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Thanks love. :) Something about posting anon among us bitches and getting even a modicum of support really helps. I don't have many girlfriends IRL, cuz I've been too focused on my career (and not enough on my personal life, obvs lol.)
I actually just stepped out the shower and feeling ah-mazing. Lotioned up and about to paint my nails too.
Just need to make sure that I don't "rest on my fresh laurels", and get my ass in the shower again tomorrow so I can start a fresh
21-day habit chain. >>134705
Relieved to know that I'm not the only one and I sympathize all the way. Since your shower is broken, if you really want to get clean my recommendation would be to get a bucket or two, fill them up with warm water, then get in the tub/shower, and dump one water bucket all over yourself to get your body and hair wet. Then immediately lather up with soap/body wash and shampoo. Put conditioner in your hair. Dump another bucket or two all over to rinse. Then, step out and wrap yourself in a towel and rinse the conditioner out of your in the sink. That's what I would do if I were in you were situation… granted, I'd do it when I was desperate to feel/smell clean because a broken shower would be an easy excuse for me to avoid cleaning myself. And what a bummer that you were written up at work… I have always suspected that some of my coworkers, past and current, have passively-aggressively tried to push hygiene in a more general sense by posting friendly reminders in commons areas and leaving dry shampoo, deodorant, and body sprays in the girls' bathroom. Usually within 6-9 months after I'd started working there, so couldn't help but feel paranoid that they were talking behind my back - but not trying to publicly humiliate me. Could just be my own insecurity about my own hygiene failures. I wonder though - if you were at the point where you're getting written up at work and jeopardizing your job/livelihood - why wasn't it enough
to motivate you to try to stick to the hygiene habit? I ask only because I am wondering what my true motivations are too, so that it might inform me as to why I don't prioritize it. Whenever I have a boyfriend or date, I am suddenly motivated, but never for myself out of self-care or self-love….
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I recommend using a software as the other anons said. I mostly recommend todoist because you can sync between phone and computer, set notifications (remind me to was face at six am), and it has a repeating function (remind me to change underwear every day at 8 PM). I recommend using a code, instead of 'change underwear' 'change kitty litter', so people don't see your embarrassing shit.
Anyhow I relate to the hygiene stuff because my parents were full of shitty advice, "you only need to shower every 2 weeks", "don't use deodorant", and "you can use the same menstrual pad all day". I most likely smelled like shit during my teen years.
Adding my own question with does anyone have a 'you should do these chores every day/week/month', but for washing your face, cutting nails, and etc?
>>134697>I have always neglected my personal hygiene and basically live in a state of chronic self-neglect>struggled to establish even a basic hygiene routine>I have major depression, general anxiety>My goal for this quarantine is to just start taking good care of myself in this most basic way.
As a teen I still had basic hygiene but even thinking back then, I also already often went to school with greasy hair. I was embarrassed when some boys noticed that but never changed my habits. Once I graduated my life spiraled out of control, so for the last 5-6 years I struggle with showering daily, most of the time only brush my teeth in the morning, don't do anything for my skin, go for as long as possible without washing my hair and wear the same outfit for literal weeks. Nobody in my family has a long beauty routine but they at least wash themselves normally, so it's not really because of my upbringing. Sometimes I "joke" in front of them that I absolutely don't want to shower but they see it as a sign of laziness instead of an actual problem. My teeth are still alright and I don't sweat much, so they don't notice how bad it really is. One incident I remember tho is when I went to an exam after weeks of studying and it was really hot and I had worn the same dress for ages. In front of me were some guys who noticed that something smells bad. They were looking around for ages before finally realizing that it must be me. They couldn't even believe at first that it's a seemingly normal girl and not some neckbeard. That should have been a wakeup call but I only changed for the worse since that happened (around 4 years ago).
I was never attractive, always struggled with low self esteem and my weight. It's like a cycle, I feel shit about myself, only lay in bed and eat, don't have the mental strength to even brush my teeth, wake up after way to little sleep, feel even more awful and reward myself with another day of doing nothing to improve my life. I go to classes and I have a part time job but no friends or any romantic experience. People have downright told me I'm invisible. Somebody shy with no personality like me needs to be at least somewhat okay looking to be accepted in society, so I really wish I can at least achieve somewhat good skin and hair, but I always fail. Recently I bought skin care and makeup products worth 100 bucks, I brushed and flossed my teeth, exfoliated and moisturized my body and applied those products but after 3 days I reverted back to my old ways of not doing anything. I always start and quickly fail again, I can't stick to any routine, whether it's hygiene, dieting, exercising or studying.
I thought now is my chance, since I have so much more free time during the quarantine, but all I do is watch youtube and sleep in.
Oh, it's always interesting to know that someone goes through same stuff. Especially considering that this topic is kind of a taboo. I mean, you can openly talk about emotional kind of problems, but hygiene… well, the shit is quite embarrassing.
My personal hygiene was the worst when I was 9-11 years old, and it's also the time when my psychological state considerably deteriorated. I am bipolar II. I wouldn't brush my teeth very often, went to school with dirty hair. There was a small period of time when I would comb my thick shoulder-length hair just a little, only to smooth it on the surface, resulting in a thick knot on the back of my head that I had to cut off with scissors (luckily it wasn't visible). My classmates noticed that my hair was often greasy but it didn't even make me ashamed, I was just annoyed with them trying to talk some sense into me lol. Fortunately I wasn't really sweaty and stinky at the time… I think I would've been told. Plus, I actually changed my clothes when they started to smell, but I don't remember at what point exactly I would consider them smelly. God, that's awful. For some reason my parents didn't even care, although my mom doesn't have this sort of problem. She would only ask me from time to time, quite rarely, if I changed my underwear, and I'd only get angry and lie. Yet no one tried to control or discipline me in this regard, and I think now that they actually should. And yeah, they should've helped with my mental health issues in the first place, but my mom preferred to think I was just lazy.
In addition, I was a pimply child and didn't know about proper skin care till my twenties. I didn't care if I were attractive and even if my crushes found me attractive. But then, when I was 12-13, I started to apply makeup, cut my hair short and dyed it, and suddenly it became very easy to go to shower often. A miracle! I would take long bubble baths. But it didn't last long.
Later I started to hate shower again, but it was easy for me now to conceal my crustiness. If I were sitting at home, however, like, for weeks or a whole month for some reason, I could be really neglectful of my hygiene.
And I still can skip brushing my teeth in the morning or don't change my undies for 2-3 days. I definitely don't shower every day but can't let myself leaving house with greasy hair. I forget to clip my toenails. The only thing I do is diligently maintaining my skin care routine and keeping my fingernails more or less neat and tidy.
The funny thing is that my boyfriend is super-hygienic. He wouldn't even let me kiss his "greasy" cheek in the morning lol even though it's not dirty at all. He also changes his house t-shirt every single day and wonders how I can wear same house clothes for a week or so, but I just don't understand why should I do otherwise if it doesn't smell bad. But he doesn't bully me or something, heh. His presence definitely makes me more motivated though. >>134697
Maybe try not to postpone showering and plan an everyday morning routine and try to follow it every single day so it'll become automatic. Firstly, sorry if I say something obvious and you're already doing it, but try to improve your sleep schedule, it will help with mental health. So, wake up in the morning and go straight in the bathroom. Or maybe do exercise first, I dunno, for me it would be next level lol, so I don't even mention it. Go to the shower straight away, without thinking, take it, then wash and moisturize your face, then eat a breakfast, and brush your teeth after. I might be wrong, maybe it's just me, but I think that procrastination might be a problem, especially with ADD. So the best way is just do something whenever you think about it, I guess… or do some things in the exact established order. although I understand how difficult it can be if you have zero energy. In that case I just double this anon's post >>134729
that´s gross anon.
Personally I shower every day because I just want to, but I also believe that most people with sedentary lives can shower once every two days and wash up at the sink every morning and evening inbeteen and be fine. But that doesn't mean you should be showering only once a week, disgusting.
Same for your hair. You don't have to wash your hair every day if it doesn't get greasy that fast, but you should wash it one it does.
you probably smell.
The basic stuff is extremely cheap. The stuff that is advertised with all the additional cleansers, microbeads, essential oils, etc - that can add up. And some people think they need it to be truly clean.>>134804
I'm the same as you, anon. When I was a teenager, I had acne and got ProActiv to try to clear it up. For the two months I was using it my skin was noticeably worse. When I stopped using it, my skin cleared up again. I always had the same outcome with other products, so I started washing my face with just water.
To clarify I also don't wear make-up - if I did I would definitely need something other than water to wash my face.
First day fully working from home because of the virus, plan on keeping a close to normal sleep routine and hygiene routine in the morning. Worried that I'll fall into a slump if I don't maintain that as normal. Slept in a little late this morning but about to get ready like I would any other day.. then sit home opening emails.>>134867
Nta but thought the whole post had an autistic tone, then seeing the word lest casually used.. that shit was funny.