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No. 125183

I met a perfect boy at uni. At first I just noticed him because he is the absolute most handsome guy I’ve ever seen. Call me superficial but that alone made me develop a crush. I sort of tried to forget about him since I didn’t think it would go anywhere and tried to tell myself that he probably was a jerk anyway.

However, I was grouped with him and a few other girls for some group assignment, and he turned out to be the nicest person I’ve ever met. He’s ridiculously funny, interesting, cultured, creative (turns out he’s actually semi-famous in multiple fields), exciting, smart, he just has literally everything going for him. I’m not the most beautiful girl ever but I take care of myself (I’m skinny, have very well maintained natural blonde hair, blue eyes etc.). Acne has slways been a problem but after meeting this guy my face was finally clearing up. I suggested that everyone in the group exchanged numbers and everyone obliged.

Then the guy started texting (actually whatsapp which is the norm in my country but whatever) me. Mostly school stuff but also some personal things. He’d always reply to me right away, never left me on read, and was always willing to help and when I helped him he was super grateful and cute about it. I’ve never had text contact as good as this. He’d always say hi to me when we ran into each other, and in class he’d letvme sit with him. If he was talking to other people he’d always try to make me a part of the conversation too.

It got even better when I found out he was basically pure (yes meme af I know, you know what I mean). He was very serious about hygiene (he talked about how he disliked visiting friends who didn’t clean their rooms properly), wasn’t active on FB, IG or dating apps, isn’t part of a frat, and disliked weed (he does drink though but so do I so ehrm yeah). He also never mentioned a gf or anything like that.

The thing is, despite growingsomewhat close he never asked me out or anything and I was afraid to ask him out because I’m not sure if I’m worthy of him and came to the conclusion that he might be gay or something and I didn’t want to embarrass him. He was literally too perfect to not have a gf.

Then it all went wrong.

Last night I went out for drinks with a few uni friends and afterwards walked back to the train station (I don’t live in my uni’s city, I live with my parents in my hometown (which is completely normal in my country, the boy does the same thing as do most students)). During my walk I passed my uni’s most notorious sorority house (again, we don’t have campusses here so sorority houses are just somewhere in the city) which is only open to really, really rich girls. I have classes with a few of them and they’re mostly quite friendly, but some of them really look down on me for not being one of them. There’s one in particular who’s the only person in my year whom I dislike because she treats anyone who isn’t a rich skinny white girl like shit (I’m a skinny white girl but my parents aren’t multi millionaires and I don’t play the sorority social game).
Then I heard the voice of the boy. I looked around and saw him standing a little further down the street. The girl I hate was with him. Then she kissed him. And they just kept going.
I stood there for like five minutes. I finally decided to take a different route and ended up missing my train and had to wait 30 minutes for another one.

When I got home I started crying and I could barely sleep and I’m still crying now. I’m sorry if none of this makes sense because I’m so fucking mad and upset. The boy and the girl don’t even talk to each other in class. She’s also really tall (180cm+), don’t guys hate tall girls and only like short girls? I want to scream but I don’t want my parents to hear.

I just had to post this, I’m sorry if it’s too bloggy. Do any of you have experience with the one you love ending up with someone you hate? Maybe found out that someone you thought could be a potential bf actually had a gf?

I’m never going to find anyone like this ever again. And now he’s off limits and tainted anyway.

No. 125191

>>125183
It's painful but it's a rejection that most will experience and with age you take these knocks easier. Cry it out, it's especially hard the first time it happens

Chances are a few years from now you'll be with someone else and neither of these people will cross your mind anymore

No. 125194

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>>125183
>guy I was shallowly attracted to by his appearance is in turn attracted to another girl by her appearance and this makes me sad

Its like poetry, each stanza rhymes with the next.

Anyway face it, you probably think all those nice things about his personality because of his appearance. Bunch of studies show that people associate better qualities like honesty and kindness to attractive people for no reason other than appearance. You probably think he's a little cool and nerdy/not part of the popular clique because you perceive this as a positive trait, even if there's no evidence he isn't or doesn't want to join it. Quite probably he sees the sorority girl as having a much better personality because he finds him attractive.

Learn 2 game theory in dating. Rational actors maximize gain, complicated by the varying value each party places on various attributes. But generally he's going to do the best he can get. Tall (not a penalty, models are fucking lanky), millionaire, popular blonde isn't a bad thing. Go make a million dollars.

Alternatively aggravate to the point where she does something so unacceptable he's disgusted. Piss her off by acting out of place. Make her feel so blindly self righteous she does something awful. Then report back here for the lulz.

No. 125197

>>125194
>Its like poetry, each stanza rhymes with the next.
She may have gone too far in a few places.

No. 125203

ot I think we're from the same country lol

anyway you only liked him bases on fairly superficial reasons, there's no guarantee you would've worked as a couple had he been single (or w/e he has with the rich girl).

No. 125207

I've also had an experience having a ending up dating someone else. Not really a girl I hate, but definitely a girl who I thought was bad for him (from what he described she sounded really emotionally manipulative). It really sucks and I was bitter about it for a long time. The way I look at it now though, is that I think I have many objectively good qualities in myself that that girl doesn't have. Since he couldn't recognize them and still chose the other girl (despite knowing she was emotionally manipulative) instead, I don't it would have worked out between us anyway. If that sorority girl really is that much of a bitch but the guy you like still gets along with her then what does that really say about him? I don't think you should necessarily have a superiority complex over her (not saying you do) because that's unhealthy, however I'm sure you also have great qualities that he failed to see in you and if he didn't see them then that's on him. You'll find a guy who will appreciate those qualities for sure. It's hard, but it's best to move on. In a few months you'll probably run into him on campus and be thankful you didn't pursue him.

No. 125210

have I not read this exact post on crystal cafe ages ago? with the same picture? wtf

No. 125211

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>>125210
what do you achieve copy and pasting this to here lmao

No. 125212

>>125210
Yeah it's literally just a copied and pasted cc thread
https://crystal.cafe/feels/res/16409.html

The "what does it feel like to take a boy's virginity" thread that was recently made is also copied and pasted
https://crystal.cafe/feels/res/26294.html

No. 125245

>don't guys hate tall girls and only like short girls?
some men do, but they are usually the insecure ones. most men don't really care that much about height, they care more about waist/hip ratio (among other things). as a tall woman (175cm) most of the derogatory things said about my height haven't come from men but from short women, even though I've literally never said a bad word about short women (or even short people) in my entire life. lots of rich/famous men (like leonardo dicaprio) almost exclusively date tall women. supermodels still, but if they hated tall women so much I'm sure they could get a short woman easily.

you seem to think you're automatically more deserving of him for having blue eyes, naturally blonde hair and not being tall. no offense but maybe you're the one who's the bitch and just can't see it.

No. 125617

>>125212
Putting on a tinfoil and thinking it was some larper.

No. 126173

>>125183
It's okay to feel the way you do and it's okay for him to feel the way he does. There's a possibility he just viewed you as a good friend and maybe there's the possibility he just didn't have the courage to approach you in that way. In any case I don't think you should resent him or be too surprised. You never really know. Let him do what he wants.

No. 126343

I'm super confused as to why this thread never got locked but other threads (like the "my dad is dating the girl who bullied me in high school" one) got locked and redtext? The reason for locking the other ones was because they could fit in other threads that already exist but so can this one? I don't understand the mods.



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