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No. 348009
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>>>/g/174637Talk about sex toys, stimulation, techniques, etc.
No. 348022
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Is there a downside to masturbating too often (as in, 2-3 times a day)? I tried looking up info about it and found that it's debilitating for men, but not so much women (aside from "loss of sensitivity", but I'm not that insane to risk that). I've found that I'm a lot more relaxed and outgoing, and I don't put up with my coworkers' bullshit anymore.
No. 348259
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I mostly syntribate and even though I know it’s probably not the best method if you want to get off with a partner, though because I’m a virgin and probably won’t be in a relationship for a long time, I was thinking of having a g-spot vibrator in me while I syntribate. This might be a dumb question but should I try to find my g-spot/ achieve a g-spot orgasm with my fingers before I go out and buy a g-spot vibrator? Also, what are some recommendations for g-spot vibrators that don’t stimulate the clit?
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What do you think of masturbating to non-explicit photos? Like pictures of a partner or celebrity and not even softcore like just a nice photo. I'm thinking of doing this because I keep having flashbacks to an assault which is obviously a major turn off. I'm looking for a way to stay focused on the face of someone I find attractive or lovable like literally anything but my assailant. Also I hate porn and suspect it would make everything worse so this seems like the next best thing. How weird is this? Does anyone do this on the modern age?
No. 350681
>>350675A feeling of release while masturbating that feels like peeing? I realize that everyone is different, but that sounds like a textbook definition of an orgasm. Why are you unsure?
It does sound like you're giving yourself peegasms.
https://www.healthline.com/health-news/pee-gasms-happen-and-its-natural No. 350970
>>350701Good orgasms are worth having. I wouldn't masturbate if I couldn't have them. Like
>>350808 said this can be because of medication or health problems but it can also be technique. I can't orgasm without putting strong pressure on my clit. Have you tried changing how you masturbate?
No. 350997
>>350880There's nothing unusual about masturbating to stuff you wouldn't want to do irl. What you like to watch or imagine and what you like to do can be very different things.
>>350972Straight women don't need lesbian porn to orgasm.
No. 351061
>>350984I second the anon who suggested trying with your fingers. For some women vibrators can be overstimulating to the point of temporarily losing sensation, inadvertently making it more difficult to achieve orgasm. If this has been the case for you, I would wait a couple of days to give your nerves a chance to rest before making another attempt.
Something interesting I learned the other day: "arousal is mediated by a relaxed parasympathetic state, which is gradually overtaken by a sympathetic state as arousal increases with heart rate, breathing etc. Orgasm is an explosive and complete shift to the sympathetic." In so many words, this is what they mean when they say you should try to relax and not be in your head too much etc. I think for a lot of people this process comes naturally when we become aroused, which can happen spontaneously or intentionally, e.g. by using erotica. But if it’s something you struggle with then trying techniques to activate a parasympathetic state could be helpful. One way to do this is by using mindfulness/meditation techniques, which is mostly just shifting your focus to intentionally allow yourself to become relaxed and gain control of your breathing. Arousal is one way to shift your focus, but you can also work on going into this relaxed state first, then once you’re there start touching yourself and building arousal. There are lots of guided meditation/relaxation etc. videos on youtube you could try out.
Maybe this advice doesn’t apply to you. When trying to orgasm, we all have different premises to work with in terms of our anatomy, mental baggage and so on, and your issue could be something entirely different. I actually stumbled upon a subreddit for women struggling with this, that may or may not be helpful to you r/BecomingOrgasmic
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How fast can i learn to insert more than a finger? It’s been a decade and ive gotten off with 1 finger only a handful of times. I want to use toys eventually.
No. 351564
>>351468Have you ever worked out? Take the same approach. Do what is comfortable with routine and consistency and you will eventually find yourself comfortable with more. This is one of the recommended ways that vaginismus is treated.
Don't feel under pressure to rush yourself, it wont help.
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>>317965 Anon are you still here? Your method has been on my mind all these months but I've never been able to make it work. I think because my toy (picrel) is curved, it's hard to keep it at the correct angle. If it helps, I use it "upside down" so the concave side is facing my body. Input from anynonny with ideas is highly appreciated. Alternatively, I'll take recommendations for one of those dildos that thrusts on its own.
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Sorry if this has been discussed before, but can anyone else only get off in one position? I've tried but I can never orgasm in any other position than lying on my back. It's like I can get part of the way there in other positions but I can never finish that way—I just wind up overstimulated and nothing happens. I don't know how common this is or if it's a weird trait of mine kek
No. 354692
>>354557That's the only other way I've been able to orgasm too, what are the odds?? But it takes me so long that the water goes cold, my legs hurt and I feel like I'm going to pass out so I don't bother kek
>>354612A bit late for that kek, it's already a habit. Not sure what to do about it though… it's not a big deal cuz I'm volcel and mostly just curious about trying out different positions to see if they feel better than my usual routine.
>>354628Moids will literally fuck a chicken sandwich or a hole in their mattress, do you really think they're going to be upset over a woman lying on her back during sex if they aren't some pornbrained coomer?? If you aren't a scrote, you're a retard—
and if you are, go be useful and die in a war No. 354806
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I got a bullet vibe from Walmart it was so embarrassing to ask the lady to open the case for me but it was worth it and only $10, I used it a few times but I’m not trying to kill my clitoris so I’m trying to only use it once a week at most.
I masturbated last night while on zaza with it and I felt like this, amazing, I wanna get a clit sucker now. Maybe a dildo
No. 358189
have any of you managed to overcome lifelong anorgasmia? no matter how I try to masturbate, with fingers, toys, different types of stimulation, using erotica, etc, just doesn't work.
possible causes might be csa trauma (but I'm over it), repressed upbringing, anxiety/adhd symptoms that aren't super well managed, body image issues, and honestly just nervousness that I'll be loud and someone will overhear me because the walls are thin af.
other symptoms: difficulty feeling much sensation at all or feeling any kind of build-up, occasional pain with penetration, high libido (can't tell ya why)
No. 360242
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pls dont bully me so my entire life ive "masturbated" by rubbing my thighs together or humping a pillow, but ive never been able to reach orgasm through that. obviously this kinda sucks for me and im scared ive been making my clit less sensitive somehow by doing that? but i cant tell since ive never tried masturbating through direct clitoral stimulation. today i tried looking at my vagina with a hand mirror (which is the first time ive ever done that, again dont bully me please kek) to find my clit but i couldnt see it??? i tried pulling back my hood but it was kinda difficult to do with only one hand. i know some women have less prominent clits and/or bigger clitoral hoods so maybe im one of them. i tried touching the area lightly, but i didnt feel anything. should i just wait until im actually physically aroused to do this?
No. 360247
>>360242I am sorry
nonny but I have the EXACT same issue/experience. I bought the rose toy vibrator thing but I have never been able to orgasm from it because it gets too intense and I have to stop.
No. 360249
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>>360247a vibrator would probably make this a lot easier but i cannot buy one at the moment. are vibrators loud??? i live with my family, i dont want them to hear anything
ive tried touching myself directly before, although it was through my underwear so i wasnt able to see what i was doing and that made it difficult. still couldnt feel anything. i wasnt aroused back then and i was pretty nervous so maybe that was it?? am i just broken? im scared
No. 360385
>>360242>>360247I understand where you're coming from nonnies. I syntribate too, though I'm able to cum from it. I learnt where my clit was like a year ago and I haven't really tried directly stimulating it because, on the few occasions that I've tried it, it either felt overstimulating or like nothing. Like, bringing my fingers into the equation is an instant turn off to me. I just press my thighs together and grind against my mattress.
I've been thinking about getting a relatively quiet vibrator that DOESN'T provide pinpoint stimulation like those womaniser toys. Instead, I'm interested in getting a grinding toy that I can securely put in my underwear like Foxy by OhMiBod. I might have some other ideas that I'll add in another post idk
No. 360628
>>360242Excuse my esl while I try to walk you through the process nonna. I don't know the sexy terms for things lol
>should i just wait until im actually physically aroused to do this?Yes. Whatever you do to get aroused, do that. Think of sexual scenarios, look at porn, do whatever that gets you wet. Hump a pillow or your hand over your clothes while doing that. Start once you're very aroused as it's the first time. Remove your clothes (stimulating your clit over your underwear can be hard so remove it too for now). Make sure you're relaxed, lay down. Take one finger (I use my middle) and touch your entrance and spread the fluid around your vulva. Once your finger slides more easily, gently stroke around with your finger. Not the exact tip of your finger, use the outer 1/3 of it (sorry esl) and flatten it against your vulva. Keep doing what gets you aroused (porn/imagination). Make sure you're relaxed again. Once you're comfortable touching around, focus on the upper part of your vulva and keep gently stroking until you feel a sharper pleasure for a moment. It might be more subdued depending on your aroused to nervousness ratio lol It doesn't feel like you've hit a spot on your skin, it feels a little deeper if this helps you identify it. Don't immediately focus all your attention there though. Take it easy and keep touching around. Also get more fluid from the hole and sometimes take a break from just focusing on the upper part. Once you're a good mix of relaxed and aroused, you will feel the sharp pleasure more comfortably and it won't feel overwhelming to keep stimulating that area. Narrow down to where you feel that pleasure and keep stroking that area. Take a break when you get overwhelmed. Don't worry if you can't orgasm from this the first few times, focus on getting to know your body more. Once you've figured out how to "activate" feeling pleasure from your clit you can focus on figuring out what pace you like and how you want to touch it. It took me some time to figure out how to make that pleasure continue. You will get a better understanding of angling your finger, humping up and whatever might help you orgasm. I go through this every time I masturbate btw, it doesn't feel good to just jump into clit stimulation. Hope this helps! Anynona that wants to add on is welcome as this is just my experience.
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>>360628"Look at porn"
(learn to greentext) No. 361011
>>360242My clit is very sensitive and I don’t like directly touching it because it just makes me need to pee and makes my feet tingle and feels weird. I have a weird method of masturbating that I’ve never really seen another woman do. Basically I press on my outer labia with both hands, at the top, and sort of press down and release them quickly and use this method to rub the outer lips over my inner labia and my clit at the same time (I think this only works if you have quite a fat pussy mound tho) I tend to be able to orgasm very fast from this method but I need to do it very quickly and hard.
Recently I’ve been learning more about biology and I found that I’m basically just doing the female equivalent of jerking off. So kind of using my hands to rub my clitoral hood (which I guess is equivalent to foreskin) over my clit (which I guess is similar to moids dickhead) anyway it feels the best for me, I’ve tried masturbating by just rubbing my clit with one finger or using vibrators and I just didn’t like the feeling at all.
No. 361055
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>>360242This sounds exactly like clitoral phimosis / adhesions. Picrel shows it in variying severities, does yours look like this? It's such a common issue that is basically unheard of and is never spoken about. Recently I found out that I have mild / moderate adhesions, and I was able to temporarily fix it by pulling at the sides of my clitoral hood until the hood seperated from my clit, over the course of several days. It hurt and the skin was very raw at times, so it's probably not exactly a good idea, but it worked for me. I say temporarily, because unfortunately for me it ended up fusing back together, but I think that happened because I stopped masturbating, so there wasnt enough movement between the hood and my clit for it to be maintained. If you have a look on reddit you should be able to find some posts with better advice, although there are not many at all. From what I remember, some women use topical steroids to fix it.
No. 361060
>>361009God I wish I was like that. Masturbating is such a fucking chore for me that I mostly just don't do it. I can only come from bruteforcing it with a speedy toy and it isn't very satisfying, sometimes even painful (duh). (And no I haven't made myself insensitive using the toy)
Sometimes I wish I just had a dong because you never ever hear about men who struggly with pleasuring themselves unless they're pornsick or depressed and I'm neither.
No. 361109
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i have only one or two specific fetishes that genuinely excite me. or i thought they were fetishes, except every time i'm trying to masturbate while thinking about these things i instantly get turned off. same thing happens with men i'm attracted to/my husbandos, thinking about them just kills my mood. how can i even claim i'm attracted to them? i know i find them attractive. at the same time i have zero problems getting off in like 10 seconds to any disgusting porn fueled scenario i can think of, but it's more like a purely physical response and i feel gross afterwards. so fucking mad and pissed, why is my brain not letting me cum to things i actually like.
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>>361151samefag im pretty sure i do have this. and ofc its not as researched as male phimosis so most doctors wont know what to do. fuck my life
No. 361160
>>361055wtf nayrt just passing by but that's exactly what i have (between c and d). i was so confused at one point because there just wasn't anything there that i could see whenever i pulled back that i sincerely had to ask if my mom
had me FGM'd as a baby because the practice is still being done in my country though very scarcely which she confirmed that thank god i wasn't. this just settles it. ugh i give up i'm accepting my fate i don't think i'm ever going to be able to orgasm. feelsbad i feel deformed and disabled. at least now i know it's not just psychological because the issue was frustrating me to death, now in a different way. ugh sorry to be such a debbie downer i know i'm probably catastrophizing but i'm just so shocked right now
No. 365992
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Whats a high quality toy I can buy on Amazon? I am unfortunately limited to Amazon at the moment. I also orgasm only from clitoral stimulation. Help?
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Sometimes I think about getting a really powerful vibrator, mostly as a way to refocus my pleasure on direct physiological sensations and not my weird porn. I've got a tiny one from Maude and it makes me feel weird as opposed to satisfied.
No. 366026
>>366025>surface levelThat's how I feel to. Only ever had one full orgasm
no vibrator and I've been chasing that high for life
No. 366028
>>366027One, I didn't eat much that day. Two, I have an unusually sensitive stomach. Any pressure deepens my pleasure. Three, I was ovulating. Four, I was getting off on smut.
I tried this formula a few times and I got off but not as good as the first time. Maybe I should avoid the smut?
No. 366060
>>366031Little shampoo and lotion bottles from hotels lek. I'd use them like a dildo then rinse them off.
You should let at least one gf get you off with it before you retire it for good. Just seems like a good full circle moment. Plus literally being screwed sounds like the funniest thing in retrospect
i'd do it for you nonny, but I'm a weirdo kek No. 370029
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Anyone else have fingers too short/hands too small for satisfying penetration? Is it actually hopeless or is this just a skill issue? I enjoy clitoral stimulation just fine but I'm sad to miss out on what seems to be the paragon of female masturbation. The saddest part is that I know I love penetration and I do have a dildo, but it's too tiring to use. I wonder if I would have a better time with fingering, if only it weren't for my stupid tiny hands.
No. 370126
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>>370029>I'm sad to miss out on what seems to be the paragon of female masturbationkek. I love fingering, but judging from extensive internet research I don't think it's the paragon of female masturbation, most women seem to prefer clit stim. I haven't run into the issue you describe, maybe your fingers really are too short, but I'm gonna try to advice you on how I do it. Your vaginal canal isn't that deep, and you don't need to go far in order to pleasure yourself. Use your middle and ring finger combined, because they are the longest and have more grip strength. Venture into your own vagina using these two fingers, and right past the opening move them inwards in a "come hither" motion. This stimulates the g-spot, or buried clitoris or whatever you wanna call it. Some women are also sensitive closer to the cervix (I've seen this referred to as the a-spot), but if there's really a length issue then this might be out of reach for you.
Since there is always much debate around the validity of vaginal orgasms: I recently learned internal orgasms actually cause cervical contraction, which is how they differ from clitoral orgasms. The cervix is apparently also in part a sex organ and is neurologically connected all the way to your nipples. Women who were able to orgasm internally, who later had their cervix removed as part of a hysterectomy, reported losing their ability to have cervical contraction which made their internal orgasm dissatisfying. Clitoral orgasm remained unchanged.
No. 370153
>>370145I had a really weird mental relationship with the whole hymen breaking concept in my head when I was younger. Ultimately I decided it literally didn’t matter in any meaningful way and I just masturbated however I wanted because that was my personal right. That sort of thing only has a much meaning as you want to give it. If you want to break your hymen yourself go for it, if you actually have a hymen that can be broken.
The worst thing about the hymen topic to me is that I feel like all the mythology around it conditions girls to think the first time should be painful when that’s not the case.
No. 370206
>>370153>The worst thing about the hymen topic to me is that I feel like all the mythology around it conditions girls to think the first time should be painful when that's not the caseI don't think it should be painful, but it can be. It was painful in my case, and I don't think anything could have made it not be at least a little bit painful. I'm glad it's not the case for all women out there, but it's how my body worked. I think telling women that it should not hurt ever can paradoxically also make them feel like they are doing something wrong, when that's just how some women's bodies are. You see so many girls these days think they have vaginismus when they are literally virgins. I got my period when I was 9 and "broke" my hymen when I was 17, so it wasn't a matter of not being ready for penetration yet. I tried gently stretching it out myself and guess what it was fucking painful no matter how slow I went or how horny I was. In fact my hymen was so thick/rigid it ended up tearing a little, and I had some remnants surgically removed later on kek (they formed what my surgeon termed a "hyminal bridge" and tampon would get stuck in there once in a blue moon). My situation may have been a bit unusual, but it's not unheard of. That said once it had "broken" I've never had any issues with pain during sex ever since, it was like ripping a bandaid off and sex afterwards has been uncomplicated.
Like I said I'm happy for those who had more stretchy hymens, but you can't assume everyone's going to function the same way you did. I think using toys for first-time penetration so you can skip the part with the moid is based btw.
No. 370277
>>370206NTA (nor any other anon in the discussion) but holy shit, thank you for writing this. Blogpost incoming but my girlfriend and I tried strap-on sex for the first time days ago, and no matter how slow we went or how wet I was, it hurt so fucking badly, and it had me wondering where we went wrong. All sources online constantly say that it should never hurt, that it's either vaginismus or a matter of not being wet enough, and I knew it wasn't the latter. I'm glad that it likely is just the fact that I hadn't really put anything in there before. But in saying that, is it really the best option to just shove it in there and get it over with? It hurt to the point of tears when I let her move for maybe 5 seconds, and I even spotted afterwards, and I'm wondering if it's ok to do the bandaid-ripping method when it hurt as bad as it did.
Sorry, I know this isn't masturbation, but I figured I'd ask anyway No. 370309
>>370277Ayrt, no problem. I feel kinda strongly about this because I hate body policing, as if I just didn't know my own body and did everything wrong kek. It used to be common knowledge that SOME women end up tearing and bleeding, but now these women seem to think they have vaginismus instead. While I'm happy there is more focus on how to prevent painful intercourse, and that the cultural significance around the hymen is slowly fading, you can't really will a biological reality away for ideological reasons.
>is it really the best option to just shove it in there and get it over withI can only speak from my personal experience, so whether it is the best option idk but it's what has been done for centuries. Although you can end up tearing a little, it's exceedingly rare for it to leave long-term health complications. I guess evolution at least took care of that. We get to suffer a little but at least we we don't become mortally infected kek. I've heard that gynos can prescribe some creams that may make the hymen more flexible, but whether it's true idk. I just powered through it. You can also go the slow route and stretch it out, but how long it takes idk and in my case that would mean prolonging the hurt.
While I think "ripping the bandaid off" is generally safe, pain tolerance differs from women to women and the time it takes for you to heal may vary a bit. I think usually you'll be good within a day or two. In my case it was actually instant, I was able to have sex right away without pain, although I felt a bit meh about it at that point. Thinking back on it the guy I did it with probably had a small virgin-friendly penis lol. I think using a toy on the smallest end is wise for your first time.
There's also a cost benefit part to it. I enjoy PIV, but some women end up not enjoying penetration at all. You can't really know until you've tried tho, hence the old saying curiosity killed my virginity.
No. 370330
>>370327My hymen didn't cover my entire vagina, but inserting anything larger than one finger was excruciating no matter how turned on I was/how slow and gentle I went, so in my case it was better to just grit my teeth for a few seconds rather than slowly torturing myself. I was fine afterwards, no pain, vaginismus or anything. Hymens are kinda like a small flesh rubber band, their elasticity differ from women to women. Some rubber bands are very elastic and stretch out far. Others are less elastic, and stretching them too far will make them give in and snap no matter how slow you go. Obviously level of arousal can have an effect, but if it's too tight it's too tight. Please read the anon I responded to, she described being very aroused, using lots of lube and going slow with her gf etc. yet still experienced pain and bleeding. I guess she is deformed as well by your standard. No offense taken btw, I just think it's misinformed or in any case not helpful to call a normal variation a deformity. Like I said some women's hymen will tear and bleed just at physical activity, there are lots of normal variations out there.
No. 370343
>>370330Somebody a few years ago started this whole 'it should never hurt if it's done right' or 'hymens just stretch and should never bleed' thing and it's spread like crazy since. It's just a blanket statement that goes against the old myths and still doesn't allow for the reality that it varies. Those new myths need to end in the same way that telling everyone it'll definitely hurt soo much wasn't right either. Two sides of the same dumb coin telling women they are abnormal because they either did bleed or didn't bleed. Did hurt or didn't hurt.
You don't know which experience you'll get til you do it. Which is I why I think exploring with toys first on your own can be best. Having a tougher hymen than some other women isn't automatically a sign of deformity or a sign that you're doing it wrong. Pain and blood are part of the deal for some. I'd lots of solo attempts, kept coming up against a pain barrier no matter what and had a similar 'bite the bullet' moment where I'd to push through the pain. Not everyone can have the gentle and oh so aroused that your hymen will just stretch experience that has weirdly been promised to us in the last handful of years by some sexperts who've turned blood into a patriachy thing where it was always just pushy men making us bleed. What about lesbians and toy users, its also just a varience in our bodies.
No. 370408
>>370398I don’t have a lack of sensitivity for a long time so I’m sorry if you weren’t looking for my input but it sounds like a mental block. The periods in my life where I have had difficulty with satisfaction have been due to mental issues or brain pills. Are you on SSRIs? Or maybe some other reason you can’t relax and your brain wanders.
not a masturbation topic but being dissatisfied with a partner can do this too, or your environment being shitty. I think it’s pretty common.
No. 370623
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Anyone else had this thing that when they first masturbated, like the first period their orgasms would be really short and they progressively became bigger, reaching a more "normal" length? When I first started, at like 13, it'd only last a second, like a small peak and then, nothing. After a while, they started lasting more. It's also possible that I was just too scared or too overstimulated to continue as it was a new feeling.
No. 376028
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For many years now (since leaving adolescence really. History: masturbated a lot as a teenager. Had some dubious relationships since then), I have cried after orgasming with masturbation. I don't know why I cry. It feels like an all consuming feeling that comes immediately after I orgasm. I begin shaking furiously and tearing up. I wonder if it's just the results of my orgasm, but there's a few things that make that dubious:
1) I have sex with my partner and the same thing doesn't happen; it might happen once so often, but not nearly with as certainty as masturbation.
2 ) I can feel the weight of sorrow as I cry, but I don't know where it's coming from. I'm not thinking about anything as I orgasm that would cause it. It takes an emotional chunk out of me every time. My mood nosedives for hours after. (Like now, kek).
It led me to stop masturbating entirely for several years until recently where the same thing happened again. It's depressing.
Any other nonas have experience with this, or advice? It's really fucking depressing I can't enjoy the post-glow with myself. After it happens (crying, that is), it feels so horrible and I feel so ashamed it happened that I want to keep abstaining from masturbation altogether.
No. 376148
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Sexual frustration is seriously making me fucking crazy. Masturbation doesn't satisty me. I don't really feel that good when I try to touch myself and I'm not patient enough to do it until I reach the climax. I guess I'm retarded and I don't really know how to do it. I know it sounds dumb, but I feel so angry and sad over not being able to cum. I'll try buying a toy.
No. 376385
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Nonnies, please tell me your favorite sex toy for solo use?
I’m freshly single and realizing I want to spend some time exploring myself sexually before I start dating again. I plan to invest in a few nice new toys. I’m entertaining the idea of a Fun Factory Stronic G, which is a thrusting toy, and probably some kind of clitoral toy too.
Picrel is the last toy I bought myself 8 years ago, the Iroha Minamo. I got this I was still a virgin. I recommend this for women who are new to vaginal penetration and want to ease into it, as it’s relatively small and soft compared to a lot of phallic vibrators out there. It’s also just very cute to look at and has a great battery life.
No. 376397
>>376388It’s very quiet. Maybe not completely silent enough to use in the same room as a dorm mate or something, but your next door roommate won’t hear it.
>>376392It’s made of soft silicone and those edges are rounded. I kind of like the beveled surface shape tbh
No. 376476
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>>376392nyart but it reminds me of the texture inside of your vagina. It's pretty spaced out though so idk if that was the purpose
No. 377259
>>376476what the fuck, this is horrifying. I had no idea menopause fucks up your vagina this much.
Also, does anyone else think it's bizarre that this is classified as a """syndrome""" when most menopausal women get these changes? How is it a syndrome if almost every woman will experience it? That's like calling lactation after childbirth "milky breast syndrome"
No. 377287
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>>377259It's called a syndrome so doctors can perscribe meds and treatment for it. That said some women do find the changes unwelcome, especially if you're hitting premature menopause in your 30s or if you are a tif
No. 377383
>>377348I fucking knew it I would be accused of bone rattling for this stupid question, calm the fuck down I was just being curious.
>>377380Thank you for the normal reply.
No. 377467
>>377428>The c-spot, which is further back close to the cervixc-spot orgasms are otherworldly, probably the most pleasure I've ever felt in my life.
Sort of related, but, I hear most women talk about how masturbating via clit stim is the best or even only way they can cum and I kind of feel the opposite way… I mean, I can cum from clit stim. But it feels sort of shallow and unsatisfying. I'm almost always disappointed by clit orgasms. I feel like I have to concentrate harder to get them than with vaginal orgasms. Like, with vaginal orgasms, they're much easier and so my brain has more bandwidth to fantasize deeply, but with clit orgasms, it takes such concentration that my fantasizing usually gets reduced down to just imagining genitals which is not nearly and immersive or satisfying. Does anyone else know what I mean?
No. 377617
>>377605I find anal enjoyable, but I abstain from it due to the risk of anorectal violence. I also think guys who are eager for anal have porn-induced brain damage, so being asked about it just makes me instantly lose any interest. I'm aware a lot of women find it painful, so I hate that it's become so commonplace for women to be pressured into it due to the suffering, humiliation and physical damage it can cause, and that it's practically regarded as vanilla these days. That said, I can't help that it feels good to me, so I'll use butt plugs once in a while. I remember a gf once telling me "you know you like it if you feel horny when you need to poop" and I've never related so hard to someone before or since. Sometimes I need to take a shit and get low key horny from having that full feeling, but once it's over and done with the hornyness is gone. It's like I get aroused from the internal pressure against my vagina or something. I think there is a big nerve overlap to the inside of my vagina, maybe another part of the internal clitoris but idk. I also orgasm from internal penetration so maybe there is a correlation. On a related note I had an ex rim me once because why not and it felt surprisingly great, so the sphincter itself is also sensitive.
No. 377624
>>377605>>377617I also find anal pleasurable although I can’t orgasm from it. It reminds me of the feeling I get from c-spot stimulation, which is crazy for me. I’m a lesbian so I do like my partners to finger me there but I don’t think I would get anything out of a large object being inserted.
Speaking of, wondering if anyone has a recommendation for a rabbit vibe that has a very narrow internal insertion? Like, no wider than 3 bunched fingers or so? the c-spot orgasm I was given by a handsome butch blew my mind but I can’t reach the spot and most toys are much too wide for me
No. 377700
>>377624>It reminds me of the feeling I get from c-spot stimulationYou're right, it's like it pushes on the upper part of the vagina or something. It really is wild
>>377628I've had buttsex with guys I trusted in the past at my own suggestion. It felt good and the guys I chose didn't overdo it, but the thing is no matter how careful you are and how much you prep there is always a small chance of tearing in the wrong place and once that happens you are screwed. I've read accounts from both men and women who were very experienced with getting it up the ass, who just did their ordinary thing and they have no idea why they ended up tearing one day, but now they are suddenly incontinent for the remainder of their life. Knowing that now, I just don't wanna take that risk anymore lol. Maybe my worries are exaggerated but the implications of having such an injury are just too much for me.
No. 378324
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Can I have some recommendations for bullet vibrators and air pulse toys?
I bought two Satisfyer toys last October and both are already dead. I'd like to try more expensive brands and was wondering if any nonnies could suggest something durable with batteries that don't die fast. It doesn't need to be super strong vibe-wise, and I don't really care for loads of patterns a lot of vibrators have after the main settings.
I was looking at Womanizer and Lelo, but man, I'd fucking loathe to spend that much money and have them malfunction or die on me after a month…
No. 380397
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reached my cervix while masturbating for the first time ever and holy fuck i was so close to just blacking out. i feel so accomplished right now. i would do it again but i get sleepy after a good orgasm.
No. 380586
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>>378597>>380413There's so many other weird looking sex toys, shit like that is only the tip of the iceberg. Pic related, I'm sure some genius in a boardroom really thought making a toy that looks like a stoned cat sucking you off would sell. Maybe they want the furry audience..? Is it merely a "hahah, it's a pussy you put on your pussy, get it?" thing?
All for the low, low price of 69.99 euro! (supposedly it's actually a really good air pulse vibrator, but I'd never be caught dead with this thing)
No. 382444
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Going to be really explicit but I got a vibrating dildo for the first time after exclusively getting off with my clit for years and it just does not fit in me, I can't even get the head in.
I've tried masturbating first to warm up and the best I can do is work up to three fingers, which is a stretch. I don't think it's vaginismus.
Anybody else have experience "stretching" over time? Not sure if I can get there with just my fingers or whether I should get a smaller dildo to work up to it.
Picrel is what I have; I have little to no experience with penetrative sex/masturbation and did not think that this was an ambitious purchase…
No. 382472
>>381270I don't get it either, I once accidentally pushed against my cervix and it hurt like a motherfucker, like being penetrated with a hot iron. Are these people confusing their g-spot for their cervix?
>>381361KEK
No. 382532
>>382472>Are these people confusing their g-spot for their cervix?No, and it’s not on your cervix directly, it’s around the cervix. It’s called the A spot and is much farther back from the G spot. Personally G spot stim feels okay, but I couldn’t cum from it, A-spot is the only way I can cum from penetration alone. Although now that I think about it, I’ve always felt like the G spot is sort of a myth since I don’t really have one that stands out to me, so maybe the G spot and the A spot are the same, but it is located in different depths depending on the woman?
For science: if you’re reading this, do you have a G-spot, an A-spot, both, or neither?If we can’t find anyone with both, then maybe you were half-right, anon.
No. 382570
>>382532I feel like the C-spot at the actual cervix is still an erogenous zone, it definitely is for me. I know it's not the A-spot because I get off rubbing the cervix with my fingers.
I also can feel it from my G-spot, but not unless I'm already really turned on. And even then, I can't get off on the G-spot alone.
No. 382857
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I bought an Inya rose after seeing memes of it and it honestly kinda sucks. It's too strong even on the lowest setting. Getting there and edging are really nice but the orgasm itself is so ruined. It just hurts and makes the orgasm way too quick. I was so excited about my first air pulsating toy too. At least it looks kinda cute on the charger.
No. 383153
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Would recommend to anynonnies with a smaller clitoris, I haven't had any clitoral toys apart from a wand that work. Tried the womaniser, various rabbits and the rose toy but even at full arousal my clit barely comes out and I could never get good enough stimuli with other toys, this thing is great and quite strong aswell, I'm in love (also it's really cute)
No. 383183
>>382532>For science: if you’re reading this, do you have a G-spot, an A-spot, both, or neither?Late reply but I have both. I'm able to isolate the different spots using my fingers, but with penetration by toy or piv there will be overlapping sensation. The A-spot took me the longest to figure out, but it's my favorite type of orgasm. A-spot is why dick size matters kek. As for people finding cervical stimuli painful, I typically have a couple of days a month related to my cycle where it's tender and painful, but other than that it's feels good. Your mileage may vary, for some women it's a no go. Like another pointed out though, the A-spot is not the cervix itself but rather the cervical fornix. I've heard especially for women with endometriosis this type of deep penetration can be painful though.
No. 383450
>>383440Do you warm yourself up first? You should be extremely wet before you start doing anything, and not touching yourself to get wet. Also, try using the least amount of pressure that feels good, even if it's a very light touch or barely pressing the vibrator against you. Like
>>383448 mentioned you can also keep your underwear on or clothes on if you're still too sensitive.
No. 385406
>>384126AYRT, man, I still can't get it in me LOL. I got a smaller dildo that maxes out at 1.4 inches and goes in just fine with its taper, but even trying with the 1.5 of the picrel after using that doesn't work. Hope it does more for me than for you if I finally pull it off after all this effort.
You're right though, it really is a decent clitoral vibrator.
No. 385464
>>3854311. Be aroused
2. Find the pressure and motion that works for you
Most likely youre not defective
No. 388140
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I recently found out I can make myself orgasm using just my mind. I didn't use my imagination or anything, just focused my awareness on the area and imagined getting turned on. It wasn't as satisfying as using my fingers, but it was definitely real. It kind of feels like a superpower, but not really worth doing.
No. 388235
>>377605I've tried anal play my myself recently and it feels good to me as well, I knew the sphincter felt good for me but insertion is also nice as well. I think it's related to anus being an erogenous zone or whatever.
I feel ashamed afterwards because it's dirty and still think it'd require a lot of trust for me to do it with someone else
No. 388341
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I am severely depressed and this week is the worst this month. I lay in bed all day and cry. I've done very little besides masturbate because it's the only thing I can focus on that makes me feel good. I'm afraid of getting addicted to masturbating. There's no porn involved. Honestly the only detriment is the smell. Technically I have better things to do, but I'm too depressed to do them. Maybe I'm just really horny right now and I'll calm down soon. I wish I was a normal and healthy person.
No. 388751
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Thinking about getting one of these as my first sex toy. It was so hard to find something non-realistic, not ridiculously big and cute looking. still deciding on the color though
>>388356I can relate to that. Personally I hate how realistic sex toys look, hence the picrel. That rose toy seems so cringe and cheap imo, and as some nonas in this thread noted it sucks (pun intended) in general. It's not the only vacuum stimulator that exists though, maybe look for something more simplistic/appealing to you? I think satisfyer cutie heart/pearl diver look nice but they're too expensive.
>>382861Should be fine if you wash it before and after. Just don't use anything out of cheap plastic esp if it's painted (will flake off) and make sure there's no cracks or empty spaces where things attach or else it's gonna get nasty with all the dicharge stuck inside.
No. 392263
>>388356I have a rose dildo vibrator thing that have a small "tongue" that licks you (feels so hard against your lips, so you need tons of lubricant).
I wish I could buy a realistic dildo, but none of them convince me to buy them.
No. 392382
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im someone thats not into penetration but I enjoy receiving oral. are there any toys nonnies can recommend to me that isnt just a womanizer or its clones?
No. 392943
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>>392382Something like this? Still, I recommend to use some lotion before so it doesn't hurt you at first.
No. 392973
>>392333what else would they be shaped like?
There's actually a lot of more abstract ones out there, but it sorta has to be cylindrical and tapered to be comfortable.