/g/ - girl talk

>>394293
do it if you want but do not do it because of pressure or fertility scares. There's nothing wrong with single parents if you socialize them correctly. My cousins baby was basically raised by our friend group and is an amazing kid

There’s an “enbie” mom in my daughter’s Girl Scout troop, and I’m tempted to pull her out, but all her friends are in this troop, so I don’t want to be the bad guy

>>394271
Thank you that makes me feel a little bit better. I’m sorry you had hyperemesis, I feel like I can’t really complain because it’s not that bad for me but man being pregnant is still annoying as hell!!

New thread >>394551

He will be there with friends and will say hi to me

I will have my first child by mid-2025 at the latest.

I actually had a full body goosebump after thinking about what I'm manifesting. I think that's a good sign.
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He will return all the money with interest, and never fuck with my shit again.

I will study hard and pass my exams.

Whenever I have to prepare food or eat I get the worst tension in my jaw and head area, it’s hard to describe but feels like my whole head is seizing up and being squeezed in a way that isn’t painful but feels like loads of pressure. I’m >2 years into a relapse and this is really hindering my recovery, receiving minimum professional help despite being over 10kg underweight. I don’t even care about losing weight anymore but I can’t seem to gain any because I’ve been fasting due to the extreme stress I go through at mealtimes. More than anything I want to relieve the tension so I can eat in relative peace, right now the only thing that helps is benzodiazepines. Anons do you have any advice?

>>385148
Does your jaw lock or is it just tension, is there ever pain?

>>385148
I don't have any medical advice but wtf just reading this makes me want to cry for you anon. You can't fast. You need to at least find some liquid calories that you can consume.

when does this shit end? i have been doing this crap for over 20 years. i've managed to get myself into healthy weight, i'm highest weight in my life at 18, but i wake up in the morning and cry when i see my body. i will never achieve my dream body from just losing weight alone, i lost this fight at birth, i've gone the spoop route but i will never get rid of my hips, breasts, etc latter always comes back first, i hate my feminine body, i wish i was shapeless and nothing.

I gained 4 lbs and I'm so fucking suicidal. It is finals week and I need to hunker down and do my work but holy fuck I cannot stop thinking about it. And the weather is getting a lot warmer and I'm not going to be able to cover my body. God I hate myself so much.

>>393137
the photo is not even taken at the same angle. she's turned away more in the "after", it's taken at a slightly lower angle, and her mouth is actually closed. They also clearly photoshopped the mole under her nostril, and they either posed her so as to conceal the dark moles on her nostril and jowl or photoshopped them out completely.
all clinics do this, it's so tiresome. stop falling for this, it's false advertising.

Has anyone here actually been able to lift their jowls without a surgical face lift? I have always been slim but inherited my mothers big droopy apple cheeks that have gotten more noticeable in my late 20s despite not gaining weight. There's a clinic that does great thread lifts for this where I live but I've been wondering if that's the best option. For example, has anyone here had results with HIFU or other machine treatment options? I'm not ready to get a surgical one at my age since I don't think I'm old enough but I still want actual noticeable changes. I know cheek filler would lift them but I really don't want any filler since eventually that would make my face bigger not smaller.

>>393041
Your face proportions will look odd if you have a long face and then suddenly start gaining a wide jaw and malifecent cheekbones

i have relatively small breasts (34b) which i'm fine with, but due to weight gain/loss throughout adolescence they're COVERED in super deep, ugly stretch marks and horribly saggy. would a breast lift be able to fix them? i don't want implants for a number of reasons but it seems like all the breast lifts performed on women with smaller breasts include implants (or they just look… kinda bad, tbh). i'm just so sick of having to wear a bra no matter what because they look so ugly without one, it's like the one perk of having small tits is that you don't have to wear a bra all the time but i do because mine look like i've breastfed three decades worth of infants. it causes me so much distress to have to look at my breasts and how repulsive they are and i just want them to look normal! all the loose skin like… "accordions" up when i wear a push-up bra so i can't have any kind of cleavage, i just hate them so much that sometimes i think about calling myself a tranny just to get surgery to have them chopped all the way off if i can't get a decent lift.

>>394143
You can get fat injections and vampire breast lift to start with, but those need to be maintained over time. Definitely try to see a female surgeon too, moid plastic surgeons will heavily push implants on you

>>395142
It's just fake propaganda to sell to women. He'd be dead by now if he was actually a soldier at the frontline. He also lacks the Z-tard shit many do and the vast majority of soldiers on the frontline are lanklets because war doesn't keep this physique going. If this guy actually is in the army he hasn't been anywhere near the frontline

>>395218
Definitely looks better covered up, though there is a younger pic of him where hes pretty cute imo picrel

>>395142
I mean, he said he hasnt been anywhere like a thousand times

>>395223
he looks like a bottle nipple

>>395223
what? he's bald? shame. well, at least he could do a good heavy tf2 cosplay. i was really hoping he had a buzz cut. being a maskfag always results in shit like this. i feel like a damn dream fan. i will pretend i didn't see that and continue to watch those tourniquet tutorials. even roman was better looking.

>>395587
i mean, what did you expect he's in the millitary. there is a pic of him blurred where he has a buzzcut but i think he shaves it frequently
i'm just glad there's no beard.

I feel most comfortable around other Mexican Americans like me, but I do feel left out when the conversations are exclusively Spanish. I'm a 3rd generation MXAmerican and was never taught proper Spanish. I started talking to this guy who has similar life goals, values, and his career is in a similar field. The thing that's making me anxious is I found his TikTok and he has more posts in Spanish than English, meaning he's probably more comfortable speaking his native tongue, so he'd probably prefer to be with someone who also is a Spanish speaker. When it comes to children, I'd like my future children to know Spanish, so if all works out he'd be the one to teach them better.
It's just overall weird being in my 30s in the dating world and preferring Mexican men who are sober lmao. Is it maybe too limited of a preference? but this is something I'm becoming way more comfortable acknowledging.

>>394118
>The thing that's making me anxious is I found his TikTok and he has more posts in Spanish than English, meaning he's probably more comfortable speaking his native tongue,
How is this a problem? Just practice Spanish with him. If you need to practice Spanish with anyone you can learn it with your family too. There's options out there. If this is of any help, you could also ask questions in this thread. I might be able to assist you as well

>>394123
That's true, one of the first questions he asked me if I knew Spanish and I said it's beginner level and he decided to continue further so it's not a big deal for him. I let my worries take over. I'm practicing at my job speaking to bilingual children and their parents so I think that's a good start.

>>393977
Interesting post.

>>394118
Just learn Spanish? You have your foot in the door already if you know some, proper or not. Also, sober Mexican men aren't exactly rare, I've known more sober ones than addicts and I'm not even from a particularly great neighborhood either.

>>382739
Comparing UAE to Europe is a bit crazy here. Even in the US people are still super racist depending on where you live. Some white people do not care and others treat you really badly. I'm white but growing up in AZ and CO I've noticed this, some places the two mix together very well, and other it has a very segregated racist feel.

I'm anxious and I don't understand how people have secure attachment styles. I anxiously latch onto my partner and get told that I'm too clingy or needy, so I hardcore go in the other direction of "I am a strong independent woman and I don't care about anyone". It's miserable like this. It's always pain over partners that won't give me as much attention and I know it's not healthy either because I'm obsessive and codependent. But I don't know how to reel back without not caring at all. How are you supposed to care for someone without making it a massive priority and need?

My brain is wired wrong. I want hugs all the time, nuzzles all the time, non-stop. I am perpetually touch-starved and it's driving me up the walls.

I've tried to train myself to become used to not be so fucking clingy all the time but over 10+ years of trying it hasn't worked. I need the hugs. I'm constantly hugging and rubbing my face into my pillows while I'm alone at home. I wish I wasn't like this, it's not necessary to have or need this much physical affection but my brain doesn't care.

I think I might have anxious attachment. When I have a crush I get so obsessed and jealous and it is the only thing I can think of. I also have a habit of social media stalking to see if my crush liked any other womans pictures etc. I almost always find something and break my heart a little bit. When the person I'm talking to won't message me back fast enough I get really upset and cry about it like a little kid. Sometimes I also get angry and block as punishment which just hurts me even more or text something really passive aggressive which only pushes other people away. It is really hard to have the anger or fear get the best of me. I am just a very needy and insecure person and I don't know how to fix myself. I am already in therapy but my fear and the anger often win. Every time I care about someone or fall in love I think stuff like "they don't care as much as you do" or "you are too ugly/too stupid for them to even consider you as a girlfriend. They only go on a date with you because they are bored." "Your crush probably talks to ten other women that are way more beautiful and accomplished than you." This mindset is so ugly but I cannot help it. I long for love and someone who only ever looks at me. I have a really hard time communicating my feelings and needs. Like when someone doesn't reply to my message for a day I lash out and get angry and try to ignore the other person even harder to get back at them but what I actually want to say is "It hurts when you ignore me because you are important to me and I want to talk more with you." But I feel embarrassed about it and am not sure if I can be this vulnerable. I have a first date tomorrow and I'm already scared of rejection because I've already imagined us getting married and adopting 3 cats. How tf do I fix myself.

Fearful avoidance is tough to deal with. It's easy for me to become so attached to someone and want their attention, but it's so difficult to ask for it. What makes it worse is being with someone who doesn't reciprocate my love that I want to receive back. I start becoming codependent on men who don't know how to do so. Having a clingy man is satisfying. I just need one who doesn't have a temper. I've only been in a relationship with 4 men in my life and I'm making sure I tell the next guy I date straight up I'm considered needy, because I have needs.

I'm not sure what to do because the world has proven me that being avoidant is self preservation. People are too judgemental and they will misunderstand you. So don't ever get close, don't be yourself, keep it all in. No matter if they "want to know you" it's all a lie, don't trust mfs

>>393057
4C is not a myth. I have 4C and I want black people to stop fucking gaslighting 4c women that are hair isn’t in 5C/6C because it’s always just so fucking dry and kinky and coily. That’s the one thing I hate about being black and it makes me seethe seeing other black women with nice, softer pliable hair textures because it’s so fucking hard trying to style it, idc how much these natural hair enthusiasts try to convince us that it isn’t hard to upkeep and maintain with a modern western lifestyle. It pisses me off so fucking much, tired of 4A and 4Bs pretending their hair is 4C and shitting up the tags with their own hair that they damn well know isn’t the “bad” hair.

>>393068
I’m not convinced it only applies to certain ‘4c’ hair though, because in my experience (and in some anecdotes) my hair was completely indistinguishable from any other 4c. so what would be the distinction? if everything is the same i think it would be odd to assume they’re any different.

i have the time so i’ll spout my theory. i’ve put an autistic amount of effort and research into my hair because of how much trouble it was giving me and came to the following conclusions: 1, all moisturised and detangled hair, 4c or otherwise, naturally inclines to clumping waves/curls together; 2, the curlier the individual follicle the more moisture it needs to hold itself into clumps; and 3, curlier hair types are dryer because less hair clumps means less moisture retained.

basically what i found is that the more progress i made with my hair the more follicles bunched together and followed the same direction. it ended up progressing from typically 4c to reminiscent of 4a/4b to curl bunches the size associated with type 2/3 hair (but the curl shape looks different, more random meandering and coils upward at the tips, sort of water-like). picrel is not my photo but looks exactly the same as how my 4c hair looked when i first noticed the curls clumping after a veryyy long couple of hours trying to wash a hair mask out.

i’m simply convinced people are too busy putting money into wigs and extensions etc to experiment with research around our natural hair. current hair science is geared to caucasian hair types, from shampoos to conditioners - we don’t have the luxury of products scientists have literally researched to work for us, i would even argue this for ‘black hair products’ (like greases, they seal out moisture that just isn’t in the follicle). as a result all we have are anecdotes when there could be concrete science on this matter, especially since it seems so disputed.

saw the last reply so disclaimer - while i think locking moisture into hair is probably beneficial long term i don’t consider either ‘good’ or ‘bad’ hair. i dislike when people get trigger-happy over this topic regardless of what you say, and as i said i prefer ‘4c’ texture for certain styles. but this is my experience and, once i shared what i’ve done with my hair to friends and family who also have 4c hair, the Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>393077
What did you do to your hair anon?

I have super thick and dense, 4c (or maybe 4b. Or maybe a mix of both, idk) hair and it's always been super difficult for me to manage. Haircare has always been a confusing and mystifying topic for me. I've shaved it off multiple times out of frustration and insecurity from other other people judging my hair. The most recent being only a few months ago, so I'm currently in a phase of wearing lace wigs. Once my hair grows out a bit more though, I want to dedicate more time and effort into understanding my hair. Stuff like moisturizing, keeping it healthy, styling, retaining length etc…

The best resource on black hair in my opinion:
https://www.reddit.com/r/vindictanoir/comments/oid62r/everything_ive_learned_from_black_hair_care/?rdt=54536(this is an imageboard)

>>393781
Personally I don't think the distinction down to the sub seasons matters much. But dark hair, blue eyes and (presumably) cool toned skin makes me think you're true or bright winter.
https://theconceptwardrobe.com/colour-analysis-comprehensive-guides/true-winter-a-comprehensive-guide
https://theconceptwardrobe.com/colour-analysis-comprehensive-guides/bright-winter-a-comprehensive-guide

>>393781
You might be a spring

>>393781
Probably not dark winter, they can pull off black hair.

Since so many color analysis hobbyists say that natural eye color and hair color don't matter, would it be too much of a long shot to say that the best color analysis is what nail color match your skin the most? I feel like I can often tell if a color looks bad on my nails, but not necessarily if the same color is held up to my face next to my hair…

>>393935
Hair colour matter, but only your natural one. Like a summer that dyes their hair black will still be a summer and not a winter, bc blondes cannot be winter bc blondes lack the contrast. Which is why celebrity blonde women with black dyed hair wear a lot of eye makeup, to up the contrast and get some harmony back .

>>393576
Fuck I never cleaned bathrooms but whenever I went to the shared bathroom at my old workplace and in the hospital after men, it was often not flushed (someone even wrote an email about it to everyone at work), not cleaned properly with a brush or there was piss on the floor/toilet. Actually wtf

>>393576
I always see dumb shit about how "womens restrooms are sooo disgusting compared to mens'". It's become a meme at this point and I sincerely doubt the validity of that claim.

>>393598
The worst I see is maybe an unrolled pad

>>393598
I remember in middle school, the principle had to give a PSA to all the students about bathroom etiquette because the boys thought it would be funny to piss on the walls and floor.

>>393598
People clamouring to declare women the ickiest grossest gender have an agenda (reminds me of the 'akshually women are domestic abusers just as much and maybe even worse than men!!' cope) and I don't believe it. Theoretically women are dealing with potentially gross situations more often than men (periods, changing diapers, etc), we have to use the bathroom more frequently, and don't have urinals that might be a bit easier to keep clean. But women are overall more considerate and try to avoid inconveniencing others- why would that change in a bathroom? Even when attempting suicide women worry about whoever is going to see and clean up their body.

I've only ever had to clean women's rooms so I can't really compare but the cleanliness of a bathroom in my experience is based almost entirely on location (private vs public place, nice area vs dodgy area, if it's within a business that has people cleaning throughout the day, etc).