>two pitbulls - dangerous illegal in this country>the joker as all his profile pictures>fat disgusting beer belly>owned a 'racist joke book' and a 'sexist joke book'>didnt move out of his mothers house until he was 26 years old>has literally ONE friend and none others, i shit you not>his dogs shit and piss on the floor >literaly first time i ever went over, there was dog food ALL over the floor, he hadnt tidied up, i was offended af>doesnt pick up his dogs shit on walks, kicks it with his shoes onto the road>£400 a month, shitty disgusting mouldy filthy flat with 2 tiny rooms>will not throw anything away>his entire profile is just self pitying statuses and shared images about mental illness and BPD >alcoholic drug addict>admits to having hit a woman "because she was a gypsy and could take punches">racist >screamed at immigrants while we were on the phone>bar fights ever weekend>filthy, horrible, uncontrollable dogs who he allowed to walk all over the beds, woke me up while i was asleep>MESSY AS FUCK HOUSE LITERAL SHIT AND PILES OF CLOTHES, RUBBISH EVERYWHERE>vaccuumed every time i was there including first time, coudlnt stand it>refused to spend time with me when i paid to come visit me, would rather spend it playing xbox >cant go to sleep unless he watches Mountain Monsters, would always watch it on his phone with headphones when i slept over, its a fake show about hunting bigfoot or some shit but he thinks its real>cant afford wifi, relies on texting and 3g data>found texts on his phone of him taunting an ex girlfriend over his friend posting revenge porn of her>started smoking when he was 6, thought he was lying to show off but his mother confirmed>fucking ugly, horrible red skin, eyes too close together, receeding hairline>horriffic diet of purely steak and kidney pies, beer other shit>32 and doesnt have a fucking car>literally has no plan or aspiration to get a better job, ever. is happy with his shit miserable life
conflict causing breakup>he comes stomping in at midnight, crashing around, trying to indimidate me because i turned the light off so i could sleep>starts screaming and shouting, trying to scare me>i dump him days after before abuse gets physical
after i broke up with him:
>i get a call from him at 10pm, while me and my new, attractive, hot bf (who he actually met and approved of lol) are trying to have sex> i pick up, and hes drunk as a fish>swearing at me harassing me to give him his stuff back (a jacket and an umbrella)>calls new bf a toddler bc hes my age>accuses me of cheating with new hot bf>is obv jealous of new bf>"DID YOU THINK ABOUT HIM WHEN YOU WERE FUCKING ME?">rambles incoherently and drunkely, >hes on speakerphone so me and bf are listening and losing our shit laughing>i tell him ill call the police if he calls again and hang up>he calls again and says HE will call the police because i "stole" his jacket, when he gave it to me and now wants it back>i hang up again and i get a bunch of angry texts from him, calling me a spoiled rich bitch and that he knows girls like me, who are 'worth millions' despite him being poor and those people wouldnt give him the time of day>i explain that i didnt cheat on him, but hes having none of it>a few weeks later i tell him im delivering his stuff back to him, and then hes all apologetic "i miss you it was hard to let you go" bullshit>i continue sparse contact with him purely to covince him to vote labour>says he will then goes back on his word and uses it as an excuse to start berating me. again
basically a fucking psychopath who was clearly feeling hurt by my new rs
im so tempted to post his number and facebook holy shit he is disgusting
if he was all these shit things, why the fuck were you dating him?
also dont dox him on here, stupid, we're not your personal army
i didnt realise half of these until towards the end of our relationship.>>62165
also i forgot to add that he threatened me and new bf, said he had my address and parents phone numbers so threatened to tell them about our rs
long, melodramatic post incoming:
>sheltered, catholic upbringing
>bullied relentlessly growing up
>no consistent friends
>start dating a guy in 9th grade because he's the only one who's ever shown interest
>tell him i don't want to have sex because it scares me and i'm like 15
>he's 19 and has had loads of sex before and it's "no big deal"
>eventually he stops accepting "no" as an answer
>im too scared of him to put up a fight
>becomes verbally abusive if i resist
>sexual assaults become regular
>i develop depression and end up in the hospital as a result
>diagnosed with PTSD and depression
>he breaks up with me for being frigid
>continues to stalk me and harass me after we break up
so around a year goes by and i try to recover through therapy and medications. i was scared to be alone in a room with another person and was terrified of physical contact even from my parents or my pets.
>start dating nice guy i'm friends with
>still traumatized and becoming more mentally ill, eventually diagnosed with BPD following another hospital stay
>he's a pathological liar with a superiority complex and a drug problem
>we date for 2 years and i end up in the hospital after a suicide attempt
>he is permanently disabled a few days later in an accident
>it's devastating for the both of us
>he becomes bitter and hateful
>i have to take care of him
>have to drive him and house him during college
>he starts pressuring me for sex
>i'm still traumatized
>he doesn't care
>we start fighting a lot
>he becomes more verbally abusive and starts insulting me over anything, starts fights that he always wins, is never at fault for anything, always turns things around on me
>everything is my fault
>my depression starts acting up, and he breaks up with me for it
>immediately starts sleeping around
>we get back together for some reason
>things are ok
>the fighting starts again because i still won't have sex with him
>he starts fights with me over anything
>i want to leave him
>he stays at my apartment for free on weekdays and i'm the one who drives him everywhere
>he's dependent on me, he's disabled, i'd be an asshole
>he gets surgery at a military base and i want to visit him, but am not allowed on the base
>he thinks that i intentionally didn't visit him because i only care about myself
>he thinks i don't put effort into our relationship
>he tells me i never loved him and i'm a horrible, selfish person
>i've done everything for him when he was disabled
>i've given up so much for him
>we've been together for 4 years, that's just how relationships are, right? that's what love is, right?
>leave him eventually after telling him what he's done to me and what i've given up in life for him
>he breaks down and asks for another chance
i've since found my soul mate who is patient and understanding and has helped me overcome my illness and trauma in ways i didn't think anyone could. i've found unconditional love and support from a kind man who is gentle and understanding. i've never felt more mentally well, happy, and stable since meeting him. we hope to get married in a few years.
sorry if this is long af but here it goes,
>be 14, myspace era, kinda scene, really fucked up school and home life
>meet 17yo boy online, also kinda scene, more fucked up school and home life than me, lives kinda close to me
>like he goes to one of those charter schools for bad kids, constantly getting threatened with knifes and shit in school, his mother is emotionally and physically abusive to him almost daily, he cuts (remember this is the scene/emo kid era so i didn't think that seriously about it)
>blames his mom for everything like how he ended up in that school etc makes himself seem innocent
>of course start liking him, we're two fucked up sceney kids, no other guy has really shown romantic interest in me before, and i just in general feel a lot of pressure to have a bf/do sexual things because everyone i knew already did
>start e-dating, send nudes to each other, cyber, and camsex because that's what all the sceney kids were doing those days i guess.
>start meeting up on dates here and there. pretty normal dates, but sometimes he says hurtful things to me about my looks or how i speak (speech impediment) etc and sometimes he forces kisses on me and gropes me
>just brush it off that he's a broken boi, he dont mean it
>learning more about him, he faps to gore, he has a list of every girls virginity he took and their ages (15+? girls), owns knifes and guns (illegally of course), cuts himself BRUTALLY, and attempted suicide multiple times
>as time progresses hes being more and more abusive towards me, pretty much tried to rape me in a movie theater
>fucking scared as fuck of him now, a guy at school is being really nice to me and likes me, so I finally gain some courage to break up with him
>do it in the lying to him sort of way with stuff like "my mom found out we can't meet up anymore" etc
>shortly after I start dating a guy from my school because he was so nice and I'm stupidly still feeling the peer pressure stuff
>he finds out because of myspace or w/e and is FUCKING PISSED, now convinced I was cheating on him with that guy and I broke up with him just because of him and shit
>his online bff (that is also apart of our kind-of online mutual friend circle) contacts me and tells me that he sent him all my nudes, screen recorded our camsex etc and that he might be spreading them around, his bff even sent the shit back to me to prove it
>naturally freak out, realize that i was an idiot, contact ex beg him to stop and delete the shit and whoever he sent them to as well
>he's being defiant like "yeah right" kinda thing, but eventually I smarten up for a sec and threaten to contact the police because its cp, I guess that scared him enough that he says he's deleting everything and talking to his friends, I threaten police to them as well to make sure
>try to push it in the back of my mind that i ever did shit like that and forget him
>years later he adds me on facebook
and yeah of course I don't really know if anyone deleted my nude shit, but I at least try to be hopeful and think they got lost with time and aren't lurking on the internet somewhere
I dunno if this counts since we never were considered bf/gf, but he has called me his girlfriend before.
Okay. Let me start out by saying this is going to sound fucked up. Had I not been the one going through it, I would believe it wasn't real. But unfortunately it is.
My whatever-you-want-to-call-him left me for his Aryan ex gf. I'm half arab and half irish (although he doesn't consider the irish to be pure whites)and he told me I was a 9/10. However, he takes /pol/ too seriously and thinks he needs to breed with a blonde in order to "save his genes." He's less white than I am. He's asked me for nudes before and I obliged. He's told me he wanted to spend his life with me before, that he wanted to kiss my face. Hell when he thought I was crushing on some other guy he got extremely upset.
His ex came back because she has no other friends and he pretty much molded her personality. All of a sudden I'm "just a friend" to him, despite me doing so much for him. She doesn't even want him sexually, she tells him he's fat and ugly and he just fucking takes it and says I'm too nice when I disagree. She's tried ruining his life before, and yet he goes back to her because "muh Aryan breeding fetish". I'm so heart broken. To make matters worse, he was acting very daddy-like to her (I know people here don't like that kink but it's a favorite of mine and he knows that; he rarely indulged in it with me but will indulge in it with her. He claims to be so conservative yet wants this girl that flashes herself on Twitch while horribly playing video games. But I guess that's okay since her genes are superior to mine.
Another thing; he doesn't think that you should have a friend as a girlfriend and that your girlfriend shouldn't be your friend. He thinks a relationship means fighting, fucking, then not talking unless it's time to reproduce. I'm just so sickened. I'm sorry this ended up being so long, but it's not like I can google some similar situation and see what others have done, because really when does a guy leave a girl just because she isn't Aryan?
I've cried way too much last night and this morning. I give my all when I love someone. To know that he'd throw it all away just for some autistic reason like "breeding" just makes me want to hate him. I don't usually give nudes to people; I'm a CP victim so when I DO give nudes it means I really love and trust that person. Now I feel betrayed again. Why do I even fall for such shitty guys? He's fapped to me plenty of times but hates that he finds a "non-white" attractive. (I put that in quotations because any normal person would see me as white. I'm extremely pale but have a pointy nose and dark eyes/hair)
Thank you for reading all of this if you did. It really means a lot to me even if I don't know you. I just feel so alone in this situation…
I have a similar story anon.
When I was 23 I used to date a guy who turned into a white supremacist. I'm a mestizo latina, which means I'm hella mixed. Back before, he used to tell me nice things, said I was the most beautiful woman he has ever seen, blah blah blah, all that sweet talk. He even mentioned marrying when we were 6 months into the relationship. Things started to get weird when I tanned. Seriously just because my fucking skin tone got dark (from porcelain white to that "typical Mexican" color). We stopped having sex. Girl, he said I wasn't 'that' attractive to him anymore, he even said he couldn't recognize me because I looked like a very different person. I was like the fuck and felt really really hurt.
We broke supposedly in good terms. Soon after, he began dating a white chick and enrolled in one of those white groups to save his fucking Norse genes. He post in fb things like how mutts (how he started to call mixed people) were an aberration and how depraved and low was to fuck a mutt. I felt it was directed towards me and it devastated me. He unfriend me from fb but I began to stalk him, it hurted so bad but I couldn't help it. Because of the stalking I realized he cheated on me with that chick. Girl, my self-esteem went to shit, I felt so much fucking disgust to myself. It's horrible when you feel you are not good enough for somebody, specially when is about the guy that used to be your partner.
Then I decided to not give a single fuck. It was not easy. Now that I look back to that time, I realize how little self respect I had for myself to let all that drag me down. He wasn't worth it.
My Norse ex broke off with that chick months after. I don't know why it didn't work and I don't care. The only thing I know is that he acted like a fucking loser begging her to come back. It was pure Schadenfreude fam. When I turned 25 he texted me for my birthday and after that he sent me more texts saying the same stupid sweet talk and acted as if nothing ever fucking happened, inviting me to eat dinner and dedicating songs to me. I'm 27 now and he still text me from time to time. And now he refers to mixed people as the wild card for white men if the woman in question has white ancestors. He's such a fruitcake.
mine was vice versa
basically, I'm italian and my ex use to have this massive obsession with asians, sometimes would tell me I'd look hot if I was japanese, would constantly and I mean CONSTANTLY brag about his "qt pear jap ex" or whatever, at the most random moments, like we could be talking about ice cream and he would say "oh my jap ex liked this kind of ice cream"
he complained about my boobs being too small and my thighs being too big and bragged about how his jap ex had huge round perky boobs, and I constantly told him I'll get plastic surgery if he wants but he turned around and said "nooo nooo I'll break up with you if you did"
later I found out 3 months later he had been stalking and obsessing over his jap ex and 2 other asian women, calling them on blocked numbers, making fake accounts too talk to them, even on his laptop he has fucking files to save pictures and information about them
what I have learned is: If a guy likes asians soley for their race, RUN
Not related to race, but reminded me: an ex of mine is obsessed with an ex of his, to the extent that he made a fake instagram account to stalk her and save the photos of her, would check her tumblr for nudes, all that jazz. He even would jerk off to old sex tapes of them while we were dating. He would constantly compare me to her physically (boob size, etc.), then when it made me feel bad, try to save it by saying, "Well, she cheated on me." (Then wonder why my self esteem was shit lol.)
god I hate guys like that >"your boobs are a bit too small for my taste, I prefer my exes big round perky tits with small nipples">well I'll get implants if you want I need to save up though>"DON'T GET IMPLANTS THEY'RE SO UGLY AND FAKE I'LL BREAK UP WITH YOU IF YOU DO"
like the fuck do you want, either let me get implants or stop obsessing over your ~perfect boobed~ ex and learn to love unchangeable features of my body how it is
it's even more ironic that his ex had has PS too
Gosh, i dated 5 different guys from the age of 15 and whilst having literally no boobs (AA cup) not a single one ever complained and every single one of them would compliment me on them and obvs tell me how much they love my boobs
I think if my s/o would say anything negative about my tits id break up with them straight away
I feel bad for you gals
>Be in a relationship for 3 years
>I was weak af due a shitty familiar situation that lasted a decade
>The first months were ok but then he started going down
I'm no saint but objectively shitty things he did
>Since we were in a LDR, he would only confront me in train.
If I did something wrong he would just bottle up, stop talking to me and then throw a fit via imessage
>Took pics of me when I wasn't looking, shooped me to look fat and post it online
>When I showered, he took my computer and randomly text shit to my fb contacts
>Talk shit to me to other people only for saying "Dude I was just testing your reputation!! XDD"
>In general, using me. Money, shelter etc etc
This is all when it went to shit
>"Heyy, bf!! It's my birthday!! What about we spend some days together??"
>"Yeah funny, please be serious"
>"I don't want to see you. Ever."
Cry my fucking eyes out.
To be honest, I already wanted to break up but I wanted to see if he ~could change~, he just made it easier for me but yea, that hurt.
>breaks off any contact with me for a year
>randomly, he just texts me
>out of kiddy revenge, see if he's "better than before"
>I already had another relationship, I didn't care about him anymore, I just wanted to play around ya feel me
>After one year, break off all contacs.
>He finds out that I have a new boyfriend, who's friends with his friends
>He starts to send me shit (would even make double accounts) like "Your new bf talks shit about you" etc etc
>Don't reply, just watch him collapse.
>FF another year
>Me and current bf are lovingly happy, really, he's the cutest and the loveliest, VERY different from him
>Since he was my first one, I kinda believed that all relationships had to be that way. Yeah, stupid and naive.
>He likes (with triple accounts on insta, he was always him, he didn't even change speech patterns to be more credible) my pics with bf.
>Kinda enjoying it at this point, he's my lolcow
>Change my fb profile pic to me and bf being stupid rawr kidzzz but happy (we used to be in the same fashion at teenagers so we thought it was cute to make fun of it)
>IMMEDIATLY get a message on my phone
>He fucking changed his number to talk to me
>"Uhm… can I speak to you for a second?"
>Decide to put an end
>"Yea, be quick. Not that fucking around stuff, get straight to the point."
>"Alright." 1 pdf file
He fucking wrote me a long ass letter saying that he changed that he's sorry for all the shitty things he did, he didn't realized how much caring, funny and all that shit I was, that sometimes out of pure nostalgia he just hops the train and gets off at my city only to see it again and hopes to find me on the streets (luckily, never happened), that he knew I deserved better but wanted to have fun etc etc
>eyes roll to the moon
>"So can I be part of your life again?"
>"I have my own now.Leave me alone."
>April this year, he texts me "Hey!!! Wanna talk???? Please!"
>Changed his number again
He's in his 20s and watches 2deep anime and scams his sugar daddy (with pics of girls he finds on tumblr) to get the new consoles, games etc etc
Whew, that was a fucking big ass bullet.
f u c k this asshole god anon I just want to bring you some ice cream and wine and watch chick flicks with you
Sorry you're feeling heartbroken now, that always sucks, but some day youll be so happy you dodged this bullet
How do jerks like this even come to exist? It scares me that I could have and love a son, do everything to raise them right, and they could still turn out as this kinds of asshole
Or even you do everything to make sure your daughter knows her value isn't how hard she can get guys, but she still gets plastic surgery to try to keep her gaslighting racist pos boyfriend that cheats on her anyway. This is so OT but my heart is breaking imagining it.
The fun part is that her mother was bat shit crazy too.
She was a Munchie.
She hurt herself in everyway possible to sue everyone and everything to get money.
Once she sued an hospital for "damages due to x rays" when she used to get xrays for every single little thing, even if she accidentally closed her finger in the fridge.
One time she said "Sorry for only white rice at dinner, you know, I'm not working right now, we gotta save up"
And then, one month later, she BOUGHT (yeah, bought, not a plan) an iphone to her pissbaby child to "make him happy :)"
Good thing I'm not seeing them anymore
>>62165>accept because free food
And that's where you fucked up, men would do ANYTHING to control/influence your choices and the littlest reaction you will make them think they're dating you. If you're not into someone do accept any intimate invitation even if you just wanted free food>>63062
Yes, that falls into fraud, she was deceiving him. But the guy is no better than her
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>be me this past christmas
>spend weeks putting together creative gift package for my ex
>virtually everything is custom-made and related to his interests.
>even hand-draw his card and decorate wrapping with silly memes he likes
>ex is notoriously bad at gift giving and always orders things at the last second, so i usually don't actually get my gift ON xmas, or my birthday
>we both are into BDSM and i find a collar on Etsy that i like
>it's not that pricey and he says it's within his budget
>send him a link to it in november so that he has plenty of time to order it
>xmas rolls around
>surprise surprise, it hasn't come in the mail yet
>two weeks later an envelope from amazon arrives
>he hands it to me
>it's one of those basic bitch heart chokers that every tumblr teen girl has
>cost him like $6
>it doesn't even fit me
>calls ME selfish and unappreciative when I express that I'm kind of disappointed in him for not getting me the one i wanted after he told me he would
oh, but there's more…
>start to have difficulties with intimacy due to being raped by a previous partner
>ask ex if we can refrain from missionary for a little while since it reminds me of that event
>he's very reluctant
>"but missionary is my favorite"
>seems to agree to this anyway
>90% of the times we have sex after this, we still always somehow end up in missionary, despite this leading to me shaking and crying and needing to stop entirely
>i try and suggest other positions and touching/heavy petting techniques we can try instead
>he's virtually uninterested in any form of intimacy unless it involves vaginal or anal penetration
>tell him i like anal, but am inexperienced and might need some help to prepare first
>he's too lazy to put in that kind of effort
>just wants to lube me up a little and jam it in
>this hurts too much and always just leads to more crying and me begging him to stop
>this all devolves into a borderline dead bedroom situation because he's unwilling to do anything differently and won't take any of my suggestions
Can you also believe this guy was a video game addict, showered maybe twice a month on average, and that I met him on 4chan? I know, really shocking….
Here goes nothing.
>Meet bf at job
>start going out
>things progress fine
>Just several months into relationship, his mom is diagnosed with terminal cancer
>He lives with his single mom and brother, parents are divorced, dad remarried
>tell him I'll help any way I can because obviously I care about him
>end up living with him, paying half for bills and MORTGAGE
>his brother and his gf have college degrees and good jobs, live in the house, and pay nothing
>him and I both end up drinkers, regularly and heavily
>Fight all the time, but I deal with it
>one day I check the mortgage account online because he has username and password is written down
>find out the mortgage has been paid off for 5 months
>Yet I've been paying my bf for bills AND mortgage?!
>That means I've been overpaying
>confront him about this
>I'm an asshole for going into the mortgage account without permission
>He needed my money to "pay his brother back" because apparently his brother covered "some things" that I'm still not sure about
>meanwhile my bf is smoking plenty of weed. cigars and drinking expensive beer
>I work part time, he tells me I NEED to get a second job. All I spend my money on is cheap beer
>break up with him
>He harasses me nonstop, constant texts and phone calls
>tells me I'm a terrible person for breaking up with him years after his mother died
>threatens to kill himself
I still feel guilty to this day.
It's not like he had no good qualities at all. Good sense of humor, came from a good family and we got along very well on an intellectual level. Tbh, on the surface everything seemed to work fine between us. But he was so emotionally detached, selfish and controlling that things always just felt really off. My anxiety and depression was 10x worse than usual throughout that entire relationship. I developed a chronic pain disorder that I didn't have before I got with him, and that hasn't bothered me at all since we broke up. He gaslit me like crazy whenever I brought up issues, so I always ended up blaming myself for being too judgmental and unable to just accept him as he is.
Sadly, the two stories from my OP are not even a quarter of everything that went on in that relationship. I could put together an entire anthology of bullshit he put me through. He's just an all around bad person. Leeches off everyone around him and gives nothing back. I have no idea why he is the way he is. His parents are such nice people.>>66273
Thanks anon. I don't plan on letting anyone like this into my life ever again. No more image board retards for me, lmao.
Oh Anons I am so glad you shared your stories. Now I know Im not the only one who made shameful decisions in life. So heres my biggest mistake:
>Was 19 and had a crush on my best friend
>didnt look like he would dump his gf for me
>met a guy and thought "ok have some fun, nothing serious"
>guy got really attached and I felt like he dont have real friends or someone who take care (lost soul)
>he was a 22 y/o drug dealer, still living with his parents
>lost my appartment because we constantly needed to be at his house because of "customers"
>he got kicked out at parents house an we didnt have a home for a few months, sleeping at friends homes
>I finally managed to get us a new apartment
>he took drugs everyday: amphetamine, alkohol, weed… I was smoking weed too
>barely sleeped, he thought it wasnt neccesary to turn off the light at nights when I was trying to sleep and he was awake
>I got really frustrated, startet to drink alcohol daily
>there were always people in "our" home I had NO private time at all
>tried to dump him several times, always got back together because he managed to make me feel guilty (I was really stupid and had no self esteem anyways)
>fighting everyday, he was getting more and more aggressive
>he started to drink everyday until he puked
>he was always crying, high as fuck, aggressive and disgusting
>barely cleans, only when he had good amphetamine
>he lost a bunch of teeth during that time because of the drugs
>didnt allow me to wear shorts or skirts anymore
>didnt allow me to see my male friends anymore (I have male friends only, even before I met HIM)
>refuses to get a job because he thought, selling drugs is enough "work"
>I got a part time job
>he still thinks I didnt need sleep at nights
>fights are getting worse… he screams at me and always comes really near to my face while doing it…when I tried to get some space between us he only comes closer…it was terrifying…
>constantly make me feel guilty to make sure I wouldnt leave
>I managed to get a second apartment
>had a big fight again, where he pushes me down to the ground and stuff like that…
>he tried to make me come back several times
>he still has stuff from me to that day
And that was the day I finally managed to get out of that hell. I will never get this 2 years of my life back. And I am still angry about myself for making that mistake.
And nowadays, my best friend of all time had become my partner! He treats me with respect and love.
Im sorry for the long text, I just needed to rant a bit since I felt connected with you anons after you shared your stories. Thanks for reading!
What is it about us women that we fell for such Idiots?
>15, very insecure and edgy
>start dating guy in my friend group who is very quiet and strange, when he does speak up it's something totally nonsensical and edgy. The kind of kid you wouldn't be surprised if he showed up to school with a gun one day.
>attracted to him bc low self esteem and I think he's ~mysterious~
>would randomly get really angry and yell at me for trivial things
>possessive, got upset if I didn't tell him everything I was doing at every point in the day
>before me, he also dated a mutual friend, we'll call her A
>one day he sends me a link to his tumblr
>full of lengthy and rather disturbing posts about how beautiful and angelic I am, and what a disgusting whore A is and how he regrets dating her
>claims A molested him (I'm close with A and even as a stupid 15 year old, I didn't believe this one bit)
>things like "I hate that bitch so fucking much, I could bring a knife to school one day and kill her, it would be so easy"
>even as a super edgy and immature kid I was like wtf, completely cut him out of my life once I saw that
>around this time A contacts me
>she has been struggling with depression and self-harm for a while and he knows this
>she sent me screenshots of dozens of messages he sent her on tumblr telling her to burn herself/kill herself
>become even firmer in my decision never to talk to him again
>at one point he sends me a creepy message, something about how I'm the love of his life and he's going to find a way to marry me
>a couple weeks go by
>someone on tumblr begins messaging me
>claims to be a woman in her 20s battling cancer, just looking for a friend to talk to
>seems sketchy, especially considering I don't ever get messages on tumblr but I'm stupid and go along with it
>talk to her for a couple weeks
>finally "she" comes out and reveals herself as my ex, talks about how stupid I am and how I'm just a pawn in the game or something insanely edgy like that
>still have screenshots from his old blog where he threatened to kill my friend
>show them to the school administration
>he gets expelled kek
We're both 21 now and last I heard he dropped out of high school, never got a job, just stays at home with his father who's similarly a crazy asshole. I have dated a couple other losers but none come close to this guy. It's all good though bc now I'm dating the /fa/ggot of my dreams. Farmers reading this, please, never settle for less than what you deserve.
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Tfw I'm the crazy ex gf
Went through this thread to check if I'd been written about. I'm safe for this time.
>me being 19
>met this guy who's a friend of a friend, he's 21
>he's cute and sweet, but also kind of ugly and awkward
>only saw him three times and I think he's funny and nice to talk to
>one day my friend, his friend and him went out partying
>we encorauge them to kiss (he and his friend), just a little peck and for fun, we're silly and joking
>they don't want to, it's strange but we don't think much about it
>later another friend of them comes with us
>he's the most creep weirdo I have ever met, obese, so ugly, just keeps staring at us without saying a word and makes this strange noise while breathing
>the only thing that says in all night was to my friend, bringing an ice cube to his mouth, slurping ''do you know where the bathroom is?''
>the first guy I was talking of (21 years old), crashes at my house because he lived in another town and there's no buses left
>when we're alone, he spends two hours straight talking about reptilians and illuminatis
>I can't talk because he's not paying attention, so he keeps going on and on about these strange theories
>we see the dawn and tells me he's bi
>when I'm trying to sleep (him being in another bed), he tells me he wants to kiss me
>I only kiss him once because I'm feeling kind of uncomfortable
>he starts talking about how much different he sees the world from other people, that he realised he had these kind of gift and that he knew it when he was a child
>he explains me that he was bullied because of it, because he saw things in another different way
>talks about how much he misses his girlfriend but turns out she was obsessed with him at the end
>starts telling me how his father beats him and his other siblings, specially his older one
>don't forget I've only seen him three times, not more than two hours everytime
>when we're cuddling he starts to tell me again that he's bi
>and that he's slept with not only his friend (first one) but with that weirdo that we met the same night
>that he had to tell the second one to stop because the weirdo was getting obsessed with him
>that they've been doing it for so long, he can't remember when it started
>I ask him if they were children when they started and what do they do
>He says he can't remember
Later he tried to contact me on FB and I tried to talk with him about other things to distract myself from that image but he just talked about unicorns (no kidding) and reptilians again so…Nope.
Necropost, hope you don't mind.
>Start dating an "indie game developer" who talks about making vidya all the time
>Move in with him with love in my eyes as I'm the creative type and I want to help him make games
>Ends up being the saddest sack of shit: being around my age, no job, no school, and can't be assed to do the simplest of chores
>Several times he would flip his shit if he didn't have clean clothes because I was the only one that did laundry - also didn't mind going for 1+ week wearing the same clothes tho
>Basic hygiene was unheard of as he had a distinct scent of cooked ramen noodles that had been left out for a week. One time had a dentist say he had "acidic saliva" meaning it would take longer for plaque to form on his teeth - he took this as a reason to not brush
>Masturbated 4+ times a day while I was gone working 10+ hour shifts so he could work on his "indie game"
>Also become an abusive pos, physically and mentally
>Would follow me around the house and would constantly escalate the situation - got onto me for the most stupid of shit ranging from "going for a walk" to "getting home from a 10 hour shift and immediately unloading the dishwasher without going into the room to say hi to him"
>One time actually stood up to him because his brother was there to witness him being shitty and he has the most major victim complex - oh boohoo she's yelling at me even though I do that all the time :'( :'(
>Would cry and beg for pity sex after abusing me
>Being his hygiene was non-existent, he was the cause of me getting several yeast/bacterial infections - my vagina has magically "cured" itself of its problem since I left
>Pissed in his trashcan in his bedroom once because he couldn't be bothered to walk 15 feet to use the bathroom. Ended up having to change the trash myself because it smelled so bad
>Was the "ideas guy" so didn't have an iota of actual talent to make an indie game
>When the other more talented members couldn't read his mind about what the fuck he wanted, he would yell at them, and then proceed to take it out on me (he called this "being a perfectionist")
>Would trash on my art or any input I would make - even if my art was crap, it was better having a rough concept for the more skilled artist to base work off of instead of just basing it off of his "ideas"
>Had to be absolutely babied in every aspect from cooking his dinner to trimming his mustache
>Ended up wanted a "poly relationship" with an equally shitty friend - couldn't respect the boundaries I agreed to and got mad that I got mad that he would fuck them behind my back (agreed to threesomes only basically)
>Stuck with him for almost five years (so left him at 24 years old)
>Got tired of being a mommy he could fuck/abuse so I left his ass
>Once he found out I was gone he attempted to use the OnStar on my car to track me down
>Couldn't drive so he couldn't reach me anyways lol
>Tried to get me to come back by threatening suicide and faking having cancer
>Three years later, he has yet to make his "indie game," probably pissing in Mt. Dew bottles, makes sad vagueposts about me on Twitter about how he "made many mistakes in the past," and still lives with his mom and will probably never have a gf again
>Hasn't changed despite claiming that "he changed" the very few moments prior to me leaving - most likely still shitty to anyone who tolerates him
>Have much better bf now, the only regret is I should have called my ex out on his manbaby behavior more lol
>Untreated/undiagnosed anxiety disorder
>i.e. low self-esteem, low sex drive, fear of sex
>Best I can come up with in my teenage brain is that I'm asexual
>Start looking for similar people online
>Make internet friends with 22 year old benzo-addicted high school drop-out who plays guitar in a metal band
>Have to pull up dictionary.com every time I talk to him because he uses so many words I don't understand
>I thought I was stupid
>Looking back he obviously used a thesaurus and half the time he legitimately didn't make sense
>Starts asking me to question my asexuality
>Tells me it's sad I've never orgasmed
>Encourages me to experiment with him
>When I finally learn how to, it's not the mind-blowing life-altering thing he told me it would be
>He says I might not be doing it right and need help
>I live in a very sheltered christian home, so I have no idea what's normal
>I turn 18
>Internet bf asks my dad if he can visit
>My dad is suspicious and has a long talk with me about it
>I tell my dad he's just a friend
>I'm personally uncomfortable with him visiting, but I don't know why
>Bf convinces me it's my anxiety and I'll grow from the visit
>He visits me with his dad because he can't even drive
>My parents are there for the meet-up
>Bf won't even look at me or give me as little as a handshake
>Probably has autism
>Pretends he's falling asleep while we talk at the dinner table because of the "long" 2 hour flight
>Falls asleep on our couch while I hang out with his dad
>Hang out with bf one-on-one later
>End up having my first kiss and first sexual experiences
>A lot of it hurts or feels gross to me
>Convinced I'm still doing it wrong
>Go to college
>Start coming out of my shell
>He pressures me every day to let him come visit me even though I'm still feeling weird about it
>Contacts my dad again to "ask permission" to visit
>I'm scared to tell my dad why I'm uncomfortable with the idea, say ok to bf visiting
>Meets up with my family
>Plays a guitar the whole time everyone is trying to talk
>I ask him to stop, and he gets offended
>Tells me the guitar is how he talks
>Meet him at a hotel room
>He tells me about how his only other sexual experiences were with a partially paralyzed girl with lyme disease
>Asks me to spend the night
>Gives me some melatonin that in retrospect definitely wasn't melatonin
>End up having another bad sexual experience
>Introduce him to my new friends
>He cries later about some joke I made that I can't remember to this day, but he claims it was made at his expense making him look like "a fool"
>Manage to avoid anymore sexual encounters for the rest of the trip
>After he leaves I talk to my therapist
>We've been talking about my self-esteem issues and she tells me to think about what he's doing to help them
>Realize he's not helping in the way he tells me that he is
>Break up with him
>He says no
>Emails me daily for months
>When I don't respond, he starts emailing my dad
>Sends me expensive gifts and stuff pretending we're still going to be together
>I don't even open them
>Acts mad at me later and tells my dad to send them back
That was 8 years ago. Haven't heard from him since, luckily, but one of our forum friends from back in the day emailed me about a year ago. Sounds like he's pretty much the same except he hasn't gotten another girl to talk to him since, so… this could honestly be a loser ex-girlfriend story because I clearly was a loser for being the only one dumb enough to get involved.
My ex had his foreskin and while I don’t mind the look of it, I had to make him go and wash before sex, which he thankfully did because the UTI’s were real. I was on prophylactic antibiotics for six months before I realized what the real problem was. He didn’t stink either. He was actually a clean person, but things changed pretty much immediately after I was like dude, you need to hop in the shower.
Do I wish I had seen this thread back then, wow.
Boyfriend did this on our first date. I let him know I didn’t like it. Did something similar one other time (flirting with a group of attractive girls while leaving me in the background) I told him if he wanted to see me again, he would respect me by introducing me to anyone he spoke to- especially other girls- and if he flirted with other women in such a blatant way again I’d be done. He immediately brought me back to the girls and introduced me as his gf.
Hasn’t been a problem since.
I think this is a way men try to impress each other. So they think they are being impressive to women they like too.
My idea is that they want us to try harder to impress them to be like whatever girls they think are hot. Its also a power trip to try and get a jealous rise out of us. I might as well start collecting topless photos of Chris Evans to show them right back until they cry "No I'm not gay!!" haha ok fag
Speaking of gay, its worse if they find out you're bi or les. They either want a threesome or want you to be one of the guys, but, surprise, girls dont look at random chicks online in our free time except maybe to masturbate to actual porn. Showing me pics of chicks on your phone is boring and no I wont fuck other chicks you think are hot.
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> tfw I was a sad immigrant and dated a good for nothing white guy when I was 18 and he was 24 and he just took advantage of me being innocent and clearly stupid.
I’m so glad I found someone perfect years later.
But holy shit that relationship was the fucking worst.
So many red flags
>living with his mom
>minimum wage at 24
>constantly put down women that thought they “where too good”
Not all guys show their true colours until much later on in the relationship. In fact, most people try to impress their SO at the beginning of the relationship, it's normal. It's just that some of them don't actually have anything to offer so when they grow bored and drop the charade you either put up with them, hoping it's just temporary and they'll change, or you dump them, depending on how strong your feelings are and how experienced you are.
I got dumped fairly recently (for the first time, actually) and I knew he was a bit of a prick but the things he did were small enough to be overlooked and he would usually act nice otherwise, until his bad behaviour started becoming more and more frequent and he'd end up saying really mean things to me. Then I started standing up for myself and telling him to treat me better, and he'd legit get upset that I didn't like being 'jokingly' called a bitch and told that I look and smell gross when I'm sick and sweating out a fever. He even made fun of me for being nice to him despite all that. Then he dumped me because we 'fight all the time' and he 'doesn't have the money' to see me anymore.
The only thing I regret is that he doesn't give two shits whilst I still miss him and feel like crying every day. I'd never get back together with him in a million years but it still hurts like hell and I want a hug so bad but at the same time I'm just grossed out by all men atm.
Mostly, you get presented with an idealized version of the person and know what they are capable of. You hold on wishing they would go back to how it was before, they do all the "wahhh I've changed" bullshit, and the cycle repeats. That, or you have waaaay older guys who dated young sheltered girls in this thread, so they were impressed with how ~mature~ the guys were before learning they were being preyed on.
I'd recommend looking up the cycle of abuse and it could help explain some things.
I like that the story continues escalating past the point you think it's gonna be winding down
I'm sure his marriage will go ~great~ since he's obviously a sex addict/porn addict/has issues with revenge
When I was 18 I meet a dude online, we started ok.
We saw each other a little, I was sad but tried to endure this thinking that was what I deserved, he maintain me shady and never talked about me with his friends.
I got annoyed and asked whats going on and he later ask me to be his girlfriend and since I didnt new anything about relationships I got pretty happy…
The truth was I was the side bitch, he had another girlfriend and when I confronted him about he keeps lying and when I saw a picture of him kissing another girl I send him to hell and he start to ´feel sick´and he fainted in the street and I felt guilty about it and keep in the relationship even it was a really shitty one and I was crying all the time thinking I was getting what I deserved…
He then ask me out and the day before we would meet up he stoped talking to me, not even answered my calls or texts, I called his home and they said me he didnt was there… I cried a lot.
A year comes by and he started to talk to me again trying to regain my trust.
I know what he wants, I keep fucking with him out of pure boredom and to get things (he gave me just one thing, a dress for my birthday) and later he again disappear…
He tried the same thing the following years but I didnt respond anymore. Now he follows me on tumblr…
i forgot to mention that a few months after the final dumping he randomly sent me a fallout 3 video on facebook as an icebreaker or something but i just blocked him, and like a year later i passed him in the street with one of my friends and he made a tweet about seeing his big ex with her new boyfriend (i checked to make sure he wasn't calling me names or anything). it's a lot of effort considering the actual relationship only lasted six months and he was the one who dumped me.
he also filled his deviantart with bad poetry about our breakup despite being a whole entire adult. i don't understand who would marry him when he's still the same at like 28
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I agree with everyone else that people tend to put their best foot forward at the start of relationships, but get darker as time goes on. Also the low self-esteem thing.
Not an ex-boyfriend story because we didn’t actually date but>meet guy in friend group>very intelligent and funny>take note of his views on relationships>seems like he has good values, has his head on straight etc.>he starts expressing romantic interest in me>go along with it>he’s sweet and nice>is interested in knowing more about me as a person>tries to console me about problems in my life even though I’m shit at venting>eventually he admits that he’s not interested in anything serious with me>thatsokayletsjustkeepthingsplatonicthen.jpg>”I agree.”>lashes out like a fuckboy when I stop entertaining his sexual advances>acts pissy and passive agressive towards me in general
Men are so dumb. Even when they’re smart, they’re really just dumb.>>76141>I'd never get back together with him in a million years but it still hurts like hell and I want a hug so bad but at the same time I'm just grossed out by all men atm.
It’s okay anon I understand your pain and feels. I’m here to virtually hug you.
so I've had 6 physical exes and 2 purely online ldr "relationships"
>be 15>be widely regarded as cute by male friends as this was before I gained weight, and I was the only girl in the group who played video games>make a lot of online friends too>specifically guys into gaming from america>have a couple american guys I game with regularly> one of them is, in hindsight, a complete perv, he was about 18-20 and nicknamed me Jailbait>anyway he had a friend on his friends list on FB who randomly messaged me some weirdly specific LOL or MtG images one day>I respond intrigued>he sends me paragraphs and paragraphs and paragraphs of deep ass creepily specific passionate text daily>as a teen from an abusive household I enjoy the really specific tunnel vision this guy has for me, I feel loved cause he puts me on a total pedestal>talk for years>he tries to solicit nudes from me>tells me he loves me>this guy is 7 years older than me– me being 15, he was like 22> he is completely fucking obsessed with me, sexts me with no invitation daily while I try to awkwardly change subject> sends me dick pics, pressures me for more nudes> at the time I didn't see it as pressure but in hindsight i was fucking 15 and if I didn't respond quickly enough to this guy he threatened to kill himself>would guilt me frequently saying he had to call suicide hotlines because of me>I blocked all contact numerous times but when he did message me again I fell into responding every time cause child me thought he could blackmail me with my own nudes and the vast info he knew on me from our convos> constantly spewed huge paragrpahs of how he loved me and wanted to fuck me barbarically in a rapey way like an animal and "fill [me] up with [his] seed so I would burst with his children"> while I'm about 16 he starts really guilting me for nudes i.e "I heard you got your nipples pierced and im seriously fucking depressed you havent shown me">he starts obsessively asking if I would be happy for him to come here to visit me>im like ummm no haha lol>he fucking loses his shit>Me, retarded child, I think I can scare him the fuck away by telling him im insane and suicidal and that im committed to a ward so i cant talk to him anymore>he latches onto this even more, I realise I fucked up >completely block him entirely
>be me, years later, think I'm 19 at this point>be in work at my full time, demanding job>get message on my lunch from girl I used to be friends with>she's like "hey, do you remember _____?">I immediately experience a wave of sheer panic like nothing I have ever experienced, say yes why>"Well he's been on my friends list for years and the past few days he's been messaging me constantly asking about you">Im fucking terrified, I repeat "no, please, just block him">she goes on to say he is asking for my workplace, my work number, how to contact me>now my anger kicks in - this guy is a fucking pedophile who used me like crazy - and she kept him on her friends list for years - and engaged in convo with him about this for a few days without telling me>I put my foot down and tell her to block him>she says he is sending her screenshots of convos he and I had for years, incl me pretending to be mental, nudes, personal info>she acts super nasty to me> queue me being like JESUS FUCKING CHRIST FUCKING BLOCK HIM AND STOP ENGAGING IN THIS FOR THE DIRT> she finally blocks him, I lose trust in her obvs>never speak to him again or hear from him>have nightmares about him regularly, worst anxiety and panic of my life was that period where he was messaging my friend. i have nightmares where i have wet the bed over this stupid shit
I wonder often if he solicited this shit from other girls. He often told me he imagined me when he railed his gf, who he also abused and withheld personal documents from to blackmail her into seeing him when she tried to leave.
I looked him up once since and he's been to court a few times not that I know what for. I hope he dies an awful, awful death and that he doesn't put any other girls through the mental bullshit he put me through
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Try beating this!
>low self-esteem, complete shut-in, extremely lonely (have literally NO friends)
>connect with this boy going to my school
>tells me he's into ddlg
>have no clue what it is so does a quick google search
>I'm obviously not interested in it but I'm extremely lonely and just go along with it because I wanted to be a "perfect girlfriend!"
>uncomfortably call him "daddy" and meow when he asks me
>be a cat for halloween for him (think: cat ears and generic pink heart collar every tumblr girl had in 2013)
It gets worse!
>a couple months go by and he ends up telling me that he wants to be the "little" in the relationship
>calls me "mommy" and makes me call him variations of "kitty", "kitten", "little one", etc.
>would unironically send me things like pic related
>would meow/purr/lick his hands LIKE A CAT, in PUBLIC
>I had to repeatedly tell him to stop before he finally stopped doing this
>would wear cat ears and collar in bed
>would tell me to give him "tummy rubs"
>had a porn tumblr account where he would post gifs/pics of women bizarrely violent bdsm scenarios and, in addition, cringy ddlg posts (why, why did I tolerate this? where was my self-respect?)
>I promise on our relationship that "I think it (ddlg) is cute!" (obvious lie)
>finally tell him months later that I don't enjoy it
>"b-but you promised on our relationship !!! I'm so hurt :( "
>apologize for some reason and agree to at least let him keep calling me "mommy"
>more months pass, and I tell him that I vehemently hate it and want it all to completely stop
>tries to guilt trip me but I don't give a fuck anymore
>break up with him months later because I became completely apathetic towards him and realized the complete faggot he was
There are many other reasons I left this person, but this was most certainly a contributing factor.
>>76378>There are many other reasons I left this person
Can you expand on these other reasons?
I grew up in the pre-internet age, so the idea of teenagers engaging incest roleplay is pretty insane to me. Maybe the evangelicals were right about internet porn, holy shit.
He mentioned a couple times quite irritably how it “wasn’t incest!” and it “wasn’t supposed to mimic a child-parent relationship!” but it was just “comforting” to him. Yeah…okay. Looking back I’m ashamed I let myself sink that low but I was unbearably lonely and wanted to please him. Teenage vulnerability is one hell of a drug. Maybe I wouldn’t have had to suffer that if Internet porn didn’t exist.
Other reasons I left him include:>early in the relationship he cheated on me with some edgelord girl he met on the Internet who ran a blog about being a ~sociopath~>unfunny, try hard sense of humor>autistic political rant posts on his social media that no one asked for>would never be able to understand sarcasm and would often take jokes literally>told me he had a lying/exaggerating problem. admitted to me he would lie and make up stories and also exaggerate his schizo symptoms to his therapist>because of that, I began to grow skeptical of all the ~abuse~ stories he had told me about. I should I seen red flags when he told me BOTH of his female exes happened to be horribly abusive (and this kind of storytelling scares me as his ex). And his stepdad too!>outdated Justin Bieber haircut>was very effeminate, which was unattractive to me>lost all physical and mental attraction to him
Some of these may seem nitpicky but all of these in amalgamation with the ddlg trauma sealed the deal.
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I wish I had a logical answer, anon
Update: yesterday I found out he was into that MGTOW crap. Which, in hindsight, makes sense, I didn't even realise that I'd been negged the whole time until I rewound the film a bit. I just didn't expect that I'd find a guy like that in the wild.
I'm actually glad I dodged that bullet.
I don't think I'm going to approach any guys and openly tell them I like them anymore, all it seems to do is attract insecure losers who want an ego boost and free sex before dumping me when they get bored of playing boyfriend and treating me like shit in the meantime. I don't even put out until like months in, idgi. I don't even have that much relationship experience but this feels like a lifetime's worth, Christ.
The only problem is I'm practically invisible irl and people simply never talk to me if they don't need to, even though I'm relatively friendly. But idk where to meet decent guys online, I'm avoiding dating apps and chan boards.
I love this thread because I have dated WAY too many manchilds and losers. I won't post them all, but the boy that made me hard delete Tinder is worth talking about:
>Gets my heart broken and in super sulk mode for months.
>Friend recommends I get sum dick on Tinder to get my mind off ex boyfriend.
>Download app, meet a guy my age who lives a town over.
>He's cute, let's meet tomorrow.
>Meet up, have an awesome night just talking. I can dig this.
>Tell him I'm in no place to date. He isn't either? Awesome!
>I'm sober from alcohol at this point. He drinks, but doesn't do it around me out of respect.
>He lives with his grandparents, so he stays over at my house when we hang.
>We're out one day. Stop at a gas station to get oil for my shit car. The cashier tells me they don't have funnels and manchild full on spergs out on the dude. Tells the cashier to go fuck himself for not having FUNNELS.
>I finally calm him down, but not feeling too fond of him after this.
>He slowly begins moving his stuff into my house. At first, NBD because I understand the need for your own toothbrush. But then my closet slowly becomes overwhelmed with his clothes.
>He completely blows off friends to hang out with me. I tell him this is not okay, so he goes out.
>Calls me a few hours later begging to be picked up.
>I pick him up and he's WASTED.
>Completely denies it to my face. I didn't care if he drank, but around me is a no no. We had discussed my sobriety, so I'm ultra disrespected.
>He sleeps over since he's drunk and I'm too exhausted to drive him home.
>Next day I tell him I can't do it anymore.
>He's understanding, so I go on with my life without him.
>Get a bunch of texts the following week flipping out on me for being so cold hearted.
>I apologize and explain why I can't do it AGAIN.
>He goes into full on drama mode. Says he is going to rehab because I made him relapse on alcohol.
>Tell him to take care of himself because I can't do it for him.
>Block him on everything I possibly can.
I haven't heard from him since that flip out THANKFULLY. I hope he took care of himself, because I'm not no grown man's mother.
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He’s still single, since we broke up relatively recently. He comments unfunny/tryhard “jokes” on my female friend’s (that I introduced him to) profile, as if she were his buddy, or something (to my knowledge they barely know eachother, maybe I’m wrong). He’s always been bad at understanding social cues and I usually had to spell things out to him because he couldn’t make logical inferences. I’m tempted to reply “you’re trying too hard” but I’ve restrained myself. I seem to hate him more and more everyday when I look at our relationship in retrospect.
I also somehow forgot to mention that he had a foot fetish. That’s not nearly as bad as the DDLG thing but I always felt uncomfortable going without shoes/socks lol.
I can’t believe I even took the effort to debate leaving him. I’m so glad I did.
anon are you me? same here, he was the yellow fever version of a Muslim fetishist and as soon as he got her accidentally pregnant he tried to crawl back to me and would send really dirty texts despite us being broken up
Honestly what a train wreck
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>>76575>>we have burgers and watch bee movie>in his 30s
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>>76575>gives me candy flavoured vodka which he shows me how to make
pretty decent>we watch bee movie and fuck
Ya like Jazz?
Hahaha but seriously, I'm pretty old. We watched it before it was a meme. Reading over it again, it's pretty funny.
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I lol'd at the part with the bionicle toys. Then it got dark fast, fuck that dude.
Here's mine>meet guy at party>he's hot, wealthy, charming, etc.>we hit it off and date>he eventually starts making disparaging comments about minorities masked as jokes>doesn't even listen to music, only listens to atheist vs. religious debates all day>obsessed with dismantling Islam >would go to a different country for weeks without saying goodbye because goodbye's are "hard">became more volatile and angry >was a garbage photographer and used that as a means to approach girls in public with me and offer to take their photos>moved in with me and paid for his accommodation with FOOD even though he was a literal millionaire>get drunk one night and realize I'm tired of fighting with his smug, militant atheist ass and kick him out my place, ending it.>move onto better guy I've been with for years now >check up on him once in a while and he's a huge Trump supporter with no friends or gf posting batshit alt-right shit>pic related as it's 100% him touting about muh high IQ
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Lolcow is for both men and women
Can confirm bargaining like this.
Even some of the most wealthiest men hate parting with money but still want you to suck their peens.
They'll spend thousands on game consoles and cars and setups but argue that 300 dollars is too much for an outcall singular blowjob from a woman half their age and wayyy out of their league in looks.
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Ty anon, I needed that.
oops, i only just saw this!
basically i'd either immediately end the conversation (due to being too squicked out to continue it) or say "please do not do this ever again". he took the hint after a while but still did things like send me photos of his vomit in a bucket when he wanted to cancel plans due to illness. i have no idea how a person could take any of those pictures and then not only think "awesome, let's save that one" but then also think "oh and i clearly need to send it to my girlfriend"
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Oh boy. I relate to everything to what you just said. We hung out on NYE and he said that he would think about a relationship, but said he couldn't do it because he was "busy".
See him a month later at the art gallery with a chubby, tatted Asian girl. Hmmm. What a life. Thankfully, I found a genuinely nice boy who adores me for who I am, scars and all.
Hey, original anon, and not >>77781
, but she's right. I wasn't looking at all, actually. I was happy being single, but we somehow crashed into each other. That being said, I'm a bit fucked in the head, so who knows if it'll last? I hope it does. tfw "high functioning bpd"
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I thought this thread would boost my confidence, but I started reading, noticed patterns, and
>That feel when you're the loser ex
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>i was 16, had lots of issues with my parents, didn't get hugged enough as a toddler, etc. generally just craved affection to a disgusting degree.
>we get this 24 year old former fat frat dude as a new coworker at my quant little bookstore job.
>a couple months after he gets hired, i turn 17.
>he's my favorite coworker. he talks to me like an actual human being, considering he's the coworker that's closest to my age range. i eat that shit right up.
>around August he and his gf break up
>towards the end of this month/early September, i asked him to drive me home. he had recently gotten a kitten and knew how much i loved animals and invited me over. we made out at his house.
>he feels guilty, tells his roommate.
>apparently he didn't feel guilty for long because the next week or so he took my virginity.
>we keep up a fwb relationship that i didn't know was fwb, and so i promptly fall in love very quickly.
>i'd recently moved into my grandparents' house that was closer to my work and his house after a huge fight with my father.
>we keep fucking around all the time; at work, at his house, it didn't matter.
>right around his birthday, just after christmas, he breaks up with me.
>i was devastated.
>still had to work with him.
>valentine's rolls around and he confides in me via text after work that he's heartbroken, he just got broken up with, etc. etc.
>i lose my shit, asking him how the fuck he can fall in love with someone in a month, etc etc
>he says "it's possible"
>march or so rolls around.
>we decide to start fucking again.
>one time we're fucking after work on the couch. i ask him to kiss me. he refuses, says he just wants to cum.
>in the car he tells me he feels bad about fucking me because he doesn't love me.
>drops me off at my house.
>texts me when i get inside to ask if i'm crying or anything.
>proceeds to continue using me as a personal cumrag.
>he gets a different job in May.
>we continue fucking even though he's switched jobs.
>June rolls around. my 18th is this month. i've been counting down to this birthday because he's been promising me we'll try to be together when i turn 18.
>a week before my 18th, he breaks up with me.
>i'm so distraught that i confide in my 2 now-favorite coworkers.
>one had a feeling he was messing around with me.
>the other one tells me he'd had a girlfriend that entire time, back in the next state over.
>i ended up going complete BPD stereotype and obsessively texting him long, angry rants every day about what an abuser he is, etc. while also having found his girlfriend's facebook and keeping it to myself.
>he ends up moving back over to his home state, where his girlfriend lives.
>he and i wind up making up a few months later.
>he and his gf break up after he calls her a cunt.
>we start having phone sex pretty much nightly.
>that randomly stops, but we remain friends.
>then a few months later he calls me, drunk, crying, saying she won't talk to him because she thinks he's pregnant.
>i find her facebook again and message her telling her everything he ever did to me.
>she reads it, never replies.
>they get back together shortly thereafter.
>at 19, i have moved on to a man that truly loves me.
>frat guy from when i was 17 and i ended up making up again and remaining friends until recently, when we finally decided that, after almost 3 years of this, it's time to let each other go.
>>77965>you 16>he 24>you now 19>he 27
You will realize later on that this guy is a bit of a pedo. It's difficult to see until you are 24+ and you wouldn't touch a 16 year old yourself.
He seems creepy and rude.
You hit the nail on the head. There was one time during an argument after I'd messaged his girlfriend that I actually told him he was lucky that, despite her anger at him, she hadn't called him a pedophile.
I also left out that I'd found his Reddit (he used the same username across all SMs) shortly before he replied to a thread of someone asking "How to get over a breakup?" with:
>"Work out. Don't fuck your crazy fuckbuddy. Confide in friends. Don't fuck your crazy fuckbuddy. Focus on your job. DON'T FUCK YOUR CRAZY FUCKBUDDY. Eat healthier. DON'T FUCK YOUR CRAZY FUCKBUDDY." etc>And when the OP replied with, "What's the story with this crazy fuckbuddy and why shouldn't I fuck her?" >I replied first and said, "You shouldn't fuck her because she's underage. But if you do decide to fuck her, make sure you've got a job lined up in the next state over under your actual girlfriend's daddy's thumb so that you can skip town when you break things off.">24 year old frat dude deleted his Reddit account the next day. He'd had too much information about his location/name-dropped the bookstore we'd worked at on there. Someone easily could have found out exactly who he was and gotten him arrested. Which is actually what I was hoping would happen at the time.
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What a little shit. I'm kekking so hard over the mental image of his penis basically receding into his abdominal cavity after you busted him. You go, girl. Fucker must have peed himself.
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the comments wouldn’t be on the original post anymore since he deleted his reddit account. luckily i took a shitty picture of my monitor at the time just before I posted my response.
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Wait. Apparently I took 2 pictures of Munich monitor at that time. Pic related is the full comment.
Good. Thats a big red flag for someone being an entitled little fuck with no discipline.
And literally no excuse for having his mother do his laundry, top manchild material.
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Obviously I had to look up the username and I see this "How can I check to see if there's a warrant for my arrest"
Was about something else but the concept obviously was preying on his mind
Apologies for looking up your shitty ex. His writing style+shiftiness (based on the other two threads I found) reminds me of someone who made me miserable for years…the planet would be better without the "I can ruin your life but it's all fun and games" type of guy i.e this
No problem, I figured he still had a thread or two out there somewhere. He was most definitely the “i’m gonna ruin your life by leaving and coming back multiple times over years
” type of emotional abuser.
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Not gonna tell the story in a chronological way, but most stupid and cringey things he did for the kek's. It still is hard for me, I'm still very ashamed, but at least I can laugh a little.
>be me, be 16 years old studying at a public school, never got closer to a boy less than 1m, no one ever had romantic interest in me
>except the time I "dated" a boy for three days in middle school but that's for another post
>blah blah lonely girl with a low self-steem, whoever came in I would see as a prince
>meet this guy in high school who lived across the town, started talk to him cuz he had beautiful, long black hair, altough he was fat and ugly
>guy is 19 at the time, his dad had drug issues and his mother wasn't friendly
>we became friends and at first he seemed like a cool dude, even if he was always saying he wouldn't ever date me for w/e reasons. I saw that as a challenge (dumb as fuck) and we decided to start a relationship
>not really a date because my parents were very conservative and didn't let me date nobody
>anyway, during out "thing", he still bragged about not wanting to be boyfriend, but acted doing everything a (bad) boyfriend does, for example:
>groping me everytime, even with me asking him to stop, he stopped for 2 minutes then would proceed to do it again
>kissing me in innapropriate times
>trying to do sexy stuff, like biting my ear, but always ended up biting it like a piece of bacon and hurting me
>when we went out for lunch, eated it like a pig and went mad when I asked him to calm down, multiple times
>yelled at me in public because "my" food eating problem
>would get real angry when I didn't want to hold hands with him (because his hands were sweaty and he was fucking clingy, I don't like much of physical contact)
>saying that he found my bff more attractive than me (not really wrong to think of that, but he could just have stayed quiet, idk)
>wanting me to meet all of his friends to show me off, but didn't had any real friends, almost no one liked him
>used the SAME clothes EVERYDAY. EVERY. FUCKING. DAY.
>strong chuunibyou vibes coming from him
>was getting more and more NEET and neckbeard everyday, slowly stopped studying to his final exams to dedicate completely to me, regardless knowing I didn't want his attention all of the fucking time, I really needed more time alone, but he was becoming more clingy too
>at this point we were already dating (without consent of my parents), I basically told him if we didn't real date I would get out
>really took me for granted, started to care even less for his appearance, got fatter
>was a commie
>one day he dressed as an akatsuki member and started running like Naruto at a mall (I wasn't there) with his retarded "friends" and thought I would find this very funny
>wanted to ride the bus with me everyday, I didn't want him to come, because he always wanted me to make out with him at the bus, which I find very disgusting
>btw we were togheter for about 5~6 months, till I got bored of his bullshit
>one day he calls me at 1a.m. and we have a fight through skype, call went for, like, 2 hours and he wouldn't let me hang up, was trying to convince me to not break up with him, never knew how to accept "no" as an answer
>I finally hang up and decide to meet him at the school (summer vacancy) next day
>next day I get to school and tell him i wanted to break up
>he repplied "yeah I want it too"
>then proceeds to not let me talk, tries to keep me sitting there, while talking about profesional rules to eight ball games and bets (I shit you not), thinking I was impressed with his majestic knowledge
>I get pissed, say I'm breaking up with him
>I try to leave
>he won't let me go away
>I was very naive, and afraid he would hurt me physically because he lately was showing too much red flags about violent behaviour. He forced me to stay there with him for at least one hour, I just stayed quiet while he forced me to hug him and kiss him even though we weren't dating anymore
>see a chance to get up and walk away fast, do it and he tries to get me but I push him away and leave safely. He started crying
>he keep sending me photos of his cat via messenger, but I didn't repplied anymore and blocked him on every social media
>he remains quiet for a bit, until school started again and he started to bother my friends asking them where I was, if he still had chances with me and other bullshits like that
>months later starts to pursuing me in school, i ran off to outside the building, he goes after me and only stops when I enter a random store with a security
Btw there is probably more of his shenanigans if I dig deep enough into my memories. At the time, I couldn't do more than tell my big brother about it, public (same place is college AND high school) school will do nothing about and I couldn't tell the police because I didn't want to tell my parents about any of this, basically went through this alone untill finally tell my brother. Parents would ground me forever.
I'm now 17 and dating a really nice boy with parents consent and blessing. My ex goes to uni at the same school as I'm still doing high school. Looks at me and bf angry everytime he sees us together.
Sorry for lame english.
cringe. reminds me of my story for some reason. Honestly guys like this makes me traumatised.
>At the time I'm 17>People joke that I have a few pychopathic personality traits, seem like I think I'm better that everyone, that I look intimidating and that I generally seem like a person you don't want to be a friend with.>Cringy boy that likes Jessica Nigri Cosplay, anime and hard core porn, digs up the courage to talk to me after he has had a crush on me for several years>''Anon.. You're the most beautiful girl I have ever seen in my life. I know you're warm on the inside. I can feel it!''>Sings my Bday sond out loud in school>He says I love you to days into knowing me>For some reason I spend time with him, probably cause I was drinking every day at the time and that made my judgement horrible.>He always eats shit, and drink soda. Never even seen him touch a glass of water.>Asks a lot of things about my ex, such as height, age, looks etc>Gets mad and jealous when I mentioned how tall and good looking he was, and that he was older than himself>Randomly he asks if we can have sex, asks which sexual stuff I've done, and then he basically assulted my neck when I said no so many times and tried to fight him off>Keep in mind, he knew very well that I hate the thought of having sex>He also makes incel-tier jokes about women.>He goes around and tells everyone that we're uwu bf and gf>Tells everyone how we'll live together and how he wants kids with me>Tells everyone how we might or might not have had sex>He keeps trying to make me 'happy' by telling me how I'm actually really soft and beautiful on the inside. And that I'm a good person, like I didn't know that already.>I have a personal issue with a family member, and tell him. I don't even fucking know why.>He then threatens to tell my family member, because he wants to keep me ~safe~>I tell him to fuck off and 'break up' with him a few days later>He then goes on a three months heartbreak depression>Randomly he messages me, asks me if we can hang out>''No. Why would you want to hang out?'' lol>He gets angry and says ''whatever, I got a gf'' in an attempt to make me jealous.>I write back with ''Okay, good luck.''
And that was the last conversation.
This is the reason why I can't deal with guys under 25. Majority are like retarded kids that can't take a hint. And if they're a virgin, they're always so desperate to get laid. I am so traumatised by this cringe, that I don't know if I can ever be physically close to a man for the rest of my life
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I've been hesitant about posting, but here goes the break-up story.
>this fucker still at age 24 has his mom do his taxes
>never wants to go out because basement dweller
>doesn't like physical contact because probably autist
>still hangs out with trailer-tier friends even though he complains about them all the time
>I get a difficult job that has me working 10-12hr days
>he skips work everyday cause he could
>complains about having to pick me up from work
>spends his days alone, thinking about the upcoming marriage
>he starts to get angry at me for little things
>tells me that he wants to have a relationships with other women
>tells me that he still wants to be with me
>heartbroken me says sure
>he sets up tinder
>flirts with tinder women constantly while I'm at work
>I try to do tinder too but I delete it the next day
>says he has a date
>I cry long and hard
>we decide to break up
>coincidentally it's on my last day of work
>I'm by myself, ask him to pick me up
>I ask him how it went
>he ate tacos with her and talked for two hours
>I get upset
>he gets angry that I'm upset
>I run out of the car and try to kill myself in traffic
>Fast forward a few months
>we get back together because love™
>he decides to go to Burning Man even with all this shit going on
>beg him not to, he says no
>tells me his feelings about dating other women hasn't changed
>says letting me go would probably be a huge mistake he'd regret forever
>dumps me anyway
He's out there right now, probably still depressed no matter how many women he fucks. The worst thing is he probably still thinks he's right, that asshole.
I hope you have set some higher standards for yourself now, and please, unless you’re truly poly don’t agree to have ur deadbeat bf date other women
It’s wild what the fear of not wanting to lose someone will cause you to do butnim glad you’re realizing what is good for you and what isn’t!
Same goes for every girl in this thread, some of these stories are just horror…. sometimes all it takes is one shit boyfriend but some girls find themselves in a string of bad partners because they haven’t let themselves heal from the past.
Samefag, forgot to say, he tried to get me back by writing Wonderwall lyrics in a notebook page.
I'm so relieved for writing the story here, I feel like I'm not the only one who did bad choices, at the same time it's not our fault for not knowing where these relationships would lead to
>be 20 and freshly dropped out of college & in abusive household
>be on OkCupid like an idiot only looking for friends. someone finds my Tumblr and decides to message me there, asks me if I ever want to hang out and watch Cowboy Bebop
>me, lonely w no friends due to them always wanting to spend cash, agrees
>one of the first things he talks about is psychedelics, i brush it off bc i wanna watch some damn Cowboy Bebop
>his apartment is just one room, there's a loaf of moldy bread on the ground, a poster of Nicholas Cage on the wall, and a Tardis lamp
>room smells funky, but i ignore it bc i didn't wanna walk back home yet since it was wintertime
>he mentions he's in the local theatre cast & can get me in for free, also hints about the parties they throw afterwards
>second time we hang out it's show night. I get to see him flail around in a corset.
>afterwards we walk over to the party. there's tons of booze and weed.
>unexpectedly see a few close friends there. they ask me how i found out about these parties, i point over to new friend.
>i get a bit tipsy off vodka, suddenly i'm making out with the guy, everyone around us is cheering. we walk over to his apartment and cuddle, we fall asleep watching fucking Game Grumps playing Sonic 06
>he brings me over to that party house another day to show me off to his best friend. she's happy for us. she happens to have gotten a new girlfriend recently too.
>we start going on double dates together, everyone's always smoking weed. i start joining in.
>he starts making me pay for his Burger King. i find out he doesn't have a job and his mom is paying for his rent.
>his best friend is a freelance artist(jobless) too, she's basically forcing her gf to move in with her bc her mom is doing the same thing.
>one day i don't receive any texts from him, wait for him to reply 3 days later. "I was in jail this weekend." What'd you do? "I got caught shoplifting at Walmart".
>comfort him thinking it was because he needed food. later find out he stole a WiFi adapter for a computer he wants to "fix"
>Valentines rolls around. i give him a new computer mouse, he gives me a Super Mario Bros The Movie DVD and a steak. he admits to stealing the gifts from Walmart.
>his best friend talks about her and her gf did psychedelics and they fell in love, he starts getting ideas
>he made me pay for the drugs, i end up having a bad trip, i play it off as the best thing i've experienced
>life at home is getting worse, i keep hanging out with him to escape.
>we have sex for the first time, he blasts "I Just Had Sex" when we're done. realize the funky smell in his room is dried up cum on his futon and blankets, unwashed
>he ends up having to move back to his hometown bc his mom can't pay his rent anymore. makes me drive 45 minutes to visit him every weekend bc he has no license.
>he spends the night at my house for a few days, my parents yell at him when i'm gone at work for having rude manners and having poor hygiene.
>i start having to go to therapy due to the bad trip, i'm out of town for a month, my family members start asking me why he hasn't visited, i try to explain but they said it's not a good excuse
>we end up finding a couple super nice roommates to move in with. everyone's either homosexual or trans, except for me and him. i suddenly remember his best friend started identifying as genderfluid
>he starts talking about this "heckin' rad girl" on Tumblr he follows, also says he dreamed about being a "sexy dragon lady" the other night.
>in support of him bc i'm also going through a tough mental time
>he ends up getting a job as a cashier. does well for the first couple of weeks. we can pay bills and all that.
>suddenly he's buying individual Magic cards for $14
>starts going to work in week old shirts lifted from the ground, obviously wrinkly and collecting dust. he gets fired after 3 months
>my state of mental health is getting worse, i haven't eaten a full meal in 4 days, can't even down a small bowl of oatmeal. i have a panic attack at work. i quit.
>i move out to focus on bettering myself to work again.
>he starts texting me he wants to be poly because he's lonely. to no one's surprise, his best friend started doing the same thing.
>me, in a constant state of flight or fight due to mental illness, accepts everything.
>he's sending me photos of dragon girls every other night
>my best friend texts me the next week, he invited her over to play video games and he got them drunk and made out with her. me, like a dumbass: "we're poly it's ok" not realizing it was a concern.
>i go over to the apartment, he's wearing my clothes. he mentions he hasn't bathed in a week. there's a condom on the floor. i ask who was over, he shows me his new dildo.
>i start to cry and mention how i don't want our relationship to be non-monogamous anymore. he says we should breakup but stay friends
>i say how i'm permanently traumatized from taking psychedelics, he says he "talked to some guy" and said it's impossible
>i start taking my belongings home, he makes me show him every article of clothing i have before stowing it away to approve of me taking it or not.
>all of my bras, underwear, favorite shirts, and some jeans are his now. i'm not even touching my makeup because he was noticeably using it too.
I didn't have my "oh shit i was dating a trender" moment until a few months later, but man that was a shitshow of a year.
I'm definitely doing way better than him now. He's friends with other trenders and recently found out he's been friends with a few infamous-on-the-internet child sex offenders.
Well at that point I've moved in with him in another state, I basically am the only one actually working (and for a third of his pay) and doing all the housework, I've just finished up a 12 hour shift, he's broken up with me three months before the wedding and he had no problem going out with other women either with or without me. Also, I had no friends or family to reach out to.
Is it really so out there?
>Start talking to guy on tumblr
>have really similar interests
>like the same music, films, tv shows and games
>biggest difference is that he’s straight edge and i drink occasionally
>start joking about getting married straight away
>talk all day every day through texts
>skype all the time
>develop a huuuge crush on him
>constantly talk about how we want to meet up when we have the money and opportunity
>our conversations were always romantic, never just friendly
>he tells me how perfect i am and how he wants to spend the rest of his life with me
>he jokingly sets me as his fiancée on fb, i accept even though we never actually entered into a relationship
>8 months into knowing him, he removes me as his fiancée and is suddenly in a relationship with a girl in his town
>get pissed at him, mainly because he was obviously juggling her and me at the same time, feel bad for his girl because of the things he was saying to me when they were probably dating
>he says that he loves me but the distance is too much and that he still wants to remain friends
>we were never really friends dude
>we don’t talk for a year until he reaches out to me after his relationship ended
>tells me he still loves me, wants to make it work despite the distance
>i don’t have any romantic feelings for him anymore but tell him that i’m willing to see if they come back if we start talking again
>try for a while, realize that i don’t really like him, just like the attention and validation he’s giving me
>tell him it’s not gonna happen, but we can stay friends
>he removes me from all social media and proceeds to write 1000 emo posts on tumblr about how much he loves me and made the biggest mistake ever letting me go
>his followers harass me, telling me that i’m a cunt for breaking his heart and that i don’t deserve him
>he gets new girl obsessions but always goes back to talking about me every once in a while, as ”the one who got away”
>i get into a relationship, not an online one this time
>he sends anonymous asks saying that he misses me but hopes my bf treats me right
>about two years later
>he reblogs a selfie i posted, saying something like ”hope you’re doing good my old friend”
>check out his tumblr for the first time in forever
>he’s no longer straight edge, he drinks and takes pills pretty much every day
>besides that, haven’t changed a bit since i started talking to him when he was 16
>fucking dodged a bullet
>>81511>upset about getting rid of a cheating pig
You should be super glad he is out of your life girl. Usually lying cheating pigs don't let go and are dangerous to get rid of.
Here you are upset that you got rid of him so easily?
I am sure Ted Bundy was very nice to some people in his life. He was even married for 7 years, and he proposed.
Being occasionally nice and proposing to you is no reason for you to be hung up on him. You dodged a bullet. You can do better.
Do you love him or the idea of him and what he provided to your life?
thank you so much anon. I reached out to some friends and I'm feeling a lot better. I actually sent them that song as an icebreaker to how I'm feeling. I really appreciate the support. We're going to get lunch tomorrow and I'm shaking off the bad feeling. This is going to be such a long road.
Oh and as for pets, I'm keeping the dogs and his mom took the rest. He's a man-baby. I pay for the dog's food, vet visits and insurance, etc. We are both on the adoption papers but I know he wont claim them, and even if he did, everything I've read says that whoever supports them the most has a greater claim.
>date for six years, through highschool and some college
>get cheated on multiple times, always forgive him because you're a dumb kid and he's your first love
>work on college degree while he fucks about working min wage retail and playing video games
>work on multiple different hobbies (reading, gaming, gardening, writing, painting, etc) while he… plays video games
>get treated like shit by his loser stoner friends
>get broken up with in the middle of the night when he walks out, to never return
>all his friends attack because he lied and said you broke up with him
>find out he's in bed with someone else a month later
>he's spent a $100 on sex toys
>new girlfriend is covered in tattoos of cockroaches and has eight nose-piercings
>three months later he gets a nose and ear piercing from her
>breathe out in lucky escape
I'm honestly laughing. He looks ridiculous. He's a rich white boy and he's trying to be someone he's not. Its pathetic. Beyond pathetic. Now he's slumming it in the ghetto area of the city pretending to be ~alternative~ to excuse why he's going nowhere in life and has no ambitions or skills. He's going through a teenage rebellion phase at 23. I'm getting my degree and double minor, and getting hit on by grad students and people with actual careers. But I'm taking time for myself and not jumping in to a relationship. I've been mothering a loser for six years, I need a break from men until the novelty of my own company wears off. I'm just so fucking happy without him dragging me down.
I think I'm just starting to realise that my ex boyfriend was a dick, but I still desperately want to be with him again even now he's seeing a new girl. Idk if I'm just making the bad stuff sound worse in my head to trick myself into not wanting him anymore
I never had any complaints about him through the entire (year and a half) relationship, and this main one I only brought up about three times when the only friend I told about it thought I should be more serious. A few years before I started seeing my boyfriend I was sexually assaulted by another boy from my school. I kind of buried it when it happened and tried to ignore it but I had obvious issues with being touched etc after that and it took a while for me to work through that. Just as I was starting to get over it he leaked photos of me that I didn't even know he had to his friends at work. On one of my first actual dates with my bf he made a rape joke that hit really close to my situation, and whatever physical reaction I had was obvious enough that he apologised and asked if that was something to not talk about with me, I said it was and he left it at that. For the next month or two it was brought up a couple more times, one time with me saying it was that boy from school and another with me saying exactly what had happened. He cried a lot, was really protective for a while and said he didn't know how he could act around that boy anymore. Still, he frequently got mad at me for only doing anything sexual or kissing him 3 out of 5 times that he wanted and said it was because I didn't love him. He never made me do anything and seemed genuinely insecure but it felt harsh when I kept explaining that I couldn't even sit too close to people a year before, so it would take me a little while longer before I was completely comfortable.
At the time, my boyfriend worked in the same place as the other boy. They worked together, were seemingly casual friends, and my bf brought him up a couple of times. It made me uncomfortable but I pretty much ignored it because they were in the same year at school, were still working together after leaving school and had some things in common. I knew my bf wanted to quit that job and that that guy was one of the reasons why, but after leaving his job there they stayed friends. Goof friends, getting closer, going on nights out together and seeing each other a lot. Again I tried to ignore it to be the Cool Girlfriend who wasn't bothered by those things, even after he'd claimed he couldn't even look at that guy the same anymore.
In the last couple of months that we were together, my bf started lying to his family and saying he was with his friend when he was really with me, because his family didn't like me and loved his friend. Another note: his mum was very controlling and used to read his messages, and read messages from me about the assault and approached me about it with fake sympathy. So the family knew his friend had raped me when I was a teenager and still preferred him. When he went on a weekend away with the guy I eventually said that if he was going to see him then I didn't want to see or hear anything about him, because I didn't want him to talk about me. When he broke up with me he told me he just couldn't deal with being stuck between the two of us. He goes on nights out with his friend and the girl he's seeing now. Suppose it's better to be with a girl with less baggage.
I think I'm only starting to realise how horrible some of it made me feel. I hate that boy and I know he hasn't changed the way he treats other girls, and it always upset me that my boyfriend was obviously way closer than he ever admitted to being. They're close enough that he chose to be close to that boy over me when I was very clear about never making him make a choice. I just don't think I could ever say I loved someone but be best friends with someone who hurt them so much. He made me feel bad about other things and I'll never not suspect that he has BPD or something similar, but I really still love him. He simultaneously made me feel like I wasn't good enough for him and like I didn't care about him like he did about me and would leave at any minute for someone better. Definitely hurts to spend over a year assuring someone you definitely won't just leave and find someone else for them to then do just that and cut you out for not being good enough.
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Girl whenever you feel shitty and miss him just be happy you're not with a manchild that cries and lets his parents read his private messages, you're way better than a little crybaby like that!
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Dated this guy years ago in school, after a year we broke up, he was always a pretentious asshole and egelord about everything, became a really bitter person, "fuck normies" mentality, glamourised being a shut in weeb with no future, would constantly fuck me around and make me cry
fast forward eight or nine years, he contacts me again and wants to be friends and says he's changed, is such a ~nice guy~ now, etc
eventually try to have a thing again, lots of talks his end about how he's grown and changed and how he wants to make me happy for real this time, give him benefit of doubt and have this thing with him
he constantly lies about everything, goes out and gets shitfaced drunk but never tells me the whole truth and is a manwhore, leaves me drunk voicemails saying he's sorry and he wants to marry me and he sobertexts to say he doesn't appreciate me enough and should be better to me, admits he's been an absolute dick, admits he lies, admits he knows he's lucky to have me really and doesn't do enough about it
keeps happening every week, constantly lets me down, leaves me crying even though I know really that I deserve better and he's pretty ugly personality and appearance wise anyway, is an asshole when drunk, constantly
when he's horny I'm everything to him and I'm so special and uwu!!! shit
when he's being called out on his shit, he avoids me and is never sorry and twists it to his best friend who also talks to me and tells me his bullshit secretly
"I'm sorry, I know I don't appreciate you enough and I've been shitty to you, I wanna change for you, I love you so much"
and then goes to "yeah well you're not my mother I can do what I want" and a bunch of pathetic excuses about why it's my fault and how you know, he's just ~too chill~ and that he does things without thinking and I should be okay with it, always blames me for it
farmers, do me a favor and tell me every single reason why I need to love myself and let this fucker go instead of letting my lonely ass let him treat me like shit every week nonstop
He's clearly not changed and I deserve better
give me the reality
I know I deserve better and I've just lost a relative to cancer and I've been in a bad place so on top of it my self esteem is really low and I let this idiot do this to me and never know how to call it quits
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He's a lying sack of shit who will never in a million years treat you better than he does his dick, not because you are unworthy but because he from day one has been nothing but an oppurtunist. You're letting a vile ass alcoholised child run you over with weak excuses you know are lies as he gets to run off scott free cause he used enough words and you havent been able to pull the trigger
yet. There are dozens of him out there, doing the emotional equivalent of living paycheck to paycheck by stringing together promises of bettering themselves at the end of the cycle before repeating their mistakes all over again because they dont care
. Release him into the world and never look back, dont give him in the chance to sneak in for a third time. You are giving him too much when what he needs is constant rejection from "staceys" so he can stay the fuck inside and beat his meat in misery and leave Anons like you alone to deal with your shit. I hope you have friends to help you through the loss or to just socialise with you when you're lonely cause trust loneliness triumphs damaging mind, body and soul for the sake of subpar 'companionship' from degenerate fuckboys like him anyday.
Srry for the late reply but an anon in need is an anon I heed.
Thank you so much
I needed to hear that
I stood up to him and messaged him explaining why I'm done and I'm not looking back, I'm grateful for your words anon!
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>be oblivious to coworker who is obvious about how much he’s attracted to you
>make out on New Year’s Eve and make it the basis of a shaky at best relationship
>turn into “cool girl” to keep relationship afloat
>ignore your interests
>let him call you a slut/whore/mongloid and believe him every time he’s going to say he’ll change
>move into a shitty basement apartment three years in
>cope best you can with his shitty emotionally abusive alcoholism and wear out your friendships venting about it
>still stay with him when he signs a lease on a apartment that’s out of your budget with his coworker
>continue with move in spite of everyone and your own feelings telling you this will be awful
>watch his emotionally check out of relationship and spend time with coworker because “they’re a fragile csa survivor who needs me uwu”
>believe them when they tell you that you are crazy and selfish and how dare you need emotional support
>distract your new career and eventually get offered business trip halfway around the world
>he will not be happy for you and continue to be emotionally negligent and call you names
>gain 50+ pounds over the six years you’ve been together to this point
>finally explode after he fails to come home after a drunk night out
>he strangles you
>he lets his friends and family and coworkers believe you broke up while you still see each other
>he claims he will get help, you sign a lease on a new apartment
>he skips out on your 7th anniversary to spend time with roommate and throw a party
>he keeps seeing ex roommate “as a friend”
>he does not respect you or your boundaries
>he stops paying rent or for any household goods
>he breaks up with you via text on mother’s day
>he refuses to move out
>keeps up sexual relationship
>finally move out in December
>he doesn’t get that you don’t want to be friends six months later
And I’ve wasted all my twenties and I’m going to die alone tbh.
>>82982>finally explode after he fails to come home after a drunk night out>he strangles you >he skips out on your 7th anniversary to spend time with roommate and throw a party>he keeps seeing ex roommate “as a friend”
So much bad in this, at least you're free of him now Anon.
Can't imagine what a mess he'll be in ten years, based on past behavior.
fuck that dude.
you deserve so much better
you aren't selfish for wanting basic shit
that guys just a selfish asshole
Thanks anon. He’s a mess now tbh - I have his messages inbox FB on “ignore” and I get at least one (obviously drunk) message a week based on timeslines. The only reason I haven’t blocked him totally is so I can scroll up and remind myself of the dumpster fire I left behind. >>82998
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not too "loser"-ish, but he is a dumbass>be 17 fresh out of a "relationship" which was actually just this alt fuckboy using me>meet 4/10 guy through mutual friends, appearance didn't matter too much to me>I didn't go out much because I wasn't interested in dating>I was super depressed and lonely, and he was happy, talented, extroverted and funny and I needed that sort of positivity in my life >it started off so well, he took me on amazing dates etc>time passes and he grows distant, as in, he won't even respond to my questions>breaks up with me because he's going to be "busy">I literally treated him amazingly, he told me I did everything perfectly when he was breaking up with me>is still heartbroken over dumping me apparently, despite treating me pretty badly and being generally careless during our relationship >later his friend even admitted to not knowing why he broke it off with me>get to know his friend better>turns out ex is just an off-brand version of his friend, so most of the things I liked about ex was actually things he got off his friend>friend is a 7/10 >friend shows obvious interest in me>mfw
>be 19, not experienced with dating or relationships
>suddenly a 8/10 guy I´ve had mutual friends with for a while starts texting me
>a bit wary since I felt like he was a bit out of my league and he seemed very interested
>would give me a lot of attention and kept asking me when I could hang out with him
>gave in and started seeing him
>first meeting was a bit awkward; he acted very shy and I really had to work for the conversation to flow
>then we started drinking and suddenly he had to problem talking to me at all
>we continue to talk/hang out/sleep together for a while and him not talking to me while sober starts to become a real problem
>when we would hang out we would either watch a movie, have sex or play games, all in relative silence. I would continuously try to start a conversation by asking him random questions but apparently he couldn't be bothered
>I feel a bit weird dating someone when it´s literally impossible to get to know them
>I´m puzzled, since he seemed so interested in me via texts, but when we were actually together physically he didn't pay me much attention
>broke it off, he was butthurt
>he would tell all out mutuals that he had broken up with me, so now everyone is under the impression that I´m crushed
>he tries to make me jealous by showing up to places he knows I´m going to be with random girls, then texts me after saying he´s sorry that I had to see him with someone else
>I stopped responding to his texts after telling him that I´m not interested and him contacting me is a waste of time for both of us
>he seems to understand and I believe it´s all over
>then he starts messaging me asking if he can come over because he doesn't have anywhere to sleep
>Tell him that I have an assignment and that it´s not a good time (I knew he had lots of friends in the area so I wasn't worried about him having to sleep on the street. Also, not my problem)
>He comes over anyway and knocks on my door in the middle of the night
>I can hear him calling my name, saying that he knows I´m home
>I sit completely frozen for the rest of the night, scared that he might hear me if I move and demand me to let him in
>Gets a girlfriend a week later, moves in with her and I haven´t really heard from him since
>He´s her problem now
This is basically my situation what the fuck? We broke up almost a year ago.
Is this average in emotionally abusive relationships or something??
>be me, 14
>"ex" contacts me, tells me to go on blind date with friend who will be going to the same high school
>decline, but offer to introduce him into our friend group of future students
>things are fine
>suddenly mentions that he has MPD, and one personality is angry all the time
>Random mood swings make us hate him
>He likes me, am a tard so I start relationship
>Things are fine for a month
>He likes Joker and Harley, like me, but is a pleb about it
>Calls me "Harley Baby" and wears Joker makeup
>Starts becoming whiney little bitch and complaining about school friends
>Never talks about anything else, or asks about me
>Birthday coming up, am artist so I decide to make huge realistic portrait of Joker
>Friend being a tard
>He'd been ignoring me for a couple of weeks, leaving me on "read"
>Portrait looks really good, am proud
>Day of birthday, give it to him
>Pump it Up party, kek we are in the eighth grade
>Ignores me for sixth grade girl, "Sit next to Anon" "But I don't wanna sit next to Anon, I want to sit next to Sixth Grader"
>Tries to break up, but I block him because can't handle things yet
>Tard friend from group is secretly in love with me, tries to help him break up with me
>He ends up doing it
>Tells me about feelings for Sixth Grader during our whole relationship
>Tard Teenaged me hangs out with him and other tard friend with group THE NEXT DAY
>Tard me cuddles with him
>Keeps saying "Let's go fuck in bathroom, Anon"
>Meanwhile is harassing sixth grader to get with him
>Sixth grader messages me out of fear
>I am jealous, remembers Sixth Grader and I are both bi
>Asks Sixth Grader out
>We date for a week
>Pleb ex Joker bf gets mad
>Dates random girl because desperate
>Throughout freshman year if I so much as mentioned being in a relationship with him to anyone, he would message me "WTF?! HELLO?! Fucking respond!"
i have another one, this one's much longer so get popcorn I guess >Be me, now 15, a year later>Go to high school show>Friend of a new Tard Friend is there>Meet him>Is small, twink Asian>Eat that shit up with a spoon>Exchange Snapchats>Days later random boy finds my Instagram>Is him>Comments weird things on posts, like "cool" because he's a hipsterfag>Hit it off on Snapchat, is funny>Goes to one of my shows at school>Didn't actually see show>Confesses feefees for me that night>Eats that shit up with spoon>Is hipster-skatefag >Thinks he is photographer/film artist>Make joke that essentially is me calling him cute>"Why do you always do that Anon? You don't need to always compliment me">Was confused, was just one compliment and was being nice>Cried over retarded shit>Told me his preference in girls>Preference looked nothing like me>Tried to make things official, he makes fun of me>Cries again>Comes and sees me, is grateful because I live forty mins away>We kiss, laugh, have fun>Want to take picture with him>Freaks out, am sad>That night: "But anon I looked bad">Would start randomly leaving for periods at a time (a few days or so) because he was "depressed">Went on vacation for a month to different continent far away with a huge difference in time>Would stay up to call him>One night laughed about how he bullied girl from my school online, and everyone from my school thought it was funny>Shit rubbed me the wrong way so I called him out>Being really kind to me>Nearing the last bit of our relationship, still kind>Suddenly left again because "depressed" this is the fourth time>Wouldnt message me for days>Always canceled plans>"I smoked weed once or twice but it never hit me Anon" kek, lying to look cool as was stonerfag back in the day>One day was supposed to come see me>Randomly after taking my side for months he sided with tard friend who was bullying me online and starting rumors about me>"Maybe Tard Friend is right, Anon">"What does that mean?">"Idk Anon">Finally see him the same day after over a month of not>Extremely awkward, he's inches shorter than me so a child basically and conversation was forced>Kiss Sk8hipsterfag>Barely puts in effort to kiss back>"Kiss back dude">"I came all this way to see you, YOU do all the work Anon">Stop kissing, am rubbed the wrong way>Leave, and after that we dont text or talk for days, nearly a week>Getting ready to start new school in new area>Finally hear from him again a week before school starts >Long text breaking up with me saying I am "draining" and condescendingly saying I need to "get help">Blames him leaving for periods of time on me being "depressed" and "draining" despite being in a good mood every time he left, and him being the one who brought me down>After we talk about things I am distraught and severely hurt>He decides now is a good time to manipulate me>Got head injury during relationship, says he is going to "bash his head against a wall until he is severely brain damaged or dead">"Im telling brother">"He doesn't know you, Anon, who's he gonna trust? Me, or you?">Leaves for half an hour>Am freaking out, begging him to come back, thinking he harmed himself>"UWU Sorry Anon lolzzz was getting a haircut. Am fine now, kek">wtf.jpeg>Gaslights me for something>Imply it's his fault, because it is>"Good fucking night Anon">Am messaging him to forgive me>Wake up next day distraught but ready to go to orientation for new school which starts in less than a week, am nervous>Responds back saying he doesn't accept apology, basically being rude >Don't bother messaging him anymore>Start new school, enjoy it>Have stupid "spam account" he still followed>Mention I'm having good time on account>sk8hipsterfag comments "Good" passive aggressively>Cry my eyes out>Mom always mentioned how we wouldnt be together very long, doesn't see future, and "What if you meet someone at school Anon?" >Would get mad, but she was right>First week develop huge crush on boy >Like boy a lot for months>Friend goes behind back and asks him how he feels>Liked me the same amount for the same time>Is now the best boyfriend ever>Do not give a shit about sk8fag and wonder why I cared so much about Trash Tard in the first place>Now me, Happy Ending-Chan
>meet guy through internet
>he seems nice, is friends with some people I know
>he comes down to my city for a week
>I kinda like him and would like to give him a chance
>he takes this as his cue to get ultra clingy and obsessive and creepy
>I was too passive to say no, so we start dating
>he goes back home
>immediately, the messages start
>he sends me about 100 messages in the first hour, about how he misses me and and loves me and I'm the best thing to ever happen to him, I'm smarter than any girl he's ever talked to, every joke I make is super funny, any idea I have is so wonderful
>tell him to cool it
>he gets all mopey and guilt trippy and says something like, "People always bully me and try to tell me to hide who I really am"
>feel bad for this retarded fuck so I AM THE ONE TO APOLOGISE
>talk to him more, he casually mentions that he has fapped to loli before
>oh and he also said he was a diagnosed sociopath
>don't take this as my cue to leave, am retarded as well, but am now on high alert and am done with his shit
>he notices I'm messaging less so he starts bombarding me with more messages
>"How can you leave? This is the best thing to ever happen to me. You're the best thing I've ever met, you're a wonderful and amazing and beautiful human being and you're weird and kind and nobody has ever been this nice to me before"
>geee I wonder why
>I just straight up tell him, "the amount you message me creeps me out and I don't have time to respond to every message you send and it's overbearing, and frankly, you're discussing nonsense"
>he gets super offended
>starts ignoring me when I message him and being passive aggressive
>oh thank god lol
>then one day, I make a joke and call him lame because he just randomly brought up my breasts in the cheesiest and worst way possible, wasn't even related to our discussion
>he says I'm fucking lame and stupid
>I'm like ummm k?
>tell him to kick rocks and block him
>he messages me on his alternative account to tell me how he's talking to girls already and I am not that smart
>his friends list comprises of a lot of high school girls and random hot chicks he never met
>oh and did I mention he is a teacher?
>he gets a bunch of his female friends after me to message me and say I am a fat ugly bitch who they hope kills them selves, that I look like a man and I am stupid and mean
>a year later I am dating a nerd Chad, he's burly and hairy and life is good
>this creeper ex is still chatting up high school girls, talking himself up on twitter and his bio says he's a "solipsist nihilist"
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OH AND ALSO, the girl who defended him used the reason "he is always nice to me and he sends me stuff and money so he is clearly a nice and generous person" and this girl was 16. He was also obsessed with Japanese girls and would creep on any asian he saw. We were watching a movie and he thought it would be great to mention that this bitch is hot. Wtf. He hopes to move to Japan one day, where their cultural ideals towards teen girls are creepy and exploitative
>>89547>oh and did I mention he is a teacher?
anon what the fuck i thought this was like your high school boyfriend until i read that.
i had to go back and reread it in a grown man's voice instead of a cracking teenage voice and it's even more baffling. i think you handled it the best way anyone could.
Reading some of these stories makes me smfh, but has also encouraged me to share my loser ex story:
>be 16 never been in a relationship, only had sex like 3 times at this point. Has no confidence with men.
>guy pops up to you on fb because you met briefly at a mutual friends birthday party.
>22, likes pop punk, is a 'popular' guy, going to uni, has long-standing job in retail, hella attractive/tall.
>goes on dates, agrees to go out with him on the third.
>commence a years worth of fuckery.
>first try at this relationship lasts 3 months.
>In that 3 months he :whines at me to get him presents for his birthday, but 'forgets' when my birthday came before his.
>Full on screeches at me in front of his uni friends the one time I ask for some change for the bus home because now he couldnt buy popcorn for the movie they were seeing.
>Pressures me to dye my hair the colour of his ex's.
>Refuses to have sex/doing anything sexual to me unless I toss him off with my feet (funny story I asked what the weirdest kink he was into on a date, he said feet and I genuinely thought he was joking)
>Said hed come out for my 17th birthday, keeps messaging me saying he was on his way, never shows up. Turns out he couldnt be arsed making the 20 mile journey I have always made to see him and got drunk with his mates in his room.
>was sexually harassed/groped by some rando at the bus station, gets to his house and has a panic attack. He ignores me to play video games and tells him mum to essentially look after me.
>The night he breaks up with me the first time blames me for him falling behind at uni. I slept over at his house, he decides to wank while I was asleep and slap his spunk onto my face. This was after he broke up with me.
>Fast forward almost a year. Be me, having a messy break up with another, more sane ex.
>Guess who pops up on sc saying he misses me.
>We'll call him burgernips mcgee because his nipples were legit the size of big mac patties.
>This breakup had fucked me up bad. >So I became friendly with burgernips again, was frank that I didnt want to rush into a relationship.
>Bombards me with 'will u pls go out with me' and nudes the next couple of weeks. Says yes because I was a weak-willed bitch with no self-esteem and just wanted some deek.
>"It wont be like last time, I'll do better." words should be written on his tombstone tbh.
>2nd and last time I'm with him it lasts another 3 months.
>Waits until I turn 18 to ask for me to send him nudes. Remembers my birthday for that but on my actual birthday invites his friends to our date w/o even asking me. Promises to buy me a birthday gift, I point a comic book I liked and he buys it for himself. Doesnt get me anything.
>I get a full time job, suddenly expect me to pay for his weed/takeaways because I earn more even tho he wouldve sperged out at the idea of doing that for me in the past.
>Continues to sperg out at me for not seeing him due to work or if I wanted to see my bff who was pregnant with a very poorly baby/suffering from antenatal depression.
>His mum takes us to centre parcs for his birthday. The entire time we're there he screeches at his mum and makes us stay in and have takeaways.
>I witness this 23 year old, 6ft 5 inch man make his mother bathe him like a little baby in the bath, apparently she does this often.
>Tells me during a drinking game the most sexually fucked thing hes ever done is jack it over his cousins feet when she was asleep when they'd stay overnight at their grandmas house when they where kids/teenagers. >See's absolutely nothing wrong with it.
>I try to travel to his on xmas eve I dont make in time before all the buses stop. Guilt trips me like fuck over it when I had been getting ready since I finished work that day.
>Takes pictures of my from behind while we were having sex and the n shows his friends at a pub, only finds out because he pm'ed me saying his friend thought my bum was nice out of nowhere.
>Last time I was at his house he has a bitchfit over me wanting to go to a nye's party with people I hadnt seen in years. Nearly punches me in the face over it, when I call him out he pretends it didnt happen.
>"I dont like that you have guy friends." when he used to send nudes to this girl he was friends with for 'criticism'(shooping).
>Decide to break up with him on fb because we were arguing all the time at this point and I didnt think he was worth the 2 hour travel time + money.
>Has a massive be-all-end-all sperg fit, simultaneously blames me for his made up mh problems but then says I'm the only one who can 'save' him from them.
>Only stops after I block him.
>According to mutuals posts a few statuses about me being bitch and coward for doing over fb.
>Repeatedly attempts to contact me by making new fb/reactivates old fb acc's trying to talk to me, make me forgive him over the next 3-4years.
>Shows me he not only still has my nudes, but had all of his exes nudes saved onto his computer.
FUN FACT ROUND:
>I was his 14th gf since he was 17.
>3 months with me has still been his longest relationship, wanted to marry me because of it.
>Jacks off the ASMR vids.
>Had shitty scene kid tattoos he was really proud of.
>Would rather keyboard fight on fb to 14 y/o's on hardcore/beatdown pages than even come to the door to let me in on a few occasions.
>Has a full on man-child cave filled with anime figures, posters, plushies etc and bought more regularly yet was constantly broke.
>Doesnt know how to cook basic shit.
>Could not eat pussy for shit.
>Smokes weed and plays COD all day.
>Tfw u sign up for uni to do graphic design when your 'art' looks like Chris-chan drew it w/o hands, and you quit and blame your gf for dropping out of uni.
This was years ago, now I've been together with my current bf for 3 years, we both have jobs, live together and I'm off to uni soon Meanwhile all I know about him now is hes 26, still lives with his mum, neet, still tries to get his friends to add me on fb so he can snoop and his shoop skills have gotten better.
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>huge self esteem issues from abusive recent ex
>drinking a lot to get over said ex - to the point of alcoholism
>abusive ex’s best friend becomes my best friend
>looks exactly like Shaynastys Fupa - but bald
>has a large number of retarded and unrelated tattoos from Pokémon to angel wings
>beer barrel body
>spend the next few years off and on, not attracted to him but get off on having a man-slave
>dump his ass when I realize I deserve someone I’m attracted to and he deserves someone who actually likes him
>it’s been around 5 years since then
>he adds me on socials a couple times a year, I never respond or add him back
>oh and he’s homeless now apparently
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All of you complain about your ex for being a basement dwellers and never going out, but did you never asked them what they're doing in their free time before dating?
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>>63725>thread full of stories about scrots expecting women to support them financially>immediately attracts a scrot trying to project his shallow and parasitic inclinations on women>seeking nothing but sex and babies is somehow not materialistic but wanting a scrot to pull his own weight is
>>63725>All heterosexual relationships are prostitution, you're a prostitute, if he lost his job and told you he wasn't getting another one, you would leave him.
>thread full of stories of poor or jobless bfs who anons stayed with because they were sweet, hot, or their best friends
i love it. guys like this must see countless examples of women not exclusively dating men for money, but their delusional minds just shield them from processing it.
no matter how many times women date men with less than them, and no matter how many times women who do gold dig admit that it's either a sugaring situation or for survival, they still crave this idea that all women are attracted
to money in men and that it's not just something some broke or greedy women do to get by. i've never actually met a single woman who is straight up horny over a guy's job or paycheck, not even in the fetish thread. have you guys? if it exists it's so rare, yet these guys want to believe it's all or most women. why do you think they want to believe it? because they can't handle the idea of women being attracted to looks and personality and money is a more attainable goal for them?
>>62165>that one autist you depression-dated when you had no self esteem and then couldn't shake off, the lanklet dude who played xbox all day and couldn't hold down a job and forgot your birthday
Fuck, you already nailed it OP.
"Dated" for a month, then he dumped me WHILE AT THE HOSPITAL after having suicidal thoughts and planning to kill myself. In my loneliest time, he decides to do that. I'm not mad, but my god he is a tard, even for an actual Sperg.
This thread is a depressing read, nobody should be forced or expected to be in any kind of relationship with another person, if you don't like it you have every right and reason to just leave. The guys you all dated sound like they're on their way to the point of no return.
You liked them enough to either date or commit to a relationship at one point, they don't turn out to be as you expected and instead of doing the right thing and leaving, you stay and cite "pity" or "compassion" as your reasons.
However, the nice-girl attitude proves to be ineffective, they don't change, and then poof you start to hate them and hold year long grudges, as is apparent by what petty shit you have been spewing here. If you come across somebody who is helpless and socially/romantically inept, instead of succumbing to your "I have to be in a relationship" anxiety, simply leave before you develop hatred for people who don't know any better. Don't criticize and finally accept the truth that men automatically assume that women must be down with the way they are, when they're in a relationship with one. Quit leading people on and think before you get into a relationship, and not with your ovaries, learn to be alone and develop actual personalities and don't allow your compassion to have an on/off switch. You don't have the right to dehumanize anybody because you failed to assess them, your highness.
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>>89785>comes to a girl's image board>vent thread>offended at content of said vents
Well… some of us can't be helped I guess but something tells me it's the one who lacks reading comprehension and ability to understand context.
Everything depends on context, doesn't it? It's wrong to cheat, yet if you're cheated upon - it becomes alright, right? To act like a human being and just cut your losses even though it hurts would be too mature, and evil doers naturally deserve bad treatment, you're nice to people who are good to you, after all.
That all sounds extremely healthy, god forbid somebody called it petty and vain.
I'm sure you can empathize with some of those tragic people, and admit that misery attracts misery and female narcissism is a thing. Women don't tell you all there is to know about a situation in which they blame somebody, male or female, only what they need you to know to make sure you'd be on their side.
Try to get a female to name a single bad quality of hers, no humble-bragging.
No. It is never okay to cheat. I have never cheated and never will.
These women tried to work through problems they had in their relationships. I'm sure they weren't perfect. I am certainly not perfect. But women vent to one another to work through their feelings and emotions.
Back to /r9k/ with you so you can do the same, thanks.
I was humoring your context babble, principles being changeable depending on the context, defeats the purpose of having principles and really just means that you're an opportunist. Stop misinterpreting things so they fit your narrative.
I'm sorry but, I don't think you're mature enough to speak about a big chunk of society with an attitude like that. Most women I know realize if and when they have a fundamental difference with their partner and draw the right conclusion to end things, in a non toxic way. And when they do vent, they rarely turn into harpies and dehumanize people, they usually just cry because they feel they deserved better, but get back on their feet quickly and don't hold grudges.
I suppose it's different in the gutter where role-models are perceived to be the ones who can accumulate the largest amount of ill-mannered habits. >>89824
If you don't see yourself in those poor guys even if you're female, your opinion of yourself is way too high. Everybody has their limitations, most of these guys sound like they have serious issues and need help, not that they could be fixed or that it was the girl's job to fix them, no, they're 100% right in leaving, but they should take a moment to reflect on their own limitations, after all they can't identify damaged goods, and even after they do they refuse to accept it and part ways in a civil manner, they have the arrogance to want to change a person to suit their needs better and get furious that they fail, you can't discount this fundamental character flaw that some of the equally damaged girls have shared here.
Who said principles were changeable? They are not. Rules are rules. As I learned the hard way. I broke my rules and stuck around for a man who kept begging for me back until he had me so well trained I did it myself.
One even had the audacity to call me from his work phone three times after I blocked him when he broke up with me while I was at work. I'd been no contact with him for over a week. But yet he accuses me of being the one to not cut my losses. What about him? We both played the same game and we both lost. Why are you blaming only the woman?
Again, bro, you came to a vent space created specifically for women. /r9k/ is for you and contains relatively the same content but for men. Go there. You'll have fun I promise.
I will never break the rules again. I don't know about other women. But those are my rules.
You seem to have your difficulties with interpreting certain things. Nobody has an active role in who they turn out to be, neither do you. You don't have to be a rapist, mentally ill, severely jealous or whatever, to acknowledge that. Leaving isn't hard, and it's completely justified, but if you experienced how pathological they are first hand, you're a monster if your hatred outweighs your pity. Females can have aspergers too, by the way. >>89831
I'm sorry for what happened to you and I didn't say that the women are at fault, but neither are the men, it takes two. Your boyfriends have been as willing to mistreat you as you were willing to be mistreated, from what I've gathered you acted on the right impulse and decided you wouldn't let that happen anymore, that you were wrong, that you yourself have accepted blame. I really don't know, but it sounds like you owned up to your mistakes and can move on instead of "venting", or living in the past. I don't go on /r9k/, fyi.
Lol imagine reading this thread and then getting offended that these objectively terrible humans were described in unflattering terms>>89834
You seem to be suffering from "I can type a barely legible sentence therefore I am intelligent" syndrome, which seems to be an affliction of certain male posters online. Begone off this blatantly female board
Ironic you call the other anon a potential autist when I am the anon who is pretty much confirm autist.
That's why I'm telling you to go to /r9k/ so you can help your own. This is supposed to be a space for women to talk amongst themselves. Maybe this is how a lot of us have worked out our feelings and anger. And here you come to white knight for men you've never fucked or been intimately involved with.
>>89834>Nobody has an active role in who they turn out to be, neither do you. You don't have to be a rapist, mentally ill, severely jealous or whatever, to acknowledge that.
I'll give you mentally ill, but being a rapist and abusing/controlling your partner is a CHOICE. Men aren't devoid of the ability of controlling their behavior.>but if you experienced how pathological they are first hand, you're a monster if your hatred outweighs your pity.
The majority of people would be pretty angry at the fact they were abused or exploited. That's a common emotional reaction. Wtf is wrong with you? Women owe these men no sympathy.
Holy shit, sure. I'll go back to my own kind then, It's impossible to relate to people after all, one can only ever hope to understand sympathize with people who share your genitals. You're weird.
I'm sorry you feel that way but if no physical force was used, if you were not otherwise defenseless, you made a choice. You might disown that choice now and blame the other party, because that's comfortable, but that's not goin to help you in the long term.>>89836
Ah yes, the girls aren't as terrible, right? They just so pure, they only wanted to help from the very beginning. They weren't attracted to terrible, just trying to help. They don't have poor judgement, just biiiig hearts and loaaaaaads of empathy.
really, have this: :)>>89840
Of course you would feel excruciating pain after getting used, and of course they're right, in their mind to reciprocate, but it's really naive to think those men or women are "evil", in their heads it all makes sense.
Having a paranoid personality is also quite a challenge in itself. Also, let's not argue about "choice", I don't think anybody here, whether abused or the abuser made a choice, you're being dictated whether you'll abuse or be abused by your fucked up past, if you're here, you're already in that downwards spiral. You're not really healthy, could be, but it's more likely that the world will drag you down a bit more, that's the terrible truth. Learn to not take everything so seriously, just move on, might turn out to be more palatable than bitterness.
>>89842>I'll go back to my own kind then
Thanks and bye.
I don't understand why so many males think their input is needed everywhere they fucking go. Get some self awareness ffs.
Also doublepost, forgot to mention. Check how he holds the women and men in these situations to two completely different standards. >hurr it was your choice if you weren't defenseless but the behavior of abusive men is not their choice
No. I just don't see why you came here and expected anything else. I respect those who show me respect. Male or female. A sexist man will receive equally sexist treatment from me. And yes, I am weird or I wouldn't be on an image board. Same for you.
is correct. Your logic is equally hypocritical.
I wasn't serious as I don't think as my gender but first and foremost as myself and I consider the alternative kind of insulting, don't take it the wrong way but it doesn't take the Empress of Intellect&Femininity to understand, help, or otherwise interact with you. You're not that complex, a vagina doesn't make you special. >>89846
Well, I've heard A cups and micro penises get along well, let's be friends. >>89849
Are you sure you're not from Wizchan and on HRT? Stop accusing people who disagree with you of being abusive. The last part when i said "lets not talk about choice", was just me implying that i don't believe in actual choice, pre-determinism, etc, and when i said that she _did_ have a choice, i was merely correcting her, since she does believe in choice and if one believes in choice, one ALWAYS has a choice. Always, take some fucking control, grow some balls, and if you really do think that people have a choice, make one. Can't be that hard to STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. Moron.(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)
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>>89864>let me show you how i control your interactions with me, you're not getting any replies anymore.
I'm pissing myself, but I sure hope it's true this time, I've had enough of you, autistic sperg.
Oh no, I'm a poor little girl who just can't keep from giving her abuser the pleasure of tormenting her, just why am I so helpless??
But see dove, if I had stuck with it, it would have been over. That's what you do when you don't like something, you leave, you go. If you come back that just means you don't really want it to be over, and i really enjoy your stupidity. It's probably just your anxiety related to your A Cups, relax, those are fine too.
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>>89864>but to realize you're in a mess and not getting out?
You don't understand the concept of what an ex
-boyfriend is, do you? And he has the gall to call other people retards…>let me show you how i control your interactions with me, you're not getting any replies anymore
Oh thank God. He's leaving.
Many of these stories tell the story of girls going back and back again, often times with the intent of "changing" or "helping" them, sorry, they're not thinking primarily to better their "ex boyfriends"(Takes quite the moron still, even if it was just an "ex")
Much rather, in a bid to be the abuser/control freak. Go have your cherry popped and stop being so miserable, I'm sure someone would take your virginity and not actually stay around for you to get awkward about your autism around them.
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>>89869>let me show you how i control your interactions with me, you're not getting any replies anymore.
This aged so poorly.
Say, just my natural curiosity. If you're 23 like me and some 14 year old you treat like your sister sends you pornographic material of herself, even though you never asked implied or otherwise gave her such an Idea, would that make you an abuser? >>89870
I'm sorry girl, if your life is marked by one abusive relationship after the other there's just no real hope of ever getting out of that downwards spiral. Some people are born to suffer, best not to dwell and not to hold grudges. That's the message here. I'm not trying to be cruel, but some baggage sticks.
Yo troll, how you doing?
I'll take the bait. If you were a woman in the first place, you'd already know that there are many different types of women and some of us are the way you describe.
i spent my lunch break reading this thread and figured id share my shitty ex story
>be 15yr old me
>have a crush on a boy who looks like young kurt cobain
>young kurt cobains 19 yr old friend starts talking to me
>19 yr old (lets call him Sam) is kinda cute. Curly long black hair, tall, skinny, likes music seems sweet and i start talking lots
>he comes to my place to stay (i live 2 hours away. I paid for his ride)
>lose my virginity to him
>sam has no job. Less attractive irl. Wears no underwear, sweatpants and hoodie.
>was very rough during sex with his chodey penis
>hadto tell my parents that he had sex with me because i had contracted an sti. It was classex as statutory rape. They were furious
>continued through a miserable
2 years where my parents never spoke to me, made me dinner, or brought me things because of that, they hated sam
>started drinking at 16 with sam
>he would try have sex with me when i was drunk/asleep/passed out all the time
>never spent money on me. Drug addict. Had never had a job and dropped out of school at 15.
God this shits actually really hard to talk about
Basically, he abused me psychologically over a period of two years. I was unable to speak to anyone as i had no friends anymore
The last straw was something that hit so close to home. I found awful, disgusting, unspeakable pornography on his phone 3 times. On the third time i tried to kill my self. I still cant get those disgusting pictures out my head. I broke up with him on new years eve after i found out he cheated on me over 15 times :L wrecked my teenage years lol
This is what I got myself into 2 years ago
> be 19, depressed and w/ dependency issues due to shitty previous ex
> meet dude on a oldschool runescape discord
> his biggest gag is that he pretends to be black in voicechat all the time
> votes trump cause “hillary is a criminal” unironically says shit like “all lives matter” i’m eurofag so i don’t care
> he flirts on snapchat we exchange nudes and start sexting
> start talking every day eventually over a few months progressing into videochat basically whenever we can
> he’s unemployed and goes to uni like 2 days a week
> he gets mad when i wanna watch netflix on my own or otherwise be online without skyping him
> he’s horny literally 24/7, refuses to watch porn or get off by himself when im not in the mood
> literally can take up to 2 hrs to get off constantly, we have a time diff so i fake falling asleep basically every night
> pissed when i spend time with friends, family
> pissed when he can’t cheer me up when my grandpa dies, i just want some time alone, get guilt tripped instead
>always so fucking passive aggressive
> he makes money from rocket league boosting, he flies out to me and visits me and i pay half of airplane tickets and everything else
> sex irl is even worse, he’s got a gigantic dick but hates foreplay and makes me feel shitty about not getting wet fast enough and not enjoying 2 hr+ sex multiple times a day
> refuses to go down on me, expects me to blow him
> thinks hitting cervix is hot, convinced i just need to get used to the pain (???? NO)
> sweats SO MUCH so fucking unattractive
> my friends clearly hate him
> doesnt wanna go out and do shit even after i buy tickets to stuff
> i break up a few weeks after he’s back home
> we stay “friends” which evolves into sending nudes still while i get drunk or high
> one day i plan my suicide get into fight with him beforehand he tells my irl friend i’m suicidal (i saw the convo and he’s 100% just talking trash)
> i dont kms cause my friend hits me up irl and cut him out completely
> i get out of the house again and into therapy much happier
> other ppl from that discord tell me he keeps hitting up e girls and getting mad when they dont send him nudes
> calls girls sluts and whores in public chat constantly
> got even chubbier
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My ex-bf was my best friend but then became a total asshole. That's always how it goes, right?
>Was dating his friend originally who was emotionally abusive, controlling, and had issues.
>Left him for the now ex-bf of this story
>Funny, both exes were Asian and totally insecure in their masculinity because short w/ small dicks
>Guy had a pizza face but a good heart (I thought)
>Had an obvious crush on me since we met but never liked him
>Fell for his personality which made him cuter
>He was a 22 yr old virgin. Fixed that. Taught him how to do EVERYTHING because he didn't know shit.
>Going through the worst point in my life, have to transfer for a year to a further college for specific classes
>Start hearing from him less and less
>2-3 months into the semester, he's apparently now dating some albino chick we were mutually friends with
>She was a virgin and he actually told me about them grinding up on each other in her dorm room, disgusting
>Tell her the story, she says he told her "what really happened" and says it's "better this way" and "just drop it"
>Apparently he told all our mutually friends I was a psycho girlfriend (lies) and basically lost my entire friend group while I was away for school
>RAs would find me crying at 2am wondering the dorms because I was aching with loneliness, could barely sleep
>Luckily I met my current bf at this other school so it all worked out. But yikes, my ex was a nightmare.
Bonus: This asshole had a weirdly bent dick. Like when he was hard, it still pointed down. Like a faucet head. Weird.
>>90214>oldschool runescape discord
oh wow anon
please never date men who play OSRS unless they're God Ash himself
i am 23 have only had 2 relationships. my first boyfriend was my best guy friend from high school who coerced me into dating him. he is a terrible person and i wrote a long ass list about him in the red flags thread. i was devastated when he dumped me but looking back i'm thankful for it.
after the break up, i had a brief okcupid/tinder phase. no casual sex happened, but all the guys i met from there were weird losers. i eventually got really depressed and gave up on online dating all together.
then months later i got asked out by a guy from my uni. he has now been my boyfriend of 3 years. i wouldn't call our relationship shitty at all, but he's pretty immature for his age so i'm not sure how much longer it's worth staying in the relationship. the plus side is he's the most genuine respectful guy i've been with so far.
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>first boyfriend ever, I was 15
>hugely insecure as 15 year old girls tend to be
>he seemed sweet and shy at first and we talk non-stop and have a lot in common
>lives 3 hours away and one state over but we see eachother at least every weekend
>at first there were some red flags, him seeing no problem in hacking into random peoples computers for fun just to look through their files and delete some stuff being one of them
>as time goes on turns out to be completely controlling, I always have to tell him where I am and what I'm doing, basically not allowed to hang out with anyone else
>even stuff like going to family birthdays meant I was "prioritizing my family over him"
>having had no previous experience I just accepted it, and because I can be clingy myself too I just mirrored his behaviour a bit
>he gets me into all sorts of drugs but then withholds them to retain control over me
>we'd constanty argue and bicker and if we'd made plans to go out or even hotel reservations for a fun weekend away he'd just refuse to go if we had been bickering beforehand
>never knew what to expect
>if he was staying at my place he would just plain leave at any second if he felt like it, even if we had plans
>then made me beg for him to stay and cook him dinner
>after being together for a year he started hitting me and physically abusing me in other ways
>somehow always gaslighted me into thinking I was the one who should apologize
>I was retarded enough to still not leave
>try and fight back to him despite being weaker and this in my mind makes me just as guilty as him
>at this point I was completely dependent on him emotionally, we had some mutual friends but he convinced me they all disliked me and only invited me along because I was his girlfriend
>abuse gets worse, literally every time we'd be together there would be physical fighting involved, keep having to hide bruises and hair thinning from so much of it being pulled out
>as the years go by he starts showing more of his "real" personality to our mutual friends as well
>starts to make hurtful remarks towards everyone he sees as weak enough to be influenced by it
>is roommates with one of our mutual friends for a while, later hear that he didn't pay rent at all and never cooked or even paid for any of the groceries, our friend was too nice to say anything about it
>after almost 4 years I finally break off the relationship after basically getting an intervention from my mom about how depressed she thinks I look
>still remain close because mutual friends
>this devolves into him inviting me over to his place almost every weekend again, then drugging me and having sex with me while I'm barely conscious (mostly GHB, so actual roofies)
>physical abuse continues and I feel like I'm trapped in this cycle forever even if our relationship is over
>finally tell one of our mutual friends about what's been happening because he kept commenting on my bruises
>he's furious, tells other friends even though I didn't want to tell anyone else because I was afraid they wouldn't believe me
>after mutuals all talk to him one on one and talk to me about it they believe me
>immense relief, cut contact with ex completely even though it somehow hurts to do so
>get 40 missed phone calls from him a day for a while, then things quiet down
>saw him at a con recently, didn't talk, just happened to be in the same room
>my stomach dropped to my knees upon seeing him, was much more afraid than I'd expected
>that night get all those missed phone calls again
>hear from others that still talk to him that he deals drugs nowadays
>dates a fat girl who is notorious for having destroyed other communities
>I somehow still care about him even after everything that's happened
i agree with what you guys are saying about it being better that i break up with him sooner than later. i'm not denying that.
but it's hard to talk to him about how i really feel when he's super sensitive and defensive. he lashes out at me if i ask him to do really simple tasks or suggestions, and has threatened to kill himself over something before. i can't imagine what trying to break up with him would be like.
i know that's a shitty excuse and you guys are probably going to guilt trip me and tell me i've dug myself in a hole, but that's what i have to deal with.
(also sorry for slight OT, i know this is the ex-bf thread & not the relationship advice thread.)
>Sophomore, HS. Reconnect with someone who was in my freshman art class.
>We start talking and hanging out more, I've never gotten male attention like this so I'm excited.
>Develop feelings for each other. A year passes and we are in a healthy (what I thought at the time) relationship.
>My father kicks me out, orders from his newest girlfriend. So I start to live with my ex.
>Everything's fine at first, we are both working, I am doing online school. Everything seems fine
>He starts to become emotionally manipulative. Will pout if he doesn't get his way, or if I'm out with friends.
>Would start telling me how much he doesn't like my friends and tells me how bad they are for me. At the time it seemed like he was right. I cut all my friends off
>We move out of his parents house and into an apartment with his brother, and another friend.
>He quits his job, starts telling me "I'm only 18, I don't want to have to work for the rest of my life yet"
>No ambition, no desire to go to college, spends money on stupid shit like movies, fast food, and comics
>I start working 40 hours a week at a warehouse to support both of us. I have to come home from work everyday and clean, cook dinner. I am worn out.
>This goes on for months. He has no job, I justify it by saying we love each other and he will support me soon enough.
>One day I snap, cry and beg him to get a job to help me out.
>"I told you I don't want to get a job! Stop pressuring me, everyone in my life is telling me to get a job! Out of everyone I thought you would support me."
>He starts going out with friends, smoking weed and doing mushrooms, drinking and staying the night at his friends house.
>He continues to emotionally manipulate me to make me feel bad about myself, about asking him to get a job. He pouts whenever I mention wanting to get friends or whenever I ask him for anything.
>Makes a point to remind me all my family members don't care about me, and I have no friends who truly care about me either.
>All of my family members I am still in contact with at this point are telling me to gtfo of this relationship, I am overwhelmed at the thought as we had been together for around 3 years at this point. I am convinced we will get married and I'm in love with him
>One day I sit him down and tell him how exhausted I am, how I need him to help me out. I want to go to college soon and can't if I work 40 hours to pay his car bill, both of our rent, and pay for food.
>"Can't you understand I'm not ready yet?!"
>I snap, tell him he's a child, that if he doesn't get a job I'm going to leave him.
>"You're a fucking bitch! No good girlfriend would give their boyfriend an ultimatum like that!"
>Right then and there I pack my things and leave. I go back to my fathers house.
I truly did love him. I realize how emotionally manipulative he is. A month after breaking up he egged my house and left bags of trash and an envelope of pictures of us on my doorstep. He haunts me, and for some reason I feel like I was in the wrong.
What hurts the most is that he posts pictures of him and his new girlfriend all over social media, but he never did that with me. Even when he told me I was his dream girl, and that I had the perfect looks and that I was so beautiful and he wanted to marry me. Sometimes I feel like he posts so many pictures of them to torment me.
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I'm 19, I've only been in one relationship, it was so emotionally exhausting. I later realized how manipulative and vindictive someone could be with no reason behind it. He played the victim to the very end and I'm just so glad I made the choice to completely cut him out of my life. I probably won't be trying dating again any time soon because of this, friends are enough for now.
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>date ex on and off
>emotionally immature even for his age
>felt that the relatuonship was moving a little too fast, I think his parents wanted to lock me down because I was mature and had a decent future
>they asked me to move into their house but I declined
>my parents didn't approve, could smell the crazy
>bf and his dad would often get into screaming, physical fights while I was visiting or staying at their house
>fights were over trivial matters of no dire importance
>the old man would use his health to manipulate people to his will
>mother was a low key pill addict, made me feel extremely uncomfortable since she looked pissed off all the time with heavy dark eye circles
>second round of trying to make relationship work
>dinner date, we decide to make something to eat in
>ex and I made fish and chips in the kitchen
>go out back to swing on porch for a bit before we clean up after dinner
>his dad walks in three minutes later and thinks we've abandoned the mess in the kitchen
>unnatural for him to assume that considering I did their dishes quite fucking often for not living there
>the father was absolutely unhinged and wouldn't respond to reason
>before I know it he and the boy are screaming at each other
>I go in to start dishes while they continue the argument outside
>before I know it, the dad has bf in a headlock
>they're wrestling out in the grass raising Bedlam
>the pill mother, and his older sister come down to see the ruckus
>I'm uncomfortable and want to leave, but I can't because his bitch sister parked her car behind mine
>THEY WOULDN'T LET ME LEAVE
>I state firmly that I want to go
>suddenly the fight breaks up and the ex starts having a breakdown over me "abandoning" him
>fucking what, they're physically abusing each other in front of my face and I want no part in it anymore!
>they're all fucking insane
>ex rushes into the house to cry about me leaving, father and mom chases after his crying ass
>the sister moves her caboose
>I start walking out the door
>the father fakes a heart attack to try to manipulate me into not leaving
>family gathers around and starts giving me dirty looks over the sobbing boy and distressed dad
>like I had caused all of it
>I threaten to call an ambulance before stepping into my car
>the father miraculously recovers
>last mental image while I backed out of their driveway is of pill poppin' mommy giving me the death stare as she caressed the red face of her loser son
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im 24, chubby and kinda tall, and i have had 11 boyfriends.
so far 9 of them have cheated on me physically or through text or emotionally, all with skinny girls.
some of them said to my face that skinnier girls are objectively sexier, i should lose weight, im getting 'fat' etc..
the last three who cheated i saw from snooping on his phone (im paranoid from past experience) and not only did i see them sending messages to girls, i saw the messages to friends about how easy it was to get sex from me but degrading me and sharing pics of hot thin girls
i want to kill myself, im too lazy to get skinny, i dont pretend its anyones fault but my own
Stop dating losers anon, and don’t kill yourself. You’re worth more than that.
Maybe take a break from guys and work on loving yourself. This can mean forcing yourself to do the uncomfortable, and confronting that laziness you feel when it comes to a healthy diet and exercise. Small changes in your habits can have big effects on your self-esteem.
This is coming from someone who is older than you AND has been in a similar position.
Fuck him and fuck her, he's her trash now. What an assat. I also dumped my working at mcdonalds ass ex because he kept saying he would go to college or find a better job and never did. It's sad these losers need ultimatums to become grownups.>>90483
dude, your current boyfriend is a loser. a whiny baby who threatens to kill himself and flails about his depression to avoid personal development. drop him, sister. liberate yourself. cut him off after
, who cares, do what you need to do.>>90556
LMAO anon wat the fuck
>dated a boy on and off for a year when I was 19, he's 23
>met on tinder and
>my self esteem was quite low at the time (my bad), agreed to date him without knowing much about him
>slowly realise he's a loser, all his friends have cut him off cause he is super negative, smokes pot all day, unhygienic, uncool
>forgets my birthday and i literally spent it on the side of a freezing road because he was too cheap to keep a spare tyre in his car
>works fast food but thinks he's a genius cause he reads wikipedia articles about history
>keeps lying to me about all this shit we'll do like travel, camp, exercise which never happens cause he's a stoner unmotivated moron
>thinks im being unreasonable because i dont want him working at mcdonalds forever, to either get into more legitimate work or go to uni, "you should love me for who I am!!11"
>constant sperging about my male friends
>plays videogames all day
>held a MASSIVE grudge against me and says i personally REALLY hurt him because i made a passing comment ONCE that i heard game of thrones isn't a well written series
I broke up with him eventually and cut him off since he tried to pseudo gf me and said cringey shit about how he would wait to get back with me, would pry about whether i was seeing other guys. he send me some retarded text a few days later about "so much for you being there for me"
>I've had him blocked for 2 years, in the BEST relationship of my life and generally life is amazing with friends, study, work, etc
>he always had a bad back that i would tell him to get checked and he'd sperg about me nagging him, when we were dating
>makes a second fb and messages me a month ago
>says his back has gotten a lot worse, affecting his nerve function and he will soon be wheelchair bound and he "doesn't know why he's messaging me this" but he thought "I'd want to know if I were you"
>says he's "really proud of all i've done" despite not having any idea of what i've been up to
>I ignore the message request and block him
It's a bit bitchy, but also I don't think I owe him anything, especially not a pity friendship. I don't care about his life at all and he needs to lean on a genuine support network, not me, I'm not his damn mother.
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>be 18, 1st year in uni
>notice a guy that i silently liked in high school goes to the same uni as me
>i had the worst self esteem possible, ed, self harm, depression
>ask him out on a date
>he was crusty and gross but i kinda shrugged it off, i just wanted a bf
>date went okay
>in a relationship after 3 dates
>first time we kissed he didn't even smile
>oh no this guy doesn't know what emotions are
>no passion at all except for vidya
>spent next months trying to fix his problems while starving myself
>not grateful at all which makes me have several breakdowns a week
>blames me for not being able to handle everything
>still keeps on dating him
>second year in uni
>he had to repeat his first year in uni bc he didn't do shit and failed all his classes
>only played vidya the entire time
>b-but anon i want to succeed in esports!! i don't need education!
>he was with me all the time bc he wanted to escape from his school troubles
>followed the same lessons as i did even tho i was a second year
>he was super socially awkward and saw me as the safe place in school
>sometimes i'd go out with my friends and he'd join me but he only wanted to talk to me
>so many fights because he didn't seem to care about me even though i took care of him all the time
>i'm putting my energy into school right now, he was just there
>i felt like shit
>fast forward a few months to summer vacation
>i get a job cleaning at a retirement home
>pretty nice job
>he also wanted a job, he applied for the same job as i did
>he thought it was nice
>totally forgets about me and doesn't give me attention
>sometimes he wouldn't respond to my texts bc vidya was still his main passion
>anon you want too much attention from me!!
>he changes his major to psychology
>eventually breaks up with me because i was too much for him
>the breakup takes 3 weeks because he wasn't sure of his decision and i was too insecure to do anything
>fast forward to june 2018
>i got my life together, i'm 20, super confident and i have an amazing boyfriend
>get a text from an unknown number that blocked me
>read a little bit of the text
>armchair diagnoses me
>anon you have an attachment disorder and you're schizophrenic. please search for help. this is to help you i promise!! i'm going to block you though so you can't respond!
>i was with my best female friend and my boyfriend when i read that
>i delete the message full of bullshit
>thinking about responding
>'hey, i read your message and i'm doing great. i'm in a great relationship. i've grown as a person and i know what i want. i don't want a bullshit diagnosis from you.'
>'i-i'm sworry anon.. uwu' for 20 times in 1 message
>thanks me in the same message for my help in the relationship
>block him everywhere
>never heard anything of him ever again
I'm so happy right now, I should've never settled for such a loser. It's not a great idea to cling to love as a resort.
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>be me, 16
>zero self-esteem and major daddy issues
>meet a guy in an anime chatroom
>get talking and find out we are very similar with our life stories and troubles
>he's also a socially inept mentally ill mess
>be an weeb animufag with no brain and get influenced by a much older man telling me that bdsm is the true way of living
>want to become full time maido
>hero complex so i want to help my bf with his problems despite everything and be an ideal waifu
>get dragged into his shit while slowly losing grasp on my own identity
>become completely reliant on his guidance as a more submissive person with trash self-esteem
>he won't even let me into his house
>constantly demands sexual favours despite me being uncomfortable
>eventually coerces me into bdsm sex
>treats me like complete trash
>still date him because nobody else would love me
>move in together
>he becomes a christian
>starts abusing drugs
>forbids me to go out and talk to people
>completely gaslights my every complaint
>completely disregards my detiriorating mental health
>he beats me constantly and gives me four concussions in a row
>tells me i can't leave him because he'll kill himself
>so i don't
>attempts suicide by hanging
>drive to the other side of the city and basically drag him out of the belt he tried to hang himself on
>stay with him the entire night crying and praying he doesn't die
>completely lose my self-worth
>completely lose my identity
>everything is about him
>nobody ever listens to me
>he turns all my friends from me behind my back telling everybody i am evil and manipulative
>coerces me to use drugs
>coerces me to have sex with him
>guilts me into staying
>i attempt suicide
>he doesn't care, laughs at me and tells me to get it over with already
>move back home
>he doesn't work, mooches off my mom, lives in my room
>still beats me
>still fight every day
>gets into all my social media accounts and reads all my personal posts
>cyber-stalks me to no end, tries to sabotage my online relationships as well as irl ones
>finally split up and go to live in different houses
>keeps coercing me into kinky sex
>keeps isolating me from people
>keeps gaslighting me
>keeps saying that my mental issues are a joke
>threatens me with suicide on every occasion
>we have a huge fight, i say that i want to die, he opens a window and tries to shove me out of it
>i finally have enough and go to leave
>i'm home and his father calls
>'anon-kun swallowed some pills and is dying'
>run back over
>talk to the ER people, give a statement to the police
>he's in a coma
>talk to his father
>turns out everything that guy told me about his life when we first met was a lie, including his mental illness, his history of abuse, his family ties and his fucking age
>nope out of the hospital and never come back
>block him on every social media
>give him back his shit
>lose all my friends because they believed him more than me
>find out he's been stalking me after all for years and laughing at every thing i posted online, still hacking into my every personal account
>get harassed on the daily by his online friends, block everyone
>still have zero self-esteem after 4 years we split up
>still gaslighted and traumatized
>still see nightmares about him
And that's a story how I found out that I was a lesbian all along.
I wouldn't call this girl a loser per se, nor were we ever in a relationship, but I just want to share this crazy ass situation because I've been holding it in for so long
>be 17, bi
>love me some fanfiction
>always looking forward to posts by a certain writer, vow to profess my love regardless of gender
>she responds to my reviews on ff . net, we start getting close
>lengthy email correspondence daily, super personal and deep
>send each other writing prompts and video requests, hours-long phone calls
>finally confess that we both really like each other
>Turns out she's in an LDR with her beta reader
>she goes to visit her beta reader out in bumfuck and meets her twin sister for the first time (beta reader's twin sister)
>damn she really likes her too
>Promptly cheats on beta reader with the girl's own twin sister
>I let go of my crush after that, but we stay friends
>sometimes message like we used to on FB and it's nice to get her advice on my personal drama
>she's well spoken, driven, creative, tbh more stable and mature than anyone I know
>announces her engagement on FB to beta reader's twin sister
>did I mention that me and twin sister share the same name?
By that time I was 22 or 23 and I just blocked her. I had such an awkward mix of jealously, shame and 2ndhand embarrassment over the whole thing.
Thank you guys.
I never really told this story before because I am ashamed of what a dumbass I was.
I am now dating a wonderful girl that truly cares about me, but I still have a lot of personal issues from those times that bleed into our relationship. It truly ruined me at the time and spending 3 of my formative years with this guy destroyed my already barely there personality.
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My ex cheated on me with a busted 46-year old(we are early twenties) woman who is known for asking random people at bars for threesomes, sufficed to say, we are not together anymore.
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She pretty much looks like this but worse skin and shorter grayish hair lmao
I bought my ex a tablet to encourage him to take a step into the digital age. I envisoned him video chatting me and having a messenger app instead of him always being out of credit on his busted ass supermarket phone. Instead, I found granny porn links. Endless links. Specifically granny's in stockings.
He was obsessed with making me wear stockings. I was also his youngest ever girlfriend, he use to brag about me being a natural beauty. But he gets off to granny's. I dumped him. He told me before he ever met me he hooked up with this older lady who had a cosmetic vagina. It was all too much, he use to make inappropriate jokes about my mum and I thought they were to wind me up but I doubt that now.
Men are such fetishists. He would probably love to date a granny but wont because of the stigma.
He’ll probably be a catch when youse are in your 80s kek
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I had an ex who admitted to me that he used his ex gf's grandma as fap fodder. I looked up his ex gf out of curiosity and saw a pic of her grandma. She looked like the fucking Queen of England.
When I was 13 in like 8th grade I dated a 16 year old guy who went to the high school next to my middle school. We would skip school together and spend all day loitering behind the nearby dollar store, only to run back to school to catch our respective busses home.
Anyways, one time we were back there watching porn together (like totally normal teens do lol) and he pulled up a vid on tumblr of who he said was his brother jacking off. Next vid was him sucking him off.
Me, being a human with a brain is like, wtf??
He explains that they aren't real brothers, it's his ex step brother whose like 20 something. They used to fuck before their patents divorce and still do sometimes. He also came out as bi. My preteen brain thinks this totally ok.
Fast forward a few months, me, him, and his bro are in a group chat and talk all the time. They are sending dick pics/nudes and ask me if I wanna come over to the bros house and "hang out"
I panicked hard at and, not wanting to get raped, blocked em on Snapchat and acted like I never knew them. I moved away halfway through the summer and never saw them again.
Weirdest and most drawn out experience of my life lol
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> meet guy online through mutual friends
> very similar interests, we click very quickly
> he gets drunk at christmas work do
> anon I love you will you date me
> say yes because I genuinely had a crush on him
> meanwhile my father is very unwell, causes me a lot of worry
> is here for me initially, or says he is, but this quickly changes
> lies constantly from the get go, and nothing small or petty, massive worrying lies, tells me one moment that his ex and him fucked, the next that he's a virgin, his friends get frustrated with him because they also find out that he lies constantly
> says he's over his ex he dated 2 years ago
> turns out he's still obsessed with her
> ex is some Essex basic with overfiltered Snapchat pics, badly drawn eyebrows, and very chubby
> self esteem plummets because meanwhile I'm trying to lose weight and glow up and I'd just about come to like how I look
> goes to his friend's gf's birthday dinner knowing said ex would be there
> also lies to me about what happened there so I never did find out what happened, just further made me feel inferior
> on top of this would lie several times a day about other various shit
> would try to work it out with him and convinced myself if I did, he wouldn't feel the need to lie to me or others anymore
> three months of constant lies later and "sorry anon, I promise I'll be better, I really do love you" the lies turn into abuse
> starts regularly screaming at me every time he visits me, sometimes threw things at me, would make me cry and have panic attacks but would refuse to apologise and would just sit there further berating or glaring
> would sometimes even threaten to drive back home if I didn't do what he wanted me to do
> this would always be when I tried to stop him being abusive or shitty
> "anon, you're a bitch, fuck you, how dare you talk back to me" whenever I told him the way he treated me was abusive or dishonest
> anon WHY don't you trust me, THEN I'll stop being abusive
> his parents loved me but he would always tell them I abused him and whenever I'd see them they were always taken aback by how calm and friendly I was with them as a result
> I think his mother did eventually suspect him though
> his friends would constantly tell him he needed to treat me better
> the emotional feelings over the months where I'd see my dad and know he didn't have long would make me so vulnerable that I didn't have it in me to just leave this ex and I wish I had then and there
> ex would flip between abusive lying scumbag and really good boyfriend who would then be there for me and look after me
> notice now looking back the times he DID look after me were always just him trying to comfort me AFTER he'd abused me and made me cry and want to be sick
> stayed with him because he'd promise me that he'd get better and he seemed to actually be aware that how he treated me in those moments was shit
> this gradually did revert to him just blaming me for various reasons, some of which made my best friend of seven years confront him because they were always made up and excuses
> become close to one of my male friends
> he notices the abuse and when my bf would storm out or drive home, the friend would invite me over and let me just watch a movie or play with his pets and his family were always kind to me
> bf did not like this at all
> anon you're such a bitch whore, you're clearly cheating on me with friend
> never did cheat on him, would cry into friend's shoulder regularly
> friend did actually later confess to me and told me he hated my bf but I still refused to cheat and apologised to him, saying I couldn't do that to my ex
> but it was good to have someone there who lived round the corner because I felt safer there than in my house crying by myself
> he would always play the victim and say everything was my fault
> would do everything I could to make him happy and he would always say how lucky he is to have me and how he should treat me better
> the times that I did stand up to him and tell him I'd leave if it didn't change made him all sweet again but it never lasted and I think he knew I was too afraid to leave really
> another thing my ex hated was I refused to tell my parents about him
> did not feel comfortable telling them unless he ever did actually change
> did not want to worry my already ill father and my very stressed mother
> was so worn from stressful job, heavy depression and the abuse I just did not know how to leave nor want to, convinced myself I would hate myself if I did even though I was starting to hate being with him
> ex continued to go between very good bf and very abusive shitty bf
> there's a lot of other shit he did and lied about but we get to the part where my father does die
> have made sure to visit him as much as possible in this time, tell myself it was better I never did tell him about this scumbag because I know it would have hurt and angered him deeply
> every time I did visit my father in the hospital my ex would bitch at me that I wasn't texting him enough
> he knew I was spending as much time as possible with my father because he was terminal
> meanwhile whenever my ex was being a pissy brat he'd blank me for a day or two to feel in control again
> when my father died, my ex held me when he found out and told me he'd be here
> within a day of my father dying he was already back to the same shit of getting angry at me for every little thing, shouting at me and making me cry even more
> was not there for me at all
> instead got very drunk over the holidays, lied to me about what happened
> younger brother told me how much he'd actually had and how he'd been treating his female cousin
> stupidly confront ex because he was inappropriate with her, he tells me I'm a heartless piece of shit and goes away for a few days
> crawls back a few days later saying he overreacted, but forbids me from asking about what happpened with his cousin by threatening to break up if I did
> internally actually thinking maybe that would be a good idea
> do not know how to break up but I am tired at this point and want to leave somehow
> consider cutting him off but when I talk to him about breaking up he says he wants this to work out and that he's truly sorry
> isn't even good to me on the day of my father's funeral
> when he's over, I finally stop letting him win with intimidation and anger and confront him on yet even more fuckboy tier lies
> he starts screaming at me and throwing a tantrum, makes a mess of my room, and storms out
> go to work after with no sleep
> sleep better that night knowing he's not coming back than I have in months
> takes me a few months to get over it, mostly because of the abuse and confusion of if he loved me or not
> fast forward nearly a year
> am a lot more confident and happy without him, meanwhile his friends tell me all he does is sulk in his room and refuses therapy
> would also be abusive to his mother regularly, would make her cry and scream at her and tell her it was her fault
> and then ask me why she was like this
> also found out he asked his ex about what lip gloss she uses at that birthday do
> he then bought some of the exact same one and would keep it on his table to probably use and get off on what a freak
> his ex and me did talk at one point because I got brave and asked her why she did end it because ex would always insist she was a massive bitch who ended it and he "didn't know why"
> tells me it's because he would not treat her well and also sexually pressured her, but then she added it would be best if he told me what that meant and what happened because she "didn't want to betray him"
> he was also ridiculously sexual and would masturbate so much that he gave himself an ED
> was over particularly nasty hentai shit
> looking back realize he also had yellow fever and would overfetishize asian girls
> probably sits in his room all day jerking off and being an incel because his impression of women seems warped
Looking back I feel ashamed that it was hard to leave, I could have just left a month or two in and been done but I remember how scared I was to leave and I'd stay and tell myself I'd regret it if I did leave so feel free to tell me off, ever since he stormed out and I stopped talking to him or seeing him I feel a billion percent happier, even with my father gone which has been very hard but I realize just how much depression and stress was added when I was with this scumbag. I think how lovely he was initially made me feel like the "abusive him" wasn't the "real him"?
Has anyone else ever stayed in a relationship like this even deep down knowing they deserve better?
I feel like a completely different person since but I've not quite forgiven myself for staying through that for over six months and I still get frustrated at myself that I stayed constantly.
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That sounds traumatic, I’m sorry anon. I was also in a relationship with what you could call a “chronic liar”. He’d constantly make up stories of quirky, obviously untrue situations I guess to seem interesting? And after I’d tell him I didn’t believe him he’d get irrationally upset that I didn’t believe he lived in a sitcom. He probably also admitted to me that he exaggerated his schizo symptoms to his therapist, so there’s probably plenty more serious lies he told to me. I also hung on for a couple months trying to convince myself his “real” and “loving” side trumped all of his issues but I accepted it wasn’t true and broke it off.
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I just broke up with mine a few months ago.
>He was 3 years older than me, almost 30, lived with his mommy and threw bitch fits about moving out because "that's society brainwashing you".
>Supposedly wanted a career but complained about said job/school constantly.
>Wanted me to wait to start on my own career path until he was "established". (This was going to take at least another 5 years.)
>Emotionally manipulative, would do things just to upset me and then blame me for being upset, make me feel like the awful one. Made a big deal about taking time off to go to a concert with me, I had sudden family plans come up and he went to another concert instead without me. Instead of just going with me to see family that he still never met after 4 years. I was horrible for being upset by this and "holding him back".
>I had to make excuses for him constantly to my family. He never wanted to meet any of them.
>Got evacuated from a forest fire, got angry that I was anxious about how close the fire got to my house. Talked on the phone from the hotel, told me he "couldn't deal with this right now, I have too many chores to do". Screamed at me the next day for "upsetting him" before work.
>Several times did what I accept now is rape. Said no, rolled over to go to sleep, he had sex with me anyway. This happened several times. Either that or he would pester me until I broke down and gave in.
>Would wake up in the middle of the night and become so upset by "losing sleep" that he would punch himself in the face.
>Once said I was acting like a bitch for falling asleep when he was still awake and wanted sex/cuddles and started putting all of his clothes back on and left.
>Thinking about breaking up with him made me so scared. I wanted to die.
>Lost all physical attraction to him. Began wondering if I wasn't bisexual at all but really a lesbian.
>Felt so fucking stupid when literally the moment I pulled the trigger, I felt immediately happier.
>Somehow spent 4 years with this jackass.
Seeing someone new now. Better person, MUCH better sex. Feels good man. Just got an appointment to see a therapist so I can process some of the insane anger that I feel towards my ex.
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I mean, that's exactly what the cycle of abuse is. That's how pretty much every abusive relationship is. The hot / cold and the forgiving and promises of love and constant renewal of the honeymoon phase is what draws people in and makes it feel "exciting", much more so than a normal stable trusting relationship.
Sometimes the abuser does this subconsciously, sometimes the abuser does this consciously. Often both the abuser and abused have grown up in abusive environments which normalises the cycle. So you're not alone in that at all.
It really should be taught in schools. It's stunning how common it is.
I only in the recent years got over what this shithead did to me
>Be 15-year old me playing World of Warcraft and meet a bunch of guys from the same European country as me
>I eventually develop a crush on one of the guys, let's call him P
>Find out P lives on the other side of the country, but somehow he convinces me that we should meet
>We meet and we clicked, and it was great
>Months pass by and turns out he's the biggest POS and super insecure
>He put a keylogger on my PC and got into my accounts, read my conversations with other people etc. and would flip his shit
>Constantly claims I'm cheating on him, with no evidence to back it up. I start feeling bad for interacting with anyone that's male
>P starts being emotionally abusive, convinces me it's my fault he acts that way
>My confidence is gone, I hate myself, life and the relationship. He realizes he is losing his grip on me
>"If I can't have you, then no one else will." Tries to kill me at a party, only to get interrupted by friend.
>P makes it into being my fault for being choked out and beaten at said party.
>Eventually get the courage to leave his sad ass
>He continues to stalk me for YEARS
He tried interacting with me last year, I blocked him and he made another account just to say what a pathetic girl I am and no one deserves him. Just thinking about him makes me sick, but I'm no longer scared of being with someone else.