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Sounds like a personal problem.

I've never had an issue with this, and I'd probably say my boyfriend is actually more physically affectionate than I am.

Maybe you just keep going for the wrong type of dude.

>>160545
Maybe he's an exception to the rule

Not just guys, I'm female and I don't like being affectionate either tbh. Just makes me cringe having to get all sappy.

>>160547
Have you ever had sex or a bf?

>>160548
I'm asking because it seems strange to have a bf and never want to kiss him or touch him at all. Even guys like kissing their gfs when they're horny.

>>160548

Yeah but it didn't last long. I'm just not affectionate. Not all girls are lovey dovey you know? I find kissing… I'm just fussy. I don't mind hugging but not all the time. Just not affectionate, not even with my family anymore. I used to be. Not anymore.

>>160550
I'm not discussing your issues with intimacy I'm talking about normal people

>>160551

Then I don't know. Most guys are like that I guess? Some are, some aren't.

i've been in two serious, long-term relationships and an additional short-term relationship. one guy didn't really like cuddling after sex, but i fucking hate cuddling after sex 95% of the time, so i don't know if he would have complained if i tried. he did like cuddling and sometimes kissing even without sex afterwards.

the other two guys DEFINITELY liked cuddling and kissing even if sex isn't involved. my boyfriend at the moment always wants cuddles and kisses me randomly. in fact, the only time he doesn't kiss me is when he wants to have sex – when he wants to fuck, he will start playing with my boobs or ass. last night when we had sex, he didn't kiss me at all until after he came.

all of them did start out foreplay with kisses, but after a couple of months, foreplay disappeared with all of them.

honestly, after sex, i just want to play around on the internet again, so i usually get up. since it seems to matter to you, i dated the first guy that didn't like cuddling for 3+ years. short-term guy was a 2 month thing (although we liked each other for over a year before that?), and i've been with my boyfriend now for over a year and a half.

My boyfriend loves showing affection, sometimes it's a little too much. Like a lot of the time, I'll be sitting on my bed, trying to watch tv or play video games, and he'll pull me down to cuddle with him.

>>160547
I actually feel you on that. Except I'm still pretty affectionate. I just absolutely hate kissing(and by kissing, I mean like making out, I have no problem with little pecks) and sex.

>>160552
I think in general some people aren't affectionate and some people are. It doesn't matter if you're a girl or a guy at all.

Have you never seen those loveydovey pda couples where all they do is hug/hold each other and kiss all the time? There are definitely physically affectionate (outside of sex) guys out there. It really does sound like a personal problem for you.

>>160555
I've seen teenagers tongue kissing and all over each other in real life. But that's just hormonal and attention whoring, never seen adults acting like that. I've seen adults holding hands but nothing more than that and that's a good thing because that's just embarrassing to see in real life.

>>160553
I can't imagine a man under 25 being interested in cuddling etc without sex but if you say they exist, I'll believe you

>>160557
well, my boyfriend is 27, and he's the most affectionate guy i've ever met. we do have sex, but he does have a low sex drive. i think it might be because he is older. if you're talking about teenagers here, then okay, i don't know if teenagers like cuddling. but if you ask me, teenage boys are not men.

>>160558
I've never met a guy 18-23 who didn't get mad if a girl doesn't have sex with him after cuddling and kissing because they felt she was being a tease

>>160559
i've met 2-3 guys in that age group that didn't feel that way, but i suppose the people i know are all a little "weird." like my first serious boyfriend and i met when we were 18. neither of us were virgins. he initiated cuddling a lot, and even kissed a few times without anything else. he didn't even grope me over my clothes, and as far as i could tell, he never got a boner. then, after maybe two months of this, and i mean nothing past first base, he pulled back when we were kissing one night and asked me if it was okay to go further. then we fucked, and we fucked 2-5 times a day for 3+ years. he was actually the one that didn't like cuddling after sex but was happy with it even if it didn't lead to sex (probably because we fucked a lot anyway).

then again, almost all the guys i've dated and/or been friends with have always been the kind of guys looking for a wife and not a fuckbuddy.

My fiance is 31. He loves playing with my hair, holding my hand, hugging, cuddling, kissing spontaneously. Sex is not the point, just us enjoying each others company. We do have sex, and its great, but more than anything we just enjoy each others physical company. We were a ldr though for 2 years so maybe we take small gestures less for granted now that we can finally be physically near? Were both sappy romantics as well.

Dont lose hope op, romantic men who do romantic things not just for sex actually exist.

>>160544
My ex loved to cuddle and always wanted to kiss and hug me with no sex involved. He was genuinely a really sweet guy, even overly sweet. You're just meeting the wrong people.

Sooo… this may sound weird but I think it really depends.

I've been with one guy who was 21 and he fucking hated cuddling. He kissed me from time to time during the day but as soon as we hugged longer than like 5 seconds he would get pissed bc "we could do important stuff instead of wasting time". He also didn't really like sex. Once a week was ok for him but more than that was just me jumping on top of him and yeah.
Pretty boring.

My second boyfriend was 36 and he literally loved cuddling and shit. He was very affectionated, but I don't think he ever started undressing me or stuff.
Like, he never really demanded sex or smth. and to be honest I don't remember a time where he started undressing me, I always started the sexual stuff. Probably bc he was scared he would hurt me or do smth. I'm not comfortable with.
He was a real sweetie.

Last boyfriend was 17, horniest motherfucker I've ever seen. Only cuddled when sex afterwards. Not that I'm complaining. Was fun for about two months, broke up bc I need cuddeling AND sex in a relationship. Not just one of those things.

(And before ppl start screaming pedophile I'm 17, which means I'm legal in my country. Also sorry If this is hard to read, English is my third language and I'm still learning)

>>160559
my boyfriend is 22 and doesn't get mad. actually sometimes I get a bit annoyed if we just stop lol

This isn't a guy thing lmao
Like, I've been with countless guys and they're always the ones who like cuddling. I actually hate it (I don't like people touching me too much), but they're also super nuzzly. It's cute. Maybe it's just you, op. Are you fat or have abnormally high body heart? Cause I hate cuddling with fat/hot people, too, they get really REALLY hot and that's not comfy.

>>160559
>>160557
Who are you dating? I wouldn't even bother with someone like that, but luckily I've never met a guy who acted like that. And I used to be a huge slut, so I've met a lot of guys. Maybe it's the culture? I'm from the US.

>>160544
most men enjoy cuddling, the idea that they don't is mostly a dumb sitcom trope. are you fat? do you sleep with a lot of guys? the only explanation i can think of is that these guys just want you for sex and aren't interested in anything else

>>160567
>are you fat

Fat girls are great for cuddling, wtf are you on about.

Am I the only one who things the guy in OP pic looks either like a girl or a 9 year old boy?

>>160568
Desperate robot pls go.

>>160569
Doesn't look girly to me, but he does look about 13.

I'm male and I'm into cuddling!

my bf and i love to cuddle! and we never have sex. there's nothing better than falling asleep cuddling listening to his heartbeat.

wah, i miss him so much ;_;