/ot/ - off-topic

agreed, sometimes i'm really lonely and i'm like yeah I'm just gonna sleep my way round town IDGAF

But then I remember I'm a virgin and I end up hating most dudes I speak to

I've been with my partner since I was 15 and he 16.
Now I'm 24 and he's 25 so that's like… jeez 9 years now already? Christ, what a ride.

Sometimes I get sad because I feel like I've missed out on all these sexual experiences and one-night stands that people my age are having, but apparently they only sound exciting and most of the time you wake up feeling a bit dirty and empty and hungover which sounds, not pleasant.

I'd never cheat on my beau, he fulfils everything for me emotionally/sexually and he's amazingly good looking. We're like, a power couple.
I guess I'm just afraid of waking up one day and feeling regret at having not experienced more in my youth, but then again only an idiot chases what they want when they have what they need.

Somebody who's slutted around a lot please ease my fears. Or confirm them. idk.

>>160025
It's not that great. Really.
There's something inherently attractive about meeting "new" people I think, developing crushes or sexual feelings is exciting, but acting on them by having a casual encounter or one night stand never feels fulfilling, at least to me. Eventually you just get right back to the feeling of longing to be with someone, romantically, long term. Hooking up is more like something you do to pass the time while you look for someone you have that real connection with.
And yeah, the sex is almost never that great. It's always better with someone who knows your body.

>>5962


/r9k/ LEAVE
REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

I can't imagine having a friend with benefits… The only way I can get comfortable with someone on that level is with a lot of time leading up to the sex moment.

>>160023
I've made experiences with them.
I like having fwbs, they're a good way to release some tension and to feel the warmth of another person again. Especially with friends, you always know beforehand that you get along well with each other, the communication is easier, and you might have even talked about your sexual preferences before.
That being said, I'm sure casual sex isn't for everyone, and whilst I do enjoy it, I still prefer sex with someone I actually have romantic instead of just sexual feelings for.

>>6149

I don't see what how having lots of sex is synonymous with respecting yourself.
Surely if somebody enjoys sex and desires sex regularly the most respectful thing they can do for their body is go out and enjoy sex.

You have more sex in a lifetime with a longterm partner than you do from slutting around anyway.
/r9k/ pls leave.

I used to have a FWB and one night stands. Those 'wild' times were a nice experience but now I simply don't need this anymore. I didn't miss it in the last 7 years either.

I don't see whats wrong with casual sex as long as nobody involved is cheating on someone or something like that and you use proper protection.

>>160025
I don't think you missed out on anything. Everything >>160026 said is true.

>>160029
Pretty much this. I've had only one serious relationship and 2 years after the breakup I said fuck it and slutted around for 3 months. It was really fun drinking and connecting with someone new but I settled down with someone again. I don't regret it at all and it definitely helped my confidence. My exhusband cheated on me relentlessly and it was soul crushing end of the world pain. I worried having that trust broken with someone new, but after meeting other guys casually I think it's not that big of a deal.
Of course I'm against cheating but I think I could now be confident enough to break up immediately rather than be the codependent friendless parasite that I was.

Helps that the guys I met up with are all interesting and we still chatted as friends after.

>>160028
I was a friendless hikki prior to that time so I pushed myself way the fuck out of my comfort zone thanks to gratuitous amounts of alcohol. Also I only met people under the guise of a new friend or a date, never just for sex. Drank more if I felt like I wanted to go further, and if not then no harm done.

>>160025
I know most of you aren't interested in male opinions, but I want to tell you what I know.

Trust your instincts on this one. The grass is NOT greener.
As a Man, we feel even more pressure to slut around, and I've always felt like an outcast for not being interested in this. I've tried casual encounters, and it's never been fulfilling in the least.

It goes like this:
Love sex > Self love > Casual sex

At this point I'd rather beat off than fuck a person I don't care about.

You're lucky to be in the position you are in… Think of it this way: All the sluts out there are missing out on what you have, and can never truly have the same thing as what you have. The ate their cake, you still have yours… Keep it that way, lest you get "fat".

So jealous of your bf.

As long as youre both on the same page, it should be okay.

My friend FWB situation was when I was in highschool and it was a disaster. I was wayy into him, we stopped talking after we hooked up and I was devastated.

But recently I had a fantastic casual sex encounter after being rejected by a guy I liked and it was almost therapeutic. I felt better about myself and it made me start to put myself back out there dating wise.

FWB/Casual hookups can get messy, but if you're careful they can work out fine.