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No. 279731

As a contrast to the horrible parents thread, I wanted to make a general-purpose mom thread. Share stories about your mom, ways she inspired you, her quirks, etc. Doesn't necessarily have to be positive, but keep in mind that there are other threads for negative experiences. Posts about grandmas are fine too.

No. 279732

I'll start off by saying that recently my cat became sick and eventually passed away, and my mom was there for me the whole time. She even paid for him to be cremated and bought a little urn for him. She's not perfect, but she knows how to be there for people when they need her most.

No. 279738

my mom is an annoying alcoholic

No. 279743

I love my mom. I used to worry about becoming her and got pretty annoyed people would compare us but considering how many people love my mother, how many friends she has? Idk. There's worse things to be tbh.

No. 279751

I love my mom, she has done soooo much for me, has been there for me always and I hope I can give back to her very soon and take care of her and let her stop working.

No. 279794

>>279743
Honestly I wouldn't mind being more like my mom. I ended up taking on all my dad's negative traits as I got older, lmao.

No. 279808

I love my mom, I was quite a stubborn headed asshole kid so our relationship was not good. But now that I'm older, I can appreciate how similar we are. Speaking to her as one adult to another is also really nice, she's genuinely such a smart, kind person. I never went to her for advice as a kid but now I do all the time.

No. 279845

Sometimes it feels like my mom wants to absolve her parenting responsibilities, or moreso, her place to be counsel when I need advice or whatever. I only really started thinking about this during high school/into college, but looking back she was always working while me and my brother grew up. And maybe I was jealous because she is a school teacher, and teaches elementary kids, and it really did feel like those classes got more of her attention than I did.

No. 279861

My mom is a drug addict and she abused me and all my siblings into becoming people who are literally scared of everything

No. 279872

I have absolutly nothing in common with my mom, but I'm very glad that she's a nice and strong woman who loves me very much.

No. 279882

i feel sorry for my mom, she's a workoholic as is my dad. I'm a workoholic too sometimes but because i have a depression often i don't do as much work as i want to. My mom worked her whole life and she saved enough money to buy me a house, and part of my brother's house. I am so grateful to her and i know i don't deserve it. She was a pain in the ass when i lived at home though and she likes to fight about everything. Everything has to be on her terms. She's one of the reasons i was suicidal when i was a teen because all i wanted was to live in peace and quiet but she and my brother fought every single day and then she was angry at me just to let out her anger towards my asshole brother. I'm so grateful for the house and money she gave me because without it it would be impossible for me in this economy to live elsewhere …but she's a nightmare as a person

No. 279883

I love my mom. I disagree with a lot of her life choices and I thoroughly hate she picked such an awful, bottom of the barrel now diagnosed autistic man without empathy to have children with the (me included) and that her loyalty goes out to him even though he treats her like his personal maid, but I know she means well and I love her.

Still some days I find it hard not to resent her for being so awfully stupid to choose my father just because she was an insecure, grey mouse late bloomer. Me and my sibling both deal with childhood trauma because of our upbringing. I hate that everything I struggle with today is a direct consequence of my upbringing all because of him and I hate her awful choice gave me such an unfair start at life. I hate him and I hate she chose him.

I wish my mom wasn't religious. Maybe she would've divorced him if she wasn't taught to have unconditional loyalty to her husband because she has no loyalty towards herself.

No. 279890

I lost my mom when I was 20. She had been sick for nearly a decade before she passed. The main thought I'm left with to this day is that she deserved a better life than what she had. More than anything she deserved a better husband but she settled and it all seems like such a waste. My dad has no idea I feel this way. He somehow thinks he was a doting husband. I can't have a frank conversation with him about this but he was abusive in some ways

I was close to her growing up. I swear my dad is a lifelong undiagnosed tist who had no business procreating. He's cold, he's controlling and ocd. He hates noise, he hates laughter. He hates kids tbh. It wasn't a great home growing up but my moms warmth kept me semi-sane. I had mental health issues that kicked in just months before she found out she had cancer. I always felt guilty for the timing of it. My dad doesn't think that mental health is real. He thought I needed to toughen up and hell.. he even thought my mom with cancer needed to toughen up and just never cry about it! They were total opposites on the range of emotions shown. I feel like anyone unfortunate to have 2 parents as cold as him would be fucked up for life.

Losing her felt like losing the only parent that ever counted. I don't know why she settled for him. I don't hold a grudge against her (I've spent years in and out of therapy over shit my dad did) because she was a victim too. Her life ended with her having never escaped from that. It was a house where the floors were made of eggshells so to speak. She had decades of that and then passed. What a life. I'm haunted with memories of her crying over how insanely detached he was even in the end when she was expecting death. Her having to hide her pain and her anxiety so as not to anger him drives me insane. He wants to rewrite history to make himself look good now but I know the truth. Even my older brother doesn't know this all.

She was warm. She was emotional. She was giving. She was a typical mom who rang you up alot for constant updates and wanted to make sure you were eating well and who would give you her last few bucks whether you wanted to take it off her or not. We spent as much time together as we could in the end. She's left a void behind that I can't even express. I'll never love or be loved with that same intensity again.

No. 279893

>>279883
Nonna are you me. This my mom 100%. I’m sorry you had such a rough upbringing and I hope you, your siblings, and your mother all heal from it.

No. 279921

I love my mum I hope we can go to McDonalds soon

No. 279963

my mom and i have a much better relationship now that we live further apart from each other, but we still really have nothing in common. my dad killed himself this year. i want to support my mom. she suffered (and he did too) his whole life dealing with his alcoholism and bipolar disorder. she's mad at him and misses him immensely. i want to be there for her, but she's hurt me a lot in my life and sometimes it's hard to be near her. any advice is appreciated

No. 279974

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my mom is my best friend she is very funny and very adorable and does things with me even though i am annoying and not as cool as her. I think it is funny that she is too happy go lucky to properly execute any DIY project or recipe she attempts. Our house when i was a child had green, yellow, blue, orange, and red walls with iridescent blue-green curtains and asian lanterns. all this even though the house had oak trim. she just kept painting walls vibrant colors in hopes it would fix things. picrel
I keep having to talk her down from painting the new house's kitchen/cabinets and i do NOT let her go to Home Depot by herself.

No. 280043

>>279963
I feel you so hard, anon. My mom and I have very little in common, too, and she's also in an unhealthy relationship. She loves my stepdad so much, but he has a lot of mental illnesses (PTSD, bipolar) that he doesn't consistently get proper treatment for. It's really a drain on her, and I try to be there for her when I can.

The best advice I can offer is to call her every day and just listen. Moms place a ton of importance on phone calls for one, but when people in general are going through shitty situations, they just want someone to listen to their thoughts.

No. 280044

>>279890
My dad went through something very similar, anon. His dad was a chauvinist prick with a short temper, and he smoked like a chimney. When my grandma got lung cancer, my dad took care of her because my grandpa didn't do jack shit besides work and play golf. She passed away when he was only 21. My dad isn't perfect, but I'm so glad he's nothing like his father. I think spending all that time caring for his mom counteracted whatever negative influence his dad would've had.

Hold on to your memories of your mom for as long as you can, anon. They might make you a better person in the long run.

No. 280049

My boyfriend's mum uses him for nothing but money and to give herself a leg up in life. My boyfriend never gets me involved but I can tell how crushing it is for him to have to do this. From what I can tell it's been going on since he was 16 and he's currently in his early twenties. She is nothing but pure evil but he loves her. He is scared of losing her as she never cared for him as a child.

No. 280133

Does anyone else have a mom whose behavior towards them changed completely once you've gotten older? My mom never used to care much about me when I was a child. She'd always tell my dad to take care of and console me (they're not separated or anything) when I needed something. We never had that tight mother-daughter bond and sometimes she seemed so absent to me. I think most of my relationship issues stem from her failing to give me warmth or care when I was young. She'd always mock and invalidate me when I was crying or upset and accusing me of being an attention seeker, even when I was just as young as six years old. I was always a quiet and introverted child and teen. I'm in my mid-20's now and it's like my mom made a 360° turn. Ever since I moved out when I was 20, she always tells me how much I make her laugh and improve her day when I call her and how much she appreciates me checking in on her and my dad. Whenever I visit them, she makes sure to set up the guest bedroom for me, she even asks me what I'd like to eat and always bakes my favorite brownies when I'm coming over. Sometimes when she goes shopping, she'll see something that's my style and that I might like and buys it for me, even though I never asked her to and she'll be like "Look! I thought you might like this! Please try it on!" with a smile on her face. But it's not just material things. She also tells me that I can tell her anything, even in times of struggle or sadness and that her and my dad will always be there to support me and how proud she is of me for all the things I've accomplished. I guess she must've realized how bad she was treating me when I was young but she never addressed it or apologized for it.

No. 283441

> 16 year old unmedicated schizo
> Sent to Looney Bin
> Sedated because I was starting to hurt myself
> Sent back to room to sleep it off
> I don’t sleep it off
> Scared, in pain, lonely, can’t do a lot besides just sit there and deal with hallucination
> Still awake during visiting hours
> Mom visits me
>They tell her I’m a little sleepy, not mentioning the sedation
> Too sleepy to tell her anything, just sitting there, eyes open, can’t do anything
> Eye Open Crying
> Mom tucks me into bed like a kid
> Sits with me and rubs my head
> Starts telling me bedtime stories from when I was a kid
> Never felt so safe in such an unsafe environment
> Fell asleep in her arms, feeling protected

I love my mom

No. 283444

>>283441
This reminds me of when I had an emergency appendectomy. My mom never left my bedside in the hospital.

No. 283455

My mom has a ridiculous work ethic, she put herself through law school and worked full time while raising me and my two older sisters. I'm still not totally sure how she did it all, I remember her sitting in the dining room of our old house surrounded by books and studying late at night. Now she's nearing retirement but insists she wants to work for as long as she can, since she's "not sure what else she would do". She's also been through a lot of traumatic shit, had an abusive father and distant mother who constantly called her stupid and ugly, and has a husband who's unfortunately somewhat dim and incompetent (though well-meaning). She said she's always been treated as the black sheep in her family, and it's sad her own mother never appreciated how well she did for herself in life (with pretty much no support, emotional or financial, from her parents).

If I had a fraction of her conscientiousness I would have an amazing career, but I struggle even to clean my room, so…

No. 283461

my mom died 10 years ago and I still miss her every day. I wish she was here. I want to hug her so much.

No. 283470

>>280133
I'm glad you have a better relationship with your mother but
>360° turn

No. 283480

I love my mom more than anything.
I'm taking her for some pancakes and shopping today, her dog died yesterday and I want to help her take her mind off it a bit. She was a huge support to me when my dog died some years ago.

No. 283492

I love my mom and she loves me too but our relationship could be complicated because I inherited a lot of traits from her (psychorigid and assertive mostly) which made us clash more often than with my siblings, but she also has youngest child syndrome where she takes everything personally (the slightest criticism is an attack on her), gets angry at the drop of the hat over random shit and needs to be the center of attention (whereas I'm more socially autistic like my dad). She's given me the silent treatment for days for extremely dumb stuff, like one time I didn't want to lend her a CD because I knew she wouldn't like it (and god is she obnoxious at repeating how much she dislikes something), I didn't even time to justify myself she fell into a rage, called me a selfish bitch and didn't talk to me for 10 days (she was already 50 by then lol). She also doesn't know much about myself because I don't like talking to her, she constantly whines that I don't confide to herself but the few times I've tried doing it she brushes off my concerns or just plain doesn't listen.
Overall I think I'm better off calling my parents once a week and visiting them twice a year, it's more healthy like that.

No. 283528

>>283461
Lost mine 10 years ago too. Sometimes I feel weird over how much I still think about her daily. I've never been much of a believer in anything spirit wise but missing her forces me to wonder about that pretty often. Is she truly gone or does some part of her still exist out there.

If she had lived then maybe we would've had alot of ups and downs by now but I just miss the good times. Theres nobody else in my family I can have any kind of meaingful conversation with. She was the one decent, loving, open, vulnerable, caring person amongst a family of male tists who don't appear to feel anything.

No. 283610

Sort of a vent, but I do love my mother very, very much. I'm just so sad recently.

My mother has become bitter and angry these past years, and with many reasons. Her life was absurdly hard. Just one misfortune after another, so I don't fault her for that.
We disagree a lot more often than before since I can finally feel myself becoming my own person. Circumstances forced my identity to merge with hers and I became somewhat codependent with her, but this has been changing. It's scary to no longer feel like an extension of my mother but is probably better for us both.

I wish she hadn't started being homophobic as an avenue of venting her frustration. It's unclear how she will feel when I date a woman. All I can do is hope it will humanize the issue to her, because I don't know how I could deal with losing her as a result of falling on love. I can't imagine a life without her, but perhaps that will change. As it is now it just stings sometimes to listen to her rants.

Despite the recent disconnect I appreciate the love and relationship we always had. My complex feelings are BECAUSE she loved me so much growing up. She was always there for me and fiercely protected me from everything. How can I surrender that? No one understands our specific experience except for her. We are forever bonded as mother and daughter.

No. 283830

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I love my mom so much - it hurts to imagine that one day I will lose her. This thread kind of made me tear up. My heart goes to everyone that's lost their mother.

My mom was very absent from my life when I was younger and as a teenager that made me very angsty. I feel like in the past 6-7 years I've gotten to actually know her and I've forgiven her. She's the only person in my life that supports me and believes in me. I'm so incredibely thankful for that, because I feel like without her constant support I probably wouldn't be here, or I wouldn't be doing anything with my life. She's had such a hard life and a long history of CSA and other horrible shit. Sometimes I think about how I wish I could go back and be there for her - her own mom was a single mother and an unmedicated schizophrenic. It makes me happy when people say we lookalike or they immidietly guess she is my mother, because I think she is so beautiful. Unfortunately, we also have the same personality and anger issues. I just feel so lucky to have her as my mom.

No. 283849

I love my mommy so fucking much. I remember printing out myscene paper dolls to play with and dress up with her. She was really into paper dolls as a child and so she loved to print them out for me and her to play with at the expense of my dad's annoyance because to him we were wasting ink kek. I also remember a few times where she'd wake me up for school when I was really little and ask me if I'd like to stay home instead, I'd always say yes and we would play barbies together. I love her so much. She has always been very supportive of my interests. I remember waking up at night one time in middle school to use the bathroom and passing the living room and she was watching a my chemical romance documentary because at the time I was absolutely obsessed with them and talked about them all the time. There were rough patches in our relationship and I do admit that a many of my anxieties and social problems stem from her. I'm pretty much all over it though because I know that she has had an incredibly difficult life and it must have really hurt to have been let down and abused by people that were meant to love and protect and care for her and raising children with that baggage must have been very difficult, but she did it. And I love her so much. She's getting older and all I want is for her to live comfortably. I am honestly tearing up writing this because I love her so much and she means the world to me and I can't fathom her not being around. I've said it many times in this one post alone but I love her so fucking much and I hope to god that she knows how much I love and cherish her ♥

No. 283903

>>283849
Anon that is beautiful. Thank you for posting

No. 283904

>>283849
Gosh just reading your post I can tell how much your mother loves you. Got second hand emotional too. Hope youse cherish your bond and look after each other ♥

No. 284225

>>283849
aww nonnie, this is such a cute post, cheers to you and your mom

No. 284626

i love my mom so much and i wish she never met my dad so she could have had the partner she deserved instead of being forced by her family to settle down with an abusive manipulative alcoholic moid who she ended up divorcing anyways. i was such an evil teenager growing up and i put her through so much pointless bullshit and now that i finally have more than 2 functioning braincells i can appreciate everything that she has done for me. i love my mommy so much and she deserves the world and i wish i could give it to her

No. 284743

Grandmas are fine too? For being uneducated and illiterate, she's still one of the most intelligent and observant people I've ever seen and she's got a reputation for being a misandrist witch who you cannot hide anything from kek. It's sometimes scary how tough she is and lets nothing get at her, while at the same time being the jolliest person ever.

No. 285121

My mother is an incredibly kind woman but is also very gullible and kind of a doormat. People are constantly taking advantage of her. I even have to remind myself to regularly take a step back in my interactions with her and ask myself if I’m not asking too much of her, because she never complains and will even freely offer to do things that are pretty unreasonable.
Just now my dad and I had to talk her out of travelling three hours by public transport to help relatives with something that would take at most half an hour (and could be done by anyone), then travelling back three hours in the middle of the night. Considering the current state of our public transport it is very likely that she’d get stranded somewhere at 2 am and have to call a taxi to get home, and she’s technologically illiterate enough that I don’t think she knows how to do that. The relatives in question could pick her up and bring her home in their car in less than a third of the time it would take with public transport but they aren’t willing to do that. She was still willing to help them with this stupid trivial task despite that. Sometimes I wonder if she doesn’t have a martyr complex. She’s not religious any more, but did grow up very Catholic.

No. 285125

>>284743
>vid
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No. 285184

Finally got my antivaxx of a mom vaccinated, yay. Now I wonder if she'll leave those pseudoscience Facebook groups she's fond of. Well hopefully.

No. 285199

>>283849
i cry

No. 285200

my mother told me not to have kids a while ago (which broke my heart tbh) because here the culture implies that the grandmother will give up her life to look after the grandkids wihtout even a moments notice. I recently told her Im going to plan to have them in the next five - ten years (which isn't that long, she isnt retired yet) and I said understand if she doesnt want to be there to look after them ever, I wont expect it. I think her brain imploded in that moment because now she is mentioning how cute little kids are and how mmch she enjoys beign around them, kek

No. 285201

>>285200
same anon, she is so good with kids to be honset, it made me really sad to think they wouldnt know her in the way I knew my grannies. Anyone else have a similair experience where your mother suddenly seems happy at the prospect of grandkids?

No. 285228

>>279890
Your post is almost a month old but holy shit anon your experience is eerily similar to mine. Lost my mom when I was 23, she was ill on and off for a long time before, and eventually succumbed to cancer and kidney failure. It's been a few years and I still miss her every day. Everything is so different now. She was so sweet and caring and loved her kids so much.

>Losing her felt like losing the only parent that ever counted.
I feel the same way. My dad is a self-centered, abusive, narcissistic prick and I feel so much grief for the pain she experienced at the hands of my dad on top of the grief I already feel for losing her. My mom spent decades basically trapped and beholden to him and still did everything she could to shield me and my siblings from his abuse. He still views himself as a victim somehow. I don't talk to him lately but the last few times I did he talked shit about her and how much she "hurt" him (she eventually got sick of his shit after decades of abuse and started sleeping in a different room and stopped being affectionate) and it literally made me want to strangle him. Fuck him.

My heart goes out to you anon.

No. 285249

I have a love-hate relationship with my mom. As a kid I despised her for beating and berating me, and I wanted her to drop dead. But as I got older I started feeling bad for her and wished that I can go back in time and fix her life so she would've had the career she wanted instead of settling for a man and having me. I wasted too much of my childhood and teenage years in shitty friendships trying to get approval and attention from girls that reminded me of her.
At the age of 19 after blacking out in my room from half bottle of vodka, next morning she cried in front of me and said my existence brings her immense pain. At that moment I wished she'd hold me and tell me she loves me (something she's never done) and I felt so ashamed and disgusted for wanting that.
She has a close relationship with my little brother and never beat him the way she beat me, to the point my brother used to belittle me and say mom doesn't love me and I'll never be a good mother due to cycle of abuse.

I don't know, I don't love my mother the same way most people do, but I love the idea of warm loving maternal figure.

No. 285560

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I love my mommy so much, it’s unreal. She’s always there for me when I’m sad. Same anon with the looney bin story, but I love her so much I’m gonna ramble more, with other stories about my mom.

That wasn’t my first looney bin story. I had another one, and this was at the peak of unmedicated schizophrenia. I heard voices saying my mom was gonna die and I wouldn’t get to say bye. I didn’t want to be hospitalized for this reason. I was terrified. So my mom gave me her coat. It’s a black, puffy coat with feathers inside. It smelled like her shampoo and detergent (she uses one for sensitive skin). I was so scared and paranoid, I wrapped the coat around a pillow, and stuffed the arms with blankets. I wrapped the coat around me like a hug and just cried into it like a kid. I’m still terrified of losing her. The day she dies, I’m gonna shatter like glass.

She’s a child abuse victim, generational trauma goes back a lot. Her mother never made her feel safe, and her mother never gave her affection. Because of this, she wasn’t a super affectionate mother. I wasn’t a very affectionate child either, I hated hugs, so it worked well. But sometimes, being a kid, I wanted to be cuddled, but since Im autistic as well, I hated super big cuddles. I would ask her to instead pet me. Like a cat or something. hugs were suffocating, but petting felt good. She would call me her “little meow meow” to this day, as a 21 year old adult, I’ll still lay in her lap and ask her to pet my head, like when I was a kid.

I feel terrible about this one. When I was a little kid, every other day, my mom and I would go to the library and a coffee shop. We both loved books, so we could read for hours there, and she listened to me talk about my kid books. But around the time I was 11, I started thinking this was really babyish. I was entering middle school, and felt like these were childish activities. I remember when she asked me if I was ready to go, and I said I didn’t want to, because it’s for babies. She said I didn’t have to, but later on, I peeked into her room. She was reading a book with tears rolling down her cheeks. 11 year old me thought she was just at a sad part, but I know now that I really hurt her feelings. I want to ask her to do these little library days again, but I’m an adult now, and I’ll probably sound really stupid

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>>285560
>I’m an adult now, and I’ll probably sound really stupid
FUCKING DO IT!!

No. 285582

>>285580

hard agree DO IT enjoy your time with your mother! It's never too late.

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>>285580
>>285582

I’m so glad I posted that last story. I always thought that it sounded super childish, but we’re gonna start again!

No. 285624

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>>285618
Good! Make more memories!

No. 285632

>>285618
>>285560
Anon I cried at your original post, I am so happy you two are doing this again! I know your mom is smiling, awaiting the day

No. 285634

I am so scared of my mum dying, when Mamma Mia 2 came out I went and watched it with a friend. I love the series and it's something my mum would watch with me a lot, we saw a lot of ourselves in it but more glamorous. After watching it and basically crying from start to finish, I immediately bought the DVD for her and I to watch, and we did. I remember sitting there with her holding me in my arms for the first time in years and she asked me if I was scared of her dying before she could see me have a baby or get married, she promised me she'd live long enough to see me do so. She's old and lives such a bad lifestyle with such a stressful job, but she's the only family I have and I don't want to be alone, I want her to see me be successful and have the life she wasn't able to.

No. 285635

>>285618
Cute! I hope you and your mom have a fun time on your lil library and coffee date. What a nice tradition to have. I love how enthusiastic she was about going to the library with you again.

No. 285772

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This image sums up perfectly about how I feel about my mom

No. 285774

>>285618
awww, cute !

No. 285816

>>285772
same

No. 285826

>>285772
Same. Deep down I resent my mom for chosing the man she did, it's brought so much misery, but I'd undo my life in a heartbeat if that meant she could go back in time and be with a good man and lead a happy life instead.

No. 285878

I want my mom to be happy more than anything. There is nobody in this world more important to me. More than anything, I want her to have friends. My dad kept all his friends but he slowly isolated my mom from all of hers. Now, my siblings and I are all grown up and she has nobody other than my dad who she hates but can't leave because she'd be too poor to survive without him. The only time she gets out of the house is to meet me for a cup of coffee. I try to see her as much as I possibly can but I want her to have friends her own age that love her too. I am both her only friend and her daughter. It hurts me more than I can describe and I don't know what to do about it.

No. 355053

I had a really bad depressive episode where I literally couldn’t even muster up the energy to lift my hands above my head to turn on my light, it was really bad. I didn’t shower, I stunk, and I went so long without showering that I started to bleed from the scalp and my entire body itched.

I felt like a pathetic child, and I called my mom in tears and told her everything about how I was so depressed and stinky and uncomfortable and I couldn’t take care of myself at all. She asked if she could come over and I said yes. We talked a lot, I broke down and basically said “I wish I could just not have to wash my own hair cause it genuinely is so painful to even do that.” And my mom offered to help me shower.

To be clear, this wasn’t a creepy weird thing, I was so sad and depressed that I had a little stool and sat down on it, with my face away from my mom. She was fully clothed, we’re not a weird type of family. My hair is really thick, and she washed my hair. I honestly felt so relieved, I hadn’t been clean in so long and I could feel the yuckiness washing away. I told her I could wash my body, but she offered to help with my back because she thought I would have a hard time reaching it, since I couldn’t even hold my hands over my head to scrub my hair.

She brought a sugar scrub to help exfoliate and I felt so clean. I shed a lot of skin, I never really was able to see how filthy I was until then. Afterwards, she left and I scrubbed where I didn’t want my mom to see or touch, and when I got out, she put a treatment on my hair to help the curls. I cried from happiness. My mom and I had it rough when I was a teen, I felt like she was never there for me, and I wish I could tell that teenage me that my mom is there for her. I know it seems weird that I had to be washed like a kid or grandma, but my mom genuinely helped me at least feel less disgusting. Today, we’re gonna clean my apartment, and do laundry. I’m so glad to have a supportive mom

No. 355054

>>355053
This made me really emotional. I’m glad your mama was there for you, nonna. Being that depressed is so soul crushing, and it really does help in an almost indescribable way when someone can be selfless and help you like that. That’s what a good mama does, and I’m glad you got your hair clean ♥ wishing you better days

No. 355090

my mum is the biggest thing stopping me from killing myself i couldn't live without her and her without me, i could go on about how close we are but sometimes i think about how much pain my SHing caused and the thought of her losing me makes my throat feel tight idk why i am even writing this

No. 355148

My Mom got dealt shit cards with an arranged marriage with someone in the second grade family.
If she had successfully ran away from my grandfather, I wouldn't be here almost 33 years later with CPTSD from 24-25 years of a mental abusive and neglectful, if not self-absorbed father.
Sure I appreciate what she's done for me, even if she was emotionally unavailable most of my teenage years due to my father escalating to real DV onto her, and she almost fell into alcoholism and definitely fell into a form of anorexia shortly after.

She's tried to stay the reliable parent who pushed me to get myself a diploma after graduation to finally stop spinning into depression. She's the bread winner, the one who taught me to read before primary school, the pragmatic and super housewife/mom who spends hours cleaning and getting shit sorted and that cooks yummy food too.

But I wish there had been more love shown, because as much as I know she always will love her children even without saying it, it still emotionally stunted me (plus what my dad's behavior, and my sisters' behavior against me). And I don't ever want to have children because I don't want to inflict the same onto them.

No. 355175

>>285878
I could've written this. My mother is so lonely…


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