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- Not a weeb. Idk how you girls even begin to tolerate male weebs as friends, let alone bfs or husbands. I unironically want to throw them firing squad fiestas. 98% of them are pedophiles and/or disgusting slimeballs that should be exiled. Plus like, all anime girls have child faces, so even the shit that isn't the most fucked is still pretty fucked in principle, at the least.
- Very sweet and compassionate, and this sweetness translates to all parts of life, not just having sex. So, like, even politically, he is compassionate and empathetic and very unlike the many lying-ass liars that claim to be "so nice that I get walked all over :(", but then you find out that they're katana wielding libertarians and you can't escape their company soon enough.
- Grew up poor/definitely doesn't come from a family with any money at all. Men that grow up with money are extra unnecessarily empowered and it "allows" them to be extra shitty. Plus I grew up a poorfag and honestly, I think it teaches you a lot to grow up without. I don't relate well to men who have had financial stability. They already take enough for granted even without the financial empowerment.
- Is a tiny waif that you could maybe break in half. Obviously if you insist on getting involved with a guy, they should be physically weak and unintimidating, both physically and emotionally/mentally. Strong guys are for squares and gay men.
- Is a practical doormat when it comes to dating you (not necessarily in other parts of his life, though I'm partial to a guy that needs to be protected a bit). Men are hardly worth getting involved with and are raised to be emotional vampires, so I think if they're worth anything, they'll understand that you're taking a major risk, and they should yield to you, and ideally, be happy to do so, because we're perfectly happy without them anyhow, and honestly, the minute they start their self-obsessed bellyaching, my attraction to them goes completely dead. I really just want to be with a guy that will do whatever I want because he's very cognizant of the fact that any involvement with men is risky to us on multiple levels and can't be compared to 0 risk women pose to men.
- Doesn't place high priority on working, career, or money. These people tend to be boring sociopaths, especially if they're men.
- Isn't judgmental
- Doesn't use porn/doesn't want to use porn in a relationship/definitely doesn't have the desire to rape/doesn't watch rape shit
- Is generally wholesome and sexually vanilla
- Isn't involved in gaming culture/isn't obsessed with gaming, and that can probably extend to internet culture too. Men are too retarded to be in possession of any technology, really. They should acknowledge this and be willing to give it up whatever technology you request, if they care about you, honestly. I'd be willing to give them a tamagotchi if they're good. This can totally extend to a guy that's willing to go off the grid with you, almost, like, be a complete hermit with you, beyond you guys having the technology that makes life more comfortable (plumbing, electric, etc).
- Doesn't really want to be around anyone but you. I feel this way and I have a hard time keeping and maintaining friends. It's a lot of work and I'm tired all of the time anyways. I would like someone that has perspective on our relationship and the time we spend together, knowing it can be taken from us at any time. I don't really enjoy having more than like, one friend at a time, if any, so someone similar to myself is good.
Idk, you guys will probably shit on me for this but w/e.
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Well-read in a variety of subjects, always eager to learn, enjoys teaching.
>Playful sense of humor:
We can laugh and be silly together.
He knows what he wants in life and has clear goals, a vision of the future.
We are partners. He wants to see me succeed, because my success is vital to our future vision. He is supportive of healthy choices and calmly steers me away from my destructive nature when needed.
He lets me support him too, even if that support is uncomfortable at times. He loves trying new things and is not afraid to break the mold. He will encourage me to do so too, because I am.
Ultimately, the most important aspect is partnership. We are equals working together to achieve common goals. We honor the partnership, honor ourselves and each other.
I got everything I wanted in mine and more. I am very, very grateful.
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Well, there are few traits I seek, but I wouldn't say all of them are required
>isn't mentally ill
I don't mind aspergers, but BPD, schizophrenia, etc. are all out of question. I also honestly wouldn't consider someone who is severely depressed to be "ideal"
>not an emotional vampire, but doesn't mind opening up
I am more than happy to support someone else emotionally, but I expect to receive the same treatment and attention from them.
>we share some interests
Obviously, our interests don't need to be exactly the same, but it's good to have a starting point. I'm into literature, anime, manga, visual novels, rpgs, languages, basketball, so it would be nice if he also liked some of those things
>he is shorter or the same height as me
Short boys are CUTE. CUTE. Hnngg.
Showers, shaves, puts on skin care, washes his hair regularly, etc.
>not a man slut
>black hair&pale skin combination
>isn't addicted to porn
>vanilla or switch
you posted a lot of shit you don't want, not much that you do.
also you sound like the weeb neckbeard pedos in your first post.
meant the first part of your post.
wanting a weak doormat who has no friends is a huge red flag, anon.
- short, between 5’5 and 5’10. I’m 5’5 myself and love someone’s who close to my height, so much easily to kiss n cuddle them.
- not super skinny, broad shoulders, a dad bod with muscle underneath is the ideal. I love a bit of a belly on a man, not a true gut though!
- smart, but not necessarily smarter than me kek. smart in typical “man” stuff is important to me, like cars.. because I’m clueless and want someone to help me. but book smarts don’t matter as much as long as they don’t mind listening to me.
- kind, caring, supportive, motivated! without sounding like a tradthot, I’d love a man who makes enough to financially cover us both but if that’s not possible, someone who will be there to help me achieve my career goals.
- animal lover, likes kids but doesn’t want them.
- dorky. I play video games and watch anime, so someone who won’t judge me for that is great. But I don’t want a guy who also watched anime (been there, done that, it was horrible). Bonus points if we play similar games!
- isn’t a slob. I’m not super neat myself so two slobs in one house would be horrible. Need some sort of balance.
Wholesome af not a single thing sexual or appearance wise
Congrats on finding your special person
>Kind, endearing, empathetic. Wears emotions openly, but maturely. Can show anger without placing blame or resorting to violence and/or yelling.
>Respectful of nature and the things around him, including himself. Doesn't guzzle himself booze, drugs, tattoos, or overuse general profanities. Doesn't share ill-will towards other people, such as commenting on stranger's weight all the time or looking down on retail employees.
>Good health. Doesn't have mental illness (sorry, dated a ton; done with it).
>Willing to go out and try new things; not afraid of the outdoors. I love hiking, camping, surfing, skating, etc. I really want to try hand gliding.
>Knows how to manage finances, and can provide for himself; isn't a materialist. I'm a minimalist and feel our lifestyles would be incompatible since I want to live in a very small space and save up as much money as possible for new experiences.
>Goal is marriage; sees me as his life's partner and the one to help mutually fulfill his needs with. Cares about my emotions and sexual satisfaction as I do his. (ie doesn't have anime/porn level expectations; doesn't compare me to other women, isn't repulsed by body hair/acne/cellulite and other things that are normal in moderate levels)
>A strong sense of responsibility and work ethic: cares for our children (if we decide to have them), helps with chores and home maintenance, never lets finances shift too much one way or the other. We both contribute.
>Willing to experiment in bed; lets me be the big spoon
>Doesn't hate my music (I listen to metal on full blast a lot and play drums/guitar; I imagine it'd get annoying if he didn't tolerate it)
>Has a well paid job and/or education
>Incredibly intelligent and likes having frequent debates and discussion, but doesn't take disagreement personally
>Likes board games and sports
>He has those gorgeous honey brown eyes that go orange in the light and those really cute folds at the corders of the eyelids that made them narrow and match his scrunched up nose when he smiles
>Bear mode. Stocky boys with strong arms and a beer belly are the cutest thing ahhhhhh DEATH BY SNU SNU
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- is smarter than me. has a lot of unique interests/hobbies and can teach me new things
- independent/not clingy. does not need constant reassurance, and affection. is emotionally mature and can communicate thoughts and feelings like an adult. can relate on emotional level. 1 or 2 mental illnesses in common. edgy but pure
- taller than me. skinny lanklet
- decent fashion sense.
- loves cats and animals
- is into internet culture and memes so not a normie
- traditional values. wants a family someday but isn't in any rush. virgin. thinks casual sex is haram
- very open minded and open to new ideas and things!
sexually vanilla or submissive but doesn't know it
- introverted, shy, silly or quirky, romantic
- reserved but opens up with time. soft and squishy on the inside
- someone i can respect and look up to
What the heck my description is gone.
Anyway, I like guys who look pretty masculine but still have a boyish charm, pic related is the perfect example.
I don't have really specific reqirements, other than him being taller than me.
Someone who is similar enough to me that we get along, but different enough so that I'm not just dating myself lol
It's not unreasonable. I don't feel comfortable with men that are especially physically imposing and I don't think highlighting strength differences is attractive, like, even on a visceral level. It's not even about insecurity, it's about the fact that a lot of women are literally sleeping with the enemy and they don't even know it until it's too late. Look at the dv stats or how they seek to financially and emotionally ruin women on a daily basis. Tiny men are prettier anyhow. My dad has always been physically abusive
towards me, so I don't like men having the satisfaction on even a subconscious level, of like, being able to relish in an exaggerated size discrepancy between us and know the power is extra tipped in their favor, physiologically, let alone mentally. I probably won't get involved with any guy though.
Anon just wants a non-threatening guy, her dad was abusive
so it's understandable. Fuck off yourself. I have empathy for people like this.
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>Doesn't need me to be his new mommy, he's a grown man who can handle his shit.
>Not afraid to stand up for himself, but in a calm and flexible way. Good tempered, rarely lose his cool.
>Loves and respect women as a whole. He must have a good respectful relationship with his mom / granny / aunts (granted they're not abusive bitches).
>Not a virgin, not a manwhore, someone who's had enough experience to know what he likes and want in a relationship.
>Must be able to talk about his feelings and emotions like a well balanced adult. (Not afraid to cry, admit he's stressed out, afraid…)
>Doesn't struggle with jealousy.
>Prefer doing outdoors activities.
>Masculine with boyish charms. Takes good care of his appearance.
>Doesn't use porn.
>Bonus point if he as a decently sized dick.
I find kindness and softness irresistible in a masculine man.
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>around 180 cm but not that important, as long as he's taller than me (165)
>athletic and fit but not super muscular or shredded, a bit of chub on top of muscle is my fave
>into sports, will watch/play my favorite sports with me (or is willing to let me teach him)
>strong and masculine, but in a chivalrous way, not toxic or insecure
>has lots of hobbies and interests we can talk about, intelligent and well-read, open-minded
>plays video games casually, always down to play mariokart or smash with me
>good hygiene, capable of dressing well and wearing clothes that fit
>not a total normie but not corrupted by degenerate shit
>doesn't watch porn, doesn't follow camgirls/ig thots, or have any gross fetishes, has absolutely no interest in anal
>loves his mom, and his family in general, ideally he'd have a chill and friendly family that I can enjoy hanging out with
>gets along with my family, is open to our culture (we're immigrants) and would never make retarded jokes about my ethnicity
>loves kids and animals
>well mannered, gentlemanly, has respect for others and is empathetic and kind
>good temper, doesn't flip out or yell, capable of having mature discussions without turning everything into an argument
>romantic, sweet and gentle, will always comfort me when I cry (which is often lol), loves to cuddle
>bonus points for being bilingual and/or having a qt accent, I fucking melt for cute guys with accents
This just made me depressed thinking how lonely I am. I really hope I can find a good sweet guy to marry, so jealous of you lucky anons with great bfs and husbands.
Honestly I kind of see where she's coming from and while she's too cautious, I think it's better than not being cautious at all.
A lot of women pick men who will mentally and physically abuse them and take advantage of them. A lot of guys also tend to be sexually predatory. Men who are aware of that inherent risk are really rare.
I knew my bf was a keeper when he at the beginning let me initiate physical contact in our relationship, even small things like holding hands and such (he straight up told me, he was so happy I initiated because he wanted me to be as comfortable as possible, and he didn't want to push me into anything). Imo I think more guys should act like that but they're always pushed into the "bE a dOmInAnT alPhA" brainwashing bullshit and certain types of low self-esteem women validate them and then they think it's ok to act that way around all women.
Anon I actually really
like this and have a very similar taste. Sorry to see other anons are shitting on you for no reason. >tfw no sweet, kind, empathetic bf
>Not on the right wing politically, but intelligent enought not to go all the way down the left wing
>Can distinguish between porn and real life, I really like sex and talking freely about it is a must. Been on a relationship with a man who didn't watch porn and never expressed "dirty desires". It was so bad and sex so boring I ended up distancing myself.
>Not into ethots
>Likes nerd stuff (sorry, I can't figure dating someone with no interest in most nerd culture)
>Mutual support is mandatory
>Talks sincerely and openly about himself, his feelings and his believes
>Open to confront but believes enought in his opinion not to be amoeba
>Has strong personality enought to keep head to me in arguments (and eventually wakes me up from mental torpor, to say)
>Someone with whom I can laught my heart off and feel free
>Doesn't drains me emotionally
>Passionate about whatever he does. I find this very wholesome and inspirational
>Mutual learning about anything in life
>Kind, loves animals, blahblahblah you know the goes.
>Not afraid of letting go to tenderness and softness
>Eager to grow together and learn from each other mistakes with no fear
>Phisically, not too tall (wouldn't go beyond 185cm), slender figure, let's say skinny to average with a bit of fat
>Black hair, beard, men with glasses is a kink of mine
I can't believe I've found a companion such as my boyfriend, totally the man I see married to in the future. He's more than a boyfriend and a lover to me, I learned so much from him and I can see it was the same for him. Wouldn't change a single thing
how dare you take away from men all the things that make them men. you're such a misandrist, anon! /s
i so want a non-threatening guy, too. one where if i say something stupid or make a mistake he wouldn't make a thing out of it, also>is overwhelmingly positive>humorous, fun to be around>has similar hobbies to an extent>same race>drug free>not a porn watcher>virgin>doesn't want kids>is me-sexual, never had an attraction to anyone else before
>>117027>>117024>never had an attraction to anyone else before
There's a difference between attraction and like, a full-out relationship. The former is absolutely impossible to get away from. You gonna get mad when he talks jokingly about his elementary school crush?
Wanting someone who's never been in a relationship is one thing, wanting what anon mentioned is just flat out psychotic.
Will probably trigger
anons to say this but you could get a demisexual guy who isn't sexually attracted unless he's in a relationship and you might be his first.
to him I would be :)>>117029
that's why it would be ideal, because everything in reality is bullshit. it would make me so happy to know i was special to my guy and i was the only one. how is this one specific want important to nitpick out of the (even more unrealistic) ideals i listed
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I always find myself being attracted to a certain type of guys:
>gives me attention even when he has friends around like, he doesn't need to talk to me but he does
>doesn't see me ONLY as a potential fuck
>still talks to me even after discovering my cringey and awkward side
Met a few guys like that, but I got my dreams shattered because of a few things, so I guess I should add:
>is a genuine feminist and doesn't see women as walking chunks of meat
>not a depressed mess
I never thought I'd read about anyone who wants these things. I always knew I was like, different in life but I'm glad to see this
I've always been the overly-attached and clingy type that gets way too loyal. I never understood it. I've never really liked any girls before but I've always wanted to be married and together 25/8. The whole me-sexual thing is so accurate, I completely lose the whole sex drive for people that aren't my partner. So much anime is just about japan's underdeveloped population and attraction to cute instead of what is normally sexually stimulating. I've always been a giant sweetheart and insanely compassionate. I grew up most of my life with like roaches and rats eating at me in the middle of the night and having to find food from food banks, I've even been homeless twice. I'm a huge doormat, I love it when I don't have to initiate anything and can just be co-pilot to someone else.
Even with the porn and sex thing, I hate any sort of sexual stimulation that isn't an s/o.
I've always hated money, I remember crying as a child when my parent told me about what it was. It's always been something I've wanted to be completely absorbed by someone and have zero distractions, the whole hermits-together things is so amazing. I have no problem spending 11 hours at a time just sitting with someone, not even talking.
I am the same way with friends and relationships, I need to do one thing at a time, and want someone very similar to myself. I have no problem with just one single person for the rest of my life.
I don't think you're crazy anon. or maybe both of us are just crazy, idk.
It really doesn't, seeing as how men aren't the ones that have to cope with being made to feel inescapable sexually and romantically disposable from the cradle to the grave. Of course feeling special to the guy you love, in terms of sexual attraction, is something that some women would really want considering most men we interact with have been so hypnotized by porn that they want us to re-enact increasingly disgusting and/or dangerous things with them and are literally addicted to porn. This "you're just like an incel" thing is so unimaginably ignorant of larger context. It's really dumb.
And more importantly, the main distinction is that incels refuse to accept anything else but their fantasy and actually hate women who don't fit their fantasy. Their fantasies completely inform their real life standards. That's literally the opposite here. Try again.
It's not "attractive" but it's healthy. Unless your boyfriend is like, 16 (which I hope he isn't, pedo-chan), it is literally unhealthy and abnormal to not ever be attracted to people.
Anyway my ideal bf :
* An understanding of art. Someone who dislikes modern and contemporay art (or worse: thinks they're the same) is an absolute no-go.
* Had past experiences with mental health issues or drugs but is seriously over it and healthy and free of (serious) addiction.
* Not rendered brain-dead by porn.
* Ideally tall lanklet but any type of not fat and not Mr. Muscle Man, tall-ish body type will do.
* Empathic and with a kind soul. Can be selfless. It reflects in his political opinions.
* Slightly prententious/arrogant but not mean.
* Not a virgin. Decent in bed with our common complicity making him even better in bed.
* Not necessarily a loud feminist but any type of mysoginy is an absolute deal braker.
* Is absolutely attracted to me and loves me. Considers me as a whole-ass person and not some manic pixie dream girl fantasy.
* Funny, not funnier than me but appreciates my personal humour.
* Likes to read, is creative, intellectual, knows what's happening the world right now.
* A minimum of internet culture.
* Not looking for a mommy to take care of him. Can take care of himself. Not jealous.
* Passionate but doesnt put all the hopes of the relationship into "passion", is also dedicated.
* IDEALLY also STEM smart and can teach me about hard-science stuff I don't know about.
* Not someone who has ever said in his life "all my exes are crazy!"
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>worships me like a goddess
>proclaims I'm the only girl he's ever loved
>touches me like I'm made of delicate porcelain and asks if he's too rough
>was a virgin before me
>vanilla but eager to experiment and satisfy my weird ass fetishes
>hates getting BJs; loves giving head
>overall, a giver rather than a taker
>never complains when I ask for 1+ hour massages
>places above all else our emotional and romantic bond rather than our sexual relationship
>doesn't brag about his dick size or height
>is overall humble
>despises porn and weeb shit
>plays an instrument so we can jam
>a love for literature and the arts
>doesn't pressure me into anything
>loves to do domestic duties and chores
>gives me compliments everyday and writes me love poems
>sensitive, gentle shy guy that's wholly emotionally available
>not addicted to the internet
>engages in intellectual discussion
>full head of long thick hair (the best feature in all men imo)
>feminine face that belongs in classical paintings
>masculine svelte body with well-defined muscles
>a love for all animals
>does the "right thing" even if it fucks him over in the end
>silly, quirky humor that's charming; he gets my dark humor and deadpan jokes
>doesn't see me as a bitch
>isn't afraid to apologize first when we fight; doesn't care if he "wins/loses" the argument
I think I've found "The One."
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>Is a total doormat and financially dependent on me
>5' tall max and weight no more than 100 lbs so I can easily smack and body drop him.
>Grew up with no money, regularly starved so he will be happy whenever I give him anything to eat.
>Comes from a severely abusive family so he'll feel extremely grateful for the tiniest things I do for him.
>Has never laid eyes on any other human being before. Had no concept of sexuality before laying his eyes on me.
>Vanilla but let me peg him with no lube.
>Has no friends and want none. I should be the only friend he needs.
>Loves the smell of my farts and always get a good sniff when I let one out.
>Don't care if I have no accomplishment in life and don't except me to ever get better.
>Always let me win arguments and genuinely believe I'm always right because I'm the smartest woman on the planet. Will apologize for making me mad when he disagrees with me.
>Has no hobbies outside of loving and serving me.
>Never masturbated before, doesn't know what porn is and cry when he learn what it is.
>I'm tall myself, but don't want somebody who's too tall, so 178~185cm
>slim and athletic body, works out
>I'm pale with light eyes, but want a guy who's a bit tanner, maybe with honey brown eyes
>I don't care about the colour, but I don't like short hair
>takes care of his apperance (skin care etc) and has a good fashion sense (more sporty/"urban" than elegant)
>has an amazing smile
>looks hot and confident, but is also bubbly, happy, energetic, childish, motivates me, cheers me up - balances out how shy and silent I am, gets me to leave the house lol
>I actually don't care whether he's intelligent or not, as long as he's not insensitive. And I hate people who act like know-it-alls.
>likes his job, never comes home in bad mood, doesn't vent his work problems to me all the time (like my father does to my mother)
>doesn't lose his temper easily
>is popular, has more sexual experience than I do, has nice friends
>has many hobbies and is open to mine
>is not one of those outdoor freaks whose only idea of vacation is hiking, camping or sleeping in a caravan (there are a lot of them in my country…)
>doesn't need to be around me 24/7, is not overly romantic
>isn't ashamed of me, doesn't lie to me, never makes fun of me, isn't late to dates… simply the basics
So, I guess I want a friendly chad, who miraculously puts up with somebody like me.
I agree with many of the points that >>116934
picked tbh haha. This will probably look similar but maybe for different and less radfem reasons. I don't really see men as the enemy, I just like cute ones.
>4'11"-5'4" because I'm just unable to be attracted to men who are taller than me. I'm 5'6" for reference.>skelly is good for tossing around, but squishy is good for cuddling. Either is fine as long as he's not athletic.>some sort of interesting feature like a big nose, gap teeth, or acne scars. Perfection is weird to me.>…same/similar race. There are actually very few of us. Oddly regarding this I do prefer short hair on guys, but if he grows it out I understand and support that pride.>interested in the arts as a hobby so we can collaborate on projects in our free time>decent at communicating and is a bigger talker than me but also a good listener. I prefer to talk less.>very introverted and not interested in the party or club scene. I don't need him to be isolated, a few friends are obviously fine. I have a best friend myself. But in the end we should spend much of our time together because we'll be the best of best friends.>not into drugs or alcohol>very passive sexually. The ideal is a guy who just lies there because I dislike being touched.>attracted to me…not alone, I just want to be his type>good hygiene and decent fashion sense. It increases attraction tenfold, but just letting me dress him would also be nice.>Overall just a calm and grounded person. Boring, even.>will let me support him later as a sign of my love and devotion.>loves animals
Same except the fart part
fuck off scatfag
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but I'll bite. Saging for samefag and because my standards are insanely unrealistic, this man doesn't exist in reality and I don't care.
>Very wealthy. I don't particularly care if it comes from his achievements or his family but it would be nice if he is intelligent enough to be accomplished and has a good career.>Masculine, toned but not beefcake and much taller than me.>Dominant in bed and in life. Weak and submissive men are disgusting to me. >Has never felt anything for, been in a relationship with or done anything sexual with another woman. Anti-porn virgin and no interest in looking at another woman.>Attractive in the same tier as pic related. I have a preference for asian men but I'm not a crazy weeaboo about it. >Older than me but not more than 8 years age difference. >Serious, cold exterior but warm interior that is exposed only to me.
I'll get my romance fix elsewhere because real men are disappointing. Anons hook me up if you have any romance media recommendations like this.
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Love O2O. The male protagonist is pretty dreamy and successful, a gentleman too. The protagonist is his first love. The video game parts are kind of cringe, though.
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ok let's do this, i've been dreaming of my dream boy for awhile
looks: >white, black hair, pale skin >sideburns, strong eyebrows, hairy >slightly overweight >round-ish features, stubble/shadow, a smirk and dark circles >dresses in an eccentric way (like kramer from seinfeld-esque) >either slightly taller or slightly shorter than me (i'm 5'9, so medium height is ideal)
personality>fun loving, extroverted, daredevil >not politically motivated >enjoys rough/passionate sex but is not into strange kinks/fetishes >either blue collar or middle of the road liberal arts (i'm in STEM and can't stand the men i'm around)>somewhat dumber than me (not preachy, will actually listen to what i say without AHKTUALLY-ing me)>will tease me and has a sense of humour >likes to be sexualized, ie: will let me dress him up, wants me touch him, handsy with me>low maintenance but puts in effort, has an interest in vintage culture >appreciates my coldness, thinks women like that are attractive >NO VIDEO GAMES >>117121
god sometimes i hate this website
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Appearance-wise you're practically describing Mr. Darcy
not that anon but this exchange made me giggle.
anyway, here goes nothing:
looks>dark, curly/wavy hair>skin either porcelain white or straight up black, no arabs allowed>not fat but not pumped with muscle, just lean with some definition>big arms, nicely shaped legs, being bow-legged is a plus>tall. sorry short kings, but my man needs to be tall, at least 180~cm. the taller the better tbh.>if i'm dating a man i want him to be physically bigger than me and literally be able to throw me around in bed lmao
personality>not depressed, please god please not depressed, i already am>interested in learning new stuff and hasn't lost his curiosity about life>same intelligence as me but in different areas. i'd like to be a bit dominant in our day-to-day life but i'd like to let him have the reins when i feel like to, so he needs to be smart and quick. i don't want to explain things.>a job. have a job. entrepreneurship doesn't count>is good in bed, cares about me and my needs. doesn't get fussy when i don't feel like having sex/giving a blowjob.>doesn't take himself too seriously. meaning we can joke around and roast each other. isn't too worried about his appearance but grooms still.>isn't afraid of being silly with me and friends>doesn't push me but still manages to take me out of my comfort zone>doesn't see buying flowers, gifts, arranging dates etc. as a huge fucking deal
and most importantly, out of all of this,
Ideal cute bf
>>memetic 1.80 or taller
I just love tall boys
>>cute accent, I'm esl so all accent is cute but Welsh or Scottish is cute
>>funny and witty, someone that clearly loves live and joy
>>into self growth and connected with his feelings
>>takes pride in his looks and even eccentric
Thanks to previous relationships I don't have time or patience for guys with low self esteem, I want someone who shines because they love themselves
>>physically and intellectually active. Not necessarily a someone obsessed with either but I like hiking and walking as much as discussing epistemology or ethics
>>not the same but similar world views and morals
>>generous with their time, energy and money
>>gotta have artistic sensibility, in all its aspects.
>>into spoiling one another.
>>a hopeless romantic and passionate
If he's not into fistfight at moon light for my honor then what do I win lmao
>>a spiritual person or at least understand the sensibility of being spiritual
>>physically I'm not very exquisitive but big hands are always good
Astrology sperging incoming : sun and asc, either both fire signs or a mix of air and fire, sun in 3rd-5th-7th-9th-10th house, moon in water sign or Capricorn in 3rd-6th-11th, Venus in water sign, Libra or Leo.
Anyway basically someone like me who is into loving and living life.
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>Hygienic, funny, loyal, animal lover
>Curious, willing to try new things, loves to travel
>Race doesn't matter as long as he's a prettyboy with long lashes, but I tend to lean towards light skin brown boys or tan Asians
>Skinnyfat, slightly toned, or chubby bod. No gymrats or skellys.
>5'6" or taller
>Smart but doesn't act like he's smarter than me, even if he is. Can teach me stuff without being condescending about it (which is impossible for most men).
>Not overly self confident. I can't stand dudes who know they're good looking. Even the mildest fuckboy aura is an instant dealbreaker (hence why I'd never date pic related even though he's physically perfect).
>Bisexual. Most bi guys are mansluts, but I feel like they have a much healthier grasp of emotional vulnerability than straight guys. They also take better care of themselves. Plus it's hot to fantasize about your bf with another guy.
>Likes to play video games, watch movies, and listen to music together. Huge bonus points if he can introduce me to new media that I enjoy.
>Is receptive to my affection. I'm not a big romantic so he doesn't have to be either, but he has to tolerate my clingyness lol
>idc if he still lives at home as long as he has a job and knows how to take care of himself. Career path doesn't matter either, I make enough money for the both of us. He can be whatever he wants.
>Doesn't get drunk. Ever. Having a few drinks and getting tipsy is fine, but regularly drinking to the point of slurring, passing out, vomiting, getting loud or violent etc. is a huge no.
>I don't mind if he watches porn as long as it's not some degenerate incest/rape/abuse bullshit
>Small or average penis. Big veiny dicks disgust me.
I realize this all makes me sound kinda young/immature, I'm in my early 20s but I've more or less had the same ideal type since I was a teenager. Maybe it'll change as I get older, but my dating history is quite extensive so, at the moment I'm quite confident in what I like. I know my standards are high but I'm still keeping my fingers crossed.
The Kiss Quotient .
Sexy Asian male lead. Dominant. Lots of steamy scenes.
Sucks that hardly any books have Asian romance leads in it
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My bf has sideburns and very long hair, but it doesn't look like bad 70s hair. I wish more men had hair like that. Maybe not muttonchops though lol. Regency hair is nice too.
I think most men look just bad with undercuts. I don't really like them on anyone.
Pic related, a bit more muttonchoppy than I would usually like but I think he pulled it off.
am I being described
>worships me like a goddess
yes>proclaims I'm the only girl he's ever loved
I dunno you, but yeah>touches me like I'm made of delicate porcelain and asks if he's too rough
yes>vanilla but eager to experiment and satisfy my weird ass fetishes
yes>hates getting BJs; loves giving head
I love both but the last one more>overall, a giver rather than a taker
yes>never complains when I ask for 1+ hour massages
make it 3-6, one hour isn't long enough>places above all else our emotional and romantic bond rather than our sexual relationship
of course>doesn't brag about his dick size or height
yes>is overall humble
yes>despises porn and weeb shit
yes>plays an instrument so we can jam
no :(>a love for literature and the arts
yes>doesn't pressure me into anything
yes>loves to do domestic duties and chores
yes but only if it's for you or us>gives me compliments everyday and writes me love poems
I thought that was too clingy but yeah>sensitive, gentle shy guy that's wholly emotionally available
yes>not addicted to the internet
yes>engages in intellectual discussion
yes>full head of long thick hair (the best feature in all men imo)
did someone dox me>feminine face that belongs in classical paintings
did someone dox me>masculine svelte body with well-defined muscles
who doxxed me>a love for all animals
yes>does the "right thing" even if it fucks him over in the end
ive been doxxed>silly, quirky humor that's charming; he gets my dark humor and deadpan jokes
yes>doesn't see me as a bitch
yes>isn't afraid to apologize first when we fight; doesn't care if he "wins/loses" the argument
should I be afraid? are you the one that emailed me(USER HAS BEEN PUT OUT TO PASTURE)
I'm not a robot, I'm just making fun you femcels, and my satire isn't far off the mark considering >>117154>>117155
unironically want this.
think it's real.
>>117092>men r ebil so we can be ebil too!
seriously though, you're crazy.
Physically, just be somewhat thin/fit, blue or green eyes, sharp jaw, scruff
Personality wise, I like them adventurous,respectful of me, understanding, a few common interests and they have to make me feel desirable and cared for
I like mommying too but in regards to sex, I like it when they're comfy enough to do kinky shit but knows how to be respectful about it but also doesn't act immature when sex mishaps happen like bone pops, farts and queefs, lots of sweat, etc
I have a guy I'm happy with so there's that, there's someone for everyone
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>Dark hair with dark eyes that are perpetually tired looking (maybe a bit sunken or with eyebags).
I also really like dark, angry-looking eyebrows kek
>Pale and thin
>Doesn't have conventional goals for the future (ex. starting a family, living in a suburban neighborhood, etc.)
I want to leave my future pretty open-ended so I'd feel bad dating someone who has set plans to settle down and have a conventional life.
>Independent and has his own friends and interests
If we happen to have the same interests that's fine, but I'd hate for us to do everything together just because that's what couples are 'supposed' to do
>Respects the fact I need my space and am not a super gushy romantic person (if he's the same way, even better)
>Isn't a normie and thinks for himself/isn't overly reliant on technology or whatever is seen as cool and trendy
I know this is superficial and stupid but it's such a turnoff when I meet guys whose personalities are basically just the Office, going to parties, and Facebook memes.
>Has a few hobbies and interests that he's really passionate about
I always think guys are the cutest when they're talking about something they really like
>Has a more quiet, relaxed personality and is transparent with his emotions/feelings
I don't like guys who are stereotypically masculine and think its manly to be emotionally constipated, but as a result end up emotionally immature and lash out and say stupid things they don't mean when they lose their temper/are under stress/etc. Also in terms of emotional transparency, I just mean someone who doesn't change their personality to fit the occasion and is generally the same guy no matter the situation.
Am I asking for too much? Probably.
I don't know why ppl who seem to be scared of men want to get into a relationship, like you've got some issues to resolve before that girl
Wanting a tiny guy just because he'd be 'weaker and not as threatening' is insane, and I got some news for you he'd stronger all the same
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>>116934>I'd be willing to give them a tamagotchi if they're good.
Now there, you'll spoil him.
>>117361>he'd be stronger all the same
Ntayrt but I've experienced having more upper body strength than some tiny men. I lift and am a stocky lady though.
Not saying I'm stronger than most men or anything (definitely not) but a 5'2" skelly guy? Absolutely. It's attainable for some women.
Disclaimer that I'm only into this for fetish reasons and not fear btw kek.
Same. I'm 5'10, that's taller than most men and naturally I'm also stronger.
Have some confidence in your strength, of course short body builders exist, but your average short or medium-height guy is not Hulk.
I know this is a troll but>Vanilla but let me peg him with no lube.
Is so true of most of this site. A lot of women here hate anal and want a guy who doesn't watch porn but they want to put stuff in a guy's ass as a sort of revenge. It's hypocritical, even if he has a prostate.
My absolute ideal 10/10 type that I will never find, forgive me for being so specific but I'm just going all out for once:
>A good person but not judgemental. Can be a bit cynical, gossip and acknowledge peoples' faults without sugarcoating it, but doesn't do it maliciously
>Has a good heart and helps other people without being a total pushover
>Independent and can voice his opinion, doesn't shut up and harbor some repressed bitterness against me because he can't open his mouth when it matters
>Has a hefty sense of (somewhat dark) humor, I love cracking jokes and bantering so I want him to be on the same wavelength instead of being too serious and no-nonsense
>I can deal with aspergers and slight depression/anxiety but crippling mental and personality disorders are too much for me
>Has his own income and doesn't mooch off my paycheck, but also isn't a penny-pinching cheapskate who drives 20 extra miles because the other gas station has $0.05 off gas
>Loves nerdy shit and discussing it in depth and theorizing, big bonus points if he's a weeb
>Isn't a prude and can enjoy porn and kinks, but doesn't force me to do uncomfortable and/or painful things I don't get off to (Like choking, deepthroating, anal etc)
>Likes kids and animals, doesn't have to be super into them but still tolerate and respect them
>Loves food and enjoys restaurants without being snooty about it
>Has his own circle of friends without being too dependent on me being his only social contact
>Respects his mother and other women
>Genuinely enjoys my company and doesn't see me just as a girlfriend but his soul mate and other half
>I really don't give that many shits about looks because I'm 90% about personality, just be taller than me and not morbidly obese and it's allright
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- is non-violent and non-aggressive. i cannot stand men who want to beat everyone up.
- NOT A RADICAL LEFTIST OR PROGRESSIVE!!
- is ambitious and has something going for him when it comes to school or work, has a great work ethic and will have a successful career
- does not watch porn and respects women
- likes cats
- is independent and confident! not a needy mama's boy
- has a silly sense of humor and doesn't take himself too seriously
- is into normie shit like football
- puts effort into his appearance and has a nice fashion sense
- works out and eats healthy
- is not a big gamer
- does volunteer work
- is non-judgmental and understanding when it comes to stuff like mental health issues. doesn't look down on people who are homeless or addicted to drugs
- when it comes to appearance i like handsome, but pretty, men who are taller than me. i'm a sucker for men with good hair (lol) and dark hair and brown eyes
At this point I've honestly resigned myself to being alone since I don't really feel like settling for less, but your response gave me some hope that I'll find someone kek. I guess it's also a matter of hoping that someone who meets my ideals also likes me back, but that's a whole different story. (also by any chance does your husband look like Trent Reznor/gif related- just curious)>>117374
It seems like a lot of men expect their partners to fill the emotional/loving role in the relationship because they're so shit at doing it themselves, so I feel like it's unrealistic to ask for a man who is okay with a girlfriend who isn't emotionally open, expressive, nurturing, etc and won't fill that stereotypical role. Some guys are okay with it, but they end up treating you like a 'cool girl' instead, which isn't much better. I could be wrong though, but that's just how it seems from what I've seen. Anyway, sorry for the rant just wanted to elaborate on why I felt like I was asking for a lot.
Its just a loud minority
majority of us agree that mens asshole are disgusting and that an produces feces, farts and prolapses
I hate that I'm even attracted to men but here we go:
- Has a small number of past partners
- No drugs at all, rarely drinks alcohol
- Respects/agrees with my political (and rad fem) views
- Respects my career and my education
- Likes to cook, doesn't mind cleaning and is a generally clean person
- Doesn't have a weird fixation with anal
- Doesn't watch porn or have any other fake porn fetishes like titty fucking or face fucking
- Not into BDSM and prefers to make love passionately
- Has actual career goals and passions
- Not allergic to and likes both cats and dogs
- Doesn't go MIA when we have conflicts but resolves them with me
- Doesn't have extreme family issues
- Doesn't constantly need to be around other people
- Doesn't listen to degenerate music
- Will let me keep my last name and might take my last name when we get married
- Doesn't put me down for my interests and will partake in some of my cheesy hobbies
- Loves baseball (doesn't root for my rival team)
- Doesn't have bad spending habits
- Dark hair, brown eyes, preferably not ghostly pale like me
- Bonus points if he's Hispanic
- around 5'8 to 6'0 tall
- Average BMI, not super skinny with nice thighs and a cute, relatively flat stomach
- Nice face with not a giant nose (mine is pretty big) and also with dimples and a cute smile
- Some squish is fine and cute as well, not too muscly
- Not preferred but if he has questionable fashion, he must be willing to let me help him buy clothes
- Won't go bald or at least be attractive enough to pull off being bald later in life
- No beard or facial hair whatsoever, yikes
- Takes care of his skin and has good hygiene
- Nice broad chest with broad shoulders
- Dick is average to slightly over average with decent girth
I basically described my boyfriend, RIP me if we ever break up. I think I'm just going to try dating women or die alone if that happens (video related).
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Does anyone like men of average height? I feel like everyone here is either a Manlet chaser or only dates giants.
I hate to admit it but I like 5’11”. That’s the perfect height for me despite the media and incels memeing tf out of it.
LOL what you described is legit a friend of mine, well almost all those check out except since he’s got into a new job the whole friends thing is abit hard for him to do since he works a compressed work schedule but he tries his best to hang out with his friends but they’re also on shift work. So if that isn’t something that bothers you then he pretty much checks out. He’s abit of a chubster but he’s no super fat or fat by any means but if by going off this thread, he’s most def considered “fat” by the ideal perfect male in some posts lol. You didn’t mention facial hair but he’s got thick dark hair, an a beard, shaggy kind of. He’s a great guy he’s kind of just dense to things at time almost oblivious but it’s kind of a cute thing at times lol.
I also realize this is from 15 days ago, but he’s out there.. in Canada if that matters haha.
>>117631>5'5" is borderline midget for a male
What. Guys above 4'10" don't have dwarf proportions. 5'5"/6" is king of manlets territory tbh.
Unless you meant to type 5'1"…in which case I guess it is technically borderline lmao.
it's a post made by a slutty male
"MeSexuals" don't exist. Even if he doesn't say anything or pursue other women, he will still look at them in a sexual way at least once in a while.
This is like when men want a kissless virgin who has the skills of a pornstar and super high sex drive.
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I want a man who acts like a human in general, doesn't watch porn, doesn't see me as an object and is faithful while in a relationship. But maybe I'm asking for too much lol
same here, it sounds good until you experience it. his obsessive behaviour was awful and to this day he won't leave me alone.
i really regret dating him.
only one anon said that though, the other ones quoted haven't
even so my point still stands about how women are expected to have eyes for no one but their partner, men aren't.
shitty but common, just calling other people shitty doesn't erase the fact it happens and many people still think like this
just let people talk about it without shutting them down
This thread look like fun. I never really thought about an ideal guy, I'm kinda lonely so I'll take anyone, but if I get to build the perfect guy?
-I like guy my height or slightly taller. I'm 5'4 so at most 5'8. I notice that when super tall guy date me, they treat me very childishly.
-alt. fashion, street wear, goth, metal, doesn't matter. I want to take cute matchy alt. clothes at live shows.
-personality? High self esteem. Self motivated, not close to his mom, can take a joke and laugh. Not a jealous, violent type.
-Doesn't need to drink to have fun and vaping is the least they smoke. Masculine and enjoys some type of sport. They has to be
-independent and Understanding and maybe a little dumb? I'm pretty dumb myself, so let be dumbasses together.
- would love if they play videogames beside CoD, Fortnite, or other shooters. Would love to talk about mmos, action/rpgs with.
-Anime and manga isn't a must, but again, it a common hobby I would love to shared.
-no cosplay guy, eguys, or fuck boys.
-they enjoy trying new things. I love eating at new places, trying new things and is too curious about life to get stuck in a rut. I want to shared these discovery!
I feel like these are very basic wants after writing them down. I understand couples fights, but I don't want a relationship that mostly bitter with little sweet. I have enough stress in my life that I choose guys who won't be stressful for me. Which lead me to be alone.
>shorter than me (175 cm)>normal weight, not fat, spoopy skeleton or too much muscle>nice thick hair, not balding, shaved or really short hair. doesnt have a beard>kind to others but not a doormat, is confident and knows his personal limits>not jealous or too clingy>not violent even against other males (unless self defence), doesnt yell often>considers females human, not objects or some glorified goddesses>has things in his life he cares about (not just me) or is trying to gain them>doesnt drink, smoke or do drugs often, once in a while is fine>high sex drive, sexually submissive and likes being the little spoon>can watch porn but understands it =/= reality>supports me and lets me support him>honest and talks about his feelings>likes to go outside home>dumb and dark sense of humor
I know this is like a unicorn but one can dream. >>117383
I would like pegging but I also like stuff in my butt. Has to be done gently and only if the other person wants it of course, people who just stick things up there by force deserve to get cancer.
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This is gonna be long 'cause I'm so lonely.
- 5'6" or taller. I'm practically a midget (5'1") and I worry for my future kids.
- Green or blue eyes.
- Brown or blond hair, nice beard.
- Not fat and not a skeleton. Fitness is a bonus so long as he doesn't force me or guilt me into joining him.
- Practices good hygiene and smells nice. Wears good cologne.
- Decent fashion sense. Nothing too fancy or attention-grabbing.
- Loves gaming and enjoys talking about it. Absolutely no casual shit allowed (Fortnite, PUBG, Fifa, CoD, etc). Only the best of games old and new.
- Anime and manga are also good. No cosplaying in public.
- Has good taste (read: my taste lol) in all forms of media.
- Not a cringy leftist.
- Likes animals.
- Wants children and is willing to help with our kids when I really need it.
- No drugs or alcohol.
Personality and behavior:
- Isn't a cocky bastard. I want someone I can make feel better about themselves.
- Introverted. Shyness is fine with me, but I'd still like him to be assertive with men.
- Not too lovey-dovey all the time but not too cold towards me, because I don't want to feel overwhelmed OR underappreciated. Likes it when I smother him with affection.
- Isn't controlling. Extreme dominance is a huge turn-off. Doesn't get offended when I ask for space.
- Is okay with me being a housewife.
- Is a handyman.
- Is always learning something and teaches me things without looking down on me. Also doesn't get threatened if I know more about something than he does. Allows me to explain.
- Has a great sense of humor and can take a joke. Can handle serious conversations.
- Doesn't ignore me in public, doesn't gawk at other women and doesn't make me feel inferior in any way.
- Is decisive. I'm indecisive as hell so nothing would ever get done in our house if he was the same.
- Isn't selfish in bed. Isn't too forceful or rough. Doesn't want to degrade me.
- Can watch porn… just not in front of me.
- Doesn't like anal. Doesn't have weird fetishes like shit or period blood. No daddy stuff either. Vanilla is totally fine.
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My ideal man:
>very tall and muscular, not too much though
>gentle to me
>intelligent in a nice way, doesn't brag about his intelligence
>likes the same stuff I do, and if not then bears with me if I sperg hours about my fav subjects
>doesn't like porn
>understands that women are human beings and not just pretty fuckholes
>knows how to communicate, doesn't give me the silent treatment, bang doors shut angrily or other shitty behaviour
>lets me dominate him in bed occasionally
Sigh. I'm never going to find him, am I girls?
>noticeably shorter than me (I'm pretty tall so should not be impossible)
>generally fair features, freckles are a huge plus
>androgynous looking, long-ish hair
>no manly behaviour
>soft spoken and empathetic
>shy, generally quiet and passive, but still fun to a degree so that it's bit boring to be around him
>somewhat conservative, religious and a bit of a prude
>quite nerdy, wears glasses
>is into art, bonus points if he has actual artistic talent for music, painting, drawing, dancing…
>has a sense of fashion and takes care of his appearance
>loves animals and kids, wants a family one day
>it'd be nice if he was a foodie like me
>enjoys long walks at night
>willing to learn my language
>ideally a virgin, I'd like him to not have a lot of experience with girls so that I can teach him
>high sex drive to keep me satisfied
>well hung, I really like the contrast between that and the rest of an androgynous body and it'd look even bigger on his tiny frame to boot
>the dick should also be good looking so no weird curvatures, shapes or skin tones, MUST be uncut
It's a shame that a guy like that probably doesn't exist, I think some of these characteristics are incompatible with each other, but oh well.
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Looks>Significantly taller than me, at least 6 ft, preferably more>Fit, with visible abs>Nice jawline and a pretty, young looking face>No facial hair or excessive body hair>Brown hair>Big dick>Smells nice>Dresses very casually, but not sloppy>No piercings
Other>Is very straightforward, and does not try to play games>Is not interested in politics>Not pretentious when it comes to art or music>Plays a sport (literally all my serious crushes have at some point played soccer)>Is not smarter than me when it comes to "general knowledge". I like being right. But also not dumb as a rock either.>Slightly jealous and possessive >Likes showing me off, and is not embarrassed to be seen with me>Does not play a lot of video games>Social and has lots of friends>Likes partying>Drinks (but does not act like an asshole when drunk)>Does not take everything super seriously>Is not a doormat to other people, but puts up with my bullshit>Has a very high sex drive and is naturally dominant/rough in bed (but is not into bdsm and does not have fetishes)>Not easily shocked/offended>Not overly emotional>Generous with his money>Outwardly confident>Willing to take care of me>Not religious (and does not have any.hang ups about being raised religious)>Not much older than me
So chad who is nice to me. I had a two night stand with someone who matches a lot of these, and we still talk sometimes but he lives in Germany (which is not on the other side of the world for me or anything but still), and now I can't get over him.
this is the ideal man thread, why are you so triggered
. I’m incapable of trusting anyone anyway, so I don’t actually even want to be in a relationship ever.
Not interested in dating so never thought about my ideal type, but let's try:
>basic shit like not a slob, respectful and polite with others, has a steady job… but that's how everybody should be like
>not overweight or chubby, skellies are fine
>don't care about height
>preferably long hair, bald is an absolute no
>older than me, around my age is fine but not younger
>into alternative fashion
>yes for tattoos, no for piercings
>vegetarian but not vegan
>not a normie, must have some fringe interests
>has some kind of passion for music like playing an instrument, going to concerts or being extremely interested in a specific genre (not necessarily the same as me, as long as he doesn't say shit like Ed Sheeran is good music)
>preferably into manga, but not the mainstream (One Piece&co) or weebie (ReZero&co) shit
>doesn't watch porn, but reading hentai is okay as long as it's not his whole life (would be hypocritical since I read some)
>likes to read but doesn't pretend he's hot shit because he does it
>believes conspiracy theories like pizzagate or pedowood
>not the party type, likes to chill at home or in a coffeeshop or museum
>not wanting to spend all the time with me, likes to be on his own or with his friends rather than with me
>doesn't worship me
>is okay with never meeting my family
>doesn't want to start a family or get married
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My ideal type is extremely unrealistic, but oh well lol. I don't expect to meet anyone like that.
>calm, emotionally mature and secure
>doesn't have problems with making friends irl
>romantic (gets me flowers, cooks for me sometimes, etc.)
>doesn't have many previous partners, treats sex as an expression of love, not a purpose for pursuing relationship
>doesn't watch porn with real people (idc about art or hentai)
>male butterface (fit and an ugly face is the best combination imo)
>likes anime and manga a lot, but not a pedo/lolicon
>some feminine interests (like cooking, farming games, etc.)
>likes to spend time outside (going on walks, cycling, hiking)
>not a neet, idc about his job, but being a neet damages your brain
>dom but not into any weird bdsm stuff
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Summary: Pretty & smart. Those are the most important
>Feminine traits, either in personality or looks (or both)
>Went to a university at the level of mine or higher
>Well-read in terms of politics/ideology/academics/culture–absolutely MUST have meaningful opinions
>Niche hobbies or interests such as cooking/pickling/cheesemaking etc, model building, writing…
>Gaming and anime is fine if he has great taste
>Plays at least one instrument, preferably more (I have no real reasoning for this)
>Speaks a language other than English
>Mostly detached from internet/social media/forum culture, doesn't love memes, no conspiracy shit
>Close with his family, or at least expresses love and respect for them
>Preferably non-white (cultural reasons)
>Has previous partners and a circle of friends including female friends
>Low sex drive, little to no contact with porn and critical of porn industry
>Introspective and thoughtful without being a silent robot
>Introverted but easily makes friends; well-liked
>Stupid and dorky sense of humor
>Melodramatic and OTT romantic/saccharine in private
>Mature and self-assured, maybe even cocky at times
>Ambitious and hard working
>As thin as possible
>Below 6ft (above is ok if he's really feminine and thin)
>Absolutely no muscle mass, muscle tone is ok
>Darker + longer hair, puffy brows, no facial hair
>(At least some) pretty or youthful features, clear skin
>Interesting sense of style but a little unkempt (no techwear software job uniqlo-core pls)
>Unique ethnic/cultural background, especially if he actively partakes in it
>Socialist tendencies and supportive of/interested in modern Communist societies
>Somewhat religious or at least agnostic
>His interests in art, lit, music, and history include things from all over the world
>Into old-school glam rock style androgyny, without attaching any trendy gender ID or label to it (like David Bowie, for example)
I kind of just Frankensteined all the traits I like in my bf, previous partners, best friend, male family, etc. I know the word "feminine" is in here a bunch, and if it sounds like I just want a woman it's because I probably do. Also I don't understand the height sperging ITT or the assumption that manga/anime=stinky pedo freak but maybe you guys know something I don't
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I was all about brunettes until my ex, who made me realize I like blondes. He was 6'4, blond and blue eyed and I now refuse to settle for less. I only go for Chads. All men are disappointing but at least when I get my heart broken it'll be by someone good looking.
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even then this guy looks better as a brunette kek. brunette guys are my thing, it's hard to find a blonde blue eyed man that doesn't look as a cold person
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I don't know what happened, normally I would agree with you. But I just love blondes now. It must be my ex.
If I like brunettes, it's very dark hair with blue eyes. pic related, a Greek singer. When I went to Greece there were so many beautiful guys.
Oh wow, I'm not alone after all! I'm >>121974
and you have excellent taste anon.
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I am a romantic soul, and believe in true love that transcends checklists such as these. Fifteen minutes in a room with the right person, I would find most any item on an arbitrary list (about appearences, hobbies etc) could be negotiable.
For me, the only traits that ultimately matter are: virtuous, ambitious, more intelligent than me, and good humour.
The rest, I leave to fate and chemistry!
Well, it just all came quickly to my mind, I've always had a good imagination. And yes, freckles are so cute omg! Just a handful of them are enough to make most guys look better.
I'd also love it if he was somehow "ashamed" of his high sex drive, probably because it's sinful or something like that. And masturbation is a sin too, so I'd basically be able to have him on the edge whenever I wanted and decide when he gets off. I know it may sound a bit unhealthy, but the idea of being able to control his sexual life like that is just so hot to me. What do you think?
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imagine being this internetbrained
you know there's a whole outside world beyond screens where people talk to each other, right
>Either into tasteful fashion or just has a minimalist style, but I always go for guys who wear all black
>Extroverted and equally energetic as me
>Intelligent, self-driven, and accomplished (preferably in STEM too). I care a lot about having admiration for someone and being motivated by that
>Shares some of my music taste
>Has his own friends, hobbies (not a weeb or gamer), etc that he can introduce me to
>Babies me sometimes. Not in the ageplay sense, but as in acting gentle and protective and finding it cute if I act a bit childish at times
>Doesn't get angry or annoyed easily
>Positive in general, not a whiner
>Kinky, brings up new things to do sexually
>Confident (even a bit cocky)
>Actively plans things to do together and brings me out of my comfort zone, and is similarly open to my suggestions like travel. Likes spontaneous plans.
>Playfully teases me a lot
>Doesn't want kids
The first person I ever dated was an obese, weeby NEET who spent way too much time on 4chan (and is still that way 5 years later), so it brought to light just how fucking insufferable some types of people are. I'll gladly stay single for a while if it means having decent standards in place.
if you're going to be sexually attracted to cartoons why not pick an attractive one
bobble-headed bugeyed girly anime lookin ass
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The most important things for me are that he is honest, has good hygiene, is cuddly, is emotionally intelligent, and that he's healthy (no STIs, not obese, etc.)
In terms of aesthetics, I definitely have certain things I'm drawn to. I like long hair, long eyelashes, and a lithe body. I don't find tons of muscles attractive, I'm just into men who are healthily thin. I love freckles. I don't care about height so long as he's not shorter than me. I'm not really into men that are super tall, though (probably because I associate that with my brother.) I usually don't like facial hair. None of these things are necessarily requirements for someone I would date– they're just the traits I find attractive in celebrities and such.
My biggest turn offs are probably misogyny/toxic masculinity, porn addiction, and bad smells of any kind. Cluster B personality disorders are usually a deal breaker, too. Absolutely no Republicans.
God I hate when men can't dress themselves and just wear teenage boy clothes despite being in their mid 20s and above. Hottest man I met dressed like a typical teen and I just wanted to take him out and redo his style, because he was ruining his potential.
Seriously, everyone has SO MUCH potential but either don't care to reach it or go on believing they're unattractive because they fail to take fashion, fitness and hygiene steps.
Ah, 18 is young. Cut him some slack :) My point still stands about mid 20 dudes that dress like that though lol.
Protip: men are still the same at 25, just with jobs rather than schoolwork. This is the most hilariously endearing thing about them.
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It's probably normal, but the people I'm attracted to (both men and women but this thread is about the guys) are so few and far between. I feel like I'm being shallow but it's just the 'special something' that draws me to people is rare. One of the big traits I find attractive in men is long hair. It's not as common nowadays and not all of them take good care of it. Maybe as a history/fantasy nerd it just speaks to my hopeless romantic-ness, and having long healthy hair is a sign that they take good care of the rest of themselves too. (Bad hygeine/being very overweight is an absolute turn off.) Plus I can play with it. I almost exclusively find myself attracted to long haired men for some reason. Preferably with goatees or some light facial hair. Basically metalheads, fantasy nerds, vikings or pirates.
Personality is easier perhaps; someone who is nice as well as confident(no assholes or doormats please), interested in similar hobbies so I can spend quality time and gush about things with them (having different hobbies while supporting each other is also a bonus), and is serious about being with each other. I have friends who I can chill with and all that, but I kind of want a life partner and someone I can see myself living my life with and having pets with (don't think I ever want kids).
I find it extremely hard to find someone I'm attracted to, because my standards are SO HIGH. If I go on Tinder, I swipe right on like 1/1000 men. I can't help it, with me it's either the hottest man I can find, or no one. I'm not settling.
>Personality is easier perhaps; someone who is nice as well as confident(no assholes or doormats please), interested in similar hobbies so I can spend quality time and gush about things with them (having different hobbies while supporting each other is also a bonus), and is serious about being with each other. I have friends who I can chill with and all that, but I kind of want a life partner and someone I can see myself living my life with and having pets with (don't think I ever want kids).
YES. I want to have a husband I can't spend the rest of my life with working on our hobbies and enjoying life. But NO KIDS. This is SO DIFFICULT to find. I find someone I like and it's almost guaranteed it won't work out because every guy seems to want kids.
**can spend the rest of my life with
lol, not can't
I could've written this lol
It's like looking for a needle in a haystack and the needle might not be there
You'd think being bi would double my chances of finding attractive people but it's not really how it goes. I can acknowledge that many celebrities conventionally attractive, but there's not that "spark" in them to me. It's also kind of silly but when actors have longer hair for a movie/show, I like it but when I see them with normal short hair it's like "oh." Prime example is Henry Cavil as Geralt. So hot. (Geralt was already my husbando to begin with though) Normal Cavil? He's fine but looks average for a celebrity.>>138573
I feel kind of happy that I'm not the only one who feels this way about partners. I'm kind of disillusioned with "hook up/casual" dating or whatever. I tried online dating sites previously because it's easier to see what people look like and get a feel for them by what their profile says, but few were interesting to me (or they lived too far away) and the guys who messaged me never seemed very serious.
I go to Renn faires, game stores, and other outlets for the hobbies I like so finding people with compatible interests isn't too difficult. At the very least I enjoy making friends there if a relationships isn't in the cards. Just have to parse out the neckbeards occasionally.
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You two gave me a stupid idea so here it is(btw I tried to make chad a manlet for our resident manlet chaser but couldn't think of anything)
Admittedly, my friend John
Smart, wicked smart actually, he's probably one of the smartest people in the state. I'm biased of course, but everything he does he does with this analytic mindset and he puts so much thought effort/brain power into doing things
He's also pretty cute. He's short, which I kinda like, but he's got this really young looking face. He's probably balding a bit, but his hair kinda sweeps over the top of his head so it doesn't really look bad.
He wears glasses and looks so sophisticated with them on, but as soon as he takes them off he's got the goofiest look and the goofiest smile
I don't know if he's still athletic, but back in high school he was always one of those surprisingly gifted guys. He was one of the top 10 sprinters in our grade, top 5 maybe even. I couldn't believe just how in shape he was.
Also we just really click in so many different ways. I WISH I had this relationship with anyone I could actually date.
Our humor is the same, our music tastes are so intertwined, and we end up venturing down the same youtube algorithm almost always
He's got blonde hair and blue eyes, but he's the type to say his eye colors change. They've got flecks of green and gold in there so I don't mind when he does say it.
I hope he has a big dick, I wouldn't mind if it was smaller than average though
I don't think I actually enjoy bigger dicks, they just look nice.
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>Jokester, I always had a thing for the class clowns back in school, not bullies just genuinely funny guys.
> Average height, Skinny-Fit swimmer look, or just plain boney, someone who can carry boxes for me but not too strong, strong and big men make me feel threatened because im relatively small (5'1).
> Striking appearance, coming from style or looks doesn't really matter but i like guys who stand out from the crowd, tattoos, uncommon facial structure, alternative or vintage styles. Im guilty of dating ugly guys and thinking they were the most gorgeous in the world just cause they stood out from the crowd.
> Eccentric but not mentally ill, its pretty obvious i like people with a more flamboyant persona but being an extrovert is not a must.
> Most importatly: ABOVE AVERAGE SMART. I need someone I can have stimulating conversations with, heck I even prefer guys smarter than me because I love learning new things and being able to do that in a relationship is like my ultimate catch.
> Im pretty flexible when it comes to sex, strange fetishes and more than just mild shit BDSM are a hard pass tho.
> Adventurous, im prone to shitty manic pixie dream girl shenanigans and I want someone who can keep up and be as equally obnoxious and spontaneous.
Honestly I think the most important thing to me is the guy having an actual personality, men in my age range seem to come in like three boring flavors (Gamer Weeb, Sporty Fuckboy, Pretentious Right Winger Prick) that make me want to stay single forever.
>Knowing how to treat mentally ill women, poor women, homeless women, animals, etc is number one for me. I saw my current boyfriend treat mentally ill women with respect and kindness as well as children and animals, ever since I always hold that to my standard
>Puts effort toward the relationship, no more "lets get taco bell,fuck and you watch me play video games" type dates, actual dates, him wanting to explore with me and travel with me, isn't afraid of being in public with me
>isn't a baby about baggage
>isn't a hypocrite (ex wanting threesomes but only with girls, wants me to forgive his past sins but can't forgive mint, etc)
>grooms properly, keeps up with hairstyles and facial hair styles that flatter his face, knows how to dress, showers, puts on cologne, works out)
>appreciative of what I do
>likes how I look, borderline worships me and appreciates what i need to do to keep myself in shape
>has a career and plans for life and is willing to go forward with it
>faithful, mind and body wise, as in no porn, I don't mind him reading smut though
>acts respectful in public and towards my family
>loyal, is willing to stay around and not leave just because "I just don't feel it anymore"
looks wise I don't really care tbh just don't be too fat or too skinny but I guess
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I wish I had a boyfriend to grow up with.
I dream about the kind of sweetheart who would never hurt anybody. I want someone that I can trust with all my heart and gives me comfort.
I wish I had someone who was considerate towards me, the way I feel and think, is understanding and assuring with my problems. I want both of us to be each other's supports. Someone I can talk to all the time and never get bored of.
I crave committing to someone like this, having his emotional support and friendship, I want to cuddle and fall asleep in his arms. I want to soothe each other.
I want to fantasize about only him and him only fantasizing about me. Someone who genuinely finds me attractive.
I'm fucking lonely, I want a sweet boyfriend to talk with, have sex with and cuddle with all the time.
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Basically the same as you girl. I’m at a point in my life that I would just rather be single forever than to date some guy who is below my standards when it comes to looks. I have spent a shitton of money to look as good as I possibly can, and idc if people think I’m shallow. I want a tall-ish (or if he is shorter than me, a cute significantly younger) goodloking guy who treats me well, and I wont settle for a soyboy redditor type. Literally would rather kms
I can't tell who's being serious and who's being ironic anymore.>>138741>>138743>I want a normal, good looking guy>REEEEEEE U FAT AND UGLY WHORE
Your insecurity is showing kek
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>dark hair that's thick and fluffy or slightly curly. It doesn't necessarily have to be long, but definitely not super short or flat. I don't know why hair is so important to me lol, but I usually fall for guys with dark, fluffy hair>really nice, full lips. Not big, just the perfect size and kissable and pink. Really small lips are a turn off>a perfect blend of masculine and feminine features - not too much on either side basically, a good balance >big beautiful eyes, again small eyes are a turn off>nice jawline >big hands>has to be a good dresser and have good taste in clothes. Nothing too fancy or flashy, just classy, clean, respectable, and proper, like a student at university>thick thighs, yum>don't really care about how buff he is, just don't be stick thin
>funny with a great sense of humour, we have a lot of inside jokes and such>isn't afraid to be a little goofy and silly - not a total obnoxious idiot, just someone who likes to let loose a little>a little introverted and shy, maybe a bit awkward, but he's still social>really kind, caring and friendly to me and also others>smart and sophisticated, not a show off about it but genuinely likes sharing and discussing things>is a great conversationalist, we can talk about any subject for hours, either philosophical deep shit or just funny/ordinary things - good with his words and expressing things>passionate about his likes and hobbies and career>artsy and creative, into things like art, history, poetry etc, and very well read. He's a bit nerdy and dorky. A big imagination and daydreamer, a little adventurous >not afraid to be open and honest with his emotions or cry; emotionally mature and aware. Total crybabies are a turn off though>is a good listener and comforts me when I need it, makes me laugh when I'm sad>gives lots of random hugs and kisses and compliments, he's not clingy but he's affectionate and likes showing me how much he loves me (and I'd do the same, I'm just that kind of person)>likes chilling at home, a little laid-back and not super energetic, easy going - but he likes to party at times and has a fun, wild side>someone I can trust completely with any secret
>doesn't or at least very rarely watches porn, especially extreme gross shit>really passionate and sensual, knows how to set the mood and atmosphere lol>doesn't mind letting me take the lead sometimes>makes me feel loved and confident, and I do the same for him
sigh…..it got more unrealistic as it went on didn't it>>138679
awww anon, I share all your same thoughts
lol you triggered
all these femcels(15 year old spamchan)
Now that you mention the sex part, it reminds me of another trait I really want in a guy and it sounds so basic but: willing and comfortable to do good foreplay and give me pleasure as well as me to him.
The only guy I've been very intimate with in the past was so neglectful. Jumping straight into the main sex without any warm up, and never really tried to play with me, go down, etc even when I did so to him. Part of it was me not really asking, but it just makes me want a partner who's equally willing to make each other feel nice and wanted.
I used to think this was the case too until I befriended a guy with younger sisters. He watched a shitton of hentai and ecchi anime and it wasn’t just vanilla stuff either. I’m talking about BDSM, borderline sexual assault, and so on. He also had female anime figurines in his room and saw nothing wrong with buying them. The dude also would treat me as a therapist and ask me to do shit for him way too often (which was a big reason why I dropped him along with aftermentioned ones). He wasn’t super close to them though to be fair, but you’d think having them in his life would made him have less objectifying views.
On the otherhand, my SO is an only child and although he has some scrote tendencies, he’s much more respectful of women and younger girls for sure. Basically, you can’t really judge a guy’s views on women based on whether he has sisters or not.
Not always, but watching how a guy treats or talks about female relatives can tell you a lot.
My last ex disliked his sister purely because she married a well-off man and he was bitter about her 'easy life'. He also ranted about his mothers stupidity because he hated carrots and when he visited her for Sunday dinner she'd sometimes have carrots on his plate.. tiny shit that shouldn't matter. I wish I had payed more attention to his overly negative talk about exes and women in his family.
Yup. My abusive
ex hated his sister too. He'd always roll his eyes when talking about her. Having a sister doesn't magically make a guy like women.
So he has to be nice and respectful to a seemingly abusive
family member? Obviously he shouldn't be an asshole in return but he has no obligation to accept that sort of treatment.
Nta but they didn't say abusive
in their post, I've met women I'd call crazy bitches and sometimes 'crazy bitch' just means someone is irritating or a bit full on